The Pros and Cons of Delaying a Funeral

[@shellywinney7115]

Love your insights thank you for sharing ❤

[@wowenne3050]

We held our mother‘s funeral one week after her death, and it was exhausting. We had been spending weeks with her at the hospital and regretted having held it so early. It was so rushed that we didn’t feel we had the time to grieve properly. We were a little impatient with each other at times because of the stress. So when our brother - and then later our father - died, we waited several weeks until we felt ready and healthy - mentally and emotionally. For us it made a huge difference. We were able to be present and to celebrate their lives with calm and love.

[@HeatherHolm]

I have to agree, from my experience of burying my parents, in-laws and a sister in the last 15 years. And because we are a sensitive bunch, we have a good feeling about how it affected the deceased person as well. My mother's funeral was delayed by two months so that her children with jobs in distant cities could be back (they had been present at the time of her death or just before) and have a summer visit as well. It was a beautiful service; a wonderful song had been written and rehearsed in the meantime, eulogies were well-thought through, and lots of people came. But there was an anticlimactic feeling about it. Here is the song, by the way. Anyone is welcome to use it. kzbin.info/www/bejne/aIqVZoN8Z6yhbZo