The reason I stopped travelling.

[@thedavidboland]

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[@BB-mq9qk]

“Wherever you go there you are”.

[@mozar5175]

When I was in my twenties, I wanted to travel the world. I did travel to many countries and I certainly saw beautiful places. I am now 59 years old, I have the money to travel, I have the time, etc. The only thing is that I don’t have a desire to travel anymore! I realize that home is the best place to be. I live in Canada and I know life is not any better anywhere else.

[@thedavidboland]

beautiful - I lived in BC for 18 months a few years back. it certainly changed me. thanks for the comment :)

[@JVlk-tw6fs]

@@thedavidboland I think each and every person should travel to different countries, plan routs himself, meet new people to learn some lessons from this and than settle down. Some get stuck in this, some take more time, but if you don't do this you will be pretty restricted in your judgements about other places, countries and people and you'll probably have regrets and issues with valuing your peasefull life.

[@akirathedog777]

​@@JVlk-tw6fsi majored in composition and wrote multiole ballets and symphonies, through art i made friends from everywhere in the world who i still talk to 20 years later. I have studied the culture and art of dozens of country as an etnomusicologist, to the point that my japanese/german/chinese friends are startled by the familiarity i have with their cultural heritage. I married and had kids, sent them college, and cared for them everyday. I guess im a regretful ,close minded loser to you huh?

[@gaiusho4906]

Its so deep but so simple. Happiness is found within, not externally. Open our eyes to see the beauty in our everyday life. And go out to make magic happen! Thank you for sharing this heartfelt raw content.

[@thedavidboland]

thanks Gaius

[@dshoec]

The older you get the more you realize nothing beats your home!

[@erics670]

indeed...

[@ladeutschevitabyGraziaCosta]

I've just booked a trip due to dissatisfaction. I dislike my current living situation, my job isn't fulfilling and I feel stuck, I lack genuine friendships, and my past relationship failed due to the lack of emotional bonding. You're correct... the pain remains within us, and no matter where we go, we carry it with us. Certain patterns tend to recur like a curse. Traveling becomes an escape route.

[@paulbrown5839]

This is essentially the story of The Alchemist book by Paolo Coehlo. Aside from the adventure, what you were searching for when you went travelling, you already had. It was your mind preventing you seeing that. But, you had to travel to come to that understanding. The key is to realise this, which you have done- and then settle before it's too late - there is a window of time to settle down, once you pass 40-45 its very hard. The problem is, you have to make changes in your behaviour in your hometown, which is not easy. When you travelled, you were forced to socialise. In the dorms you were literally forced to be socialble. Back home you can procrastinate. You don't have to socialise because you can do it tomorrow. You can hide away and plan your next trip. Even if you settled in one of these far away countries, you would eventually come to the same feeling as you have at home. Trust me, i've done it. Each time you go on a new trip, you get depressed because deep down you know you are wasting your time - you will never find what you are searching for - because its not "out there", its inside. You already had it. The "kingdoms all inside" my friend, to quote a song.

[@thenigerianfile]

Well said. Great book as well.

[@FloridaMan-ie6yk]

I'm about to go on a 6 months trip starting next week. I know it will be lonely, all my family and friends are here. I'm doing it because I love nature and I want to experience different biomes and landscapes, where I'm from is a concrete jungle for miles and miles. We all travel for different reasons.

[@xLillyLx]

I understand you so well! First time I moved away from home was the same for me. I was excited about being on my own, away from my parents. And although there were great experiences that shaped me into the person I am today, loneliness did catch up with me. But then I would leave again, find a new place, feel fine for a while and then get lonely again. Eventually I realised I was running from my problems and that the "I'll be happy when.." doesn't ever work. I am currently working on being content with who and where I am presently. (That doesnt't mean I don't still want to see the world but for different reasons) Anyway, like your content, you got a new subscriber here!

[@thedavidboland]

thanks for sharing!

[@jimmieoakland3843]

I haven't done much international travel, but I've been in the southwest (U.S.) quite a bit. Thing is, that is mostly desert, which I really love. Vast, empty spaces, incredible vistas. My trips to Dublin, Paris, and London, as nice as those places are, pale in comparison. No more visiting cities for me. I've just lost my taste for crowds; I'd rather stay in my room.

[@florentalicevlogs543]

I understand this so well. This is the truth, I do think people HAVE to travel not only to understand it, but to believe it and being able to apply this mindset into their everyday life. Hearing it and understanding it is not enough, so fly around the world and enjoy, until you can really understand it. ♥

[@RKKY-mf7fe]

I never liked travel because it was stressful. My hometown is not great but I learned to be apart of different communities and it’s very fulfilling.

[@storysplinters9458]

This helped a lot. I haven't been travelling in years and deeply missed it, so I went on a short trip. had lots of fun and fell in love with the adventure all over again. but it made me realize that there are several things I enjoy about travelling that I lack in my everyday life. I want to make an effort to work on building my social circle in the area I live at and to push myself out of my comfort zone more often. It's so easy to reinvent parts of yourself when being somewhere else but it's not sustainable. Thank you so much for sharing your perspective!!

[@pseolux]

Thank you for this beautiful video. I’m watching this as I am quite lost with travelling and considering going home. Trying to see trough my thoughts of that being a failure. But if it’s real connection that I am looking for I know I can find that home. Watching this helped me

[@thedavidboland]

thank you for this lovely comment. I appreciate you. I know the pain. Sending love

[@mohsenpourhossein9799]

I travellled for a year and can relate! However I suppose it was travelling that gave me this point of view. Thank you for sharing your thoughts my friend!

[@stevieferland]

This is how I've felt after coming home from traveling. I miss being part of a community.

[@SheilaTrueLove]

New Subscriber here, and I liked it very much. Thank you.

[@red.guevarra]

There's a segment of people (especially on social media) who are simply OVERDOING it. Be it their real passion, or for views, likes, validation, etc. I have a full-time job, albeit a remote one but I do have to be at home in the same city as my job, and obviously a stable residence, yet I still get to go on SEVERAL domestic and international adventures throughout the year. People just need to chill, manage their time and money well, have a work-life-travel balance and they won't miss out.

[@thedavidboland]

love this!

[@CoachDeBora]

It appears that I "stumbled" upon your channel but I know I attracted it. After watching this video and another about ceasing to travel a calm enveloped me. After traveling around Mexico, then to Africa, and spending 3 months traveling thru Europe, travel fatigue led me back to Mexico, my home since 2021. Now the only place I get excited about traveling to is back to the US, where I'm from, to see family and friends and familiar places. Your videos have given me the green light to stop thinking I ought to be searching "out there" for connection and community and instead be okay with looking closer to home, i.e., Mexico, and within myself for the connection and community for which I yearn. Good content.

[@vcelkaMaja12]

This resonates with me so much. All the time I wanted to travel because I wanted to escape people, I imagined only the green wide hills with noone in the sight. And by fortune I found places like this near places where I lived. Not wide green hills just no people in sight. It became my place of peace. I would love to find more places like this. The problem is the more people know about them and share them, the more people visit them. Now I have no desire to travel at all and I´m thinking why?

[@thedavidboland]

maybe it's just the season you're in. I'm in a season of appreciating grounded nature of living in one place, and in time I will fly away again for a time... it goes in cycles.

[@victoria_hypnotherapy]

@@thedavidbolandAnd it goes in cycles… This really hit hard for me.

[@antzmal5464]

That is probably the most inspirational and straight video about the real side of traveling I have ever watched. Somehow I am sometimes in similar point, so this video is making me think...

[@ilham78]

U can't escape from yourself. You must love yourself more than anything and anyone and then life will support your thunking buy giving you grate experiences. Otherwise nothing and no one will make you happy.

[@thedavidboland]

I love this perspective :D

[@marks-0-0]

I think what people often seek is already around them, community, routine, meaning and life goals. I've done some travelling and nearly emmigrated a couple of times but glad i didnt. If you have you travel to find whats missing then the problem is within you.

[@joanadias5039]

*living/experience this feeling* i think all the traveler's *(not just phisic traveler's but internal traveler's too)* confront themselfs with this kind of feelings at some point of their lifes You have soul! I feel you like a part of my own soul Everything i like in myself like a soul traveler, all the wisdom that this crazy life gave me, i see it in you and i feel connect with you, like a true soul brother that i totally understand and care*** your voice is so calm* it really reflects your divine that you already conquer in yourself* i salute you* Thank You for Existing and Evoluting! You represent everything that i respect in a human being and in a soul* Thank you magical being! i will listen your meditation to sleep* Thank you so much for helping a total stranger in the other side of the world just for being you and having the courage to open up your truly you! Really beautiful humble vibes**** Thank You****

[@thedavidboland]

thank you for sharing!

[@chilloften]

I experience nostalgia on the regular, for places I’ve been. It’s pretty much a detriment to the present moments. But on the other hand, I’ve had it all set, all paid for, to stay in place, and it felt like a trap. So I remain confused on what’s best. And it’s weird how people can show up in your life and tell you you are nothing, and you’ll believe them and feel worse. When in reality you have more, did more, than they ever will. And that lesson is to stay firm in self in contentment.

[@eoKingNoodle]

This was such a gift to come across today, I have family and friends travelling right now, these cool places, I've never travelled any myself and lately I've felt my life is so boring. The views in this video really put me at ease, made me land and enjoy being right here right now. Thank you :)

[@thedavidboland]

you're so welcome

[@thenigerianfile]

Perfect timing. Thank you.

[@rjmass6]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and realisations, it made me reflect on my own journey. Great channel, and all the best brother ❤

[@thedavidboland]

Same to you!

[@carolinehudson3503]

Just found your channel , very interesting , I haven't travelled and don't really want to either ,

[@liperodriguez391]

Thank you for this video, i am about to move to Canada for two years on a work and holiday visa and what you've said gave me some clarity.

[@thedavidboland]

thanks, enjoy the ride :)

[@josebaca3075]

This is very beautiful.

[@thedavidboland]

thanks Jose !

[@alicia3915]

Thank you.

[@ferrarispider800]

very informative video thankyou

[@Cill441]

More people know this already, but it isn't anything to be or feel guilty about. It's an insight that I find each one of us feels and has built within ourselves. Tapping into this is huge personal growth. Lost feelings are normal feelings I've realized. In the transition of grieving anything or anyone we love or care deeply about or for, even self. We can say this is true in almost any area of our lives. If we don't feel home within ourselves loving of the someone, somewhere. We are as is us taking as a turtle carries it's home and the knowing of doing so. Taking ourselves along the way daily. Through all our emotions. No matter what they are and nurture ourselves along the way. This is insight, wishing it were more instinctual. As to know when the rythym of our own heart isn't beating well. In tune, skipping a beat, or has it added a few beats and to the why of this all. I've come to realize. Yet the why is it as it is, or why doesn't someone change it. The better thing I've come to say is what might I myself do to make this experience different now. I want it shared with all. I'm glad you share what has danced like a pinball of thinking inside my minds thoughts throughout my life. I myself as the pinball in my youth; you're talking about the big things and able to give such great visuals along side of the articulation in both educational and layman terminology. For this, a hero are you. Never stop. 💛🌞 My breath of fresh air.

[@timidpeter]

If I don't travel, my mind does ;)

[@anouschkatsk1]

Also being around family. This video really made me think.

[@ortilio]

Well said❤

[@keaven360]

love your video❤just discover your channel

[@thedavidboland]

welcome to the party!

[@santikingkong]

thank you man

[@benjamesv]

So true

[@MrVril]

👍👍👍👍👍

[@طموحبلاحدود-ب2ث]

Great content thank you

[@thedavidboland]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@Pinkwaterballoon]

Me when i traveled to yellowstone and still couldn't escape myself 😅

[@thedavidboland]

[@NadiaDubininaValues]

If you are trying to escape, then any place is a prison...I love travelling! Connecting to people, nature, yourself.

[@thedavidboland]

yes

[@DexterWho89]

There's mafic everywhere. ❤

[@jenna2431]

I think that the correct word is necessary. Instead of traveling, wandering. Meandering. Roaming. Adventuring. Vagabonding. Escaping. Fleeing. Running. Lost. All these mean different things.

[@martinginsburg7222]

You're always traveling. Everyday is a chance to meet someone/something new. Travel doesn't start with a visa, passport or visiting new line drawn in the sand.

[@thedavidboland]

this is something I have come to realise over the years. there is an opportunity for adventure in each and every moment :)

[@glaucia2601]

🤩🤩🤩

[@Sezfluffy]

its better to work abroad than just travel.

[@ArbitraryZer0101]

Tldr; if homebody, just stay home.

[@ericbentti]

Do you surf ? Ireland has good surf. Surfing = Happiness 😁

[@thedavidboland]

sometimes, i'm on the wrong coast for regular surfing though

[@ericbentti]

🤙🏻keep up the good work

[@JamesBrotherDJ]

😎

[@thedavidboland]

:)

[@Sezfluffy]

you ran awwy from feelings than dealing with them

[@Theartistfarmer]

I am I irish I travel out of curiosity and to meet people different from me perhaps the opposite to you I see alot of people like you on the road man depressed and somehow lost but thats not why one should travel really ?,perhaps where your from is a boring place lets face it although ireland is a magical place its not as interesting as somewhere like india or the amazon jungle for example ?,why do you feel the need to blame yourself perhaps your just from a dull town man and your young and want more thats perfectly natural ,seems to me people are programed to blame themselves by default ,if your looking for community perhaps. stay in your community in ireland like you say ,when I arrive in new place I feel happy and exicited but I love to travel if you are " being your authentic self" as you say then perhaps admit your not meant for travelling it kind of seems like it man either way I wish you all the best Im not criticising you in anyway just making an observation

[@BrokeAgain]

Nah, travel and enjoy fine restaurants and nice hotels... get a nice rental car. Get an escort too if you can. Problem solved.

[@OrhanDursun92]

Come to islam my friend.

[@akirathedog777]

Travel strikes me as a priviledge first worlders version of the college experience. Did you study the world? Did manage you understand the economics that run the world? Politics? Science ? Maybe art? Did you fix your relationships? Did yiu achieve professionaly ir personally? No but I "traveled" through europe so im better than you 😎 Translation: i put my family in debt for a 2 week vacation in touristy spots