The Reason Why We DON'T Want To Look Our Age

[@Britanie]

People forget that getting old is a blessing!

[@Camille4Real]

THIS!! I've lost so many loved ones who never even saw age 30. I'm just happy to be here!

[@adjuafrican2664]

How? Aging is the ugliest thing. Not to mention the long and horrific list of ailments waiting no matter how healthy your lifestyles is. I don't want to be blind, have dementia, cancer, arthritis, bowel and urinary malfunctions, gum recession, wrinkles, pain...l could go on. I'll pass

[@sarahb6163]

Absolutely and the grey hair I find is so attractive on a woman😍😍😍😍 ALL NAT RU AL

[@sarahb6163]

​​@@adjuafrican2664WOW you missed the whole point with your nasty negativity

[@Geneva89]

@@Camille4Realyes, I’m about be 40 and just grateful to still be here. I don’t mind looking my age bc I am my age.

[@dotdot_8003]

They be 18 wanting to look 30 then when they finally get 30 they be trying to look 17.

[@emilythompson5333]

Ain't no damn mature adult will be dancing on the sofas. However, I'll be 45 years old in November and I'll take care of myself: eating clean(vegan), exercising 4 times a week for 30 to 45 minutes and not entertaining anything that will affect my mental health. I look forward to aging because it's a privilege and not guaranteed.

[@miguelmorales9288]

yes to all of this!

[@tacarraalyse7822]

Amen!

[@444brianna]

if im at the club getting lit with drinks.. there’s a possibility I might be dancing on the sofas in the club vibing with the music. 😹

[@keesmith3296]

Yah bless!

[@ShanelChelzz]

There’s this girl on social media that eats bugs it seriously seems like all she eats is insects and bugs and little critters and she has the most clearest skin ever she’s black btw

[@kzs34]

Social media is literally creating issues that never existed for me and that is why I am taking a break from the socials to get my mind right again. Don’t let the algorithms control your self perceptions at least try not to

[@GenuineEncountersCo]

THIS!!!!!! 🎉🎉🎉

[@ReadyorNot811]

Especially relationship perceptions.

[@Alex-cm9dd]

Yes exactly. Deactivated my Instagram and don’t ever go on other socials except watch KZbin and it’s been wonderful!

[@ItsMeShaniceG]

I’m a person who doesn’t use social media often. I promise ya’ll it would benefit a lot of you to GET OFF OF SOCIAL MEDIA. The human brain isn’t meant to consume that much trauma daily. Some of the things that Justin discussed in this video, I had never even heard of. I can’t imagine sitting there traumatizing myself via Instagram on purpose. Stop doing it to yourselves. I get wanting to be in the mix and wanting to be connected, but it’s not healthy.

[@drnstjhn]

or use the right social media and fix your settings so the right things show up in your feed. it doesn't always have to be a dramatic cut-off

[@TyWerks]

this is so true

[@TyWerks]

​@@drnstjhntrue but we all know they try to sneak some bs in there that doesn't pertain to you

[@ReadyorNot811]

I agree I'm going on a social media fast starting August

[@ReadyorNot811]

I want the dramatic cut off. I waste a lot of time on here

[@Ohheyitsyou]

The girl that was 34 and said she didn't look her age looked very much 34 +

[@aladynamedSusan]

Not the +😂😂😂😂

[@RamboQuellz]

I thought it was just me

[@Erika-be9hq]

I literally said that. I’m 41 and she looks older than I do.

[@kaylabean3693]

She’s definitely older and very oddly triggered that some people don’t wanna wear heels. I wear my heels to pole class! But in public, it’s Birkenstock for me lmao

[@su1kune]

Ok she didn’t look that young but I wouldn’t have guessed she was in her 30s; please don’t nail me to the cross it’s just my point of view lol

[@mikelowry2865]

I’m 35 and I’m okay with looking my age. I just like to look fit and healthy. It’s a blessing to age

[@Geneva89]

What you said!

[@BooksandLooksTV]

Exactly

[@adu1991]

Aging isn't a blessing, lol. I see my 62 year old mom have a receding hairline, deteriorating joints, and incoming dementia...and it seems like it's more of a curse than a blessing. Hate it...but it's almost as inevitable as death. Time waits for nobody.

[@MsFadir]

Up to your 20s, you want to act adult and look older (style, make up...). After your 20s, you go all about fighting father time. Humans 😒

[@titlepending1302]

Omg exactly teenagers and 20s stay wanting to be older but once they hit they 30s now they want to be young?! Like you said humans 🙄

[@shakeykirkir]

Omg I never thought about this, but you’re absolutely right. These teens honestly scare me because they look so old. Older than me. I’ve had teenagers think they were older than me and had to correct them. You couldn’t tell they were teenagers until you heard them speak (or see a bunch getting out in groups around 3). The youth needs to cherish their youth while they have it.

[@MsFadir]

@@shakeykirkir Cherish their youth! 💯 That should be a slogan.

[@samonej.7335]

Weird

[@BooksandLooksTV]

People don't want the responsibility of being grown

[@HushTarot1111]

Black Folks never look our age why are we even in this situation?

[@nicolenicole2085]

😂😂😂😂 right

[@Nappy2theRoot]

Some do look older than their age and that's OK

[@su1kune]

That is true black people we just age differently and a lot slower than our European counterparts , most health information out there is based on how it presents on a white person so again why did black folks get drug into this lmao

[@tigerlilly9038]

Social Media Disease

[@softersideofc.c.5655]

Exactly, somebody just told me I look 25. Im 38 an proud

[@Not_yourMOM]

Let’s not forget, they’re also chasing that “filter” look 😑

[@adu1991]

Yup. A lot of women diss men for having "AI Girlfriends"...and then the women use AI in their pictures to make themselves look younger than their actual age.

[@BKJay718]

Aging is definitely a blessing. I had a near death experience that changed my POV on a lot!! I am 45 now. I couldn’t have not seen that age 🙏🏾

[@sknatheartist]

Exactly!

[@theorderofthebees7308]

Amen

[@Colorz.]

Bless You Sis! 🙏🏾💕

[@lrs1519]

I’m 35 and I can’t wait to wear an all grey twist out, I can’t wait to watch my kids grow into women, I can’t wait to retire and travel with my husband. I welcome age and being in good health and care.

[@kerryh2096]

Why I low key wanna get some gray in my beard to have one chunk of it in the goatee part 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@dotdot_8003]

I’m 32 and the whole right front side of my head is grey. Ppl ask me all the time why I won’t dye it but I love it.

[@757Princess]

A woman in my building has beautiful all grey, natural hair. When I told my mom about it, she told me it was genetic and nobody on both sides of my family have all grey hair 😭😭😭

[@Nessajess7]

Ugh, yall are so lucky! I've been wanting a full head of white hair since my early 20's. Looking like storm 😫😹😹🤣

[@yowilli6669]

Yessssss! I love the salt n pepper. But at 51 I have very little 😊 Still waiting 😂

[@FLEXNAZ]

Aging is a blessing. The goal is to live a long, healthy life filled with abundance

[@rbks1125]

The block heels at the end, did take me out, tho 😂😂😂

[@coast2coast8306]

Gen Z: you can keep those sis 👡

[@uenvyme23]

I met my husband when he was 22 and I was 19, now he's about to be 40 this week and I find his salt and pepper beard so attractive now 😂 some people look more attractive the older they get. It's a blessing to grow older.

[@ebonyrivers8505]

Im 42 my husband is 50 and when that beard started going gray I couldn’t get enough of it

[@ReadyorNot811]

It's a double standard for men

[@girlinterrupted9792]

I remember reading something a few years ago that said the adage, “Black don’t crack” can be harmful. When I read it I thought, how can something seemingly positive have a negative impact? Now I understand. I follow many skincare forums and when someone tells their age in a post, nine times out of ten they’re sure to add that they don’t look their age, though. Having lost best friends in their thirties and forties, I can tell you that they were both far too young. Enjoy the blessing of seeing another year, so many of us don’t get to.

[@theresamw3559]

Not her in the Monica sandals 😭😭😭🤣🤣

[@Luci_pur]

😂😂😂

[@Teenytinymia]

I remember when I was in my 20s. My Grandmother (who always looked 20 years younger than her age) always told me she wasnt giving me her beauty secrets until I was at least 45 lol. She always said "baby you already look young, dont try too hard too young or you're gonna mess yourself up" She would say "you are 25 why you wanna look 15?" 😂

[@mayaasphere]

Grandmas always know just what to say to knock some sense into you 😂😂

[@theorderofthebees7308]

Nice - what was your grandma beauty - would love to hear

[@revotherevolutionary]

As a black queer butch/stud I can’t tell you the countless times I’ve seen people make fun of older studs/ butches/ non gender conforming people. As if they are no longer attractive or desirable. Some say they’ll become a fem because they can’t be an old stud/butch. That saddens me. Even other lesbians or queer folks are making fun of them. Yeah, it’s a joke but those are your people man lol. Which makes me feel a bit afraid to age (I’m 22 now) because older butches/ studs are just talked down on. In a way that is hidden behind the word “joking”. We never are seen as attractive really. Thank you for this video!

[@toyakasmir]

I’ll never forget: when I was in the army, we had to get a height/weight. I was 5’1/141lbs. Which by their standard, overweight I had to stand in the middle of our headquarters while all these men berate me for being “fat”. The only person that stood up for me was my NCOIC. I had a 21” waist at the time. I carry my weight in my chest/butt. From that moment I developed an ED, and because obsessed with my weight. Even almost 20 years later, after healing and all, I still have those moments where I become critical of the way I look. That’s why I am always kind to people, especially with their bodies.

[@jmaldo92]

Relatable AF!

[@Yannayanna957]

Them block heels givin’ “Before yooouuu walkkk out my lifeeee.” 👠 😂😂😂😂

[@ab.6031]

😂😂😂😂

[@Camille4Real]

I'm 41 and I don't give AF about what people think 🤷🏾‍♀️ It feels so good and I hope everyone gets to this state of mind 💪🏾 Probably the most comfortable I've ever felt being in my own skin. Shout out to Bey.

[@cyna866]

Not ☝🏽 single fck! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@adu1991]

41 isn't old anyway.

[@beatricehart5614]

I'm 34 and I've been working hard to fight my internalized ageism. I'm finally taking care of my health and I feel like I look the best I ever had and no I don't look like a 20 year old and that's okay. My 20s were the ghetto anyway and you wouldn't pay me to go back. I love the wisdom and the confidence I've gained from living this long and it's worth more than any external validation for looking younger.

[@aladynamedSusan]

Come on 20s being the ghetto😂❤❤❤❤ YASSS🙌🏾

[@beatricehart5614]

@@aladynamedSusan omg mine were so bad. Depression, anxiety, low self-esteem.. I was fighting for my life😅

[@EnlightenedGoldenBeauty]

@@beatricehart5614Yes and people think it’s the opposite and that as we get older we get more insecure. I’m more confident and happier now than I was when I was young. I kept myself up at that and also love the generation I grew up in.

[@Biweeklycheck]

I love being in my 30’s glow up big.

[@mayaasphere]

Currently am 21 can confirm it is ghetto asf here I cannot WAIT to leave the club (but I’m not in too much a rush just letting time do its thing) 😭 30+ women always seen so ethereal to me, they have it all together walk with their chin up chest high with a bounce in their step I just wanna be 30 flirty and thriving 😭

[@4evermaya_]

This conversation made me think about Jeremy Meeks. We were literally introduced to him by his mugshot and because of European beauty standards he’s now a very wealthy actress. Like make it make sense.

[@Latte-girly90]

Can we finally have this conversation 🙏🏾 im so sick of these aging trends on social media and people trying to “compete” with folks in different generations

[@MsFadir]

💯

[@ReadyorNot811]

Or different race

[@nicholetaimi5331]

Social Media has made it taboo to be over 18 years old.

[@angelar.5683]

People have been obsessed with youth long before the advent of social media

[@nicholetaimi5331]

@@angelar.5683 True. Social Media makes public opinion take hold immediately.

[@ShaneCM]

Youth is all people have sometimes. Many people are not considered high level attractive facially or body wise, smart, or talented so youth is the only thing people have that’s desirable.

[@EnlightenedGoldenBeauty]

I notice that those people who use ageism the most are average

[@MsFadir]

I think is not much the obsession with beauty, but more the obsession with a specific type of beauty - european/caucasian. The closer you are to some features, the higher you're classified. Our world is so diverse. 8 billion people and we focus on a small, small portion. Sad.

[@khamrhod8360]

Because that small demographic has attained the most power along with having the most influence unfortunately

[@su1kune]

Idk when it comes to aging white people are usually the butt of the joke

[@kokowalker]

I have to agree. if someone says that a black female look mix race its like it trigger other black females that don't or can't pass as a mix race.

[@FitPasson]

Which boils down to a standard of beauty and access

[@TiktokBro154]

You know darn well that white people are the most desired on this planet

[@BooksandLooksTV]

I love my age and generation I'm 35 A lot of young ppl are dying young I have a lot of life to experience and want to be here❤

[@MartinaKing225]

I always thought the phrase Face Card was so corny. We tear each other down in the beauty department on a daily basis....Gotta love how transparent you are being. Keep it just straight up real.

[@marthashepherd935]

I am 63 and GLAD NOT MANY GETTING PAST 35!!!!!

[@dawsonsdiary]

I had a gay White and Filipino friend at one point and both of them understood racial hierarchy in terms of beauty. I would say that we were all equally attractive(with me being more confident), but they would constantly throw shade my way while praising each other. Almost like I needed to “stay in my place”. I had a biracial friend at one point who would do the same thing. I eventually had to cut them off because it became draining asf lol. People subconsciously like to tear down a darker skin persons self esteem. I think this is why a lot of pretty dark skinned women don’t have a lot of friends.

[@tacarraalyse7822]

I think she was a gorgeous woman and honestly looks a little older but that’s okay! Nothing wrong with being/looker older. That’s inevitable.

[@Geneva89]

Yes, my man friend is obsessed with looking young forever and he is 48. I’m 39 about to be 40 and I’m ok with aging. It’s going to happen whether I like it or not I might as well embrace it.

[@Ambitiousgirl22]

I'm 42, and I've noticed changes, but I need to tighten up on self-care. I get mistaken for 34 all the time. I'm grateful for that but I think it's important to encourage people to implement healthly practices, be kind to yourself & others, drink water, exercise, take vitamins and minerals and be spiritually awakened. Oh and have fun. Don't miss out on opportunities. ♌️

[@ZachCampbell]

Thank you for always speaking the truth! Love you always ❤

[@nimo4335]

I'm 50 and people always think I'm in my 30s. I've had the younger looking comments since late teens. These younger people, some are doing a lot.

[@jtali6122]

The obsession with beauty/looks/youth has to do with feeling deficient in other areas of life. If people felt smart, successful, fulfilled, loved, had friends and/or a partner, they wouldn't care so much about looks or appearance.

[@chloelincoln9095]

💯💯💯 this is a sermon yes 🙌

[@Kayla-kd8ov]

Yes, you preached a word!

[@ckngivdtb37910]

Exactly

[@AkilahIsHuman]

So true

[@ReadyorNot811]

That's basically the root of it right there.

[@peaceful-t]

I ENJOYED THIS VIDEO JUSTIN❤

[@venusvicious4446]

I find it a lot of folk 35+ years old are obsessed with trying to make gen Z think we’re the ones who look old, I think it’s a coping mechanism. They want to compete with us and feel good when they find a 20 something year old who looks older when back then it was even more of a phenomenon than it is now. 14 year olds back in the day looked 20! But somehow gen Z is the first generation to have young folk who look older than their generation? I’m not going for that. You look your age ma’am/sir and that’s okay! Quit trying to compare yourself to these youngins there will always be new beauties coming up.

[@stars8924]

As a millennial I’m tired of seeing entire videos on how gen z is aging like milk. It’s jealousy. They’re sad that they are no longer the “new” and “hot” thing.

[@aladynamedSusan]

As a ma'am MA'AM took me out 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@su1kune]

I think it was a few articles pointing out the cosmetic trends that gens z and younger participate in is making them appear older; stress can age you and as a teacher I know school now isn’t what it was when I was in school so I give my students grace even though they be looking like they working full time jobs with overtime

[@venusvicious4446]

I’m a ‘98 baby so its just a straight up lie the things I hear about gen Z. .that we don’t have “ugly” phases, we look too old for our age, that the guys our age prefer older women it all feels like projection because millennials and gen X can’t let go of the fact that the 90’s is over and us late 90’s babies are now grown adults who are in the same adult spaces as them. It’s okay to embrace the new generations coming up. The real life gen Z people I grew up with and are around look their age just like the millennials who swear they look like a gen Z actually look like millennials! Lol

[@mikelowry2865]

I’m 35+ and I don’t have a problem with gen z. I actually love the gen z girlies. Y’all are my fav gen and I always hype y’all up. Unfortunately, that’s an individual is insecure about themselves but I don’t feel that way. I stay in my little 35+ lane 😂

[@rbks1125]

The obsession with beauty and not aging has truly gotten out of hand, Thanks to Social Media 😫 age shaming as well, like just live and let live. None of us are making it out of here Alive, so it’s irrelevant anyway to focus on something that’s fleeting like looks.

[@Geneva89]

Glad someone did a video on this. I’m about to be 40 and proud of it. I really don’t care if I look my age. I’m just glad to be alive.

[@HushTarot1111]

I agree with you on fat phobia, body shape shaming and fashion. I wore a 🖤see through dress with 🌹 on it and wore a red bra and thong to set the look off for a concert I went to. I don’t have any 🍑 so they came for me but I didn’t give a damn I felt sexy AF! And I’ll do it again 😂

[@Juicyxcouture]

The issue is that people , don’t like how they look and they let outside voices especially voices in their personal lives tell time. Not only that but what society sees at pretty or picture perfect. Than again some people see other people who don’t age because of there family genes/ genetics.

[@JM-ip1es]

I’m confused on why being in your 30s is considered old????! Like serious?, that’s not even a standard age to become a grandparent, nor is it considered middle age… Like why is society pushing the requirement back on what’s considered young? With modern medicine the average person lives close to 70 easy… I say this as a person who recently lost a parent in their early 50s… ( which is fairly young to die). You don’t realize how young someone is until they’re passed on… then everyone wants to drop down in the comments and say “omg; they were young” ….. Lastly; being young doesn’t automatically make you an attractive person…. I think your features and ascetic plays a big role in that. Just my two cents

[@stefaniegueye693]

The conversation underscores that the basic necessities one needs to live not survive but live should be housing, clean water, income,health and dental care. Systemic desirability is real and if you are in parts where we store our homeless, mobility impaired, and mental health issues you will find mostly dark skin blacks, mobility impaired and the like. It’s horrible and I for one , is sick of seeing the same folks who society deems desirable. I would love to see more people like smaller people, people in wheel chairs, blind people. I would love to see their artistry, the intellect etc. I would love just a different perspective sometimes and knowledge of other challenges and accolades instead of who got a bbl or “I was once 600 pounds and now I’m a size 2 and you can do it too” just sick 🤢 of the same old thing.

[@titlepending1302]

They lady in the green dress and block heels is actually a PR or something related and it was meant to be dry humor but it flew over ppl head … ppl reacted over nothing when she explained the story behind it lol … she really didn’t mean no harm but ppl her felt offended did 🥴 but I’m happy she’s okay

[@BrotherOshow7]

Just watched her response on tt. I was so confused.

[@ChuckysOveralls]

I kinda thought she was joking bc of her tone the entire time. But most people take all these viral videos seriously, especially the obvious skits, because they want to flood the comment section with outrage. And she had to know that.

[@tigerlilly9038]

*Well her strategy failed.* The PR JOKE campaign should have never left the idea board because the deception was not exaggerated enough to make it READILY perceived. She should have said I am "17" not 34..or instead of a block heel she should have worn a platform sneaker , a wedge rain boot a high heel sneaker. *THAT* is satire, irony, goofy. *THAT* would be humor. Her attempt was too close to HER TRUTH. (a) She looks 34 (b) the shoe she wore was an ACTUAL heel although unattractive. (c) More importantly she is most DEFINITELY not funny.

[@pelomk9022]

​@@tigerlilly9038it worked. She's getting product deals and paid partnership. But go ahead and shame her

[@ReadyorNot811]

​@@tigerlilly9038yeah I think she meant it and backtracking now and I also follow her.

[@_KayBee_]

The Meg concert in Chicago was so diverse and carefree. Everybody was wearing everything no matter their gender, race, sexuality, or body type. I loved it!

[@MissRandom077]

I'm sorry she said she doesn't look her age, actually she does and older.

[@yendaaaa]

😂 exactly…

[@Mimimadonna]

Yes she does look her age 34

[@lebogangsemele3753]

Why you lying? at least 44.

[@KHALIAGREEN]

​@lebogangsemele3753 I saw this comment before I saw her, now I get it lol

[@lebogangsemele3753]

@@KHALIAGREEN Lol right?

[@rosseryankeegirl]

This topic lives rent free everyday. Because its everywhere in everything we do, everyday and its exhausting. i.e. - i just got laid off..so i have to start interviewing again,what did i do, run out and grabbed hair color so i dont look "older" when doing online interviews..why?? Work desireablity. Watching the Olympics.. who do they focus on..not just the fit athletes (cause theyre all fit) they focus on the good looking athletes.The desireables...and their spouses. 💁🏽‍♀️you know what i mean if youve been watching. This can go on and on... Great video!!❤

[@chinnyb4942]

Youth equals beauty for many people, but it's really sad seeing older people try to clown gen z for supposedly not looking their age, eventhough the ones I see look like straight babies. Insecurity is the root of it all; also, looking younger does not mean you are attractive.

[@aladynamedSusan]

Ok see that last line lol Facts

[@barbaradiaz745]

I’m 62. I have a strip of grey hair in the front. I used to dye my hair just to cover that small piece of grey. I stopped dying it and rebranded it “ my streak of wisdom😂”

[@TheePrettyGirlSwag]

It’s funny once I lost weight, stopped eating sugar and carbs and started taking collagen peptide powder daily, I aged in reverse. I looked older 7-8 years ago than I do now. A lot of us when we eat healthy we automatically don’t “look our age “ or do we? I’m 50 and mistaken for 40 quite often. How one looks boils down to lifestyle. It’s not an obsession to look younger but it just happens when you take care of yourself. The last guy to try to talk to me was 30 because he thought I was 40.

[@deescorpio8454]

People took what she said out of context. She has dry humor. She is a marketing executive. I follow her on TikTok. People don’t understand dry humor🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

[@Geneva89]

I’m one of those ones that loves dry humor.

[@nieceybeats1827]

Thank you for this informative video 💙🩵💙🩵💙🩵

[@DivoBeaute]

This is a much needed conversation. As someone who knows and fully understands the weight changes and body dysmorphia that comes with it I've started to block people that always post them in the gym everyday, how they desire whites/asians/latinos/lightskin/darkskin only etc. I just feel unless you are a personal trainer no one cares about you in the gym, get in and get out. You're holding up gym equipment for those of us that do workout. Lives too short to spend so much time boosting your ego and pride by putting others down or attempting to make them feel self conscious and unworthy.

[@su1kune]

I am a middle school male teacher [with pretty privilege] and I have noticed an influx of my students male and female asking me how I look so young for my age; I had to do a double take because I never would have thought preteens and teenagers would be concerned about stuff like this ; now calling someone old is an insult

[@NicoleBoo00]

Justin , thank you for this video! I love you ❤❤❤!

[@bamatexas1225]

We not wearing heels because we don’t want bunions and corns.

[@TreeHairedGingerAle]

😂 Yup! We want feet that feel good and work and allow us to run and jump and enjoy movement any which way we wanna! Not to say that no one is allowed to wear heels. But everybody gets to do what they wanna with their body, her included... so I don't get why she's concerned. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@bamatexas1225]

@@TreeHairedGingerAle right our life doesn’t start and end a club. We do a lot with our feet the most we can do is wear what’s comfortable.

[@TriggaTreDay]

Yall just got weak ankles 😂. A lot of us don’t have any of that and we wore heels all the time. It’s all about not cheating your feet. There is a such thing as comfortable heels. The girl in the video was actually wearing comfortable heels. I have always hated the pointy pumps. Those were made to un-alive women’s feet if you ask me.

[@tcyk1500]

Heels are not the cause of that. If that was case the men and children wouldn't have them. Friction and to tight or small shoes are the culprit

[@MalieB]

It’s not obsession of beauty- it’s an obsessive fear of death and Age is a distinct measure to how close you are to death. Even tho we all know u can die at any age (fetuses get aborted daily) however the closer u are to death scares or alarms our human nature. The 2nd part is Hollywood’s pedophilic youth desire and praise that we’ve all consumed for generations as well and apply to our everyday. We’ve all associated ourselves w/ certain characters in movies/shows etc., and leaves or left an impression on us that we implement in our personalities and behavior.

[@seasonsofus]

Yes!!!!

[@LisaLee__]

This is why I left social media years ago. I feel like the entire world is watching a horror movie (Instagram,tik Tok etc) at all times and then try to rationalize how "the movie is fake", saying that these apps aren't programming and affecting everyone mental health and everyone perception.

[@islandgirl8067]

The 1st woman is ridiculous. I hope she wasn't serious. Women don't wear heels to the club anymore because you're standing up and dancing for hours and we want to be comfortable. Why does it bother her so much what other people wear on their feet? She looks every bit of 34, and what's wrong with that? 34 is still young.

[@titlepending1302]

She wasn't she has a response video

[@tcyk1500]

Stop lying, you know you haven't seen anyone dance in a club in the last 10 years.

[@yabba35557]

For the past 10 years nobody has danced in the clubs. Be honest. People go to clubs to stand around and be validated by men. You want the man to tell you you’re fine or beautiful and if they’re cute enough you might twerk on them or something lol that’s it. Now if you aren’t validated that night then you go home feeling insecure about yourself. Where is the fun in that lol

[@ricardored207]

“FACE CARD” with filters out the wazoo don’t impress me, because your spirit is what I sense or watch, having a nice body and being in great shape is my forever project‼️

[@thelifeuchoose]

This was such a real discussion

[@FStrawberries]

I’ve learned over the years to ignore people. Some individuals have to find something to nitpick about. You have always been a handsome young Man. However, just like cooking, people eat with their Eyes first. Take Care!💯🙄😇🤦🏾‍♀️🕊️☺️🍓

[@itsAK97]

Jealous that you’re not seen is so valid. I’ll be citing this video in a lot of my conversations about desirability politics, thank you so much for this!

[@yowilli6669]

I also have a picture of myself in my 30s. And my skin was glowing. Now, I need to get my 51 y.o. skin glowing 😊

[@itsAK97]

Love this conversation being woken up. I fit in the category of your light skinned friend, minus the hazel eyes and yes people do comment on my looks in random spaces where it’s not needed, borderline inappropriate i.e. at work or in the ER. I also purpose to compliment everyone, specifically dark skinned and fat and disabled etc people in public settings for this very reason! Everyone deserves to get loved on and also attempting to subvert the narrative you’re discussing here.

[@taylork7530]

Vanity. Give people in general these two choices: A. Live for only another 10 years but as they were in their early 20s & susceptible to any and all health issues B. Live for a minimum of 50 more years, with a guaranteed clean bill of health, but visually be in their 40s.

[@Sassyminaj]

I’m 25 and she definitely tried it lmaooo, I’m from Miami, the girls always wear high heels whenever we go out but judging the girl for not wearing heels when she pulled out the Monica “before you walk out my life” 3000’s is crazy work. She definitely look 34 and that’s not a bad thing.

[@flygod0177]

Im 47 and I am grateful to make it this far. Social media got mf pressed. & its people, out here thats shaming, getting mature.

[@AlexisLove-x6s]

I am 40 and I get told by ppl (normally white and brown ppl) all the time that I look like I'm in my late 20s early 30s. I don't try it just happens and that seems to be the case for most black ppl I know. I don't see many black women or men trying to look younger. Sometimes just getting your hair done for whatever reason brings out the youth in black ppl.

[@TheAries209]

I love the aesthetic of high heels, but I don't have the balance/coordination to walk from one end of the street to the other, let alone the club.

[@fartunyep4501]

Getting older is a gift. So many young people lose their lives. Just 3 months ago a 23 year old lost his life due to a car accident.

[@sdc8598]

I appreciate this convo!

[@writeragurl]

Let this man cook!!!🔥🔥

[@Yorubavegan]

From an anthropologist view - beauty meaning youth for some also means health and “good genes.” The social effects of how we treat ourselves based on phenotypes we can’t control is 🤯🤯

[@PreppyPrincess777]

That 34 year old looks 40.

[@Tra_C]

😂😂😂

[@adu1991]

I'm 33 and some have said that I look like I'm in my 20s....but I know that this well will eventually run dry. Anyone who is living on this earth long enough will get old and die.

[@kairilewis24]

I thought this could be answered simply. I feel like we look our best in our 20s. I know for me, I want to look my best at all times. I feel like my best version of myself is my 25 year old self. To each their own tho 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@RachelNHarrison]

Thank you for the context on the heel conversation. I saw the responses to her but no one had like stitched it or anything. It makes those responses so much funnier😂😂

[@neshay9641]

On point as usual. I remember when I was young I was skinny as a rail, and I had a nice face, but thick has always been, no matter the face, so too skinny wasn’t desirable in my day. That’s why you have to have self love, have confidence no matter the body you are in, and most importantly don’t worry about what people say or think of your body!!❤

[@ThePatriceProject]

I’m 42 and get better with age. It’s a gift! 🎁 💕 Now I love my heels but those shoes she had on were…a choice. lol She looks 34 not younger 🥴🤷🏾‍♀️

[@forever39]

She definitely not the spokesperson for heels. Anyway the heels R coming off after a hour at the club & the flats are cometh out the purse😂

[@TyWerks]

This will never end honestly there will always be a benefit to someone who is pleasing to the eye

[@princemwamba5230]

Very true and every culture has had their own versions of fine

[@princesspuneta]

Let's not forget that society seems to have a problem with being too skinny. I was always harassed and ridiculed for being too skinny as a child and even in my early twenties. Even though I look "better" now, I'm still that skinny kid in my head. I really enjoyed this video.

[@00l6-6]

I always pray I age fine like wine. That 30 glow is something serious

[@mercedesamber5009]

You look tf goodt Justin loving the healthy weight loss😍😍😍 Black don’t crack baby💕

[@SayuriBlossoms]

ppl.are just becoming daf, to have another rotation on this earth is a blessing. you.have a dawn and everyone WILL have a dusk when it's time to transition out. the ability to age gracefully and softly is a blessing there is nothing you can do to defeat the process of aging it's happening, it's about how you deal with it and how you move through that as you age

[@kelgreen99]

Ageism is real. Colorism is real. Anything that reflects on things that are beyond their control should not reflect on their abilities. Biden did a lot but he was dropped becz of his age. I fought growing older for years but now I don't mind becz I know I have the experience that these "young" people are trying to get.

[@khamrhod8360]

Ageism is definitely a problem in certain aspects but the Biden situation was pretty valid

[@yabba35557]

a lot of millennials are not happy with where they are in their lives. Social media makes you feel like you should be a millionaire and traveled the world by 25. So looking younger or holding onto youth makes people feel like they still have time. In reality you do have time, plenty of time to accomplish goals. Very few people tick off all of their life goals by 30

[@prestonpfeiffer]

Are you gonna address Ms Netta’s remarks on Black Women or does she get a pass for being unattractive???

[@ChloeBaileysRightBootyCheek]

Justin has Ms netta feet to the fire before

[@ansonreaves5786]

Of course he's not. That would go against the narrative.

[@mariacriss5414]

He will never address it. She most definitely is intentionally getting a pass which is surprising to me bc He usually always supports bw

[@HootieHootie21]

Not the block heels to the cluurrrbbbbb!!!!! That might be just as bad😂

[@beatrixxkiddo3572]

I’m 36 going on 37 and i LOVE looking like a 30 something year old. If someone compliments me on my “youthful” appearance. I tell people nah babes it’s my spirit! I have young adult daughters and I refuse to be grouped in with them. I actively avoid clothes that they like.

[@talvintalks5159]

I totally agree with you !! We need to be proud of our ages and time we have experienced on this earth. Let's start thinking right!! We all experience different things at different times, we should appreciate all.x

[@jystcarter1773]

30 looks good.

[@jhnbbbb7587]

It sure does!

[@dorifarrish247]

Great episode 👌🏼

[@ChristianAffirmation]

Great analysis!

[@coolakb4620]

I really enjoy your commentary especially on misogyny, and colorism. I am a light skin black woman who has witnessed the favoritism given to them. Yes I said them because although I am light skin, I am also fat and I don’t get that treatment at all!! So can you please talk about that because if you don’t fit the complete aesthetic, you’re considered ugly.

[@ms.a806]

It’s always the boastful people who say “I know I don’t look my age” and “I look like I am 23” who truly do look their age or older. People need to be humble and allow,others to pay them the compliment.

[@moded_corroded8132]

That's why I never say it lol. Just let other folks tell you

[@natashamjohnson8335]

I'm loving this convo lol my daughter looks like she's 16 but she's 30 and thinks her kids are mines and im proud to say I'm 49 she's my daughter not my sister and those beautiful grandkids are just that loving this gen-xer not the pain of aging

[@rosieusa]

I am 31 and still feel young and beautiful. I don't understand how being in your early 30s is considered so old in this day in age, especially being black... we usually do still look like our 20s. I find it strange.