The Rise of the "F Them Kids" Movement | Why Gen Z is “Childfree by Choice”

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In this video we will be discussing why Gen Z and Millenials are choosing to not become parents anymore. Birthe rates have decreased drastically in the past 15 years, but why? We get all the way into it in this video. Please share your thoughts and opinions on my commentary down below!
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[@welliminitnowso]

Great video. I don’t want any kids !

[@ABc-nu6jb]

Gen Z are still kids themselves

[@user-vl6dc2mc8h]

Hi! So I don’t know if you need to hear this but if you are struggling right now just know that there is always someone looking out for you. His name is Jesus Christ who died on the cross for your sins! No matter how hard you have been broken, hurt, or cheated he will never leave you or forsake you. I know times can be tough, so how about we make a deal? Put your trust on Him for one week, and pray. See what happens! You would be pleasantly surprised. He helped me in hard and he will help you too:)

[@user-vl6dc2mc8h]

@@welliminitnowso Hi! So I don’t know if you need to hear this but if you are struggling right now just know that there is always someone looking out for you. His name is Jesus Christ who died on the cross for your sins! No matter how hard you have been broken, hurt, or cheated he will never leave you or forsake you. I know times can be tough, so how about we make a deal? Put your trust on Him for one week, and pray. See what happens! You would be pleasantly surprised. He helped me in hard and he will help you too:)

[@Lilisama11]

As a Hispanic woman in my 30s, I can't tell you how many times I've heard how selfish and "un-womanly" I am for not wanting to have kids. I've had other woman treat me as less-than for not wanting to have kids, but then turn around and start complaining how hard being a mother is 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

[@DayaMcCarthy]

Funny thing is I actually find it selfish bringing a child into this cruel world when you can always adopt and help a life that is already here

[@DayaMcCarthy]

Next time people call you selfish for not having a child. Ask them what about them having their kid is not selfish? Cause most reasons people want kids: 1) Have their DNA reproduced 2). Have a mini them 3) Be happy 4) Have a reason to live 5) Have someone that will give them "unconditional love" 6) Looking like the "perfect family" 7) Feeling complete 8) Aesthetic 9) Having someone that will be loyal to them forever Nothing about such reasons like these seem self less

[@stephaniewilliams1110]

Do not let anyone tell you to have kids if you truly truly do not want them. It is no joke, being a mom myself. And although I adore my baby and I am so happy I have him, I’m not going to sit here and tell you it’s not hard sometimes. It’s not something you can give back. It’s a literal human and I wish more people would say that. The fact that more women are sharing how hard it truly is is very important. You do not have to get pregnant to have a child. You can always try to adopt a child and skip allll of that altogether. I respect women who can be honest with themselves and say that they truly don’t think they want children rather than having them and neglecting them.

[@daikonnn822]

They’re jealous that u did what they couldn’t

[@vonnicholson-sykes6657]

It’s definitely a cultural thing for you though. I’ll pray for you bc that’s not a little thing. 🌹

[@Tosin226]

I used to hear horror stories about child birth and wonder how I'd survive it. It only just occurred to me that children are a choice and not inevitable.

[@LorenCognita]

SAME!

[@yahainHotPink]

💯 With my terrible periods, I was concerned about a terrible pregnancy and birth. I decided at 17 to never become a parent biologically.

[@britneybij3997]

What? You thought you were gonna be arrested if ya didn't have any kids? 🤣

[@atlegangbotlhale1483]

​@@yahainHotPinkI'm 17 and qlready have that mindset, I'm really terrified of childbirth.

[@beaulieuc8910]

same@@yahainHotPink

[@kirageorge]

I am 44 years old, and back when I was in high school, I made the decision, that marriage and kids were NOT on my life's agenda. The best damn decision I've ever made!

[@diamondheart11]

Yup same here glad we are not alone , we are increasing in numbers.

[@JudeKnowsWhatYouDoNot]

@@diamondheart11 do you get validation about your decision in the company?

[@alyssaramirez1024]

@@JudeKnowsWhatYouDoNotI think this video is validation enough 😂

[@JudeKnowsWhatYouDoNot]

@@alyssaramirez1024 so you are validated by the fact people are "joining the ranks". I was trying to tell someone that people watch these videos to get validation and kind of convince themselves they made the right decision. Same with MGTOW men.

[@kayythaagoat2161]

I’m 21 and made the decision to not want to get married or have kids at 14

[@TaphsAJ]

Kinda feel like maybe women got tired of being shamed for just not wanting kids and people pressing them that it’s turned into aggression and “f them kids “

[@diamondheart11]

It's also seeing how women are not valued and respected in society, the misogyny and the shaming of divorces, singles, baby mamas makes you say f*ck that and f*ck society, we will not sacrifice our wombs, bodies and lives for you!

[@dubaiedge]

Yes! And somehow everyone forgets all the orphans who need adopted. Selfish is actually these people insisting their own dna only gets in a kid. God forbid they consider adoption 🤦

[@TheDogAndTheBee]

@@dubaiedgeThis! i‘m 34f, don’t want children but if this would ever change we agreed to look into adopting or being foster parents instead of going the „traditional“ route.

[@beilultesfom4929]

@@dubaiedgedo you know how expensive that process is and takes years and a lot of legal things

[@astermorii]

@@beilultesfom4929 So is literally birthing a child in a hospital? You are paying the same amount of money in adoption and legal fees as you would when birthing and registering your own child.

[@thegreatest9694]

I feel like there's a huge difference between being respectfully childfree and hating children. It might just be me, but i've noticed that along with the spike of people choosing to be childfree there's also been a lot of people who are hating on children

[@ToniBryanneTV]

Yep, I briefly mentioned this at the end of the video. There has definitely been an increase in the desensitization of children from adults

[@sophiethelk9557]

Yep, this is why I left r/childfree. It’s ok to not want kids, but it’s annoying as hell when they make it their entire personality or hate on kids when we were all kids at one point.

[@aaliyah7996]

@@sophiethelk9557 Oh #THAT subreddit😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫 Headache guaranteed. That's why I muted it altogether

[@daphnereal3129]

I don't like kids. I just find their normal developmental behaviors overwhelming. I am always kind to children since it's not their fault, but I don't see disliking children as a bad thing. Just as long as you're not horrible to actual children.

[@alexa.rose0]

@@xoxoxxx.03I even see people call their own children this. Ick

[@azaria4447]

this might be a hot take but bringing a child you can’t afford into this world in my opinion is abusive.

[@Ella-te7fe]

I agree with you.

[@Micah_Coatha]

Agree

[@aiyanaaris4160]

I agree

[@froginthemoss]

Agreed.

[@liberationgz4120]

YES, especially when they intentionally get pregnant whilst struggling!

[@Rrashestone]

I personally feel like the women that want motherhood more power to them. The women that want to live be dual income no kids, more power to them. The women that want to be single and child free. More power to them. Womanhood is a vast and varied experience I love how women nowadays get to shows the differences of their experiences. It gives many more women choice and freedom to truly express their desires.

[@ToniBryanneTV]

Beautifully stated

[@jeong-ilkajokaya3849]

Bro, the real question is, did this comment get you any puss?

[@dj.j5099]

Wow! You said it perfectly! 👏 we, as women, should look after one another and respect each other's choices! I got friends that are almost 40 who have kids and some don't but we all support each other!

[@Tan87ful]

💯👏🏽

[@EmmaGrace-if8qo]

AMEN ❤❤❤

[@oceaneandrade5276]

I think the source of the problem is the modern social structure and family structure. Motherhood is hard but it’s not supposed to be this hard. Mothers are supposed to have a support system, family, friends, school etc and that is gone

[@ScreamTatumRiley]

And husband don’t forget husband

[@whitneyanders5945]

Is it though? There are mothers groups, maternity leave, paid parental leave, flexible working arrangements for those with kids, family tax benefits A and B and subsidised childcare and early learning. Parents usually end up with other parents as their core friendship group so there are sleep overs and little communities where you can all chat about parenting and vent etc. Grandparents are living longer so can help with babysitting. There are a million mum bloggers, family bloggers, therapy and counseling for parents. There is more awareness around PPD and PPP. Definitely waaaaaay more of a ‘village’ then twenty or thirty years ago.

[@Jaime-eg4eb]

What's in place is not a support system, it's a money extraction system. As in how can we monetize your love for your child.

[@froginthemoss]

⁠​⁠@@whitneyanders5945im not sure where you are living, but you need to remember it is NOT like that in most places in America. Parental leave is NOT flexible and it is NOT long enough, nor do they typically pay people for it even though they arguably need the money more now. Maternity leave in this country is AWFUL, giving you only several weeks with your newborn. Also please do not look at Momfluencers and think its easy to find community… its not. Another point, this country doesnt care about kids. They let them die in schools every day and they are seen but not heard. There are BARELY any kid exclusive spaces anymore like jungle gyms (we JUST got one in town.. in 2023). There are thousands of people talking about this.. the fact that the village isnt a thing anymore especially being a mother they get very little support and are often stigmatized.

[@shirleymarie2288]

​@@whitneyanders5945 where do you live that there is paid parental leave? Or childcare options? Or flexible hours for parents? As she pointed out, parents have less support than in the past because grandparents now are working instead of retiring, more women have to work so new moms they don't have the support of other moms. Wait lists for infant childcare where I am is almost a year long, meaning as soon as you find out you're pregnant you need to get on that wait list, it also costs about $1500 per month for full time child care (I've been a teacher in childcare centers for years so this is first hand knowledge, not just what I've heard). Very few people qualify for the childcare subsidies you're talking about. As for the tax credits, the $2000 deduction nowhere near offsets the cost of raising a child and most people still end up owing money even when they have children. When I used to work at Walmart years ago, I was one of 10 people I knew who worked overnights and only getting a few hours sleep while our kids napped or after our spouse got home from work, because we couldn't afford childcare but made "too much" to qualify for a subsidy despite the fact that that childcare costs were more than the monthly wage, none of my family was available to help because they were of course working as well. Obviously it was my choice to have children so it was my responsibility to figure out how to make it work but pretending that its easy to raise kids is just ridiculously disingenuous.

[@cstaylor1989]

My friend had twins and they had complications and died 😢😢😢 She was served with a bill of 70k while mourning….she did a go fund me to get the money and was still short 20k….that totally changed my perspective of having kids…..and before y’all start she had United Healthcare and they claim they paid 90% of her bill 🤯

[@msmoloi8135]

Cruelty at its purest!

[@serendipitylove3930]

I hate america so much

[@omowhanre]

Sadly, I’m sure she was Black

[@se2664]

That’s so sad 😢

[@mindingmybusiness3915]

How she going to get charged for all that if they didn't make it

[@LifeisaBeautifulting]

Just talking about the woman whose uterus fell out after pregnancy made me feel nauseous... I'm not built for childbirth 😂

[@prettyinpnk]

same, just the thought of it is a little scary with all the risk and more 😭

[@t_harris2_489]

I agree!!!

[@TheAshesArt]

@bingchungus😂😂😂💯

[@butameremortal9424]

But for everyone of those there are good stories! I've had four vaginal births and I'm good😅 I had my last at 40! A "geriatric" 😂 I wouldn't trade it for the world. Our family is large and we all have each others back. Okay...my bladder did fall out with twins but it went back 😂

[@lalimf305]

​@bingchungusI'm cacklingggg 😂😂😂

[@ElegantPaws01]

Children are not for everyone. Simply because you have a uterus does NOT mean you MUST AUTOMATICALLY have a child. That simple.

[@MikeAftonsWife]

fr

[@anujinnnnnnn]

I started crying towards the end off this video. Im a single mother to a toddler and although i love her with all my heart i really am exhausted. I became a mother a month after my 24th birthday and living alone, working and taking care off the house, bills, my baby and myself all these years have made an impact on my body. I dont want to say i regret my choice, i just want a timeout for a minute to breathe

[@prettyindacity6708]

You’re not alone, I’m seven years with mine and I still often feel like this. I love my little girl but it breaks my heart every time she says she wants a sister and I have to tell her like hey, “I’m not doing that again. I’m so sorry”. There’s so much mothers go through silently but I’m glad conversations are being had because we can feel so alone in those emotions. 😔

[@risabel_]

damn i’m so sorry y’all are going thru this😔it sounds so harsh

[@anujinnnnnnn]

@@prettyindacity6708 you are so strong, and i hope you have support from somewhere so you can have time to breathe once in a while

[@tomriddle164]

Im sorry you're going through that. I hope it becomes easier and you can get into a routine.

[@OVORICK1]

"You let him hit it raw " 🗣🔥

[@Jayeeda_]

so glad women are making the decisions that are best for them and their lives and not allowing society to tell them what to do. Being my family's designated babysitter did not convince me to have kids😂 as soon as they start crying IM GONE

[@tobiaslawrence8928]

Same I lost my entire childhood raising my youngest siblings cause I was the oldest and parents worked all the time. Now that they are in highschool and can watch themselves parents got mad at me for not watching them anymore or wanting to have kids and also not looking after my newborn niece.

[@daphnereal3129]

As one of the oldest kids among my mom's friends' kids, same. I was forced to watch out for all the kids and I hated it.

[@WikkyPedia]

Thats why I promised myself to treat my mom as a queen.... Care for her emotionally now, and financially as soon as I can❤

[@minniewortham9299]

@@WikkyPediayour not obligated to do that just so you know. Because they brought you here. They are supposed to take care of you. Not nobody else. I would never want my eldest children to take care of my youngest. Or anybody to unvoluntary take care of my kids. If I had kids I would work while pregnant and then stay home till I could go back to work and would pay somebody to do because nothing is free.

[@ThiccChickCrisha]

I got engaged then pregnant at 18. I got like 1000 stretch marks. It ruined my belly. But what I really wasn't ready for was at 22 years old finding out my son had severe autism. I remember hearing it and I LITERALLY BROKE. My mind just couldn't take it. I was pregnant with my daughter as well. They suggested therapeutic abortion about 5 minutes later. I BROKE YALL!. I didn't bond with my daughter (she's now 20 n we still ain't close). My autistic son ended up living with my mom. I got on drugs..heroin and Xanax. Whatever could drown out all the disappointment. I'm 43 n been clean for 8 years but I NEVER even smoked weed til I found out about my son. This was when Autism had no treatments or anything else. So, imagine that your child has downs, M.R., birth defects and you're 18 years old! There are super strong women out there (My Mama is one ❤) but most will mentally break.

[@Shiann444]

Love this video.. to add to it as well, the dating pool is AWFUL right now.. I would NEVER sacrifice my womb and body for any of these low down men that are available right now. The birth rate is absolutely gonna continue to drop. The government is trying to get rid of abortions on purpose, they know what’s to come. We’re DONE having babies with no benefit from it

[@t_harris2_489]

Say it again for the ppl in the back!! I am Gen X, this is exactly the reason why I chose not to have children, aside from having chronic migraines. The dating pool sucks big time!! Smdh!

[@jessicah3782]

Amen! so many governments want to block birth control methods as their populations decline (goodbye ponzi scheme systems) but it's still not going to work because people are having less seqq in general. we all know better. if the government wants us to have kids so much, then actually make it reasonable. in the US, the majority of kids live in poverty! and duh, of all western nations, we give parents and families the least support.

[@blair9607]

This !! I never wanted a child until I met my husband . Subconsciously I knew they would be shitty dads

[@raevynchisolm7817]

Exactly I don’t want none either cause #1 I’m broke and second the world is too damn ghetto 🙄😒

[@kia.203]

Facts. I DO NOT want to be attached to any of these men like that. I like to dip & run 🏃🏽‍♀️ lol

[@yoitsjac2640]

Having children has always been hard. Motherhood has always exhausted women, it is just now that women have the rights and freedom to choose their way of life. Let us never forget that it was only a few years ago, were women allowed to divorce. Women before us, fought for us to vote, speak, work and choose what we can and cant to do to our bodies. Some women still have none of those rights. The fight is not over.

[@abrielle13]

And this is why resources, sex ed and community are important so that kids don't end up with parents who don't want them. It's really shitty to grow up knowing your parent doesn't want to be your parent. Don't take it lightly! If you don't want to be a parent, you don’t have to be!

[@jadevu904]

This is true, there are children that grow up with adults that they do not want us!! Thank you for bringing this valid point.My mother sees me as a retirement plan and she is so disappointed bc I live on my own and she can't take advantage of me. God bless my mother, fortunately she took care of me very good but she criticize me all my childhood and young adult. Just because our parents just not fully educated and they had us and we have to struggle on our own especially this rough economy. God bless all the mothers out there! For the youngster out there, please explore your life and options and get fully educated fully before you decide to let some man takes advantage of you without marriage or committed.

[@brianas6550]

Society has women feeling that choosing to be child free is selfish. I feel like women do need to be selfish and do what’s best for them. Being child-free doesn’t mean you hate children. Once women become moms their identity becomes just that, a mother. It shouldn’t have to be that. Shaming moms for doing other things than being a mom is wild. I’m a new mom and I’m getting into the routine of things now with my baby. He’s well taken care of and happy. I’m taking the time to make sure I’m a priority as well. Having a social life and time for myself is a huge MUST.

[@blair9607]

Keep doing what you love , never lose your identity. My baby is 10 weeks and inbetween day time naps I’m painting and I sell them , it’s a passion and my job . She needs to learn that women should enjoy their life too .

[@AutumnTheArtist1996]

Yes so true. My sister is choosing to be child free but she loves being an auntie so much. My sister is a blessing to me and my daughter. My daughter loves her auntie like that’s her second mama lol. I’m so happy that they have each other. 🥰

[@Uiuiooo]

If they use the word selfish they are just trying to guilt trip you into doing what they want

[@GoddessOfThree]

I don't even understand the logic behind calling it "selfish"? 😂 That only makes any semblance of sense if you honest-to-god believe that there are, like, ACTUAL baby souls out there waiting to be born (which is apparently a real, weird belief that some people have 🤔). But otherwise, like... who on earth are you depriving or putting yourself above in order to qualify as "selfish"? The imaginary hypothetical children that literally don't exist? 🤣

[@chrzig554]

@@AutumnTheArtist1996 I wanna be like your sister

[@bethanys8841]

As a Black woman that just enter their 20s, I do not want any biological kids. I already have mental health issues so Postpartum depression and postpartum psychosis scare the hell out of me. I struggle with suicidal thoughts all the time, but I can’t imagine killing my own sweet innocent baby or toddler because of PPP. Even if I no longer have mental health issues in the future, I still wouldn’t have bio kids. Black women are at such high risk of dying during the birthing process. Plus, kids especially babies and toddlers are extremely exhausting and expensive. If I want to have a child in the future I would definitely adopt and/or foster school-age kids and/or teens. If I had to spend my energy caring for another human being, my as well be a child who is already here on earth. I had an idea to foster teens 15-17 when I am older and give them the support, guidance and love they need before entering the adult world.

[@MsElizaRae]

Omg yes! Most people talk about adopting babies forgetting there are older children who still need love and support

[@bkstandard882]

Teens are terrible. They've too many life experiences and are already raised for the most part. If it's a young child, at least they'll see you as their parent. You don't know what demons that teenager is coming to you with.

[@Ariel-lol]

@@MsElizaRaeyes I agree. I was adopted at 1. I had a friend (not friends anymore) who fostered a “tween” he was like 11. It was tough having him around and doing things with him there, how he acted sometimes, but at least he had a home with safe people.

[@lovingme974]

I dont think most ppl consider this! Your child could flip in an instant. Part of autonomy, but a scary thought nonetheless@@bkstandard882

[@baby.nay.]

@@bkstandard882wowww. Did you ever think it was their experiences that were terrible . That’s a really selfish comment to make as a human being

[@sophiacalon3463]

Yet some men still think THEY are the prize. No kid, women don’t need you.

[@SuperGlue4321]

They are literally a health hazard. Wth 😂

[@SarukiLIAS]

Women still need 🍆so , besides , it’s not like men want children , women are followers , men have been avoiding kids for the last 10 years

[@marvin2678]

Women need men and men need women, pretty easy

[@jayc342009]

Women aren't the prize either though.

[@Chillingisbae]

Say that again sis!

[@daughterofyemoja]

I'm childfree myself, but not the child hating, dog obsessed, calling parents"breeders" type lol. I work with children and sometimes prefer their company over adults (who can be very boring) but I will say that it always gives me peace of mind to know that there won't be any kids waiting for me when I come home. Since I work with children I know how demanding taking care of them can be, I try not to judge parents too harshly because of that. Anyways, great video!

[@lizek3515]

The woman with the autistic child reminded me of this reddit post I found on the r/trueoffmychest where the poster said she hated being a mom because she couldn’t be like her other mom friends. Her child had been in some sort of accident and suffered a brain injury that essentially made them be mentally 5 years old for the rest of their life. The poster said she would cry whenever her friends would talk about their kids going to college, driving, getting married, getting jobs, etc. since she could never have that. She said she felt so guilty for basically hating the situation she was in, and she didn’t want to keep doing it. She loves her kid, but she can’t stand them. It honestly was so heartbreaking you could really see how badly it was affecting her physical and mental health

[@daphnereal3129]

Do you have a link? I am interested in hearing her story.

[@livxyolivia]

wow she can’t stand a kid who got into an accident. i feel so bad😐

[@khadyadjisall5708]

@bingchungusnot all pre-natal exams will show that the baby will have any kind of disability. Most of the times they just do not know. You’re being very harsh and judgmental to these parents.

[@blair9607]

That could happen with a husband / wife of a parent though . It’s just unfortunate

[@livxyolivia]

@@khadyadjisall5708 no these parents just sound like shitty people.

[@ruebee313]

I think the way society in general feels about mothers, especially single mothers, plays a big role as well. Even if married, there's no guarantee you won't end up a single mom. Noone wants the scarlet letter.

[@minniewortham9299]

Yep I have a internal fear for this. And being just a woman in this day is harmful. You can’t step out the door with out being judged.

[@Gumbier_Than]

I worry about it too, nothing to do with dating after I would become one either.

[@danniellejohnson448]

Scarlet letter?

[@paulacurrie2441]

Even rather than having the scarlet letter, I think moms are tired of doing it all or the majority on their own now. Seems like the Scarlet letter is coming to the point where many don’t care about that nearly as much these days/

[@khailaturner8043]

This part. Like I don’t want to end up doing it alone and even if I was married I’m just tired of the narrative that it’s the moms job to cook and clean and work and take care of the kids while the dad just works and takes care of the house which is just paying bills like?? That’s not equal at all

[@MacabreEgg]

Im mexican and having children is virtually the most "important" part of adulthood. Its so stupid, and the amount of times ive been told by my family that its gonna happen eventually pissed me off so bad. I absolutely will not bring a child into the world knowing I do not have the nurturing skills needed to love them, the funds, and also have pretty bad mental health issues which I feel absolutely horrible passing onto a child who never asked to be subjected to it.

[@MaiMai-ys4yg]

I have two kids and I’m done. My family still say “ohhhhh have one more”. People will always be annoying. Do whatever you want to do!

[@Livepink]

What I don’t understand is why women see how difficult and expensive it is to have a child and then continue to have several more smh

[@deathlight4210]

They’re stupid and irresponsible.

[@Miawest01]

Yeah, I’ve always thought that too. I have one and I may not ever have another one.

[@GingerSpiritSmurf]

Because if they’re in a certain tax bracket, the new kids can provide the mother with WIC, more food stamps, Section 8 housing, child support checks, ect. I see it in my own family and it’s honestly so disgusting because every 5 years they have more it’s like clockwork. They don’t even work and haven’t since their first

[@GingerSpiritSmurf]

Now for me personally, my husband and I can afford our kids and I am a SAHM. And even with our resources, I still don’t want more than 2 😂 I think if I had more I would not have the time to dedicate to them and myself

[@Pulapaws]

@@GingerSpiritSmurf Lol your crazy. Clearly you never been around someone on real welfare. No one is rich off of welfare. In fact the more children you have pushes you farther into poverty. If it for money they better off becoming a foster home because that where the real money comes in from the government. That why in those very low income you talk about there very high crime to help care for those children and themselves and be a little comfortable if not you seen you see them children wearing holes in the clothes the house doesn’t even look like everyone live in it because it so run down etc that the one that do crime to try to make end met. The only one living high off of government welfare is the companies bailouts that the government give to companies and their CEO that already have two huge homes etc. they the only ones living beyond comfortable. What you saying is a big huge fat lie and people believe it until they need assistance like ISS which is disappearing or other things. No one rich off the government but the politicians and mega corporations that it.

[@chiyonunca18]

A few men that I've spoken to tells me I'm wasting my potential because I don't have kids yet (I'm 31). I've made my decision that I wasn't having any since middle school because I was already selfish about me and my personal space. The narrative that women should be having kids simply because they're women gets annoying. I'm glad more women are choosing themselves and what's best for them.

[@tytreeseneal8331]

I love this for you 🫶🏾 nothing wrong with this it’s more to life then having kids

[@dangdeionn]

You made a beautiful choice

[@MiamiPush2theLimit]

Men love seeing women attached to other men (one of the ways they attach themselves is by getting women pregnant). They hate seeing women free and empowered.

[@moshe-yahofzion]

Those men be the main ones who don’t even help their own children lol I’m with u sis I’m 34 no children and very happy I’m sorry but I hang up off the phone with friends and fam that have children and I instantly am sooooo thankful for my life lol

[@victoria-ez3er]

How many people can earth handle if we are all supposed to have kids. I always ask this people if we are supposed to have kids, how are we benefiting society?. In this moment so many kids are growing with their phone . We have reach the highest level of mental problems in USA and a lot of them are kids. So many teachers are leaving their careers because parents don’t discipline their kids plus is a lot of shootings now. .We are doing a very bad job as a society and we are not creating a respectful environment around us. Parents need to stop being entitled and teach their kids manners because what we are seeing now is the result of bad parenting. The level of entitlement of people is mind boggling. I don’t see people people trying to get along anymore. This people are just repeating what they were told by their parents and the church. Not everyone needs a kid and not everyone is going to be a good parent. We aren’t losing potential because the current parents are showing us that they are really bad at it. Is a good thing that the younger generation is waking up from this ridiculous rules.

[@kelsisaam4414]

Not to mention having a child can ruin your relationship with a whopping 67% of couples admitting their relationship fizzled out after childbirth.

[@naomigwolfe8112]

I think most happened because the marriage was already on the decline. Adding a kid just added to the stress, not the root of the cause. Sadly, many think adding a kid to the mix will fix things..

[@marvin2678]

Thanks feminism

[@cecevanfran9836]

True! 💯💯💯

[@kelsisaam4414]

@@marvin2678 Can you explain your remark?

[@Childfree334]

​@kelsisaam4414 NO, he can't explain his remark because men think of feminism as something that took away their ability to use and abuse women with no consequences.

[@ofeliaabundez3618]

I’ve never wanted kids since I was 7. Now at 30 I feel stronger about my decision. No kids for life.

[@daphnereal3129]

I've never liked children, or wanted them. I don't have the patience, and I have chronic migraines that make me fear I will hate being a mom. When children cry and meltdown, as is natural, I fear getting a migraine from the noise and resenting the child for causing me to be in pain all the time. Call me selfish all you want, but I don't want to be miserable 24/7. 🤷‍♀

[@ayanna439]

So you're most likely to abuse a child out of anger. Do you think this makes you stand out? 🙄😂 Idc for kids either but I'm not going to act like I never was a child or ignore WHAT IS EXPECTED by children. Please continue to stay away from kids.

[@t_harris2_489]

I truly understand. I have chronic migraines as well hence the reason that I chose to never have children.

[@mollymolly7451]

@@ayanna439she never said she was going to abuse the child. She simply DONT WANT any children. Is it hard to believe ? Like not everyone like to be around children and it’s okay as long as you being respectful. I don’t see the problem. You doing too much

[@dinkyboss]

@@ayanna439you sound slow, they literally said they don’t want kids.

[@ayanna439]

@@mollymolly7451 It's not "doing too much" to be concerned about someones psyche regarding children so pls STFU. Her mentality implies that she is MOST LIKELY to abuse a child, she even hinted that she would be a danger to her child so what issue do you have with my post? YOU made not being around children my focus when that wasn't my point.

[@paperdoll5467]

I'm older and while I didn't have the language of "F&%# them kids" I sure felt that in my heart from a very young age. Not having kids was for sure in the top 3 best decisions i've made in my life FULL STOP.

[@MiamiPush2theLimit]

Same here 💯

[@laceyholt6985]

Really?! Wowww, I have 2 now, as a teen to my mid 20s I never wanted them...here I am mom of 2. I ain't gonna lie & say, "I wouldn't change it for the world", type b.s, bc idk if I would or not 🤷‍♀️ it's THE HARDEST SHIT I've done & I've lost my whole family in last 5 yrs, beat a 15 yr long opiate addiction, D.V, grape, & being kidnapped...if that says anything lol.

[@paperdoll5467]

@@laceyholt6985 Oh my goodness...having kids might've been the least tough part of your journey!! Congrats for surviving the opiate addiction...hopefully you had and continue to have some kind of support system (outside of fam that you lost). Hope your two kids are ok. For me, no kids, no regrets. I say F#%@ them kids in jest, but momhood was/is not for me.

[@mignalyortiz4589]

I'm 44 and have always been 'F@ck those kids'. I became an aunt at the age of 8 due to having older siblings so I've been around kids all my life and although there are kids in my life that I absolutely love, overall I don't enjoy children.

[@bajorekjon]

Cope

[@consciousqueen1111]

Some people truly dont take into account that people with certain mental illnesses shouldn’t have kids. People have this optimistic perspective that their kids will be perfect and completely healthy, and when that doesnt happen and their kids have fucked up lives, they just have to deal with it

[@isabella4793]

And even after all of that, they still get shamed for not looking the same way they did at 20

[@Succe591]

Unfortunately, I do not wish to bring a child into the world due to the fear of them being traumatized and not shown the love and care they deserve. I don't feel as though I'm fit for kids because I lack patience. With that said, my perspective may change in 5 years or so. If I'm childfree by 32, that would be my indicator to not have kids (I don't wish to have a biological child any later than that) or who knows I might adopt a teenager (I dislike toddlers, once they're pass the cute baby phase, they become quite annoying, teenagers are also annoying but they're manageable).

[@sophiethelk9557]

Agreed. Babies are cute and fairly easy, but toddlers are exhausting. I do not want to go through that phase.

[@Valentine06]

Yeah I agree, I don't wish to bring a kid into this world either. For me if I'm childfree by 40 I just won't have kids past that point. I would probably break my back or something trying to raise a kid passed the age of 40.

[@Ariel-lol]

Not to even mention how shitty the economy is now, I’m a teenage and it’s tough out here. I can’t imagine how it is for people who are a little older than me, or a little younger than me. Hopefully it will change but I honestly doubt it. I do want kids, I’m just scared to give birth to them lol

[@melodyscorpion6606]

I'm not bringing a teenager in to risk effing up their development. Any kid is so much. I would just rather not have kids. I care about them. But I won’t have any.

[@John-ls4xh]

​@@melodyscorpion6606what if God has a plan for you

[@Juhsentuh]

I don’t want kids, don’t want the responsibility, don’t want to bring new life to this world. My choice! I knew at age 11 I didn’t want kids. I raised my baby brother from birth while my divorced mother worked her ass off to pay for her house, car and three kids. I saw her life and that solidified my thoughts of having children, getting married and buying house. She has nothing to show for it today, also no grandchildren. I’ll be 40 in December and looking forward to celebrating my birthday my way. No kids, single and free!

[@AC-ri2ph]

Your kids thank you

[@se2664]

Congrats and happy birthday

[@britneybij3997]

I keep telling folks, the ones who convinced me to not have children are people who have them.

[@evilds3261]

@@britneybij3997 And they found having kids to be difficult so they tell people not to have them so that they do not have to go through the same experience the hard way.

[@missnlahi]

What happened to her house?

[@kamjohnson6877]

Im adopted, i know what its like to be brought into a world when you are not wanted. I wont have kids, simply because i don't want one, i dont want a kid to feel what ive felt

[@bidy142]

Were your adoptive parents good? What do you think of adoption?

[@emilypace2769]

my OWN MOM tells me repeatedly how her pregnancy with me "drained the life out of her" and yet she also wants me married and to give her grandchildren...? um, the math isn't mathing

[@hamimahanuar]

i'm sorry but that is very weird of your mom to have that expectation, seeing that she openly expresses how hard she had it. my mom is the opposite. she repeatedly tells me how happy she is to be a mother and how enjoyable motherhood is to her, but she never pressures me to "give her" a grandchild or even expects me to have a child once i'm married.

[@dhiszc00kie]

I’ll be 30 next year and honestly having children seems like the worst decision you can ever make ESPECIALLY as a woman. Many of my friends have children and even if they aren’t single they are still single mothers. Men don’t shoulder the responsibility of children the way women do. Even if he is an active father the mother is still primary and a lot of times ran tired. Every single one of my friends that has children always tell me to never have them and you know what, imma take that advice 😂

[@maliahjoy2959]

Same

[@ladev91]

You will never know life's greatest joy. Oh well

[@dhiszc00kie]

@@ladev91 that is your opinion.

[@katoe908]

@@ladev91lol you clearly didn’t watch the video/have never met women who absolutely hate motherhood and have severe mental health issues because of it. It’s not for everyone and that’s totally fine. if you enjoy it then good for you, not everyone has to like the same stuff as you

[@akamesb4540]

​@@ladev91 then thats your opinion or goal, that can be said to men that are childfree right? And doesnt garante anything, theres a lot of regretfull parents.

[@witchcraftandlizardry]

I got my tubes tied when I was 23. That was 15 years ago. I only now have realized how actually rare that is to get a doctor to do that for a woman but I had no problem. No regrets. Elder millennial here. Edit: I just also wanted to say how important adult influences that are not the child or young person’s parents are. I always end up in this mentorship role throughout the years and I worked with kids for 6 years and now even have legal guardianship of a teenager. This is how my influence will live on in the younger generations. This role is very needed in young ppl’s lives which is why not everyone needs to have them because who will be the eccentric childless aunt/uncle archetype to the young person? Hehe

[@KiaraShaniece]

How did you get that done…😮they let you do that at 23 I didn’t know that🤔

[@shuminka5944]

You are very lucky I asked my Dr. to tie my tubes and he refused, I was 21. The second time I asked I was 26 with 2 kids and the Dr. still refused (different dr)... Smh. If my Dr. agreed the first time I asked my life would have been very different

[@faithseden293]

@@shuminka5944what do you mean refused??? How should they be allowed to do that???

[@shuminka5944]

@faithseden293 I agree with you. Both Drs said No, their excuse was "I was too young and that I would regret my decision" ridiculous excuses😔😤

[@magicmantis]

In my experience Las Vegas has a place and they didn't give any pushback. Just 30 days out before the surgery to give you time to change your mind. But I was in my mid 30's so I don't know if that made a difference.

[@MoMo-rx4zr]

my parents weren’t emotionally intelligent enough to have kids and i’m emotionally intelligent enough to know that i’m too stunted to have kids

[@jadevu904]

I'm glad that our generations we have the resources and more knowledge to make a decision.My parents took Excellent care of me but they are Emotionaless. Growing up always have a void because I don't get the love and affections from my parents. I got out an abusive marriage in 2020 & luckily I do not have children from that marriage. I really want to make the right decision and rn I have ) reason to have children right now. I'm no financial or mentally ready.

[@marvin2678]

Wow youre earise your bloodline

[@terra5857]

damn

[@peachwhite-333]

​@@marvin2678Too bad, so sad, boohoo.

[@sarahmitchell7799]

Pregnancy is TERRIFYING to me. I want to be a mother, but I could NEVER give birth, and after this video I feel it even stronger. I plan to adopt, and my current SO wants to adopt as well for the same reasons as me. There are so many kids in the world without a home, so if we want one, we should just find a kid that already needs a home. Thanks so much for the video! It really helped me solidify my feelings on pregnancy. I have half a mind to get my tubes tied after this just because my IUD technically is still not 100% effective.

[@makilune]

Same here. If I ever want to experience motherhood I will adopt a +7 year old child. The thing is that in my country they’re extremely rigid in the adoption process, they’ll kick you out the process for any reason if they find the slightest health condition and any slight detail in the phychological exams, I’m terrified of that too. Plus the costs of it.

[@truplaya2010]

I’m 30 now and have been vocal about being childfree since I was 16. I Watched my two closest friends both have kids as teenagers (2mo apart) & I later worked in childcare on/off for 5 years. Parenting is not fun. For anyone questioning or on the fence about doing it…if you are not 100% certain you wanna be a parent, even the slightest doubt that you will regret it, do not do it! I also think every person should enter parenthood with the mindset that they will likely do it alone because death, divorce, disability, etc are all very real. Don’t be too arrogant to think it couldn’t be you

[@kittgobbo4465]

31 and this is EXACTLY how I feel about it. I know I don't want to raise a child alone, and I know that it is impossible to guarantee that if I were to have one I would never be in that position. So, none for me.

[@Arsena]

I’m 100% sure i want to be a parent but i watch videos like this because im also aware that im very naive (i wouldn’t say arrogant) to think it will be easy or that my priorities won’t have to completely change. It’s good to hear the truth!

[@BCNpod]

@@L0VEisAmixtape Single mother? Where was the father? Was she financially ready to have a child? Curious to know that.

[@ciara1243]

Parenting is fun. Yes, it can be hard, but it has brought more joy to my life than anything else. I have travelled a lot and had loads of amazing experiences, but yeah, seeing my childs face light up when we are playing is lots of fun. I totally agree that people who don't want kids shouldn't have them, but there is lots of joy in my life now its not all horrible

[@MangoLime1]

facts! when it comes to something as consequential as having kids, if it's not a hell yes, it's a no

[@BrittanyMari3]

I'm a millenial with 1 child I had at 30 and I had the worst experiences. My health has never recovered. I love my child, but I could never do it again. I both lost the desire to and also was told to never have another child by the surgeon who save my life.

[@in2blueoblivion]

Can you explain what happened during childbirth?

[@jessicah3782]

A few health issues can come from the pregnancy or birthing experience. women used to die routinely from childbirth but now we have doctors. you can google some examples but something common is gestational diabetes and also women having their parts ripped or even c-sections happened repeatedly is not safe.

[@jessienerdis4179]

@@jessicah3782 yeah preeclampsia is another rather common one. Learnt in an evolution course the risk of preeclampsia with a new man is statistically ~10%. But the risks drops to 3% on repeated children with the same man. But have a baby with a new man and that risk resets to 10%. It's wild the immune and reproductive systems do this but yeah Edit: Toni mentions it

[@whitney8678]

That's one of the many things I'm terrified of. I watched my mom's health decline with every pregnancy. I also witnessed her pass out and hemorrhage. I'm glad you're here and your doctor was able to and allowed to save you.

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

@@whitney8678 "That's one of the many things I'm terrified of. I watched my mom's health decline with every pregnancy. I also witnessed her pass out and hemorrhage. " You know, we're warned all the time to limit the things that could jeopardize our health if done in excess, like drinking, eating junk food, being sedentary, etc. We're told to outright avoid things that, while unhealthy or dangerous, are ultimately less likely to maim or kill you than pregnancy and childbirth, like smoking. We're told, in vivid detail, about all the horrific ways it can go wrong. We're cautioned to think long and hard about certain body-related decisions that are difficult or impossible to undo, like plastic surgery, tattoos and piercings. We're lectured on the short and long-term risks and probabilities. But we're never told any of that about pregnancy and childbirth.

[@ArcticFoxxyProfessional]

what you're seeing is not "no one wants to have kids anymore". what you're seeing is young adults who already do not want to have children beginning to vocally push back against the societal pressure put on literally everyone to have kids, regardless of whether or not they want to.

[@seabreeze4559]

coercion is grape ironically

[@paperplate1355]

I chose not to get married and have kids but I work at a rehab place so I can care for people. Everyday I take care of people who were deserted by their kids and never visited …

[@jordanw5980]

I closed on my house in 2021 and my interest rate is below 3%. It’s DISGUSTING to hear how high they’ve gotten!

[@AutumnTheArtist1996]

Congratulations to you!🙌🏾 I wish I was ready at the time when the rates were low😭 Hopefully I’m ready next time around if they’ll be a next time😂💀

[@tiaraw872]

And the fact that a one bedroom is damn near 2000 is even more crazy. Like why everything gotta get High soon as I’m old enough 🙄

[@c.uni2370]

Omg lucky! Ppl complain to that rent now is like $1500+ and buying a home is better and I look at those rates which is over $3000+….like ain’t no way I’m affording that much a month 😂 Gypsy life sounds good to me

[@andii9530]

In Australia we dont have the option to lock in rates more then like 5 years.. so in the end we all get fucked

[@purpleviolet9046]

@@tiaraw872it sucks! Trying to get my own apartment but even 1500 is a lot!

[@stephaniearlinda]

I’m a mommy of an almost one year old. I love everything about being a mom and my experience. My pregnancy was amazing, I just had to get an iron infusion but besides that no complications . My birth went well and release the next day. On days we were super tired, my sister in law came over and was our “night nurse”. The first two month postpartum, our families cooked meals and brought groceries. We were spoiled! There were some highly emotional days but that’s normal with the hormonal shift. My man is such a hands on dad and takes care of our baby well. No daycare- he works overnight and takes care of her during the day until I get home from work ( school therapist). The only con is the strain it can put on your relationship or more time for yourself. Not everyone has such a bad experience, I would love to have more kids. I enjoyed your video, it definitely gave me another perspective of motherhood that could be possible. Thank you

[@ToniBryanneTV]

Thank you for sharing your positive experience of motherhood. These days I do think we need to hear more of these stories. It indeed takes a VILLAGE to raise a child. That’s something we lack a lot these days…we do a lot alone. That culture aspect is gone hence why I believe it’s become even harder for some parents.

[@angelxigh]

🤍🤍🤍

[@g188les]

​@@ToniBryanneTVI agree with you on this. I'm pregnant with my 5th child and I love having kids but that has not come without PPD and other mental issues, trauma, and a lot of it is the lack of support or lack of having a village. I always tell my husband that it would be so much easier having kids if we had a village to help. No one should have to raise children alone. It causes mental health issues for sure just like it did for me. When you get pregnant everyone is "happy for you". Once you have the baby, all your friends and family leave. As women we need to socialize and the ability to do so after motherhood is decreased. After I had such a traumatic pregnancy with my daughter and had ppd I used to be one of those I hate being a mom people. But it's hormones combined with isolation and mental illness and over time I was able to get my life back and I love my daughter so much and love being a mother. It's a hard ass season for sure. But it's just that. A hard ass season. ♥️

[@Childfree334]

​@@g188les5 kids? 😮

[@whitney8678]

Wow! 😮 I'm glad you've had all of that support and a decent pregnancy! That is incredibly rare. I don't discount that you've had other struggles through it all. I'm just in awe from the outside looking in.

[@MarsMellow84]

When I found out I was pregnant at 22. I instantly said, nooooope! And within a week, I was unpregnant. Almost 40 now and still child free by choice.

[@roselynholloway7863]

How was that experience

[@Hipnoptica]

​@@Naiki29She didn't killed anybody just got an abortion, is a medical procedure.

[@seabreeze4559]

@@Naiki29 karmically so is the father, get a vasectomy if you wanna cry about it

[@langamabhena9017]

@@Naiki29her body, her choice💆🏾‍♀️

[@Naiki29]

@@langamabhena9017 right

[@Nwakaego_]

As I get older, I understand and support the child-free by choice movement. I’m a mom of one and I’m done. I was diagnosed with hyperemesis gravidarum, had an emergency C-section and postpartum for 2+ years. I’m not doing that shit again.💯 Ladies continue to do what is best for your life and not what society says/wants.❤

[@livinmabestlife]

prayers to you

[@LS-ph2ix]

I'm a 24 year old woman and I've been with my husband for 6 years. We both want kids but everything is so damn expensive! I'm in college getting my degree for kinesiology and paying for school is very expensive! I want to be financially stable so that I can provide for my family. Also, I think with everything going on in this world has me and my husband thinking twice about bringing a child into this messed up world.

[@liyahpaxton]

I totally understand what your coming from I like In a way I want kids but I at the same time I don’t or if so I’m not gonna plan to have kids this world is messed up but if you wanna have a kid that is still a beautiful thing tho but I I were to have a kid it will probably ot be planned but I will still try to be the best mother that I could be ❤

[@britneybij3997]

Very responsible decision. It's one thing to want kids, but whether you should is a whole 'nother thing. Wanting to be able to provide the absolute best is already a good indicator of your maturity, and refraining from conceiving when you know you aren't able to do so shows you are much more considerate of children than some people nowadays. Some people seem to forget that children are people too

[@jblue2523]

Yours is one of the few comments I’ve seen on this thread that is actually kind toward children.

[@sakurauchiha03]

I understand it is expensive. The messed up world part never made sense to me. Don't bring new life because it's a messed up world? Therefore should we off ourselves, no? Why do you continue to live here then. There's a reason. There's good and bad, Find balance. You could have a good life and even in a messed up world. You should put more trust in yourself and future offspring. We should strive to make it better.

[@LS-ph2ix]

@@sakurauchiha03 True, I understand your point. Happy New Year!

[@s.brantley2632]

My mom never sugar coated being a mom. She highlighted it was thankless, selfless, and HARD. Living in constant worry if you’re doing it right. Guilt you’re not doing enough. But she also told me do me first before kids. I went to college, grad school, traveled and party up 🎉!!! Yes it’s hard but I thank my mom for preparing me. I went in knowing my life would never be like it was before. It’s a new normal ❤ for sure.

[@talicialee]

I’m almost 32. I have an almost 16 year old and 6 year old. The fact that she told you that is amazing. I hope to one day write a book, but I’m apprehensive about sharing those same thoughts plus more. You’re mom is brave and a realist.

[@maddierodriguez8569]

exactly 💯 ❤

[@s.brantley2632]

@@talicialee please write it. We need more to tell the raw truth. Part of the struggle is folks making it seem like a breeze. Then when it’s not you think YOUR the problem. I hope you decide to share the good, the bad and the ugly. Moms need to hear it and prepare for it. I’d buy it 😉

[@talicialee]

@@s.brantley2632 thank you!

[@erinnadia0409]

I hate when men and women say that having a C section "doesn't count" as giving birth. My mum suffered so much because she had unplanned C sections because she was in labor for 40+ hours trying to give birth to my sister and then my dad and other men said she "took the easy way out" I've always said if men gave birth the human race would have gone extinct centuries ago

[@MikeAftonsWife]

lol fr they wouldnt be able to even survive periods

[@erinnadia0409]

@@MikeAftonsWife omg I hate when my male co workers judge me for having a day off work due to period pain, like I can't even stand and I need to change tampons every 30 minutes! I'd like to see them deal with that!

[@seabreeze4559]

@@erinnadia0409 endometriosis? sounds like me I have it

[@alexandrabellerose3550]

society shits on me, I shit back at society how I can.

[@EarthQueen-1111]

I waited until I was 30 yrs old to have my first child.. Then had my second at 32. As a mother of two, please wait to have kids if you’re indecisive. It’s no joke.

[@alexiaharrington2437]

38:51 // As a child of a mother who very obviously did not want to be a mom… we can tell. I feel for these mothers and my heart breaks that they feel trapped and stuck. But my heart SHATTERS to think of the children that can most certainly tell that their momma doesn’t wanna be a momma 😢

[@Elohimchild]

Yes, and the fact that these videos are online will now forever be proof that their mothers didn’t love them or saw them as a burden. How messed up is that to someday come across just because your mom wanted attention and sympathy from strangers online.

[@tomriddle164]

Honestly, everyone here is overly sympathetic to the mom, but my heart breaks for the unwanted kid.

[@x77punk77x]

@@tomriddle164 Unwanted children suffer some of the absolute worst outcomes in society; these people are so ridiculous and more selfish than any childfree adult.

[@celinejb4730]

I’m a millennial & never wanted children. I’m 37 years old and I don’t regret my decision at all!! I was lucky to find a man who has the same sentiments. ❤❤

[@bogdanavovk9194]

It was my 23rd birthday at the start of January and my friends and family were calling/FaceTiming me to say their congratulations. And them my grandma calls, without even saying Happy Birthday, jumps straight into “You’re your mothers age now when she had you. Are you having a child by the end of this year?” And I was just baffled. I JUST turned 23, the year of 2024 JUST started, and she’s out there just assuming that I will be giving my life away for some parasite to grow inside of me, destroy my body and then beg for money until my last day on this planet. No thank you.

[@jenmar9428]

I am happily married but don’t have kids. Why? First of all… My own mom was always angry. I never saw her relaxed. Also my dad was abusive. Her life was nonexistent. I don’t want that. I really like very nice things. I would not want to downsize just for a baby. No! During the pandemic, my only issues were: 1. my dislike for a coworker. 2. I couldn’t travel. That’s it! 😂 I enjoyed spending loads of time with my hubby.

[@yourlittlesecret7575]

I’m 22 and this is how I feel! I really want to get married and have a partner to share life with. However, I can do without kids. I told my sister that and every time she sees me, she tells me that I need to have at least one 🙄. If she’s gonna pay for it and be on-call 24/7, then yeah sure!

[@se2664]

That’s great. I haven’t had luck unfortunately finding a partner who doesn’t want kids

[@ashleighbrandon664]

Gets even scarier when genetics gets involved. I had a son in 2021 who passed in 2022 of a heart condition. I found out a few months ago my daughter has the exact same heart condition. She’s had the same surgery as him. Thankfully her pediatrician didn’t ignore my concerns like my sons did. If he hadn’t ignored me my son may could still be here, but he was brushed off as premiee when he wasn’t. All I ever wanted was to be a mom. Now I feel like I’m in constant state of shock and survival. I feel like I can’t truly just enjoy being a mom because I’m so scared she’s just gonna pass away too

[@tytreeseneal8331]

I’m so sorry for your loss I hope one day you will have peace ❤

[@ashleighbrandon664]

@@dot347 thank you

[@ashleighbrandon664]

@@tytreeseneal8331 me too…thank you

[@DaeDreamerr]

I’m really sorry for your loss! I hope you have community to help you through this.

[@violetvictoria7248]

that really sad

[@chamylaldaghestani]

Women are not the only one who are pressured by society to have children. I, as a childfree man, often get dismissed by people who chose to ruin their lives by creating one or multiple human beings. I am not the kind of men who will let anyone walk on them, and as such I want to make it clear that I will remain childless forever and that nothing they can say will make me change my mind.

[@user-fg1hv4zn8n]

Congratulations 🎉🙄

[@ChillingTales12]

​@@user-fg1hv4zn8nWhat's with the eyeroll?

[@Elohimchild]

Although all sides are pressured to have children, not all people that chose parenthood “ruined” their lives. Some actually found more meaning and purpose to their lives. I wish you nothing but happiness and don’t allow people that aren’t paying your bills tell you how to live your life. 👌

[@hammysan2090]

To you it may seem like becoming a parent ruins lives. Most non-western parents are very fulfilled having children. I'm from South Asia and people are not financially well off for the most part over here. Still, most of the people from my country want children and never feel their lives were ruined for having children. Anyone is free to be child free. But to show such bitterness by degrading other people who choose and cherish parenthood is very disrespectful.

[@qryptid]

You're not dismissed you're just literally not compatible if she wants kids and you don't so why waste each other's time?

[@SuckerPunch92]

One thing you didn't touch on was women having to do majority of the work. I been a nanny for over 10 years. I have met at least 145 families, worked closely with at least 40. I can only count 4 dad that did/can do everything the mom does. It's really said. The dads lives really dont change. But the moms change drastically. Hands on dads aren't common.

[@SuperGlue4321]

This… why is this so hard to say. Women get completely degraded. From childbirth tearing their bodies apart to people and children tearing their lives away. A society that has never respected its creators, the women, in its entire history of existence has the audacity to expect more. They had to fight for basic fundamental rights and expected to sacrifice for everyone else. If we are going extinct, maybe we deserve it.

[@Tan87ful]

@@SuperGlue4321exactly 👏🏽💯

[@Onebillionnow]

Your mother did it. Why cant you? #Lazy #Entitled

[@jasmineyoungblood]

I’m glad they’re making videos about regretting motherhood. In a society where women encouraged to sacrifice so much for marriage and children, these videos give women a chance to make a more informed decision before doing so.

[@PettyIsMyMiddleName]

You made valid points, but you automatically assume that women past a certain age can’t keep up with kids etc . I turned 40 this year , child free by choice but if I decided to have kids in my 30s I still would have been able to keep up with them. Heck if I had a kid today at 40 , I still could keep up with them . All of us are not old and tired lol. I get what you was trying to say though.

[@lindsryan1087]

Millennial here, I’m still confused why so many people my age wanted kids… idk if it’s because I’m on the spectrum but I’ve never wanted them or want them.

[@dinkyboss]

Not on the spectrum and also felt the same way. Most people are followers and do things because it’s expected of them, not because they actually want to. At least that’s what I’ve gathered from my 30 years on this planet. That’s why people follow what they’ve always done and fear stepping outside of that. In this context, a lot of millennial woman simply followed along with tradition.

[@Mojomama710]

Or people want and value family as a top priority so they choose that life for themselves.

[@lindsryan1087]

@@Mojomama710 lol not when you’re having kid number 2 while I’m high school…

[@lindsryan1087]

@@Mojomama710 literally it’s so much responsibility I DO NOT want nor do many.

[@lovingme974]

agreed@@dinkyboss

[@Bluemoonsouth]

As a single mother of 1 at 23. Keep your legs closed except to the doctor. Even when I was with my child’s father I was still a single parent. Idgaf what anyone says you are going to be miserable.

[@person80]

Ummm yikes!! “Keep your legs closed” is based in misogyny and sexism! Try this! “Use protection properly” there! Easy! :)

[@ieattofu68]

One child was more than enough. My son is a wonderful young adult, but, so glad I never had another.

[@prettyinpnk]

i'm 15, which is still pretty young, but i was robbed of basically 7 whole years of my life taking care of my younger siblings and cousins. i never found joy in being my family's "3rd parent". i was always the one making sure my siblings werent doing things and getting in trouble while my parents slept, or got drunk or just werent around. my patience is also very thin and i'm very quick to anger with a lot of things. i know deep in my heart that if i were to have a child, i would lash out on them (yelling, not hitting) and most likely strain our relationship because of MY issues. secondly, i honestly just dont want my (supposed) kids to be around my family and grow up in this wacky world. what i went through as a kid (besides what i mentioned/unrelated) was my version of hell on earth and though i'm young, i still suffer from it. my family are good people, but the way they raised me just wasnt it when i compared it to my friends and others. i would rather not have biological kids if it means i could protect them. of course i would always adopt or i could change my mind later in life, but i doubt having biological kids is on the top of my life. so i'm not team "f them kids", i'm team "not having kids" 😭 edit: i also have some inherrited mental issues (chronic depression, adhd, etc) from my mom and grandparents and having these are just very stressful on a person, let alone a child. i started showing symptoms around 7 and it's been a very stressfull life for me since then. i'd rather not have kids so that they don't have to go what i went through/am still going through. edit2: currently jan 7, its my bday! i'm finally 16 years old, and ive already noticsd some changes in my parents. they've stepped back a lot and let me be my own person for once. idk if its cause im gettin older, but theyre letting me be a lot more independent! still unsure about having kids tho, but happy new years everyone!

[@jessicah3782]

Unfortunately, women eldest children are more likely to given "2nd mother duties" than if you were a son. I hope if you do decide to become a parent, to at least break the gender stereotypes many families continue within familial roles and expectations. I also pray for you that you overcome your struggles. even being a teenager can be difficult alone but I promise once you are an adult, life gets easier because you know yourself better. youll have more opportunities and choices to lead your best life. you also said you are from a good family so I hope that means they are there to support you as you grow and become more of who you are. much love & good luck!!

[@prettyinpnk]

@@jessicah3782 tysm, i appreciate everything. i wish you sm good for the future years, especially this upcoming one! (and i totally agree that the eldest daughters become the second mom compared to if the family has an eldest son, it's so stupid and stressfull.)

[@Ariel-lol]

Aw I hate parents like that. I hope your doing ok. Your only a few years younger than me and I couldn’t image having to deal with that.

[@prettyinpnk]

@@Ariel-lol tysm and i'm doing some what better now! since i've gotten older, my parents have laid off with that "responsibility" but even after, since i've been so used to being the caretaker, it's second nature atp 😭 but yeah, i'm doing much better and tysm i appreciate it

[@Digyaldemsuga]

I felt this this is me

[@averil9819]

Both of my births were traumatic, Im now a single parent of 2. And 1 is disabled. I wish I had known more about it all. I'm 38 and only just starting to live life as my 2 kids are 17 and 10. I tell my eldest to not rush anything, live life and see the world.

[@jadevu904]

Thank you for sharing and wish good things will come to you. Thank you for being there for your 2 beautiful children. Even though this decision has made but mama is the greatest person to the kids and they will grow up great and make you proud. ❤

[@CheekyLovesCheeseCake.]

Post partum psychosis threw me for an entire loop when I first learned about. I watched a series about a mother who suffered from *severe* post partum psychosis and they had to lock the baby in a separate room to keep it away from the mother. It was scary but real. There needs to be more resources to support mothers. Physical therapy should be offered (women shouldn't have to cross their legs to sneeze to keep from peeing on themselves after childbirth). Mental/emotional therapy should be offered to support mothers pre-natal, during pregnancy, and postpartum especially to address depression, psychosis, and insecurities. Do NOT get me started on childcare and the joke that we refer to as "mAtErNiTy LeAvE". My professor was back to work *2 weeks* post partum. It was by her choice because she said she couldn't afford the reduction in pay if she took.....drum roll please...... the entire *4* weeks of maternity leave. She only took half to avoid the pay reduction. Currently, the job I work at only offers 4 weeks of "mATeRniTy LeAvE" at like 70% of your regular pay for vaginal births. If you have a C-section, it's 6 weeks. Smfh.

[@livinmabestlife]

preach and its crazy how in other countries they can get up to a year off,have a nurse stay with them or visit after birth. america is trash

[@Whimsical_Cheetah]

My mom experienced some of the worst doctors and nurses when she had me and my siblings. Luckily my mom was a nurse in her youth in England, so when it came to my younger sister literally dying from E. coli and dehydration the nurses did nothing and so did some of the doctors shrugging it off as “Oh, she’s being dramatic…”. Until a young doctor came in and diagnosed my younger sister with E. coli and thanked my mom for immediately putting her in fluids, if she didn’t do that she would have lost her. Where was my dad? His boss placed a gun to his head (metaphor) that if he left to see mom he would be fired on the spot, because the hospital called for him to come down immediately as it was an emergency. In conclusion, America doesn’t really care about the mother and the child until death is present and unfortunately my dad saw my sister after his shift.

[@seabreeze4559]

I bet he took time off when he wanted to fish though.

[@sweetnaomi56]

I've always loved kids and babies, they're little humans with unique perspectives and an incredible imagination. Children are precious beings, but you know it's become so much more difficult to have them now. When society is good....people have lots of kids, when it isn't, birth rates fall. This is more of a societal issue than individual.

[@AC-ri2ph]

Even when it's good. Look at gen x, the latchey kids. A whole generation was neglected.

[@sweetnaomi56]

@AC-ri2ph I am a 21st century latchkey kid lol my parents worked all the time, not their fault. But I don't want that for my kids

[@whitneyanders5945]

That’s not how it works. We are living in the best times ever and people are not pumping out kids. People throughout history had loads of kids due to religion and lack of birth control and needing help around the farm.

[@deathlight4210]

@@whitneyanders5945And lack of education.

[@eKko0]

best times ever sure is an opinion@@whitneyanders5945

[@justDaphna]

I think it would be amazing if one day I could have a family of my own. However, I want my children to go on vacations, have fun birthdays, live in the best area, best education, etc. but I can’t do that if I can’t afford the best for my family. So if I or my partner aren’t making 6-figures, children are a no for me. I like nice things and suffering isn’t a vibe 😭

[@dmonster6722]

Fake child free

[@maybel9849]

​@@dmonster6722 Being childfree no matter of circumstances is still being childfree

[@dmonster6722]

@@maybel9849 nahh u the type to get a man then tell him no kids then when he shows u some money boom kiddoooo otw… I dislike the chameleons in this community

[@mushroooomm]

@@dmonster6722 so we're gatekeeping being childfree now???

[@vladimirazubcekova7727]

@@dmonster6722 except she said "my partner or I". just because you ignored that fact doesnt meant its not there. so either she makes 6 figures OR partner. stop twisting stuff to fit it to your narrative

[@vidhead85]

When I learned about C sections (I was delivered such) I called my Mom and said "Thank you, and I'm sorry"

[@ArtistocraticFool]

I never wanted kids. My parents pushed the expectation of grandkids onto me. Im 21 and still dont want kids. Thinking about having a kid stresses me out. Im not mentally good enough to handle a whole baby. I can barely take care of myself.

[@seabreeze4559]

they lie about helping and refuse to get a contract about helping in writing

[@catieq5270]

I absolutely love being a mother and it has been the greatest thing I’ve ever done. My husband and I waited until we were in our 30’s, stable and felt ready. Our daughter is the best thing ever and she is my greatest accomplishment. That being said, I would never encourage anyone to become a parent when they aren’t sure about wanting children or aren’t ready. Parenthood is this unimaginable sacrifice and dedication that I don’t think most people are prepared for.

[@TheAshesArt]

I’m 38 and am so glad I never had children. I’ve never even had baby fever. But I like kids as people better than adults.

[@tricitymorte1]

I'm an older Millenial childfree by choice woman. I'm so proud of all the younger women that have decided not to have children and won't be manipulated or shamed into having kids they don't want. Stand your ground, and when others ask you about why you're not having kids, it's okay to simply tell them it's none of their business. Because it's not. 🖤

[@brattmonster]

pushing your uterus back in after birth is NIGHTMARE FUEL

[@kharikhy-ree2242]

Wow this video was an eye opener for sure. I knew being a Mother was hard on Women but to hear the risks out loud is a lot. Salute to the Mothers and salute to the Women who choose not to be Mothers. This is why I don't care about Men's opinion on childbirth much. Women have to hold a responsibility only they can understand. Uterus popping out.... It's definitely Her Choice on what she decides to do with Her Body. ❤

[@Joshua-eo5hr]

Beta 😂

[@Lily_sims]

@@Joshua-eo5hrDumbass😂

[@archangelrapheal5231]

Me as a man I can't fathom bringing a child into this world, I have no opinions on CB if a women doesn't want to have child I support her choice I'm not going to tell a woman any different do what is best for you, if a woman knows deep down that they do not want to have a child , i have no problem with it, I'm a young man even I do not want to bring children into this very cruel and VERY expensive world.

[@kharikhy-ree2242]

@@Joshua-eo5hr Yes Josh, I'm a Betta Man than you😅 Keep doing your thing Alpha🤧

[@deathlight4210]

@@Joshua-eo5hrBetter than an Alpha who doesn’t respect women.

[@Aja-Christian]

I feel like in this current stage of human history, with everything going on in the world (severe climate change, war, famine, disease, inflation, rising costs of living, random acts of violence/terrorism, etc) it really truly take a certain level of delusion and cognitive dissonance to continue to bring children into the world and say, "No it's cool, none of this stuff going on right now is going to effect ME or MY kids. My kids are *definitely* going to have everything they need for the best chance of survival. And even if they don't, oh well, at least I can still get sympathy for deciding to become a parent in the 1st place."

[@maliahjoy2959]

Thank you!!

[@Laura-wr8mk]

THIS

[@tikifreaky5204]

Besides inflation, this is literally the safest time of all of human History. They’re were children born into slavery & yet we have persisted as a society.

[@theultimatereductionist7592]

AMEN, Aja!

[@DC-lp5ly]

This 💯 I think some people have the delusion their kid is gonna be the one to "fix everything" which I can't imagine the pressure that puts on that poor kid 😢

[@themosscave1810]

People be mad when others don’t wanna have kids or are waiting. When you are raised by a single mom you don’t want to be in that position. Wait to have kids homies. We have time

[@anastasiabolu2213]

It takes a village to raise a child. That’s where we’re getting it wrong as a society, we’ve strayed so far away from the way nature intended it to be. It wasn’t meant to be for just 1 person. It wasn’t meant to be for just 1 person. Read that again. It wasn’t meant to be for 1 person.

[@Thornetheaussie]

There’s a difference between baby blues and postpartum depression- I believe baby blues only lasts a couple of weeks while postpartum can last for months to years like you stated. I love your videos Toni!!!❤

[@ToniBryanneTV]

Ahhh thank you for explaining and thank you overall!!!❤️

[@Onebillionnow]

Your mother did it. Why cant you? #Lazy #Entitled

[@bear3279]

Yeah I'm not gonna have kids despite my family trying to push it on me. Never had the urge and with the current dating pool and my mental health, the economy to worry about, I don't have space in my life for another whole being

[@dropletsonbardi]

You better do you and dont let anyone change your mind! Misery loves company

[@Tan87ful]

👏🏽👏🏽💯💯

[@seabreeze4559]

coercion is a crime

[@Oliwolly514]

I'm almost 34 and I've known since I was in my early teens that I DO NOT want kids. I've never had the feeling of wanting kids and I don't regret it.

[@jimpickens5936]

I am a person who would literally give their child up for adoption in a heartbeat as if it’s an unwanted pet, and I wouldn’t even do that to a pet, but that’s why I’ll never be a parent. Respect to all the women who still put up with their children even though they struggle

[@yukii8818]

Literally same

[@Tip1315]

I can relate to the uterus falling out. It didn’t fall out, but it’s super low now and at times needs a gentle shove. Also, the epidural didn’t work with my second and I could feel every tear and every stitch. I’ve lost a lot of feeling down there 😢. ETA: with my first, the placenta was falling apart in pieces. He stuck his arm up there and did the “electric mixer” and proceeded to say I may need a c section to get it out. I said absolutely not! He eventually got it all out, but even with the epidural, it was still extremely uncomfortable.

[@christiangamer3669]

I'm so sorry to hear that. Praying that Jesus Christ will turn it around.....also Repent and accept the Gospel of Jesus Christ if you already haven't okay before it's too late to receive God's grace before you die ...Be Blessed

[@dark_quEEnisCringe]

WHY DO THE CHRISTIANS START PREACHING EVERY TIME I OPEN THE COMMENTS!?

[@andrear4954]

​@@dark_quEEnisCringe sorry, most of us do not do that, a lot of us Christians don't like it either when it is not particularly relevent to the conversation

[@andrear4954]

​@@dark_quEEnisCringe although tbh I do believe this is a christian channel so maybe it is relevant lol

[@livinmabestlife]

omgg so sorry that is tough

[@cirkusanette]

and when mom's complain, they are told "then you shouldn't have had a kid" but if you don't want the kid and abort it, you are a monster. Like, what do people want?

[@cirkusanette]

when moms complain **

[@chrzig554]

Exactly then they're like should've kept your legs closed

[@seabreeze4559]

it's a trap

[@daisylovexx]

Not everyone should be parents that is for sure

[@Kelly-oe8kr]

Not everyone should be a parent for financial reasons alone. If you can't afford the exorbitant cost of childcare, education, food and housing don't make your situation worse by adding another mouth to feed

[@daisylovexx]

@@Kelly-oe8kr I wouldn’t say alone, seems a lot of people just lack that maternal and nurturing personality. But yea it’s also a big financial responsibility 😌

[@MikeAftonsWife]

fr

[@lovethyneibor22736]

I just love my kids so much that i will not bring them into this pathetic world

[@lovethyneibor22736]

@@mmecharlotte wow 😳 bro let's discuss this

[@samanthadenise578]

34 year old millennial here, no kids by choice. I see too many women just absolutely lose themselves in motherhood, some eventually find some of themselves again, some just never do, including my best friend, former best friend.

[@Tan87ful]

💯💯👏🏽👏🏽

[@laurahughes8902]

I just delivered my 3rd daughter 15 days ago and I got home 36 hours after I pushed her out and went straight back into mom mode. No real break, no sleep, no pain relief. My hoohaa and hips still hurt but I’m currently doing dishes and scrubbing my kitchen counters 💪 I don’t think we get enough credit for the process. Thank you for giving such a detailed break down. It really isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. There are hard realistic times. It’s worth it for sure but definitely NOT for the faint of heart.

[@ms.rivera7898]

Wishing you nannies, house cleaners, and help.

[@nana8135]

❤❤❤

[@diamondheart11]

Why isn't your man helping you out!! It is cruel for you to do all that house work with out support and help. You need to be recovering, healing and bonding with baby not doing chores!!

[@Tan87ful]

@@diamondheart11exactly 👏🏽💯

[@M.Swigglez]

@@diamondheart11her man hates her

[@aprsonalaccnt2235]

Being a parent requires a level of sacrifice I'm not willing to put the child or myself through.

[@topshootersniper7544]

robot

[@aprsonalaccnt2235]

Wdym?

[@TamieVlogs]

Having a guinea piggie is more fulfilling and less expensive 😂

[@fatimamendez3153]

8months postpartum- whenever ppl ask me how I like babies- I say; only have them if you want them. I say this with love- because a lot of my toughness about how hard it can be is the fact that I wanted this child. I waited and prayed for this child- I wanted children. I can totally see how someone who didn’t see herself doing this can lose it faster. So yeah- only have them if you want them.

[@sophiethelk9557]

I’m so early! I love your channel. Honestly though, I might be in the minority but I actually do think a lot of Gen Z’ers want kids but financially, a lot of us are struggling to provide for ourselves much less another human. Also, there are tons of “regretful parents” stories out there that cause fear mongering. Lastly, Gen Z is still a VERY young generation. Most people in their 20s do not want kids. I’m curious to see how much it’ll change in the next 5,10+ years. I’m excited to watch this video though! I’m proud that the younger generations (which I’m a part of) are putting more thought into this kind of thing.

[@jessicah3782]

yeah mid 20s max. any gen z having kids either had them on accident, have familial support or strong finances already.

[@jae7532]

@@jessicah3782 💯

[@katpeili7295]

Thank you for giving all these women a voice on your channel 🙏

[@Seraphina93]

Here’s my childfree experience. I gave up on having them after 6+ years in a will-he-won’t-he relationship, to be fair, he also didn’t want them until them. He reconsidered and I no longer want them, so we split up. Everybody in my family and friends group now no longer talks to me because I „failed“ as a woman, according to my brothers and parents. Not exactly Happy about these gender expectations, tbh.

[@SuperGlue4321]

The people who don’t have to tear their bodies apart to birth new humans don't give a f*ck what you will go through, so tell them to mind their own business and not worry about someone else’s holes.

[@annwest1387]

I hope you find friends that care. I’m CF for the most part. My hubby has a kid. But it’s very lonely when most people have kids. ❤

[@Onebillionnow]

Your mother did it. Why cant you? #Lazy #Entitled

[@seabreeze4559]

look up shut up rings

[@Jae013]

I am coming from the POV of being a teen mom. Of course my situation different from others. I am 26 now and I became a mom at 16. In all honesty I did not understand the true reality of having kids until I was 23 and had my second child. I was very responsible with taking care of my daughters immediate needs when she was baby (and small child) but my mom who has been my biggest supporter took on most of the financial responsibilities. She also still took care of me and my siblings. I didn’t have to worry about cooking the daily main meal or paying rent, childcare, car notes or insurance. My mom didn’t allow me work throughout the weekdays, only the weekends (if it would’ve been up to her she would’ve preferred me not work at all). She wanted me to focus on finishing high school and getting into college. My mom always told me “as long as you are working on your education, you don’t have to worry about anything else”. Of course I still cared for my child and bought the extra things she needed. But all the responsibilities of parenthood were not on me. It wasn’t until almost 8 years later when I had my son, and went from having one child who I shared responsibility with my mom with. Too having two kids in my care, in my own apartment. Even though I was with my partner (still am), he saw me as being the experienced one since I had already had a child, and relied on me for everything. It was very stressful and hectic. I I suffered a lot from PPD & PPA. Not only that but he was so used me making all the decisions for my daughter, that when we had our son he thought it’ll be same. It really took a of patience for us to be able to get into a good flow of this. But even still now. My son is 2 and needs to be potty trained before he’s 3 (so that he can start nursery school) & it feels like it’s my responsibility alone to potty train. My partner only sits him the toilet when I ask him too, my mom & mother in law (who help me when I’m working) don’t help at all. I work 9-5pm & am also taking night class to get my MSW. So I don’t have time to train him myself. It gets frustrating being a mom. Everything from making and taking to doctors appointments is my responsibility. Making sure they have everything need is my responsibility. While simultaneously trying to be a boss bitch & make sure I can obtain my career for myself and also to be able to provide better for my children. It gets so overwhelming and stressful. I don’t regret or resent my children but I understand how women, who are unsupported and financially unstable can feel this way. I recently made the decision to get my tubes tied, due to not wanting to accidentally get pregnant. I’m happy and can mange the two children I already have. I don’t want to put myself in a situation where I would have to get an abortion. & I also don’t want a third child in 5 years when I’m more finally stable. I just want to be able to care for my two kids and MYSELF comfortably.

[@diamondheart11]

It sounds like your men needs to step up and help out more. He sounds so useless, there's no reason you have to be so stressed out when your partner is there and can help with everything as well. I have heard so many stories like this before eventually the women gets tired and fed up and just divorces the useless man.

[@livinmabestlife]

exactly he can take a class,read a book,listen to a podcast,or watch you and learn on his own@@diamondheart11

[@Tan87ful]

@@diamondheart11 💯💯👏🏽👏🏽

[@seabreeze4559]

don't marry him, you'll be a "married single mother"

[@khrisi9410]

The F them kids movement has been around for decades but the only difference is these walking spurm donors are saying it out loud which imo is a big blessing because it's inspiring women to be more selective, protect their wombs by closing them legs.

[@goddess131]

nobody should be forced to have a kid if they don't want to be a mom and they don't have any way to take care of it.