The Saga of OP, Who Hates Her Stepkids, Who Are Visiting Their Father for the First Time After He...

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[@jessfrisk3585]

op: gets with a guy who cheated in his wife and abandoned his kids to move a state away op: shocked her husband is a bad father

[@sportmemer3178]

He's not though.

[@CamCam-mq6ji]

He absolutely is a bad father if he's allowing OP to call the shots. She is disgusting. She imposes her opinions on those kids as if she has the right to comment on how they should be reared. I hope her daughter doesn't grow up to be like her.

[@markkondilis9237]

@@CamCam-mq6ji But come on, she's a free spirit that _totally_ doesn't have daddy issues because he never existed in her life. Obviously she knows everything about a healthy father-daughter relationship. Which is why she's considering having her baby not have one.

[@MegaHarvickFan29]

Imagine being jealous of a 5 and 7 year old for wanting attention from their father 🙄

[@artemislove2941]

seriously people are saying the kids have attachment issues to their dad. like yeah no shit. they don’t see their dad. of course they want to be close to him as much as possible

[@emmie0426]

@@artemislove2941 physiologically speaking these opinions are false. They wouldn’t want to be around their father or stay for a month. This post is deep rooted in their actual mothers manipulation be for real for both of you. Coming from someone who has studied physiology for a quite a few years now. This is all manipulation, i bet they sleep in their own beds at their mom’s house as well, like 90% sure after listening to this post.

[@NessaEllenesse]

​@@emmie0426I grew up with a mother like this. My younger sister is no contact with our father. I am low contact with our mother.

[@KiraNazena]

​@@emmie0426not necessarily. BM infantilazes them. Oop wrote they wouldn't even wipe their own butts because mommy did it. At school age.

[@carolynperry7134]

Yes and implying the SEVEN year old is flirting with her father. She sees the children as rivals.😮

[@kmxbmx]

As the story progressed OP went from being insecure to borderline psychopathic. She has more empathy for her kitten than her stepdaughters. Genuinely scary person.

[@courtney.marlene]

Yup, my guess is SD saw OP showing that kitten 100x more love than them & lashed out.

[@TheTrueKarin]

Op…..Just don‘t be surprised when he cheats again. When he is willing to cheat with you, he is also willing to cheat on you.

[@MegaHarvickFan29]

Exactly. You 'won' a cheater. That's not an accomplishment to brag about.

[@frontrussian4951]

Did he cheat as I got it from the story he ended the relation ship before he found her and only thing was left to divorce .

[@purepandemonium6769]

​@@frontrussian4951 they said it was already in the works so most likely he was still legally married when he got with op and got her pregnant.

[@Catherine.Dorian.]

Even if he doesn’t cheat, he’s shown before he can easily cast aside his wife and kids - she’s gonna be shocked when it happens again. I wonder if she’s also younger than the original wife, maybe every 10 years he updates to the younger model

[@TheTrueKarin]

@@frontrussian4951 Not exactly but the math is not matching when you look at the context (time of pregnancy, there dating, his divorce)

[@artemislove2941]

when he moves onto his third wife, her tune is gonna change

[@CamCam-mq6ji]

She acts like the kids are a guest into her life when she bulldozed theirs. She is abhorrent.

[@crowfather0249]

Great job OP and husband, you've succeeded in making sure the kids will never want anything to do with you for the foreseeable future. Congratulations.

[@inacook2285]

I think that's the goal.

[@Catherine.Dorian.]

@@inacook2285it’s always the goal

[@NessaEllenesse]

5:25 Here is where I am seeing red flags from bio mom. Letting your children sleep with you is not OK.

[@courtney.marlene]

@@NessaEllenesse wtf? How is sleeping with your own children not OK? I regularly fall asleep cuddling my 9 year old & my 12 year old will still sometimes ask for cuddles. It's completely normal & healthy for children to seek comfort in their parents, most adults don't even like to sleep alone. What's not OK is making children feel like it's shameful or inappropriate to hug or cuddle with their parents. As long as it's something the child is comfortable with & isn't being pushed them, it's not wrong. I'll never deny my children cuddles, even if they're 50 & I'm in my 80's, they know that my arms will always be open.

[@KiraNazena]

​@@courtney.marlene the part that really unsettled me "apart from the whole gay go to hell" was that the girls "have to wipe their own butt". That changed the entire story for me. If the BM infantilazes the kids to the point that they can't wipe their own butts at school age, it's abusive. Personally I think instilling those ultra Christian beliefs is abusive as hell as well. My grandparents were like that and it messed up my mother. I got some of it, too from them. The step kids need counselling ASAP. Both bio parents fail them.

[@inacook2285]

No amount of money could get me to marry a person who doesn't love or even like my child much less create a whole separate family with them.

[@jessieh0928]

People can fake it. My stepmother faked liking me and my sisters. Dad wouldn’t listen to us when we told him the things she did and said when he’d be at work.

[@sheepphees3350]

When she said that her husband said that his daughter was flirting with him, I knew that she is 100% lying

[@inacook2285]

The 7 yr old is DESPERATE her daddy to assure her that he still loves her and she is still special to him. Spoiler alert: She is not. Her own father took her desperation as a sexual advance??? I feel a great deal of sympathy for these very young children having to contend with these 3 freaks as authority figures.

[@vanzy01]

The girl is purposely acting up for attention and I'm pretty sure her mom is encouraging it. She's seven and it's already learning how to manipulate people and if that's not scary I don't know what is.

[@carolynperry7134]

Exactly!

[@MythicMoonArt]

I get the feeling the kid only did it because that is how she saw adults showing affection and none of these morons bothered to tell her otherwise.

[@runawaypacman]

🤔 i agree I feel like the daughter was so desperate Because the father already moved to a whole other state and on top of that he left their mother so to the daughters they see themselves as the next ones on the chopping block.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

Imagine saying I will not let a 5 & 7 year old to take away my personal time with my husband! Honey, you had an affair with a married man that had a family. What did you expect him to do with his children? You were probably the one who suggested the move that took him far away from his children too. Such a despicable woman! Hope he never treats your daughter the same way. 🤦🏼‍♀️😡🤦🏼‍♀️ Aww, so she grew up without father. She is acting just like the stepdaughter throwing tantrums, trying to make herself the main person he loves. She says she doesn’t have daddy issues…but yes, she really does. She’s trying to compete with a 7 yr old! She needs some serious therapy to get past her insecurities!

[@ARcinder]

"I don't dint have daddy issues." Your inability to understand the bond between father and child because you lacked a father growing up IS DADDY ISSUES. If she was a person who saw the value in having a father she wouldnt be so keen to steal a man from his family. According to comments she wrote that she doesnt work. Due to her disability, she has decided not to work for the rest of her life. Her disability is epilepsy btw, but she can still work. So she got a job, saw her husband as an easy mark, dug her claws in, and he was stupid enough to fall for it. The baby and marriage were her making sure she had rights to his money.

[@kimcreatesstuff]

ALLLLLL of this! That’s why the OP went running to the other subreddit because the Steparents subreddit hates cheaters as much as they hate stepchildren.

[@maxblanco1658]

Don't be surprised when your stepkids don't wanna talk to you anymore. Hating your stepkids is one of the lowest blows anyone can give. YTA.

[@danacarter9147]

Amen to that.

[@Afrogirrl]

Yes!! Do not marry someone with kids if you cannot see the possibility you ever seeing them as your own, or something less than strangers. OP’s bio daughter is gonna see her mom behave this way and either acquire her mom’s entitlement or hate her mom.

[@madalice5134]

​@@AfrogirrlShe straight up said that spouses come before kids, so she'll treat her daughter like competition and accuse her of flirting with her own dad as she gets older. She's an awful person and is already shaping up to be a crap parent. Pick-me moms are a nightmare for daughters.

[@Afrogirrl]

@@madalice5134 that’s a good point. I wonder how OP would respond to dad and daughter days out. She’s 100% still suffering with her dad not being around that’s why she gets so uncomfortable and jealous when it happens nowadays. (The original post was 5 years ago I really hope the girls are okay).

[@chinaking918]

@@madalice5134oh yeah I’ll say by the time she’s 13 op will be in a full blown competition with her. It’ll start in her head then it’ll Oooze out as the daughter grow into her own womanly features. Smh The husband need to leave her.

[@jennabeth6851]

All the adults in this story sucks so much. Their mum, their dad, and OP. I feel awful for these girls. I hope they get the actual help, love, support, and structure they clearly need and deserve.

[@sheepphees3350]

Op is probably faking about the emails etc, how the hell she said that her husband said that her daughter his flirting with him?

[@artemislove2941]

sounds like the husband has guilt over having an affair and packing up his life to move, now that he sees that his daughters are actually suffering. and instead of dealing with it, he projects it onto the BM.

[@Catherine.Dorian.]

Is it just me or was it implied he hadn’t seen his daughters in person since he began with Op (cause if she couldn’t go he couldn’t go) all the way until he moved and had a 4 month old baby? How long did this man just disappear from his kids life for this horrible woman

[@CamCam-mq6ji]

Yep and the OP is refusing to take responsibility. She is disgusting

[@StrawberryNova]

...I think I spent this entire thing screeching "THEY. ARE. CHILDREN." at OP. The frustraion was off the charts in this. Do I agree that the kids should be put into counseling? Absolutely. They CLEARLY have some (pretty darn understandable) abandonment issues and divorce can be traumatic for kids even in the most calm of situations. Simply put, the kids NEVER chose to be in the middle of all this chaos. The adults involved, however, put them there. Frankly, everyone present needs therapy, the kids needs some consistency as well as support, and it sounds like all the adults need a wake up call.

[@C9316]

This OP is so insecure and overall a mean spirited woman who tries convincing herself that she doesn't hate the step children when she clearly does. She feels so threatened by a bunch of children.

[@CamCam-mq6ji]

39:46 she is entrenched in the idea that she should be held above the children that she stole away when she decided to homewreck. She's acting as though she has no blame in the situation 😔 smh

[@morganleanderblake678]

...what... the eff. "his other girls" "his other kids" lady you are not one of his children. This is so creepy.

[@crawdaddy2004]

Pretty sure she’s distinguishing them from OP’s biological daughter.

[@madalice5134]

And she says she doesn't have daddy issues. Lol

[@haruxrinforever6043]

The way she speaks about the girls within the individual posts is sooooo weird. But her literal beef with toddlers is what makes her so creepy. Her whole vibe is just so nasty and icky

[@CamCam-mq6ji]

14:28 and then she gets mad when the daughter treats the cat how OP treats the daughter! How can she lack self awareness like this? The guy is a moron for thinking that she is in any way attractive! Why do men do this?!

[@ae1103]

It's her unresolved daddy issues talking

[@boneymeroney2674]

Omg, I'm not even to the end, and I'm just 😮. Did this idiot just say the most important relationship is with the partner? The husband had a whole family before this hohoho entered his life.😡

[@jsanto210]

Which spells doom for her own daughter

[@Afrogirrl]

OP would hate if husband dumped her like he did the last wife and abandoned their child the same way he did with his other children. Deep down OP knows there is a big chance this will happen that’s why she’s so insecure. And OP is lying when she says not having a dad doesn’t affect her, you can see her abandonment issues throughout her posts. Like her husband spending one night away from her and with his 2 daughters causes her so much insecurity and unrest. As if he’s gonna divorce her after one night with no intimacy.

[@Afrogirrl]

@@jsanto210exactly if her husband and her divorce, according to her posts she should not care or feel bad about him ditching and and abandoning their daughter.

[@inacook2285]

Op didn't mean her husband's ex-wife, his kids, or anyone else who didn't fit into her narrative of "relationships."😂

[@chinaking918]

@@Afrogirrleven beyond that she will start seeing her own daughter the same way, as competition. Any female will get the same treatment from her 0-80. She’s despicable.

[@FullMoonOctober]

OP was nowhere near mature enough to be a parent yet, let alone a stepparent. Her husband is a wishy-washy father that moved states and actively chose to not spend more time with his daughters. The ex-wife was totally using the children as manipulation against their dad because her family won't let her move on from the divorce and find a new relationship. And the poor 7-year-old is NOT doing okay mentally with any of this. She's lashing out and probably getting mixed signals from every adult in her life about how to act and needs actual therapy before she hurts herself or someone else in her quest for her father's attention. None of these parents are acting with any of the three children's best interest, which SHOULD be the top priority, no matter OP's insecure insistence that she should be.

[@boneymeroney2674]

Unless these children are the spawn of Voldamort and Bellatrix, there's no reason to be so vile. This story pissed me off in all directions.

[@Lavender2005]

What?

[@novemBURRbby]

I am SCREAMING 😂😂😂😂

[@Innerpandora]

NO WAIT THIS IS TOO FUNNY 😭

[@drifter139]

the answer is, OP isn't mature and sounds like an entitled brat having a tantrum when she didn't get the toy she wanted

[@chinaking918]

This. The more the story go the more pissed I get.

[@the83rdtrombonist60]

OP isn't "technically" the other woman, she was ACTUALLY the other woman

[@colossalko]

She got with a separated person. There's like 59 things wrong with her but she's not a homewrecker. Seems like Husband was done with the first relationship. The fact that his ex-wife still wants to be with him after he has remarried and got another kid, suggests he left her for a reason. Now OP could be lying but she's revealed far worse about herself so I don't see why she did.

[@lastofadyingbreed4850]

@@colossalko people are weird because they him to wait for the final divorce decree. My belief is if you are done with the marriage and have filed you can move on, but reddit moves the goal post, if you meet someone before you filed, you're cheating, if you meet someone during the separation, you're cheating. OP is an awful person but she isn't a. homewrecker.

[@CamCam-mq6ji]

No - listen again. OP admitted that a baby was born as they signed the divorce papers. If they were separated how did the second daughter come to be?! She absolutely was the whore or another woman. She's vile 🤮

[@theechick]

Listening to this was mentally exhausting. All the adults involved are Awful. I'm praying for those kids

[@lindah3803]

OOOOOH MY. So, supposedly OP and hubby got together After he had split with his wife. They were already in the process of divorce. BM had the kids from the beginning. She wouldn't allow Dad to see the kids unless he came to their house and she was present. OP wasn't allowed at the house. So, Dad didn't even try to see his kids that whole time, plus once the divorce was actually underway. He didn't see the kids after the finalization. They moved out of state, to where OP's family is. Dad hasn't spent any time with his kids for well over a year. It's no surprise that BM let the kids sleep with her. That gave the kids security that Mom wasn't just going to disappear. Then we have OP. OP had a problem with her hubby going to see his kids without her being present. She didn't want the kids to come and spend time with Their Dad from the beginning. Before they even showed up. From the beginning this was a volcano erupting. Neither OP or hubby can handle a 5 and 7 yr old acting out. They sure as hell don't recognize or understand the 7 yr old "laying claim on Dad". The fact that the 7yr old sat on his lap,hugged on him and stroked his face actually made him consider that it was sexual. My brain exploded at that point. Kids do that kind of thing. Son's and Daughters sit on Mom/Dad's lap. Give all kinds of hugs. Stroke/Rub Mom/Dad's face and chest. Play with their hair. Some kids do all or some of it up into their early teens. I hope OP follows through with her last statements. I hope she does go home. As for Dad/hubby, lets just say that y'all don't want to know what I hope for him.

[@artemislove2941]

the emotional immaturity is INSANE.

[@banespeace9079]

That 7 yo need help everyone here sucks. That child needs help before shes in her 30s sorting out these daddy issues

[@vanzy01]

With the way her mom is she ain't going to get help. Dad needs to start collecting evidence for full custody because he's going to need it.

[@hallycavallone4452]

That exactly my thought, the 7 year old is such a manipulative little monster. She scare me tbh. If I have a kid like that I don’t think I would ever be comfortable being alone with them. She need tone of therapy before she can come and stay with OP and their dad again.

[@madalice5134]

​@vanzy01 He's awful, too. He thought his daughter begging for parental love and attention was flirting. That's sick. The mom is going through and ran back to something that is a known variable,religion, even if it's toxic because her life was torn apart by 2 selfish cheaters. Hopefully she won't stick with it, but other than that she doesn't sound like she's being a bad parent. I would bet good money that he won't go for custody because his insecure wife will be more unhinged if her husband wants more involvement with his own kids. Those 2 deserve each other and those girls need to be kept away from adults who think a child's need for affection and love is flirtation.

[@hallycavallone4452]

@@madalice5134 base on this context no one should have these children because none of them are good parents in the first place. OP clearly didn’t want to have step children ( don’t know why she still marry one). But between mom and dad, dad is still a better option.

[@partyshoes2917]

Unfortunately it is nothing but bad parents all around for the 7 yo dad's trash stepmom is selfish and stupid. And I'm pretty sure the mother and mother's grandparents won't stop putting ideas in her mind either.

[@CamCam-mq6ji]

02:28 he chose this disgusting woman over his own kids. The youngest was born when the divorce went though, so he wasn't done with her. She's a nasty, dirty individual

[@dym6464]

Her problem is she sees them as a threat, the daughter sd7 definitely not in the right headspace after divorce.

[@anq4274]

This woman was never ready to be a mother, to be a wife nor to be in a relationship at all.

[@CamCam-mq6ji]

The number one reason I'd never get with a married man or a man with kids is that I don't want to be a Stepmom. I'd never want to impose on kids. She's a selfish, nasty person.

[@Catherine.Dorian.]

If she wants to get why the kids act the way they do then she and the husband should go stand in front of a mirror. How long did dad not even see them? He just vanished and reappears with a baby

[@MegaHarvickFan29]

The more and more I listen to this story, the less and less I like any of the 'adults' in it 😞

[@DeeBraynt2010]

I wouldn't be surprised if he's already Window Shopping for his next Affair Partner. To use a quote from the movie 'She Devil': "Sad OP. She'll learn that men that burn so hot for a mistress cool off fast when the mistress starts acting like a wife"

[@kirby-luvr]

I actually enjoy "evil" AH OP stories. Entertaining to hear about how delusional they are

[@thousandyardgavri2785]

Same

[@AdubsVA]

They are my absolute favorite kind!

[@sheepphees3350]

I raiged a bit

[@ae1103]

Real. I especially love when the comments are calling them out, but they still try to rationalize their bullshit.

[@Sexykittycat16754]

I really don't understand people like op at all, how can you claim to love someone when you hate their child/ children?

[@Midgetbear-nk1fe]

"She treats them like babies." Lady, they are seven and five they are barely past the point of not being a baby

[@kizo_wotw4717]

It's obvious that everyone failed those kids.

[@sweeety969]

She keeps saying the kid is evil and the kid needs therapy... Do they not have mirrors where she lives?

[@terriebtsOT7]

OP sounds like a 7 year old 🤔

[@ludayana5]

If you can’t deal with other people’s kids, don’t marry a person with kids. When you date or marry a parent, you become a parent by default. The kids were there before you. Either love them as a family or find someone without kids. Also the dad is to blame for most of this. Abandoning his kids, betraying his previous spouse, and making the new wife get used to not prioritizing or sharing time/space with his existing kids and then trying to play house and merging families like that’ll bandage all the trauma he’s caused. And then getting surprised and frustrated the 5 and 7 year old children aren’t handling it well. OP and dad need to grow up. If they can’t handle all this change well, how can they expect children to?

[@Polygonyall]

BRO why is it always the most insufferable people possible using spoons terminology. makes a legitimately helpful way to explain energy levels when it comes to ppl with chronic disabilities almost unusable

[@Polygonyall]

wait hold up wouldn't it be illegal to block your ex on the phone when you are dealing with a custody situation. that sounds a bit illegal

[@vanzy01]

I said that explain to me so many times and I still don't get the spoons.

[@deadsouljaguar7041]

Yeah, I can't continue listen to this and I am not even half way through the whole thing. Everyone is the AH in this story, the adults practically failed the children. Those girls should've gotten therapy while the parents were going through the divorced. The only thing I felt bad was kitten who was let out by the stepdaughter since I only have got a soft spot for animals. As for the baby, I just hope she doesn't turn out to be like her parents in the future.

[@vanzy01]

Of course a good dad will put his kids first what did you expect woman he had kids. No sympathy for the witch.

[@CamCam-mq6ji]

Absolutely. She is a manipulative cow

[@cameron765]

I'm trying to be very objective with this story but my God OP is making it very hard to agree with her or feel any sympathy for her when she broke up a family while at the same time trying to spill some moral superiority BS well at the same time being surprised that her husband got to spend time with his first set of kids and only that he got to be more passive towards them after I don't know breaking up the family and what make it even worse she's a grown woman being jealous over little kids like Jesus Christ Don't get me wrong Opie made some belly points in her story but most of her points are just god-awful

[@frickoff123]

Oh my god just what kind of wretched parenting did op had to be this horrible! My whole family used to sleep together until we all move out and that's the family bonding time. At that age kids need their parents the most. And sleeping together while talking about your day and how it went a little fun is all we need. 5 & 7 is such a tender age to be teaching the kids about doing everything alone. Let the kids be kids!

[@terriebtsOT7]

9 minutes in...WTH am I listening too? Wow, evil stepmother, spoiled wife...did she say my sacrifice? Ha 😂 The just NO statements are so loud

[@sweeety969]

When he's bringing around his new girlfriend or whatever around OP's kid I hope she treats it better than she did OP's first kids. I am not gonna wish any ill will towards a baby to punish somebody else.

[@user-xx5gu5gc6r]

I'm still hung up on the part where the father of those little girls their BIOLOGICAL EFFING FATHER!! said he felt like his 7 year old daughter EFFING 7 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER WAS FLIRTING WITH HIM just because she touched and stroked his face?! What in the actual efff?? Every child does that with their parents. Whenever a child needs comfort they want their parents with them and to say that they are flirting with you just because they touched ypur face is really effed up. I can't even imagine the pain of those two little girls. The little stepdaughter has already distanced herself from expectations from her father but the 7 year old still hopes that her father will love her like he used to do but to think her love was interpreted as flirting with him. Both the OP and her husband are effing disgusting.

[@ae1103]

Why is she married? Why is she a stepparent? Why does she have kids? This OP is not mentally OR emotionally well enough to be in that position.

[@matteo9054]

Oh boy where to begin with this.... I was wonder what qas wrong with her then I heard "I never had a father" and everything clicked. And as someone who is childless, the health and happiness of my kids will outweighs over my partner, cause unlike my partner they are still growing and developing. At 24 year old is threatened by her husbands 7 and 5 year old kids. She needs therapy. I haven't finished the video yet, but once a cheater always a cheater. I bet she can be a great single mom.

[@drifter139]

less than 2 minutes in and I can already safely say that OP and husband are both AH. it doesn't matter if he wasn't living with his ex at the time or not. they were still legally married and therefore it was still cheating. also what's wrong with wanting child support for their 2 kids? if she was doing all the child rearing and hadn't worked, it should be assumed she would need it to raise the kids they had together. honestly I don't blame the kids for never wanting to see their father again considering the guy can't be bothered to actually give a damn about them in favor of some homewrecker who never matured

[@robertrizzo2193]

Op is a unreliable narrator at best and I liar at very least

[@lastofadyingbreed4850]

this

[@nessabell2848]

Add in PPD, her abandonment issues, attachment style, and anxiety. Recipe for disaster. They all need good counselors.

[@hennigadient4265]

im listing the story and just rewriting my comment bc im outraged... To summe it up: THEY ARE KIDS!!!! and not little human just existing against you. You aren't the middle of the world! op you are a TERRIBLE horrible person and a monster! i im heart brocken for the kids.... and to top it all of the dad is just terrible too! thinking your kid is flirting with you?!!!! omg 😨😨😨😨😨 disgusting! they are acting strange bc YOU traumatized them running away and now making it worst! 32:37 i cant take that woman anymore. Im stoping the story here. This is just too much. I wish her all bad of that world. i listen to soo much reddit sorys but this this is the WORST

[@CamCam-mq6ji]

32:42 the way she stays that the original daughter's are ruining "her" family. As if there wasn't a family before she invaded their lives?!

[@Kumo5980]

Wait just a minute………I was listening to another story about an OP exposing their stepmom Reddit stories…..please tell me this is not the stepmom that is writing here

[@RylieRiddle]

Can't be, those step kids were grown, the youngest was about 14 I think. And there was also a son, I think he was 16-18. The OP who found the stepmother's account was early 20s I think.

[@Kumo5980]

@@RylieRiddle thanks for clearing that up, it’s been a few days since I listen to it I just bump into this coincidentally😂

[@keshab2829]

So she can be held and feel safe but mad that the baby needed it?

[@toomuchsauce5599]

😂 she literally contradicts her self towards the end.

[@sinpourmoi2765]

Wow, they’re both losers.

[@ScottBub]

At the part where she doesn’t understand what people were getting pissed off about is how she thinks being healthy is not talking to anyone, hiding her feelings, being fake, and being completely self centered.

[@user-hb4gl8sg9m]

I'm still on the part that you willingly got with a man that was still married.It didn't matter if they weren't living together or not.He was still married!!! Wrong is wrong and right as right

[@GaiaTheNatureWitch]

All i hear is op saying i couldn't keep my legs closed,stole a married man and now i dont understand why my step kids hate me

[@dym6464]

OP showing fatherless behaviour 38:00

[@annmctaggart8854]

Seems like she vented here in my eyes. I doubt the children saw anything that OP thought in person but OP her hubby and the 2 older kids should all get mental health help and seek therapy to work through everything.

[@user-hb4gl8sg9m]

So she sees her husband as more of a priority than her own kid and she wants him to see it the same way because you already don't like your stepkids , so you're making yourself look bad in a way

[@jadedconversationgrabyourb9918]

Gotta love it when a woman comes in to a man’s life and he gives her full control that’s why men lose there children

[@waynewyatt5032]

The selfishness of all three adults. I believe these children get therapy. When they became adults themselves that they go NC w/ all of them.

[@Shotty_Gamer]

Holy shit, I think this is the most fucked-up thing I have ever heard. What is wrong with OP? She wrecks a home, doesn't take accountability, tries to label the stepkids as problems in her "perfect" life, then doesn't understand them, doesn't even try to understand them, values a kitten more than them, and hates them!? She holds a grudge against them for existing and wanting to spend some time with their dad!

[@sheepphees3350]

So making tatrums before sleeping is hating on the stepmother, ok congratulations for bein a bad person and people that agree with her r also bad people

[@kgomotsosekonya9435]

Perhaps these kids are traumatised about all of a sudden not seeing their father for months on end and are acting up... Why this 'grown' woman expects to be cheered on for her beef with a 7 year old is beyond me

[@DaneDDX]

Of all the people I could hear this shit about relationships, this OP is the last person I ever want to hear that shit from. She is rather audacious to wax peotic about how second marriages ofter fail, and for her to blame the kids for that is disgusting. Especially when the failure of her current marriage stems from her need for attention, and her obvious disdain for her stepdaughters. The stepdaughters behaviour during this summer visit was as normal as it gets, because despite what OP claims, this kid's father DID abandon them! He pawned her and her sister off on their bio mom and ran away from them. He only remained in their life because the law prevented him from staying away. He'd be gone otherwise. Him leaving her and her sister in their bedroom every night - with no reassurance that he's not leaving the house, and that he love her and she'll see him again mind you - must have felt like him walking out on her all over again. OP's actions, and the actions of her husband have had a profound effect on these kids, and she doesn't even care. She just wants this man all to herself and her own kid - the only member of her side of the family I feel any sympathy for. Absolutely disgusting!

[@flamelily2086]

OP is being entitled and ridiculous. Her husband has children who have the right to be with their father. She is the witch who broke up their parents' marriage. She is also their stepmother, so she has to accept that the children will reaent her. If the children co sleep with their mother, they are going to kick up a fuss now they have to sleep in their own beds. Their bio mother is not doing them any favours by allowing them to sleep with her. They are both old enough to sleep in their own beds. The 7 year old does sound difficult and she certainly knows how to twist her father around her little finger.

[@NotAnIlluminatiSpy]

Imagine being envious of a seven year old. Edit: SD7 is scared of being replaced... 2nd edit: ESH. It's pretty clear that BM and her fam are putting ideas into the kids heads. Co-sleeping with a 7yo seems a bit much, and BM's freak out about the co-sleeping makes me think she told the girls, SD7 in particular, that they need to do it, or that if daddy doesn't do it he doesn't love them. Those poor kids have been weaponised, and it makes me sad that they don't have a single decent person to lean on.

[@reneeharper84]

With the kids dealing with abandonment issues and trauma from their dad cheating on mom and leaving them to start a new family, I'm not surprised at all that mom is cosleeping with them

[@tekoadotson4506]

As an exSM I can understand where she's coming from

[@jbgra2566]

I kinda want to feel bad for OP (and at a certain degree I do pity her), but she chose this for herself by getting with a married man with children. All the single men she could have dated without that baggage but no, she had to go out for the married man

[@purepandemonium6769]

I'm in the same boat like yeah it's frustrating be a stepparent, possible ppd, and SD's concerning behavior. But she did this too herself. Like she says she doesn't have daddy issues but based off the timeline and her choice in guy says otherwise, plus the fact that she couldn't even recognize he was a terrible dad to his kids(although its obvious she did and just didn't care cause his bad parenting didn't affect her til now). Like yea bio mom and dad aren't not good at all and bio mom ain't doing her kids good service by acting the way she does,but find sympathy for op is very hard. She honestly did this to herself.

[@jadedconversationgrabyourb9918]

You no What it was when you start sleeping with a married woman’s man these are called consequences stop complaining if you didn’t want to have to deal with his children you should’ve left him alone because if he breaks up with you you’re gonna want him to still be in your child life so you sound very ridiculous and very crazy

[@Mswhatsittoya]

She’s mad at a 5&7 yr old wanting their dad, maybe next time go sleep with a married man without kids 😭☠️

[@MrsSerene]

Umm . Why isn't husband working remotely when its his tome with his children

[@nessabell2848]

Sounds like she is imitating what she sees him reacting to.

[@tigrexkiller1548]

I swear, some people exist that can't be real

[@CamCam-mq6ji]

The way she's angry about him spending one day with his kids (fathers day) when he lives with HER daughter every day of the year!

[@tyyascott]

Bro needs a divorce, he chose another bat sht crazy… he keeps attracting this type though smh

[@RestingVirgoFace]

Everyone is crazy except the 5 yr old and the baby. Yes the 7 yr old is a brat that obviously doesn't get proper boundaries set.

[@elisonholace4033]

Isn't this the wife side to the story where the husband finds out sbout her account.

[@FantazomiXroma]

OP is melodramatic or suffering from PPD based on her reactions to the kids wanting their dad’s attention, but there’s definitely a major issue with the girls and signs of having been coached by their mother. She will not take them to therapy or will manipulate the situation. I feel terrible for those girls. Dad can take them to therapy too!!!!

[@runawaypacman]

15:17 I agree with commenter kids pick things like that up from there parent subconsciously.

[@user-hb4gl8sg9m]

They're freaking kids! KIDS!!! 7 and 5 years old!!

[@jmcg9822]

Esh. The kids are dealing with abandonment issues and the anxiety that goes along with it. Op made it clear she was already feeling threa tend by them and was worried she “would resent them” before even meeting them which just shows she already had an issue with them, and the rest is coming from her perspective so there’s some obvious red flags. However the kids are too old to be dependent on co sleeping but their mother clearly never tried to ween them from it, just sent them off to their dad and step mom to deal with it without even a warning, so not only did she create the resulting situation, but she’s also responsible for the stress and further abandonment issues as her children were then forced to go cold turkey in a strange environment by knowingly sending them off like that and somehow not expecting what’s basically a stranger to want to share a bed with them for a month.

[@sir-ani8927]

She says that she believes fathers arent as important as everyone makes it out to be and that the marriage/romantic relationship is more important than the wellbeing of the children. Then gets confused when people are mad and correct her 41:30

[@vince.inthevoid8158]

26:15 is where I lost all hope op could turn this around. Terrible person. And will be a terrible mother.

[@LINKINPARK262]

Why can't we all be honest here and admit that there are always 3 sides to a story...'his' side, 'her' side and the truth...which always lies somewhere in between? I don't care how objective someone tries to be in a situation, it's almost impossible to completely divorce your feelings from your analysis.

[@user-hb4gl8sg9m]

You see, the problem is that you want him all to yourself and you're jealous of your step kids. O jealous that you want him to spend time with your child alone even though your child is a baby!! And its father's day!!

[@yourworstnightmare7343]

I absolutely despise kids...no tolerance for them at all & even i could never treat a kid like her. I just hope that when he moves on to the woman he cheats on her with that shes nicer to her kids than shes been to the ex wifes. How are you going to demonise a 7 year old little girl to the point of painting her as some sort of self aware harlot who is trying to seduce her own father because shes herself is disgustingly insecure...i am just beyond words, she needs serious help. Feel so sorry for those poor kids when she manages to convince her husband to fully abandon them & cut contact coz theyre not going to understand why. Shes seriously unwell.

[@trevsdead]

"the number 1 most important relationship in life is the relationship with their spouse" Bigdawg u are a home wrecker you was the side piece that became the main "no relationship should come before that not even the kids" you was never meant to be a parent let alone a wife thats what the two statements just told me

[@venistoralishi3916]

Commenters are wild They do not know why did the guy leave, it still could have been a revenge affair from regular stories, which is 180 Husband is a saint who was patient about these kids for weeks, spending with them every day with activities from start to finish AND being a good husband to his wife The 7 y.o. abused an animal, abused a child, abused mother, intentionally used manipulation tactics and teached her sister the same, kicked her other sister in the face, and this is without changing the attitude within a second which gives off such mentally ill vibes that I can’t imagine And that’s only the half of the video The child is a menace, ex is the monster and you cannot even be sure that the mother is a villain Redditors are wild

[@katiestewart5688]

It sounds to me like the bio mom put ideas into the kids heads that if they drive a wedge between daddy and op they can be a family again. I say everybody sucks here. Bio mom using the kids as manipulation pawns. Dad for cheating: despite being checked out of the relationship with bio mom. Op for using reddit as free therapy when she needs to be doing this with a professional. The seven year old (there is something off with her. If a child says "I hope it gets got by a dog" it starts with animals...keep her away from the baby) 7 is old enough to know wishing harm is a no no. This whole group needs the therapy with those foam bats or something....bio mom included. The 5 year old and the baby are the only two here that are not the aholes. Five year old is probably just following the 7 year olds lead and doesn't fully understand. Edit: Also forgot to mention op might be getting hit with post partem depression which is another reason to stop using reddit as free therapy.

[@honeydroptheunicorn6557]

She doesnt sound jealous of her step daughters, but i do think marrage and family therapy is needed.

[@camariajackson-hearst6938]

It sounds like or is going through postpartum

[@CamCam-mq6ji]

She has no excuse

[@nadhindrahakim4761]

This looks like the background to an r/OhNoConsequences story. Just the beginning part

[@benrussell-gough1201]

First wife is apparently encouraging sexualisation of *extreme* minors and is a fundamentalist to boot. However, OP is obviously not able to handle the needs of these kids and doesn't understand what her husband is going through to try to get them to something approaching 'normal'. Dealing with stepkids is something of an art apparently, especially when the breakup was messy and the kids are trying to 'help'.

[@kitkatlover9367]

What is wrong with everyone in the comment both on reddit and here did you miss the part where the 7 year old said watch this before screaming. Their mother coached them to be shitty kids. I'm a step kid and if my step mom acted like this one I'd be perfectly fine cause she's being a reasonable person who said she knows when her feeling aren't the correct ones to have but that's not her fault feeling happen. Edited grammer

[@totalyrandomperson3814]

Fuck me i just want to scream at OP that she is and her husband are the adults in the situation She is a home wrecker but put that aside these are small children observing their mother denieing reality of the situation and a father replacing them with a new child and when ever he tries do do something to enforce that he is there for them and there father she just isolates herself or becomes resentful to them... they are just children that struggling emotionally. She needs therapy. Ok if the kids misbehave then let the father displine them but dont be cold and be negative them when he is showing intrest. The only people at the end of the day who are tied to him forever are his 3 kids that is his priority not a relationship that u need to sign on the dotted line to end. She should see therapist so she can become emotionally secure enough that she isnt threatened by the existance of children

[@petrahusted6151]

I don't think anyone in these comments realize that the makeing the kids sleep in their own room is a very common thing to do even supernanny uses, and I don't like supernanny most of the time. And this is the first damn meeting and redditers are expecting rainbows. I don't agree with her thinking either but she isn't the wicked witch.

[@Halfcocked1222]

So your argument is that someone you disagree with would do this so it's OK, irrespective of the context of the situation. Good stuff.

[@petrahusted6151]

​@@Halfcocked1222No I said it's a common tactic used by many people that doesn't hurt anyone. I don't like most actors as people but I like movies.

[@vanzy01]

💯👍🏿

[@questions3983]

No, she is definately a wicked witch. She does not sound mentally right in the head. The sperm donor could have visited his kids without uernif he truly loved them in which he does not.

[@lenhoukamau1097]

Op sounds stupid

[@theycallmebear1368]

I am sorry this world failed u op not providing u with a father because if it had u wouldn’t be a home wrecker and have more self worth other than that I get what u feel and understand that u do but it’s ur fault and the guy u with is a teen at best

[@cherrypopscile3385]

You do matter... The least. You didn't just choose a step parent, you created one specifically because of how bad you wanted him. So no, I don't care that the 7 year old was a bit mean to you. Her trauma objectively comes before yours, because YOU were 50% of the reason she was traumatized. Did she ask to grow up in a broken home? Did she choose for her dad to run away into the arms of some other woman? No. You however, choose to be the other woman.

[@CamCam-mq6ji]

She's there calling the daughters mom Biomom - as if she wasn't married to the husband. She is not bio mom. She is their mom. OP is a piece of sh*t. "Biomom" is the first wife. the woman he cheated on, left and then disrespects by having OP in the presence of her children when she is CLEARLY unhinged!

[@Censorthisbananahamock]

Co-sleeping at those ages is close to being child abuse, they should report the mom to CPS, as it seems like mom is mentally ill and the children may be suffering under moms care.