The Secret I Kept From My Wife Until Our Wedding Day

For nearly a year, I have been keeping a big secret from my wife, @SoheeFit.
I kept sneaking off for 30 minutes at a time for video calls she didn’t know about, or pretending they were for work when they weren’t.
In bed I would often put one headphone in so she couldn’t hear what I was doing, and turning my screen away so she couldn’t see either.
I set myself a goal of learning just a teeny tiny bit of Korean as a show of respect to her and her family on our wedding day.
I wasn’t originally planning on sharing this video from a couple of months ago, because I try to make social media about posting educational content for you all.
But, it seems silly not to share one of the most important days of my life.
So, here is my full wedding speech, for any of you who are interested.

[@hjewkes]

Well shit, I follow a guy for random health and fitness content and here I am tearing up over one of the best wedding speeches I’ve ever heard. Well done and congratulations

[@chocice12]

Same here!

[@pop.alexandru88]

Romanian guy in the same situation. ❤

[@BenCarpenter]

Haha, thanks mate. I wasn’t even sure I would post this but when I watched the videos back it made for a nice story so I edited them together 🙂❤️

[@imfirstatachaijr.johnner4240]

Me either

[@charlesadams8279]

@@BenCarpenterhey man i just randomly saw this video somewhere and came here to watch the full thing. I can tell you will be a great husband, God put y’all together for sure. Seek The Lord, and He will bless y’all!

[@imfirstatachaijr.johnner4240]

You know, in Asian cultures, a gesture like this carries immense meaning. It truly exemplifies the best way to honor and show respect for her family. Beautiful moment! 👍❤️

[@Jaco3688]

Yeah, it nullifies that hack-job of a haircut he’s got

[@georgemason9947]

Yep, him learning that in Korean carried big weight!

[@SuperDonegal1]

😂

[@adspur]

Love can make you learn a new language for wonderful reasons

[@bellakim9404]

He stepped up with actions & words . A gentleman at the core.

[@GrupoChucumite]

His in-laws already approved of him, but that speech in Korean showed massive respect to the family and they were obviously very moved by it. Beautiful.

[@jameslambert4487]

When her father gets up and goes and hugs him, It was the moment I knew he's made a great choice in life. Congratulations Ben.

[@kimkaragiannis848]

He made it all about his bride!! What a wonderful husband!! ❤

[@peaceBWY101]

This might sound skeptical...But only Time will tell. But one Truly feels happy for them on this particular occasion, regardless of what life may have in store for them.

[@nevswain478]

all about his bride......... why does it have to be all about her?

[@BernhardSchwarz-xs8kp]

What else dude?

[@andrejsurdevics6476]

@@nevswain478 Yes, he could have talked for 5 minutes about the cake.

[@JoshPhoenix11]

⁠@@peaceBWY101I did notice that she kept pretty dry eyed, it appeared like she was only making it look like she was holding off tears. Largely because her maid of honor really was fighting the tears back and she couldn't be seen reacting less emotional than her. And in the moments she knew she needed to make reaction, the ones she gave didn't seem to fit the context and were slightly odd. Not exactly the right matching expressions for the context. You could tell what she was trying to do with the bottom lip reaction, but it seemed to be all she was relying on and it started to reveal just a hint of unaffectedness behind the outward display. It could just be an Asian thing though, who san say..

[@hugohackenbush1554]

64 year old grumpy and grizzled old biker here. Mate, you brought tears to this old f****rs eyes with your eloquent, heartfelt and genuinely moving speech. Learning Korean on the ‘quiet side’ was a truly loving move. I wish you both well and may your giggles never stop. From Chelsea, London, England 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿🇬🇧

[@Up_north_with_Mike]

well looks like old f**kers like us still have our hearts in the right place.

[@v22u]

Wow, that was wonderful!❤

[@murrayjgreene621]

How mine should have been but l married the wrong person 59 yrs ago! I carry that every day and admire guys like you. Sophie must be one helluva woman

[@Tigs2]

Strange Hugo, but you sound EXACTLY like someone i know that lives literally next door to the stadium in Chelsea. If its not you then i know another 64 yr old grumpy grizzled old biker that you could meet down at one of the pubs by the tube.

[@hugohackenbush1554]

@@Tigs2 Can't be that many 64 year old [65 in 3 month] grizzled old bikers living by SB.

[@kirbyourenthusiasm]

Don’t know why this showed up in my feed but now I’m sitting here crying over a wedding speech for two people I’ve never met. I want to show this to every single woman I know (including my two youngest daughters) and tell them to find a man who will love you like this. Beautiful speech and beautiful couple. Congratulations! Wishing you many many decades of happiness together.

[@Y7BRO]

What the heck!!! Exactly the same thing. Just doing a menial task and playing videos as I work. Then, this video and bam. The tears started flowing.

[@Rose0954]

Same here, in tears! So beautiful!

[@lynntuckwell6481]

Me too. X ❤

[@SuperLegionnaire]

says it all,really.

[@CDWaite]

What a man. And what a gorgeous bride. Easily the best wedding speech I've ever heard. Thanks for making a grown man cry!

[@hamoiceman2009]

What a speech! One of the best speeches by a groom I have ever heard and the respect you showed her family and culture to learn your speech in Korean. Your a legend mate!!

[@djlhobbies2579]

You won't regret it mate. Met my Korean bride on a city bus in Gunsan...still married 42 years later. Great speech, and good on you for learning Hangul. Congrats and good luck.

[@busfahrer09]

This sounds like a Hollywood movie in the making.

[@red-inmy-50s-temper-dont-match]

Oh goodness I've just stopped crying from the video, and now your comment started me again lol!! How wonderful, I'm so happy for you both X much love jacq X in the UK

[@jryland6]

❤

[@DmacDomage]

As a happily married Man of 30 years I wish the bride and groom all the best. A wonderful speech. Blessings

[@nw101971]

I did exactly the same as you when I got married in Hong Kong just 3 weeks ago. I had been learning Mandarin on an app on my iPad for just over 3 years & spoke in front of my wife’s family in Mandarin as most of them do not speak English. I wanted to do it to show respect to them & thank goodness they understood what I was trying to say & I secretly learnt a Chinese song to sing to my wife & I sang it in front of her family It was one of the most nerve racking thing I’ve ever done but I’m so glad I did it.

[@akakong88]

But they speak Cantonese in Hong Kong…

[@nw101971]

@@akakong88 I know they speak Cantonese in Hong Kong but the majority of my wife’s family live in China hence the reason why I spoke Mandarin to them.

[@Pangcah88]

And then he got to the wedding and realized they all spoke Cantonese.... shit!

[@nw101971]

@@Pangcah88 some did but the majority spoke Mandarin.

[@Pangcah88]

@@nw101971 開玩笑的啦！

[@sdprescott324]

Beyond doubt, the most humble, heartfelt, and loving tribute by a husband ever ! When a guy loves and cares with that kindness and sacrifice, he is guaranteed a happy wife and home of love. Well done !

[@nurseattle]

This video appeared randomly and for no particular reason , I clicked on it. I have never heard such a wonderful tribute to anyone EVER before. I can only imagine what it would feel like to be loved that strongly. I will never know. Congratulations to both of you for having what it takes to create your love story. May you have many, many happy years together. ❤

[@pauline-glitterbugcrafts]

I've been married twice and wish one of those men had half of the love for me that he shows for her and maybe we would still be married. I too will never have love like this. They are lucky to have each other and I wish a long and happy life for them both.

[@nurseattle]

@@pauline-glitterbugcrafts I hope that you will be surprised and feel that kind of love one day.

[@AliHowse]

Never say never ... it stops the possibilities ... be open to finding this kind of love. 🎉😅❤

[@nurseattle]

@@AliHowse Well, if I meet someone wonderful, I will certainly take notice! I agree with your statement but at age 70, it is very unlikely. I appreciate you for caring enough to comment. Thank you.

[@dianebalch5369]

I'm a 74 year old who's attended many, many weddings. This is the best and most memorable wedding speech that I've heard!

[@Gonzonurse72]

The best wedding speech and proclamation of love, I have ever heard. I think everyone wants to feel that type of love. ❤️

[@juliekendrick-finn707]

The best wedding speech I have ever heard. Hell that's probably the best wedding speech I'm ever going to here in my whole life, ever.

[@KyLoxoxo]

For all the horrible things I see on the internet everyday I really needed this sweet wholesome amazing moment thank you for sharing such a special moment of ur life with us it’s truly touched me congrats on happily ever after ❤

[@Dethikah]

Holy smokes dude, that is a speech and story of dreams, thank you for sharing this moment with all of us ❤.

[@ofkgjsl]

I am moved to tears by his beautiful speech. What a wonderful man. This woman is lucky to have him. This is the best he could do to show respect to her and her family

[@deanwarde7126]

Last year my daughter was married here in Cyprus where we've lived since 1999. Making speeches is not done in Greek weddings but I spent 2 months writing/translating/rewriting & rehearsing it & not only shocked the guests but delighted them too especially my new son in law. Hats off to you young man. 🥂😎

[@craigshrimpton5765]

I saw the short to this and am happy there was a tip that there was this nine minute video. I loved it when Sohees parents got up to hug him and show their appreciation and acceptance.

[@billdeburgh]

Same here. The Short was highly insufficient and made me search for "grooms speech in korean". Et voilà, here we are.

[@shannonslack4448]

Me too me too!!

[@Pinkdaimonddragon]

I don’t even know him personally. And he made me cry. He really has a big heart and he must love his wife very much. In my book , he has earned my respect.

[@linaUSAUK]

What an eloquent and thoughtful act and speech. The bride is absolutely beautiful however I was so very taken with how beautiful and elegant the mother of the bride was. I hope they have many years of health, happiness, joy and adventures ❤

[@fsavage2001]

Ben is such a outstanding human being! Congratulations to you both!

[@Mary200-61]

That was absolutely beautiful. I don’t know these people and I was crying like a baby. Lol I hope they have a beautiful life together!!!

[@divergentone777]

If you put that much effort into the wedding speech, then I can only imagine the effort you will put in to your relationship. Congratulations to you both. Thank you for sharing this moment with the world

[@patrickhartman6818]

Can't help but being emotional when a person bares there soul in love and honor. God Bless this couple.

[@pimpawanlaprabang212]

I cried my tear out. That was such a beautiful speech!

[@willrea9]

I'm bawling my eyes out. What an incredible speech man.

[@user-vt5hx1kz7l]

I have no idea how I got here, but I am so glad I am. What an amazing gesture of love and dedication. Thank you for sharing such a personal and vulnerable moment. ❤

[@lisaredford6462]

That is the best speech to and for his new wife I’ve ever heard. If everyone were to be so fortunate to find a love like this then the world would be a much happier place indeed ❤

[@localbod]

What a lovely and heartfelt speech. The best of luck to the both of them.

[@HRIDAY6]

Congratulations 🎉 both of you! May this association lasts forever 🤟❤ You made the tears roll man!

[@crackerbarrelkid-52]

You are an absolute legend, mate. Wishing you both the best life possible.

[@deeocdismay7657]

I sobbed. Congrats to the both of you.

[@MitchFPT]

Beautifully put and the surprise was wonderful, really wasn't expecting to tear up slightly around lunch haha Congrats to you too.

[@cassiehyre4903]

That is the most amazing and loving speech I have ever head. Congratulations and lots of happiness to you both

[@kayorca]

I’m not crying…I’m sobbing. That was beautiful.

[@1tommyday]

Nice to see a man truly adore and love his new wife. So sweet. I cried.

[@moparman1962]

Ouch!...that one got me right in the heart! He did VERY well with his wedding speech about his wife and love, nailed it!

[@markrosolini2934]

Just beautiful, and what a man to go and learn Korean, that would literally be the highest form of respect to her parents ❤️ 👏 bravo what a legend

[@johnrose2348]

That was a beautiful speech about someone you absolutely love. Bravo! BTW: She does have a beautiful smile!!

[@keku_mclovin]

This is one of the best speeches i have ever heard. It is a testament of how much you love your wife. Congratulations and God bless you guys.

[@sof5858]

And that my friends, was one fuckin great speech. You even had stone heart here tearing up in the end.

[@Edwin582]

Saw this on a youtube short and came to watch the full video, fantastic speech wish you guys a full life of happiness!

[@wyndiefeatherstone948]

Oh my goodness, that was absolutely beautiful!!!! God Bless them both all the days of their life!

[@brianbaird9968]

WOW! That was the best speech ever, awesome job! Your not only a great writer, but have a gorgeous bride. Congratulations!

[@maxinesymmons9711]

My marriage ended badly nearly 16yrs ago and I've become bitter about "there's no such thing as true love" (a little bitter)🤣 ....oh my goodness he proved me wrong ❤ I really do hope they stay that loved up for the rest of their lives ❤❤❤❤❤

[@sylviarowlands1883]

Such a splendid speech, so eloquently articulated, very well done. Wales UK🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿

[@sandygray2280]

Beautiful speech. Beautifully articulated. Made me all teary….i wish them many years of happiness together

[@davidwhittington9498]

Wow that was amazing 👏. One devoted guy honouring his wife 😢. Beautiful speech

[@s4e-stirbys4empowerment26]

This is the most romantic wedding speech. The best I ever heard! Thoughtful, heartwarming and in a word excuded LOVE. Congratulations on your happy future together! 🥰💖🥳

[@MilliNox69]

What can I say... I'm following you for years now and always appreciated your bluntness and honesty. Especially in an industry that more often than not lacks those qualities. Never would I have guessed that you could raise said qualities to an even higher level. I'm moved beyond words. Thank you for sharing this moment and all the best to you, Sohee and your families. Cheers mate!

[@gemmel3197]

You just can't beat a speech from the heart. I wish you two all the best in your life together.

[@user-eo5yg5co4e]

This speech was perfection. He was gracious, humble, recognized everyone and paid tribute to his bride in such a beautiful way. Really beautiful to witness.

[@GuidetteExpert]

Congratulations. How can anyone be skeptical of marriage when people celebrate their birthday? Love is one of the holiest thing you experience in life.

[@clubbizarre]

My wedding vows were eerily similar. I was sure a wedding/marriage was never something for me, nor useful, before I met my wife. Also HUGE KUDOS for learning Korean !!! Didn't see that one cominh

[@edithtobin2901]

Wow! What a amazing speech! 👏 feel so honoured to have heard it. What a gorgeous bride. My best wishes to both of you as you continue your journey🎉❤❤❤

[@acsberean4092]

Freaking awesome speech straight from the depths of the heart.

[@LionWolfTactical]

What a beautiful speech and moment. I hope they last forever together and the fairy tale lives on. Congrats on your marriage and the feelings you share are "rare" and a miracle in many ways. Good luck guys. I don't know you, but good luck! 🎉🙏🏼

[@Justin-np3ki]

Saw a short on this and searched for the full version. You're an absolutely stud for this.

[@commonsense31]

Hands down one of the best speeches I have ever heard in my life. Amazing. Thank you for sharing.

[@Tristan-1-2-3]

Beautiful speech. What a genuine and caring guy you are. You both deserve all the happiness in the world. Many congratulations

[@Lavenderrose73]

Ben, very kind words! May God bless you both! 😊💐🥂

[@KerryBlaser]

WOW! What a ginormous sign of respect!! The time and effort you put in is incredible. It is inspiring.

[@FreshMoozadell]

This is just wonderful. Thank you for sharing it w/ us! Wishing the young couple many years of good health and happiness together!

[@user-zd3cg9hu6m]

This is the most heartfelt and beautiful wedding speech i have ever listened to and it was done with such sincerity. I have watched this a few times and i wish them all the luck in the world .

[@tiffinyharrington9307]

No idea who you are nor why this video popped up or why I clicked, but I did and I’m glad. Truly the sweetest groom’s speech and sweetest story of two people falling in love and the speech for the in-laws, well, that was just the cherry on top. Best wishes to you, Mr Carpenter, and to your lovely bride! I’m thinking you’ll be alright;)

[@tazeking8033]

Good on you mate! Learning Korean is definitely difficult as hell! Also, showing that commitment must have been a huge gift! I'm lucky that I have to learn Samoan for mine. Nowhere near as many learning resources. But apparently nowhere near as difficult as Korean.

[@Dayna_Bennett]

Totally crying here! Such a beautiful couple and that speech……WOW! You totally made it all about your beautiful wife. May you be blessed with many decades of wedded bliss. ❤

[@cherylvanderwalt6082]

Wow, Best wedding speech I have ever heard! Wishing you the greatest of Blessings in your life together! 💗

[@rafaelpaimtrabalho]

Thank you for sharing your effort to speak Korean and also your true love for your wife! I was very moved by your beautiful words. We could feel the strong love and affection you feel for your wife. I wish you all the happiness in the world and may your dreams come true in the beautiful life you will build together. God bless you every day 🙏🏻

[@BulldogMcC]

Thank you for sharing this moment with us.

[@Faxulous]

Thanks for sharing Ben! Beautiful speech and congratulations.

[@boomtao]

Holy Sh*t! That was a very, very good, great speech! Not only do I envy his eloquence and great delivery, but also (mostly!) the great love he seems to have found.

[@gailsgig]

Touching and amazing…deeply felt and expressed. I hope you each feel this way every day of long long lives!

[@STSauto]

As a recently single man who had all these dreams - that was special!! The joy you clearly bring to your new wife and her parents should make you very proud ! I’m bawling my eyes out ! Your a credit to not only your family but our nation

[@jenniferwhite1127]

this just popped up on my youtube feed. what a wonderful speech wish you both health and happiness.

[@Bears2024]

I saw the youtube short of this and had to find the whole video, that was such an amazing thing to do for your new in-laws and showed the most devotion possible to honoring your wife and her family

[@robt510]

After seeing the KZbin Short of his Korean speech, I just had to look up the complete video. Well worth the effort.

[@nualarosth8448]

That was the most beautiful speech I’ve ever heard,she is a very lucky woman

[@dougdiplacido2406]

A very heartwarming video. The husband showed so much love and respect for his wife's family.

[@radnamar]

That was such a beautiful speech. I couldn't have said how I felt for my husband anymore than what you said. You put into words what I never could. However, I have found a way, every day, to say something of importance to him, and he to me. When you find your person, you hold on and celebrate that feeling as long as you can. Thank you for sharing this. :)

[@Rumination_Vertex]

I have a Korean wife and I always thought about learning Korean to talk to her father whom I respected dearly but I never did it and he's since passed. I feel like shit now (for not doing the same) but what you did is a sign of true love! Great job brother!

[@nainakonnur2775]

One of best weeding speeches I have ever heard Perfect emotions in words. All the best and congratulations you found your soul mate ❤️💐

[@reneecampsall1898]

Best heartfelt wedding speeches ever!! ❤Prayers for life long of that !!! 🙏

[@Eryent]

God Ben seriously you're such an amazing guy! I'm still honored to have been able to meet you in real life and provide you with the mandatory Haribo care package at FIBO. You're a wonderfull person and I wish you and Sohee all the best for the future ❤❤❤

[@asakiito765]

That was soo sweet🥺🥺 Actually I had seen Sohees content from time to time but for so long, I watched your content without noticing the two of you were married🤦🏽‍♀️

[@blodwen6946]

That gentleman speaks so eloquently and with heart felt emotion

[@maryjohanna257]

So beautiful, she’s a lucky woman. Many blessings to you both. 🙏🏻

[@Henderson10102]

Smashed it mate. Amazing what love does to us. Five months after I met my wife, I went a little crazy and proposed (actually, I bought the ring after three months but gave it time so I didnt scare her away 😅). A year later, we were married, and now we're ten years on, we only love each other even more (which really didn't seem possible). Will forever be the best choice we ever made... even if it was also the most absurd. Well done for just going all in for love. I think you're both in for a lifetime of happiness together, and couldn't be more pleased ❤

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

I thought this man said he was going to cry and here I am feeling silly because I've been bawling through the entire speech of somebody I don't even know lol. Man I want a marriage like this. I would love somebody who feels the way about me that he does about his wife.

[@walterheiliger667]

Wow! What a man with a loving heart. That was truly beautiful.

[@retiredtom1654]

One of the best speeches ever given by a groom... may they live long and love long!

[@HH-kg4fq]

Such a meaningful speech in both Korean and in English. ❤ How did you two originally meet since you two lived on 2 different continents?

[@Fennecbutt]

This is beautiful. So cool that you're learning Korean, I hope you're still continuing with it! And makes me glad that gay marriage is becoming more accepted around the world too. Everyone deserves the chance to feel like you two feel towards each other.

[@Rose0954]

When something like this makes people they’ve never met cry so many tears, it really proves we are all connected! We feel your joy!! God bless you all!

[@madzazmarland3785]

What a speech!!! Truly amazing and heart warming n just everything!!! She has a wonderful kind husband to share of her life with!!! I wish you both ever last happiness!!!❤❤❤❤. A match made in heaven!!!

[@rambledogs2012]

Christ on a bike. Somehow this randomly appears in my feed and here I am, a near 50 yr old bloke with tears in his eyes at hearing the most stunning speech a groom can give about his newly wedded wife. Awesome. Just awesome and the fact you spent a year learning Korean.......kudos to you and all the best for the future to you both.