The Secret to Making Boundaries Not Walls (SO YOU CAN FEEL SAFE)

[@lauraboyes6345]

Super good video - best I've come across on the whole topic!!

[@AbbyMedcalfThriving]

YAY! My Boundaries Made Easy book will be out in November and there are a lot more free resources about boundaries on my website if you want to learn more 💓Sending much love

[@ImpulsoCreativo9322]

I truly appreciate your work and especially when u give examples of what things look like. More examples, more helpful. thanks

[@CarinDevalcourt-ik6zi]

I listen to you on Apple Podcasts. Thanks for all you do! I would love to hear a podcast on post menopausal intimate relationships.

[@AbbyMedcalfThriving]

I'm so glad you're listening and that's a BRILLIANT idea! I've got it in the queue!

[@larisamilne]

Thank you Dr. Abby!

[@jackirenee10]

I don’t normally feel dumb, I feel like I just don’t get it!? Because I am guilty of the wall and don’t know how to see past my anger……. even hearing how to.

[@MrChronos1971]

"Poor boundaries are at the heart of just about every angry, resentful or frustrated feeling you have and there are a few ways poor boundaries show up. Maybe you’re saying “yes” to things when you really want to say “no!”" BUT what if your boundaries are ridiculous and you get angry, frustrated and resentful for just about everything asked of you, like a 3 year old, when you are in your 50's... I

[@catzbee123]

Your videos are so awesome

[@jenniferdas7809]

Cutting off an uncomfortable conversation seems like avoiding an opportunity to understand the other person. You could certainly say this makes me uncomfortable but if you have to keep pushing the conversation away seems like you’ll constantly have to push it away. Maybe there’s an issue you could clear up and then be fine with it. Condescending to your mom “she’s doing the best she can” really smarts to us moms.

[@TamiVroma1]

I liked a lot of what you said but I disagree with the last part. Don't explain your boundary. One of the rules of creating a boundary is to communicate the boundary. Otherwise you are throwing up a wall that someone doesn't understand. Every book I have ever read on boundaries says they must be clearly communicated to another person.

[@MellowBellow1]

Isn’t it avoidant to stop and refuse to discuss something that makes you feel uncomfortable? It’s ok to do stuff that makes us feel uncomfortable. … if we don’t, we don’t grow. ….I agree you don’t have to justify some stuff. And if you’re talking to a narcissist, then you definitely walk away without an explanation. But avoidant people will use this methodology to make life worse.