The Secret to Staying Happily Married

We've got a "Marriage Pop-Quiz" for you! Would you ditch your spouse to catch a flight?
Imagine you're traveling with your spouse. They go to the bathroom while you wait for your flight to board. But they don't come back. And you're going to miss your flight. Should you board it and ditch your spouse? What would you do in this situation?
According to Fr. Mike, there is only one correct answer to this question. And the answer might surprise you.
Today, Fr. Mike shares a funny story about an older married couple's problem when traveling together and his shock and surprise at the variety of responses he received when asking other married couples what they would do in this situation.
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[@ZendelAtkinson]

The only secret is patience and working things out. Over the years, I've figured out that there's always a way to fix things when there's a problem. Five years back, my wife and I were on the brink of divorce because of issues in our marriage, but we found a way to fix them. It was hard, but we made it through.

[@SERIKAmrabat]

I truly want to find happiness as well. I have someone special in my life, and even though we're not together right now, I can't imagine living without her; my love for her is deep. I really hope she comes back, and I'm fully committed to making it happen. We've tried different ways, like therapy, to make things right.

[@ZendelAtkinson]

Releasing someone you love is always a daunting task, but in my situation, I had the support of a spiritual advisor who prevented the disintegration of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

[@SERIKAmrabat]

Your advice is valued. I'll promptly look her up online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that pursuing this method will also lead to favorable outcomes for me; I deeply yearn for her.

[@ZendelAtkinson]

Welcome... You should

[@sitka49]

John Gottman and his wife did a study of 20 couples over 20 yrs of following them from the beginning their marriages - what they found that was surprising was that 69% of all marriage problems will never be resolved, because couples fight about the same thing over and over. (People can tend to be good for awhile after major fight - but will trend back to their old habits)

[@AlisonVerdi-lj1gw]

One time my husband and I stopped for some sodas on the way to our gate, and when we got to the gate I realized I’d left my purse at the soda shop! The plane was about to board, so I said a prayer and took off down the gate running (I was 65). I made it to the soda shop, retrieved my purse, and made it back to the gate where the plane was boarding. My husband had waited for me despite having priority boarding. I loved him so much to see him waiting for me! I always felt the prayer I said might have had some effect in making that situation work out as well as it did.

[@marygrey7034]

Lovely ❤ . However, you didn’t intentionally cause the problem and you ran, showing consideration for others. Also, you didn’t have to wait in line for your purse.🙏🏾

[@jackiestarrs7554]

A purse is much more important than having just the right kind of coffee.

[@AlisonVerdi-lj1gw]

It was very stupid of me to forget it though

[@mrutherford5502]

We are human and forget things, you're not stupid!🤗​@@AlisonVerdi-lj1gw

[@pdm8446]

Very different scenario

[@TeeCass-bl9ii]

I’m still stuck on why she left him at the gate to go to a different coffee shop. She shouldn’t have left him. I would never have done that to my husband for coffee…sounds like her world is the only world she lives in.

[@mariastraborny1271]

Yes, exactly my thought

[@davidhardey959]

Feminazi

[@sitka49]

That is such a shallow, and immature ( or she's awfully dense) thing to do "Coffee, Really?" If this is the theme of this marriage -this particular incident doesn't matter ( could be the last nail in the coffin though) - Its unsustainable. the marriage is going to end sometime.

[@pointlesskid7779]

I can't even imagine just for a coffee that she wants this happened. Small things sometimes really matter even in good or bad.

[@annakareninacamara6580]

maybe she thought that if he stayed there and secured their luggage and seats, it was better than both going to buy coffee and ending up missing the flight? It's ok to part ways with your husband for a while to get something done more efficiently. She misjudged the time it would take to get said coffee, that's another point. But I don't see the leaving for a while as a problem in itself. About the part of the coffee being so important, I agree it's pretty weird. But maybe she assumed she could make it in time?

[@DenverDias]

From what I remember: The man was a widower. She was his second wife. The flight was so the man could meet his daughter (from his earlier marriage) and be part of some important milestone in her life. It was later revealed that the wife purposefully waited until the last minute to get coffee from a far away coffee shop so that they would miss the flight.

[@gvh4168]

Well, then, she was being very manipulative. In that case, he did the right thing getting on the plane so that he could continue with the plans made. The wife, (his second) was being very deceitful.

[@terrilynch5435]

The wife should have preferred her husband’s request to not get the coffee. She was wrong. She chose to risk her ticket.

[@billjohnson9455]

Heard this about this story as well. Wish this comment could get more attention

[@MichelleMarieTaormina]

Ahhh i knew there was something more to it.

[@verneser]

Sparking a good debate on where is agape? And this Bible verse always makes me remember who/what is most important. “Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me, and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me;” ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭10‬:‭37‬ ‭NABRE‬‬

[@terryoconnell9773]

The marriage is more important than coffee.

[@210SAi]

Such a terrible analogy for the marriage Covanent

[@johne.8939]

And the ticket is worth more than a coffee

[@joeychen3946]

I was gonna say the same...I'm not missing a flight for a cup of coffee.

[@amandamancillas1732]

100%!! Especially when there was a coffee shop right next to the gate. She was 100% in the wrong and being completely selfish for putting their marriage in that situation.

[@lionheart5078]

shows she doesnt resepct him, which shows a deeper issue in their relationship

[@ajds7597]

She shouldn't have missed the flight for a stupid cup of coffee. But he never should have gotten on the plane without her. For better or for worse, marriage is a team sport.

[@emilyd.6371]

No matter how irresponsible your spouse may be

[@SubArcticAdventures]

There’s more to this story. They were on their way to visit his daughter. She had already been the cause of a missed flight from the night before. She was trying to prevent him from going to see his daughter.

[@elenag2965]

@@SubArcticAdventuresI came to make this comment. Glad you commented on it.

[@SjuuTuub]

If she just would listen, and act accordingly, to her husband advise there would not be a problem. Just like we should listen to Jezus? Oh well, forgive and forget and don't take it so serious is the only way out \0/

[@linda.yuri999]

Childish/ immature

[@jeffsettle6692]

Exactly! I also learned this my first year at West Point, and it has translated perfectly to my marriage (30+ years): NEVER leave your battle buddy behind. That goes both ways: she shouldn’t have left him and he shouldn’t have left her.

[@katieg7725]

Wow love your reply! Lucky wife!!!

[@deborahconnolly3686]

I am married 30 years and would not leave my husband behind for that or anything else! We have been through some very tough times and life has taught us how love and commitment is more important than anything else, even our own wants and “needs”. When two are truly one God blesses us 10 fold! 💕

[@mollynygord1516]

I seriously LOVE coffee. I really love it. I would not have risked missing a plane to get a cup though. It just seems crazy to me

[@kerenstar13]

Exactly!!!!!

[@joanneboty4882]

But rather than should he have gotten on the plane, why aren't you asking should she've gone to got her coffee? It's a no brainer.

[@MichelleMarieTaormina]

this.

[@sarahsheikh9151]

What is wrong with all the people saying, he shouldn’t have left her? Something seems seriously wrong if someone is so selfish to get a cup of coffee and risk missing a flight… is it only in America that the cost of the flight and all the hassle that will ensue doesn’t pose a huge problem? I always love listening to Fr Mike but this seems totally absurd.

[@iamfilipinas]

Seriously!! If desperately already coffee migrained, the plane coffee service will do.

[@MR-sr5gh]

I wouldn’t go for coffee after my husband said I wasn’t going to make it back in time, but then I would have spent the flight repeatedly telling him how I would have made it back and he would smirk and pretend he agrees with me. I wouldn’t have left him behind though and he wouldn’t have left me, but he would have been annoyed with me. This was fun!

[@nhatlienhoan]

State the fact and I'm actually smiling imagining the scene and wow it's so annoying for the husband though. Lol Has to endure the entire flight and probably the whole day and wondering he should have let her go to the coffee shop so she can shut up. :v

[@gloriaadebo256]

Haha… I feel you. Same here!

[@verneser]

I am so certain my husband will not get on the plane. I am also certain, when I do come back to the gate, seeing him wait for me, at an empty gate, my husband will be standing there EXTREMELY pissed with me. FILTHY PISSED 🤣

[@geepers]

.

[@marianneblake9369]

I think as a woman replying out here and some would think I'm old school but compromise is a two way street for happiness. I think she should have listened to her husband and not gone to get the coffee. We are a team and together we win. As in marriage there is no one who wins alone.

[@KellyS_77]

I’ve been married 13 years. She never should have left to get the coffee. He didn’t leave her behind, she intentionally missed the flight. Also airlines always page a missing passenger multiple times before they close the doors.

[@BitsyBee]

You're exactly right. He should not have followed her to the coffee shop like a wimp, which fortunately he did not, but he might have waited for her at the gate. Maybe all the calls for the missing passenger were too embarrassing so he boarded.

[@wluciano7544]

There's definitely problems in that relationship! I've been with my husband for 32 yrs, married for 28.. there's no way will I leave him behind, nor would I risk the flight by getting coffee, it's only coffee! We need to pray for this couple

[@daveintexas2167]

I agree with you, Father. I would never leave my wife alone in an airport like that. Marriage has taught me that being right is meaningless if I'm not acting 100% out of love. The Enemy gets involved real quick if I don't act or speak out of love to my wife. Everyone has a different situation but that is my opinion on it. (Married 31 years.)

[@davidcole333]

The problem with this particular scenario Dave, is that the wife left the husband, not vice versa. She clearly didn't want to get on that plane. NO ONE runs to another terminal as boarding begins for a lousy coffee.

[@daveintexas2167]

The Enemy wants to break up marriages and families. One spouse is often easier to attack than the other. How do you think the Enemy wanted the husband to respond after he got the wife to do something crazy? Spiritual warfare is real. If you’re wife isn’t alert to it, you better be.

[@maryrankin9869]

Wow you are just a good little soldier.

[@BitsyBee]

Your wife is so lucky.

[@BitsyBee]

​@@davidcole333 HAHA I do! I've gotten out of the boarding line to go buy something! And I've given to crazy lengths to get a coffee. I agree though that the wife should've respected her husband. And good she missed the flight.

[@thecatholicfam]

I rather argue about missing the flight than argue about leaving her and making her worry about what now, and feeling scare

[@AlexanderBrown77]

🩸 christians redeemed by the blood of Jesus Christ are in heaven before the first seal of the tribulation is opened. 👀 Revelation 5 KJV 🩸 9 And they sung a new song, saying, Thou art worthy to take the book, and to open the seals thereof: for thou wast slain, and hast redeemed us to God by thy blood out of every kindred, and tongue, and people, and nation; 10 And hast made us unto our God kings and priests: and we shall reign on the earth. 11 And I beheld, and I heard the voice of many angels round about the throne and the beasts and the elders: and the number of them was ten thousand times ten thousand, and thousands of thousands; Colossians 1 KJV 🩸 14 In whom we have redemption through his blood, even the forgiveness of sins: 🩸🤔 Is your faith in the blood of Jesus Christ? Romans 3 KJV 🩸 25 Whom God hath set forth to be a propitiation through faith in his blood, to declare his righteousness for the remission of sins that are past, through the forbearance of God;

[@BitsyBee]

A woman that stubborn would figure out what to do. And I hope she also ate a lot of crow!

[@PArtemisH]

Okay, that's the action you'd pick. I'd suggest that your answer is incomplete without also identifying how you would later address her bad behavior.

[@traditionalgirl3943]

I’m with him! She made her choice so she needs to live the consequences. He TRIED to warn her. (I’ve been married 31 years. I’m female.)In the long run, this is the only hope for the marriage. Otherwise she won’t “get it”.

[@christinalaska]

Yeah I’m at 26 years and feel the same.. coffee? Really? Lolol PRIORITIES.

[@AlexisPatrickLozare]

As a husband, I will wait for my wife, miss the flight with her, BUT she will not be drinking the coffee, I will. She will "get it."

[@traditionalgirl3943]

@@AlexisPatrickLozare 😊😂

[@MarkKaranjaM4K]

I take it you aren't familiar with the curse of Eve

[@MarkKaranjaM4K]

@Alexis you sir are a legend

[@yolandabogarin9932]

I wouldn’t have gone to get the coffee….

[@BitsyBee]

Yes if my husband said no, I wouldn't go...although I am impulsive and rebellious ...but I know this and it doesn't usually work out.

[@sadieroach6262]

Agreed!!

[@mrsandmom5947]

Father we have been married 38 yrs. We have had issues now and then. We had to grow and mature, and give and take and let some things go. But the one thing we did was never give up. We never strayed, we worked hard, and showed respect. And we really do love each other.

[@waggoneer]

My Ex-wife used to stress me out when we went on vacations. We would spend thousands of dollars on flights, lodging, and excursions. I would be excited for the trip for months in advance, and then she would never be ready to leave for the airport on time. Always it was showing up at the last minute before they stop checking bags. I would be so stressed out, and almost regret even going on the trip with her, because of her lack of care for my feelings. It is a sign, if your spouse can't cooperate or care for and respect your opinion.

[@lynnstewart1806]

She was acting spoiled, selfish, impulsive and imprudent. Which means that in future a conversation about travel plans and expectations and planning ahead are in order! Maybe even them having to travel separately in the future if she continues to be inconsiderate, but in this situation, you don’t just leave your partner/spouse. Like Father said, perhaps a battle was won, but more solemnly the war could be lost.

[@SueInHenderson]

She was foolish to risk missing the flight, and he was wrong to leave her. God bless you, Fr. Mike - I'm praying for you!

[@maryrankin9869]

Why was he wrong to leave her. Choices choices choices.

[@MultiJoe84]

I’m not a believer. I lost my faith a few years back. However I watch videos like this from time to time.

[@joantreadway7557]

I'll pray that one day you'll happen upon just the right video to open your heart to Jesus. And you'll feel the joy of being a Christian. God bless you!

[@whoputyouontheplanet3345]

Same. Something about this channel, particularly Fr. Mike puts me in a good mood for some reason.

[@Zutentu]

I am an atheist, my husband is christian. I admire faith a lot, there are many things that one can learn from it, especially in regards to human connections.

[@Constable.Chauvin]

I still believe in God but i just feel numb to that information... but the videos give me a little bit of joy

[@ashleybeebe5759]

Come home! He is waiting!

[@Connor-fr5cn]

A lot does depend on context. Yes in a proper marriage, he wouldn't leave her, but this isn't like she was in the bathroom or needed to do something urgent. She wanted a particular coffee, discussed it, was warned that the plane would leave, and then consciously decided to act against her husband for the coffee she wanted. Is it fair that he gets the blame for getting on the plane? We dont know the purpose or urgency of the flight, so i can't comment on that. But why did she leave him? This seems like you're giving him the responsibility of staying behind for her and not giving her the responsibility to stay by his side when he warned her the plane would leave. Yes, he should stay because of love, but she shouldn't have left because of love as well. So the people in this scenario need communication about priorities and teamwork

[@sitka49]

The urgency doesn't matter the possibility of missing flight ( of hundreds or even $1000's on) trump's cup of coffee.

[@pam-0383]

It's not about husband vs wife...it's about who is being prudent and who isn't, in decision-making. And not enough information to judge the situation from the outside

[@debhaugen7543]

I would have gotten on the plane with my husband and had a cup of airline coffee! Especially if they were boarding!

[@hollywaddell6727]

Exactly what my response was. These days I am not risking being separated at an airport.

[@mementomori7266]

Its a good question about setting boundaries and letting the person learn the consequence of their choices. For example, a friend of mine is a DRE and leads pilgrimages every couple years. Most parishioners who go on them are elderly and dont have the same sense of time urgency as younger adults do. Well, many of them would be perpetually late for the bus. If she said, be back at the bus at 2:50 bc were leaving at 3, they'd saunter in at 3:10+ So finally she started warning them, if they weren't back on time, they'd leave without them. She followed through on her threat and left someone behind and so they had to get back to the hotel by themselves and missed the rest of the activities for the day. She said that person never missed the bus time after that. So, say this woman was perpetually making her husband late and he warned her, "if youre not back in time, I'm leaving," i could see that as a 'letting her experience the consequences of her choices.' like what if he's had many conversations and said it hurts him when she makes him late and she persists in doing it anyway? What if he's missed out on other things because of her perpetual lateness? To me, this doesnt sound like its a first-time she's done this sort of thing. Sometimes love is setting a boundary.. IDK, but im kind of on his side.

[@gaylevonderembse1456]

I am wondering about the responsibility of the wife. If she told him to get on the flight and she chooses to risks missing their flight by going way out of her way to get that cup of coffee, which she could have gotten close by, I’m asking myself-where is her accountability and love for her husband to put him in that position? I don’t think he did anything wrong. Just my thoughts. We all need to take the log out of our own eye and be thoughtful of the other person we are with-no matter what their relationship is to us. I feel like the husband was trying to work with her and trust her judgement-

[@AggieRose04]

I totally agree that the wife has some culpability in this.

[@dvinemsr]

As a woman, i would absolutely support the husband getting on the plane. You don't do things to " test" your partner. I for one would have left on the flight as I would have been sooo furious, it would have made me ugly with him. 😊

[@charflorida5433]

He should have texted her "the plane is boarding, come back! I will buy you all the coffee you want when we get there!" Actually, as a wife of 40 years, and traveling often with my husband, I would not have left the gate at the last minute for a beverage lol.

[@lisamccormack3367]

I’ve been married for 44 years. I wouldn’t have gotten on the plane. I would have waited. I agree with your Father Mike. Marriage is more important than a destination. Many thanks. Lisa

[@WifeofBryan]

Wow, this is a great anecdote for helping anyone discern the state of their relationship! Even though I would never ditch my husband for coffee when I can see he’s anxious about timing, and he would never leave my side in an airport except to hit the restroom, I don’t think there is a right answer for this situation. I think what’s most important is what comes next-do they choose to apologize and forgive the other, striving to understand what the other values? Or do they use it forever as ammunition against the other? At 6 years, we’re still new to marriage, but we’ve experienced the fruits of humble apologies, forgiveness and honest, vulnerable communication. ❤ Prayers this couple can too!

[@God_my_Savior]

Oh no, this is tough. But i think he did the right thing. No coffee is more important than getting in your plane, specially getting stuck in the airport. She was very irresponsible. But she also chose her coffee over her husband 🙂‍↕️

[@jdreis]

I heard the whole story and the wife was actually trying to prevent her husband from seeing his daughter (her step daughter) and had pulled this before…twice😂

[@ashleynovels]

That complicates things! So it was his duty to his child vs his wife… Siding with the husband on this one. Poor guy what a mess

[@TheMDelima]

What?! I can't believe it! Siding with dad for sure!!

[@PoldaranOfDalaran]

Yeah, I'd heard it before too, and remembered that it was intentional on her part, but couldn't remember the exact details. It was some important event for the daughter though, right? Like a graduation or something?

[@jdreis]

@@PoldaranOfDalaran I can’t remember the exact details but yes, I remember that it was an important event for the daughter.

[@winnierodriguez303]

Same story I heard.

[@terrahenderson4048]

Coffee? Or a seat next to your husband? Not a tough choice. SHE made a SELFISH choice. She got married before she was ready, if that's still the choices she is still making. "No, I don't want this coffe, I want THAT coffee?!?" Maybe after she's alone awhile longer she'll learn how to be grateful for him. She sounds very spoiled. She is not a child and apparently knows how to buy another ticket. Leave her and show her you love her by waiting for her at the airport when she DOES arrive. At least he saved money by not wasting TWO tickets and spending money on 4 total tickets. My husband would have gone for the coffee because he has a servant's heart but I would never behave that way. Im extremely grateful for him!!!

[@maealberto9445]

That’s a mayday episode on the marriage…sounds like the trouble began way before the coffee run!?

[@jovieangel17]

There was more to the story. It wasn't the wife's first time doing this and on both occasions apparently the husband was going to see his child (the wife's step daughter). I heard the full story on the news when it came out. It seemed like the wife on both occasions deliberately chose to sort of sabotage the husband's attempt to see his daughter

[@dcfog81]

Was it Southwest Airlines with no reserved seating? In that case, if he waited for her at the gate, they would've risked being separated on the plane if she made it back on time, but everyone else boarded. By going on the plane, he can save a seat so that they can sit together. I also realize that 25 years ago, this would've been way more of a conundrum. Now, you can just call or text each other and see where you are. You can ask, "Hey, they're boarding now. Do you want me to get on the plane or do you want me to wait for you?"

[@adamssurta8568]

You’re missing the fundamental point

[@dcfog81]

@@adamssurta8568 I guess some of us can't be somewhat facetious? 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@fujikokun]

This actually blows my mind. There is a less than zero chance my husband would get on a plane without me and leave me stranded in an airport, even if I really deserved it.

[@maryrankin9869]

Going for a coffee does not translate to being stranded. Consequences to your actions.

[@fujikokun]

@@maryrankin9869and yet he still wouldn’t get on that plane without me.

[@BitsyBee]

She's not stranded. She'd find a way. People miss flights.

[@BitsyBee]

​@@fujikokunyou have a nice husband and I bet you deserve him. I hope he would not give in to your rebellion like a wimp and follow you to the distant coffee shop. I hope he'd just wait at the gate.

[@MrPeach1]

would you blow off his order to not leave to get coffee though?

[@brylynt53]

Tomorrow (6/20) is our 53rd wedding anniversary. I would expect my husband to get on the airplane if I insisted on going too far to get back on time. Especially when he warned me that it was too far. I am a grown woman and I can figure out what to do to get to the destination since my own actions caused me to miss the flight. He knows I can figure it out. So he would leave. It’s okay. Best wishes 🌸

[@rammya1]

I thought my husband would have argued with the flight attendants to announce and not leave without a checked in passenger. My husband listened to the scenario and plainly said, “ I would not have boarded without you”…. Married happily in the LORD for 16 years with two blessed children.

[@voxsacrachior]

I heard this story on The Five when it occurred. They were saying the father was traveling to visit his biological children from another woman. So his wife was holding him back from seeing his kids.

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[@leslieburks8543]

Agreed.. Stick together. Thick and thin, better or worse. Hugs

[@usmcwife1215]

Totally agree! We're traveling together. If I had wanted coffee, knowing my husband of 25 years, he'd go get it for me and I'd be waiting for him so that we could board together. If he was late, then we're late. I wouldn't leave him behind and he wouldn't have left without me. I can imagine the husband's face when he realized, the hatch was locked in. Sheer panic, I'm sure. 😂

[@loormaria]

This is more a matter of time management or lack thereof than a marriage issue. I would never jeopardize loosing the flight over coffee and I’m a coffee addict. She was wrong.

[@blujeans9462]

Actually, I'm not sure I buy the story - and think if this really happened as it was said, she did not want to go wherever they were going and wanted to miss the flight. She had plenty of time to go to that other coffee shop; and for her to know about it, she had to have already passed it. Second, if she truly wanted the coffee - it had better be cold because she had to have known that as soon as she boarded the staff would tell her to toss it before takeoff. Her time to truly enjoy it was almost nil.

[@thepanda7448]

He DID do the right thing. We are given will and intellect. Intellect says “don’t risk it, forgo the coffee’. She willed to go against common sense. She is a big girl, take chances and sometimes you get burned. I doubly fault HER for 1) making the choice to ho for coffee and 2) putting HIM in an awkward position. Part of loving someone is allowing them to make their own mistakes.

[@WilliamSwartzendruber]

I'm single so I'm getting on the plane. 😎 (I'm cashing this status in for all it's worth.)

[@JohnLovesMary]

lol😂😂

[@jessec2138]

Why would this be a way different conversation if the husband missed the flight for a cup of coffee and the wife got on without him?

[@user-kg1zv5xb1m]

I never would have left my spouse behind 😮

[@toddnielsen5866]

Getting on the plane doesn’t mean you don’t love her. You can still love her and get through the situation as this is not a true test of love.

[@joeychen3946]

I think it's the small things that add up and chip away at the marriage. Like he said: winning the battle but losing the war.

[@aarondaigle8412]

They serve free coffee on the plane. 🤔

[@RaychAlonzo]

I think I would have asked spouse, what's back up plan if you don't make it...not go, buy additional tickets. It is a tough one, I get Fr. Mike saying there's only one reason for not getting on the plane and that is love, but what about her showing love by sacrificing her need for coffee out of love for her husband.

[@nancyfernandez723]

you are so awesome to speak about this. may GOD bless you always.

[@diamondlou1]

I might be furious with him for running off to get coffee making us miss our flight, but I would never leave without him.

[@mariannedo8827]

Thanks you for this vidéo, so helpful! And I like that you put the CCC's references

[@gratefulheart8475]

You are right Fr. Mike. Marriage is more important than any other relationships. He shouldn't take the flight without the wife. But we don't know the details. I am struggling in my marriage now. I am no longer happy but I am staying and praying that God would intervene. For me i choose love over happiness. I offer my pain to God. I want to remain true to my vows God is faithful there is hope and happiness ahead

[@SuspiciousActivity871]

“Our relationship is bigger than this moment.” I needed to hear this! Thank you so much!

[@natashap6453]

As the wife, I wouldn’t have gone to get the coffee at the other place. The compromise would get the coffee at the closer place and getting on the plane on time. They are both apart of the marriage and have a responsibility to work together.

[@nush_vaz]

Blew my mind, thank you for this perspective ❤

[@jerrypaez5183]

Love is most important. Stick together always.

[@kevinperneta]

I wish these came out more frequently

[@kjadan101]

Annoyed with myself for engaging in this obvious engagement bait but even before learning the whole story, he was right to leave. A grown woman made her choice & it was a poor one.

[@sueburnett4041]

I agree with you, Fr. Mike. The guy should've waited for his wife to return even though she did a dumb thing by taking the risk. We all make mistakes.....better to miss the flight and be annoyed with her than cause a major problem by leaving her behind. To me that would be close to unforgivable. It's disrespectful and mean if he did it to teach her a lesson.

[@joeychen3946]

Can I just say I love how the editor put flamenco music to the outtakes of Fr Mike clapping. Best blooper reel ever.

[@AmandaNicole-yw5wl]

Hallelujah!!! I’m blessed and favored with $60,000 every week! Now I can afford anything and support the work of God and the church. For Your glory, LORD! HALLELUJAH!

[@BenjaminCharles-zo1pl]

Oh really? Tell me more! Always interested in hearing stories of successes.

[@AmandaNicole-yw5wl]

This is what Ana Graciela Blackwelder does, she has changed my life.

[@AmandaNicole-yw5wl]

After raising up to 60k trading with her, I bought a new house and car here in the US and also paid for my son’s (Oscar) surgery. Glory to God.shalom.

[@SamanthaBrooke-kn1tx]

I know Ana Graciela Blackwelder, and I have also had success...

[@SamanthaBrooke-kn1tx]

Absolutely! I have heard stories of people who started with little or no knowledge but managed to emerge victorious thanks to Ana Graciela Blackwelder.

[@rosemarykelley3078]

Sounds like total Narcissistic behavior.🙄 BUT, we actuality do not know enough to make a judgment call. I seriously love coffee but i would NOT risk missing a flight to get coffee.

[@jennifergriffin5467]

I don't think the husband bears fault here. SHE, left him, over a cup of coffee. (Eve disobeying.) In a rightly ordered marriage, the husband is in charge. Over a cup of coffee? I believe she's self- centered.

[@thebretya]

For someone whose never been in such a situation your perspective is enlightening. 👍

[@jcue4885]

Another thing to consider would be their luggage - if there are valuable/sentimental items in their luggage, someone would need to be on the other end of that flight to collect their luggage. Sadly, it could be very complicated protecting it and/or getting it returned. That would be a sound reason to get on the plane - even for the sake of the delayed spouse.

[@HisLove4You]

Spot on Father!

[@tomgnau]

Most decent husbands would not see that as a dilemma. A frustrating situation, an occasion for anger maybe, but most husbands know what they would do.

[@hannahkirchner1656]

I might have canceled the trip. Just forget it. I'm going home. You can make your joe with Mr. Coffee, and we don't get on the plane. Done. Her disrespecting their schedule is a big no. But then, I'm not married. But if I was, I wouldn't have been as stupid as she was. Just. get. on. the. plane.

[@ChristinaHope08]

Thank you Fr. Mike😊 This is a very beautiful message❤

[@lanamolczyk5139]

I immediately looked at this differently. I've been married 34 years and my husband had any kind of worry about missing the flight I would have just said, " No problem, I'll hit the coffee shop on our return flight home".

[@joellynscheuers4179]

I'm married 39 years, my husband would never let me be that stupid, nor would he leave me behind.

[@joebarzo9935]

How good must that coffee have been? Hope it was worth it.

[@LucilleMedina-lw1xu]

😂😂😂

[@desireesilveiraobm]

I don't love coffee that much. And if my husband says Don't go, I don't. There are few things he has an opinion about, and when he does share one I'm listening.

[@richardgrego]

That’s a great dilemma lol. Made me smile Thanks Father

[@rosegerdes3935]

I might get on plane and wait near the entry to keep the doors open for a few extra minutes. And, ask for spouse's name over loudspeaker!

[@ICMLJ]

Lost the war on this one.....you're absolutely right on this one Fr Mike!

[@LucilleMedina-lw1xu]

😂😂😂

[@teriquintana1457]

This one is awesome!!! It’s definitely something that could’ve happened to us. My husband and I discussed it and after being married 40 years, we both said we wouldn’t have boarded the plane. We would have definitely tried to speak to someone at the gate and have her paged but wouldn’t have left on the plane. Yes, it would’ve have been an I told you so rest of the day 🙈

[@shannonabeywardena7323]

Thank you, Father Mike!!! Congratulations on the success of your new book!!!! We are very grateful for all you are doing for the Church!!!

[@cSheZillA]

I’m so paranoid I’ll miss my flight that I won’t risk it. 😅 we are usually traveling as a family so we try to allow for extra time so that we can get beverages, use a restroom and be ready.

[@adam101af]

I'm surprised by your take on this, Father and have to disagree. The husband was being rational and responsible, yet his actions are the ones being questioned? The wife was acting irresponsibly and selfishly; she is the one who put her petty wants ahead of her husband, her marriage and her commitment to be on time. Some need to learn the hard way...there are consequences to actions; she has no one to blame but herself.

[@shylalouis5443]

Father Mike, you hit the nail on the head!!! It’s so true, this is the most importance earthly relationship, it cannot and should not be replaced by anything or anyone. I am saying this coz I have had to defend this truth so many times in my life but never won this battle, I have been told I am heartless, not a good Christian coz I have tried my best to hold this truth that this is the most important relationship after our relationship with God.

[@lebell79]

Lesson to me is: marry a prudent woman.

[@LucilleMedina-lw1xu]

My husband said that he’d be the one to run to get the coffee and he’d be the one to miss the flight 😂😂😂

[@ben0298]

If the roles were reversed as you describe, everyone would say it was the husbands fault for missing the flight. No doubt about it 😅

[@nhatlienhoan]

​@@ben0298I think she meant that in that situation: wife wants to get coffee and husband to go on or not, her husband would offer to run get the coffee (maybe because he's faster? Idk or out of gentlemanship..) And ended up missing flight. She "spoke" in a delight tone so I don't think she meant super serious. Just a good smile.

[@kristiasburry3673]

I wouldn’t have gone on the plane ✈️… I would have called my husband and tell him to hurry … people are loading the plane ✈️… I treat my husband like I would want him to treat me ♥️ I wouldn’t want him to leave me… why would I want to get on the plane without him ❤ Our Spouses are our best friends… would we leave our best friend behind?

[@dann285]

You left one thing out. Was your original premise that he should not go and get the coffee? Or was it sure, go get your coffee. Love that you are best friends as I am with my wife. Question, is the Husband the head of the wife?

[@kristiasburry3673]

I think my husband would have offered to go get the coffee or he would have went with me to get the coffee. He is the head of our family and I am the heart ♥️ in our family. He is also the protector ♥️ we have been married 46 years. We often share the roles. I think we really truly meant our wedding vows, for better or for worse, until death do we part. We are far from being perfect, but God is in the center of our marriage and God somehow keeps us strong. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. I just learned, our purpose in life … if we are marriage is to help each other and our

[@kristiasburry3673]

… ooops 🙃 and our children get to heaven. Blessings to you and your family and I pray that you continue to be best friends. Communication is always important 😊 and keep God in the center ♥️ “With God All Things Are Possible”

[@kristiasburry3673]

Ooops 🙃 … I guess I don’t know my husband well. He told me he would have left on the plane ✈️

[@cesarantonio3183]

I agree with you Fr. Schmidt, the marriage relationship is the most important thing here. Whatever other influences and circumstances affected the husband’s action in this particular situation, the main concern here really is the marriage relationship of this couple.

[@lisadakar9928]

Coffee??? Seriously ? If she was going for Starbucks then I would have left her too...lol

[@elenarewd9299]

Is this my husband? My husband would have been the one to run for the coffee. 😂 I would not have gotten on the plane. Why? It’s just a plane. I noticed people talking about consequences for actions…umm is this your spouse or your child? There are no consequences to the person you vowed to stay with til death. Say it together “it’s just a flight”. You can get on another one. Why cause a crack in the windshield and affect the integrity of the windshield when it can be avoided? Why make your spouse resent you? Why would anyone cause issues with the person they have to sleep next to every night? There are many times my husband is horrifically late. I’ve learned to breathe deeply and let it go! He’s my husband. I should be more forgiving, more loving, more empathetic than any other person in his life. I want to build the virtues that God wants me to have. So if God wants me to build the virtue of patience, guess what? My husband will help me build it. I’m not perfect either. So I shouldn’t expect perfection from my spouse. The reasoning on why she did what she did doesn’t actually matter. If she did it to avoid visiting family, well now her husband has to listen to why she is avoiding it while they wait for the next flight. If she’s absentminded, now’s the time to sit and wait for the next one and have a conversation about time management. In a loving matter, with respect, since we all want that from our spouses.

[@thehitomiboy7379]

The details you left out matter a whole lot. He did the right thing. You talk about his love for her is why he wouldnt board. But the only reason this predicament existed was that she, who has a history of similarly abusing him, did not love him. Wheres the talk about HER love? Also she was powertripping, making him choose between hia daughter (but not hers) and her. Mind that he needed to go to help his daughter move.

[@M4TCH3SM4L0N3]

I am curious about the context to which you're referring. Where did you learn all this? Certainly she broke faith with him first no matter how you split it, but marriage is not a contract (I will love you AS LONG AS YOU LOVE ME), it is a covenant (I will love you AS LONG AS I LIVE). Note: this doesn't mean one must always submit to abusive behavior, but there's definitely a fine line being tread here, especially depending on how this story came to be posted on the Internet.

[@thejasonle]

Nailed it

[@thejasonle]

@@M4TCH3SM4L0N3 there was a Reddit story that explains the context.

[@tatripp]

That's the most real husband/wife conflict I've ever heard.

[@raoulmotman6194]

I have been married for 11 days now 😊 we either get on the plane together or we getting the coffee together and then try to make the plane

[@IONov990]

Congrats newlywed

[@cbrackett7042]

No matter what the situation you never leave your spouse behind. Please pray for this couple. LOVE YOU FR MIKE! GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY ❤✝️🕊

[@Captndavo]

My wife has an incredible problem with punctuality. I’m also super neurotic about being on time. This sounds like a nightmare to me. If it was me and mine, I would have gotten on the flight and prayed she made it like she said she would.

[@JanetOConnor]

I agree with you! A marriage is far more important than getting to a destination. We should honor and respect our spouse.

[@sharabelle2]

Lots of unknow factors surrounding the relationship dynamics- but I wouldn’t chance missing a flight😅😂😊

[@myfakinusername]

That's just disrespect on the wife's side, I'm sorry father Schmitz...She chose coffee over her husband

[@BiornBear]

Why is the question about him? What about her not listening to him? The question is always about what the guy did, I think let’s talk about what the woman did.

[@wvmontani]

Good for him. Hopefully that will teach her a lesson. The whole institution of marriage started going down the drain when they took the words "Love, Honor, and Obey" out of the bride's wedding vows. If she had listened to him and done what he said, she never would have missed the flight. It is entirely her own fault.

[@user-hi9nf6dg9z]

Oh dear, I would have boarded the plane. But, Fr. Mike is 100% correct.