The Secrets of Sex in Sacred Union w/ Vylana Marcus | Aubrey Marcus Podcast

Vylana and I have been on a quest to unlock the full potential of our sexual expression. On this unabashedly vulnerable podcast, we talk about everything. The truth is that most of us, including Vylana and I had exiled certain aspects of our sexuality. But in doing so, we deny ourselves the birthright to fully engage with life and connect to the divine. In this special bonus episode, we offer an opportunity to explore the inner workings of our intimate relationship. Be sure to check out the release of Vylana’s new single “Out Of Exile”, which explores her own autobiographical journey to reclaim her sexual sovereignty.
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About the Podcast
Founder of Onnit and modern philosopher Aubrey Marcus asks the important questions: How do we find our purpose, wake up to who we truly are, have a few more laughs, and human being a little better?
The Aubrey Marcus Podcast brings in world-class guests from the fields of athletics, health, business, fitness, science, relationship and spirituality, and asks them to open up about the failures and successes that define their wisdom and character.
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[@Vamusika]

We really shouldn't sleep with random strangers we know nothing about, their energies, their traumas etc get entangled with ours. Especially for a woman it wreaks havoc on her hormones and spiritual body. It's got nothing to do with shame, it's more about what's good/bad for us. Besides, shame isn't always bad, it keeps us from committing the same mistakes, i believe. Please don't give yourself away to anyone and everyone who doesn't deserve it ladies, you're precious! 💖💖 Much love

[@robertapascal6962]

Exactly! Our p*$$¥ is so sought after for a reason. Give it the respect and reverence it deserves.

[@evadeeden2446]

HOW DOES IT AFFECT THE HORMONES PLEASE I BEEN LOOKING FOR ANSWERS EVERYWHERE

[@evadeeden2446]

I thibk itd kinda shady

[@Alexandra-ch5jp]

That’s Why we should learn to make a spiritual exchange sex and not an exchange of energie sex!

[@rosedhillon8322]

I think I agree it’s for both men and women too many sexual partners definitely has some negative effect on our spiritual body. Religion didn’t explain it well they pushed fear however we need some education around this.

[@thp3free71]

In David Hawkins "Letting Go" in the chapter on sex, he chronicles how many couples report a transformation in sexual/relational experiences, were it just keeps getting better and better, as their hangs ups fall away. Experiencing orgasms which are not in your organ, but now in the whole body, then in the entire room, then further expanding into the universe. Thanks Aubrey and Vylana for exploring this taboo subject, as we all search for more experiences of the Divine, the deepest of our soul's desires.

[@Innerdiamond]

Great book. But it's never outside the Self. Always about bringing the suppressed aspects of self is always new.

[@Silvermoonscorpion]

My husband and I have that together. Part of me almost always leaves my body. It's not scary, it's ecstasy. Seriously. Words fail. The things I see, experience. Places I see. The waterfalls I fly through during an orgasm. It's bliss. My orgasms are much more than just the crotch. My whole body, through my crown. It's other worldly..

[@JG-ue2cv]

What the hell was that? These two brag about your “monagamy” but he still screws other women. And she celebrates it? Holy Shit.

[@SuperSarahbop]

Right! I feel bad for her. She’s still living her traumas.

[@Sindiya]

She doesn’t come off as honest when she says, I don’t mind watching you with another woman “even if it’s not with me.” Every Goddess only wants his eyes on her, not her and other women. Her words sound dead like she is trying to convince herself that it’s ok. Maybe she is just lying to herself, but you could feel her hurt despite her words. Aubrey has not outgrown his poly-amoury ways, if he convinced his monogamist wife that this is good for her. Aubrey’s look on his face is like he got his cake (monogamist wife) and other women, his dream all along since sharing his woman was what was hard for him. The way they talk is like a cult trying to justify their distorted ways, but the eyes don’t lie, the Soul doesn’t lie, this relationship feels fragile and not sacred, using the word “sacred” to justify distortion. Both of them have a lot more growing to do. More maturity and truth from both of them is needed, it will be interesting to see the evolution or inevitable breakup when truth is recognized.

[@JG-ue2cv]

@@marciestoddard730 Exactly. What a controlling narcissistic bastard. She has major issues for allowing him to do this too. Zero respect for both of them.

[@danewgirl4]

Agree with y’all. I’ve been fan of him for years but it’s kind of messed up that he got out of a mutual poly relationship bc he couldn’t handle his woman being in love with another dude so now he found a woman that wants to have sex with him only yet chooses to remain poly himself. That just doesn’t resonate with me any way you try to put it. You can’t shine a turd. Needless to say I am happy in my mutual monogamous relationship and I don’t need any one’s advice on sex, even if I once looked up to them and the company they represented.

[@victoriaroyle3980]

That's because it isn't authentic , it's ALL from the Egoic self, nothing soulful about this what so ever, sex is for procreation not recreation. Tantric is Connection

[@ashlieengle5388]

I felt this too....I was actually heart broken at the end of this video...I've listened to aubrey every week for a long time...but it seems that she has to "overcome" her insecurities, but he is QUICK to say "but THANK GOD she doesn't want a man in our relationship". I listened to this while driving and felt her vibration and came on here to see her eyes...I don't think I need to mention anything else other than seeing and hearing her absent spark when she talks about watching (she entered this union with the understanding he wanted to be monogamist, but possibly manipulated to "facing her fears")....my heart goes out to her and aubrey both... Aubrey, are you moving forward? or are you bringing vylana into your past indulgence?

[@clariesage7236]

Yeah I disagree. I saw her eyes were still alive. The words and expression were harmonious. Maybe these thoughts are simply projections you have. Perhaps watch again?

[@Innerdiamond]

I had a relationship with a divine man for 5 years. We cultivated incredible trust and sensuality and became tantric lovers. We immersed in what we called "a bubble of joy." Fully present!! Our sexual life got better and better because of our trust and surrender to one another. Because we loved one another deeply is what made that depth of healing and feeling possible. Perfect fit and sensuality. Years later we reconnected and it was the same way. A divine love memory for the ages! Seek to experience that emotional sexual depth again. Most men I find are all in their mental heads and keep their emotions in check! I find it superficial.

[@swisstrader]

Wait??!! Deep love and didnt stay together…I dont get it

[@cosodesign8953]

Why did y’all separate?

[@loveinthematrix]

@@swisstrader In order to achieve the fullness of unconditional love, you will need to face the hour of separation. There is no forever in love in the physical world but it can exist in the spiritual world. Egos and personalities and different life paths will separate people. It doesn’t change the depth of the love.

[@trapsenpai]

@@loveinthematrix but isn't the point of this sort of thing to transcend our egos?

[@Innerdiamond]

I cant discuss his private matter. We didn't stay together because of something that caused him to emotionally retreat and take out his pain and anger playing violent video games as a dysfunctional outlet. After a ýear..it became to much. I left and it woke his ass up.

[@Hey_its_Dre]

Perfect example of - just because we can, doesn’t mean we should. You know what would really honor the divine spirit of your wife? Not giving into your desires and lust for other women. I cringe thinking about what your wife tells herself to make all of this okay.

[@tommyv2317]

This guys is a spiritual narcissist, you can feel it miles away. How come none of you notice that?

[@empresssunbow]

This podcast definitely left me feeling perplexed and kinda of confused. When she explains “him invited other women” into their container. She entire body language tells me she is not pleased with it. But it sounds like she wanted to overcome her jealous and convince herself she likes it. But there are many ways to overcome jealous without breaking the trust building bond. And it sounds like he is the one inviting so it’s a one sided interest. With something soooo intimate i don’t know someone can be invited with one sided interest. It be a different story if she is also interested in inviting the same person. And so interesting her lyrics says “my flower opens to your devotion” but one sided open relationship doesn’t feel like devotion for me. Devotion is 100% from both sides. As much as I love Aubrey’s podcast and want he has been birthing into the world. This reminds me of spiritual gaslighting and emotional bypassing honestly. 😢 Wishing love, strength and clarity to both of them (and all of us really, on the subject).

[@MissCurlyNerdy]

She doesn't seem comfortable to me throughout this whole talk tbh. A bit performative either bc of the audience or towards him.

[@2Sugarbears]

I agree.

[@aagemini707]

So why she don't leave if she uncomfortable as y'all say?

[@t.lc.777]

Well stated!

[@2Sugarbears]

I agree. The old double standard.

[@dr.jenniferma3914]

As a woman, I have to say I think she's being psychologically abused. Her traumas about being cheated on being thrust in her face and she's made to feel shame for being triggered. You can tell he has brainwashed her to believe that "as long you're there" or, "as long as I go home with you," that it's ok. She is shaking inside because she wants to be with a partner who ONLY wants to be with her. The way SHE feels. This power differential spells ABUSE.

[@BD-rl8qy]

Really glad there are people who can see through this! 100% agree with you!

[@erikatrautmane4671]

Perceived a similar thing. I am hearing their point and that is also a valid beautiful way of exploration, but something just feels so off and deeply unauthentic. I still love them both though, and wish them to be 100% honest with theirselves and one another., eventually

[@analea6531]

I don’t think she’s being abused, my opinion is that she’s delusional and think this is the only way she “can have her man to herself “ by feeling like she’s the one allowing it to happen. Like since she’s there and watching she is kinda participating so it’s not cheating because he has her permission and that’s sad. Because they talk a lot about reciprocity but even he admitted he was happy she didn’t want to engage with other men so he knows damn well that’s f*cked up. I was flabbergasted listening to this podcast because of course they love each other but I realized you can see people online fantasize about their relationship only to find what they have to do in order to be together. If that works for them cool but that’s not near my ideal of a relationship

[@trapsenpai]

what the... he cheated on her!? (haven't watched yet)

[@keganturner9256]

woah

[@susanqbrown]

Thank you! Right after I consciously conceived my son, I had the epiphany that "it feels good getting the baby in and it's designed to feel good getting the baby out!" I did give birth, it was a completely pain-free ecstatic/orgasmic birth in a hot tub outside. People have a hard time believing this, but it's all on video. The pain/shame/suffering around birth is mind-blowing.

[@erikacruz4296]

So Aubrey can be with other women and has her convinced that it's ok for him to do so and continue his polymorous ways, but she is not able to do the same. Giving Stockholm vibes, I always had a feeling he would revert back to poly. She needs to start listening to Dr. Ramani, this guy is suffering from NPD😳

[@heathermcdermott2171]

Nameste 🙏 dear soul it’s just their reality based off their agreements & process not good not bad ~ it’s their journey ~ observe stay neutral SHLAMA SHALOM ❤

[@Starscream2428]

now it feels like a manipulative harem building

[@JG-ue2cv]

That is exactly what he is doing. If I was ever in the same room with this guy I would be terrified.

[@trans4myourlife]

Oh wow..Aubrey seems to be the winner here...he pulls her out of pologamy because of intense jealousy...and then gets himself back in....and her out! He did a really good job of convincing her that alls good.. Just wow...narcissism at its best!

[@MJ-wi1tc]

There’s a fine line between being open sexually and being overly focused on pleasure. Hedonism leads to the negative, there is risk for wandering off the spiritual path to pursue pleasure

[@AA-to3hx]

You have a valid point, but we were born in a physical body, we are spirits originally, so we chose this body, to explore it, have experiences with it, not to let it aside and focus on our spirit, and be a hermit in a mountain. That’s my point but idk. 💜

[@justinwickee]

@@AA-to3hx Agreed, but key point is “ overly focused. “

[@justinwickee]

100%

[@MJ-wi1tc]

@@AA-to3hx the middle path is the hardest

[@sebastianbolt7886]

@@AA-to3hx I like what you said👍🏼

[@edieandy1]

One of my last video i have seen from him was that he is no longer poly, this was time when he just meet her i guess, and here we go again, man never changes, and hes energy seem very manipulative

[@edieandy1]

I think is time for unsubscribe

[@BertyTheBarista]

Don’t be fooled by the spiritual jargon peeps 😅

[@SuperSarahbop]

I love some of the subjects he covers. This one however hits different. Like he is having her on the show and being supportive of her to appease her and make up for doing things in his heart he knows isn’t great.

[@tegan5477]

"Codes" 😂

[@AshimDream]

Fckin wild! Definitely on the Wokeism spectrum all of this bs

[@marijkevandermeer2772]

She says she feels safe with Marcus but in my opinion the fact that Marcus imposes this on her is a sign of his not being safe...

[@dr.jenniferma3914]

She's in massive denial.

[@SuperSarahbop]

🎯

[@marijkevandermeer2772]

@@dr.jenniferma3914 yes, I think that too...it is an immediate result of her past and present traumatization....

[@SuperSarahbop]

Yes and she will continue to relive these kinds of things until she breaks the cycle and the lessons to be learned are learned

[@marijkevandermeer2772]

@@SuperSarahbop yes, and I strongly hope that this process will as short and less painful as possible .... 🙏

[@billsmith3593]

I smell a lot of pain in her and a true man stays devoted to his woman while expanding his spiritual life. Not his sex life. I've done my share or aya, ibo and 5-meo and backed away from that community when it became too much, "And now a word from our Sponsor by Burning Man."

[@camilacestari3642]

I was so uncomfortable watching this conversation. What it seems to me is what often happens, an incredible woman who has suffered trauma in relationships, becoming insecure and incorporating a role that doesn't speak to her heart. As if she was trying to convince herself of this story. I'm not an expert in body language, but I know some things and despite the smile, the micro gestures show that she herself doesn't believe what she's saying, but tries to convince herself otherwise. And all those dry swallows just show how nervous and uncomfortable she is talking about him having sex with other women in front of her. People who are more awake know that sacred union and sacred sex is very different from the ego's pursuit of pleasure. In addition to reaching a high level of sexual alchemy, it is within a monogamous relationship, so as not to mix harmful energies that come from other people outside that relationship. This talk of lust being sold as love to me is a way of deceiving yourself to justify these attitudes driven by selfishness, self-centeredness and materialism. Unfortunately it seems to me that she is speaking the words he wants to hear in a desperate way to try to hold him back, falling into the same pattern of previous relationships as she mentioned, in which she used persuasive methods to get the person to stay through sex. It's the same pattern repeating itself at another pole. I also feel that there is a lack of emotional responsibility and empathy on Aubrey's part, because if I knew that my partner had all these pains I would not put him in this situation, it seems to me like manipulation (she is afraid of losing me, so I abuse it, I make her go through this situation and then I reward her by coming home with her and saying how my admiration and attraction for her is bigger), but all coins have two sides and I think incorporating the goddess is very connected to respecting your own beliefs, limitations and learning to say NO to what is not acceptable for you. Whether this is a reason for separation or not, but live your truth above all else. I honestly think that one day she will meet a man present in his healed masculine who will want to be devoted to her as a monotheist hahaha and then Aubrey will be in trouble.

[@keganturner9256]

i’m curious

[@jasminnobari8069]

I thought exactly the same.. I feel compassion with Vylana, since I can literally feel she is trying to convince herself to be "okay" with all of that.

[@dominikapilis803]

This!!

[@gardengyal2.018]

I mean she’s reaping the energetic benefits and gaining access to all of the women’s sexual energy Aubrey connects to without having to directly participate. So from a sex magic or energy harvesting perspective, she’s thriving not writhing in pain.

[@doveo1111]

Beautiful and opening share. But it does feel a bit bypassing to call what you all are doing "monogamy". Sex with multiple female partners is something else. It is also not surprising that she doesn't take a male other partner : as ultimately this is transgressing her commitment to her man - and keeps herself safe. Au may say he is supportive - which is very different from actually witnessing his wife with another partner - which could raise an energy of violence. The dynamic they maintain is the same old same old dynamic from days of old - men free to fuck multiple women - and women are restrained - ultimately by a deep need for safety and need not to anger their mate. He is getting whatever he wants. She is rich and kept beautifully. Let's be real. Beautiful people. I am not against this dynamic. But it is not new or fresh. It is THE age old dynamic between rich and powerful men and their gorgeous powerful and kept women.

[@doveo1111]

oh and he "had" covid. and so did she. lmao. Ok. I get it why hardcore truther and awake community is not. into this guy. You all are gorgeous though for sure.

[@deezed6478]

I agree except I am against this dynamic

[@cherellerubins4441]

Despite what she said about enjoying his pleasure as the voyuer, it still makes my heart sad that knowing her past, she has still watched him be with other women within their marriage when she clearly does not share the same desire. I cant help but feel there is still some pain in this, despite her lack of outward expression of it. It just hit my heart on a different level. If I was in that situation with them (not saying I would be) then my focus would be on trying to provide her with the greatest pleasure imaginable. She deserves to feel every ounce of desire from her husband, in my opinion.

[@ian4040]

This dude doesn't realize how good he has it. If my wife was that hot and that into sex, I wouldn't be looking elsewhere, lol.

[@carloschristians4991]

Maybe, and please consider that maybe is all in your head. I feel that sometimes, we fall into the trap of thinking that another person is not realizing something we slightly put ourselves morally above that other person. It's her path and I see her as very conscientious person.

[@cherellerubins4441]

@@carloschristians4991 I think that's a good point to make, and she is definitely a conscientious person. Probaby a much better person than me, but as a person who is not married and has not even wanted to be married yet, I don't feel like I am projecting. She did not really want to talk about that specific topic before Aubrey basically made the decision for them, she said "oh i guess we're talking about this". And a lot of this podcast has also been honoring the sacred union of marriage specifically, and not to say that they cannot express pleasure in their marriage their own way, because of course they can, but all I am saying, is my heart did not resonate with what was said in that section of the podcast.

[@carloschristians4991]

Thank you for expressing it, is beautiful. In my experience, I have had partners express to me that they would find pleasure in seeing me with another woman. We never took action, probably because of the complexity it would bring to the relationship and the map that was missing to navigate those waters. It always remained in the realm of a fantasy/permission that was given and for me it was like receiving a sacred gift from a goddess. I treasured it and kept it safe within my heart. Hearing Vylana talk about it in that section and seeing her perspective has brought back those moments that to me at the time felt divine. So now I wonder If that expression comes from sacred love in a safe container with a truly special person and is an aspect of the divine feminine.

[@danysnow4237]

Totally agree. It hurt my heart as well but I could tell they were gonna go down this road a few months ago when she was on. I think she thinks this was all her idea but it was really something else influencing her into thinking this is a good idea.

[@jupitersrose287]

I love when you two do shows together!! 🥹😍 love you both so much!!

[@justanotherlight6893]

I so look forward to cultivating a relationship dynamic even somewhat close to this! I am so happy for the 2 of you in finding each other!

[@kellystorm6760]

Yes that is what Im saying ,Im like Yay, the dynamic of relationships is changing and that is so wonderful. Love your comment and thank you ,sending love.💖💖💖💖

[@tiffanyrenee1650]

Yes! Absolutely pure, raw & unfiltered. So beautiful ❤️🙌

[@ViagensGringa]

YES I loved hearing her sing and Aubreys knowing chuckle. Thank u for talking about how safety opens up pleasure. ❤ and how the masculine showing up to provide that safety and give back rather than take will allow the feminine to fully flower 🌸 Im unlocking all of this now ❤❤❤

[@SuperSarahbop]

Trust unlocks a woman’s true power and that guides men to mastery. The Madeline did this for Yeshua . She was more advanced than he was spiritually, but her love for him and complete trust in him brought him to her level.

[@SuperSarahbop]

I don’t know how watching her husband have sex with other women helps her trust him though. Him promoting her music comes off as appeasing her for some reason.

[@SelfAugment]

That chuckle 😏

[@Jennyxxle]

Sex transmutation is so incredibly powerful. I just shared a personal report on this on youtube as well. How I was be able to experience one of my most spiritual experiences through sacred sex. Thank you so much for sharing this so honest and authentic! I can resonate with every word🫶🏻✨

[@AjayKumar-yv9nc]

Hello

[@4real277]

So Aubrey (the rich guy) sleeps with other women but his wife (the “artist”) doesn’t. Big surprise. Not. He couldn’t handle the poly life for the woman in his life so he’s now with a woman who is used to guys sleeping around on her/ not being confident in her own pleasure... but she’s interpreting it as it’s for her. 😅 possibly true but highly unlikely.

[@trapsenpai]

seems true... very sad ): and look how beautiful she is. even i would never want to be in this position and she's way more gorgeous than me. she deserves more.

[@simonematamoros]

Vylana singing brought tears to my eyes. ❤ Thank you for this podcast. 🙏🏼

[@keganturner9256]

facts❤

[@laurenb916]

lol her voice sucks. my dog howls

[@ginap.7431]

YES! Love this conversation. Thank you both for this gift… for your vulnerability and for really going there. I believe conversations like these, especially between beloveds… which you two hold such a beautiful resonance, go a long way in showing the freedom, ecstasy, depth of love, and, and… that is available and attainable for us all through really knowing and healing ourselves❤️

[@kellystorm6760]

Omgoodness, I love your beautiful comment that you shared so brilliantly, lots of love to you .💖

[@Aquarius7172]

When you find your divine counter part you will feel no need to seek sex outside of this divinity

[@pinkandsavageofficial]

How do you know?

[@eyeswideopendevushka]

Sex creates soul ties, and people don't realize the aftermath and direct toll it will take on a person. When 2 bodies are meshed together as one, it affects people MUCH MORE than just on a physical level, and even an emotional /psychological level. But a spiritual level as well. And that's the main reason people need to avoid sexual encounters with strangers, as you don't know anything about their spiritual and emotional energies and past traumas that they carry with them, which can have the most dangerously devastating impact, affecting and taking a huge toll that can crush someone's Soul spiritually.

[@gardengyal2.018]

I mean she’s reaping the energetic benefits and gaining access to all of the women’s sexual energy Aubrey connects to without having to directly participate. So from a sex magic or energy harvesting perspective, she’s thriving not writhing in pain.

[@templeton4955]

Im a big fan of Aubrey, love his podcasts and how he thinks. However, Im surprised by him including another woman in his sex life after all of the posts about his own insecurity and jealousy when he was in a polygamous relationship. I don’t understand how you can call it a scared union or call a woman your goddess if she isn’t your only woman. I feel like those words lost their meaning. When I think of true love I think of an old couple enjoying each others presence, not the couple who constantly talks about how special, unique and magical their relationship is. I guess my point is, words can also be a cover. Every woman I’ve ever seen who has a polygamous boyfriend or husband looks sad inside.

[@katiep3027]

There's a statistic that something like 90% of poly relationships don't last and I definitely believe that. I have a friend who is poly and yes, she's open to more than one person but she's never happy truly. She goes through some dark places and theres a lot off work to be done that a partner or partners could never fix.

[@janice2532]

You guys being so open, it will make you successful in how ever you choose to live. When I was younger, this always ended up hurting people when they tried it. But we did not understand our emotions like you do now. It is a very fine line and a very good man that can make his wife know she is THE ONE regardless of someone else in your space for whatever period of time that you allow.

[@emmas5228]

I was fully open to all that was being spoken of and was learning up until this revelation, after that I saw the mask drop she looked un easy and he sounded like a cult leader, it seems he has talked his way into getting an unfavorable advantage in there relationship

[@2Sugarbears]

Yes, we always are very sad when the old double standard rears is ugly head. He's using the language of permission because he knows she loves to much to go to another man. That is so sad.

[@2Sugarbears]

@@janice2532 I doubt that it has truly changed. But then I couldn't share.

[@MandyDietel]

That was really putting me through several layers of emotion. Very healing. Thank you both!

[@kymb12]

I am manifesting souls like this into my life. I love everything about what you guys are here to share with the world💖

[@DT-ob6ce]

Same

[@calebscroggins5919]

Very beautiful comment Kim! I am doing the same! ❤

[@Infiniteyou77]

We meet in San Antonio TX for 1st of 2 solar eclipses, 10-14-23. There is something happening and we are about to start the marketing of the "Setting the Tone" events. Stay tuned.....

[@sharleenduplessis6632]

WOW love to hear! I am doing just the same! Enjoy oxo

[@mbass718]

This was great. I don't watch Aubrey all the time but their relationship is inspiring. This was very much what I needed to hear and personally similar to what I want. I had to comment above in a string where so many others were judging them. And bringing shame into the equation. I like your comment a whole lot better. Thank you 💜🙏🫂

[@Alexandra-ch5jp]

This Podcast is pure food for the mind and soul! I appreciate you so much for all the shows!🖖🏼

[@wendyboitel6559]

I agree submission is crucial for a healthy relationship and sexual connection. We tend to confuse the conscious state of submission with dominance. It is not safe to submit to someone who is influenced by power and dominance because then that person will abuse and take more. But like she says it has to start with knowing that the person is trustworthy through there actions and the way to tell is by living in integrity. With Integrity truth is all and you are less likely to deceive yourself and fall for an illusion. Your Integrity identifies integrity in others. When you find someone you can trust, who sees all of you and honors it , mmm just the act of submitting feels sooo good, the sex is extra 😊

[@orladowdsroddy3983]

This is such a fantastic and very much necessary podcast thankyou for being honest af and true to the bone as always

[@michameleon8078]

Once I've made my business grow this year... have my experience with the vine and have others flourishing around me is when I'll be open to a partner... this podcast was needed! Top ones.

[@TifaAnnTheEmpressJourney]

I'm just discovering you guys and wow love you both 💗 thank you 😊 no one talks about this especially in such an enlightened way !! 🙌

[@magichours3264]

I this conversation is so beautiful and song is full power!! I am feeling inspired for sure. Big love ❤

[@nataliiaostapiv6366]

I am beyond thankful and grateful that I met you guys and I watch some of your podcasts and this video just the perfect example of the couple and of the love and the expression of the sexuality and because of you I’ve finally get my spiritual name ❤ after I watch some episodes with you. You doing so much to this world 💫 just continue and you are the light and you are the power. Vylana your voice is unique and you touching the hearts ❤ of everyone who is ever listening to your songs and sound healing. You are beautiful soul 🦋💫

[@jh3873]

I was very interested in this episode, and especially loved Vylanas singing. The whole time I couldn’t shake off the fact that he doesn’t treat her with as much respect as his other guests. Then, when Aubrey initiated the whole “soft edge monogamy” conversation, this whole thing just fell apart. I am definitely someone biased towards monogamy, but so I’m not surprised I feel like this. However, after he himself talks about how he had too much jealousy and making jokes about “your sweetheart getting an ass-fucking” then turns around to get Vylana to admit he’s in a non-monogamous relationship is just too much contradiction. What happened to the idea that the flying bird has both patriarchal and matriarchal wings? Yin Yang? I am at such a loss. What the hell.

[@jh3873]

I am glad that Vylana does say that she has checked in with herself to figure out whether or not she wants to bring a man into their “container”. Cool, as long as she’s genuine about it, the way Aubrey reacts to her not wanting it as well definitely brings in the thought that he couldn’t handle it if she did want that. Maybe he knows she never will want it, so he gets what he wants, and never has to face the fear and negativity of being jealous. In the end, all the love to Vylana, as she definitely seems to be the disadvantaged one in this dynamic.

[@keganturner9256]

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[@marlana.bright]

I cannot possibly say how much I needed this podcast, exactly when it was posted. Thank you both so very, very much for what you do. Thank you, Vylana, for your medicine.

[@janice2532]

She is so perfect.

[@adriennevanberg4068]

You are both reaching incredible depths of healing for yourselves and to be able to take your experiences and share them creatively so we can connect is divine ❤ And to do it through this lens of relationship you have with each other is so supportive and delicious and allowing for an incredible expansion in self discovery and now pouring out for humanity. I love all you both share through your vulnerability and authenticity. Thank you 🙏💫

[@kellystorm6760]

Ahhhh, how beautifully felt ,I love how you shared so perfectly the feelings Inspired from this gift. Thank you sweety , lots of love to you,😊💖

[@jbuckelew30]

So great to meet Vylana. I hadn't listened to anything with both 9f you and I was pleased I did.

[@JohnRegansReviewsTutorialsMore]

Great episode. Something I've noticed about Aubrey watching these, and it's a sign of truly being awake, is he can go from the loftiest idea to the most juvenile and crass joke and right back to lofty ideas. Repressed "Holy" people are a sham and it's great to see this.

[@AltarToRememberance]

That ability reminds me of the koan: "A senior monk and a junior monk were traveling together. At one point, they came to a river with a strong current. As the monks were preparing to cross the river, they saw a young and beautiful woman also attempting to cross. The young woman asked if they could help her cross to the other side. The two monks glanced at one another because they had taken vows not to touch a woman. Then, without a word, the older monk picked up the woman, carried her across the river, placed her gently on the other side. The younger monk couldn’t believe what had just happened... Finally the younger monk blurted out: “As monks, we are not permitted to touch a woman, how could you then carry that woman on your shoulders?” The older monk looked at him and replied, “Brother, I set her down on the other side of the river, why are you still carrying her?”

[@evanwalgren9591]

Vylana and aubrey lift my frequencies volcanically!

[@zuzanakovacova6894]

I really appreciate Aubrey’s work and his interviewing skills. But I feel like he’s done it again. Similar situation with his ex Caitlyn, Whitney and now his wife. I also love how all of the women didn’t like the idea at the begging and then agreed later that that’s basically so good for them and their relationship. Each to their own but body language and micro expressions don’t lie. I really thought he finally got it with vylana, when he was talking about how polyamory is like communism. That, it’s a great concept but never works. They do the same thing now again, just named it differently. I am not against polyamory, or any other concept. Just find it interesting watching him go through realisations and then “changing “ but at the end going back to his own ways just calling it a different way. How is it possible that all of these women changed their opinions when being with him.

[@aagemini707]

Monogamy doesn't work either

[@dominikapilis803]

Exactly, she doesn't seem like she really means all the beautiful phrases she uses to describe the experience of your husband basically having sex with other woman in front of your eyes....

[@Erosdan108]

Dear Vylana and Marcus, This is Pure GOLD, Thank You. I Am Honestly a tad envious of your liberation and life experiences, However whole Heartedly Congratulation.you both on achieving said, in our religiously f@#kef up societies. Having very unfortunately being born in the 60s to a multi generational catholic family I can confirm the Damage around sex, sexuality and sexual expression is broken beyond recognition. My so called education was sex was something only married people could do and then Only if reproduction was goal. I understood anything else was evil. As you can guess l never fitted in anywhere and my naivety has lead to much pain and isolation. Now I find that these very same brothers, priest and nuns where often f##king their brains out or at least some of my classmates. I hope your message reaches everyone possible before it is too late for them. Your are both A Sexual God and Goddess from my pov.

[@patric5076]

Thank you for this video. Vylana thank you for verbalizing what most of us females feel in society. I applaud you for having the strength to come into your power.

[@xandercage8394]

It's so funny to hear newlyweds who have been together a handful of years and haven't really been through squat talk like they are authorities on relationships. These two will flame out in 5 years and then they'll both talk about divorce like they know everything about that too. Thanks for the laughs.

[@laylarahman11]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@robertwilliams14]

Wow this is so good. Y'all are exceptionally, lovely humans.

[@SoulLaugh]

Wonderful podcast! Thanks for being so willing to share ❤❤❤

[@CreativeSoul333]

Wow! So beautiful to have such a sacred Union! I am so happy to see people happy together & in love ❤

[@monikgb9332]

Man.. it's exhausting even to listen to..

[@mkabalistic]

This podcast sadly reveals how this man that i actually resoect and admire in certain ways, is completely blue pilled when approaching relationships dynamics. Woman saying “im a modern sexually liberated female” is just saying i like to fuck and im willing to loose my ability to bond with a man and if i get pregnant i just abort that thing again”. Ig you think thats ok and it doesn’t have a negative repercussion on society you haven’t think enough about this!

[@braxtongilbert]

Can't wait to check this one out later!

[@shristybose1596]

Thanks vylana and aubrey. Awesome episode. I loved how vylana let us through all her experiences and learnings.

[@mountainviewpersonaltraini2144]

Thank you for this. I learned so much and all of the different points of view. It really opened my eyes to what I think and made me question it which was beautiful.

[@veronikabarek9219]

This is a great podcast! I had a very similar relationship that Vylana was talking about. We had the most beautiful sex. It was otherworldly! But it was so toxic. Cheater, beat my ass several times, name calling, all that stupid BS. But I completely can understand this. You DO reach a connection to Source. It’s part of what made me stay. Because it wasn’t just fucking. It was beyond making love. He’s dead now and I haven’t had sex with anyone since. Been a few years but I’m definitely waiting for the right partner

[@josiemejia9413]

This was such a powerful podcast, I finally felt so seen with Vylana speaking! She is so inspirational and I love how Aubrey is so supportive.

[@calig2349]

Just started watching, 6 minutes in and 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾 just from your other content I know that this is going to be a good one.

[@ancientgypsy8338]

The intimidation and inspiration this woman makes me feel ❤️💕

[@judyny2293]

this was so helpful 🥰 thank you🤍🌞

[@appleid1]

Sacred is between two people... growing together.. and bringing in other people in the sacred sex world is, in my opinion, just sex not sacred. Being liberated is an excuse for poly sex... Not wrong just not sacred.

[@marijkevandermeer2772]

Analyzing the conversation you see that each time Vylana refers to the hardships and to the pains in her life Marcus shifts very deliberately to another subject...

[@SuperSarahbop]

And he promotes her music to appease her

[@cjcat4162]

I’ve noticed in all his conversations with his ex lovers, he focusses on their hardship and trauma and either their fault in not appeasing him (Caitlin) or his role in saving them (Vylana) no(and as you say, moving on quickly when they start to unpack it). he rarely talks to those he claims to be in sacred Union with about his own trauma or any sense of shame (unless it’s about how poly wasn’t for him)

[@clariesage7236]

Maybe the show is not the time to explore that depth for their sake

[@brianwade8649]

Sorry but the truth is that this is psychologically very one-sided. At around the 49 minute mark, he admits that he is "secretly happy" - which is also a form of dishonesty since saying it out loud lets her know exactly how he really feels - that he would not like her being with another man. So she honestly wants him to have his fantasy but he honestly would be disappointed if she had hers if it was to be with another man. That is manipulative.

[@JG-ue2cv]

Exactly. I honestly think he sleeps around with the other women in their “group” that helps him put on all these festivals.They are working on getting more famous people in on this group too, that’s how I found out about their whole schill.

[@SuperSarahbop]

@J G, that just leaves a bad taste in my mouth. The more I learn about what he’s doing behind closed doors the less I want to know. It’s abusive behavior.

[@dr.jenniferma3914]

Oh he's a raging narcissist, dressed in spiritual garb. He found the perfect power structure: FOR HIM.

[@SuperSarahbop]

Most people wanting to be a guru of some kind are massive narcissist

[@trapsenpai]

@@dr.jenniferma3914 that sucks ): because i used to really like him

[@sheliftsmore]

Also we are “lifestyle couple” we have a saying, “try everything once, we never have to do it again….Always learning and exploring together. That is apart of our connection to each other the safety and to push each other without label. But the power exchange happens, energetically sexually and non sexual. But nothing like being connected in the most taboo moments… totally get y’all! ❤

[@jaredshipley3969]

I got chills when she was singing

[@laylarahman11]

The eyes chico, they never lie.

[@troyallenart817]

Happy Friday Aubrey😎👊

[@ancientgypsy8338]

What a beautiful and provoking conversation

[@TheFletchgizzard]

We will return to the same teachers until we finally learn the lessons 🙏 maybe not in this lifetime - but in this one, maybe its enough for Vylana to know she is seen. And for Aubrey to know he is seen, too.

[@Manaviecreations]

so much gratitude. With the ending letter sounds of “ck”, I feel so jarred from the sound of the word f@ck. That end sound is breaking something, cracking something, shattering, slamming a wall. The soft vowel sounds of the word “love” feels so flowing and soft.

[@evawilldrive]

That's a Good Song, Vylana, and a Good Voice! Thank You!

[@georgepettie242]

Hemi-Synch is the reason sexuality is so studied in ancient cultures and religious philosophies from many worldwide sources. Complete focus of the two aspects in the sexual act into the zero point of the now can create new life and release immense change on the physical world through this manifestation.

[@android429]

Thank you Vylana, Thank you Marcus ❤️🙏🏼🥰🎶🌻

[@keganturner9256]

y’all are beautiful together 🧃❤️🇺🇸

[@annashevchenko506]

Wow! What a conversation you guys have❤ Thank you for shining your love on us. This is empowering and inspiring!

[@gkelley2383]

Those books opened up many a conversation!

[@DjVButterflyLaMariposa]

November need to get here 🔜 ❤ I can’t wait to see & hear the entire album via estereo❤

[@Theconsciousmovement]

What is going on today is more sense gratification, in ego, than the actual art of merging together as two unites within the one. Tantra is to unite the + and - to which the energy propells upwards and can bring revelations and tranformations. Sense gratification, is to simply desire for the I, and sorry that say it, many people are in that, just like drinking, drugs, and alike. To fine tune the sexual art requires mastery and transendence of the ego. In men, the semen is the potential energy souce for higher states of energy. It should not be wasted, that is to say one can have orgasm, without ejaculation.

[@lovewaterhealing]

I see pregnancy within your relationship in 4 months, if that is what brings you joy. I have only listened to this video 20 minutes and I was told to tell you. Much love to you both!!!

[@andreahighsides7756]

Hey it’s okay but you might have schizophrenia. There’s nothing wrong with that, but things might be easier if you talk to someone about the voices you hear. Much love.

Now they should tell if pregnant, maybe you were right or then voices lied…

[@marianna8589]

Thank you Vylana. Your openness has unlocked the wounded part of me. Thank you.

[@estemac8625]

Sex is like cold pizza. When it’s good , it’s good. When it’s bad, it’s still pretty good. - I didn’t even watch the video.

[@suckseedorsuckeggs]

And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love, you make- The Beatles

[@aplik881]

Thanks for sharing, surely a lot of us ate going through and to a reclaiming of their srxual empowerment. I do. And it is really a reconnection to the divine, letting go of the fear and/or expectations when sexung/making love to only surrender to the natural sensual surreal flow.

[@fredastair3338]

She's learned to let it all go to loose yourself to find yourself

[@fatimacarrion9087]

I loooooved this episode till… i didnt. I dont understand how que talks about their sacred union and devoting to her and then talking about inviting other women. What happens if she decides she no longer wants that in their relationship?

[@LawDragOn]

Id be open to a mutual beneficial experience with Vylana that would further our sexual liberation and explore her inner sexuality. I know Aubrey would give us his blessing and encouragement.

[@PixieDustSpiritAlchemy]

Are there any homosexual couples in sacred union sharing similar conversations to this? I would love to hear that. But thank you for your revolutionary discussions on this topic

[@bryanmilne]

This left me feeling quite a bit perplexed and feeling uneasy, and at the same time so glad for the bravery and deep vulnerability to explore this in depth. I am a fan of this podcast/vlog and watch pretty regularly. I've always been a little concerned and confused about Aubrey's understanding and rejection of polyamory and now I have more clarity. I think there is a major self delusion or misunderstanding going on if one thinks they are monogamous but still have sex with multiple partners. No judgement or anything but it isn't monogamy or even serial monogamy if you have sexual activity/relations with others while in a committed loving relationship. That is non-monogamy or polyamory. Of course there are many many different variations of how polyamory/non-monogamy manifest and take form. Unfortunately or fortunately what this confessional podcast exhibits is some very real fears and power dynamics that have a long long way to go in our species. Particularly regarding a subconscious continuum of romantic love as possessive for or source of "security" for both sexes. Also revealing is the dichotomy of acceptance for female bisexuality and deep disapproval or taboo of male bisexuality. I honestly mean no harm or judgement in sharing these thoughts as I feel myself caught in a similar paradox of uncertainty about what responsible non-monogamy looks like, my own desire to protect or exclude "my sweetheart" from others, my sexual attraction to the same sex and agreement about the potential pain and suffering associated with being in a non-monogamous relationship where one isn't feeling compersion. Thinking about situations where couples and throuples and all other sorts of polyamorous expression are truly experiencing feelings of compersion, I wonder if this possibility for humans is something we should all strive toward or maybe it's something that can only be a fantasy. I 'd like to know what the "Dragon" thinks of all this! To Aubrey and Vylana I wish you the best and thank you for this sharing of deeply vulnerable and personal parts of your relationship. It is so terrifying to delve into our shadows and share them outwardly, but I see how there is so much to be gained from this world and only by doing so can we begin to unravel this great story of the evolution of our consciousness as humans in this time and where we are going with our sexuality and power dynamics in particular. Thank you! ✨💐💚✨💐✨🌺🌀✨🌀✨🔥🔥🌟🫂🍄🌳🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊

[@analea6531]

I think in both of their cases they are self delusional. He is delusional when he thinks he’s still monogamous after having sexual relationships with other women while being in a committed marriage, that’s clearly the opposite of monogamy. And she is delusional thinking she is okay with that happening when it’s just a consequence of her trauma of being cheated on again and again so that she started feeling like the only way for her to be secure in a relationship is by giving him the permission to have sex with other women and because she gave permission and she is there with him it’s somehow still a monogamous marriage and he’s not cheating. But it’s not even polyamory because she is not participating, it’s a normalized cheating situation. What I find quite concerning is the fact that he recognizes that he would not be okay with her being “fucked” by another man and he is relieved she isn’t into it . That means he knows very well that’s not okay to have relationships with another one but still enjoy doing it like wtf. At the end of the day I think this is only going on because there’s no reciprocity as soon as she will do it too they gonna split because he would never be okay with that. He either knows she is willing to do this because of her traumatic past or he is unaware of the hurt that is causing her to share him like this and the inner building hurt resulting from this. At least in polyamory relationships everyone involved get a piece of the cake. This isn’t sacred in anyway, it’s either a cult or madness

[@dzihanahajdarpasicmisirlic5347]

if I understood well, he has sex with other women, and she does not have....for me this is not monogamous...i am too conservative for this model of relationships....

[@fatimacarrion9087]

I totally agree with you.

[@2Sugarbears]

All I know for sure is I couldn't and wouldn't do it. She could find a faithful man. They do exist.

[@mariangelaserrano1078]

So beautifully said I’m thankful for your comment

[@becomesuperman]

You guys are wonderful 🙏🙏

[@marijkevandermeer2772]

In my opinion Vylana seems to come from a traumatized mindset...she says she is used to relationships in which she is multiple cheated upon and betrayed....it seems to me that she is desperate to keep Marcus in the relationship where he has displayed a tendency and desire to polyamory...it is her traumatized reaction to a perceived potential loss or abandonment...

[@marijkevandermeer2772]

In my opinion Marcus knows this and should know this and he should protect her from her consent to enter in these triangulations...the fact that he does not protect her is a matter of disrespect on the side of Marcus...

[@marijkevandermeer2772]

Love is Respect...

[@dr.jenniferma3914]

@@marijkevandermeer2772 He doesn't love her.

[@danysnow4237]

Agreed. The whole thing turns me off.

[@danewgirl4]

@@danysnow4237 100% agreed.

[@Tagir70]

She experienced what she talking about. And this make magnetic feeling.

[@Indigo_outlaw]

I have never fully trusted a man. I'm aware that has more to do with me personally than the men, but damn, would be nice to find someone that you can fully surrender to. Thanks for this podcast, very thought provoking!

[@AjayKumar-yv9nc]

Firsr trust on yourself then trust on god you will definitely find trusted men

[@Indigo_outlaw]

@Ajay Kumar absolutely, I definitely have much more trust in myself these days. Still have some healing to do but on the way!

[@AjayKumar-yv9nc]

@@Indigo_outlaw where are you from?

[@AjayKumar-yv9nc]

@@Indigo_outlaw am from india and you can trust me as a good friend if you don't mind

[@fabienne8888]

Aww u guys give me hope ❤

[@pamgallant12]

Oooh lala what a fun surprise on a day that's not Wednesday!

[@lauraashley1]

🤣

[@danysnow4237]

How is this different than polyamory if he gets to bone other women?

[@Deep_Woodz]

The line between pain and pleasure is a thought

[@arturo_cruz]

Scientists have found pain in the same brain circuits that give you pleasure. So they are even biologically the same thing.

[@rivermurphy472]

Much love Aubrey