The Tradwife Movement is Making You Unhappy

Have you felt inadequate in your homemaking lately? Me, too. Let's change that.
With the uprising of tradwife perfection on social media, and accounts becoming viral-famous with glamorous clothing, perfect hair and makeup, and gourmet-from-scratch cooking, it's easy to feel like a failure as a homemaker.
But we fail to realize that behind every mega-aesthetic and mega-popular homemaking account, there are usually teams of people making the ultra-glam housewife happen. While I absolutely think you can wear pretty dresses, do your makeup, and enjoy a fairly tidy home, it's important to recognize that none of these things are morally superior to yoga pants, crumbs in the corners, or a messy bun.
So lean into your imperfect homemaking, friends, because that's where the memories are.
With love, Kristina
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[@WithLoveKristina]

And just to clarify: you can absolutely enjoy pretty dresses, makeup, doing your hair, etc, and be a good homemaker with a tidy home! But we must recognize that the ultra-glamorous, gourmet-cooking-from-scratch, perfectly-filmed mega-popular accounts often have a team behind them making it all happen, and that level of spotless perfection is simply not attainable every day, especially with lots of young children around! And that's okay!

[@ashleyemma4954]

Well said ❤

[@hiddenhand6973]

And zero help or support from family for a lot of us 😫 many of those influencers have family and if they had trust funds, you’d never be told as much.

[@AnaColon-ze4ze]

I love this Era an I have my house pretty much furnished wit 1950's furniture , Antiques , Etc.etc. I need 2 get 7 or so everydae dresses so I kan wear them wen I do my Chores an Kleanin..❤❤😊😊❤❤😊😊❤❤😊😊

[@sweetkentuckymama7710]

This is so true

[@sofiabravo1994]

Even if some do it all themselves then good for them my value and identity is not set on my lack of skill set, my worth comes from Jesus Christ ❤

[@MaryWalsh-ux6oj]

Let me preface my comment with an apology that it is so long. I am a 74 year old woman who currently has tears coursing down my cheeks. Watching your videos brings back so many memories of my childhood in a small farmhouse. Today after watching your video, I sent a silent prayer to my mother (wherever she is.)"Mom, I am sorry I did not do more to make your life even just a tiny bit easier." As a '50s working mother, her life was so hard, and she was so unappreciated and invisible) to her children and her husband. The vision of you working hard in your kitchen reminds me so much of my mother. And it is uncanny how much you resemble her when she was young. (You both have that Snow White coloring (with the fair skin and dark hair) the same voluptuous body type, and I swear the two of you must have had some of the same dresses!) My mother died when I was 20 and after all these many years I still miss her. Watching you is like having a second chance to have my mother again in my life. And when you spoke of finding the blessings amidst the "daily drudgery," it hit me like a slap of reality in the face. I remember my mother buying school shoes for my brother and myself and then coming home and making cardboard insoles for HER shoes. (She wrote the book on sacrifice. There is an old saying: "It is not apparent until you ARE a parent." You, Kristina are an example of the reason God chooses resilient women to become mothers! As an aside, you making watermelon pickles reminds me of the time that my brother decided to run away from home. He got just as far as our old empty chicken house (where my mother had a bunch of watermelon pickles stored.) My brother ate a couple of jars of watermelon pickles and then decided that home wasn't so bad after all! Thank you SO much for a lovely video!

[@rozann9223]

Thank you for this beautiful memory of your mom….i am crying with you…i miss my mom so much sometimes….thank you again for your precious words…♥️😭♥️

[@tisa6]

❤❤❤ this comment! Miss my Mom terribly too!

[@courtney1709]

Same…I miss my mom every single day.😢❤

[@lauracgc]

Love this. Thank you for sharing

[@tabiulfi7320]

What a story! 😢 wonderful and sad the same time ❤ Sending much love to you ❤

[@ruthlloyd1163]

I was raised in the 60s and the stay at home mom was not in a poufy dress with heels and pearls. A lot wore pull on pants, or a comfy shift dress with flats or barefoot in the house. Babies are messy. We were sent outside to play much more than kids are today.

[@aussiejubes]

Yep lol. That's how you keep the house clean! Kids outside all day! I was born in 79 but if I wasn't reading (my parents loved that I read so much) I was expected to be outside for a lot of the day. I was an only child so I didn't have to stay out all day, but I did have to go outside every single day unless it was raining. I could come in for a drink or lunch or something, but had to spend hours outside lol. I didn't usually mind. I just wandered around my country town, hung out at the park, rode my bike, played with the dog, jumped on the tramp, found creeks & tadpoles etc. Mum got peace & quiet to clean & then enjoy the clean. Also she was a really angry cleaner so I didn't want to be there when she was on a cleaning bender anyway 😂

[@kathleenmcgovern9659]

What in heck is a trad wife anyway? It's just some 2024 idea, that's all. I was born in the mid-1950s, and I remember the music, the styles, the foods, the TV shows, etc.,etc. etc. I also remember how hard my mom worked and other moms in the neighborhood. A lot of the women actually had jobs to make ends meet. This trad wife thing is just somebody's fantasy. I love your videos. They are beautiful and real. Your kids are so cute. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@thevillainofthisstory]

"mess is morally neutral" YES I really needed to hear that, thank you for putting it into words. Also, that yellow skirt is STUNNING 💛

[@GenXQeeenB]

The truth is these so called Tradwives are just acting..they aren’t real! Coming from generations of homemakers..there are a lot of day to day struggles. I appreciate your content and you representing us true traditionally homemakers. ❤

[@xbemos]

Exactly. They aren’t trad wives. They make money from influencing and that alone puts their focus outside of the home

[@samanthagillette1483]

This is why you are hands down one of my favorite content creators on KZbin. I am a full time working mom of a disabled toddler and my home will never look what is presented in tradwife content no matter how badly I would like it to. There's only so many hours in the day, and my body can only do so much. I love that you make realistic content, it is so important for people to see beyond the picture perfect pristine minimalistic staged content that is all over social media.

[@beverlystauffer2489]

Your children will not remember the mess. They will remember your loving presence.

[@raneemilliman7130]

I was born in the 50's and my mom, while looking nice and neat, did not "dress up" for her day by day life. I also know that she utilized the help of her family. Her father often came to town for groceries etc. and would stop in at our house. He would bring baked goods to have with tea, by my mom's request, rather than her having to go to the bakery herself. I know I was expected to clean up my messes and pick up my toys and put them away in my room. I also learned how to make my bed at an early age. Granted it wasn't perfect and took me ages to accomplish but it got better with age. I also learned to set the table and help with dishes at an early age. I couldn't peel potatoes with a knife so learned with a peeler. (I hate using a peeler today) I could scrub potatoes for baked ones, so was expected to do that. I could put away the pots and pans but couldn't reach the other cupboards. The point is, the 50's were exaggerated and maybe in places where the weather was temperate all of the time, things were different. IE California etc. but in Minnesota, my mom hung clothes on the line all year. I helped fold towels and underwear before learning how to iron when I was 10 or 11. I swept the floor and dusted and yes, sometimes things got broken, but I learned at a young age and may not have been as good as hired help, but I did help my mom with the day by day stuff and it wasn't fancy, but it was good food, neatly ordered home and clean clothes. Dad did all of the yardwork except for the flower garden. That was mom's and the truth is, she hated housework and would do anything to spend time in her flower garden. This was a trait that she had since a child because my grandmother said she would rather gather eggs and feed pigs and harvest the garden than do dishes or clean the house. BTW, when mom put on lipstick, we knew she was going downtown. She never just wore lipstick around the house.

[@sofiabravo1994]

Lol I love using the peeler! I have collected vintage dresses skirts and blouses from the 30s-50s and it’s so freeing just to throw on a dress and keep myself groomed I don’t need to glam up at all but still nice to be put together just incase someone comes over or I need to run an errand with the kids ❤

[@karendowd2466]

I’m 71 and we have a small farm with a huge garden. We are a family of 8 and we work really hard but some things suffer due to growing food and canning it all. So unfortunately it’s the housework and tons more. Some days I feel like a failure that I can’t do it all but mostly I’m good. I’m truly grateful and blessed to have a family that we all love each other.

[@Lisa-ee5ev]

Until you expounded on "there is bless in the mess," (to which I immediately replied to myself "no there's not") I must admit that I never looked at "the mess" that way (a table full of dishes means a family ate and shared together, etc.) Instead of sighing and mustering strength to clean up "the mess," I will try to view it as what a blessing we had enough food to cook, time to eat it, and be together. Thank you for a different, positive perspective. (P.S. you work really hard every day; I'm amazed at how much you do.)

[@rachelcurit7504]

This is the attitude I try to take when toys are all over the living room. I have a thriving, vibrant child who is healthy enough to play with his toys. 💚

[@lynndurham473]

Oh my goodness!!! My heart just filled with joy when you bathed your sweet baby in the kitchen sink. What a vision of HOME.

[@moldovanca]

Don’t mind me, just sobbing on my couch in my tiny ass apartment; partly because I wish I could live in a house like yours, have a yard to let my kids roam in, and partly because your words are so important and meaningful to me. I’m in my first trimester with our second and I feel the worst I’ve ever felt because I still have all the responsibility of taking care of our first while feeling absolutely awful. So these days the counter doesn’t get a daily wipe, my son doesn’t get a daily trip to the park (we live in a very urban area with no greenery) and each day I feel grateful I survived but guilty about everything I couldn’t do. So thank you for sharing and being so vulnerable. I can’t wait to see more.

[@gaudiaudi]

Gosh I remember being in this position. I had the worst pregnancies too, and I remember my 2 year old standing next to me asking if I was ok while I threw up. Those days were not easy. But I look at my little ones now and I'm so grateful for them. I never have enough time but I try. This is motherhood ❤

[@MarySamios]

Please remember that you are enough just as you are. And that you are providing your family the most important things just by being you -- your love and care. No matter where you are in life, you are enough, and you are loved.

[@user-tq1wy8xb5i]

I live in an apartment as well and envy every friend I have that has a yard. Don't be so hard on yourself.

[@ashleighsparkle8810]

I’m a mom of 3. Your kids just want you. Don’t worry about the frills.

[@MadameEster]

Dear Kristina, after having my baby I found myself as stay home mum something I did not necessarily want or was in my plan it just happened to work better for us, I turned to the internet to help me and I found my self in dispare and discourage until I found you! A relatable house and relatable family and relatable everything so I came today to thank you from the bottom of my heart and soul THANKS FOR PUTTING OUT TTHERE THIS CONTENT ❤

[@leahmaples6921]

One of my best memories of young motherhood was bathing my son in the kitchen sick and just looking out on to my back yard while he had a blast in the sink. I also washed all my nieces and grandchildren this way. And each one of them has said they remember and loved it. I love the sound of your voice, watching your hands move as you do your chores. I really appreciate "Real" content, not staged. You do make wonderful videos and give us something to think about. So thank you and I hope your family has a wonderful rest of their summer.

[@halleyorion]

Some of my earliest are happiest memories are of sink baths! I remember my parents playing peekaboo with me while I was in the sink, and my grandmother singing “She’ll Be Coming Round the Mountain” while I was lying on the kitchen counter and she washed my hair.

[@VintageLydia]

Knowing what I know about my grandmothers, you're version of vintage is probably more authentic than the June Cleaver version in many TradWife accounts, anyway. The easy dresses, the chipped Formica counters in what seem like in our modern eyes impossibly small kitchens, and mismatched everything (that somehow still very much goes together) remind me more of my grandmothers' kitchens and homes than anything else. I'm not a homemaker anymore (single working mother) but I very much appreciate this account and the pure comfort it brings me to remind me I don't need to be perfect to be good enough.

[@chavaspropheticlife]

This is the most beautiful and realistic video I believe I have ever seen on KZbin… I highly respect your decision to share your story in such a realistic manner. Great content and very refreshing!❤

[@margaretlynch1494]

🙋‍♀️❤️. You have never been as authentic a 50's housewife as you are in this video. I was born in 1955, so I remember it all. Even the watermelon on a hot summer day! Love it!

[@morganwickman8451]

This video was like balm to my tired soul! Thank you so much for putting out a real video for us at home who are incredibly imperfect but trying really hard.I have 4 kids in a tiny home that's hardly ever pintrest worthy clean. It's wonderful to see myself in this video.

[@chriswhyte-pj6es]

Nicely done, Kristina! I'm a 66 yr old and you ROCK my world!!! Actually, you do WAY more on a daily basis than I remember my mother doing. Beds were made in the morning and a general cleanup. Dinner was usually started also in the morning. Otherwise, she had ONE special chore per day ((ironing, vacuuming, dusting, etc)) the rest of the day was picking up and doing dishes after meals. However if she had a minute when the kids were napping or playing outside... and saw something that needed her attention, she just did it. That type of schedule afforded her a lot of time for teaching, playing and interacting with her children.

[@agodlyhome]

People in the 50s had a lot of kids and were poor. At least in my area. This is what gram told me. Anyhow, they didn't have perfect outfits, they worked hard, their homes needed repairs, and were lived in. She said they got up everyday and put on old work clothes and worked hard then cleaned up and put on better clothes before their husband got home from work. They did cook 3 meals a day but some were very simple frugal meals. You do a great job ❤

[@shannong7556]

Yes people now have no idea about indoor frozen pipes going from the kitchen to the upstairs added on bathroom or the roll up washing machine or hanging clothes out that froze in the winter and then ironing my father’s handkerchiefs and shirts for work. Breakfast for supper, spaghetti on Wednesday, fish on Friday and chocolate cake on Sunday. Week after week.

[@agodlyhome]

@@shannong7556 and baked beans on Saturday night. 😁

[@donnahume631]

From a middle-aged, no kids, chronic-illness homemaker, I just wanna say, Kristina, I've always felt included in your channel. Goals = met. You are already doing it. 😎

[@ManWhoLovesTheMary]

The Tradwife movement isn't making me unhappy, but feelings of inadequacy and comparison and goal-setting have been, and this video couldn't have been recommended to me at God's more perfect timing. It's just what I needed. While I feel and fear I have so much to prove, especially with my recently discovered MOS auto-immune disease, this video encourages me that things take time and the reality behind the glam-veneer of the camera frame are okay. In fact, they are beautiful.

[@vintageordyecc1781]

Girl I love this! My babies are all pretty big now my oldest is 17 my daughter is days away from being 13 and my youngest is 11. My house is beautiful now with the exception of their rooms (😜) but I would gladly go back to a world of sticky fingerprints and constant toys underfoot. During those days I felt perpetually behind and like I was never able to keep up with the mess. I longed for a time when I would be able to clean a room and it stay clean for more than 20 mins but I was so wrong. I wish I could go back to that almost daily now! My kiddos are great and we spent plenty of time together then and now but that constant drive to do better was always there and kept me from enjoying many of the moments that looking back I wish I’d have been more present for. You are doing a fantastic job! Focus on the joy and the memories and not the mess or that feeling of being an inadequate homemaker! I’m so glad to see someone on social media being a real mom and a real homemaker! You go girl! ❤️

[@agodlyhome]

@@vintageordyecc1781 same here

[@hermajesty2548]

Gee, i feel stupid but your video made me cry... because it's true... and helpful... thank you !

[@bellablue5285]

Admittedly I'm going to have to listen to this without watching to get the message (I'm easily distracted today), but that mayonnaise maker is fascinating! I've never seen one of those! And I'm enthralled 😅

[@WithLoveKristina]

I found it at an estate sale! I’m fascinated still lol

[@bellablue5285]

Message was well stated. I tend to shy away from most social media admittedly, but it didn't exist until I was in college so it's easier to do in my case, but it cannot be denied that the curated content that many folks will only post is not only not realistic, but is setting impossible goals for folks to aspire to (it has its benefits, but the line between real and curated definitely doesnt seem to be clear at times)

[@maureenhebert7673]

First, let me say, the fact you have 5 children blows my mind! You are so blessed. The fact you have 5 children and you’re dressed beautifully with hair and makeup done? Inspires me. You’re my hero! I love your channel because you are so down to earth and make me feel better about not achieving a perfect home. My home is clean enough to be healthy and messy enough to be comfortable and it’s only my husband and I. Our kids are all grown and in their own lives. You’d think I’d have an immaculate home!. Hell no, I’m retired and love to read, knit, quilt and watch these inspiring videos and cook and bake for our family and friends. My husband and I love to travel and enjoy our days together and apart. Housework is last on my list.although I love the smell of clean laundry so that’s a chore I regularly do. It may also be my preference because the laundry area is within my sewing studio. ‘ A clean house is a sign of a broken sewing machine” in my world. Keep up your great work and messages. We all need it.

[@courtney1709]

Love the messy moments with your children! ❤ Believe me, when they’re grown and gone, you’ll miss it all! Thank you for keeping it REAL, there’s simply no value in a staged, put-on show. Much love to you and your lovely, blessed, happy family!❤

[@septimasnape]

I just recently found your channel. I am a 37 years old first time mom and a sahm for the first time in my life too. I was never really good at household chores but my husband and I decided together that this type of family structure made the most sense for us. In the quest of learning and getting motivated i watch a lot of KZbin. Thank you for this video, this takes off a lot of pressure, i put on myself

[@barbaramoran7356]

From my generation this was called being a June Cleaver...Perfect with Pearls...Glad my mom wasn't like that....

[@deenawatts3257]

I loved this video and I'm so glad you're changing the main focus of your content. You are so genuine and I'm thankful I discovered your channel. I've followed for several years now and have watched your focus shift. Sending lots of love.

[@deirdrebridge]

Yessss❤❤❤ This is why your subscribers are here. Thank you for keeping it real ❤️❤️❤️

[@luizahundt]

Another great video with a wonderful message! Since I had my baby, I've been feeling sad whenever I come across those content creators. I know that they have teams behind them, but our silly brains still make us compare ourselves to them, don't they? What's been getting to me is how frumpy I look. Hair looks awful, no makeup, can't fit into anything yet, despite having lost some of the pregnancy weight, and I don't want to focus on weight as someone who's recovered from an ED. Lost my wardrobe, my style, my sense of self. I'm lucky my husband loves me with messy hair and big shirts and leggings, since it's all I can do now. No time to sew new clothes, no money to ethically buy new, nothing good used in the only second hand shop in town. It makes me actually a bit angry when I see perfectly put together new moms, which is so sad...

[@KlingonPrincess]

I see you. 🤗

[@cheykath]

Thank you for this! ❤ I don't think I even realized how those trad-wife videos were affecting me but I have definitely felt the discontent of being single, full-time employed, neurodivergent, chronically ill, and still wanting to be a perfect homemaker. Ha, that's not going to happen! Life is messy and imperfect and beautiful, whether you're wearing a dress, business casual, or yoga pants. Realizing that is so affirming and a life-giving concept. I loved the quote you shared. One of my favorite quotes is from Kahlil Gibran. "Work is love made visible."

[@tammyr2966]

If you put a splash of any cooking oil in your boiled eggs when you put them onto boil, they will peel so easily! My chef brother taught me this years ago! Hope it helps you too!

[@sandraklary4872]

Now this video pushed a button and I'm sitting here sobbing. I've been feeling so inadaquate lately and like I can't do anything right. Feeling like a bad mum, a bad partner, a bad housekeeper,... Thanks for your honesty and your words ❤ They're very much appriciated. ❤

[@tracym9225]

I want to thank you for the beautiful video. Life is what happens when we aren't paying attention. Staging life for others to approve of you (to me) is a waste of time. Yours brings back nice memories & reminds me of what is still possible. I do enjoy your vintage 50s videos as I am into social history as well, but do so appreciate your sincere simplicity to real life. All the best to you & your family.

[@shelleymcginty9995]

I have a couple of comments that are really weighing on my heart. Firstly, the whole reason I love and watch your channel is because of how real you are. I love the beauty and the gentleness of your realness. Secondly, as a 52-year-old, empty Nester, I can promise you something. I promise you that you will never ever ever regret the time spent raising your children even with the mess. I never thought in 1 million years that one of the things I would miss would be the mass. My house stays clean all the time, well, I guess not when I have my grandchildren lol I miss the sound of chaos in my house. My house is so quiet. You are doing a wonderful job and keep being real and keep making your videos. With love, Shelley.

[@princesscupcakeD]

This is a great video essay tackling a real current issue with a liberating loving feel instead of just attacking the glamorization. I'd love to see people talk about navigating protections for the homemaker from some creators too. Ty for being you!!!

[@maureenbrophy7852]

Love to see people harnessing the weather to dry clothes👏❤️💐

[@WithLoveKristina]

Haha it’s necessary sometimes, too hot to use a dryer in our house!

[@carolemedley1807]

Kristina, I have never before seen anyone cut hard-cooked eggs the way I do...until I watched you!! Twice through the little egg slicer, once in each direction. I love it! I also make my own mayonnaise, though I use an immersion blender. I am fascinated with your vintage gadget, though. Watching you toil endlessly to bring order to a full home brings back sweet memories...and a bit of PTSD, too. A constant treadmill of cooking, cleaning, mothering, tidying. I was always exhausted and frustrated and not always nice about it either. I never learned what you have; that mess is neutral. I constantly judged myself by how chaotic my home was despite my working constantly at full speed.

[@muchadoaboutkovu]

Annnnd this video is what got me to subscribe. Wonderful stuff! I have felt lately just needing to constantly keep home spotless and my husband and I scolded our kids for ripping our couches(they were hand me downs but still very nice) and your content really smacked me in the face of you know what? This is ok. The couches aren’t going to survive my kids but it’s ok. I feel judged by certain people when they see any mess in the house. Overwhelmed anxiety has stopped me from getting things done and stuff piles up. But I want to spend time with my kids.

[@sarahlashbrook6991]

I never comment, but I really, truly appreciated this video. I love pretty dresses and currently am a stay-at-home mom (but I’ve worked outside the home, too), and I gravitate toward the homestead …thing. Anyway, I’ve been really turned off by all the tradwife stuff, and I’ve started to become cynical about all the linen dresses everyone wears. It really does feel fake, like cosplaying being a homemaker. But this felt real, in a world of perfectly staged. It’s like you opened the door to wear dresses if I want, and be a simple mom and wife, and still not be associated with whatever is happening in the tradwife movement. I love the new direction this channel idea going, and look forward to your next video :)

[@tammieecho3098]

I enjoy your homey, cozy down to earth aesthetic so much. It’s beautiful and honest and truly comforting. ❤

[@connie6545]

LOVE your videos! I was a stay-at-home and wouldn't change ANY of it. My husband worked construction, driving cement mixer. I had THOUGHT that I had to live with EVERY moment accounted for. Otherwise, WHAT would people think of me?? JUST be YOU!! You will raise happier, healthier children, trust me!

[@mommysperspective9008]

I am loving these new videos. Your content is just superior. You have a special way to remind us that we are not alone. ❤

[@carolyns3511]

Hello sweet friend. I started making watermelon rind pickles a few years ago when we lived in an area that grows a lot of melons. I remembered them from my grandmother. Maybe try cutting away and using just the white part of the rind. I also cut this in to small chunks, so the pickles are in bite-sized pieces. I adapted my original recipe to use less vinegar, so they aren't as strong. I tell friends and family who try them, "you'll either love them or hate them!"

[@lindazimmerman6337]

I appreciate anything you’ve willing to share, I enjoy it all. I frequently reminisce about growing up with my own homemaker mother while watching you in your home with your children and kitties.❤

[@IDreamDontWakeHer]

This is why I love your channel so much! Its relatable to me. Your history videos are great too but its nice to see the regular things of life too not just hyper polished homes.

[@IDreamDontWakeHer]

Also your taste and style are super great of course ❤❤❤

[@bekoniasteel]

Watching your videos reminds me of me maybe no less than 10 years ago. I remember the messes all too well. Legos barbies blocks toy cars and stuffed animals finding their home all around the house. I remember spending weekends trying to keep up with messes. Messes that would wait till kids were asleep. I have teens and young adults now. The messes are still there but not the same. Enjoy life's beautiful little messes...there is a whimsical magic to it. This is what I have learned over the years....and though my life has evolved- every bit of the now is something to be thankful for. I know the now will be the past in the future and I will miss it so I cherish it as much as I can.

[@alifeallin5099]

I truly hardly ever comment on video, but this one touched me and will be one I come back to regularly to allow myself compassion and ease. I have always appreciated you and your honesty and the passion with which you nurture your family. Thank you for "mess is morally neutral- I needed that"

[@kotorinekochan]

Apparently today I am thanking youtubers who like yourself present real life homes. There is struggle with wanting to be perfect whether we have kids or not. Caring for my home and family of me, my partner, and our kitties is important to me. Your channel is so refreshing.

[@violentcat345]

This is exactly why I subscribed to you, you're a joyful creator who shares their real experiences and I appreciate that deeply. Also, When the boiled egg stuck to the shell when you were trying to peel it, I felt that lmao! edit: I'm enjoying this video while battling a common cold and crocheting a temperature blanket for 2023, sometimes life makes you slow down so you end up working on a project for well over the projected time it should take and that's okay.

[@cathygipp]

Hi Kristina, what a lovely life you are creating fir your family. I will assure you that as your kids grow up and look back the things they will remember will be good. It won't be the "messy home" but instead the good food, fun times, and love and security they felt. ❤️

[@SLP4Life56]

Thank you for making this video and bringing to life the issues with these "tradwife" videos.

[@RLiberty94]

This was such a beautiful. Probably one of the most beautiful videos you’ve ever made. I absolutely love and appreciate how transparent and vulnerable you were in this video and can’t wait to experience a new era of your content! ❤ Watching your videos (and a few others with content) has inspired me to start my own KZbin channel. Thank you for being you and for sharing your sweet, imperfect life with us. I feel so privileged to be on this authentic homemaking journey with you.

[@Sldoficn]

You have such a balanced approach to this topic, very refreshing! It’s nice to view those over-the-top homemaking videos but it’s also just as enjoyable if not more to watch a video like you’ve made here that is realistic, authentic and aesthetically pleasing!

[@AwoogaWolf]

this was such a lovely video, thanks so much for sharing with us and reinforcing positive messaging about imperfection and these practices, it can feel like a lot of one side vs the other when it comes to online communities and it's so helpful to make a point to explain there is a middle ground and each person should figure out what feels right for them

[@Fauxrising2022]

Your intro with the bugs singing and the birds chirping with your music felt like we all stepped into pride and prejudice 😍

[@Mamato12_blessings-md8xw]

This video means a lot to me. Thank you. I also often feel like a failure in homemaking, among other things. This was the encouragement I needed. I usually follow Christian homemaking channels and I see them also, falling into the trap of copying trad wives accounts. It’s not good. Thank you for this.

[@dreamer4L1]

It takes courage to be authentic, and that is why I am drawn to your channel. Please keep being you!

[@TJ-kz1ul]

I've been looking for realistic homemaking KZbin channels for a long time. I've found a few, and now I'm adding yours to my list also.

[@wheatie83]

Thanks. I have littles too. I live abroad now in Ghana. I swear I spend most of my day doing housework or nursing.

[@mermaliade6631]

That mayonnaise maker is really cool!

[@beverlystauffer2489]

Christina, you are creating a warm, loving and accepting home for your spouse and your babies. There is nothing more beautiful than that! These early years are precious and fleeting. Don't waste a minute worrying about the fakers. Real life is messy and amazing. Keep being your lovely self and we will keep watching. (I'm mom to 6 girls, 4 of mine and two stepdaughters. They are 34, 30, 29, 27, 14 and 14. It went by so fast! Love on those babies while you can.)

[@ShallaBal82]

Loved this so much! I'm a homemaker (who also works from home around my son's schedule), and seeing these "inspirational" trad wives say things like, "You should dress up and take pride in your appearance and choose to not wear leggings and opt for the other things in your closet." Ha! What other things? I only own one pair of leggings and am now on the final shirt from a six-pack of men's Fruit In The Loom t-shirts because all of the other shirts got perma-stains from kitchen spills or little boy fingers - I don't have other options in my closet besides two sweaters for the winter. Being a homemaker in this era with the economy as it is means a lot of personal sacrifice, and those aspirational channels completely miss that point. You did a great job with this video, and laying out all of your thoughts and showing that there's much work to be done at home, and it isn't all displaying wildflowers in vases and making gum from scratch. Also, I totally want that mayonnaise maker, holy smokes!

[@tammymeier9157]

I'm so glad you took this on. Thank you.

[@MistyAtSkeeterJones]

This was a peaceful and authentic 18 or so minutes that reminded me of my childhood. Thank you 😊

[@Cill441]

Hello Kristina. I was so glad to stumble on your video after a documentary that was both knowledgeable and disheartening. You always bring me back home to a peaceful place in your real life channel of home and familiarity. What I love about both creative people. Real life is messy and sometimes very tiring, but no two humans are alike. We all have something to offer. I watch my favorite curators because of personality and sometimes content. If I'm looking to learn a hobby or watching a channel grow and what makes folks resignate to this person. Do they all come for the same dose of TLC? We all are only passing through in this life we live. Your channel is home to me. I can't say it any better other than this.😊💛. 🐝~content where we grow, or we may change our path to 🐝content elsewhere 🥰. Life isn't our past it is our presence. Tomorrow, I'm told, isn't promised; life had turned to death has taught me this. I'm glad we are both here😊. Thank you for being authentic and dreamy real to an era I was raised from Kristina. Sincerely, Cill💛

[@nightshadelee]

Thank you as always for being my virtual laundry friend, Kristina

[@georginapeace1740]

Love your perfectly imperfect content! That’s why I watch you. I can’t wait til the tradewife trend is over. Make no mistake the era they emulate; never existed. Homemaking was not dissimilar to now, we just have better tech. Also, Betty Crocker was an old white man in a board room. I am a stay at home mom. With no team to back me up. Much like you. I love my life simply and lovingly, in my garden, in the kitchen or while cleaning the same mess for the 19th billion time. And I can’t ask for much more than that.

[@Fauxrising2022]

I needed to hear this 😢❤ yesterday I came home from full time job to a clean reorganized home thanks to my mom in law. Trying to appreciate the gift but couldn’t help to feel like I failed to keep my own home in order 😢

[@marynbartolazzi3988]

I love your real-life motherhood videos...as I too am neuro divergent myself and am a mom of 4 kiddos ♥️ it's helpful to know I'm not alone in this...thank you so much for your content...I really enjoy your videos they are so encouraging to me I look forward to every new video of yours 😁

[@larkfly9273]

Oh Kristina, the baby has gotten so big! Love how affectionate you are with him as he is just chillin' on the kitchen table

[@WithLoveKristina]

he was so sad after his nap, so he needed extra lovies

[@wendyteese5085]

THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU! You have made my soul smile. Too many pressures, shaming, blaming, do it all, do it perfect, is NOT worth it. I WAS that perfect housewife, spotless house, laundry washed, dried, ironed, child nursed, repeat, repeat, there were TOO many moments missed. As a 50 year old housewife, I make no apologies because my now 25 year old male partner in life and love are too busy laughing, talking,cjust sitting together in the quiet, loving on our fur babies, and TRUST ME THESE ARE THE MOST PERFECTLY, IMPERFECTLY, MOST AMAZING MOMENTS OF MY LIFE. Enjoy ALL the messy moments, chaos, crazy thinking, Murphy law days!! PLEASE continue to uplift women instead of shaming them, it's about damn time! With My Love and Blessings, Wendy

[@hannahsayers652]

Thank you for this video. I feel like when I have anything out of place or dirty that I'm lazy and need to constantly clean. It drives my husband crazy. I often forget to just stop and enjoy life. A clean kitchen isn't worth it if you sacrifice making memories in it to keep it clean. I feel like when things are constantly clean I am more uptight and crankier too. Thank you for the perspective. I intend to give you many more views for this video. PS. I was never a dress girl. I liked how dresses looked, but have never particularly like wearing them, but you pull off dresses very well.

[@ah5721]

Thank you for addressing this! I have housemaking skills , and I'm good at them when I put my mind to it but they bring me no joy , I do it to survive. I'm a better part time mom.thank tou for being real! I appreciate it!

[@annafife9094]

It's natural to look at how other women are doing it and form a sort of bond with them, because up until the creation of suburbs (which occured less than a century ago) women were never doing it alone. We knew our neighbours intimately, we had grandmothers, aunts and cousins close by. This meant company and laughter, and an extra hand to help. These women were raised to be homemakers from birth. They were also raised to put a screaming baby in a pram and let them cry it out in the garden. They believed it was fine to strike a child if they misbehaved. They depended on their eldest daughters to run the household or mother the little ones, while they got on with other work. Today many women yearn to be at home with their children, or be a homemaker while keeping down a full time career. But we weren't raised knowing how to sew from seven, or how to cook from ten, how to budget or create a smooth homelife routine. We have no neighbours to call on, no family available to offer help, and we don't expect our daughters to take on the mother-helper role. If our children act up we can't "solve it" with a quick slap, and there is no way we're leaving our babies to scream. This means our homemaking journey is going to take longer to master, be harder, feel lonelier, and get messier. Our meals will burn, our kids will take an hour to settle instead of two minutes, our sewing will be wonky or unfinished, and our doubts will creep in because we don't see anyone like us beyond the online world. I get through it by imagining the wise and capable woman I am becoming. Instead of fearing old age and irrelevance, I know this is when I will come into my own.

[@willowgirl2635]

Beautiful video I really enjoyed it. Many of us have a small home to work with that is old with challenging surfaces to clean. Having a happy family with healthy kids is far more important than a show piece home. Loved seeing the pussy cats too.

[@tammyellison735]

I love your videos. They are so soothing. My kids are raised and gone. My house stays a bit cleaner these days but it is by no means perfect. You normalized being perfectly human and I love you for it

[@JM-tz9ej]

Love, love, love your videos, ❤❤❤ you make me feel so much better. By the way, I so fed up with woman in their earlie twenties, with a sice zero, without children and often without a job to earn money, play housewife. With a ton of money and to much time, because they do not need to do normal chores in their homes, practicing hard to be almond moms in the future....😂😂

[@carolinerosekraft2575]

I can relate so much. I’m a neurodivergent SAHM living on a small income in a small home. I love this encouragement!

[@ShannonElizabeth_BSN]

This was lovely. Such a welcome change from the influencer type of lifestyle videos I see daily. I have went down the rabbit hole of your videos, and I am just loving your vintage space. Your family is lovely.

[@user-tq1wy8xb5i]

I absolutely love you for posting this. You are doing a wonderful thing. I promise you that you are helping people. Have a wonderful weekend.❤

[@maribrown1361]

This is some of my favorite content ever! I can listen to you AND your littles and I mentally slow down & my head clears. All the clutter parts and I enter a peaceful, calm, warm, loving home. I appreciate SO MUCH you sharing your home & your family with the world. I long for those days with little voices & giggles & tears. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. ❤

[@MajoNeko1]

Thank you Kristina for this beautiful video

[@tammyr2966]

I love your channel because you are authentic! You show real, beautiful life with love! Children grow up too fast and won’t remember about the house being clean or not, they will remember the love their parents showed them and all the times spent together! There is an old saying about dishes can wait, as babies grow up to our sorrow or something like that! You are doing all things right! Loved seeing how to make watermelon rind pickles. I’ve yet to try them! Everything you do, has such peace and harmony and your videos are so calming to me! Keep doing you! ❤

[@ailsadixon408]

As always, speaking straight to my heart. Thank you for this thoughtful, beautiful, joyful and real corner of an unreal world X💕

[@lizbear8671]

I love watching your videos so much, it brings me joy to see the smiles on everyone's faces. Enjoy life, enjoy your family & keep being the sweet mother & wife that you are. What great memories you're making for your family & bringing back to my mind of how life is meant to be lived...calm & thoughtful of others. Love you!

[@jaimemulder82]

I love your channel! You show the real life and not the fake stuff.

[@LyraStitchery]

I love your content. As a working mom (working mom as in a mom who also works a full time job outside the home) ... obviously stay at home mons work too. But anyways, I find your videos relaxing and helps me with stress relief.

[@lizzaturnbull]

Omg bathing the baby in the kitchen sink - that takes me back! I have 3 kids, my youngest is 19 and eldest 24, so it’s been a long time! This whole video really made my heart sing 🥰🥰🥰

[@LeeZetLMG]

Thank you! Just thank you so much! I love watching all the contents you mentioned, but I also feel like an absolute failure whenever I watch those videos, 'cause I can't get so much done, can't look so pretty, can't have a spotless apartment or all those beautiful decorations (and keeping up with refilling also isn't what I can do on a regular).... for me it's hard to just keep my apartment in a 'good shape', so I haven't to be ashamed if someones coming over. And don't get me wrong, I really try, but while the kidz where at home still it nevr felt like it would last more than five minutes and now... just for myself... it doesn't feel like it's worth it either. Plus... I feel like the day needs 48 hours to get half the things done all those tradwifes do... especially with cooking and baking everything from scratch. I'm always really impressed by it, but don't know how in the world I should do that without forgetting rest of life. .///. Maybe I'm just not organized enough or traditional enough... or maybe I'm just lazy or a failure... but in the end... your video should me, that it's okay not to be perfect (and I still can try if I feel like)... and that it isn't about perfection, but about affection..... for your loved ones and your home... your life as it is.... and I truly think that I need to learn that... to appreciate what I have, even it isn't perfect. Didn't thought about that, but I think that would make me much happier than perfection.... so, again, thank you so much!!! Your video means the world to me!

[@feliciaclark4811]

Your videos are such a light in the world. Watching your video I am reminded of a quote by Mother Theresa I have posted in my own kitchen that says: "Wash the plate. Not because it is dirty. Not because you were told to wash it. But because you love the person who will use it next."

[@jessicablain1238]

Your channel is what I think of in times of feeling inadequate. I try so hard to be like my Gramma because she was the example I was given for homemaking. I then have to step back and remind myself what I'm sacrificing by making perfection more important than my littles. If anything, you've helped one mom not beat herself up as she normally would. Thank you ❤

[@marybergman6545]

I love watching your videos because they are authentic. Your home is beautiful. In real life there are always messes . Your home is to be enjoyed and loved. I get that feeling from you. ❤

[@_michellecoria]

This video was so beautiful! Thank you for putting the time and effort into compiling life’s raw and beautiful moments! This truly warmed my heart, as if it were a familiar memory once lived. Thank you!

[@jandurham6231]

I love this video! We need to let go of having perfect houses especially when we have little ones at home. They will not look back and worry why their house was not always clean, but they will look back on the time they spent with mommy and the calmness of a home where parents loved them and the parents loved each other. I love that you hang out clothes! I have done this even as a child and still do at 65. It is one of my favorite things to do. It reminds me of my grandmother and mother.

[@user-tq1wy8xb5i]

I love your connent. Days when everything is done and days where nothing is done. I focus on my mental health more now. I do what I can in a day. Some are better then others. I set myself minimal goals and maximum goals and see how I feel.

[@slowroastedmarshmallow9226]

Hi Kristina... Love this! I have been obsessed w this topic pointing out thd Elephant in the room NEVER mentioned... Every married woman in charge of running a home NEEDS help from friends, kin or (for rhe Rich) hired. It is Not Realistic or Trad to think, well, since I am a SAHM (don't work) I am going to have all this time on my hands to... Do what?? Clean the house, get dishes done, cook dinner. And then? What is fhe reward? No visitors ever come to my house. Really like your videos... Very good message and visuals. Thank you! Do u find the need to just sit in a Circle w other women? Do u have a kin, friend, and or Church community? Sure u are not as foolish as I who expexted it to be "easy" being a SAHM when I got married 26 years ago at age 24 and had a baby 9 months later. We have 7 kids, one has autism. We have had little ACTIVE involvement from family or friends. Big into KZbin when my 7 y.o. lets me have the Remote haha. I also do FB... Would love to add u as a friend!

[@milkshakemamma5050]

I found this so soothing. I wish videos like this had been available when my 4 daughters were young. I have always had anxiety and depression but I didn’t realise I was neuro diverse then and it was a struggle. Now my youngest is 16 and while I still have 2 at home plus multiple pets, I’m trying to love and embrace the chaos and that includes the days I can’t manage to shower or put on clean clothes x