A Divorcee at 22 (Feat Cheryl Chin) - Just Saying Episode 66

Would you marry under two weeks? And have a child?
Timestamps :
00:00 - 01:43 - Introductions
01:44 - 04:36 - Why The Divorce?
04:37 - 08:56 - Were There Any Signs?
08:57 - 11:18 - Being In The Public Eye
11:19 - 12:15 - How are you, really?
12:16 - 14:49 - A Traumatic Incident
14:50 - 22:39 - You Are "Used Goods"
22:40 - 23:43 - Did you perception of love change?
23:44 - 26:19 - Marrying After 14 Days - Mistake?
26:20 - 29:38 - Love Languages
29:39 - 34:19 - What are some of your main differences?
34:20 - 37:01 - What do you think you'll miss the most?
37:02 - 45:00 - The Bright Side Of A Divorce
Just Saying Crew:
Dew Francis - / dewdropzz
Saffron Sharpe - / saffronsharpe
Jade Rasif - / djjaderasif
Munah Bagharib - / munahbagharib
Keisha Sarah - / keishasarah
Jacky : / jackyngcomedy
Business Enquiries : [e-mail]

[@cherb8ar]

thanks for having me ❤

[@DavidAngway]

Love your perspective towards life now. Glad you have parents who stick their values towards you. Saw the content of your ex, in YT. Agreeing with jade, not family friendly. Though respect the hustle, but family should be a legacy and priority. Men should fight for their daughters, or else our daughters will fight those demons we refused to fight.

[@sintiayuliani9123]

cheryl’s beauty and soul have been shining for the past 2 weeks, especially on tiktok live. theres a damn glow gleaming out i cant rly explain.

[@Seowie]

actual facts Sintia hahaha 🫶🏼

[@hyderali4021]

It’s the filter she using

[@sengetK]

Bring Titus in next the show from his persepctive maybe

[@20pointer]

27:03 Jade showing awareness of situation to redirect the convo back to Cheryl

[@DavidAngway]

Jade knew it 😂

[@talzzies]

The guy on the left is such a bad interviewer! Interrupting, diverting topics, checking his phone to find the next question instead of listening to the guests responses.

[@rhythmandbeat]

still rmb jianhaotan and gang hyping both of them up, covering the marriage and all… surround yourself with people like jade instead, who care about your well-being and emotional state of mind. hope titus will find strength to work on himself and be a better dad to his daughter too. break the cycle ❤️

[@adminadmin3649]

i think JH tried to say something. Will be gross if they just hype them up

[@user-xh2kw5eh1u]

And now JH and team has shake themself outta the situation It’s like what Cheryl says… she now know who are her true friends JH seems to have abandoned Ryan also .. aft he’s in trouble. Don’t like that couple.

[@Gamebred-Nightmare]

Getting married after 2 weeks is the worst idea, that must be said, no excuses. No one's discounting the fact that yeah Cheryl said she's learnt to be a better & stronger person and all that but 21-24yo is still literally a baby adult. Your pre-frontal cortex hasn't even fully developed and grown yet therefore all the hasty and arguably stupid decisions. You act on emotions and not logic, get fooled by "peak" love + dopamine hits like no other: it is easy for young adults to make this mistake. If you're in your 30s, just imagine how dumb you were when you just turned 20+ ish. Case in point. However I must say Cheryl seems like she'll be a good mother. She's seems more mature & prioritizes her daughter's life.

[@ifeelhalfnaked484]

She's hot though, by the way her daughter is 18, she's only 40 I'm sure she has many prospects lining up for her

[@PineStupAble]

Butterfly effect my friend. Nothing in life is an accident. Everything happens for a reason. Just gotta appreciate it all.

[@actiktok8649]

❤ Jade manner, her thoroughness and communications skills on the matter...I agree with Jade, single parent are family oriented and thats a high quality trait!

[@getfitwithnicol]

Cheryl is honestly so kind and amazing. Keep glowing babe!!!

[@marcuslee7840]

It's tough being a single parent. Continue to be strong Cheryl 👍

[@tta6370]

I always thought Jade and Cheryl looks similar to each other 😂

[@edamame5540]

ikr

[@kazami5699]

I think a divorced woman is not considered as a used goods in fact it is an insult to treat woman as a used goods regardless divorce or not . I am a man myself and I really hope all man don't treat woman as goods but as a person

[@Katechocolatechip]

Why does it feels like Titus is probably too broken himself. When one doesnt even know what is self-love, how is he going to learn how to love his family or in a way be responsible for the emotional support his wife/kids need?

[@muhammadshamsul468]

Cheryl is so fcking matured!! Wish every man and woman is this mature, every mistake will make you grow. The earlier you have that mindset, the better your life will be.

[@viajaycay]

Dated many single mothers b4 (bcos of my age), regardless of how old these single mothers are, theres a level of maturity they have that can put to shame girls older in age that have never been a mother. They have a much more rooted sense of the world, instead of having unrealistic expectations, and many of it is bcos they brought a human to life and is responsible for their well being

[@joeycomelkan]

supporting you from afar cheryl 💌Love from Malaysia

[@user-xh2kw5eh1u]

I feel Titus isn’t easy to love because of how closed up he is. And cos he’s in a dysfunctional family. Bad combo for Cheryl who’s someone emotional and handling her own depression issues. I can imagine both of them being in a very toxic relationship Their attachment styles I believe is avoidant (Titus) and anxious (Cheryl). It takes alot of love and accommodation to make it work.

[@toads859]

Real

[@adminadmin3649]

Titus will be loving his wife well

[@gasohwjchen]

let's interview Titus next! 😸

[@libraries144]

at the end of the day, everything will just become an interesting story to tell in the future

[@user-ec8uy3qp8m]

Getting married after knowing each other for a mere two weeks is not necessary a recipe for disaster if both parties are matured enough to know what it takes for a marriage to work. The main problem for both of them is that they are both not matured enough. And also not financially stable enough to start off with. It is not the husband fault to feels so insecure when it comes to money especially his choice of career as an influencer. Money is a very important element when it comes to the union of two parties. Unfortunately, a lot of people do not understand this.

[@khokl9288]

Jade silence is so comforting 😅😂

[@user-ul4jh3jq2h]

we love you, cheryl.

[@LittleStrawbirdy]

wow dew's thinking has matured so much. oh and divorcees can apply for house straightaway with their kid if i'm not wrong! no need to wait until 35

[@edamame5540]

wow dew's thinking has matured so much -> agree!

[@michellenonislim]

Jade is really a caring and good friend!

[@muhammadasmawi7025]

Dating single mum is hard. Her kids will always comes first and you will always be second. At the start it ok but after awhile it might be too hard for that person. For example if you dated someone who married to work and always canceling plans for work, eventually this will end of the relationship. You really need to love that person and always remember you will always be second.

[@avanlee3714]

The Malay guy reallllly shouldn’t be in the show he is talking nonsense all the time

[@eseetoh]

Jade looks like she had already made up her mind on how unwise this whirlwind marriage was; based on a naive emotional knee-jerk reaction, n she wanted Cheryl to admit it was a mistake as such, so that Cheryl can really reflect n grow onwards. That's my opinion anyway. Always waiting for Jade's "wake up" call Wisdom. 😂 Could Jade be her life mentor? She could learn sssoooo much from her.

[@thearmyrole8312]

The problem is that in the beginning mostly know both of then not fit as a parents but they married anyway

[@paepaes7714]

Thank God to Jade again for the sound of reason, sensitivity and more importantly, for making sure that Cheryl wasn’t subjected to such brunt dissection of her traumatic experience and to throw her under the bus to fight for herself when the insensitive statement insinuated that she was just used goods, just for the views or sound bites… truly hope Cheryl is in a better place now.

[@VivianHoGrey13]

I'm with Cheryl on the love language. My first one is word of affirmation, and throughout my 4 years and counting rs now, my bf still cant really do that. Because he did exactly like what Cheryl said they would do, just say some random words and bye. Not everyone can express themselves easily like Dew, so when my bf DID show me his thoughtfulness and attentive he is, only then I feel appreciated and loved.

[@MeisterHub]

Classic story of a young girl who didn't think it through before committing. Happens too much in this time and age it's getting really old. I hope she finds peace and happiness.

[@gt5087]

if her frens know she wasnt working, why are they expecting her (or titus) to pay for them?

[@leejess8066]

Precisely! Is not about how much is the money exchange. Titus has a family to feed.

[@JayJay-st1jj]

Yeah so when jade said something like some guys will give the card so you dont even take your wallet out for you and your friends. Coming from a female its just like cmon how realistic isit? Movie or what

[@user-xh2kw5eh1u]

My thoughts exactly. I thought it’s not nice of the friend to still accept Cheryl paying when she’s not working. Not very nice to say that Titus is miser just cos of this I feel miser is forcing a pregnant wife to work and don’t pay basic expenses no matter what

[@adminadmin3649]

In exchange for their support maybe

[@meic2387]

Gonna be brutally honest. This kind of behaviour is absolutely immature #1 to decide to get marry to someone after 10 days, #2 deciding to delivery the baby, #3 giving up after just 1.5 yrs… She literally self-sabotaged herself with all the bad decisions she made. Btw anybody thinks Titus could be bisexual or even gay. He gave me the vibes.

[@zhenxiong5389]

A sign a maturity is knowing what one could have done better and less on what the other party did wrong. For one it sounds like they needed to save more money for the child and not spend it on treating friends. 3am cannot sleep need to wander the streets when 5 months pregnant. Got to reflect what was really going on her mind and heart.

[@asampedas6933]

Damnnn has been a long time since I watched this and couldn't even recognise dew now. Whatttt a glow uppppp

[@yihengooi7897]

Wtf Drew you slimmed down alot

[@tokidoki0810]

36:12 wow ~ what cheryl said impressed me! My impression of her is just all beauty and no brain (sorry) but omgggg ~ her thinking for a 22yo is really impressive! Her maturity is next level 😊 way to go girl!

[@malita354]

She is the first woman I see can rival Jade Rasif😅 So similar looks

[@dangoneflying]

She said the 14 days was a miscalculation not a mistake. What's she going to say if one day her daughter wants to do a 14 days too.

[@gameking7238]

after ALL the saga the victim is the "Child" due to bad decision or started

[@jaredliu4831]

Their marriage reminded me of Pamela Anderson& Tommy Lee

[@cherylahx127]

i thought you cannot file for a divorce if you and your spouse have been married for less than 3 years? for marriages that’s less than 3 years, only annulment is possible

[@meeeeeowddd]

i love the nigerian accents

[@xxuenii]

Even before their marriage, you can see on videos that Titus just going along with everything, no chemistry at all. This is kind of expected

[@htetnaingoo86]

they should interview all the influencer with shotgun lol😂😂 now alot influencer are getting divorce wow wow .

[@supremeleaderkimjongmoon]

Who is the guy that got beaten up by 4 women?

[@mapleleaves7345]

totally know how u feel..my husband treat me like shit from pregnant until give birth..now still like shit.

[@CarsonTakeshiStudio]

Single mom with child/children will have higher expectation from men. Definitely a man with stable high income to support wife and child/children. Don't think she is willing to accept an average family man who can't give premium lifestyle to her and child.

[@tanchormay6447]

Wow when i was 22, i looked like a potato🥔 hehe

[@Raphael-ql9pf]

I genuinely believe podcast about divorced/broken up relationships is a bad idea. Something clearly didnt workout and it could lead to fingerpointing and blaming her him they. On the other side, both side can learn from it and do beyter next time. Still , public isnt the right place. Do it in private tq

[@lubis1991]

The Dew guy is really not good at articulating his points.

[@g.o.a.t4393]

Jade is pretty

[@lubis1991]

You wanna treat marriage like a joke? Sure, go ahead. So much for 'fun and games'. You want to have CHILDREN without even knowing the other person????? That should be a FUCKING CRIME. You brought a life into the world, and subject her to a lifetime of single parenthood, just because you FAILED to do the fucking basic minimum of knowing who your partner is.. It's not fair to the kid at all

[@cheesedoufu]

Drew lost so much weight!

[@connormcchicken5915]

Titus earns so much cannot be treat friends also make noise

[@hera1491]

I think asking someone to abort isn’t letting ego down, but more of being irresponsible! 8:26

[@phili34]

Well, personal preferences..most guy aren't keen with single mom. Likewise, I don't find single dad attractive - just like how the guys think ladies are 'used'. I too think the same about single dad being 'used' too. I'm skeptical if I were to marry such man, would i have a happy ending? lol.

[@malita354]

Shallow

[@malita354]

Everyday Abalone for half a year I would already get bored😅 Titos got abalone?

[@Snbar]

Dew, im sorry it takes a man to agree to an abortion because he knows he cant step up? Make it make sense…

[@TheBackstageBunch]

I'm saying it also takes a man to admit to what he's not good at. It takes a man to admit that he was irresponsible and have to pay for his mistake at the expense of others.

[@chiodh]

Leaving within minute due to host's shouting n screaming

[@TheBackstageBunch]

I’m sorry :( …. Come back please - Dew

[@shurinhaha]

But this is a good one! I always mute and skip the start because people (especially those with a huge social media following) like to shout or talk damn fast :D

[@trinatay2616]

Dew can speak a little lesser. ✌🏼

[@TheBackstageBunch]

I’m sorry for being a host :( - Dew

[@meesanunab4811]

Hahaha don't cry dew u look fab ❤

[@kristie8413]

Dear Dew, please bring Fazz back! He's hilarious.

[@natphil8377]

Titus looks like a xiaodidi who hasnt matured. Too emotionally closed off and immature

[@vivianchong15]

A strict father produces filial children. Does it mean he doesn’t love his children?

[@lawrencewong100]

and the aftermath? nobody will love a married divorced woman anymore and i hope these divorced women should stay single forever so that they don't ruin other men who have yet to get married all men deserve a clean woman to marry

[@thinking8736]

imagine getting divorce and proudly flaunting it haha

[@glorytruthlove]

Cheryl look so sad

[@malita354]

Could it be too much make up vs reality at home?

[@colourwave3342]

Imagine being irresponsible, and then end up having kids. Less than 2 years in, you give up on the relationship. And you think you’re not used goods. Imagine having zero accountability. Nothing like Jade with her “feminist” takes 🤡 meanwhile being unable to maintain any relationship on her own.

[@d4pvp]

Everything a wife can do/provide can be outsourced. Why sign a shit contract which rewards women for divorcing. Enjoy your freedom and save your mental health by not getting married.

[@John_Smith_86]

I mean, she is used goods, given her pregenancy and child. But I don't see that as necessarily a bad thing. I happily buy used goods, and I think it is silly to insist on buying new only In any case, she looks nice even after her childbirth, so it doesn't seem a major concern. But the kid, of course, is quite off-putting to many single men. I think this is the actual downside, dating-wise

[@ifeelhalfnaked484]

She sounds like growing up in a healthy family. And it's quite rare to find a girl who's 22 year old and matured enough

[@Farmerjo007]

She sounds great but she's not mature, c'mon who marries someone after being with them for 14 days ? and she didn't even look up at what type of content he was putting up on OF. That's crazy !