Jamaican Cultural Differences - Dealbreaker or Not?? | The Bonnicks

[@JA-iw6sr]

When Kemar said no food a cook in da morning(Jamaican accent), I died laughing 🤣🤣🤣...You guys are good combination, but Kemar if Ketanya wants to hold hands and spend time shopping with you, there's nothing wrong with that, lol

[@vandahjonas3917]

Katanya does an excellent job in adjusting to the Jamaican culture. I admire her a lot for that.

[@eileenwatt8283]

In the Jewish religion circumcision was the covenant God made with Abraham. All Jewish boy babies had to be circumcised Genesis17 : 10-14. God spoke to Abraham " This is my covenant which you shall keep between me and you and thy seed after you. Every male among you shall be circumcised. ".

[@RosemaryBarry-j4s]

Loved this convo. Girl I can tell yuh, many Jamaican men are circumcised and many Jamaican men eat the pum pum, and they aren’t shy to say to say they do

[@leonietaylor7054]

Mrs Bonnick has tried very hard to fit in your culture Mr.Bonnick. Please go to the grocer y store holding hands with her if that's what makes her smile .Her culture needs to be appreciated too

[@thebonnicks]

❤️❤️

[@millicentevans9232]

Tonya that is the best way and I like how Kemar just takes his part and he knows that bills are to be paid not many men do!

[@Mitzie-E]

My hubby and I are married 24yrs, Im Jamaican, he is American, raised in the south. We talk about our cultures all the time, and find that we have a lot of similarities. Jamaican fried dumplings is very similar to biscuits. Porridge / Grits. Ive been living in the US since I was a young girl, but with age, Im becoming steeped in my culture. My husband has similar beliefs, he works, the money goes in the bank and his wife takes care of everything. When I complained about having to manage it all, he set it up on automatic payments LOL.. ofcourse doing the bills together is another way of bonding lol... but yes when a man gives you his paycheck, that is the ultimate in I trust you. We are more alike than different. I have so much to say, but my fingers wont type as fast as my mind is working.

[@thebonnicks]

He handled that (automatic payments)😂😂

[@donnahenderson8814]

I'm currently in a relationship with a jamaican, and we talk about our differences often. He's in the process of coming to visit me and hopefully eventually moves here. Being open to communicate about cultural differences is a great start.

[@carolyncambrel9288]

Understanding cultures is a two way street.

[@eileenwatt8283]

Modern Jamaican men are domesticated. Men in my generation 60 plus will not lift a finger. They would get lost in the kitchen if he needs a glass of water. Jamaican men today are different today, They do house work which is good. Women still manages the money in Jamaica. .. We are the planners in the relationship. We move the family forward. We seek out the housing and how to manage the household finances. We learn money management skills in schools in Jamaica . I learn it at school and home from the age of 6. In some schools they ask the parents to give the childlren money and the teacher take them to the suoermarket to purchase food. ThEy learn how to budget .The food is cooked and provided meals for them in school.

[@themoyiasway]

You guys make some great points breakfast is a must in a Jamaican house ,you guys crack me up taking about different cultures love the bonnicks

[@monicamclean2906]

I am absolutely loving and enjoying this breakfast conversation.

[@Mitzie-E]

Coming to the market with me on his day off, is a must! Its another way to bond. when our kids were little, I went by myself, while he stayed with them, that was my therapy..lol. Now that the kids are grown, its our bonding time.

[@sandradhowe7639]

Valid points ,but U 2 got me rolling 😂😂

[@Razzbme]

I've seen this many times and what I admire about you two, is you two try to work together in spite of your differences. This is a very difficult thing. Sometimes it happens where the one wants you to adjust to everything in their culture but not adjusting to each other. It has to be mutual and compromise has to be part of it.

[@marciawynter5155]

I agree with what Kemal said , after being here for a time I don't even eat those Jamaican breakfast anymore . But that cultural different is a big thing , it need a lot of talking about.

[@JustKimberlyRM]

Oh my goodness!! My husband is Ghanaian and I’m AA. I live in Ghana part time and the cultural differences have definitely been a challenge!!!

[@jennylovemore4385]

I am dying😂😂😂 Kemar nah suck seed (succeed) in a life!😂😂😂😂 I live you guys

[@thebonnicks]

😂😂

[@jend1186]

Tears on my eyes, I am so proud of king Kemar

[@HollywoodBrown1111Tarot]

It is hard but it is doable if you love each other.

[@NADZDD]

I think this would be a good topic to discuss on a live so we can call in and give our views

[@jenevavisui2473]

I am dying with the laught watching this kemar sound like my husband he wants cook food for breakfast he say i live here too lond i want to eat toast and and egg or grits and egg he say grits is white corn meal he want callooe and banana and boil dumpling and yam for breakfast i love this topic😂😂❤

[@blessedassurance8881]

10:38 Brought the undiluted patwa out of Kemar😅.... Me and Kat ah one...😂 🧇🥚 🍞 🥛

[@sherman3465]

My boyfriend is Jamaican and I am from the south very country we discovered we had a lot of culture similarities he was surprised I actually knew how to cook, garden , and how I grew up

[@junejohnson2248]

Kemar I'm listening to everything you say and you're right..yuh funny as always 😂 big up

[@vandahjonas3917]

😂😂😂 a boil egg and some syrup. Kemar is killing me

[@KayMoxam]

Very engaging episode guy's. As usual Kemar had me cracking up. I remember that episode of MTM.

[@PC-zg3eo]

Real talk! You guys are so authentic.

[@andreabrown3161]

Im dying with that apple story!!!!!😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅

[@gwenowens6197]

Happy New Year! This is such a great topic. Pre-defined gender roles have evaporated as more people are embracing their roles based on their strengths, needs, and circumstances. When two people come together they aren’t just merging their personalities, but also their values, experiences, and perspectives. A great part of any relationship is how each partner is open to communication which allows each to support the other in both easy and tough moments. It looks like you two are both embracing this mindset! I Love this for you, beautiful.

[@phyllisbulgin980]

Love you guys,live the conversation very interested my was a stay at home mother my dad go out and work and bring in the money. Love the vibes. Love you guys.

[@empressmalaya]

My story is so similar! I grew up in Charlotte, NC, and my husband grew in rural Clarendon. Most of his beliefs are the same as Kemar, except for the breakfast cooking. After being in the US for awhile, he realized how much weight he was gaining from eating so much starch from ground food. It's because in JA, most ppl need a full breakfast because they do a lot of walking and most men do a lot of physical work, and so they don't get big from eating like that. But in the US, most men do office jobs and would get so fat if they ate like that, and also sleepy! As for the circumcision, I don't know the full meaning, but it is definitely in the Bible. As a nurse in the US, we were told in school that the purpose was for hygienic reasons, saying that men who were not circumcised were not as clean in that area. I know that is not true! As far as the gay thing, I also had a good guy friend as a child who was gay, but we didn't really understand that he was gay until high school. Ppl were still very mean to him, but these days, it is accepted. Nowadays, there are many gay Jamaicans, most of them move to foreign to be accepted. I believe that relationships should be 50/50, unless my man was paying all the bills by himself. I almost fell of the chair laughing about the Suck seed thing!! 😅

[@thebonnicks]

That part!! About 50/50👏🏽 yes!

[@millicentevans9232]

I have cultural differences but I am ok with it because I find it very interesting. We love each and we are from two different countries. I respect his way he was born. Bless up you both made me laugh down my house. I woke Rufus up he is barking now 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@Secxysauce]

I'm a black American woman and my man was born and mostly raised in the Bahamas and we both live together in the Turks and Caicos Islands. My family is from South Carolina but I was born and raised in Miami. I don't care to eat a lot of Bahamian breakfast dishes so because he's a chef he'll cook for himself most of the time. The differences balance out but I'm with Katanya our food choices are different because we're trying not to eat so much ground food. We both grew up in 2 parent homes so we have a lot in common with that and he's 7y younger so we don't have a certain amount that each of us pay we do what needs to be done.

[@goalsallday7456]

New subscriber❤❤❤love this channel

[@thebonnicks]

We appreciate the love! ❤️

[@jullainehardinge8811]

What a wonderful talk, I loved it!!! Pare jokes!! I love you both as a couple. Yes, being Jamaican born but grew up in Canada I understand the differences and understand both sides and we do need to take the time to understand each other and it’s a beautiful thing when we practice understanding each other. ❤

[@millicentevans9232]

It’s the Jamaican talk Kemar 😂😂😂😂😂

[@musajassey4493]

I am from West Africa Gambia I'm a Man too

[@audreysteer8644]

I adore you guys. Excellent topic and discussion

[@Vanessa1983_]

Happy New Year beautiful people 🎉❤ wish you both more blessings and good health 🙏🏾 haven't watched for a while but I'm subscribed ❤ however that aside I hope wifey’s wrist is doing much better ❤

[@thebonnicks]

Yes it’s coming along, thank you!

[@carleeramsey1444]

Welcome to new year family I feel like ur my family I am a senior citizen

[@millicentevans9232]

😂😂 😂😂😂😂😂 mama Joan is funny 😂😂😂😂😂

[@joanlawrence6658]

Kemar is right about the apple katana , the apple was not a fruit. 😊think about it 😊, i am enjoying this vlog.

[@iamerikka9774]

Oldie but a goodie❤

[@Junie-q8i]

Kemar.i am happy uour sucessful,in life and not susceed in life that is a good laught.i love the talk..jamaican man talk.

[@thebonnicks]

😂😂

[@millicentevans9232]

Women go to the market on a Saturday that’s how it is in Jamaica. 🇯🇲 I enjoy going to the market on a Saturday. Brings back memories hearing Kemar talk to Tonya I like this vibe! ❤❤

[@paulineanderson3524]

Happy New Year funny guys 😂😂😂❤❤❤

[@musajassey4493]

I am a new subscriber in your channel I want to share my own opinion regarding to your topic here in Africa is the man who's supposed to go and walk and bring for the woman in the house the man is responsible for the woman but the woman is responsible in the house she's the one who's supposed to take care of everything in the house that is how we live here in Africa

[@thebonnicks]

Thank you for sharing! Blessings and welcome to the channel❤️

[@lornajohnson2082]

Blessings guys❤🎉

[@millicentevans9232]

You both come together very well and you have the correct way. I love that in you. Yes mama Joan will make you know a lot about Jamaican culture. True you got to understand your husband or partner ways.

[@thebonnicks]

Thanks so much!❤️

[@moniquefarrell7072]

😂😂Meh cyaan tek yuh serious Kemar! Yuh mek meh dey ah wuk an dwl😂😂 good video, dealing w/similar issues in my age gap relationship as AA🤭

[@oliverunfilteredja]

Mon this is such a great topic. I like it

[@miriamdavis3959]

bless newyear your my favorite utibers

[@roseannkirlew7891]

Happy new year wishes u both the best for 20,25

[@FunandBudget]

Yall got me laughing during this conversation 😂

[@vd7047]

You could never serve a Jamaican man a bowl of Corn Flakes to a Jamaican man for breakfast... worse if its with COLD milk 😅

[@lYirahmarie]

You both make good points, but I think it’s more about adaptation . I had to adapt to much of my Jamaican husbands culture and likewise he had to adapt to mine. We did and still do constantly learn and compromise but that’s how we grow and stay together after all these years lol but both have good points lol Blessings Bonnicks

[@thebonnicks]

Absolutely! And that's the key! 🙌🏾

[@susanlett4682]

Hey Bonnicks in your discussion about circumcision , It’s not a must in most cultures . Why most mothers have it done to their sons is because of something called Phimosis which can cause urine not to be released properly and the tightness of the skin over the penis. I, worked with patients where I’ve seen the penis being strangled by the tight skin. Therefore to keep the natural beauty the skin has to be pulled back from very early on in life.

[@ebonycallahan8809]

Great topic

[@warpeace6320]

There are many Jamaican men who can cook, clean house and do the grocery shopping better than some women and will treat their wives as an equal partner. But, unfortunately, there are those Jamaican men who were spoiled by their mothers and they expect their wives to become their mothers. These Jamaican men acts like they are a guest in their own home and wants concierge services to be provided by their wives.They follow their wives on vacation as it is the wives who does all the planning and mapping of the itinerary. I think when you are in Jamaica, you do as the Jamaicans do, but when you are in America, you have to adapt to a different lifestyle. When you marry a non-Jamaican, it’s an exciting experience as you get to see and understand and expand your knowledge of how someone else lives. You cannot be bored because your differences are always a good topic for conversations. While some Jamaicans may feel more at ease with another Jamaican, there’s that saying that familiarity breeds contempt.

[@empressmalaya]

@@warpeace6320 💯 💯 💯

[@millicentevans9232]

Kemar your talking how I saw it when I lived in Jamaica. But I had a different experience because I lived in England before going to Jamaica with my late mum as she got sick with her nerves. Doing night work a lot. Jamaican put on a big pot and cook food. I know it stays inside your body longer. the English breakfast. But I like that I know the both side is. I will definitely have acultural difference abecause my fiancé is not of my race but he is very comfortable eating my foods and I like early his foods. I ha

[@HollywoodBrown1111Tarot]

Anything goes in America! That is true!

[@elaine5207]

Not all Jamaicans grow up eating like you Kemar.

[@juney8474]

Circumcision is done in Jamaica.

[@normamowatt9999]

Hello to you both. You both had me cracking up. From what I understand about Circumcision, it may have several health benifits. Like lowering the risk of sexually transmitted infections. Culture differnces can be an issue, but I think as long as the couples try to understand each other cultures they will be able adjust. Communication is the key.👌🏼

[@vd7047]

You are such a lovely genuine couple. I hope ine day you arw blessed with a child , you will make great parents ❣️

[@VRob-l1g]

Agreed I think as black British of Jamaican and Bermudian heritage I would struggle to relate to African American, but could relate better with Africans. But can't lie has to be Jamaican or Jamaican heritage all the way for me. Lol

[@HollywoodBrown1111Tarot]

Jamaicans don't eat the type of breakfast food we eat. They eat dinner food for breakfast.

[@janetburt4930]

Hollywood Brown in other parts of the world breakfast spread looks like dinner. I've been to the far east and the breakfast spread was fish, chicken, potatoes and various foods. May dietitians will encourage breakfast to be the biggest meal.

[@Lindasdaughterdonna]

Kemar, I am not sure where you learned that translation about the “apple”, but I don’t think that is what most Jamaicans believe.

[@prayertrain2651]

i am a retired teacher and when I moved to the States, I told my kids to succeed. They nearly passed out laughing at me, Another teacher explained that I was saying, suck seed. LOL

[@eileenowens978]

Kemar everything is different now in Jamaica now so you can only speak for yourself

[@janetburt4930]

Jamaicans especially the men doesn't like to experience other cuisines. Most of them must have only Jamaican food. There's a big world out there. Try other cultures food. For example Greek food is fantastic. I learned to eat Greek food in NYC. I'm a born Jamaican.

[@thebonnicks]

Yes totally agree

[@MomsBusiness74]

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[@CassDeCot]

Circumcision is in the Bible. In the Caribbean it's optional and some people do it for health reasons.

[@millicentevans9232]

You two are so funny 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@melisasimms2348]

Yes a proper breakfast set the day right . If you dont get the chance to eat anything else for the day the breakfast will carry you through.

[@bonitaweekes4366]

In the caribbean circumcision is not a must, some parents may opt to do it but most do not, that is really a Jewish custom.

[@AlwaysJolly880]

Dat iz it 😅

[@millicentevans9232]

Good afternoon family ❤❤

[@Vanessa1983_]

Oh I forgot to say that the hairstyle sell off (for wifey) ❤short hair brings out the cheekbones

[@thebonnicks]

❤️❤️

[@carmenblanchard3596]

Hey y’all. I say give several options a try. You’ll figure it out. Most importantly, everyone needs their space, time to do what your partner might not be into, alone time, etc.

[@melisasimms2348]

Thank you Jesus nobody in Jamaica bow . Nobody . But everyone has it done to them . 😮

[@annestwick3288]

I understand the both sides of this story! Independence is not a cultural thing, this is a steadfast belief that one can achieve. Over all respect is key, we can admire the culture of another country. Embrace the differences between the 2 countries As an American 🇺🇸 we put ourselves first in knowing it all let’s not be fooled into thinking that, Learn with a positive mindset ❤❤❤

[@kemarprezident2212]

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[@itsjusmetv2720]

I am a new subscriber and I like you two and appreciate your discussions. I have a couple of questions. It sounds like you, Katanya, are doing most of the understanding and compromising. Do you feel there is a balance in terms of him compromising and understanding you? Also, do you work outside of the home as well? Is there an appreciation for the imbalance that is inherent in working outside of the home and being responsible for the home as well? Finally, did you two discuss these things before you got married? If so, how did you decide to manage the cultural differences?

[@thebonnicks]

Thank you for subscribing! This is a good question, prob too much to type in response but yes I believe there is an imbalance. I have a job but work from home which I think contributes to the imbalance. I’ll try to go in detail in a video.

[@Lindasdaughterdonna]

A lot of Jamaican families have live in helpers that will make breakfast and dinner for the family.

[@Mitzie-E]

Linda, I dont know about a lot of Jamaican families, but some do.., and most of the ones who have help its not live in help.

[@Lindasdaughterdonna]

@ your opinion is valid. When I lived there 4 decades ago, that’s how it was for a lot of families. Not most, but “ a lot”.

[@Mitzie-E]

You guys are full of jokes today... nice lol.

[@millicentevans9232]

Kemar you’re killing me with what you just said yes they will beat you up!😂😂😂😂😂😂 Tonya time has changed age gap does happen in Jamaica. 🇯🇲 I know people feel it’s weird but I think the times change as long as your legal that is ok.

[@Sheena-y8u]

I agree with the topics that were discussed except for the part about not being circumcised... it erect the same as being circumcised also it feel the same way as well... so all about it being religious reasons for a boy extra meat to be cut off as they are born doesn't make any sense to me at all I feel it's a choice one make... as I made a choice not to have my sons circumcised as Kemar said it only tapered with what the creator blessed boy children to have.

[@elleyonaspg9580]

Circumcision has to do with cleanliness.

[@hortensabrown9799]

It’s in the Bible about circumcise

[@melisasimms2348]

Jamaica women actually dont want men following them to the market especially if it is man giving them the money .

[@feleciajackson7255]

Lol you take his strength 😆!! Mine said the same be needs to eat alot too put back his strength,,, so! And for me I can't eat like that all the time even on the weekend. But I understand he's African they eat alot of rice breakfast lunch dinner, and I'm like I need that 1 boil egg and 1 PC of toast and I'm good , but I understand his culture is different,,, Money! Omg ,,,, do I dear! How me as a woman who makes more can allow him to lead , I understand the man is the head!!!! Absolutely it's just American woman most of us do already so much and practically been made to wear the pants. Alot of trust I pray God teaches me to be humble and wise and let him be the head of the house,,,, not easy!

[@millicentevans9232]

That is true they don’t like things that to them is out law.

[@Newcreation_in_christ]

Buggery is illegal in Jamaica!

[@elizabethjenkins7794]

I believe America is drowning in sins that God isn't pleased with. I love the Jamaican culture of being different and not excepting the America culture

[@Jsey816]

Yes he should not divert from his cultural upbringing at all, ppl can easily draw you into their sodom & gomorrah lifestyles

[@HollywoodBrown1111Tarot]

My Jamaican sins all the time then. Lol

[@thebonnicks]

😂😂

[@millicentevans9232]

It’s not talked about it is religious. It’s about the fore skin to be taken away

[@carolyncambrel9288]

Gender roles have changed significantly. You all need to have a conversation as to what is expected from each other.

[@FunandBudget]

Kemar said "straightism" - lol

[@patriciasutherland1224]

Kemar and Tonya happy new year , please to read Genesis 17 and you will learn about circumcize It was originated from the Bible it was a custom of the Jews and it still is

[@Jsey816]

We prefer to be behind, no bow cat, nor fish, round ere, Birds of the same feathers should stick together.