Why Women Can't Find The "Right Guy" | TDK Podcast

In this episode we fail at trying to understand women.
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Cast:
• Johnathan Chua / johnathanchua
• Daniel Lim / danlim11
• Jonathan Paul / jonathanpaul.sxw
• Denise Oh / ohthedenise
Behind the Cam:
• Nashrul Merza
• Julian Chin
• Daren Khek
• Raqim Ramli
• Nabil Ahmad
• Charlene Goh
Edited by:
Carmen Chuang

[@TheDailyKetchupPodcast]

What's your ick?

[@stefgoh6160]

Since u dared to ask… 😂 When a crush confesses his liking for u but cnt wait long for ur yes & moves on to another girl in less than a few mth’s time…😳😞❌ When a guy invites u to a beach group gathering & forcefully grabs ur hand while playing a grp game…😓🤬❌ When a guy claims tt he’s so hot (imho soooo not! So short n stocky n fat..n so full of hot air!) tt his aunty by marriage is seducing him… 😑🙄🤮❌ When a guy ask to watch u use the toilet bowl… 😳😑🤨🤬❌ When a guy says it’s just a stupid dog when his puppy dies…🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬❌ When a male fren ask if u hv ever been to Jurong Chinese Gardens & if u want to go w him… 🤨🤬❌ When a guy is purposely very late for your friendly outing w him & then ask to stay over bcos he already missed the last bus… (Go To HELL!@&$) 🤢❌ When u refused to let a guy friend stay over when he missed his last bus & he starts avoiding ur calls & even gets his little sister to field his calls for him to ghost u… (OMG?!? Was our friendly outing supposed to be a real first date?!?) 😳🤬🤣❌just not possible mannnnnn.. even on a friendship lvl: friendship ick When a guy fakes being shy & awkward by speaking v softly like a girly girl… 🤮❌ When a guy backs out of a relship w ur best fren & claims tt it’s love at first sight w u… 😑🙄🤨❌ (what is this fake s@&$?! Where the heck does he think he is gg to go w me?! 🤬🤮❌why does he think I am freakin stupid?! The list cn go on but I got married aft tt so not much experience dating or interacting w male frens aft tt. The above guys were thus nvr considered marriage material (aka cmi). A single ick is sufficient BUT multiple icks in some guys?!? Not gg to name e guys w which icks…

[@michaelblue4619]

Men are wrong men are wrong! - by request

[@AK8901]

@@stefgoh6160 Woah.

[@gcsy14]

For sure!! Chewing with mouth opened and talking 🤢🤢

[@chensoonteo]

Bad breath and bo

[@why_so_sirius]

JP doesn't tries to filter what he says & always gives his honest opinions, no sugarcoating & thats the way.

[@MuseHathor]

And also that’s why he’s single lmao

[@zipperdeedoodah8616]

For me JP usually says the darnest things that make me roll my eyes. But he was mother spot on today when he caught the comment on expecting your partner to go and have a good time.

[@moseschew4538]

that is because you only view him and most other men with a lens of 'HE IS A MISOGYNIST MAN PIG'

[@afblaze94]

Yea and the girl backtracked what she said lol

[@ckplays4953]

and JP's reaction right after she said "its effort". spot on.

[@angiemf9033]

It’s always polite to ask before you take something that isn’t yours. Daniel is generous to let someone takes food from his plate without his permission.

[@TheRealBBFM]

Jon absolutely killed it this episode

[@vhalia]

if a person refers to the other as SIS or BRO, it is a FRIEND ZONE !!!

[@madelynn_18]

yes yes confirm 😥

[@gweejiahan9336]

Modern day dating is fake AF. Like dating behaviour vs after married behaviour being different is one of the most common complaints. but most people expect fakeness, no one wants honest in dating, both sides wants the other side to be super nice even if they know it may be fake.

[@AK8901]

Damn I hope you guys never ever stop doing this podcast

[@LifeHacksProducts]

18:00 - Exactly! A girl got angry because I didnt helped to carry her luggage. The funny thing was that I offered earlier and she refused. But when she realised it might take a while, she got angry because I didnt help.

[@lalalalaland84]

She got mad at you because even after she declined, you saw her struggling after but didn't offer again. Her pride didn't allow her to ask for help again.

[@jonnielkf]

dan absolutely losing it at JP’s armpit hair story 😂

[@Splashhhh]

Funny how they always emphasise communication and they themselves fail to communicate properly 😂😂

[@sim8152]

Totally relating to this episode HAHA. Even as a woman, I have a hard time trying to understand my kind. And majority of it boils down to consistency (i.e. yes means yes, no means no, idk means idk and maybe means maybe). It is often the inconsistency (e.g. wanting a birthday present but saying that ‘it’s okay, don’t need to get it for me’ and then not communicating to the friend/partner that you want it when you eventually change your mind) that is indeed confusing yet alluring. And that’s the funny thing, it becomes a less attractive trait when you are able to predict someone’s mind (since well, consistent right?) as compared to when it is unpredictable (which men finds it mysteriously fascinating).

[@itzSoonz]

Agreed

[@EIJIHS]

the bro and sis thing is definitely outright friend zoning ~

[@angiemf9033]

Agree with JP. Very debatable

[@nicklim19978]

are icks just signs of us getting less tolerant with each other? comparing it to our parents generation, there are definitely some stuff our parents do that makes one another annoyed but i believe they are tolerant enough to see past those and look at the good qualities right? isnt that ironic.. as humans we need each other to survive but yet we can’t tolerate one another.

[@williamtay741]

Please do an episode on you guys deep diving into "got goal keeper doesn't mean cannot score." There are always 2 sides to be seen in a debate. I just think it will be interesting for an episode.

[@vhalia]

I had a guy who was really persistent even when I declined politely and when it became annoying, I told him NO, that I was Not interested. Yet, he became persistently annoying thereafter that I had to reject him publicly. Only then did he stop.

[@lalalalaland84]

From personal experience a guy only stops pursuing when you hurt their ego

[@vhalia]

Exactly

[@itzSoonz]

I think the only saving grace is sufficient communication within both parties and whenever fate allows you and your friend to be more than friends. Only time will tell if it'll last or workout

[@nixon2652]

Personally, I feel that it is good to reject a person in a polite manner (by calling bro/sis etc) but it is also important that if your "polite" manner isn't working, the person should outright tell the other party that "hey. I only take you as a friend". This should help and if it doesn't, you should know what to do next. Instead of complaining/whining that the person don't take no, say it outright. Still, there are a minority group which legit "die hard clan". Accept it

[@callista6566]

thank you for replying to my comment!! i intentionally said "don't want to generalise" bc i didn't want to get flamed in the comment section AHHAHA but JP still called me out LMAO.oops. i actually meant it in a friend group setting where clearly smth is wrong but guy-friends tend to play it off, not addressing the issue. anyw will alws be supporting this channel & looking forward to freq uploads :))

[@angeryblob2373]

We're getting spoiled so much, thanks for the hasty uploads 💖💖💖

[@tanchormay6447]

I need this episode to be longer 🥹😂 such a juicy topic that ended in 30mins! Ahhhhh!

[@DarkSwam56]

Half way through watching this pretty much the takeaway is girls definitely are fully aware how problematic they are. Solid

[@alisonng4702]

I called my boyf ‘bro’ when we are already together.. Guess that’s why he wasn’t that happy. 🤣

[@zoehltsen83]

To summarise, girls want to see the guy's effort, honesty, and intentions while showing as little as possible of theirs because.... Girls have more to lose? They want to have the deciding vote if the relationship is the right one to pursue? However I think about it, it seems selfish and self-serving to me. But I'm open to any other answer that paints this in a better light

[@lalalalaland84]

I think already mentioned in the video. Women and the sunk costs. Men can remarry easily

[@spermshark18]

JP is totally killing this episode.

[@meluvcats]

28:20 can we petition for Dan to do this in future episodes??

[@REDREDStrawberry]

Jon is my favourite in this podcast

[@zipperdeedoodah8616]

So back on the question Dan's crowdsourcing for that there must be an easier way to "share" what you want. It's called "stop playing games and opening your mouth". I can't say this is 100% of the population who does this, but I'd be darn sure 90% do it because there is a sense of superiority. It allows you to feel above your partner because like hey, you should know what I want, you should make the effort, understand me, know me, when I lift a finger, you should know what that means. And this applies to people who do this, both men and women. So in the end, it's games to "up" your position/ego/sense of superiority. I mean... not saying it's wrong, but I'd say that's the intention behind it.

[@lecherhao86]

How to say no to man? "I do not like you. You are not my desired partner at all. Never can I imagine sleeping in the same room as you." That will shut the man from your life forever.

[@Callsign-Blade_RunnerSG]

Yea, that’s exactly the kind of reasons I would use when dumping my ex-girlfriends for another. 👍🏻

[@farrhanng]

How do you guys cope with stuff from your past relationships? e.g. cards, photos, handmade stuff

[@lalalalaland84]

Bro and sis are just a polite way of referring to someone when you don't want to second guess their age.

[@yijuntan8433]

I think the problem lies with some guys dont have EQ. So they cannot take polite no as an answer, but yet if we jumped the gun and be aggressive in expressing NO, the guys turn around and say we think too much. [And I agree so much with Alison on the ICK, it just turns us off completely and help us know we cant vibe.] There are instances I try to be polite to the guy and find ways to say no to the persistent lunch/tea/dinner meet ups. Because to me, we are colleagues and not even friends... but the guy just doesn't get it! But at the same time I cannot jump the gun and say I not interested, because he didn't say or do anything "extra". He only kept asking me out to eat like every month, and randomly tell me things like "he ending work early tmr want to go eat"? Until 8 months later when I was really irritated and recounted to a friend, my (guy) friend said he think that this guy was trying to flirt and break the colleague boundary, or he ownself already assumed we were friends. How to deal with these low EQs/SA without being rude?!

[@itzSoonz]

Means you just wanted to be colleagues ah.. and nothing more. Hence, does not include him as your friend. Cause why? Not everybody wants to be friends.

[@fkfms5945]

I can go on dating again and not take it too hard on myself.🤣Can't blame the guys for failing to try understand women after watching this. Perhaps the right guys realize he must avoid an unreasonable partner in the first place😅.But thank you for sharing, good learning series of videos.

[@VivianHoGrey13]

Not to generalize but guys like JP are legitly funny!

[@yhmmmm9766]

Women's mind is fickle. Some women contradict themselves. Ask them what they want to eat, they cannot even decide. Advice for guys is No Need to try so hard to please them. Just go with whatever appears in front of you. Don't plan too far ahead. The guy's problem is that they want to plan ahead of everything. So don't.

[@tagontag]

Just wanted to add that Denise need not feel that her heuristic opinions or thoughts need to be validated by social scientists, especially for topics that are constantly evolving, i.e. the constant battle to explain and differentiate power in intimate relationship (Why? Because fallible humans like us do not comprehend and exhibit true loves all the time). Sometimes, social scientists were incapable of achieving a credible level of external reliability because the context of their research had far too many controlled variables or assumptions, resulting in outcomes/results that were not generalizable. Hence, science or social science should not be seen as the “gold standard” for discussions or the truth, unless all of us are trained to evaluate how the research were conducted, and test the falsifiability of hypotheses. I could think of two major groups of people coming to this channel: to search for validation in their thoughts or just looking out of general opinions on popular social topics. For the former, who wants to be herded, it is important to equip them with applicable thought processes so that they can be thinkers of their own rights, and for the latter, you need not worry that they consume every word at wholesale.

[@blubeedoobee]

“Like a jester 🤹🏻‍♂️🤹🏻‍♂️🤹🏻‍♂️”

[@kwrongg]

hi! could you guys put in cc for the podcasts if it not too much to ask for :) Thank you!!

[@LaPingPing]

First off, whatever I say can go all genders la. So don't offended k. 😊 I think women take implication of actions seriously, hence small things can become "issues". So, guys may think women are complicated because everything can suddenly become issue. Eg. If you care for her, you'd help carry her groceries when you see her struggle. If you continue walking while she carries 3-5 bags of groceries, your action implies that you don't bother to care if she needs assistance, some more she cooks for u everyday. If you respect the relationship , you wouldn't cat call or gawk over other girls in public to make her feel disrespected. What's the implication behind that action kan? Alot la examples can give. But one way to understand more is to take one day, observe your mother, sister or gf.. See how they take initiative in action to care for you. Asking abt your day, cleaning up after you, preparing snacks for you while u play game, etc. Women mostly don't need to be told to show you they care. But men are wired differently. Need to ask then they do. Hence, why men (Not all men ya. Not trying to argue) cannot comprehend why women overreact when they don't get equal treatment.

[@beckham48]

Women are sensitive human being , guys who make the extra affort scores , but guys are only wire superficially to go for looks, and go after the girl and from there understand the lady better and become his wife eventually, and after marriage will still look at pretty girls and admire from afar

[@Callsign-Blade_RunnerSG]

I’m an Orphan so couldn’t relate to your above examples with mothers and sisters. I’ve also never met the kind of ladies that you have mentioned in real life though. I believe society should stop equating women with kindness and caring which is certainly not the case. Simply put, women are just simply manipulative.

[@Fakeslimshady]

You have a lot to learn bro

[@beckham48]

@@Callsign-Blade_RunnerSG simply put men are manipulative

[@Callsign-Blade_RunnerSG]

@@Fakeslimshady There’s nothing to learn. It just simple observations on their behaviour.

[@caneveryonestoptalking]

pls talk about the adam levine cheating incident pls!!!

[@angrenee-vh8lc]

😂ending with JP talking his hairy armpit encounter is👍

[@beckham48]

Women wants guy to know everything without saying , is the thoughts that count but guys don't seem to understand so that why so many singles out there, Denise is right guys go for the looks if she is pretty he will go for her

[@elainechan6265]

Hahah what I learnt throughout my years is that, I love surprises BUT I also want to know that what my S.O. chose is what I liked. So what I do is, I will send a couple of choices (of bouquets), he will choose 1 to purchase AND I don't know which he chose (surprise part) and he is certain that I would love the bouquet. :P Sort of a 'meet halfway' lah. We can't expect people to read our mind, regardless of genders.

[@ost1no]

Can you guys discuss about Andrew Tate and XQC drama?

[@lydiay.Akatsuuki]

HAHAHAHA JP XD damn righttttttt lol

[@Justanotheruser345]

@dan when you found the crowdsourcing answers. Let us know.

[@tanchormay6447]

Just wondering, is Skylar the Transgender person who appeared in Queer Eye?

[@lalalalaland84]

The only skylar I know is from the series Heroes. He's the bad guy in it.

[@jesslynong91]

Hilarious episode! 😂💯

[@kwys]

When a guy calls a girl "sis", he's telling her he's gay.

[@sohsaraaa]

If you call a guy, “dude”, is it also friendzone? Like, “eh dude pls blablabla”

[@raymondquinn4755]

Take an isolated incident and applying to the general male population. Nice 👏🏻

[@user-hv5mk3kn8n]

sad story but I usually bro someone first in case they think I'm interested and run away ): not that I'm always interested but there are also some guys that thinks people are in love with them very easily hahahahahah. It's my way of keeping a friendship a friendship, but maybe that's why I single 🤣 enjoying the podcast as always!!!!!

[@kobekobekobekobekobe]

What a way to end the episode HAHAHA

[@irenesarahchia9836]

I believe there is no girl who doesn’t want flowers.

[@akai4185]

babe platonically bro romantically

[@yagababa522]

roar~~

[@moot8107]

No one else ship JP and Allison?

[@meesanunab4811]

No I tink jp went out with tt stewardess from tsl..can't remember her name

[@JuzNicky]

17:16 ALternate Title for this episode JP is da man ! 24:20 Bro specifically spreads as a way for Black men to address one another in the early 1900s. Like bruh, it goes mainstream as an informal term for a “male friend or fellow” in the 1960s. It was not until the 1990s, though, that the stereotypical bro takes off to refer to-and often mock-a young, usually white male variously and often negatively characterized as being preppy, party-loving, egotistical, sexist, and so on. Even though teenage boys want to have close male friends, they are hyper-aware of societal and cultural expectations of stereotypical masculinity. The fear of being labeled gay prevents them from admitting how much they value their male friends. Boys support and depend on their friends just as much as girls do, but showing true caring among teenage boys in not seen as acceptable in their minds. Talking about the teenage slang expression bruh with your sons can help open their minds to the acceptability and importance of having fulfilling male friendships. So depending on who not every one can use this term on me. Not your bruh, dude. dude not your, bro. 26:08 Am also sensitive to mood changes but I usually don't ask but read her body language and if I am close or know her for some time. I will just pre ampt and do it without a word. Would even buy pads / tampon for a co worker when she requested a change of spots in a water park with me. and when other ppl kept asking why she come to me to ask. Just said " she bleeding la " The dumb ass manager thought she had an accident and activated the medic.... then when the medic and every one came... and found out that it was just her period... I got alot of that u nugget cheesepie fishsticks. I said " but correct mah she bleeding whattt.... " she was feeling so crampy and moody yet she smiled at me and laughed it off. I just wispered " so feel better ? " She just nodded. Shout out to one of my workgf !

[@reinareinhart]

Quite disappointed in JP this episode for the lack of awareness he showed about the possible backlash women can face when rejecting men. I hope he'll take the time to actually hear some experiences from women. I also think that if you guys do decide to hear out some women with these experiences, that you'll give them a platform if they are willing. Most women know at least one person who has been harassed in some capacity by a guy who either can't handle rejection or is a just a sexual assaulter. Trigger warning for harassment, sexual assault and rape from this point onwards ⚠️ A guy from my uni spread rumors about my friend that rejected him saying she slept with him. Sure, more men are nice than not but it's definitely not uncommon for some guys to become very angry and lash out violently when rejected. My mom's friend from highschool was stalked and harassed for months after rejecting a guy's advances. It got so bad that she had to move towns because the police said they couldn't do anything without him unless he physically harmed her. My parents have seen girls drinks get spiked at hotels. I had a friend in college who went to travel in Europe and her drink got spiked as well. (She was with a friend so got out ok thankfully) I also once got on a plane with a lady who told me that she had just been raped by a friend she knew for over 7 years. He was married and had kids. I've gone to parties where guys just try to drag drunk girls into rooms while they are basically black out drunk. Girls are constantly aware that while most men are nice, it is just a reality that as women there will be many many men who will try to take advantage of you. That's why they're extra cautious and try to get a better feel for people's personalities before opening up.

[@Callsign-Blade_RunnerSG]

Nothing to be disappointed about. I’ve no empathy for ladies too.

[@ivancbz]

Wth. Baby lion??? Lollls

[@Rachyyyyy]

Sis or bro is defo friendzone

[@user-ii9we3hc4h]

I can sum up what guys want in a single sentence: a hot, best friend, to have sex with and is also a good partner for raising kids. Thats it.

[@Ganesha6661]

Bro and Sis is friend zone...

[@andytanSG]

Ello

[@benwong2061]

Algoooooooooooo

[@Lee_Kin]

Algoooo

[@joncn005]

Girl: I want my boyfriend to enjoy himself in my social circle, not performing to please me. Guy: That's what your boyfriend wants from you when you meet his friends. Girl: Wait, not wanting to meet your friends, isn't that already the red flag? (Translation: I don't care about him and his social needs, mine is more important) That's why I am still single.

[@ellxy]

Men are wrong men are wrong 🤣🤣😂😂

[@z.zaimie1406]

Girls analyse but do the same thing again n think men are Professor X that can read their mind lol

[@lonerangerz]

just here to put Men are wrong

[@fion3943]

This dan is like an incel

[@irenesarahchia9836]

Men are usually wrong😊

[@jessielo6470]

men are wrong