Millennials Are HORRIBLE Parents Pt.3

[@TheeMademoiselle]

As a Millennial my generation as well as older Gen Z ARE SOME OF THE WORST parents I done ever seen in my LIFE and I said what I SAID. ALSO LET ME KNOW IF YLALL LIKE THIS EDITING STYLE!!!! Pt.1 kzbin.info/www/bejne/pIrEip-DhM9qebM Pt.2 kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y2O1aaWQeruhmLs Why does childhood trauma makes us feel like a child? | Kati Morton kzbin.info/www/bejne/a5_CnHeKrZV0ask

[@itsbubbles4021]

Well I’m a millennial and I’m not a horrible parent so please don’t generalize all

[@shopece8807]

@@itsbubbles4021 SOME OF THE. She said SOME OF THE.

[@itsbubbles4021]

@@shopece8807 she said millennials she never said some lol in the video that is what she said she never stated it like this comment

[@fujimotochiaki2487]

Sharpen your comprehension and read the pinned comment again. ​@@itsbubbles4021

[@dariadari3370]

Honestly not. Millennials are one of the best. They have the awareness that our parents didn't have. Maybe the USA is different but my parents grew up in communist regime and their parents experienced World War 2 so my parents were people whose parents experienced a huge trauma. They themselves didn't have easy being post-war kids. I grew up in 90s. Parents of that generation were lost. The communism system just collapsed, on the one hand new opportunities appeared and they wanted to use it, finally have their time. On the other hand they had kids who were like an anchor pulling down. Raising kids is demanding. Parents of that time were either super strict or super loose. It wasn't shocking that 6yo me is taking care of my 2yo brothers when my parents are busy and out. It wasn't shocking we had the key to flat on the chain on our chests playing outside when parents were not there. When they were working and we were coming back home they were not there, we had to either put pre cooked meals in the microwave or prepare something quick for ourselves to eat. Our parents were out there using opportunities to have their own businesses or working in a new type of structure - in a corporate environment. We were pretty much left alone. And we are the millennials. And we got the abandonment traumas too but we believe in psychotherapy. And although I'm not a parent myself I see my friends raising kids being best parents ever. Parents I wish I had. Times are different. Back in time no one talked about mental health. Going to the therapist was a shame. Millennials don't share that shame. They work on themselves, there is internet, plenty of content about parenting. They learn and want to be better parents. They are caring. They had their time in their 20s due to the growing economy and they waited longer to have kids when they really felt ready, so they can really invest time into parenting. Millennials are the best parents that there have ever been. We don't believe in physical punishnents while some of us and the majority of our parents were victims of physical abuse from their parents, because that type of punishment for misbehavior was widely accepted. I'm worried what parents gen Z will be because the level of narcissism is tremendous in that generation.

[@lamersonnikki]

People who say they don't want kids. Let them be because honestly parenting (with purpose) is hard.

[@SirenASMR_]

Amen

[@kuroe-chan5190]

I commend people who know having children isn’t for them. Wish people would stop vilifying them for making a valid and responsible decision for them

[@timothyloayza6789]

​​@@SirenASMR_indeed if they know their too busy with work or life or lack the patience yet ironically have it for nieces/nephews or godkids lol. Or they are too liscentious so kids won't stumble into those disgusting scenarios, but hopefully they have a heir for their things so it doesn't go back to the state

[@NyemiNew-vw5sl]

Mannn. I should've stuck with my first mind to not have any bc Baby let me tell you sumn 😢 I is tieddd

[@keithstimpyys3497]

Parenting requires solidude and home schooling.Or your kid will end up a monster.Or a transgender there's no in between anymore

[@sebastianf6499]

Here's my take. There have always been horrible parents irrespective of what "generation" you are. Social media and dire social conditions have exacerbated problems currently existing in society such as education. Folks may call me a "Boomer" but seriously parents, teachers, and everybody else need to STOP documenting the lives of children on social media for thousands and possibly millions of people to see.

[@alexajay6896]

Agreed.

[@softbutterfly_xoxo]

Fr because when you live in the real world, it's not that big of a problem. I have a gen alpha sibling and he's very smart and well-behaved. I myself am Gen Z and of course there are naughty ppl but again its not generation specific like you said.

[@BlackGirlLovesAnime6]

@@softbutterfly_xoxoyou’re just one person tho. Your generation is the least educated and have the worst behavior as a group as well as the worst test scores. it’s worse with generation alpha

[@Naistov]

I love logical comments 🤗

[@bootlegshakira]

yeah i found the implication that millennials specifically had traumatic parents to be strange. it was arguably much worse for pretty much every generation before

[@bugsbunni4200]

As a younger Gen Z person, a lot of us early 2000’s babies are gonna limit technology when we become parents.

[@Diylifehackpro]

Limite is an understatment im gonna forbid It

[@iamelote]

Some of the baddest kids I knew had strict parents Learn to be realistic and learn your child as well as yourself in my household respect is a big thing personally

[@bizzyg5751]

I feel bad because you guys are already suffering the brunt of whatever this mess is.

[@MamiBryanna]

You never lied I felt the same way💯 they are going outside most of the time

[@marylandj3228]

I feel like the world in the future will either be way more technology or the reverse of that. We could of had holograms years ago idk what we gone have in the future. 😬🥲 I'm not giving my toddlers tablets I know that 😂!

[@guttatyme]

My hot take. Theres always parents saying “not MY child. My child would NEVER. My child knows better” then who kids that cant read, low attention span, destructive and violent?

[@marylandj3228]

Reminds me of the movie Lean On Me

[@fortyshorty2459]

💯

[@ibejak]

I’m an 84’ millennial and I opted out of having kids but I do agree that unhealed people are out here raising unhealed kids.

[@attitudeproblem6462]

‘82 and _same._ 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@chantelvenessa]

Yes I agree! I have family members who are dragging their kids through childhood, not raised, and you can't tell them nothing.

[@SheCanSmile]

100 per cent agree.

[@GetElevatedWithMe]

Same ❤

[@notyourfrind9415]

'88 over here and I opted out of having kids because my unhealed Boomer mother who was raised by her unhealed silent Gen mother left me with a lot to heal from. So I decided that the cycle ends with me.

[@YummiLolZ]

Girl they having kids for tax money 😭

[@TheeMademoiselle]

Tbh 😪😮‍💨

[@Bubblez914]

I know it sounds crazy that parents are blaming teachers for their child's misbehavior and are immediately taking their child's word at every turn but hear me out. I just had a realization. . . most Millennials were raised by a generation of parents who would VERY often automatically take the adult's word without giving the child a chance to explain themselves or plead their case, as it were. So some of us are probably thinking, "Well, my parents always just took the teacher's word and never listened to me so I'm going to do the opposite with my child." They're two extreme ends of the same spectrum.

[@TheeMademoiselle]

Very true , however, to attack the teachers is wild. Def gotta hear both sides.

[@ConstanceOhara]

Agree but it's also easier to blame the teacher than take responsibility for how to teach right and wrong...im sure most are single moms that have jobs...full work day get home tired and still cook clean by then they exhausted...give the kid a iPad and its sleeptime....

[@sakuraesther6309]

They were attacked by parents sometimes even infront of the teachers​@@TheeMademoiselle

[@michaelortiz1561]

Basically they learned the wrong lesson from their own upbringing and are now making things way worse

[@Jessica-pn5ri]

The reality is that children need to be trained to be adults, it's basic survival and that starts day one. Some parents want to treat childhood like a fairyland instead of a training ground for life, and now we have to deal with it.

[@SirenASMR_]

This

[@ms.lesarenay9450]

Exactly!! That's why I always say parents need to remember that they are raising a human being at the end of the day. We need to be telling them about the "real monsters" out there and how to get to what "you" paint as your fairytale ending. We were sold the "American Dream" and told vaguely to "be good, go to school and get a job". Well most of us fell flat on our faces after school and are now mostly online crying about how were 35 and have nothing to shown for it. Most of us never truly knew or figured out who/what we were out there chasing to be.

[@BrianSzymczak-d2n]

if the child fails the test of childhood. then they have to be reeducated in prison. even then prison isn't exactly rehabilitative here in the USA. even if they get out they will have a criminal record and turn away potential employment prospects. usa is a country in decline.

[@NiNi-ej7ch]

I agree and disagree. Yes we should but also set some grounds on when it’s the right time as well as not force it. I didn’t get a chance to have a childhood because starting at 5 I had to learn and do grown up things. Which now in my 20’s I’m happy because I’m not struggling but I do miss that I never could do child things when I was that age. I feel old yet I’m still young just because I’ve done it already. Definitely drained but I’m learning still to just accept the things I have to do as an adult. But sometimes it definitely feels like I never had rest in my life. In all honestly I wish people would focus on their goals and finances mental physically emotional spiritual and verbal health first. Just so bad generational things don’t keep occurring but everyone wants to start families so soon when their not ready. Specially my generation gen z i always hear them wanting kids and family when they still have a lot to learn. But who am I to judge🤷🏽‍♀️ I wish it back in the old days where there was a purpose for everything not just a feeling or “I want”

[@Nicejokeright]

Children are people living breathing beings, not robots you can program, Im not saying letting them run wild without guidance, I’m saying children should be in an environment to enjoy their youth not focusing on a failing society 24/7

[@moniquew3603]

Millenial Parent (90) and my husband and I have 3 children. Our eldest is 8.5yo and she just got a tablet with HEAVY restrictions (no social media) a few months ago. People were constantly trying to gift her a tablet , but it never sat right with us to have our young child(2yo) so attached to technology. Now, we cant go anywhere without seeing children glued to a screen.I grew up in the Caribbean(super strict), so we really try to find a healthy balance as parents .Parenting is A LOT of work. It is not easy. These kids these days have ZERO manners, and its so hard to find like-minded parents with respectful children. The struggle is real...

[@TheeMademoiselle]

That’s the scary part you could raise your kids so well, but then now you have to watch out who your kids interact with because what the hell how about if the people you’re interacting with raised their kids like wolves 🌚.

[@athina2685]

These parents are replacing one extreme of parenting over the other. Ppl need to go to therapy before having kids, you shouldn’t think raising your kid the way you wished your parents raised you is a solution. For example, your mom took your phone away at 13 or didn’t give you one till high school. Now you’re giving your kid phones and electronics at 4, it’s backwards.

[@asmlove32]

I’m Somewhat older gen Z, and I have a child. My parenting is a mix of gentle parenting and old school parenting. If they don’t listen, privileges are taken away, I don’t believe in toddlers having electronic devices and I’m teaching them manners from early. My kid is very advanced and I plan on being on top of schoolwork when they start school. Not enough to stress them out but enough to show them that doing well matters.

[@dont_harsh_my_mellow]

I’m a Zoomer (‘96-‘97 line) and I plan to be a similar way to you because that’s how I was brought up and I am a respectful, well-mannered, empathetic adult today. I would have never gotten to be where I am if I had parents who didn’t emphasize the importance of respect, kindness, hard work, education, and kindness. Seeing other people be entirely unable to even understand the reason why we should be this way scares me. lol.

[@cjwitdadreadz]

Thank you 🙏🏽

[@yaelfeder9042]

You’re a great mom thank you for your hard work and patience❤

[@Asiaisastar]

They literally act like their kids are their besties, we don't have punishments anymore, and this is coming from a kid of a millennial 🫤🙍🏾‍♀

[@kaishawna3753]

Exactly! I’m not saying to smack these kids cause they don’t need that. But they need adults to teach them properly to treat others. I understand not wanting to raise our kids to fear their parents but there has to be consequences for actions when needed.

[@TheeMademoiselle]

No, seriously if anything, that’s the biggest issue like you’re not supposed to be buddy buddy with your kids to the point where you can’t even discipline them.

[@tc-tm1my]

I feel old now

[@tc-tm1my]

They are ways to discipline without hitting. Unfortunately millennials were only ever disciplined by being hit so they can't think of how to discipline or punish bad behavior.

[@harrisindustries314]

We're going to have a generation of resentful adults when these kids grow up and realize how much their parents set them up to fail. That or they'll just repeat the cycle.

[@tc-tm1my]

I can see them starting riots

[@moxiemaxie3543]

That's a constant in generational trauma. 35 with a mom who had me b/c welfare will take care of us. She said her job was to just make sure we were clothed and fed. The rest isn't her issue. She still doesn't acknowledge how the 1 kid who's successful, was raised by someone else. My mom lived for free her whole life. At her boomer age, she has a 2 BR in a nice senior community that has a garden and patio

[@cpprclrd8790]

Sadly I see it repeating but I also see a lot of gen z raising themselves and figuring out everything for themselves . I choose the second option

[@ashantilikethesinger]

Yea…. It was so “normal” back then to be raised by the grandparents back then. I was raised by my grandmothers and aunts and even great grandparents.

[@mrzhyphy1510]

THIS!.. My mom was 15 when she had me.. yes she was hands on but i was DEFINITELY raised by a village ❤

[@rudeboi947]

That's not what she's saying. She's saying your parents not being hands on and pass the responsibility off to a grandparent or god parents​@@mrzhyphy1510

[@NJB908]

As a true millennial (born in the 80s) your take on how we were raised, the relationships with our parents to living with other relatives. Chef’s kiss! It TOTALLY impacts on how we parent our own. I am a teacher AND a parent. As a generation, we definitely had to learn a lot by experience, trial and lots of error

[@TheeMademoiselle]

It’s truly fascinating when you look at it in the grand scheme. And now that this new generation of kids can’t read I don’t know what the hell is happening next.

[@honieebean]

I wonder how much a parent figure jumping in and out of our life effected us. It used to be if you're in then you're there everyday, otherwise you skip town. Not here and there showing up

[@tinac4332]

As a millennial- I am SO disappointed in my peers when I see the state of our children. They knew those kids shouldnt have been handling ipads since they could see.. and they just did it anyways, as long as the kid doesnt bother them while they use their ipad/phone! Its like a Black Mirror episode.

[@godanubis93]

As a Gen X’er, this video makes me proud of the type of parent I was to my kids. I was always present, and I talked to my kids, because I believe in solving problems and acknowledging my kids feelings. Now I have 3 well adjusted, successful adults who make me proud daily

[@TheeMademoiselle]

🥹♥️♥️♥️

[@godanubis93]

@@TheeMademoiselle My mom was and still is toxic and a narcissist. I made it my life’s mission to not be like her

[@SirenASMR_]

@@godanubis93Gen x here 2 and yup my mom is a narcissist. I chose not to have kids . I don’t need her genetics to pass onto my kids. Nope . Happier on my own . There is not enough discipline with these kids anymore now a days plus most are in the spectrum and have mental disorders.

[@Bonkezz]

Please adopt me 😭

[@wrenkennedy]

My mum is gen x. And she is my best friend but best believe I never acted like this. There was no backtalking no cussing and no public outbursts. My parents treated me like a mini adult which doesn't sound right but I mean more they gave me equal respect as they would their peers. In a restaurant you use your indoor voice. You say please and thank you, you look at someone in their eyes when they talk to you. Elders came first. No hitting. Basic common decency and my parents always said how proud they were of me growing up, how I could hold conversations, my vocabulary and that they got tons of compliments on how I acted. And tbh I remember having fun, acting like a kid and all around having a wonderful childhood. Because I behaved without needing to be told I got to go on overseas trips, attended events with them instead of needing a sitter. And being able to spend time and connect with any adult I encountered. Nothing is worse than treating your child like a baby and thinking they deserve to be treated as less than a human. When I talk with kids I don't baby speak I don't patronize. They are people and should be talked to as capable people

[@athina2685]

I can’t stand parents that act like teaching their kids the importance of being a good student, is preparing them to be a”robot to the government”. Like they’re literally saying that as long as their kids show up and try their best (which 9x out of 10 they’re not, and just accepting less than the bare minimum) that they’re doing just fine. That’s why these kids can’t read, write or communicate or know how to apply themselves. It’s going to end up bleeding into their adulthood and will have these kids living with their parents in their 40s. They’ll never grow up, Peter Pan syndrome 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@kaishawna3753]

These kids need people to teach them. These kids are SUFFERING. These kids need help and guidance on how to treat others. Adults are the core issue of not teaching these kids how to socialize properly, to not hit, not bite, etc. I severely worry as a college student studying to become a special education teacher. I am autistic and have an autistic cousin. Even though he is autistic, he is taught that biting and hitting is not okay. These kids need help to learn to be kids again cause they are learning to grow up to become adults too fast.

[@prinxesstv]

When I was coming up we had a computer class that taught us about the computer like typing, websites,docs, words,etc so why can’t these kids have a computer class to teach them the same thing?

[@TheeMademoiselle]

I was shocked to find out there are no longer spelling tests, computer classes or Phoenix taught in school. To add insult to injury the grade scale has been lowered. 🤕 maybe some places have that and a computer class but it truly depends. I taught a charter schools where the kids had economics in elementary so it varies.

[@prinxesstv]

@@TheeMademoiselle that’s crazy you honestly make me want to homeschool my baby girl because the way the school systems are now mannnnnnn🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️😥

[@hepnivalentine1635]

I was just thinking this! They don't do this anymore? How does a school expect kids to know how to type already when most homes no longer have home computers?

[@SaweetDee22]

A lot of parents of millennials were quick to get rid of their kid if they were a problem child or just didnt want them in general

[@Tiredarsonist]

I feel like when they hit highschool they're gonna make teachers quit within five minutes

[@marylandj3228]

Younger gen z is currently doing this so I see what you mean 😢

[@Zvromi]

@@marylandj3228it’s younger gen z and gen alpha

[@unapologeticallyb5068]

It's already happening in the middle schools!!

[@Crystalbella1999]

Kids need to re-educated. It's not singling your kids out, it's trying to give them a proper foundation to grow from for their future.

[@SylisDaGoldenPeach]

I really felt strange at first to not have children at 24 but I’m ok with it now , when the time is right I will have children and it will be rewarding , I want to be mentally stable and ready for the responsibility first

[@TheeMademoiselle]

Social media is ruining us. 24 is so young. You will look back and be like yeah I’m glad I waited.

[@anneagena8236]

I agree because I had women pressuring me to have children oh don’t wait till you’re too old have them early but these were the same women complaining about wishing they would wait to have kids because it’s hard especially being a single mother. I don’t know if I want to have kids because I don’t want to be a single mother when a child doesn’t have a father it’s hard.

[@IAMTOKYOLEE]

Girl I’m 30 and no kids

[@b75542]

you don't have to have kids. it's a choice to get married , it's a choice to have kids, thankfully we can make our own choices. 30, single, and childfree🥳

[@ecoRfan]

I don’t know in what society nowadays people are expected to have kids by 24

[@kandykate163]

Im a millenial (1991). I was raised by a daycare/after school programs until I was 8 when my parents divorced and then was raised by my grandma until I was 13 when we moved to Colorado and then I raised myself from 13 onward. My parents (both boomers) hated each other more than loving us and then my mom chose work and showing off that she's successful than her kids

[@GangsterWaffles]

I’ll be honest. Most of this is because of how easy social media is accessible to kids. Yes parents do play a part and yes parents need to monitor. But we are now seeing the negative effects of social media with young kids. Now everybody wants to talk and do something about how the kids are out of control, can’t read or do math. I’m glad the conversation is being had but at the time I don’t think parents really knew it would get like this till it got like this.

[@TheeMademoiselle]

YES. They ain’t listen.

[@unapologeticallyb5068]

I don't think parents knew it would get this bad but I also don't think the blame can be taken off the parents. It goes beyond that, they are so incredibly misbehaved, they don't care about anything, they have no social skills or empathy, they are DUMB, bro. Straight up illiterate. These parents aren't putting in the work to parent they are sticking them in front of an ipad that they know makes their kids dumber so they can play on Instagram and get their nails done. The internet does not teach your child how to behave in a vacuum. It's a combination.

[@hannahdyson9963]

I don't have any kids and I'm 22 but I'm seeing this with younger and younger people. I feel like this isn't just the kids and parents but it's all of us. I think phones and social media have changed our attitudes on the concept of community and how our actions affect others. We have become very individualized and only care about how something will either affect or benefit ourselves. No one is allowed to correct anyone else's kid and kids are not taught that their actions and decisions not only affect them but their family and the community around them

[@TheeMademoiselle]

Very good observation

[@xeinahpets27]

get rid of internet access, ipads, and make these kids play outside🥴

[@YochanaIrie_FineAppleStylez]

As a millennial, I definitely seen the growth of technology. I grew up in Brooklyn and in my school we did like the Mavis Beacon typing programs and we had to hit a certain number of words per minute. I realize they were trying to teach us life skills and basically how to be an administrative assistant. And we had all types of applied learning. But it is interesting because it seems like the kids of today just don’t get that kind of application. Also, I’ve seen that around the country they’ve been lowering the grade standards, which is crazy! So it sucks because you don’t want to parent them rough, but they need to learn boundaries and learn that some things are not appropriate for children.

[@CHARZANNA82]

I'm a Millennial born in 82. All I can say is my teens can read and they have jobs at 15 & 17. I'm just glad they have work ethic because I was worried about that.

[@Whotheworldisu]

Parents recoding their kids in a moment of discipline never ceases to anger me.

[@frenchelehodge7783]

That’s soo crazy some ppl had to go through that. My mother was kicked out at 14 and never beat us even from her hardship. She raised us with discipline and respect. She never showed us her pain always showing love and making a way. I raise my daughter the same with love and respect. Mom use to say look im friendly but not ya friend. This world needs to get it together. Love and understanding your child and teach respect Will give the child room to grow and be a great person to society. Also stay creative and be a true kid use your imagination it gets your child mind going and they can use there own mind not someone else’s. Also send your kids outside its very important im soo happy my daughter n nephews n nieces really like to go outside and dont really care bout they tablets or phones until they have to come in the hz.

[@ieshallure]

I’m was born February 95 and you spoke nothing but the truth. But my daughter is 3 and I’m really trying so hard to raise her right. Sigh 😔

[@unapologeticallyb5068]

Please please don't give her an iPad!! I preach this all the time! I have a degree in early childhood development and education, the screens literally prevent your baby from forming synapses appropriately. Synapses are brain connections that lead to all thought and cognitive function. There are studies showing that iPads and iPhones can literally slow brain development to a trickle. They are linked to speech delays and psychological issues because they prevent proper socialization in several ways and kind of blur the lines of reality for children that age in a really damaging way that affects their social skills, empathy, sympathy, and more! Keep your baby safe ❤️ youre doing great! It's not easy

[@Etherealseren777]

I was a child raised by grandparents and my mother. My mom was a teen parent, and also went to college. While I love that she furthered her education, there would be days I’d barely see her as a baby. Then in my childhood she worked overnight so I’d only see her for about 5-10 minutes a day during the week. My mother did her thing by teaching me cursive, multiplication, reading comprehension. But I always wondered how different I’d be if I had more interactions with her when I was younger 💯

[@AITAHCORE]

I am 28 and I think it’s the cell phones and internet my parent taught me NOTHING I learned how to read, do math, critical thinking, how to live, do taxes, figure out what I wanted to do for college and my career ON MY OWN COMPLETELY. They taught me nothing about life, social skills, careers nothing…I leaved everything From tv shows that thought me everything down to other languages and facts. the internet sucks, social media sucks in my child hood my phone was barely use and all I used my iPod was for music and tap tap revenge lol

[@brainbomb.]

Stop giving phones to toddlers.

[@froonamission1013]

This is why I, a millennial woman, CHOSE to not have kids. Too much trauma to make me a good parent, I recognized it, and I made a big decision to save a future child from me. At 40, I married an amazing man and after fully growing up and processing, I get to be the best step-mom to his college-age kiddos. This was better for me.

[@TheeMademoiselle]

I can’t even blame you

[@ny_cruz]

It’s just your turn 🤷🏽‍♀️ during my time they called them Bebe’s kids

[@TheeMademoiselle]

But at least those kids knew how to read

[@SheCanSmile]

yes i was orphaned by age 12 both parents deceased by then I and I was raised by maternal family members who were very verbally, emotionally abusive; unnecesarily strict; school and books drilled into me; fear of pregnancy and boyfriends and men etc all drilled to "keep me focused". i am 39. no kids. no hubby. never been married. and looking back I really think the parenting I received was unnecessarily heavy handed.

[@honieebean]

Between Boomers who left us as latchkey kids and the Gen x who left us with technology instead of parenting.... No wonder my generation doesnt know how to parent 😐

[@kiraalexander2394]

Im seeing the issue play out in real life with my sister's kids. Sis born (84) has a 16 yr old that has been on one device or another since he was 3, she singlehandedly raised him and now hes a dangerous criminal with no communication skills, emotional regulation or respect for anyone. Its super frustrating and disgusting she treats her kids like accessories and only views them as a means to control their respective fathers, and a supply of child support for herself.

[@moni5567]

I’m gen z and my husband is a millennial we are parents. And you not lying!!! I’m honestly nervous having my kids around others sometimes because I don’t know if other kids are behaved enough. And sometimes we get looks when we take our toddlers out because they are calm when we go out to eat and don’t need screens to stay calm just a toy sometimes. And today’s parents really believe nothing is a big deal: manners, reading, anything. I just don’t get it. I love my babies and I’m doing my best to help them be good children and well educated but I’m extremely worried about their future peers.

[@athina2685]

I’m a Gen z, 23. I will not have kids, but if I do I’m gonna make sure that I inform myself of the things around me and child psychology beforehand. I have a lot to improve on for myself and won’t do it while I have someone else to take care of

[@kamrynjackson5202]

I'm Gen Z (born in 2000) and as someone who was raised by a mom who is a Gen X alongside a single parent did not play. If my two siblings and I got in trouble especially at school, or in public, we got whipped with a belt and punished with no TV, video games, computer, or playing outside. Speaking of outside, I played outside and had to be inside before the streetlights came on. Since we were in school alongside one of us doing an extracurricular activity, we only had time to watch TV, play video games, and be on the computer in our spare time or on weekends, holidays, and summer break. Oh, when we got our family computer we had a time limit alongside my mom telling us not to watch anything or go on any website with inappropriate content. I'm glad I was raised well and didn't become a hot mess.

[@TheeMzMonroe]

I was raised by my grandmother, and I tell her all the time how appreciative I am for her

[@aking591]

I am a single Millennial mom( born in 91), anytime my children are having behavioral issues, I take a step back and check myself. When I check myself, and change my behavior, their behavior change as well for the better. I thank God my alpha child is in 4th grade reading at a 7th grade level. Too many of us were babies having babies. Also people need to open their eyes to reality and be honest with themselves.

[@InfamousTing-tu5wq]

My mom didnt RAISE me. She provided for me. Thats it

[@oleanderlove6113]

I’m one of those kids that was raised by my aunt and uncle AND I’m so glad they did 😩 I’m 30 and my parents are both still selfish narcissists. I’m so grateful for my aunt and uncle and I like to honor them instead on mother’s and Father’s Day

[@NecroOwl]

I was raised by boomers and my sister is old enough to be my mom, and I am a millennial. My parents did not grow up with both parents in the home, but the effects of living with both parents who weren’t raised with both parents, or with parents that were able to raise them with the understanding they needed spilled out onto their kids (my siblings and I). The older generations have my generation and younger FOOLED! I listened to them and my other elders and the older generations are good for maintaining images, which is why younger generations think the older generations were better. When my parents were kids, parents VERY MUCH expected kids to be partially raised by teachers. Back then, you could whoop the kid for misbehaving in school settings. There were kids that learned from those punishments but also kids who grew resilience to it. A LOT of kids grew resilience, but when it comes to the generation as a whole, they’ll make it seem like they were more well behaved and moral. It will be no different with our generation when we get older but it will be harder because we have technology tracking our previous actions and previous generations didn’t have that. I’m worried because the newer generations aren’t adapting to the times in a healthy way for younger generations. Now, as far as education… How are the children supposed to take teachers seriously when the teacher’s superiors and administrators don’t support and back the teachers when it comes to backing the disciplinary decisions of the teacher? When that student sees other students bring powpows to school to hurt teachers and seriously disciplinary actions aren’t taken? It’s all a mess. A mess so big it can’t be fixed in 1 or 2 future generations.

[@fae3821]

This!

[@Hawtestyf]

My little sister is 12, and OMG she’s so mean & always talks back to adults it’s crazy she has like no respect for anyone but her friends 😭 my parents try to correct but it’s impossible

[@marylandj3228]

It's so weird I feel like kids have lost all respect these days. But adults are never like no its sir or no its mam when kids disrespect and disregard them

[@Jojobeanz3]

Millennial mom here born 85. I think it’s subjective to childhood. My parents came from the Dominican Republic in the 70s and worked hard to give us a good childhood. Traditional values were taught to us and that’s how I raise my 3 daughters. We grew up without social media and digital products so my children have restrictions. In hindsight , A lot of my friends came from divorced parents and I notice the difference in upbringing . Then the cycles continued now that we’re adults .

[@TheeMademoiselle]

Upbringing definitely has a lot to do with it

[@shyannenoodlesoup]

I had my kid youngggggg. I was 17. I'm 25 now. So many of my "friends" with kids the exact same age are about 30-40 years old now. You can tell so hard who raised what kids. For some reason all my friends closer to 40 have terrible kids. I'm not one to sit back and watch it, I'll tell the parents about themselves. And let them know how bad their kids are.

[@viyoolacouronne6419]

I always say why are people worried so much about Gen z when Gen alpha causing a havoc 😂😂😂

[@TheeMademoiselle]

Younger Gen z gets on my damned nerves too and some of them are also raising Gen Alpha. 🤧

[@ruoqifang]

I also feel like society in itself support kids staying on their ipad. No one goes out anymore. The parks are all destroyed or way too far. Parents always have to bring the kids somewhere for them to play outside when some don't have time. That gives them the solution of just giving them ipad

[@marylandj3228]

True opening more parks and kid friendly places will benefit the youth I feel so bad that kids don't play outside like they used too.

[@cjwitdadreadz]

Im a gen z and I’m so glad that I don’t have kids because I’m way too young and I have a lot of growing up to do

[@nikkilately]

Millennial mom here.... I agree with the video. I do wish teachers were more understanding of the 2 year pandemic that affected all public schools. Especially the children of essential workers. Children were dealing with deaths, depression and hardship for 2 years and I believe there is a bigger problem at hand. Really think the children were massively affected by it but it seems to go unnoticed

[@asyagraham]

As a millennial mom of a 9,7,2, I had to realize there was a difference in “changing generational curses” and just having no boundaries. I do more explaining and reasoning with my kids before there is a consequence to repetitive behaviors compared to my upbringing, but I won’t justify or coddle poor behavior. My middle son has ADHD, and yes while I fully understand the support he requires to help him, I also still acknowledge and discipline inexcusable behavior. I try to find balance in yes they want to watch KZbin or play the game, but also encouraging reading time, pitching in with age appropriate chores,doing family game nights, going to the park, talking about what they like or don’t, and just connecting with them because they need that real time interaction. In that I have seen my son better regulate and attempt to express his feelings, as well as my 9 year old be more engaged and inquisitive in things like cooking, saving money to buy her own books or even picking up other skills like doing hair. it’s all in balance in my opinion.

[@stephaniemann9397]

You have to train children and instill in them, or the world will.. Periodt.

[@BridgetWalker-xu8sw]

I'm 28, i know i don't have the patience or energy to be a mom. My parents never spent time with me growing up, i felt abandoned by my family and I'm the youngest of 6.

[@nikkilately]

I just got finished watching the entire video. You are absolutely right and you gave me a new perspective of how people without children view parents. It's truly beautiful to get an outside perspective of parenting. Great video

[@SoftChroma]

I associate so much shame with having a “bratty” kid (for lack of a better word). Although I believe when a kid acts out it’s a sign. I feel compelled to announce I’m not “that type” of millennial, and separate myself from this trope… because I take parenting so seriously. Like, I’m trying so hard to make sure I have kids who are generally likable/ not a menace to society. It causes so much anxiety and when we are out, there’s NO relaxing. I treat them with respect, give them autonomy, I don’t believe in using fear, shame, and punishment. I believe almost everything can be solved with having TRUST in your relationship, and a strong bond. Of course display structure, respect for other people’s time, boundaries, space, etc.. Do any of you guys as parents feel the same? If so, how old are you? What type of parents did you have??

[@SoftChroma]

The more I think about this, I realize that neglectful/ passive /immature parents have always been a problem. Now it’s being documented and it looks different than 30 years ago.

[@synbeast0241]

Ppl are just lacking balance fr, it’s like they keep pulling to different extremes & it’s rly not necessary.

[@RobinClayborne]

TELL THE TRUTH!!!! You need a talk show!!!!! Keep up the amazing work!!!!!

[@TheeMademoiselle]

Thank you 🙏🏽

[@sanderiabritt1810]

I just finished substituting full-time for 5 months at over 17 different daycares. I was blown away by the complete disrespect and undisciplined children. When I work, I put my heart and soul into it. This was just a job until I started into my career. Well, I hope you read this comment. For me, it gave me a front row seat to the downfall of the educational system. Only one daycare was descent out of seventeen. Kids were kicking, screaming, yelling, biting, pushing, fighting, crying etc.etc. I felt as if I were in a war zone every day. And, you can't discipline them at all anymore. Thus, you will lose your job. And, staffing is very low at many daycares. Thus, you are on your own with sometimes 14 to 15 kids. The staff and supervisors at many daycares don't care. As long as they got a substitute teacher for the day. Each child I came into contact with was a direct reflection of the parent. I promise you that. So, glad God removed me from the educational field. You couldn't pay me a billion dollars to go back.

[@sanderiabritt1810]

Lastly, I have worked with every race of kids. It doesn't matter if the parents pay more for the daycare or not. There was always one or several children misbehaving, and this took time away from the other children. It was a domino effect. The Bible says discipline your children in Proverbs. Well, these schools 🏫 took discipline away. So, these war zone classrooms are the result. Common sense is gone.

[@daasocialninja4804]

I also use to teach for awhile and I think this is the result of no physical punishment, yeah don’t hit your kids but you are not always able to reason with kids sometimes fear is needed if you need things to move along fast and efficiently and not disrupt the class. So now what I have to reason with a 8 year old on why they can’t disturb their friends in class while I’m teaching? How often can we do this when there are no proper punishments in place. Let the discipline teacher know and they just get a talking to ….what for.

[@renny504]

This video is so spot on!!!

[@TheeMademoiselle]

Thank you 🙏🏽

[@fancydancy5965]

My mom and dad raised me but my great aunt help mold me into who I am today. I'm so thankful to have had her in my life.

[@LeaBestie]

I was born in 2000, and I was also raised with my grandparents. My mother alive but never had time for me and my brother.

[@brieburnett208]

As a person who has seen different millennial parents, I notice the ones that discipline their kids properly based on the amount of trouble their in have kids that are more level headed. They don’t have one way of disciplining their kids.

[@lanademure6551]

I fought with my mom (genx) not to give my 2 yr old at the time a tablet or let her watch KZbin at all let alone unsupervised. Both my mom and sister (genz, who will give her unlimited phone access) did this and my daughter saw alot of horror content. Shes 6 and banned to only pbs kids and music content i hand select. Ive had to watch alot of nanny 911 to self regulate my own parenting. Considering i was left to the care of boomer grandparents who believe in hitting and kids not speaking. As well as other genx aunts who would try to step in when my mom wasnt around but they only parent by choking out their own kids literally. The same kids cussing and causing havoc are repeating a cycle their own parents either cant/wont break cause they havent gotten out of it themselves.

[@lalagem4814]

My aunt raised me along with my strict GMA. I have one brother and one sister, and I would play with them, and I knew them as my siblings but we didn't live together. Then my dad died and I met him for the second time in my life I was 5. Then I began to wonder how are they my siblings, and why didn't I get to meet my dad. Then one day kids being mean to each other. My sister told me who my real mom is and that the woman I know as mom is my aunt. I was 8. I never said anything to my mauntie. One day I got into an argument at school, and the kid says I'mma tell your mom, and my response I don't care she's not my mom anyway. The teacher told my mauntie. I got a beaten, scolded and punishment. They never spoke about the whole situation. Not even to this day and I'll be 36 soon.

[@usernickigb]

Thanks for the interesting video! I’m a Millennial (‘89) with 3 kids (ages 10 years to 8 months) - who are wonderful people, great fun and take far more work than I ever imagined when I was pregnant with my oldest! The majority of my son’s classmates have their own social media accounts, at 9 & 10. My 8 year old daughter’s best friend has a smartphone. It’s genuinely scary! I sacked off most of my social media accounts because it wasn’t good for me mentally (can’t leave KZbin though!) It worries me how the kids accessing these platforms at such a formative age are going to be as adults. You’re spot on when you said “it’s sad”, I think that sums up a lot of this whole thing.

[@angiebervinkle1575]

Ppl need to grow up and if ur kids commit crimes the parents need to be held accountable

[@chantelvenessa]

Whew! Im an "old" millenial (82) and i think i had a perfect blend of gen x and millenial mindset with raising my daughter, now 17. Shes in college, has a part time job and volunteers all whilst having great grades and a really great attitude. I was raised by a boomer who was a nightmare so i think i learned from ger mistakes.

[@domjean2267]

I know I'd make a horrible father, the last thing want to do is bring a child into this world while still feeling like one myself.

[@xoxomya8334]

thats so weird because alot of gen z kids have gen x parents and mirror the same views about how millennials are raising their kids but also gen alpha is still pretty young so some of these kids are younger gen z but most likely their parents are younger gen x parents so idk i think it really matter what age you had your kid and how you’re choosing to raise your kids is the biggest factor in this

[@BroJo676]

Not every unpleasant experience is trauma. I wished I had an insanely different childhood but calling myself traumatized while I was not neglected, not physically, sexually, or verbally abused, is TOO MUCH.

[@draalttom844]

Emotional neglect causes deep rooted trauma that often cause personality disorders

[@BroJo676]

@@draalttom844 Did you understood what I wrote?

[@draalttom844]

@BroJo676 yes I dud but it's wrong. If it causes a choc, prolonged or once and done. That the memory often comes back very vividly and affect your life, choices or personality, its a trauma.

[@BroJo676]

@@draalttom844 No you didn't because I list neglect as a form of abuse, emotional at that. Or else, I said hat not every unpleasant experience is a trauma. Because someone humiliated you once by pulling down your pants, does it qualify this dumb act as a trauma? Nope.

[@wr3ck3dd10]

when i was a kid, my uncle gave me a small iphone. it was an iphone 3-4 i think? anyway, it only had pre-downloaded games on it. doodle jump, and a couple of other games i can’t really remember. my access was very limited. i could ONLY play the games and i couldn’t download any more without getting a parent to help because i didn’t have access to the app store. i think that was a pretty helpful thing he did for me, it kept me entertained but not too entertained, since the games i had would get boring quickly and i would have to find something else to do.

[@Ytbkt]

🙋🏼‍♀️ millennial - grandma raised me. Mom and dad literally took me on “vacation” and told me I’m staying the day they left… grew up with some serious abandonment issues 😅

[@sweetblueberrykake1588]

I’m glad me be a older sister of gen a child i had to teach them to be normal and respect my little sister is upset she failed a test and at the same time the youngest passed his test im glad i was there to teach them to respect and feel bad and good about things they should want to be trying to get better or when they get something right it’s really cute then that stuff happens because all im hearing is that gen a is not caring about their learning experiences

[@purple_gigglez]

I was ready for another one. 😅

[@hannahsharma5108]

Millennial mom here to a gen a and now a gen alpha. My elder was at the beginning of iPad days and I had NO idea how bad it would be for his development. I have since removed unfettered access to all devices and he’s finally now playing outside and trying to make friends. The iPad is ruining our kids. My younger child will NEVER have an iPad. I feel like I let her brother down.

[@Fatlosrgrl]

Thanks lady, you just made me realize something.

[@WayofJayCole]

Yup! Born in 96. Never had my mom or dad. Mom still around to. Never was raised by her but I’m grateful I wasn’t. I would’ve been a single minded person and I’m so thankful I broke away from them. I feel like it’s way deeper than me not a having my parents.

[@lookatthat7889]

I was given everything i wanted growing up , Yet I was still expected to meet certain expectations and have certain mannerisms. As an only child almost everyone thinks I am spoilt but my parents did the best they could. They provided me with everything because when they were growing up they lacked a lot of wants and needs . I am forever grateful . They are not perfect , but they do their best even assisting me through college . Some of these new parents just want children for aesthetics as a 22 year old a child is a a lifetime commitment. I wonder where exactly they were failed in life . For example I am currently in training to become a teacher they failed these children so bad that they believe that school is not important . Growing up I performed poorly in mathematics even today It is not my strong area , however i had to ensure that i passed it. I will never have a child in a broken home , unstable financial circumstances or as an aesthetic.I grew up with gentle parenting and it turned out pretty great so I will stick with that .

[@SaweetDee22]

18:11 nope cause they feel like because they are a kid, adults should just deal with it smh

[@TheeMademoiselle]

I hate kids like that it annoys my soul

[@mychewyboocakesncrafts8201]

Over compensating in their parenting style from what they think happened to them

[@alizahbahtisrawl]

I agree with everything you said I am a millennial with 3 kids and I very much involved in my children’s lives

[@christinaclark9624]

I think I’m addition to these parents wanting to ease their own trauma by giving their kids everything they never had, a lot of millennials and gen Z were raised to not be independent. What I mean by that is instead of their parents teaching and guiding their kids to be free thinkers and motivated members of society they were usually just told “sit down and shut up” and “because I said so” and told to follow everything their parent says or does because they’re right and you’re wrong. They also taught things like “stay at that job that treats you badly because it’ll pay off in the end. it’ll IMO it seems like this is part of the reason many parents now are “submissive” to their kids.

[@nicotr1]

I remember seeing a video where the mother wasn't aware that they kept advancing her son through grade and middle school with failing grades. I was gobsmacked. He couldn't even read at more than a 3rd grade level

[@ConstanceOhara]

Great video!!!

[@ronaldjoseph9055]

When you talk about the parenting of Millennials and why their Gen Alpha children are the way they are does this describe all Millennials in general or younger Millennials mostly. I am an early Millennial born on May 25th, 1983 and don’t have any children. I am a 40 year old male with autism, work part time at Walmart, don’t drive, and still live with my parents. I would like to live on my own and get married one day but don’t want any children. Part of the reason why I don’t want children is because raising children will be a lot for me with my autism.

[@heyitscourtneynicole]

I’m a younger millennial 94’ with no kids and i think a lot of the older millennials are trying to give their kids the childhood they didn’t have but it’s back firing 🤦🏽‍♀️ and just like you said i was raised by my grandparents.

[@Aniexo_]

Cuz they not whoppin that Aszx 😂 I’ll always stand in whoppings

[@MisunderstoodPupil]

they started locking parents up for that too

[@mekastayfabsteele5989]

Gen X here, I realized that my childhood could have been better, but I also realize it could have been a 1000 worse. When raising my children, I was more compassionate and understanding, but I didn't tolerate disrespect or bad attitudes. If you want more than I can give you, go work for it. It has to be a balance.

[@alexajay6896]

I agree! And I’m 32 with a 16 year old which means I was a teen mom. I do my absolute best best but I’ll be honest to me these kids ain’t scared and that’s because no one is allowed to discipline yall don’t understand if you’re not a parent, any authoritative figures cannot take action which is why you see the schools tolerating the behavior they do and parents display absolutely no enthusiasm because discipline is basically against the law in this country. You’re not allowed to challenge people in that way. It’s considered either some form of abuse of power or discrimination. And I’m saying this as a mother and public servant. I feel absolutely horrible for the educators they should honestly strike nationwide because they are treated by consumers of their services is PATHETIC.

[@TheeMademoiselle]

The teachers could only do but so much but the real issue is that a lot of parents don’t discipline their kids whatsoever. The first authority figure that kids have is at home and if they’re not gonna respect their parents, why would they respect anyone outside of the home? The people in the schools definitely do need to strike, but if I’m not mistaken, most of them are not allowed to.

[@Sochi_Mochi]

Y’all better “Hide yo wife hide yo kids”

[@rihannastan5405]

I made a comment on tiktok after seeing video. This guy replied and said I don’t even know the whole story. I said I read it. He asked me “where”. I said in the caption…… People do not read

[@marylandj3228]

I commented to a lady in one of the comment sections it was about the preteens in sephora. She commented "at least my sons watch skiddi toilette and cocomellon." I commented "So you let them watch poop content?" She replies "You're judging a parent you do not know."

[@earlybird015]

As an older Gen X (born last 3 weeks of 63) and I identify with all the things regular Gen X did. I was an older parent (35) but as being raised by Boomers I was stern with my son who’s 26. I didn’t raise my son because his mom raised him. He has extended the his period of self discovery of his late teens-early 20s. He is polite, never gave us any trouble, hard working, thoughtful and very helpful. I’m glad he’s a fine young man but he doesn’t have a career path. Since he graduated in 17, he gets too comfortable and I have to get on him to figure his life out