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[Vlog 7.22.23] - Conflict over cookies & unknowns about Mary's port.
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[@hjcdormouse7337]

A wise husband will always have a emergency pkt of cookies, favourite chocolate etc hidden away to present to wife in this situation 😜🤣

[@Jen-zz7nv]

😂

[@mustwereallydothis]

Of all the men on this planet, Peter would have been the very last one I would have expected to not know that. 😂

[@mamas-jeep1984]

Love the shows w the kiddos! We need more of those!

[@maddieadams75]

Leaving “ONE” is a act of thoughtfulness. 🙏. It’s shows you are a very considerate person, thinking others might enjoy it too. Leaving a empty bag in the pantry is mean… and lazy 😂😂😂😂❤

[@SweetThing]

Leaving one is just a temptation. The rule of Foodies is: if you eat the last of something, you replace it... not doing That is laziness.

[@camille9094]

Such a treat to see you two today!! I know you've been busy and can't share everything, but I love being a part of your family. Watching your videos helps me get out of the funk of depression

[@candichaos2766]

You both are so adorable!!! I love how God just worked so much good out in both of your lives to be together.

[@imogenoliver]

I hope the potty study went well Mary. I’m so glad there are people like you to help disabled kids at these tours of events. As someone who has unknowingly been disabled my whole life, I know what it feels like to not fit in and to fly under the radar with no one there knowing you are struggling. So thankyou for helping her in such a caring and empathetic way, I know you understand that feeling too, you are the kind of person everyone needs at camp ☺️.

[@carolynlong9148]

I think your hilarious about the cookies. Hope your port starts working God bless.

[@rozjones4097]

Wait until Eli gets older. You may get either empty packets, or food packets full of toys

[@sonialandry1039]

I love seeing you so happy and thriving and able to do all the things you want to!❤🎉✨🙏 I HOPE BY NOW - August 4 - your port problems have been solved! 😻

[@misspepe7416]

Thank you for sharing! And thank you for the laughs. Praying for you port(s). You can do hard things!

[@penelopepolinsneemeyer4757]

Good Shabbes guys! I really do hope they’ve been able to resolve this port issue for you xxxxxx

[@Reikinurse19]

Hilarious! We do the same! My husband will leave ONE cookie, one good item, etc. hahaha!

[@nikkiwunderlich3570]

That is so wonderful that your church has that program. I myself in visually impaired, so that is wonderful hearing churches tried to add accessibility into their program.

[@barkingfromnewmexico9448]

I was expecting the dog to grab the last Oreo as you two were talking. 😂

[@dianaflener5616]

How awesome that you, as an adult helping a child, were able to come away with a blessing from that VBS! Way to go! God is so good!

[@alexandriaswann]

Hey, I'm impressed 😅. My husband would've eaten the rest!! I have to save sweets in my closet or they're gone.

[@victorialehman6604]

MARY, MY PARENTS/FAMILY TOOK IN FOSTER CHILDREN WITH SPECIAL NEEDS AND NOW ARE PROUD TO SAY WE ARE A FULL FAMILY AFTER ADOPTING MY THREE BROTHERS WHO HAVE SPECIAL NEEDS. ONE OF MY BROTHERS HAVE VISUAL AND HEARING ABILITIES. I LOVES HEARING YOUR PERSPECTIVE, LIKE PETER SAID I HAVE ALWAYS EMPHASIZED WITH NOT FEELING FIT IN OR LEARNING A DIFFERENT WAY TO ACHIEVE THE SAME THINGS THAT OTHERS DO

[@zeronz7556]

Great laughs. Love your caring hearts.

[@traceywatson2092]

Solution: we buy Oreos in bulk and they are prepackaged 6 cookies per package. Generous serving and avoids the situation Peter has found himself in. You’re welcome!

[@nf8367]

Too much plastic waste

[@steveloux4709]

You are so blessed to have the cookie caper of 2023 be the greatest test to your marriage in over 10 years! :D Some of us have been around you long enough to know trials come in many forms. I appreciate that you practice "laughing every day".😂

[@sunrisedesign3267]

I vote 90% and I would just get a new one. My mom had port issues and was terminally ill so I had to make the decision. it was difficult but a new one was the best choice and she lived longer than they said she would. Prayers for your port study🙏🏼

[@eileenmcdonald1599]

I'm thinking closer to the amount of cookies she has right now

[@curtisbemis6640]

This is soo funny, peter is a great husband he w a s thinking of Mary and left her one cookie. That's true love. 🤣🤣❤❤, omg Mary you have made that part last a long time . I know you are gonna get through it no problem. Gods with you.

[@dianelangdon2214]

Lov u guys😊

[@kammiedibble]

its awesome to know im not the only in the world that wants to make the world more accessible. One piece of advice to give Mary for those that have a visual impairment think of the world like a clock, so instead of saying to go over there and point to your left maybe say its its three steps to your left.

[@XenonTetrafluoride]

I’m about to go into hospital for a bit because my nutritional state ain’t good (like, the losing 15 pounds in 6 weeks kind of ‘ain’t good’ - and this with my J-tube in), so I totally get concentrating on cookie pedagogy to ease some of the weightier things right now. Hugs x a million to y’all. (Also, aww, the whole accessibility thing just warms my heart - I grew up visually impaired (no vision in my left eye, and without my glasses, my right eye is just blur), and I loved going to VBS - and I generally ended up partnered with someone like Mary (at least one of them was actually also named Mary 😂) to make sure I could participate to the fullest extent my eyes would let me. So, to know that that’s where your heart lives, Mary, gives me such joy! You’ll be remembered, and with a warm heart, even when that kiddo is nearly 40! ❤❤❤) ( 13:36 - having had a CVC yanked in IR, oh yes do they ever have the tools to dig it out of you while awake - I was pregnant when they put the CVC in, and so had to be awake for that, and it was tunneled, so aggggggghhhhh, the pulling - and I also have an allergy to -caine meds (so, that freezing they put in so I wouldn’t feel it as it was happening, was actually worsening the entire situation), though we didn’t realize it then, so afterward, I was in horrible pain *and* recovering from a big ol’ allergic reaction *and* had my son onboard - my partner literally was reading me Romanian fairy tales to distract me while the nurses were calling the doc and going "Uh, she’s in 9/10 pain and crying, please can we give her something for the pain?" - - I think that may be why any time I hear the words "interventional radiology," I start getting the thousand-yard stare…) 15:23 - Oh, that look. I know that look. Yeah, "you might be a little sore," is a GIGANTIC understatement - they realize how many nerves you can hit in the chest, right? Also, that was literally what they said about my CVC tunneling. I’m really glad you’ve got a good surgeon, and can be under for the port replacement. ❤ Sasha

[@CatherineSunnysideJournals]

My hubby, who I adore, will put the EMPTY cookie bag back in the cupboard!!! I suppose he can't be perfect, because he is in every other way.

[@keric3673]

Mary- was the opening song “Awesome God?” because those motions (that I don’t even think you know you did) are burned into my brain from youth group and now the song is in my head 😂

[@user-gq4xw3fe2s]

It could have been 0 cookies! Just eat your two cookies Mary! You guys are so funny! Love you both!! Nice content guys. 😍

[@stephanieenglund4167]

That’s just too 😊😂❤

[@rosebojorquez1237]

When my children were younger they would put an empty package of cookies back in the cupboard!! AND noone would own up to it!!! Drove me crazy 😂❤❤

[@eileenmcdonald1599]

And leave one swallow of milk in the container. And how about the 2 squares of toilet paper on the roll.. I come from a large family. I have lot of these issues.

[@lynnrose7562]

Oh Peter. You guys crack me up.

[@fralinsandfriends]

The Big Cookie Dilemma. Mary, when we have afterschool snacks or church cookie snacks the rule of thumb is 2 cookies. So, to relieve Peter's guilt. You have the standard amount of cookies. However, we do usually eat more like 4 to 5. 🤣🤣💖💖

[@vividdawn913]

3 cookies is a serving, last I knew. I haven't eaten Oreos in a while, but that's what the nutrition label said ;)

[@terriehumphries6028]

At least he didnt lick out the middle and leave the two cookies. My brothers used to do that kind of mess all the time.😂😂😂😂😂

[@justcallmejessz3712]

Something I've learned over my chronic illness journey is... *You don't **_get it,_** until you **_get it._* It (maybe ironically) really helped me give others a way to understand what they don't know... they don't know.. Iiii. Okay. Now. I need a way to explain my explaining. LoL. But.... actually ironically... *_You don't get it, until you get it_* 😆 🤣

[@jimhull4885]

Love, love , love this topic. Wouldn’t it be great if all kids grew up learning creative accessibility for everyone

[@kanditallant6740]

Loved the cookie caper! I confess, I buy the family’s faves and I’ve realized they like to eat theirs and mine too. So…. I’ve been hiding my “treats” in my lunch bag 😂

[@eileenmcdonald1599]

My dad used to hide his cookie stash in zip lock bags in a plastic container under the sofa in the den. We really never went in the den. He would watch his football games and this way we couldn't bug him. His favorite cookies were oreos.. Chocolate peanut butter chip..and pinwheels.

[@kanditallant6740]

@@eileenmcdonald1599 😂

[@faithsmit6839]

I love the cookie conversation 😅. I have it easy in a way...because I'm Celiac and rest of family is not, so rarely do they steal my treats and I can't steal theirs. 😂Biggest marital dilemma solved.😅 I hope that you're able to get your port removed in the way you feel comfortable ❤, Mary. Ill be thinking of you.

[@cynthiaclick9381]

Just you wait! You have at least one other cookie monster in the future. Lol

[@candichaos2766]

Also I forgot to say I miss the bible lessons that peter used to have on his channel. It was such a blessing to me to see both of you study it out.

[@DanielleDean319]

I have to ask those states you have on your wall are so neat. Where do you get those done or get them?

[@mkeegan3205]

I love those states on the wall behind Mary and Peter. I figured out that they have something to do with Elijah. I could identify Florida, Illinois, Massachusetts, North Carolina, but I couldn’t identify the first one. I was able to identify the tree at the bottom. I remember that Mary told us about it when they brought Elijah home. I think it has the handprints of Mary, Peter, and his birth family. What a beautiful way to acknowledge Elijah and the journey Mary and Peter took to make him a part of their family!

[@kaylabarnes]

90% sure it's done. But, we'll see in a couple days since this was filmed 2 weeks ago.

[@ivark56ofPA]

I believe that vlog date is wrong this episode was filmed in late JUNE Obviously not JULY 22 in the discription box.

[@KatyWatson173]

I buy my Oreos at BJ Wholesale Club but when I did buy them in the bags I would take the cookies out of their original bag and put them in a clear baggie. That way they stay fresher and you can see how many are left. 😉🌈🐈🐈‍⬛💖

[@christinamarquis4072]

Do you do thinking’s with Joni and friends. We have 3 with special needs and we love teaming with them it is life changing 😊

[@dizzycowuk]

Peter Frey, it is never ok to leave one cookie. That gives false hope to everyone. Dude, not cool. Still love your content though 👌😜

[@klynch7912]

I was told by a covering nurse that heparin is no longer part of the protocol. Not comfortable with this as where are the studies that show not clotting up. I have done IR to get mine and they looped me out. If still play violin watch the placement as mine is in the way of now learning violin.

[@eileenmcdonald1599]

Don't know where you are but it is still very much the protocol.

[@klynch7912]

@@eileenmcdonald1599 my dr still wants heparin so I get it. It was an sub nurse who does research and works in an er saying the protocol has changed. Not for me. I will fight for what has been working for years for me. It’s my body that would been another surgery I am trying to avoid not theirs.

[@saraleemacdonald]

Buy two packages one for each of you with your names on it!

[@dianabarrick4663]

COOKIE MONSTERS!! My kind of people !! And you’re both wearing blue like Cookie Monster!!❤ Cookie Monsters unite!!!

[@Sassygrannyvlogs]

💗

[@janetsheart3139]

I agree with Mary 85% goner! It causes more grief for you!!! ❤❤

[@ItsAMbutyoutubechangedmyname]

It was in this moment, he realized he need to buy more cookies 😂 My hubby have done similar I bought something home earlier that day for next morning coffee and I wake up and it’s all gone and he have said oh but they been sitting it he pantry for a long time I doesn’t think you wanted them 😂

[@ElaineSharon358]

My husband would have done the same thing!!!!!❤

[@robinsmanatee]

Oh no! 😂 I'd say 90% gone for your port!

[@christytubbs3266]

We’ll try picking up package and it’s empty

[@aprildiaz6298]

Lol. My husband is the same. If I don’t eat something in a day or so it disappears. He’ll say he thought I didn’t want it. Give me a day son! Lol

[@ToLoveIsToLive89]

I have started buying snacks just for me. I have a husband, 3 teens and 2 tweens that are always hungry, I can not and do not eat like them because of my stomach issues, so if I want anything I have to just buy things for only me lol!

[@elainem9909]

Eat all the cookies Peter 😂😂😂

[@rheagalarneau1366]

Some good sesquipedalian there.

[@LindaJohnson-jy9hv]

Hey Mary…..gonna hang that port on your Christmas tree like the first one? 😉

[@sonia15702]

Where rhe port is placed according to my surgeon here in Australia, the longer the line is tracked the greater the infection. The surgeon who placed your pirt so close to your arm pit... Not very consoderate. Ive had one for 15 years upper left chest. Current one upper right chest but far more further in . Its a surgeons job to work with patients not put their own desires before them ! Theres no way i agreed to interventional radiology ! Due to my anxiety i was put asleep even then i had anti anxiety meds before theatre to drug me ans relax me. Sonia Sydney, Australia

[@patreciaober3470]

Even my husband knows to never ever ever leave just one cookie. Either eat all the cookies or leave at least 6 cookies to enjoy with the glass of milk. Or get 1 pkg. of cookies for each of you and when your pkg. is finished you are done eating cookies. You can't take any from your spouses pkg.

[@Karenm1969]

90% for my guess….

[@bgmaple47232]

Peter the cookie monster!

[@cindyspear86]

This is hilarious!!

[@carolpierzchajlo4929]

80%

[@vickierhard1441]

We call it the perfect bite principal

[@emilyturner1705]

Mary would do so well working in disability ministry!

[@alexisrivas307]

I need to get my port removed. I’ve had mine since October 2013. I was in pain when it was place. That lasted for a couple months. My port is on the right side of my chest. A perfect location. Can someone get a new port placed in a place where you’ve had one previously? That my concern for later in the future. I like where my first port is located. If I was trained and allowed to access myself I would 100%. I know the process and protocols from watching and talking to my chemo nurses. In the state of California, I don’t know if patients are not allowed to do self access or it’s strongly discouraged to the point that medical staff don’t even mention the idea. My bets lie more in the first thought. In a way I understand. A port is there for life altering treatment that is necessary. You don’t want a mishap and end up messing it up or injuring yourself. All us port buddies and temperate PIC line users know how deadly import proper sterile procedure is. That line goes straight to your heart. Those are my thoughts and feeling. I understand Mary’s genuine fear of getting her 6 year old port removed. At Stanford, they would be removing my port under full sedation. That is something they will not budge on and I’m grateful. They won’t even entertain the idea of having the cath lab remove it. I want to do my port removal surgery at my local hospital and clinic network that my mom works for. I got all my cancer related treatment at the Stanford Cancer Center, but that’s 3 hours away. I have an aunt that lives 15-20 minutes from Stanford, but I kind of want to be close to home. Be able to get home right after with little discomfort. I also get VIP treatment when I go into the hospital for anything. For instance, when I got my port placed, the DIRECTIR of registration for the cath lab walked me through the entire process and procedure. She got me right up at the front of the check in line and got me in and done with my placement a lot faster than average patients. That was a simple procedure. With this one I definately want that level of attention. Call me whatever you want but wouldn’t you want access to insider help if you could easily get it? If you made it this far, thank you for reading my rambles. This procedure genuinely scares me. Im not afraid or nervous with medical things but this one scares the 💩 out of me. 10 years with my port pal… ouch… I’m scared guys. I’ve been putting this off. And still am…

[@dottieburton5501]

90% goner unless it acts right I had a car once and it would act up when I would take it to my dad to check out it would act like a new car lol so I think like my car was scared of my dad your port is afraid of your doctors lol

[@dianelangdon2214]

80 percent

[@cherylynn927]

If take out your port on this next visit and you drive yourself, they won't be able to sedate you in the event they need to.

[@cherylynn927]

*"they" Oh geez I forgot this is probably done already. Never mind me! :)

[@generalhospitalfans]

Oh peter you're in trouble lol

[@susanharris1285]

Peter you look so tired😢

[@kimpossible7505]

He’s working full time and is a husband and father of two…it’s tiring but I’m sure he’s happy

[@pyramid-ukulele-group]

Worse case scenario …. No cookie ! my wonderful hubby has one floor he sometimes takes a last cookie etc and leaves the empty pack….that doesn’t look empty until you pick it up…….that makes a …….Noooooooo ! No matter how much a nag about it, I know it will happen again lol I love that you guys can laugh at these little things that may be irritating but in the scheme of things are so minimal. Laughter really is the best medicine

[@GalaNewsNetwork]

Time to order DoorDash! 😂😂

[@sunrisedesign3267]

As a college Educator, Pedagogy is the art of teaching. I teach in the Fine Arts Division and this is the concise definition I use to explain to my students ✅

[@Its.vape.zebra24.7]

Lol my mom will eat something everything except one bit of that one thing. Just for me to go find that one bit of that one thing! Makes me frustrated lol. You couldn’t just finish it off! lol such a conflict lol. Have you ever thought about being a para for people with other needs? Like within the church yes, but also in schools or something too?

[@kerstinbak8039]

Least he left you 1 cookie!

[@laurascrimgeour]

Hide some lol. I don’t like oreos so problem solved 😂 plus we only have like 1 or 2 flavours were I live 🤣 x

[@summerfun20111]

I say 68% goner on your port. ❤️

[@jonathansonnier3078]

Considerate 😂 Considerate is not eating them at all and leaving them for her bc they are low lol

[@Nrsshel2]

When we were kids we always got lots of snacks. However one day my younger sister showed me, our mother had her own peppermint patty hidden stash. Don't think Dad knew about it either. Just saying, nothin wrong with your stash. 😂

[@fragilefleur]

I hope the portacath study goes really easily (well as much as it can go). Digging it out of your chest sounds heinous. Not my idea of tolerable either. OR, as long as it’s not a huge health risk, is better. That said, make sure you take the risks seriously and stick with the best long term outcome. I hope you don’t even need a new one but I know it’s been in a crappy placement location soooooo maybe it’s time to upgrade to a more comfortable location. You can work it out if needed with care and all and the recovery will be ok. That’s why God made pain meds. Lol. You don’t have to be any more uncomfy than you can tolerate. And if the nerves are too much, do ask for a night before anxiety medication if your newer baby is sleeping thru the night Mom life is hard eh? I don’t have kids but these details make me appreciate not having them but truly I’m so happy for you guys. Wanted to take that journey myself but was unable to. Learning a lot about kids and chronic illness juggling with you tho. Hang in there and I hope it was good news only. If not, you have so many people who care and I know that doesn’t take away nerves and pain but truly you have gotten through so much that this will be a short term problem only I hope. Just another hurdle. I wish you didn’t have these but as is, don’t forget you are an overcomer. You’ve got this, Mary! Sending Oreos and choc chippers for recovery. Xo

[@WrenGirl]

Your "hummmmmnmnmnnn" is my description for colonoscopy prep. I thought you were doing a cleanout for that! Glad it isn't, but port issues stink.

[@user-qc7kt8dv9x]

I'm so glad that's the worst thing that's happened to you.

[@dawnontiveros8773]

In Peter's defense... He left a sandwich cookie sooo if one splits said cookie maybe ... one can say it's 2 cookies with tiny bit a frosting. Or sorry, brother . I'd keep a spare bag .

[@tinadwhisenhunt5965]

I had a port removed after close to 10 years. It was done in the Drs office. It was not painful. I could feel some tugging and that was kinda creepy but not painful.

[@terriekranjcevich1353]

90 percent goner. So sorry Mary.

[@noriwlaschin9292]

Be thankful there is 2 cookies in total to eat, it could of been zero!🤔🤣🤣

[@mitsim]

I think that you guys need to improve your cookie purchasing techniques. There should always be a brand new package of Oreos on hand. So, as soon as you open a package, you need to get another package on your grocery list. Problem solved! ha ha ha ha ha!

[@ivark56ofPA]

Todays episode has seen a turn of events from somebody rading the cookie jar to marys port status and possible replacement down the road Or prehaps not needing it. Some of the kids have disablities that your caring for and involved in a special camp. Perhaps sign language is involved for some communication interpretation .. And some churches have preschool daycare its something to look Into when elijahs time comes for preschool or summercamp when he reaches 3 or 4 years .. I think that port is near the end of its life Expectincy and needs replacing.. And and all interresting topics For the EPISODE RELEASE ON AUGUST 4th which is T - Minus 14 DAYS UNTIL MARY TURNS 34 YEARS OLD ON YOUR NEXT BIRTHDAY ON AUGUST 18TH🎉🎉🎂🎂💥💥 til next time GOD BLESS AND PEACE!!

[@JFly87]

Mary are you guys not doing KZbin anymore?

[@JFly87]

I miss seeing your family

[@lenablanc7162]

Peter noooo. How can you be so cruel? 😅😅. Mary is a natural caretaker and nurturer. All my love ❤❤

[@JessicaHarris]

wait until the kids are teenagers ... you have to hide your oreos inside gluten free/fat free/ sugar free cracker boxes....

[@bethechange8889]

😂

[@nancystewart2063]

100% goner. It wasn't put in right and has never worked right for you.

[@eileenmcdonald1599]

Take someone with you.. We know your history with anesthesia.

[@morrislevine9377]

A rude husband he should buying more cookies

[@angieanderson2161]

A good fiancé/husband would have us hidden stash of cookies for emergencies

[@annettepurtle3757]

So is this your channel from now on? Just you two talking? 🙁

[@janicehellzen8765]

I love that Mary’s health is so good that they are having a conversation about Oreos. It makes my heart happy ❤

[@kimpossible7505]

What would you prefer to see?

[@annettepurtle3757]

@@kimpossible7505 well I’d like to see them with little Elijah , doing everyday things. Or taking him places he’d enjoy. Going on small trips. Things like that Kim. Have a nice day 😀

[@kimpossible7505]

@@annettepurtle3757 fair enough! Although I can understand it may be hard for them to record while out and about with Eli, especially now that they have a baby too. I think they’re still adjusting to life with two small children, plus Peter working again and Mary’s health. Give them some time to adjust to this new season…I’m sure soon enough they’ll be back to posting their usual content. Have a blessed day! ❤️🙏🏻

[@eileenmcdonald1599]

Very hard to do when Peter is working full time. Mary is dealing not only with her medical needs but their son. And a new foster child. That cannot be shown except from behind.