🏥 POST-SURGERY COMPLICATIONS 😷 (4.21.17)

[@2listening1]

God bless Mary and everyone who is suffering and who needs it most or who is watching this.

[@thesparklingunicorn8543]

2listening1 god bless you

[@lenkiyoumi]

my mom is dealing with asthma problems and a cold so she has lots of junk in her chest so i did some PT on her i learned from you guys~! the vibrations and the hitting? those helped a lot she was like ''that is so crazy it helps, i bet he feels bad having to beat on his wife's chest everyday.'' i was like ''its to help her and get the crud out.'' you guys are amazing and i am glad to see your actually able to feel kinda human Mary~!

[@renyputman7118]

lenkiyoumi Glad that it helped for your mom! The best wishes to her from Holland😘

[@rae1957tn]

lenkiyoumi best wishes from Ga ,I've had pneumonia many times she's lucky to have you to help.

[@princessaz79]

lenkiyoumi I have pneumonia so I could use you here.

[@cagedtigersteve]

We're still here with you Mary!

[@skyewebster2753]

I hope you can go home soon mary!! x I think PETER is AMAZING!!!! He stays with you all the time and is so caring! I love you guys

[@belperkins]

I've had laparoscopic surgery and best thing is to walk to help get the air out ur belly. I got awful shoulder pain because of it. But walking helped....and ur body will naturally pass the air. Get well soon

[@awushuful]

Is there a reason they don't give you a mild laxative + diuretic? I think that'd take the initial edge off and allow Mary to be more mobile.

[@marieked]

A W her gut is still asleep, so any laxative would give her cramps and more pain at this point. It's air trapped in her abdomen that's causing more pain. I went through the same thing and once she starts passing gas she'll feel better.

[@tiff2106]

A W th air also first has to go into her bowels so it can be passed it takes some time that's why the first couple of days are the worst.

[@awushuful]

Wait I thought the air was already in her intestines (are the intestines gas permeable?)? Wouldn't a stool softener or mild stimulant help get them moving?

[@auntdave180]

belperkins The shoulder pain was as bad as the incisions for me, and I've had several laparoscopies. Hoping and praying Mary gets moving soon and home with Peter and Ollie. 💖💖💖

[@ServiceDogPaws]

I absolutely love y'all. I hope you start feeling better!

[@benhassinefarah]

Peter you are the best husband in the world. You are so amazing with Mary I'm really really glad that she found such a wonderful soulmate. And Mary you taught me a lot of things I'm a medical student and I learned the true meaning of illness and bravery . You are a warrior God bless you 💋💖💖

[@HippyDippyToes]

Farah That's great! I wish you great success in your career. As a chronic life patient myself I've learned something about Drs (in too many cases) only got ONE quarter (if that) on PAIN and the Patient. I'm proud you are taking time to research what it's like to live this way. Your empathy is going to skyrocket and you will be a gifted practitioner - healer. Good luck and may the Lord bless and guide you 🙏🏼💟😊

[@benhassinefarah]

Hippy Dippy Thank you so much 💖 i wish you all the best

[@narcydishon8389]

Mary is such a huge trouper for all she goes through. The air that they pump in you is so hard to get rid of. That is so very painful. Take care Mary and continue to make progress. God Bless you Peter for being the person you are with Mary. Love ❤️ you all.

[@heytherekelilah2]

i had a laproscopic gallbladder removal 3 years or so ago and i remember the pain of being full of air. all the way up in my collarbone! I didn't have THAT gut issue..just lots of bile passing through. that lasted a good 6 months. praying for a full and swift recovery! my mother was diagnosed with Gillian Barre syndrome​ in february and is currently in a rehab center learning how to walk again. it was caused apparently by a routine vaccination. scary! she has come so far. just a few weeks ago she had a g tube and tracheostomy. both are gone now :) she can breathe on her own and swallow foods!!! praise be to God! He will see her through this til the end. as hr will you, Mary!!! much love to you, Peter and Ollie.

[@rozjones4097]

Ollie has the right idea. Mum gets out of bed, I need to make sure bed is kept warm and doesn't go anywhere while she's away

[@rebeccamoon5766]

Have you tried hugging a pillow against your stomach when you cough? I've had abdominal surgeries and the counterpressure really helped. Maybe see if Peter will give you a foot rub to help the swelling subside 😉

[@schataje]

Oh Mary, it is awful to see you in pain yet so comforting to see another young woman struggling with chronic disease. I am a young woman (and mother) with cancer. I just started a new chemo as part of a clinical trial and sometimes I am in so much neuropathic pain. It seems like no one in my life quite understands. Each day I have buckle down and do what I think I can't do. While it is terrible to know you too are in pain, it grounds me to see that I am not alone. And that is a blessing for me, so thank you for sharing your life.

[@LatinButterfly]

I've had three stomach surgeries in the same way as you, walking helped alot with all the air, got to let all the farts out Mary. Don't hold them in at all. Hold a pillow over your stomach each time you need to cough or get out of bed that helps alot as well.

[@ayakotami3318]

I know this is 5 yeara late but I'll have to remember that as I most likely will need stomach surgery in the near future. My intestines haven't been doing well. 😔

[@kathrynwilliams9050]

have you tried holding a pillow while coughing or moving. it really helps!

[@0511marie]

I have had a headache all week and yesterday had a bit a relief and your saying "I'm awake, I'm alive and my head doesn't even hurt" popped in my mind. You guys are really teaching us to learn to be grateful and really preaching by example.

[@Katie_Jo_21]

I am sorry your tummy stopped moving, very proud of you for getting up more than once! You are a rock star Mary.

[@erinuber2881]

Pain is such a tough thing. I hope it will ease up for you soon, Mary. I am sure you are doing so, but it helps to distract yourself - this is a documented strategy that really helps deal with pain. Things like watching Shark Tank, silly KZbin videos, or listening to music or podcasts you enjoy are really good ideas. Even doing watercoloring if you think you can tolerate it; doing creative artwork really helps a lot. I crochet and knit if I feel well enough, and it's excellent distraction. Doing crossword puzzles or playing games works also. Prayers continuing for all three of you!

[@nancydondlinger]

When I looked at what the video from one year ago was I was so shocked it feels like yesterday I started watching your videos but it has been like a year and a half. I am so lucky to have found your channel. You guys taught me to do what you think you can't and I have had so much more opportunities in life. THANK YOU!

[@georginameasey8]

My mum, who is a nurse, explained it to me as if you touch the bowel/intestines during the surgery they go "nuh uh, nope not working! Don't like it!" and shut down for a little bit, even at the slightest touch. Combined with opioid meds it's pretty sucky. I hope they kick back into action soon and the gas gets moving so you are more comfortable but I'm glad to see you sitting upright, that is awesome :)

[@2listening1]

Mary, you earned a special ad for this vlog today. The slogan is "Life hurts; feel better!" I'm kind of proud of you for that. You've also had ads for Cirque de Soleil, calorie supplements, and drones! :)

[@kimberlymayo9951]

Glad to hear they are finally having Mary walk around. It is the faster way to healing. You rock Mary! Hang on it will get better. Sending positive thoughts your way.

[@theninalady]

This just warms my soul. I'm a nurse. I love seeing this sweet couple thriving so well!!! God bless you all. 💕💕💕

[@TheAloriaGirl]

A big hug all the way from Sweden ☺️🇸🇪 Good to see that you're being able to sit up a little 👍🏻🌷

[@glendaruff125]

Will they put stockings on your for the swelling? Make sure they are doing everything for you.

[@darkbluematter1753]

So good to see you sitting up and hear that you are able to walk a little! Great job Mary on working hard to recover and Peter (and Ollie) for being awesome support. Hope the pain starts easing up soon!

[@mollygee9950]

I've never been so relieved to hear someone coughing! You can do it Mary! Sending my love from Los Angeles

[@w.m.3305]

Mary, I hope you are out of pain very soon! Peter has got to be the BEST husband a girl could have! Ollie, is just love, love, love! You guys are such an inspiration. Sending prayers and love!

[@Suki7stars]

You're doing great, Mary! You've got the hard part, the surgery, behind you, and recovery should get less and less painful every day! Praying 🙏 for you both! Hugs! 💙

[@jennysmith5200]

Keep strong Mary, we are all rooting for you! Hang in there girl!!! The Lord will keep you safe 💓💕

[@levirocca3585]

I'm so glad your feeling a bit better. I've been watching yummy guys for about a year, and have barely missed a day! In that time, I have never seen Mary in so much pain. You bring joy to my life every day😊 I love your little fam, and I mean it!

[@MrCockatiel2007]

Look for Call the Midwife. All 5 seasons are available.

[@CelestaII]

I love that show!

[@QueenNoTeetha151]

Great idea!

[@elliegreen7647]

Crystal Novak that programme is the best!!!

[@jennifervinson2688]

Crystal Novak I love that show too! And cystic fibrosis does make an appearance in one of the episodes.

[@junbh2]

+Jennifer Vinson I remember the episode with CF. I found it a sad episode, though, because it was the 1950s so even when they figured out it was CF making the baby and toddler sick, they didn't really have any treatment :(.

[@Chloe-dv9hf]

im getting a J-tube soon (in a few months, hopefully) rather than my NJ (after 2 years!) it's really reassuring watching vlogs documenting the process, so thank you!

[@CelestaII]

I hope your surgery goes well! You will be in our prayers!

[@Joy.Elizabeth]

Chloe anne prayers for a great surgery w a speedy recovery! ❤

[@Chloe-dv9hf]

Newman Family Vlogs thank you!

[@Chloe-dv9hf]

Raven Moore thank you!

[@sazjh]

Hope it goes well! I'll pray for you 😊

[@Pinkyhotwheels]

Praying for y'all,Mary you are such a huge inspiration to me!,& I hope/pray that I will find a guy that is just as amazing as Peter is for you!!

[@Spl0dgeey]

You are both troopers! Hope the recovery becomes smoother as the days go by...

[@littleblondebatw]

Praying for you I know how it feels to have surgery so I hope you get well soon. And the pain subsides.

[@CG-qg5vt]

Mary, I am learning so much from you! I admire your positive energy through rough times💖 Peter what a blessing you are to Mary..............love you all💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞

[@barbararitche5364]

I know from the gallbladder surgery ( back when it was the half moon inceision) that the more pain meds can cause your body to be constipated. And walking can help

[@Joy.Elizabeth]

Barbara Ritche def!! and stool softeners! those are so important post abdominal surgery!! walking, drinking lots of fluids, n softeners equals poop lol

[@alevtynakozachok]

It's impossible how beautiful she is, no matter what is happening. It is definitely something from the inside glowing. Go Mary!!!

[@marieked]

Praying each day gets easier. I remember a year ago being where you are and it sure wasn't easy, but well worth it in the end. Gentle hugs from me in 🇨🇦!

[@Joy.Elizabeth]

Mary idk if they've given you any gasx or phyzyme but it helps a lot after laparscopic surgery! The 2 best abdominal n pelvic lap surgery tips i could give you are 1-A Pillow! or 2 pillows :) esp as you cough!! I promise it helps so much!! my hysterectomy my pillow was glued to my stomach. 2- Gasx or phyzyme if you're able. these help me every lap surgery. n even though the gas they fill you up w is diff it still helps! (#3+4 are walking + stool softeners! but only as you're able to walk! Using a pillow helps to walk if it's still too painful. 1+2 are great the first few days when you're having a hard time walking yet. n stool softeners are very helpful but not everyone needs them but when you do they are great!) And yep the fluids n surgery itself will make you swollen like that :( and I hate the awful balance you gotta find btwn pain control n walking n gi issues it's very difficult I'm so sry :( I've have several laparscopic surgeries for endometriosis and my hysterectomy was laparscopic and oh boy esp the hyst bc it was robotic n I was upside down I was so huge n it hurt so much!! I know the first 3 days are the worst but you're sitting up n that's awesome!! 👏💪 great job Mary!! I know how badly it hurts but each day will get better and the more you walk it helps I promise. I know it's hard though but you're doing great!! I'm praying for you everyday and hope today is MUCH better for you!!! 💜

[@annablack4599]

Raven Moore bumping this comment.🙂 Someone also said compression socks for swelling.

[@Joy.Elizabeth]

Anna Black thanks for bumping! :) I hope some of these tips help Mary or anyone else reading! I know how awfully painful it is and feel so much for Mary. And you're absolutely right compression stockings can def help w leg swelling! I know frm experience sometimes there's reasons they can't use them but it's helpful to at least put it out there n Mary or whoever can see if it's a possibility if they like :)

[@averyanderson7467]

I can not express how worried I was about Mary!! I'm was so happy when I saw that she was sitting up in the beginning of the vlog and that she said she was somewhat alive!! So proud of you Mary keep going and staying strong!!!! 💪❤

[@whitneyredmon3978]

My husband and I are watching White collar on our date nights too! Praying for you guys, hope you are finding joy in the day as you have brought me joy!

[@rachcutiepie]

Mary! I had the same problem when I got my Mickey button. what I did is I got a big fluffy pillow and pressed it against my stomach when I coughed. try it I hope it helps. #dowhatyouthinkyoucantdo

[@TheCandiceh2]

I truly hope and pray you feel better soon. I love how supportive Peter is! You guys literally make me smile everyday! Thank you for sharing your life with us!!! 💕💕💕

[@derweasel]

I'm a new subscriber and I am blown away by the strength, courage, and positive vibe you two exude (you 3 actually!). Thank you for sharing such incredibly personal moments. You are all in my prayers.

[@pearlvlogs3899]

So glad that you are feeling better. I was not able to watch the past vlogs. It was hard seeing you in so much pain.

[@willydawgs]

Mary, we are praying for you that your pain subsides shortly. Peter and Oliver are the best boys ever. I hope your family, especially your parents, are more involved in your health than what it appears. Sending much love from the Pacific Northwest.

[@SuperMissblueeyes]

I'm happy to see you getting better, Mary. Stay strong, you will get out of the hospital!

[@lostmapvlogs]

Peppermint oil/peppermint tea is meant to help with post surgery wind pains. I hope you feel better soon Mary! You're one tough cookie! ✊

[@svdb9182]

Lucy Rhi peppermint capsules called colpermin in the uk are awesome

[@Jscott2003]

still praying for you to have a great and speedy recovery Mary! I think Oliver wanted to keep your bed warm for you. he's a good dog.

[@invisibleinkling1474]

Don't forget to NOT laugh... until you're feeling better. 😚

[@dontmindme9097]

Prayers. Rooting for you guys!!!❤️🙏✝️

[@Joy.Elizabeth]

White collar is the best!! I HIGHLY recommend Leverage and Burn Notice!! they're on the same lines and I love those!!! I know watching those shows help when ur hurting n healing so I hope you enjoy these! lol Peter I do the same thing! haha you guys are great! 😁

[@LindsayKipka]

Raven Moore I totally agree. I loved Burn Notice. It's really good.

[@KristinaB.]

Raven Moore Burn Notice, Leverage, and Psych are the best! Especially Psych!

[@catherinekearney6449]

so happy surgery is over and went good praying for a speedy recovery mary xoxo

[@lorainesmith1]

so glad to see some improvement in Mary's recovery. i dont know about the us but i know over here in the UK, the NHS prescribe either peppermint capsules or peppermint tea to help disperse the gas after abdominal surgery. just maybe worth looking into. hope there getting on top of things and Mary starts to feel much better very very soon. Big hugs to Peter and Olly as well, they both are being very very brave and putting there feelings on hold to be there for Mary. My heart goes out to you all. Big hugs from a whats been a very sunny Sunderland in the north east of England xx

[@rachelwollan3310]

I've had 9 laparoscopic abdominal surgeries including 2 C-sections. Mary, you should see my belly-button, my mamma says it's not the one she gave me. Here is what I've learned: 1-move! As much as you can, walk it out, the gas will go & may cause more pain as it begins to move, but it will move. Your movement can help work out the anesthesia's after-effects as well as those of the pain meds (both slow down the gut). 2-pillow is your friend, for coughing & other abdominal pain-causing movements, hold a small pillow to your abdomen with gentle, firm pressure. This gives your cut muscles the external support they need & relieves pain. 3-The extra weight is from the IV. It will work it's way out. Thank you, Mary & Peter, for showing Christ through your lives. May you be blessed!

[@christinadoherty3212]

We are surgery buddies! Glad to see you can still have some fun between the ick. Anyone else here recovering from surgery?

[@SweetXOXO31]

Gosh Mary! That gas pain is unreal ! I've had it!! Goes right up into your shoulder blades!! just keep on moving and getting better every day!! Lots of love and prayers ❤ Marci from Marshfield Ma

[@loveandbelovedtoo3777]

Two Marci's in the Frey Life! And spelled the same way! I'm Marci from Chicago. Cheering on from Chicago! : )

[@tammyduke2504]

Praying for you Mary. After a G/J Tube surgery it is very common for the gut to not wake up. You will get there Mary. Sending love to you 3!!!

[@emilymitchell3393]

I look forward to your vlogs every single day! I hope you're feeling better Mary! I know all about the gas pain after laparoscopic surgery.

[@grad200222]

get better mary im in a bad place right now i have mental illness and real bad area in my life but watching your vlogs helps me get through the tough parts of my day

[@imthebigv]

You are so beautiful and brave, Mary. You inspire me. I'm an old man (67) and I had a brain bleed about five years ago, turned out there was a birthmark on my cerebellum that was bleeding in my head. Well it had to be removed cause it would bleed once in a while causing me to loose my balance and fall down. Thank God the floor was there to break my fall. Well as it turns out, I had to have Sergey to remove it. I was able to get around with a walker in the beginning, and a cane after that but now after five years I still have bouts of dizziness and more falling. Today I have to use a walker all the time so I don't fall..like you I deal with it but I worry about as the years go by what will happen. I live alone but don't get me wrong, I love the freedom of not having to depend on others. I youse your video blog as inspiration to push ahead. Thank you and Peter for the the inspiration. 💖🤓💐

[@mayjune7314]

Get better soon,Mary! Peter is such a great husband.And Ollie is adorable.God bless.

[@zennmomma2801]

So glad to see you in less pain today Mary! I must admit, I've found it hard to watch some of these vlogs - they seem like such difficult, private moments. But I do want to thank you for being so open and vulnerable - I'm on day 11 of this admission and will be back in hospital next month again for more infusions and a GJ tube. It's so helpful to watch your experience so I can prepare for a J - our ultimate long term plan. Wishing you days with less air in your belly and fluid in your feet 😉❤

[@chronbinary]

it's so tricky balancing pain management with GI stuff, i really hope you are able to find a happy medium soon so mary can be more comfortable. i'm praying for all 3 of you & hoping that the rest of recovery goes as quickly as it can!

[@faithdavis7258]

Mary, it's now Sunday that I'm commenting, so I'm praying you're feeling better today. I can't wait till you post today, please hang on, the pain will get better. Peter you are so good to Mary and I know she appreciates you. He just wants Mary to feel better, he'd change places with you, in a heartbeat, if he could. Love and prayers.

[@jennysmith5200]

Omg guyyysss Whitecollar is so easy to watch! My go to for easy viewing! Gotta love a bit of Neal action 😂

[@faithcecelia4369]

Sending you both so much love and holding you in prayer. I can relate to so much of what Mary experiences, over the past few years I have regularly cracked ribs coughing, which leaves me in so much pain that coughing is agony....but I need to cough, etc etc. In another few days I am sure the pain will start to ease, and your innards will remember what they are meant to do! God bless you both xx

[@ala13642]

it was so great to see Mary's smile today!!!

[@cathy8760]

Sweet girl! I get so inpatient with just an occasional sinus infection! You are a trouper Mary! Ollie is a sweetie! May the Lord give you the strength you need to get through this post-surgery time!

[@jenniferbulger9612]

Praying for you, Mary!!!

[@karenblanck7726]

You'll feel so much better once all that air and gas and extra fluids goes away. That's the downside of laparoscopic gut surgery. Hang in there. You'll get better and better each hour that goes by.

[@wietskevaatstra9847]

Been praying for you Mary. Have been concerned but know that you are in the palm of God's hand at this time. Better days are ahead! Love you all 🙏❤️

[@emilyrobinson9209]

I was wondering if there is any way to send stuff up to her hospital room like flowers or a card. I'm right down the street from children's hospital and I'd love to give Mary something to brighten up the room :)

[@tammygouletschrader8785]

Emily Robinson Aaaaaaawwww Sweet

[@emilyrobinson9209]

Marissa Montana I just wasn't sure if I need the room number which I'm sure they wouldn't want to release publicly for safety reasons

[@junebugtea6654]

Emily Robinson You could probably just say "please send this to Mary Frey's room" I know you can at our hospital.

[@interludeadventures508]

the air is the worst, it caused me so much pain after my surgeries that I literally almost couldn't breathe. every breath was soooo painful and the bloated feeling is soooo bad, too. I hope you feel better soon. I'm sending deflating vibes!!! 🙄

[@nondu98]

Praying for a speedy recovery Mary! Sending love from Montana

[@lilymela2674]

I love white collar omg I'm so glad that you watch the show

[@gregfoulke1799]

Get well Mary. Prayers for you and Peter and Ollie. Happy Easter. God is good.

[@ashleymarks3726]

I know I'm late, but I've always found Miralax to be really helpful. especially after surgery.

[@susanforbes3417]

I am glad to see her up and talking. I had reflux and hernia surgery many years ago but the thing I will never forget is that air they put in your abdomen. It hurts much more worse than the procedure itself. I don't think I ever experienced that much debilitating pain and I have had 3 kids. That air in your abdomen is very miserable. Prayers that you get to feeling better soon.

[@oliviahernandez6]

Glad to see you lucid and sitting up again! Hope you continue to improve. (And peter, YOU ROCK)!

[@debmiller5187]

You two are soooooo precious! Oh, I mean the THREE of you! Thank you for sharing your love and struggles. God is using you in my life. I live with Multiple Sclerosis and you inspire me!

[@kellykulas8811]

Hang in there Mary. everyday will get better I promise. God is holding you in his arms.

[@deniseangonese278]

Yeah ! You hit 120K ! Glad you're on the mend.

[@avidscrapper1]

You two are just amazing. So glad the surgery is over and healing has begun. Maybe Mary will have to buy larger clothes now, lol. You are such an inspiration with your love, support and care for each other. Always praying for you both.

[@2listening1]

I'm glad you got some sleep, Mary. Hope it hurts a little less. Ollie loves his doggy toy! :D

[@alexissnapp3129]

Whitecollar is an awesome show! Y'all will enjoy it I'm sure. I'm not going to give too much away but the mystery/investigative parts get way better in each episode it's definitely a show that can leave you wanting more! Praying for you Mary!

[@BNHAalltheway]

Mary You are so strong praying You heal soon way to go Peter You are amazing caring for Mary You love her so much and it shows Ollie is awesome too what a dog love love You guys You both are so great God Bless

[@danieloconnell6306]

She is a strong woman who goes with the flow

[@saawwah]

Big gentle hugs for you Mary I myself suffer with many health problems,watching your vlogs you are such a strong inspirational woman,I hope you are feeling a little better pain wise..keep up with that lovely smile and positivity Lots of love from me in the uk 🙂 xx

[@christine0701]

Glad to see things are sloooowly getting better! Sometimes we think (or convince ourselves) that's its just a little surgery, healing won't be so bad - not taking into account all the facets of the surgery (I did the same for my gallbladder removal). Hope today was a better day yet with more walking around to get rid of that air & bloat.

[@allergiesrusdb]

I'm praying for more relief friend!! I'm so sorry you are dealing with Third Spacing. I've been living with it for almost a year and it isn't fun! I'm glad in a few more days you'll be feeling so much better than you feel right now!! Each day brings you another day closer to feeling better and heading home! Prayers & blessings to you friend!! Xoxo. ((Gentle Hugs))

[@margotmcmanomanowitz5808]

I have no idea why I'm laughing so hard at your quarter story "MORAL OF THE STORY: I MADE $1.25!" that was fantastic. I'm sending good vibes to y'all! Stay rad!

[@moriganna67ify]

Mary I am happy you are a bit better today! You are one tough cookie, like Peter says! Peter is so devoted to his and your marriage and the Love between you two is a true testament to the Lord! Hope you feel even better tomorrow! If you can get up and walk in the room a bit. The air will work itself out that way. I had a complete histerectomy and had the same issues.

[@Tiertwo819]

Mary and Peter we see the love between you two! We hope you feel all the love from your people directed to you. Mary beautiful inside and out.

[@natalieh5843]

You got this Mary! You both are so strong. Much love! 💚

[@babybluecheeks]

Mary is a serious trooper.

[@kimberleytramper8966]

Praying that you feel better soon Mary!

[@RawritsRIA]

Mary, I know a lot of people have said it, but from experience from having the same type of surgery (not for the same reason), walking bit by bit definitely helps release all that gross air & stomach bloating.

[@armywife4life78]

Mary you are a warrior! Embrace the stoma. Peter you are a hero! May God bless the both of you. Hang in there!