Jealousy PART 2! //

“Jealousy doesn’t change the heart of others. It only changes yours.”
Jealousy PART 1: • JEALOUSY // #5MFU
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[@sweettreatsyt]

I love how honest and real Ingrid always is in her videos!

[@genesiss.4288]

You comment on everybody's video chill out

[@laurenstavros7693]

you are everywhere. I subscribed. ; )

[@sweettreatsyt]

He llo Thanks for subscribing :)

[@melziez2200]

Yes me too

[@Anttonina]

This was all I needed right now. I'm getting though a huge batch of jealousy. Thank you Ingrid.

[@alicedesbonnet6191]

same here... tysm ingrid!

[@mylufCGH]

its so amazing that we can even share things like these together, no one s alone (: Good job Ingrid!

[@inidaonedance]

+mylufCGH Yes! I agree:)

[@maitesoto1953]

Both your videos on jealousy are so wise! You definitely know how to speak truths. However- and I'm very sorry for this- I can't keep my vocabulary nerd inside and I have to say it: while you still talk about both, your videos are mostly about envy. Jealousy is the fear of losing something you have, i.e., when you see your best friend getting close to someone else. Envy, on the other hand, is wanting what somene else has and it usually stems from comparision. They're related feelings, there's no denying that, but they're different and usually confused. Please don't take this personally -it's not in any way. Once again, I loved these videos. I actually love all of your 5MFU videos. They make you feel more like a close friend/elder sister and less like just another girl online. Plenty of love sent your way!

[@BarbaraContin97]

+Maite Soto YES THANK YOU! Actual great content just wrong wording :)

[@KaseyStudies]

Ahhhhh I don't know how you do it, but you get more and more gorgeous every single day! You look absolutely stunning in this video, 5MFU is my fav videos to watch from you!

[@KaseyStudies]

[@claudiab5707]

KASEY YOUR VIDEOS ARE EDITING GOALS ilysm

[@thoughtslikestars]

Going off of what you say in the video, I definitely believe that jealousy is a secondary emotion. I think what is really underneath jealousy is insecurity, self-doubt, comparison (like you talked about) and just all of these things that all relate to each other. Sometimes little comparative comments can just make me uncomfortable because it's like oh, you thought of this person when I'm not that person and we may have similarities and it may not be a bad thing, but it still makes me insecure and hyper aware and uncomfortable. Every single time you mention the word jealousy I could literally replace it with insecure. I think communication is the most important thing, like you said. I completely agree. It's nice to see you talking about things like this and it makes me feel so validated and like I'm not the only one who feels these things and is working through it. Real, honest content. I love it.

[@LaraElena76]

Being compared is the worst! I completely understand you Ingrid!

[@jujudiamond97]

Ingrid, it takes so much strength and will to want to improve to be able to look back at your behavior and jealously and admit how ugly it can be when you embrace that emotion. I, too, have had destructive experiences with jealously and got so lost in the "pit" and even when I knew I was there, it was so hard to pull myself out. You talking about your experiences with jealously is so helpful and inspiring because often times people play deny how jealous they get, which makes jealously something no one wants to admit to and talk about, but if we don't talk about our issues with it or hear other people's progress with it, we won't have the confidence to face that issue in ourselves. Once we get a discussion going on jealously, we can approach the topic with an even mindset to assess the roots of our jealousy and what makes it worse and how we can deal with it and grow to become in a better place. I really appreciate you talking about your experiences with it, despite how hard it is or uncomfortable it is for you to talk about it! you are a true BEAUTY guru, because even if jealously isn't a beautiful thing, you let us on KZbin see the evolution of your inner beauty and its progress.

[@edenp.1123]

I think Ingrids wardrobe consists of striped shirts and Harto merch XD Love ya girl 💙💛💙💛💙

[@aholloway550]

I agree too! :)

[@KatelynRose]

+Eden Dam I like her old wardrobe better

[@bellajenna87]

+Eden Dam Maybe she just ends up wearing the same shirt on filming day

[@christendominique]

I love these videos Ingrid! And the new background is so fresh and lean I love the globe so much >.

[@Skerriesgirl]

You really are one of the most intriguing people I have ever come across and i say that in the best way.

[@paigeyeahh]

I don't think I'm going to ever get tired of these 5MFU videos! Jealousy is something I tend to struggle with too, so I'm super happy you made a part 2!

[@mcrmy322]

Thank you for making these jealousy videos. They really made me realize my own personal jealousies. I compare myself to a lot of people, and now I know that it stems from a place of jealousy and insecurity. This is something I am going to start to work on today, and that's all because of you! So thank you!

[@chelseathomson655]

Both part 1 and part 2 of your jealousy videos are SO accurate. They've really helped me to see how to work through my own problems with jealousy too :)

[@AudreeeG]

"Comparison is the thief of joy" Loved this video Ingrid !

[@miam5330]

I love seeing you without makeup! You are so naturally gorgeous!

[@maskitmati]

The background is so refreshing😂❤️

[@malinaskevold7540]

Wow!! Thanks for giving another perspective of this topic! It really helped, love you Ingrid

[@KatHorrocks]

I love how honest you are in these videos! Nobody's perfect so no point pretending we are haha. I always question my jealousy - it usually stems from some sort of insecurity in my self. It also happens a lot when I forget my gratitude practice. When I'm grateful for everything I already have there's no room for jealousy!

[@MsMadelineChristine]

This has been something I've been struggling with a lot lately so it is very helpful to hear you talk about it

[@hannahbarton4535]

I definitely needed to hear that I'm not the only one who feels this way. I've been going through this same battle recently. Thank you Ingrid. you're an amazing insperation.

[@GIna-it5kv]

Thank you Ingrid! It's nice to know that others fee the same way. Jealousy is an awful ugly feeling. This was great :)

[@georgiaaxford6961]

this video made me feel so satisfied, because i get really jealous too... in my opinion, jealousy is like a disease, because its not something that you can just wish away. whenever i get that terrible feeling in my mind that makes me start to feel jealous for whatever the reason may be, i always try to make it go away but unfortunatly its something that I'm stuck with. jealousy may not feel like a terrible thing to some people but for me its a terrible feeling that make me feel sick inside. i love you so much Ingrid, and it makes me so happy to know that I'm not alone on this boat.

[@ashleydang723]

I relate to you so much

[@louisecourtnadge922]

I've been battling jealousy a lot lately and I didnt relise why until I watched your Jealousy #2 video. It's pretty obvious to me that you are far further down the line compared to me when it comes to realising where the jealousy stems from, I hadn't even relised that it was from being compared my entire life. This was such an eye opener for me. Thank you for talking about this. I live in Denmark and was very dissapointed that I didnt accidentally bump into you and Hannah at the airport on your travels back towards America - cause thats realistic. Keep being awesome. :*

[@AsaiahKitten]

Love these. Honest youtubers make the community so much more real and makes me fall in love again with the website

[@nataliekerr862]

omg!! Ingrid!! I dont know if you will see this because I am very behind on youtube subscriptions BUT I relate to this vide oh so much! For me, at a young age, maybe 7th or 8th grade, I became very jealous and protective when someone would like the same things as I did. If someone liked the same music as me, I would disregard them by thinking that they probably "arent as big of a fan as I am, and therefore dont ACTUALLY like it" instead of sharing the joy the music brought to us with each other. I did this with so many aspects of my life and honestly... i probably just came off as bitch, not unique or different or my own person. I think the problem stemmed from the fact that I went to a private middle school and didnt really have the same interests as the masses it being that i liked to be edgy and listen to indie and alternative rock and write poetry and think outside the box and just be different. And so i really wanted to branch away from all of the preppy, basic people there. BUT then when I found someone with similar interests, i thought i was turning into someone basic, and so i shunned the notion that we could be different, together. eventually I saw that fine line and was able to accept that i can be different and unique but also enjoy the same things as other people, and honestly the change was so positive, but all good things take time. so my advice to you would just to be to dont dwell on why youre thinking this way for too long and just hopefully come to accept that you are your own person, no matter what other people think or say :)

[@likeamusicalride]

you seem super real and yourself lately, i love it.

[@AprilSixsmith]

Seriously love you. This is wonderful advice to give. I love watching you grow and evolve.

[@aprilleeming3131]

You are so naturally pretty!!!! And so wise! Thanks for talking about these things xx

[@stephaniemand]

Know your beauty and strength. Let go of the comparison because it doesn't even apply to you. It happens to me too, that ugly tingle spark of jealousy, but then I try to remember how that person is with me today, chose me, because I have a lot/more/specific/different aspects to share here and now. I think jealousy is mostly activated by self-esteem issues, therefore knowing your worth is very important. You. are. beautiful.. Truly embrace that. (also, being honest with someone about your thoughts and feelings is the core of a trustful relationship.) You did a good thing telling your loved one about your issue with comparison. Thanks for sharing your raw thoughts and self here, Ingrid! xx

[@ChelsRaf]

I appreciate you so much for videos Ike these. They're so personal and so real and it makes me realize that we all experience and feel the same things as other people do. Love you, Ingrid! And I hope you're doing well and continue to stay the lovely person that you are.

[@marieferrari1976]

Thank you for articulating my frustration, this whole comparison business is so frustrating 😀

[@dadaiandra]

Just what I needed. Thank you so much, Ingrid.

[@LottieTargett]

So relatable and true! I love your videos because they're just so genuine! You're so fluent in front of the camera and connect with us very well! Love you lots! -Lottie Xoxo

[@TheBloooBerry]

Thank you Ingrid for sharing your thoughts and experience with jealousy. Your timing is perfect as well, I've been having weird reactions to things in my personal life, that I believe stems from jealousy. It's like you say in your video, you just feel so terrible for feeling it! And I don't even know where it comes from most of the time. So it's great to watch and listen to you, I don't feel alone.

[@AiKiNDragon]

LOL at Ingrid having 101 versions of the black and white striped shirt tho. Too cute!

[@kirstymacleod7232]

Thank you so much for this video, this is a subject that makes me very depressed to think about and I've never given myself a release. I ended up crying throughout the video and it felt so good. I've been compared to my sister my whole life and today I hit a point when I couldn't take it anymore. You couldn't have made a better video. xx

[@lauren2642]

So raw and beautiful, as always Ingrid :)

[@karina.cruzado]

Jealously can go so many ways...thank you for this video! I'd love to see a part 3 & 4! Please! Love you😊

[@Angierush]

Super surprised that Ingrid is just now almost hitting 1M . WHAT THE HELL I THOUGHT SHE WOULD BE ALMOST AT 5M BY NOW CAUSE HER VIDEOS AND DEDICATION IS AMAZING!

[@Akikoakita]

Okay but it really is a hard feeling because I feel guilty being so jealous about small stuff.

[@Akikoakita]

Also where did you get that shirt?

[@michaeladayvgs]

As someone who is almost always used as a comparison tool.. I feel you. On a very deep level. I hate being compared to anyone, even if it's good. I just don't like it and it's a really hard thing to work around, especially when the people on the other end don't understand why you don't like it. Love this video

[@njanjaa1]

It's hard to fight jealousy and I think it's so satisfying when you realize that you can get over jealousy and feel good in your skin :)

[@teixeiralucie2389]

Never bored by your videos, I love them! I'd like you to talk about grief and loss again in the next 5mfu

[@elizabethhunter3571]

The amount of times Ingrid went "uNG" and did the thing with her hands was amazing

[@kirstenhartman7137]

I think this is an amazing topic. Jealousy is normally not something you talk about, you keep those thoughts to yourself and not say outloud. I get jealous pretty easily, especially in my relationship and I HATE it, I don't like it and wish so badly I didn't do. But I try to be honest about it and talk through it with my partner. I hope there's a part 3 and 4 (and 5 and 6 and..) Ingrid. I love them!

[@cathey331]

I love your fresh face and disheveled hair look you've been doing lately almost with finding yourself deal that's been happening with you Ingrid! You're such an inspiration to me as a young adult(:

[@alexlaurenne]

OH and my goodness Ingrid. This is so honest and it really speaks to me. I get so similar with jealousy and comparison because I'm always trying so hard to be unique and I really self-identify with being original and creative. It's hard when people say "oh you remind me of someone," even if it's a close friend of theirs. I'm just like "UM PARDON ME I AM A UNIQUE SNOWFLAKE AND DON'T EVER SPEAK TO ME AGAIN." Hahahaha. It definitely spills into my romantic relationships too, I remember when I first started dating my boyfriend he would tell me that he had a song that reminded me of his ex and it was a song that I really connected with personally but every time I heard it I would start feeling immediately anxious and then start feeling irrationally territorial over the song and then the entire emotional parade I would go through every time I heard it would be too much and I would have to turn it off. OHH boy. Novella aside, I'm just tryna say that I FEEL YOU, big time. Lots of love!

[@vitchmob]

I tend to compare myself to others as well and get jealous because of it. This starts when I realise that I'm talented at something and then realise that one of my friends is very good at it, too. And this is like "Wow, I've found something, where I'm better than everybody else" and then being like "Well, I ain't that special". So I just made myself smaller. But instead of comparing myself to somebody, I tried to connect with them, because we shared similar interests and actually help each other at getting better at it. That way you can also make friends and it makes it easier to be proud of their achievements I have to admit I sometimes still feel the jealousy rising inside of me, but it's getting rare. Thanks for talking about comparison. Didn't realise I had so much to say about this until I was finished writing and I could still go on. You're right, Ingrid, there could be a part 3 or 4, haha.

[@vitchmob]

+vitchmob Okay, while reading through the comments, I realised, I definitively have more to say about this :O

[@AnnabelleMitchellLucyRoss]

Looove you so much... I feel like you've found your true self and I love it! Jealousy.. Da worst emotion evaaarrr

[@nathaliank]

looooooved the video ingrid! totally understand you

[@thread_witch]

I always felt like I was so irrational and alone in feeling this way! I cannot stand being compared when in a relationship, whether it be to an ex or a celebrity, I just feel so insecure and I hate it :/

[@ninaperry2873]

The problem is I'm jealous of you😂

[@oliviale6316]

The irony 😂

[@callmelivy]

Really love the thoughts from the end of this video. I totally agree that being honest when something upsets you is the best approach. I've definitely found little things offensive or whatever from a sig. other or whoever, and instead of just being upset about it and starting to resent them for it, I told them why it was upsetting me. That way I don't just end up being pissy with them and they not knowing why. It's a really great thing for younger people to know about relationships because it's not always the easiest thing. I have also found it's a good way to know someone is not right for you if they don't understand why you don't like it.

[@tkh2012]

this is gonna be like everyone else's comment buy I needed this so much... thank you Ingrid!!

[@ModernMolliee]

I love how real you are in your recent videos!

[@missreia]

thank you for sharing, Ingrid. what an innovative idea, to let it run through you consciously :) it's almost like another form of minimizing and organising - how liberating!

[@ania5038]

This must have been like therapy... I would NEVER post any of these thoughts online and the fact that there are so many of these is amazingly brave.

[@cmacho23]

TBH, I love you and you look absolutely stunning without makeup on! You should do it more often!

[@alicedesbonnet6191]

Ilysm ingrid you are my inspiration!!! it would mean so much for you to answer... love you xx I am feeling a bit jealous at the moment and i have to admit it's really diffficult to admit and accept that you are jealous... It's been really hard at the moment bc my little sister is often better than me at most stuff and people ask me "do you envy her" and I don't but then they make me feel jealous!! I wouldn't feel so jealous if people stopped comparing me, you are so right!

[@annakundas8904]

I love your honesty

[@Tinny609]

So true, "being compared can make you feel worthless."

[@Melllaaa87]

I have never been jealousy, I think that is not good for you. You only hurt yourself and you get said and angry :( Ingrid you are amazing, you don't need to think like that, you can live a life with out jealousy. 💛💛

[@gottacourtofmilk]

SAME! Thanks Ingrid, This really made me realize how silly it is to bottle things up inside.

[@LegendOfKara]

Didn't know I needed to watch a video about this until now! Thanks Ingrid!

[@Miriam-rn1jc]

Love these videos 😊 besides you posted it when I needed it the most! Lately Ive been struggling a loooot with jealousy. And it does feel terrible when I think that way!

[@k_airo]

Relates... Thank you Ingrid for being honest and helping me. I appreciate you

[@ericasmyth7556]

I just want to say, don't listen to some of the comments on here (: You are expressing and describing and handling yourself how it's best for you! And I love you for that. Thank you for being down to Earth and YOU! I hope one day I can meet you and tell you how much I love you.

[@ericasmyth7556]

+Erica Smyth Also how are you so fricking beautiful without makeup omg.

[@sarahchelsea1231]

I'm absolutely in love with the person you've grown into. I feel like I'm talking with a friend.

[@sondos111]

I love your honest words..chase your dreams my friend💕

[@megstarbright]

Oh god, those comparison comments are hard to take sometimes, you are right! Even when made innocently you don't want to hear them.

[@JenifferIsabel]

I find that my jealousy stems from those exact reasons as well! But it's not other people. It's me constantly comparing myself and making myself feel like I'm not good enough. :/

[@Fany3d]

I feel like a friend is talking to me :) I love this videos!!

[@sarahq1591]

I feel the Same way!!!!!' Thank you for putting it into words! Love you!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@emilyf.4104]

You should bring back your 5 minute month videos! I loved those!

[@shelbmathews]

You're so inspiring...I love you, Ingrid!

[@PinkyPop21]

You are looking healthier every day, i dont know what you are doing but keep doing it!!

[@KnightofGascogne]

+PinkyPop21 She's doing HH by HH I mean Hannan Hart - pun intended ;p

[@lucia-dw5fo]

+Knight of Gascogne 😂

[@kathya5791]

I love you're hair like that Ingrid !!! I know it's in a ponytail but I love it !

[@itsRenee]

Dear Grid, as much as I appreciate your thought and ideas for this #5MFU videos (cause it feels good to know someone else goes through the same things as one) BUT I miss your casual vlogs. That´s the main reason I subscribed to this channel, I miss the casual Ingrid sharing her day. I am sure nowadays you are busier than ever and maybe its a bit harder to vlog when you have a busy schedule, but at the same time, that´s what us viewers wanna see. We are nosy and curious about what goes behind you tubers like yourself. I miss when you would take your camera out and about. I don´t have a Target near by and I love it, and those were my fave videos, because I felt I was at Target with a friend. Not only Target, but everything else. Just hope you have Vlogtober planed or maybe Vlogmess. I hope I am not only words to this video, and maybe someday you´ll ready me and consider mixing this new videos with the good-old vlogs a ton of us enjoy watching so much!

[@Rhythmicfan84]

What a good video. Ignore the bad comments. I liked how you were so honest which makes you relatable. Keep it up!!

[@rosacatful]

I've also suffered from jealousy for a very long time now, I just can't stop it, for over 9 years I have been bullied about my looks and how I'm different, the bullying has stopped now but whenever I see someone who I think is really pretty I always think the worst of them when in reality they could be a really nice person. I'm trying to stop now and hoping it's working!

[@kurtmillermusic]

Your videos help me so much. I have a lot of trouble with this to a fault and your input really does have a toll on me. Thanks you Ingrid

[@clarafiderio]

PLEASE DO JEALOUSY PART 3 AND 4!!!! I need serious help because I get REALLY jealous and I don't like it, but I can't help it!!! I love you Ingrid💜

[@MoreSaltPlease]

Just tell everyone already Ingrid! We all know you and Hannah are together...and spoiler alert: we cannot be happier.

[@cutieangel1360]

omg we have too many things in common :D P.S. I am obssesed with t - shirts like that! love you!!!

[@makeupupupandaway]

I get you, girl.... I remember, back in highschool, we were each asked to say the things that we like and dislike in front of class ...and i remember, my answer was that i dont like it when Im being compared to others. It's the worst.

[@simranvirk9005]

Hi darling !! m also Going thru same conditions.........i felt so motivated like a winner.....thanks....u will be always my rockstar...so proud of you honesty....xoxo

[@yaararaman9645]

Thank you so much, you are so amazing. every video that you upload is such a big help.

[@ErikaLainB]

i love this kind of videos of yours :) makes me feel so understood and makes me feel liberated, like you seems to understand me cause i do experiment the same in my life right now :) thank you!!!

[@maryhughes6372]

Through out my life I have compared myself to other people so many times that I don't even realize I am in the process of comparing myself. It has just become a habit.

[@bailassanzakhour5193]

flawless even with no makeup on ♡_♡ from the inside and out ☆☆☆☆

[@CassiesWorld]

i just love your personality omg! and i love these videos so much:)

[@vanillaonmytongue2]

Here's what I noticed about jealousy: my ex and i broke up because of my jealousy issues and because I didn't trust her as much. But now that I'm in a new relationship, I don't feel as jealous (still do a bit) when i see my gf talking to her ex. I guess it depends on the person you're dating. If you're in it to win it, then yeah no need to be jealous of anything. I also had bad jealousy issue with my past relationships because of my insecurities. Got rid off that and now I'm happier than ever!

[@rtistichick]

I struggled through some real jealousy with my now husband. It really stunk, and I always thought I was competing with his exes, but he always reassured me that I am my own person and do not have to feel compared to other people because he loves me for me. ❤ jealousy is real and it sucks, but it doesn't have to consume. I'm glad I'm not the only person to ever feel that way.

[@ItzErwin]

My sister is 5 years older than me and I feel like I've spent my whole life living in her shadow. Even though we have opposite personalities, everyone gets us confused and thinks I'm her. We are both teachers and everyone thinks I'm just "following in big sister's footsteps" even though that's not at all why I chose to become a teacher. I feel like I don't have a chance to be my own person and have my own passions in life. I often become jealous when I feel like she is succeeding at something better than me.Thank you for helping me realize that this is normal! I AM MY OWN PERSON!!

[@nualaconneely160]

Omg thank you so much... I thought it was only me xx i love you and this was so helpful for me right now 😘

[@PeacexLovexCouture]

As a twin I can relate...constant comparisons! ugh

[@MissTaylorLam]

This video was well needed Ingrid! Thank you!

[@oohheynicolle]

Thank you for this, Ingrid! I feel the same way but haven't been able to put it into words. You've helped. Would you consider making a video with tips for how to combat jealousy?

[@QueenJaneway]

My experience with jealousy is quite weird. I could be pretty jealous growing up, and I was super jealous quite often about my ex-boyfriend! He was out much with friends and other girls (who were his friends) and I couldn't handle it... I was so mad at him so many times... The weird thing is that with my current boyfriend, I'm not jealous at all! Firstly, he doesn't go out at all and stuff like that so I guess that "helps" lol... But yeah, I just feel so much more secure about him, I just don't know why. Maybe it's a mature thing? I don't know, I guess we'll see lol. Key to everything is communication Ingrid

[@charizzaard]

bahh... so on point. thank you for your videos ingrid, you always make me feel better xD totally trying to deal with all this myself, and things you mentioned are really on point. i hope it gets easier with time ://