JEALOUSY //

[@thegirlinspired]

I get jealous over friends that are closer to other people than they are to me. All of my friends have someone else that they are closer to, and they do things without including me, and it leaves me feeling like I am not good enough, that they would rather spend their time with someone else or that there's something wrong with me. I don't know how to get over this. I just want to be the person that a friend feels closest to. How do I validate to myself that I am good enough when my life keeps showing me that I am not?

[@YoyoBear12]

I feel the exact same way sometimes. Like one of my best friends has another best friend and I feel like sometimes I am the last to know things or the mere thought that the other best friend knows more about my best friend than I do makes me feel jealous. I think that in those moments I remind myself that it's ok to have more than one best friend.

[@fireworksXD]

thegirlinspired I'm the exact same way. I always feel like I'm second choice, not good enough. I still havent figured out how to control feeling hurt and jealous when good friends of mine spend time together without me.

[@mamarzzz]

Me tooooo

[@elliefisher6309]

I feel the same also. I have three best friends and we're all close but recently I've been feeling left out of our friendship group because they're always making plans without me or we'll be having a conversation but I won't have a clue what they're talking about and it makes me feel left out and like I shouldn't be apart of the group. I also found out that all my friends have a group chat without me which was originally made so that one of them could bitch about me

[@ConnieMichelle]

In high school, I was the friend that you are saying you're jealous of. My best friend and I were inseparable. We instantly became insanely close from the start of our relationship, and our other friend was in your position. I think from my stand point, it's really important to understand that YOU are not doing anything wrong. It's not that we don't like you, or we don't want to hang out with you. It's just that we are closer to each other than we are to you. I think the only way to truly move past jealousy is to really try to accept that it's not you and not to let it control you. We still had fun with her and genuinely liked her, but eventually little shots of her jealousy came out and ended the friendship. After 4 years, my best friend and I are still inseparable and the other friend is doing her own thing. Just be yourself and be happy, branch out and continue the search for your number 1!! Remember to live for yourself, if you aren't happy then change it! No one can stop you!

[@LittleMissCrista]

Such a great topic, especially for how easy it is for people to portray their lives or themselves in a way right now that we've never been able to before. We have the option to be authentically candid or extremely filtered, and with that comes a lot of comparing our mistakes and losses to other people's supposed highlight reels. I like to remind myself that it's so easy to exaggerate the happiness of others, but there's a true level of connection where we all have, at one point or another, felt the same not-so-good feelings that just come along with being alive and living through the experiences of life. I think the more we all learn to love our own story, the less the destination of other people matters so much to us and also, the more amazingly satisfying the journey becomes. Thanks so much for sharing, Ingrid! ♥

[@UGAgradRN]

Exactly!!! I think she really missed pointing out how so many of us compare ourselves and everything about ourselves (the good and bad) to the meticulously edited version of other people's lives (the good and the photoshopped amazing). We have to recognize that that's not real. Thats not all there is to their life. That's another way we can prevent ourselves from feeling that kind of jealousy.

[@Ariannauk1]

UGAgradRN your right even celebrities portray a perfect life then they write a book and all their depression,heartache etc becomes noticeable ,everyone has problems some are just better at hiding it ,live in the now and always compare yourself to people worse off , strive yes compare no :)

[@NatalieCamila]

I used to be so jealous in my teens but now the best quality I've gained in my mid twenties is to be inspired by seeing the people around me succeed in the way I want to succeed!

[@michaeladayvgs]

I'm someone who has always been super jealous too, but i'm getting better at making it a fleeting thought rather than a constant reminder. You just have to try to put into perspective exactly what it is that's making you jealous within you not the other person, which is easier said than done but the more you can manage it the easier it gets. Definitely a 5MFU that hits home, loving this series :)

[@sweettreatsyt]

I think everyone experiences jealousy in there life. Some people are jealous of looks, others about popularity. We just need to accept who we are and move on with life :)

[@tohotfoyou1]

Completely relatable! And I agree that it has to do with a person's mindset and what kind of a place they're in with their life. It takes time to be content with yourself when others exceed at things that aren't a strength for you. I know I've struggled with that, but we have to understand that we can't be good at anything and everything!

[@sabrinasmnelli]

It's so easy to get sucked into the black hole of jealousy without realizing how miserable it can make you. I learned recently that letting go of jealousy and resentment can be one of the best things for your personal happiness. Love that you make these videos, Ingrid!! Keep it up! xoxo

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

You were wonderful today at VidCon, doll! I vlogged some of the sexual orientation panel and your q&a beforehand, hopefully the background noise isn't too bad

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

Ella Capek I'm going to post a little but everyone was screaming so much which sucks for the camera haha! x

[@nikskorpio]

Melanie Murphy Oh cool. I was hoping to see video of it somewhere. I wish these things were recorded for everyone to see :(

[@rociobaronio2071]

I love how honest your are and how much you open up, because I feel like we can connect with you and relate to the feelings you talk about. I'm glad you're brave enough to do it and I hope you continue doing it. Keep it up! You're great!

[@RandomAwkwardWeird]

I wish I could get rid of being jealous of someone who isnt mine to be jealous for

[@erinkelly8851]

This is exactly what I needed to hear today. I've been working really hard recently on getting better at something that I love and today in particular I felt down about my improvement and thought I would never be as good as some other people I know. I have to tell myself that it just takes time and everyone progresses differently. Thanks Ingrid:)

[@StarcallerCeri]

I'm jealous of everything in my relationship and it sucks. It sucks for me, it probably sucks for them... and it's so hard sometimes to just tell them and be like "hey this thing right now is making me worried or insecure or jealous and I don't mean to do it and it sucks"... sometimes just saying it out loud to them helps so that I don't bury it and sometimes they can reassure me that the situation I'm afraid of isn't even happening... it's easy when you DON'T know how a situation really is to not just imagine the worst and being reminded that nothing is happening really has helped me be more rational in the future because I can think back on the other times that were okay and just be like "okay I was wrong and silly then, so I'm just being wrong and silly now so don't worry..."

[@AliGiavanni]

So so true!!! I get sad seeing people get jealous of someone else over a career path or something another person is getting that they might want...instead of being jealous, turn that into a "hey this person is doing awesome things and I would love to do awesome things as well so I'm going to keep working hard to achieve what I want" :)

[@AdelaAdela]

This was really inspiring! THANK YOU

[@LaraElena76]

Adela I agree :)

[@dariakate712]

I love these 5 minute real talks that you make. Truly helpful

[@YoyoBear12]

This really spoke to me. I felt horrible when my friends got accepted to higher prestigious universities and I only got accepted to state as a transfer. I felt insecure and less worthy. I really need to stop comparing myself to others and just be happy that I can afford to go to university at all. Thanks Ingrid for the wake up call.

[@LaraElena76]

I love what you said! Everyone should be able to validate themselves and not expect it of others!

[@LaraElena76]

Love these kind of videos!

[@beanhope8739]

All of Ingrid's videos inspire me and make me strive to be a better person everytime I see a new one. ☺️

[@theaholfelt3455]

Thank you Ingrid, I really needed that. The last few weeks I've been EXTREMELY jealous of my best friend and I've not been able to do anything about it since I've been traveling and this helped a lot. I'm so grateful ❤️

[@violetmarquee2658]

I love 5 minutes for us. They are so inspiring and really delve into some of the topics we encounter in life, sometimes even daily,that we don't talk about. That and I love spending that little time with you virtually 😂❤️

[@marystestkitchen]

I can so relate!! I used to be a jelly monster. Unsurprisingly, now that I actually like myself, I don't get jealous so much.

[@BiebsNBeadz84]

Thank you so much for this video! All throughout high school I've found myself being deeply jealous of other's for things like their academic accomplishments or just going out with groups of friends and me never getting invited or getting any attention. Now I know I just have to have a different mindset and be fulfilled with my accomplishments and what I have.

[@vlogprincecca]

I love these types of videos! I think it helps a lot of people, and it's so nice to see someone talk about these relevant things

[@juliajules127]

It was so nice to hear you talk about Jealousy on the new #5MFU . All of those things I have experienced and it was wonderful to hear your impute on them and how you feel about them. It was truly an eye opener and it made me take a step back and look at my life and all the things in that made me jealous.

[@hannahschorr2758]

I love you Ingrid! I always feel like you are talking to me in your videos. It feels so personal and homie. I feel like I know you and you seem like such a great human being in general. I love what a loving and kind person you are. You are amazing!

[@KyndellPacheco]

I loved this!! So helpful! I'm a big jealous person (mostly in relationships) and I don't show it on the outside but on the inside is a whole different story! Love you Ingrid!! One of my biggest inspirations and role models!

[@kittiekisses22]

Everyone needs to watch this. Whether you're the "jealous type" or not. Because if you aren't, it might help you to understand what a friend or significant other is feeling. Thanks for much for this Ingrid! :)

[@gabrielacruz4071]

Love this woman, she's so open about herself and what she feels :)

[@sierramor]

I think jealousy and the image you have of yourself are linked. When you are insecure, jealousy is something that occurs more easily. Working on getting less jealous would be working on building up confidence in yourself and working on starting to believe you are good enough, fun enough etc. So it also depends on what you are insecure about wether you get jealous in a certain situation.

[@wewilldogood]

I'm so happy you made this video Ingrid. I struggle with relationship jealousy and it's nice to know you have experience with it too

[@winnielou8206]

I get jealous way too often but for me it's more of a sad jealousy. Normally it concerns loved ones meeting other people. I get especially jealous over my best friends which is so bad and I really try to help it. I never think "I wish they didn't have this other person" but idk I just feel sad about it.

[@winnielou8206]

***** Oh yeah I totally get that! It's like they could at least try to include you...

[@breannablackburn2474]

This helped a lot! I feel like I do need to be more thankful of the situations I'm in rather than focusing on the reward/recognition. Thank you Ingrid.❤️

[@MsAlicechi]

I think everyone can really relate to this. Even the most confident amongst us has probably felt this way one time or another. I know I have today! Being with more successful friends is hard and I find myself withholding compliments because I am envious of what they have and angry. But I am trying to work on it! :) so thanks Ingrid for putting this out there!

[@YeselieDenise]

I love all of these 5MFU videos, everyone has those thoughts but no one ever really talk about them. Also, your shirt is AMAZING! 😍

[@x3Anki]

Ok, Ingrid, true, it is easy to convince yourself that a certain situation is happening, when in fact nothing is happening HOWEVER, it is also very easy to convince yourself that nothing is happening, when you really should be cautious. Where do we make the difference? And when is it appropriate to adress it? Every single time we feel this way? Because surpressing cannot be the sollution.

[@Fany3d]

I love #5MFU because I really feel like a friend is talking to me and I feel warm inside. Thank you for your 5 minutes, Ingrid

[@kaitlinemmax]

This is such a great topic ❤️

[@DanielleLeonard653]

I think ex's are ALWAYS going to be something people are jealous about! This is a great topic to bring up because I think we can all work on being less jealous! :)

[@LindsayXo]

Yaaaaaass!!! Love these videos! Thanks for being you. 🙌💕

[@rachelfeeney2991]

Love the authenticity here Ingrid!

[@ayahze]

I really needed this, and I appreciate your openness and your honesty and your helpfulness so much I really hope you know how wonderful you are! xx

[@ClaudiaNorris]

Your camera quality makes me feel inadequate 😭😂😍 love this video Ingrid! Such a true topic!!

[@nikkinichols1917]

I've only recently started watching your videos but I have to tell you how much I appreciate this and all of the other work you do. While this may sound a bit audacious or presumptuous or whatever, I actually have a lot of similarities to you. In other words, I very much relate to you. Thank you for your openness and brightness:)

[@amyli092]

I can relate to Ingrid's experiences some, like the whole seeking validation in others thing. I've spent many years trying to please people and trying to gain recognition from others. I always wanted people to notice me because I felt hidden, and sometimes I still feel that way. Thank you for making this video, Ingrid! It was very helpful!

[@thread_witch]

I've been similar in relationships. My first was long distance so if they'd go out with friends I would be jealous that I couldn't be there. My last relationship was a lot more complicated. Not so much jealousy but insecurity. Those emotions do tend to go together though. However, I could sense something was off and I was right. He was never completely honest and it turned into an emotionally abusive situation. I do think a little jealousy in a relationship is normal. But when it goes past that and there's a lack of trust and feeling in your gut that something is off, that's not okay and not a good relationship to be in. Or even if there's nothing wrong and it's an otherwise healthy relationship but you still feel that jealousy creeping in, just take a step back and remember that that person chose you and all your awesomeness!

[@emmatranter_]

i think a lot of my jealousy issues stem from feeling like i have to be totally the best at something to enjoy it or want to pursue it as a career or find it worth my time, and it's taking me a lot of work to sort of validate myself and realise that it's ok if other people are better at some things than me, especially because often they've been at it longer and you don't get successful overnight, it takes time and energy and hard work, but... i'm definitely getting better at seeing that!

[@PrincessGlamorize]

You are just amazing. I admire your honesty. The world needs more Ingrid!

[@eILEENonyou13]

you need your own talk show! i love these #5MFU videos! keep them rollin'!

[@Hiyaitslexus]

I NEEDED THIS!

[@Hiyaitslexus]

Lexus Anne THANK YOU!

[@morganellyse]

I really love and appreciate your honesty on this topic! It's hard to admit your jealousy and I know that feeling - but it's only another reason to better ourselves and strive for happiness :) x

[@limitlesskate]

thank you ingrid, i really needed this 5mfu. going through a jealous situation right now, i'm glad to know I'm not the only one

[@JasmineRossol]

Loved this! Thanks for sharing this video with us, love your #5MFU videos

[@sherylong4287]

Ingrid this video truly helped me reflect and think about my own mind set and how that affects my becoming jealous, thank you so much

[@MileyCraziestFan]

Awwww you have a significant others now awwwww I'm so happy for you Ingrid!!!!! So proud that you have come such a long way:))) sorry for the wrong focus hahaha but really thank you for doing the #5MFU this is so inspiring! You literally inspire me in every way and thank you so freaking much for that

[@Ariannaaaa97]

Your videos have always perfect timing in my life, you're really helping me in my "relationship" rn, thank you so so so so much

[@MrsKPOPcupcakes]

This video came out at such a great time. Thank you, Ingrid.

[@abbieliz9968]

My parents got divorced when I was about 7, and lately I've been finding myself super jealous of seeing classmates, and others with their parents. This makes me want to start working on being happy for the kids, and not pitying myself.

[@analilia7922]

Ingrid will forever be one of my FAVORITES, no matter what.. :)

[@vickyvazz]

Needed this today. Thank you Ingrid 💜💜

[@mmmdmdmdmd6964]

It's also hard being on the other side where someone is jealous of you. I never know how to act and I hate when my friends treat things like a competition. I wish they would be happy for me and not be jealous. When you're on the other side it's the other person's problem, so it's just a really difficult situation.

[@elle5932]

i love how honest you are. you are the best

[@AmyLovatt1]

SUCH a wonderful and inspiring video as always Ingrid!!! xx

[@katarinakutlesa9059]

She speaks her mind in a true and good way for all people to listen and trust.

[@ericamarrison1637]

Love this #5MFU so much Ingrid! Incredibly wise as always ❤️

[@molliebrengman3253]

I feel jealous whenever my best friend gets to close to another person. This video really helped me start to realize that she will never actually abandon me and I should just calm down.

[@theroadtobeauty8959]

Trying to conquer this too when it comes to my friendships. (Especially with "best friends" who have more than one.) So I really feel you on this.

[@NithishaNanthakumar]

I really love love this series! it has made my Day

[@navpreetbanga]

You're saving the quality of my mind

[@katemarieeee]

I'm guilty of being jealous that my current boyfriend was hanging out with girls or even his guy friends. I have gotten over it and I realized that in the long run, it doesn't really matter. This was such a great video! You're awesome, Ingrid!

[@KatHorrocks]

I definitely get professional jealousy as I have a bad habit of comparing my journey with others! I think everyone struggles with it. Gratitude is the best medicine !

[@leximus519]

I can relate to this on many levels, but mainly the seeking validation through others. It also has been a struggle with shopping! Always wanting what others have. It took me a long time to finally be happy with what I had and who I was, but I'm finally getting there.Although I still do love shopping LOL!

[@NoreenKhanom]

I always feel so guilty whenever I feel jealous because I feel like I'm being ungrateful and selfish. As much as I tried to reassure myself to be grateful for the things I have, in the back of my head is this small thought of 'I want these opportunities too so badly'. But it's something I'm working on at the moment and a method that seems to be working so far is using that negative feeling of jealousy and turning it into a positive motivation where I tell myself 'I can also have those opportunities too if I work hard for it!' That's not necessarily a bad thing right?

[@NoreenKhanom]

As a society we're always looking for something bigger and better.

[@RoxetteArisa]

I'm so glad I'm not the only jealous one around here!!

[@ivanab5781]

I think we've all experienced this, and it's just like you said - human :) I just wanted to say that your videos helped me a lot. You're an amazing person! Love you x

[@Ksyusha0206]

I feel myself as the worst human being when I'm jealous of smbd's achievements or even appearance, 'cause i know how it sucks the life and energy out of me. So now i'm working on that by just stop comparing my life to others, by just understanding that each one is different and we all are going different paths and there gonna be ups and downs for each of us. Thank you for your video and opinion, love ya ✨💜✨

[@melissamccue9486]

I can totally relate! Thank you for this video❤️

[@BeautyAddictNextDoorAlex]

Great topic Ingrid! Everyone experiences jealousy and I am glad to hear that you feel that you are handling it better now :)

[@chloekirk1500]

this resonated so much with me, it made me cry! i get so jealous about friends and them hanging out without me and i have no idea how to control it :(

[@E7Starr]

Hey Ingrid, I thought this may have been a better place to reach you rather than your main Chanel. But I just wanted to say thank you, you have me so much hope and strength to be able to come out to my family. Because you are in the "beauty world" you let me see that even because I loved makeup and fashion and I wasn't the "typical lesbian" you showed me that that was okay and I needed to love me for me and that different was okay. And now I'm living openly and freely and I am open and out too my family, and I just wanted to say thank you for that. I know you may not see this but I had to say it. :)

[@E7Starr]

TheGridMonster

[@gemmanorth5110]

Great video:) I feel like jealousy is something people don't like to admit to so noone talks about it. It is one of the things I hate most about myself. Hopefully I will overcome it too. xx

[@HAleia-kc9pr]

OMG every time Ingrid said jealous I thought of Jealous by Nick Jonas and kept saying I still get jealous over and over again. What is my life?

[@erynbugbee]

most of my jealousy stems from body image. but that's something that I'm trying really hard to control through myself than channeling my energy towards jealousy

[@Kassiiiiii]

Her video quality is soooo good! I can't get over it

[@tropicalgirl119]

I have never experienced jealousy but I was comparing myself to others and feel down about myself the problem that I thought I was not good enough or I don't deserve or I can never be like them ...everything is different now I no longer compare myself to others and I found out that people try to make u jealous in reality their relationships they r not as they claim ..

[@catrionawalsh1854]

Omg I needed this video so much , I have a huge jealously problem this helped so much 💘

[@emilynicolle9585]

The quality of this video is outstanding!

[@ndrimova]

I actually think that jealousy and a lot of problems like that come from insecurity. When you are strong and believe in yourself, none of these will come in your way.

[@nickb7650]

Thank you for helping me out on this one, I would always get jealous of my bf but now I'm slowly getting better, it's nice not feeling alone in this

[@Alyssa18633]

'Why can't I look like her??' 'Why can't I have a life like hers??' Etc. Every. Single. Day. I swear, comparing yourself to others & not be jealous is so damn hard. But it destroys you.

[@JooHee1994]

I truly needed this today, thank you.

[@KitsuneBozu1]

Definitely needed this. Thank you, Ingrid.

[@mikkiwhistler7769]

i love this 720p60 thing, it makes me feel like you're with me in my room while i'm watching :D xx

[@mikkiwardenaar467]

This video is so inspirational I love all your videos!!!

[@artsyivy]

I loved this! I definitely needed to hear this ❤️😊

[@piakoban]

Thank you Ingrid ! You really made my day

[@nicolemarie0001]

This was a nice message

[@LaraElena76]

Nicole Marie I agree :)

[@scalibur56]

whenever you're in a relationship it is more wrong than right to keep in contact with an "Ex" because it just is; you're not going to be hanging out with somebody you once loved while currently in a relationship with somebody else.. it's simply wrong and should be Respected by that partner. So that isn't jealousy you're just aware of the bs that's happening infront of you & sooner or later people get too comfortable... you're perfect ingrid.

[@LiterallyVictoria]

Uhhh this is so accurate. I used to be so jealous of everything and of everyone. Now I look at myself and all I had to do was be grateful for what I have and who I am. So I can say I'm as jealous as I used to be. 😊

[@SarahSteph122]

I love everything that comes out of your mouth. Also, YOUR SHIRT THO

[@callmeky5628]

Ugh. Thank you, Ingrid. Glad to know I'm not the only one who gets so jealous! Especially when it comes to relationships... Together, we shall all conquer the jealousy within! lol Always love these #5MFU videos by the way :)