"Them Predators Move in Flocks"

[@domikatz]

The boy is a Palestinian refuge living in Malaysia and cant speak the language and seeks social connection online. He recently lost his mother. Crazy how wanting to play fortnite w dudes and socializing leads to this

[@kaya7396]

Hearing people say this kid brought this on himself because he's always in streamers' discords spamming, scamming, and begging them for attention as if that is not, 1, common for kids to seek attention from people they look up to (which happens to be streamers through digital platforms nowadays), and 2, a result of the fucked up circumstances this kid is in and all of the terrible things he has experienced in such a short life. They kept bringing up how the kid was crying to them and saying he felt like unaliving himself and his family needed money on Ak's stream, and the kid felt like he needed to explain why he was crying (which was because he was speaking about his mother to them, and it's a sensitive topic) as if it's a weird thing for a child to cry about losing their mother. It was also unfortunate that YourRage kept reiterating how the boy was "a stupid Malaysian scammer" who is annoying in discords and gets bullied by Malaysian kids (as if it was funny). He was definitely against the shit Ak did and made that VERY clear, but why was it necessary to insult the boy while condemning Akademics' behavior, especially knowing his circumstances?

[@TrggrWarning]

Wow repulsive

[@-Epiphany]

Its Sickening....hell I'm an adult and going through some things and looks for social connection online as well... Predators can sniff out this need for connection/understanding/empathy etc in minors...its why they prey on them....

[@bruhgang6862]

@@kaya7396 I really do agree with you, but I'm left wondering why does that kid even seek those spaces when there's other spaces available.

[@DLA.]

@@bruhgang6862keyword: *kid*

[@HexZero]

i once saw a "meme" that read something like "i hate being 14 cause you gotta compete with guys twice as old as you for girls your age" and that shit hurt

[@royceroyce7715]

That shit hurts just to read secondhand That's nasty messed up

[@tecpaocelotl]

Sadly, in my hometown, that was true. Didn't like it. Girls wanted guys with driver licenses and jobs. I heard too many things I wish I didn't hear when girls got together. Lol. That or girls join swinger groups in our town. Chris Hansen would have had a special if he went there. Lol.

[@bloodlust100]

14 ? competing for girls ? go play fortnite buddy

[@galacticspecter4364]

That's basically the law of the land in rural American communities as sad as that is.

[@TheReluctantVlogger]

Boys are expected to grow up so fast. Especially black boys. It’s so sad to see what little childhood they have being forgotten all for toxic crap that’s only hurting them.

[@under_the_rex_hood7609]

Growing up is realizing that 20 year old dude that hung out with ur friend group in high school that always had cigarettes and weed to share was not cool and actually hella sad and creepy

[@ovalfps]

YES THAT DUDE WAS A LOSER!!!!

[@ravenseden3959]

That shit happened to me 😮

[@nastatchia]

A lot of them are quite homeless related and have really hard lives. One of them I knew ended up in psychiatry. So, if they are not groomers or pdf I mean, just give them some slack. I never understood how they were seen as cool, but those people probably needed help and were rejected by society, which is so sad. You meet them eventually again if you are related to socio-medical work. Especially if you work in drug addiction. Give them some love, those people have terrible lives (again, not to predators. Keep away from those anyhow if you are not a professionnal). Edit: TIL a lot were groomers or pdf (which, come to think of it, makes perfect sense). That was so interesting. Come to think of it, the girl I got in consult for intravenous drug use years later was the gf of one of them (16, but still). What triggered me to comment was calling them losers (no offense to the person commenting it, I get why he would), because they are from those populations FD talked about years prior in his video about all the young rappers dying (especially the "tentación" guy, I don't remember his name): those people who have met the youth judicial system very young. And will, for most of them, be around social services all their lives. The interesting thing is that colleagues who worked in the youth judiciary system never talked about those "20 y/o dudes", because they deal with them prior, and have so much harsher stories to unload. But since the demographic of this channel is young (great work) and could fall potential victims of it, the main comment is very valid. They are the bad guys in some people's lives. Basically, your mother was right. And those who don't have these support systems are their victims.

[@hexes5122]

@@nastatchia being homeless does not make you hang out with high schoolers, what are you even talking about right now?????

[@hexes5122]

@@ravenseden3959 saaaame. He had graduated the year prior when I met him as a freshman. Instead of moving on with his friend group, he just kept befriending more and more high schoolers.

[@chasebrown6996]

When I was maybe 13 or 14, around the time I had my very first girlfriend. I remember sitting in my living room being asked by my uncle how far I had gotten with her. In front of my mom a grown man said a 14 yo girl had a "ghetto booty" and that I should "have fun with jailbait while I can." Didn't think about it for years until I was in my mid twenties and a woman I'm seeing describes her butt the same way and I just have this really awful feeling come over me. Being spoken to in this way as a kid creates a weird combo of shame and anxiety over how you feel about sex. I still feel weird when I don't engage in the weird oversexual conversations dudes wanna have. It's almost not enough to be straight. Some guys want you to be misogynistic and weird with them so they feel better.

[@spiraljumper74]

I came up in Nola kitchens and my first chef (I was 16) made similar comments about my (15 y/o) girlfriend, even asking if I had any pictures of her in a bikini. He also sexually harassed and groped the waitstaff. That guy definitely has some cases. Still running the kitchen of one of the Old New Orleans eateries though. Patriarchy going strong in the culinary industry.

[@jord_yy]

your third paragraph is very true. The anxiety it creates around being sexual makes me almost ashamed of it if that makes sense.

[@rachelgilbert3164]

Sometimes I wish I could go back in time and protect kids from this stuff. No kids should have to go through this, I’m sorry. Thank you for sharing your stories 😢

[@Imorirwannathry]

Me and my grandfather, the way he discusses women is so trite

[@johnwerner69]

Reading this made me sad.. I’m sorry that happened to y’all and i hope you’re okay

[@PoseidonProduction]

THAT NAME GOTTA BE REGISTERED AND PLACED ON NEIGHBORHOOD WATCH

[@tkbaku3036]

Fd did this hair before …. And u guys don’t even KNOW … this how Kamala finessed ppl 😂😂

[@hog1198]

@@tkbaku3036what are u yammering about

[@supermario-kt6df]

@@tkbaku3036 It is, but this is a real thing that's going on.

[@kayiness]

I LEAN ON YOU 🥷🏼 LIKE ANOTHER LINE OF WOCK

[@robertharris2139]

ITS ALL EYEZ ON MEE IMMA SEND IT UP TO PAC

[@blockavelli]

“The don’t really like women that much they just want the approval of other men” Wow ghat deserves it’s own deep dive.

[@audiosurfarchive]

It really is both that simple, and insanely complex. The actual, unironic study of real patriarchy (among other social constructs & hierarchial structures) can be very elucidating if you're a real damn man and can get beyond something you had no choice in the matter and study as objectively as you can--it quickly falls down a rabbit hole of many interconnected studies and sciences that lots of "le redpilled" incels, rightoids and Christcuckery have repeatedly attempted to fight even the idea of CONSIDERING to LEARN about something.

[@Heykay34]

It’s not that profound. If yall opened your minds up to different conversations( patriarchy/feminism) and not through an awful red pill pov you would understand this is what we mean by men objectifying women. Women are objects of social currency to men, objects are easily discarded aren’t they? and you don’t quite view them as human beings so not much empathy towards women either when you do objectify them. Then you only think of what they can do for you and not a human with full thoughts feelings, emotions and a different perspective. We are easily dismissed by men when objectified, and men literally egg each other on to treat women as objects (patriarchy) one big brotherhood that hurts EVERYONE even the ones clinging desperately to keep it going.

[@audiosurfarchive]

@Heykay34 .. yeah it isn't that profound.. but such ideas are so shockingly under circulated to those who would actually do good by hearing it as such, that it can be a self-deluding oversight to label this as such as being "common knowledge" or "not that profound" when to a lot of people regardless of sex or gender.. it very well could be. But I 100% agree, I'm just interested since given the background as a social worker (and the presumed degree studies of what time that originally comes from therein) I'd be really interesting in Sig's perspective and voice. Plus, it really can't ever be downplayed that while "simple/elementary" some people really just don't internalize things the same way you, or I, do.. and someone like Sig's presentational/structuralism with his style and compassionate rhetoric.. might genuinely help someone. You reaaaasally can't be gentle enough trying to explain this to dumb menfolk who haven't ever realized or thought about the entire social, economic and political paradigm (non exhaustive list) that their existence is based within. What would you in particular wanna hear a full video about, let's say Redpill Deprogramming (as a means of covering this topic and many others that sadly many fall under either knowingly, or unknowingly)?

[@KKMfan60]

When he said that I immediately thought of people like fresh & fit and Andrew tate.

[@aaeniaa]

this

[@GadSammit]

Misogyny hurts *EVERYBODY.*

[@SPACEDOUT19]

how did you make this about women? how?

[@GadSammit]

@@SPACEDOUT19 Did you finish watching the video...??? 😐

[@TheGunboat]

@@SPACEDOUT19you didn’t watch the video, did you?

[@SadesBD]

**Sexism It’s like people conflate these two extremely different words.

[@ididntaskverified3663]

I'm on the first 5 minutes, this is about some kid playing Fortnite

[@eyanandaahmed308]

Naurgxd is a Palestinian refugee living in Malaysia. His mother passed within the past 2 years and he doesn’t speak Malay, so he spends most of his time on discord with these men. I pray for him.

[@faeriegraver]

Wow that's heartbreaking. While he was obviously nervous, he was also telling the adults that they were saying weird stuff and it was wrong. This has blown up a lot, too. So there's a lot of people who are supporting him.

[@colette2034]

I was seeing that mentioned! And due to the language barrier, his only/best way to make friends IS through the internet. The internet is already a wild place and adults creepily making it worse is gross.

[@MRLONG758]

Damn, this just makes the story even sadder

[@GringoXalapeno]

@@eyanandaahmed308 hmmm im curious about how cultural views on masculinity would have affected his own views if at all

[@MoonMan1993]

Damn, my heart sank reading this.

[@khih4709]

Saying FD is simping because he points out patriarchal practices while he has a whole wife and kids is crazy work.😂

[@S3V3N17]

That what they do, I was at arizona and they play those same games .these people are predators

[@tyheavenlywings7760]

Noooo he's definitely simping

[@mimik222]

@@tyheavenlywings7760simping for who exactly?

[@beelzeburgerz8441]

​@@tyheavenlywings7760 how do you simp over someone you married?

[@eastwaters4082]

@@beelzeburgerz8441Cater for everything lmao. I’m married too but it’s true, don’t look at it as a bad thing.

[@leonardchurch814]

Euphoria ages better and better every day.

[@dessalines3607]

*Future is also executive producer on the show.*

[@ascribecalledtess7439]

I was literally just listening to "Euphoria" thinking: "This 🥷🏾 Kendrick is clairvoyant"! "Euphoria" has aged like fine wine.

[@stepaion438eldon8]

The original Israeli Euphoria was created by a former elite IDF intelligence agent and "liberal" as a completely oblivious representation of the colonial decadence in Israeli society.

[@LadyJessy08]

Everyday

[@bryn1063]

Pretty sure they meant the kendrick diss

[@gabealexander8878]

“Boys will be boys” is always used to talk about grown men Also, while I’m glad that NourGxd was able to act with maturity in this situation, speaking from experience, it sucks when you’ve gotta be the adult in a situation where you’re the youngest by at least a decade.

[@banquetoftheleviathan1404]

That's just society I mean think about how millennials gotta set boomers straight if they don't wanna end up in homes. Old folks being whack is timeless

[@Will-bn9km]

More than that if Nour is 15, he was born either 2009/2010, Ak was born 1989 💀 it’s way more embarrassing and very telling tbh

[@storkksoundmedia7778]

I have a lot of respect for them for reacting the way they did. When this happened to me when I was that age, I went with it because it made me feel “grown up” and that’s something that so many kids are starved to feel because they view being “grown up” as having full autonomy.

[@cassieowensmoore]

PREACH!!!!!! Thank you for breaking down patriarchy!!!!!

[@braytonnelson-goldman8516]

🧢 I explicitly remember being bullied in my middle school and when my homeroom teacher saw it she responded with “boys will be boys”

[@bryncheeze8970]

Anytime a male friend confided how he lost his virginity, its been one of the saddest things I've heard. They get genuinely shocked when I tell them I'm sorry that happened to them, and I'm more sorry that they have to turn it into a joke to tell someone else because it wasn't okay to happen like that. It seems to be the first time anyone heard their hidden cry for help.

[@Mezza_Luca]

Good on you for taking the time to listen, hopefully being heard made a difference for them.

[@eggs_777]

This

[@Likelyfairy]

It’s actually terrifying how many of them get abused at super young ages and they’re just brainwashed into believing it’s the right thing a man should do…. Remember seeing a thread about men bragging how young they were when they lost their virginity…… 😭

[@aroace_priestess]

I don't know how to talk to mine about it. You know when something clearly bothers someone, and you want to help them out, but they don't want to open up about it? It's like that. I don't want to bring it up when he's not ready, but I don't want him to feel like it's something he should deal with alone.

[@zach.avenarius]

There's no finesse to it, you just gotta rip the band aid off and ask. It helps if it's in person. ​@@aroace_priestess

[@ladariusholmes1215]

Patriarchy is so powerful, we condemn Diddy more for his relationships with dudes more than him just being an overall monster of a person.

[@Eli-ss9gj]

Same thing with the FS1 controversy, the lawsuit mainly accuses a man of SA but everyone instead focused on the scandalous nature of a female host maybe sleeping with coworkers

[@leespn4396]

Damn right and it's horrible.

[@GringoXalapeno]

@@ladariusholmes1215 yeah it’s messed up I’m a bilingual white dude and I have no problem calling out sexist behavior with their machista culture with my Hispanic friends

[@cashnelson2306]

who is we wtf? definitely not in my circles anyway

[@evaphillips2102]

I thought it was because those dudes were underage he was named the Diddler…that is being a monster of a gay person 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@jeremyzeeky3024]

It's crazy because Akademiks started calling the child a weirdo. Like HUH??!

[@rudetuesday]

Calling children weird (or other things they don't want to be seen as) causes them to second-guess themselves, which makes them vulnerable to exploit and abuse.

[@La-PetitMort]

Deflecting blame to the child is typical behaviour of preds

[@Hi_Tamera]

@@rudetuesday💯

[@Vorzilla]

He is 35 bro. Why is he even in a chat with a 15 year old ??? Weirdo

[@meanmachine99999]

Lol Akademiks is a black TMZ…. He’s gonna be outta pocket that’s his whole business…we can name a couple other names on this topic like Jada P. Smith and this topic but let’s keep it cute

[@bribrilolzOG]

JUST BECAUSE IT’S “NORMAL” DOESN’T MEAN IT’S NATURAL!!!!🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️ Meaning, just bc it’s occurring often doesn’t mean that it should be.

[@privatemilo]

And just cuz it’s natural it might not be normal but who gives af lol I’m trying to pay bills rn

[@bribrilolzOG]

@ lmfaooo, fr tho

[@slicedtoad]

And "Natural" doesn't mean "Good." Lots of natural shit is awful. Like half of all babies dying before age 2.

[@ScruFaceJeanOfficial]

FD called this out so long ago and it’s Scru Face Jean like “John” 😂

[@signifiedbsides1129]

My bad home, my awfulness with names is low key part of my brand at this point

[@autsni]

Yall play skyrim yet

[@Dra3000]

thank you for calling it out.I believe KZbinr Lovelyti called it out as well

[@MoltandMigrate]

I was gonna say, lmao

[@ThGtKpr]

Tbh I thought it was Jean as in pants too.

[@inferior-penguin8661]

Hardest stuff I was ever part of was at my Great Grandfather's funeral. I was crying and I started to "suck it up" and wipe my eyes I said "sorr" to my father and he dropped to one knee with his hands on my shoulders. His eyes met mine and they were bloodshot and flowing with tears and he said "don't you ever apologize for crying because real men show their feelings son, don't ever be ashamed of crying!". To this day I am still proud that he told me that.

[@ays8975]

This put a smile on my face, I'm sorry for your loss btw

[@Naistov]

You are blessed with an awesome father🙏🏽❤️

[@Pip_NoSqueak]

W Dad 🖤

[@soulwarrior]

Thank you for sharing! I'm sorry for your loss, but I'm happy you learned a valuable lesson. ❤

[@MissTeaq]

Thank you for sharing this comment. It does my heart good to see that there are still some people who are really good hearted and strong minded and strive to disrupt the programming that we all have been subjected to that is false and damaging in ways we can’t recognize presently.

[@DayLight-ws6ox]

Never did I have so many 30 to 60+ year old men crawling into my DMs as when I was 12 to 25. Now that I'm 35 these dudes are nowhere to be found. Am glad you're breaking the taboo and speaking out on it. I genuinely hope your audience takes this to heart.

[@QU33N13-B]

OMG that part! And the worst of it was, I was actually primed to believe that it was an honor to get that kind of attention; that I should be proud that I could "pull an older man". I had a sexual relationship with someone that was 10 years older than me when I was in high school, and it wasn't until the last 5 years that I actually processed that it was abuse regardless of my consent...this shit was not okay.

[@eastwaters4082]

While I agree with you, you shouldn’t have had social media that early.

[@doni8407]

shout out to Nour for setting an example for the youngins on how to deal with inappropriate advances like these

[@mars7304]

Nah no matter how well he may have dealt with this, he's a kid. He can't deal with this as it needs to be dealt with. With hands.

[@leonardchurch814]

Absolutely, that kid did a fantastic job setting his boundaries and signaling that he was not comfortable with what those GROWN ASS MEN were saying.

[@GadSammit]

I do believe his visibility at such a young age helped him handle it better, which also gives credence to how often kids are (naturally) not handling it as well behind closed doors. Nour wasn't necessarily setting an example, so much as proving the example his parents have set for him (BRAVO, Y'ALL); and, unfortunately, there are plenty of kids watching him who've already been violated by an adult & feel like they can't fight back or take his stance for themselves, because their harshest "No" was already ignored. :(

[@mruchiha0209]

Meanwhile he’s on PlaqueBoyMax’s stream talking about doing these exact acts himself 😂

[@GadSammit]

@@mruchiha0209 It's different if Nour himself CHOOSES to talk about it vs being quite literally sexually harassed by grown men in front of TENS OF THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE. 😐

[@rogue-taxidermy_griffin]

I'm an ethologist (animal behaviorist). Worked with nonhuman primates my whole career (8 years now). Seeing people try to justify their or others' behavior with "it's natural" always pisses me off. Behavior is extremely malleable. Behavior is learned and reinforced, especially by parents. There's not many behaviors that humans perform outside infancy that can be called 'instinct', and even if there are, it's never as complex as what's being defended by these guys. This is culture. It's training.

[@SouthernGirl8140]

Thank you! It’s a cop out. Because if our natural selves are this barbaric, why would we even want to be that way?

[@Setsunako6587]

Every! Time! This can't be restated enough, thank you 🙏🏾

[@pnd-uc8bt]

Exactly it’s an excuse so they don’t have to face the truth.

[@jaccl4539]

Your wrong on everything here, and I get its meant to be feel-good information, but this type of thinking is part of the problem. There are so many flaws in this thinking that I don't know where to begin. And if you worked with primates for 8 years and reached this conclusion, then we really need to question your understanding respectfully. This disneyfication is not helping even though well meaning.

[@Blytheunicornino]

What is he wrong on?​@@jaccl4539

[@tayhonorable7421]

11:00 YES. As a straight male in the black community I’ve always been puzzled as to why people can’t understand why people would be “DL”. LOOK HOW WE TREAT LGBTQIA+ PEOPLE IN OUR COMMUNITIES???? Why is seen as insane that some people would hide their sexuality in the face of that?

[@genesissmg]

in a stream where ImDontai confronts akademics about not apologizing AND throwing shade about dontai's wife appeareance, Akademics said something like: ¨You guys are treating this kid like he is a female, society is so woke right now¨ like, this dudes mind really thinks things like consent, age appropriate experiences, sexual education and respect are literally only concepts ¨females¨ ´cry about¨ like.... Oh, so only females are worthy of being protected from certain talks and stuff? which is also the last thing he or his group of deranged ppl do but I was so shocked..

[@DubhghlasMacDubhghlas]

That is not just a red flag that is whole parade of red flags.

[@Schelly]

And don't be fooled. he doesn't want any of that for "females" either.

[@raltzei8120]

Flag? I thought that was a fuckin red alert signal.

[@sabrinafletcher7884]

i cannot help but wonder if ak lost his virginity as a very young teen or preteen to an adult woman and is now projecting that being cool and normal to everyone else, trying to terraform the world around him into a shape that makes it so that he was not raped. if he admits that what he did and said and endorsed is creepy and rapey and insane, he'd have to acknowledge his own victimhood. he's said things that alude to him being statutorily raped, but hasn't called it by that name or been specific, so obviously i cannot confirm or deny. it excuses nothing, but it explains how someone ends up like this. and it gives a starting point on fixing the broader issue. a child victim who remembers the assult basically has two options: 1. know that you were raped and live with everything that that means emotionally forever, or 2. act, forever, as though what happened to you was normal and okay and not rape actually and everyone does it and c'monnnn, like ak does. people who genuinely adopt the belief that what happened to them was perfectly normal and fine will facilitate or perpetrate these same crimes. they make up a small minority of survivors, but they're crucial to be aware of.

[@NonBinary_Star]

Stevie Knight's response video to Akademiks grooming this kid was really problematic! Stevie basically co-signed Akademik's behavior whilst reminiscing aloud about his own sexual assault situation with a grown woman. Stevie Knight literally says "this 15yr old (Nour) situation ain't that bad ... but if it was a girl then there would be a problem." Stevie Knight outted himself. smh 💯 toxic enabler

[@RustyShackleford9000]

THANK YOU for speaking on this. I am straight but have been called gay in late elementary and high school bc I wasn’t down to laugh at r*pe jokes guys in my class were making about the girls in my class when they weren’t around. Then when I got to 10th grade and was 6’3” benching 220 those same dudes tried to be buddy buddy and get me to go out for football as a receiver. I said hell no. Dudes on that team would do things like beat up their girlfriend and only get a few day suspension and then be back on the football field for a game the next weekend. I was like bro you saying im gay, nah I just actually LIKE women, like AS people, AND romantically. For toxic dudes, if a woman is any more than a fl*shlight to you, you’re “gay.” F that and don’t give in, stand your ground and carry yourself with all the confidence in the world.

[@montyjalloh7882]

I agree... I'm not and never have been one to gloat or talk derogatory about girls I've slept with. I've always felt it's a defence mechanism for men who act this way that are unsure of their sexuality and as I've grown older I've been proven a number of times for it to be true

[@leelee459]

A MAN

[@heavenwaits]

you’re a good guy and i’m glad to know people like you are out there

[@SuperNuclearUnicorn]

That's the bit I really don't get, the guys who care the most about getting with women never seem like they actually enjoy being with women. They spend so much time and money on trying to impress a group of people they don't actually like, all to impress other men

[@KKMfan60]

As a woman, it’s so refreshing and relieving seeing a man that fellow men would consider masculine speak on this. Patriarchy is a disease on our society and it hurts to see men themselves double down on it even though they’re suffering as well. I hope some people who watched this video had their eyes opened at least a little.

[@mahh154]

Forced sexual initiation by older men via prostitution is common in Brazil. There's also the homophobic thinking of 'keeping the kid from turning gay' and a manhood rite of passage. I've met at least 3 guys with the same story thus far.

[@heitorsantoslima9289]

The Post Dictatorship was wild here, wasn't it? Remember Tiazinha? That stuff had products targeted for kids.

[@jaderlucas733]

Opa um br aq

[@v.v.9.9.]

My friend shared this exactly same experience with me. And he looked so sad, saying he didn't have a choice. That such a milestone and intimate moment was forced upon him with a stranger who didn't care about him. He felt exposed and humiliated. All because his dad wanted to make a man out of him... he was 12. Horrible!

[@chrislawuk]

Russell Brand’s father did that to him too… just another data point

[@maryjack08]

And if you read the studies, abuse like that has predictable outcomes: hypersexuality (to a self-desteuctive level), increased risk of substance abuse, inability to sustain relationships long-term, anger & self-hatred making people lash out with various forms of violence, which leads to cycles of incarceration. It's heartbreaking

[@TheSpoonman00]

FD's social work background is really coming through in this analysis. He truly cares about the youth and protecting them from the many, MANY predators out there. EDIT: Also FD putting the beat for Father Time on a vid about the damage of patriarchy is diabolical

[@FalconFern-e6r]

100%, as someone who has seen this shit very prevalently in my community, i respect FD a lot for being honest about it and specifically for saying he is not surprised by it. It is not surprising or shocking, it's just violent, and some of us have had proximity or experience of this stuff for a very long time while everyone else shuts their eyes

[@iammar1159]

I respect him for speaking out about his experiences, as he is one of the few KZbinrs whose content I actually enjoy watching. But he said something around the 6 minute mark which was incorrect. He said that the ãطǔىę of boys is more likely to be done by a woman than a man, but that’s heavily incorrect. Statistically speaking, most boys are ىẽxûåاłý ãطǔىęď by men. But I understand his point was about how all adults need to be held accountable who put children in situations like this.

[@tkbaku3036]

Not at all, he’s been caught saying stuff like this too ! Man y’all just lie for anyone u like without researching ????

[@tkbaku3036]

@@FalconFern-e6rhe’s not honest … he did it before ….

[@TheSpoonman00]

@@tkbaku3036 You're goin around saying this stuff on every other popular comment on this vid like YOU were personally hurt by what he had to say.

[@hiraveil]

the fact that kendrick literally made a song about this called mother i sober, and drake decided to mock it in the beef is just insanely ironic

[@dylanmiller1140]

It’s just so easy not to. I’m 22 and I have some 16-17 year olds in my discord that I play D2 and Rivals with. It’s so fuckin easy to not make sexually inappropriate jokes and expose them to anything. It’s so easy to not engage in any jokes made. It’s just so goddamn easy to be decent and appropriate.

[@maybemablemaples2144]

It really is. Even when they're making inappropriate jokes, you just don't have to engage. It's so easy to not be a creep around kids.

[@samsprague3158]

This is why I hate that it’s become weird for adults to interact with kids outside family and professional settings, in the open. Because right now, it only happens in private spaces and way too often with absolute nasty weirdos. Adults should be encouraged to have normal, chill conversations with kids where others can see it.

[@rachelboyer9272]

i totally agree!​@@samsprague3158 my partner is a male after school art teacher, and he gets praised for being regular, not creepy. Which alone speaks to how our current society sees things. It is SO gross to me that we are still going to be dealing with trauma in generations to come. Just be fkin regular, dont be a creep, it actually ISNT hard.

[@monkeydance3894]

@questoramahey man… why is it not easy to talk sexual to teenagers? Wanna tell us about something? Edit: I will say I was a woman that was groomed as a young girl. As I hit 20, I took a hard stance against shit like that in my friend group. I lost friends, but once you hit adulthood there should be a part of you that is screaming at you when you engage in that behavior. Please self evaluate

[@dylanmiller1140]

@questorama no you’re definitely correct you should take my comments of less than 100 words and assume I’m some fucking Reddit centrist. KZbin comments are not where productive conversations happen miss me with the “we need to be asking questions” bro this is a KZbin comment section.

[@dabrownone]

I agree with you that AK was actually grooming the boy to act like him, but AJ (tory lanez manager) seems very predatory and i am not at all sure about him. He gave me the creeps

[@mari98_]

Ak fantasizing about teenagers getting together is some voyeur stuff imo, remember a bunch of what diddy did was get other people to do stuff that he could watch.

[@Chellz801]

People don’t think grooming is anything but grooming to have a sexual relationship with a child. It can be many different forms. Often times it’s grooming kids to be like those adults who had the same thing happened to them. It’s using money and influence to get a child to act a certain way. And I thought I heard some wild things about that guy AJ before but it’s bad enough he was trying to call another streamer “gay” because he called them out for being weird to this child.

[@pnd-uc8bt]

He was also tryna hide stuff apparently.

[@Kareyn2]

I agree, that guy AJ is not getting the smoke he should. And I know I’m not the only one who wasn’t shocked at all, that Tory lanez’ manager was in that chat.

[@icomeinpeace3756]

Why does that leprechaun even have a manager still

[@zillionalb462]

Not until I was a grown man myself did I understand how freaky and weird and wrong it is to ask boys about their sexual experiences, how focused people get on "do you have a girlfriend", whether or not or how hot those boys perceive other people to be, "how far" they've "gone" etc. Sexuality to me is sacred precisely because it's supposed to be a vulnerable thing - and exploiting that for judgement or laughs or just because "that's how things are" or to prove anything is just gross. Stop trying to get into kids' business!! 🤢🤮

[@S3V3N17]

Preach

[@stefon815]

The fact that the word patriarchy illicits such a negative push back is by design. Self preservation of the system.

[@thomasleach6577]

hush

[@ibuprofriends]

yup

[@versatillion15]

No it’s just an example of how men get blamed for everything as a group. We can’t just call Akademiks weird, which he clearly is, we have to make it about “all men”. It’s silly tik tok talk

[@Zariel_999]

@@versatillion15 the patriarchy is not "all men". the patriarchy is a system.

[@littlefoxglove276]

all these folks who love "pattern seeking" covering their eyes when they see the word "patriarchy" would be so funny if it weren't so sad

[@CurtissKingTV]

A reminder of just how important your voice is in this era of media. Thank you for everything you do FD

[@awakennow1841]

Facts!

[@MissTeaq]

💯💯💯‼️🎯🎯🎯

[@ravenseden3959]

💚💙🩵💜🤎💛🧡🩷❤️

[@octopusmime]

Abso-fucking-lutely.

[@junaid.f1lms]

fr I’m inspired

[@FishareFriendsNotFood972]

Little girls from a very young age are also rewarded with hugs when they cry more than when they yell/stop/show anger, and so this teaches them that directly advocating and communicating is not good and will not be allowed, but indirect advocacy through showing their suffering will be not only allowed, but appreciated.

[@densebear]

Fortunately that is shifting now. People no longer think that way en masse.

[@FalconFern-e6r]

As a guy that grew up female.. oof. My town just about killed my ability to get mad, it was such a backwards hell hole. And i was the most outspoken 'girl' i knew, they just made anything except silent suffering exhausting

I ain’t gonna lie that also just sounds like human nature. Unless you show me a society where it’s the reverse consistently

[@lilaculots]

well, young boys are usually told not to cry and even scolded for crying. boys are typically allowed to raise their voice and stomp around because "that's how men communicate" whereas as a young girl if i even raised my voice slightly when i was upset, i would get scolded

[@catticorner]

ehh almost? i was raised female (NOT female now ftr) and other kids just bullied me for crying a lot and being more sensitive. i think you are right in that anger for those seen as female is not acceptable in our society, but to be honest i kinda feel like showing ANY sign of suffering just gets punished. gotta be as silent and inconvenience as few people as possible to be accepted

[@nearsh0t_vids747]

Very Very important to talk about that grooming doesn’t just have sexual abuse at the end of it. It’s also about forcing a young person in a situation or position that the groomer wants.

[@GJ-dv8uq]

yeah exactly the vast majority of grooming ends in nothing. its the easily susceptible ones that unfortunately get further victimised.

[@thtgurlbb]

15:36 even w diddy. No one cared abt Cassie or the children in the suit. But a man?? Oh they gotta lock him up

[@riversguy92]

This. It’s so frustrating; all the shitty behaviour took a back seat to the fact he liked guys too. How were those the priorities, out of all the things that came out?

[@chesspiece4257]

they don’t even care about the men he hurt either, it’s so frustrating

[@lisreads4872]

they don't even care about the men he hurt. all that those people took from the diddy case is a confirmation on their bias that gay = predetorial

[@peace3485]

as a woman constantly overwhelmed by patriarchy and who watches men get consumed too I'm so thrilled to see this video, it gives me so much hope to see a man talk about it like this

[@grem-mlem]

I love that you didn’t insist that puberty = sexuality. These conversations typically dismiss asexuality and it’s a huge hurt to kids.

[@qoph1988]

Eh... statistically you should still assume that a pubescent kid is having those urges and talk to them about safety and defending themselves. Asexuality presenting in a kid that age might also be an expression of shyness or repression or even trauma. Not to invalidate anyone at all.. but it is a possibility that should be taken into account

[@tama3162]

@@qoph1988 yeah, but it typically becomes a problem when the kid expresses that they aren't interested in sex or that they don't get why others are, and it's viewed as something to be "corrected," 9 times outta 10. There's a difference between kids shy about sexual urges and kids who don't have them, and whenever the possibility of a person being asexuality comes up, people usually respond with stuff like "oh, you'll get there," "you just need to find the right guy/girl," or even gross attempts at trying to "fix" it like hitting on them, making advances, etc. Yeah, I sound biased because I was the asexual "shy kid" that got made fun of the moment I said I didn't understand having crushes at around 7 ~ 8, but this still stands.

[@Kandosiila-j6m]

You’re both right and agreeing I think. Just that what I think the other person was trying to say/insert into the convo is that it’s still important to be having these conversations about sexuality and puberty with kids even if you think they may be asexual because you never know what the future holds for them as an outsider to their mind and you want them prepared for whatever may come up. Like not dismissing that they are actually asexual but that that’s not the same as what that kid might end up getting involved in or exposed to regardless and making sure they are informed and in the know as a means to protect themselves. Even if it’s not in your interest it’s not a reason to not be informed or clued in basically. There’s situations where it’s still relevant for them like other people being predatory, or peer pressure, maybe needing to understand/or support a friend through something or the fact that asexuality itself is a spectrum. Someone may be an asexual who does not feel sexual attraction but that doesn’t necessarily mean no interest in sex as an activity. I’m that way I don’t feel compelled or attracted really to other people but am interested and enjoy sex. So when I was young and said I’m asexual that really doesn’t tell someone trying to teach sex ed and safety much about what my relationship to it is so they are still obliged to give them information anyway. Also asexuality is considered a sexuality and puberty is around the time that many end up exploring sexuality for themselves which yes includes asexuality. So navigating the relationships of puberty and sexuality would include that too.

[@PGCtheDemon]

@@tama3162this is really true I’m asexual and my parents when I told them they told me that I’ve never experienced it so I just don’t know what I’m missing out on it’s genuinely frustrating to try and explain becuase i literally could care less about it

[@SeanMania213]

Them names gotta be registered 🗣️

[@ericae.6547]

and put on neighborhood watch!

[@achickeninaballpit]

-and placed on neighborhood watch🔊🔊

[@Sophiaclark22-m7l]

@@achickeninaballpitI lean on you brothers like a new line of wok

[@Brett323]

@@ericae.6547 how do you get the line wrong when you can just google it before posting?

[@Mr_Muda_Himself]

@@Sophiaclark22-m7l I got all eyes on me and I’m a send it up to pac!

[@en7th]

i feel so seen man, since middle school cuz i wasn’t willing to laugh at like r*pe jokes other dudes thought i was weird, and because i treated those around me with respect, regardless of sex or sexuality, people called me gay, called me gay for bein nice too. i know it was like a 2 minute segment, but i ain’t ever felt more heard, thank you FD.

[@NoirNameless]

Kendrick’s disses aging finer than Salma Hayek fr😭😭

[@RyomenAyeni225]

Those disses aren’t aging at all, the hate used while creating it is eternal 😭

[@TamiaPeach]

@@RyomenAyeni225 *love. Kendrick let God speak through him. It’s not hate!

[@jeremybrown9611]

​@@RyomenAyeni225yeah I absolutely hate predators, not even gone front. We must protect our kids

[@RyomenAyeni225]

@ no lies told

[@vhsblueray]

Facts!

[@jordanwood183]

I am a substance use disorder counselor working at a men’s residential treatment center. When we are out in public and a human female aged 9-90 happens to be walking down the street, the clients will oooh and ahhh and “I would do this or that” & etc. Some of the work I do involves gently introducing these guys to the idea that their reaction is not FOR the woman, it’s a performance for the other guys to try & “prove” that they are not gay. It’s annoying and sad. Not only am I helping them attain sobriety & recovery from addiction, I’m also trying to help them recover from the damage done by all the awful ideas about sex they’ve been socialized into believing.

[@tee3835]

It has always looked like a performance for other men to me.

[@xandermin]

shoutout to you, you're doing important work!

[@jordanwood183]

@@xandermin thank you, much appreciated. I could probably get higher paying work, but I’m much happier as a counselor. There are different types of wealth I guess.

[@AnOpalGhost]

Thank you for your care and dedication to such important work

[@faevalentine9187]

You are literally saving lives.

[@timsopinion]

"Dude BEEN a weirdo" - Exactly. I loved this line.

[@VConley]

FD having “sit down, young fella” convos and I’m here for it

[@paigemcara]

12:00 I’m really glad you said this. I feel like people think groomers are always attracted to children and want to have sex with them, but sometimes it’s just that social validation and influence that’s the real goal (a la Colleen Balinger imo). That perception of groomers as being people trying to have sex with kids probably makes it harder for them to realize that they were doing something wrong and why it was wrong

[@samsprague3158]

Great point. This is a big reason why cultural conservatives don’t understand they are the groomers.

[@maryjack08]

Exactly. Nobody thinks Ak wants to have physical relations with Naur. But what's obvious is that Ak likes having power over people, likes coercing them into things, feels better about himself when he makes someone visibly uncomfortable. It perfectly fits the profile of a DVer: he enjoys having the control to make someone feel bad.

[@rahbeeuh]

Can you reiterate the last sentence? I'm having a difficult time registering what y'mean /gen

[@paigemcara]

@rahbeeuh ​​​⁠I think that people sometimes have a hard time seeing past their own intentions. Someone might be having really inappropriate conversations with kids (a la akademics, Colleen Ballinger), but because they aren’t trying to do something obviously horrible like sex with them, they have a hard time seeing how their behaviour can still have harmful effects. Does that clarify at all?

[@chesspiece4257]

@@rahbeeuhwhen you’re trying to explain to someone grooming a kid that what they’re doing is inappropriate, they go “well i’m not a pedo so it’s fine.” understanding that grooming is about power and control might help them understand what they’re doing is wrong and why they should stop.

[@reeceloomis673]

This video genuinely made me cry bro. I’m a man and never felt safe having emotions or being myself. Thank you for speaking out man

[@BionicLatino]

It’s crazy that when I was watching the video, my first reflex was to think that people were overreacting; this was dudes putting the kid through his rites. And then I stopped and realized how fucked up that was when I said it out loud. Damn.

[@markuskoivisto]

Good on ya

[@BionicLatino]

@ we sometimes don’t realize how much dysfunction we assume is normal until we are asked to defend it.

[@MaynardsSpaceship]

​@BionicLatino I'm proud of you for admitting that. I know it's difficult. Please continue to challenge yourself.

[@Setsunako6587]

🏆

[@ian_dot_com]

Critical thinking is desperately needed in our society

[@FYGUnkleUrple]

The Akademiks impression was literally fucking spot on for his response. I remember my dad asking me back around 14 - 16 if I was fucking yet and I answered him no. He proceeded to gloat about a 300+ body count that of course worked in embarassing me and putting pressure on me to have a sex life on top of the standard high school social hierarchy so yeah. Fun times in learning how to fuck up relationships for years.

[@figlet6427]

No joke here, that's fucked up💀 i'm sorry to hear that bro, hope u got through that somehow

[@Setsunako6587]

Bruh! That's awful! Jeez!

[@Schelly]

@@slow-adhesiveness-4933 help? how?

[@oldodgy]

​@@slow-adhesiveness-4933 how does his story connect to you not having a dad??

[@lolersthe4th880]

@@slow-adhesiveness-4933 You're hurt and you're seeking answers in all the wrong places bro. I guarantee you, the people you look to for answers aren't giving you any that are helping.

[@bbuny10]

I remember when I was little being very upset about something, and my mom came up to me and let me know “Let it out. It’s ok to let it out” I still think about that moment to this day, it was huge. It was what I needed to hear.

[@marsrover5898]

I remember seeing Charlemagne do this to Justin Bieber & Mindless Behavior during their breakfast club interviews. He was laughing his ass off. Angela Yee was telling charlemagne to stop but he kept going. it’s disgusting that this type of behavior is so rampant. i remember my brother trying to do the same shit to me, it made me uncomfortable but i couldn’t say anything cuz i needed to “be a man!”

[@fresnoniiji]

Makes sense cause char was low key defending AK

[@kgfoster14]

That interview with mindless behavior was appalling nbs

[@entropyinreverse]

Oh god, you've just reminded me of how Diddy behaved with Justin 🤢

[@dejab2486]

Charlemagne also “lost his virginity” to a much older woman and has been open and honest about this. Now he is perpetuating this cycle.

[@Richard-Reloaded]

Charlemagne has an accusation with a minor from back in the day.

[@lori-EL]

The Cure said it in 1979, and it's still as relevant as ever: I tried to laugh about it Cover it all up with lies I tried to laugh about it Hiding the tears in my eyes 'Cause boys don't cry

[@Combba6]

Good old Uncle Bob!

[@Setsunako6587]

​@@Combba6... George?

[@maryjack08]

Robert Smith had a gutsful of toxic BS when they were coming up in the punk scene in the 70s and 80s. Dressing the way he did and wearing make-up got glass bottles thrown at you by wannabe N*zis

[@neenlancaster]

In Siamese Twins, they also talk about the trauma of a first sexual encounter with a prostitute, which is something that is unfortunately very common, at least here, where older men forcibly initiate their sons or such... I'd venture that Pornography as an album is an album about all sorts of trauma that can be borne of patriarchy

[@nickpeitchev7763]

​@neenlancaster as a huge Cure fan, thank you for this insight. I love Pornography and I think it's their second best, but I've often found that it's very difficult for me to listen to, thus even being my second favourite it's not in my top 5 most listened to albums by them. This take makes so much sense to me.

[@SaiyanSerenityV]

Man, thank you SO much for this video. I'm a CSA survivor, and I've spent the last 20 years of my life processing that and understanding how it all happened in the first place. I used to simply believe some folks were born sick and evil, and they should simply be wiped from the Earth. I still hold that hatred for the man who abused me, specifically, and feel entitled to do so - but overall I'm more interested in preventing predatory behaviour forming WITHIN people before it does any damage at all. When I look at the issue overall, I think about how normalized it is that men count down teenage celebrities' birthdays so they can legally objectify them (and women largely didn't bat an eye at it until recently), I think about how normalized these inappropriate interactions between adults and young boys are, around manhood and rite of passage and performing masculinity via sxual conquest. The sickness, the real evil, it's taught. Boys who suffer from interactions like this kid could very easily turn around when they're grown and repeat the same behaviour - or worse. The man who abused me was abused by an older woman when he was young. Obviously it doesn't always repeat, but it's enough of a worrying trend that we need to be aware of it, and I feel that a lot of men specifically aren't having this conversation. It means a lot to me that somebody who speaks to and educates young men is talking about the root cause of this vicious cycle. Much love FD

[@loreliz4]

And if any of y’all get a chance to see Ak’s response to all of this please keep in mind how he keeps calling that 15 year old BOY… a young MAN. They will use the same techniques they use on girls to deflect or rationalize THEIR WEIRD behavior or rhetoric… THESE PREDATORS MOVE IN FLOCKS‼️‼️

[@samwest1097]

Whew. This the most impactful Light Work FD ever did. When I was 14 I was taller than my mom, and she had 1 friend that started acting brand new around me. My mom cut her out of our lives swiftly. Thank you Mom 🙏🏾

[@ajewishchristianmuslim]

You have a great mom🙏🏾

[@MissTeaq]

Yeah Mom immediately saw what type of time her home girl was on and moved accordingly, immediately. Mom was like “I’d hate to have to murder a witch for messing wit my kid.”

[@youngmeth87]

For me it was always my sister's friends she's 6 years older than me

[@salvatoresultana4058]

Just unbelievable props to that kid. Dealing with people twice his age like a person who is twice their age.

[@Hi_Tamera]

So glad multiple men are speaking up about this disgusting behavior‼️

[@Setsunako6587]

F I N A L L Y 😭🙌🏾💕

[@arcanamemoria]

Gives me a small bit of hope for future generations

[@assassino1480]

Any time there's a video shitting on DJ Akademiks, I click so fast my finger breaks the sound barrier travelling to the mouse button

[@abhinavbannerjee2934]

this is because you are an ace combat fan

[@KabbalahSherry]

Hard same ☝🏽😤🔥🔥🔥

[@Setsunako6587]

😂👍🏾

[@animalsandlifelife5631]

As a woman, God bless your soul, man. We need more people like you in the world.

[@MasutaMJ]

The fifteen year old kid being the smartest and most common sense in that room is baffling. This is America.

[@brianjohnson4780]

This doesn’t just happen in America and it didn’t start in America either. Unfortunately, these types of acts happen on a daily basis, all over the world.

[@Superbatmanbro]

It's honestly sad this happens all around the world and me personally I've got a lot of crap to heal about everyday

[@GregOnTheJob]

It takes an Akademiks level of stupidity to link any of this garbage to being uniquely American.

[@MasutaMJ]

@@GregOnTheJob adults in America keep proving otherwise

[@suoutubez19]

Wait until you find out how pervasive sex abuse of minors is around the world and it’s not at all limited to one specific country

[@TheMasterT97]

6:18 as a Black victim of sexual abuse by a woman as a boy. Thank you. I needed to hear this.

[@lill0c0]

This hit home. Its why the older i get, the less male friends i have that are close. Learning to distance myself from people who encourage me to act against my values.

[@ajtaylor8750]

Euphoria feels like Kendrick was watching Drake and AK through a telescope from an abandoned building, watching their every move. The song keeps aging better and better. Why does the 15 YEAR OLD KID need to be the one to know this was wildly inappropriate and outright predatory?

[@SenorChistoso]

"The patriarchy is a smog we all breathe in."

[@guyferrari8124]

How is not taking male victims as seriously as we take female victims the patriarchy? That’s totally backwards, it’s the males that are being mistreated here by being ignored

[@toemushroom-np1qt]

@@guyferrari8124 youre slow

[@ava_marie_v]

​@@guyferrari8124You stopped watching after he said the word "patriarchy," didn't you

[@arubinojr5670]

@@ava_marie_v He was too busy thinking about The Male Loneliness Epidemic (said in the same general tone as The Border Crisis) that he forgot to hit play.

[@maya7363]

@@guyferrari8124 I can't tell if you're being genuine or not but the patriarchy exists with the idea that men are powerful and dominant so male victims of sexual assault are ridiculed or emasculized because the patriarchy doesn't allow for men to be "weak" or harmed because it falls outside of the idea of masculinity we've all been taught. Because of this backlash it leads men to not acknowledge that pain or to spin it with them "gaining" something from the experience, using it as a flex or a positive thing to avoid the harm from their community or themselves tldr: Male victims fall outside of the idea of masculinity so they're ridiculed/ignored

[@lucasbrown9254]

F.D. The absolute GOAT of explaining the insidious lived reality of men under Patriarchy. Patriarchy has no gender but it starts very young. You dropped this 👑

[@meganray9429]

PREDATORS MOVE IN FLOCKS! 🗣️🗣️🗣️

[@superpulaski9767]

Just found your channel recently. You’ve been speaking a lot of truth, I myself was taken advantage of as a young boy by an older woman I trusted and regularly had men putting me in sexual situations to “test my manhood”. Glad someone’s talking about this more, especially about what “patriarchy” actually is. Ain’t good for nobody.

[@maryjack08]

I'm sorry you were subjected to that. They had no right

[@achillesakanga117]

Not me watching FD from Kenya and realizing most my male friends have experienced all of the things he's said. Sad but it is what it is 😢😢

[@nirvanaheights]

have conversations with the younger people you know, to prevent it from happening more

[@moustik31]

Right?!

[@atlasatlasatlas333]

it’s not “it is what it is” it’s not okay! you devaluing these issues will only prolong the problem!

[@pianist150]

Really smart kid. He knew what the correct terminology was, he said no time and time again, wild he was the most mature person in that discord

[@chrislawuk]

@@pianist150 yeahhh I mean I agree but I can’t help but feel that the reason he was so adept at “blocking” the advances as it were, is that this is far from the first time some weird shit has happened to him, and given his age and internet use level, that makes perfect, sad, sense to me.

[@GeologicFM]

The last 3 minutes of this are golden. Can you do a longer video about "calling in" and how real, meaningful work is interpersonal? Your perspective and knowledge, as well as how your present your arguments, are immaculate.

[@rookbirdblues]

I've seen a lot of parents saying that this is inspiring them to talk to their children about grooming online. I'm really happy to hear that. I sincerely recommend showing them the video Chronically online girl explains Drake's creep lore by Nicole Rafiee, she explains grooming and what it is using Drake as an example and you can see parallels to AK's behaviour too, clear as day. Another thing to note is the frog in boiling water. If you put a frog in boiling water, it'll immediately hop out. But if you put a frog in cold water and slowly turn the heat up, it'll sit much longer, sometimes until it's boiled. We teach kids to look out for the boiling water. We need to start teaching them what the heat just slowly being turned up looks like. Small jokes, small throwaway comments, small boundaries breaking - these are the start of grooming. This can happen to children of any gender, and can be done by adults of any gender. A woman can groom a boy or a girl. A man can groom a boy or a girl. It's all about power dynamics. I'm so glad this is getting more attention, parents haven't been given the tools to protect their children for so long. As someone who suffered grooming as a child, I really appreciate everyone not letting this die, do not let this die. Thank you so much. FD is right. This is bigger than AK. He's just the most famous and visible example of this.

[@chesspiece4257]

the frog analogy is a really good way to put it

[@furiousstyles08]

From Lego Company in the 70s to parents: "It's imagination that counts. Not skills. You build whatever comes into your head, the way you want it. A bed or a truck. Dolls or spaceships. A lot of boys like dollhouses. They're more human than spaceships. A lot of girls like spaceships. They're more exciting than dollhouses."

[@PatDaBaker851]

I appreciate you bringing up some important social dilemmas: Just because something is normal doesn't mean it's right. Just because something is wrong doesn't mean it's easy to talk about it. Just because it's not easy to discuss topics like these doesn't make the discussion any less important to have.

[@shazzari]

12:46 Understand a certain type of dude doesn’t really even like women that much. They just want women to gain the approval of men around them. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@charleswhite9242]

I’m a 47 year old white guy from England and I show your videos like this to my 16 year old son. We both get a lot from your videos. Thanks man 🙏

[@085cur1ty]

thank you for being a good father and educating your son and learning your self. great job man❤

[@medarchou]

why does ur skin matter? especially for this topic

[@tengoodquestions]

@@medarchoubecause he’s not the assumed demographic so it highlights how his content is reaching a broader audience which is good

[@deanrichard1770]

@@medarchoulike 90% of his videos involve something involving black culture. Even when it’s not directly like this video its still about rapper yuppies. He also notes how this is a problem in predominantly poor socioeconomic conditions, aka it happens to black boys more often

[@heavenwaits]

you’re a great dad :) wishing you both well

[@darthmisogyny3828]

The drake sub reddit gonna hate this lmao

[@Insouciant_Lyfê]

Honestly, why would anyone care about an echochamber subreddit.

[@asdghhjkkwoowri]

@@Insouciant_Lyfêexactly. When you look at the grand scheme of things, those guys are living in purgatory.

[@familyguyfreemoviedownload8314]

ive been fascinated by that subreddit recently. they legit think the lawsuit is drake standing up to umg for the little guy’s benefit it’s wild

[@guyferrari8124]

@@Insouciant_Lyfê so any subreddit?

[@Mastabuilda212]

They won't care. They're too busy defending Drake for his relationships with underaged girls to notice

[@kilgore_trout_37]

I have known men who were “active” as children, one as young as 4. These kids had done a lot of mental gymnastics to believe that they had consented to this. Imagine believing a 4 year old can consent to anything like that. Now consider how society is affected by having a bunch of people walking around thinking that kids want this, or can consent. It’s so sad and it makes a lot of sick sense. :(

[@Zimx02]

Now of course in the situation of a 4 year old, consensual sexual activity is completely preposterous, but to stigmatize sexuality at a young age based on ill-conceived, patriarchal notions of sexuality is not much different than forcing it, and it is damaging on its own right. Remember, our job is to nurture, protect, and guide, not to force and manipulate. If two legally underage people consent to sexual activity during the pertinent stage of development, are we gonna say that they 'can't consent'? It's important to differentiate that 1) the legal concept of consent, and 2) consent as our on individual wishes, are two separate things. When discussing consent when it comes to the well-being of people, it is the second concept, not the first, that is important. Remember that this is the legal system that incarcerates people for marijuana, gay relationships, and standing up to your oppressors, but allows pharmaceutical companies to murder us, alcohol, fascist military-grooming, and child-bride marriage. Ethics should NEVER be based on the law. Rather the law should be based on the most well-informed, healthy understanding of ethics. The problem is that it mostly never is.

[@chesspiece4257]

@@Zimx02i hear you but i think you’re inserting a lot into the original comment that just isn’t there

[@rubyreduxx]

Self fulfilling prophecy. This is why therapy and addressing these things is so important

[@Zariel_999]

@@Zimx02 wtf are you even on about? this has nothing to do with the comment you replied to. you're assuming a lot here.

[@erikateixeira8665]

10/10 video. Thanks for addressing the issue that patriarchy doesn't harm just wormen, but men too. ❤

[@spiraljumper74]

I’ve hated Aks with a passion for over a decade for his Chiraq mess and I feel so vindicated in such a shitty way rn. Poor kid. This video felt like ice water running down the back of my neck because it just hit so true. Every male dominated space I was in as a teenager was like this. Even the places “meant” for teenagers had at least a couple older dudes acting strange.

[@Finnian49]

You got a white kid from the UK taking a first hard look at patriarchy, keep it up!

[@heavenwaits]

hearing him out means you’ve got a good head on your shoulders bro, wishing you all the best :)

[@FalconFern-e6r]

As an white adult from the UK, i wish this message had been around for guys to hear when i was a kid, frankly the adults i know need it too

[@TPSMB]

Hey young man, I see and recognize the work that you’re putting into yourself and behalf of people everywhere, thank you for taking the time. The road ahead of you might be long and laborious, just remember to stick to your guns regardless of what presents itself, focus on growing and you will be the best version of yourself. Sending you love and light from the USA. 🫶

[@Ian-vq3qe]

Not to push the envelope too far but trans rights.

[@Finnian49]

Wasn’t expecting it so thank you for the positive comments people!

[@xkumanekox]

My faith in the future generation is still strong after seeing how mature the kid was when dealing with those so-called 'adults' during that stream.

[@jesslt9630]

I had a friend who once interrupted a story I was telling about something that happened to me and just said “that’s not funny” from a really genuine place, and it completely threw me and reorganized my whole understanding. (And I’m not a man, just masculine.) It had always been a “listen to this crazy shit a girl did to me!” story. I found out it’s wild what conversations you can have with men (especially) about their introduction to/experience of sex if you say that phrase. We make it this joke how boys are groomed and hurt, and even just going “that’s horrible” to a guy will completely throw him for a loop.

[@Setsunako6587]

... if it's said by another guy 👍🏾

[@Jaykspeaks]

You know what’s so crazy - that you re not allowed to cry thing is so real- I remember being 12 and had been in an accident that saw my gums ripped out of my mouth. In the hospital getting my gums sewn back into my mouth, barely any anaesthetics, and I was crying , my uncle who was there was like “men don’t cry “ 🌚

[@figlet6427]

I have hard time believing your uncle wouldn't cry if he had his gums ripped out bruh🤡 never got this argument, crying is a biological need like any other, you gotta process those emotions somehow, like we don't tell ppl to stop digesting when they eat food

[@Setsunako6587]

THIS SH1T RIGHT HERE is why I'd rather be a woman, every time (even with all the casual daily dehumanization) than have to live like that, even for a second. I mean, nobody cares about Black women's pain but at least we're "allowed" to cry 😭! I'm glad you know better now. Please keep empowering other boys/men to feel deeply, too 🙌🏾💕

[@tuushietime]

I was training to be a tech in a children's hospital. I was trained not to force or manipulate a limb before the xray was taken, just in case it was broken. A 12 yr old boy and his mother come in. The mother is telling her son to suck it up and be a man yada yada. He couldn't move his leg, when she reached for it to force the leg into the position I needed.... I had to quickly jump in to stop her. I took the picture. His femur was broken in 2 very sharp pieces. The damage she could have done to her own child, all because she didn't want him to be soft. He wasn't even crying .. just mentioned that he was in pain and couldn't move it. I will never forget that.

[@shanel4294]

Like clearly if you’re in tears you’re in ALOT of pain. There’s no reason for men to not cry, literally none

[@maryjack08]

In case you need to hear it, boys and men are allowed to cry. It's good for you to release stress from your body. My dad was a crier, and I always admired that about him. The first time my now-husband cried in front of me he was deeply ashamed, but it was part of what made me fall in love with him.

[@genevieveaniko6492]

So refreshing to hear a man online talking sense. The manosphere could never.

[@alexandraleian212]

I have been screaming about this in my circles for years and will continue to do so. I will never forget hearing my male friends and family members casually and sometimes proudly admit their first sexual encounters being at the hands of older girls or women, sometimes even men. They were little boys. Sometimes as young as 10. And the insistence of it being "different" for boys and girls, and the insistence that boys ought to wear this as a badge of honor, is sickening.

[@Wordsbyquentin]

And yet people wanna trash the show Baby Reindeer because of the topics

[@lw8882]

I think the only thing I'd add is that it's incredibly important to address when these attitudes come from family, that it can look different to coming from friends or strangers. Having your father, uncle and grandfather tell you this is how you should look at women and sex can sneak in under the radar and validate those kinds of horrible world views without even raising alarm bells. Great video.

[@GringoXalapeno]

Honestly I never had those experiences personally but I’ve heard of them so I’m quick to call things out rather than roll with them supportive parents and relatives helping you out helps a lot

[@mercedeschanel9239]

Thank you for speaking so eloquently and simply. It’s so important for us in the black community to have conversations about this to keep the cycle from perpetuating. ❤

[@ShotByLu504]

As a Black guy myself I had lost hope for all Black men with microphones on this app and then I stumbled on your video. Thanks for always keeping it real and having great insight

[@lucretia_macevil]

The way Nour responded is exactly why I loved teaching sex education for middle schoolers and high schoolers. Kids can and will advocate for themselves when they feel empowered to do so.

[@Wolfe-Tone-]

Respect to you, thank you for all you do

[@ivysclique]

this video honestly brought me to tears. that poor kid is being harassed by these damn bullies, who have no shame in saying these disgusting things to a CHILD! i remember being around his age, no, even younger…grown men would say these things to me as well. i was so scared of being seen as some “loser” for ever daring to leave the call, let alone pushing back. this kid needs to be protected!

[@Night_City_Vibes]

I remember being like 13 and have older men in my neighborhood ask me these same question and it was disgusting than and it’s disgusting now.

[@calhowell6798]

IVE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS FOR DAYS! My four year old daughter loves to play with the football and her half brother who’s 6 is always trying to say “she’s not supposed to play with that”. It REALLY frustrates me because someone taught him this type of thinking… You saying raising children is something that really shows you the true side of our patriarchal society is beyond true statement.

[@Setsunako6587]

Booo, gender norms! Get that girl her own football, if you can. Preferably pink, or whatever color SHE likes so her brother knows 1) her interests **are normal** and 2) that HE'S not allowed to play with HER football without her permission 😘

[@joneschilufya867]

I can’t believe people wanted to replace this channel of reason and research with that of the “what’s the dirt”. FD speaks in a way that just makes it all easy to understand. No hidden agendas just pure journalistic artistry.

[@jbslimshaddy]

FR

[@MagicSwordKing]

"A call in is better than a call out" that line hit me hard. Important point, it's so much easier to keep people away from horrible ideologies and behaviors by just talking to them and engaging them and showing them a different way to be. Surprisingly often you find out that no one's ever given them another option, another path to consider.

[@slickandslaycious6579]

👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 As a black amab enby, i never understood how men trying to control my body and sex life has never been considered sus.... Like i never cared about that part of someones like unless im trying to get with them myself.... This is also the sad and concerning thing about the changing power landscape... Kids able to easily enter the entertainment industry (or any work industry) with all its predators

[@honestytheory7529]

One thing I admire about your content is that you add to the discourse. Umpteen people will speak on a thing before you and you still manage to provide angles and food for thought beyond what's already out there👊🏾

[@maxpotiontcg]

This the real red pill.

[@g7924]

Too hard to swallow so it’s easier just to blame women for everything smh

[@leeb5112]

@g7924 yea, seeing things like what happened in this video and thinking onlyfans is what’s tearing our society apart is truly baffling. they’re cowards wearing counter-culture groucho glasses.

[@sambridgers9543]

Fax

[@NF-ru8on]

7:35 yes. This. Grooming is an important mechanism of Patriarchy. Grooming *is old*. Patriarchy *is old*. As 'natural' as any old social structure/pattern. To move forward is to dismantle such old patterns. Moving forward is not easy and inches are barely moved over the course of some 'wave of feminism'. The work is much, and ongoing.

[@HeyItsIndy]

I really respect your views and how you use your platform. So much perspective that I wish I had as a young person. 👍 Love yourselves y'all- you are worth it! You are enough- your feelings are valid- How you wish to feel, be and love are valid and we can't let these goofy ass people take that away from any of us. It's never too late to draw lines or set up boundaries in your life, and to cut out toxic things or people. Your future self will thank you and those you nurture and lift up along the way will be grateful, and hopefully do the same for those in their own lives on their journey. ✌

[@justnick47]

unc has reached his breaking point with this one

[@lady8jane]

Yeah, that righteous anger came through in the last moment. And can't agree more with him there.

[@samsprague3158]

If this is what breaking looks like, a lot of us are gonna have to sustain that broken energy for a long while in the coming years. Time for game faces, the sht is hitting the fan.

[@regolith11]

Dude thank you for being a good voice for men. Male spaces are always so toxic, it's incredibly refreshing to hear someone speak on a larger stage that's saying positive things. I appreciate you.

[@dannyavila910]

Thank you for calling out this disgusting behavior and for your work in general. Your commentary on culture is extremely valuable and appreciated.