#TheOhEmGees

[@LifeonGodzTerms]

It is so worth it.... Hubby and I are 15years married exactly today august 7th. No crazy suprises so far. I bless God. I will choose him again. Emma and yetty ..May your marriage be like fine wine that gets better with time.

[@TheOhEmGees]

Amen thank you

[@naanuerki]

When I heard 10 mins....I actually checked the length of the video and laughed. I love your vids...whether its a min or an hr. With two people, there is always the tendency to misinterpret. And usually, in the heat of an argument, both parties want to prove point. It takes a whole lot of effort and 'discipline' to make communication key!

[@simiadegoke8853]

Me too😂😂

[@Helenade]

Emma & Yet, you guys have spoken to my heart. I'm Yoruba British born and my partner is Igbo. Because of our different backgrounds & upbringing, we very much misunderstand each other even though our intentions are not to offend. Small things get blown out of proportion and leads to petty arguments. My only advice is that you cannot force someone to behave in a way that they’re not accustomed to. Instead, choose your moments to communicate in a loving, respectful way to help your partner understand certain behaviours that you will not tolerate & this will help them understand you better & want to do better. Any other ideas welcomed? Still learning myself!!!

[@EmmaOhMaGod]

🙏

[@badejooluwaseun3895]

Seriously, I just got to know about ohemgees vlog yesterday night, and since then I can't just get enough of them. You guys are doing well. I love the way yetty is calm and trying to explain her points to convince her husband. God bless your home

[@danieladeduro5988]

I'm super excited to watch guys. Not because I enjoy seeing you "fight" oh. But because I believe it's one step towards understanding and maturity. Communication! Any day, any time. It's not anyone's place to "apportion blame". We should just be glad that we have the opportunity to learn from your experience. Great job guys. This takes courage and humility. Yetunde, you are awesome!

[@utibehenshaw4501]

Sisteh...good to see you here.

[@chinazaibeabuchi3456]

No matter how close you and ur partner are their is always this hidden pride that doesn’t want you to give in or even correct ur first statement,u just have to tame it and know wen to give in and wen to talk about it No one ever wants to be wrong but evaluate your situation before taking some actions,you have to understand that the person you are trying to say is wrong is now a part of you God bless u both

[@MissAmazing24]

My husband is Jamaican and I am Nigerian but we're both raised in the same country. Listening to you guys now makes me think the way we argue is simply standard for relationships because there is no difference. All the description of Emma perfectly match my husband and I'm just like Yetunde.

[@busoladaramola9616]

Yes, Yetunde is like my Big Sis. I think its also kind of a big sis " learnt attitude"

[@MissAmazing24]

@@busoladaramola9616 you might have hit the nail on the head there. I'm the oldest of four and in the early days of our relationship my husband sometimes felt that I was addressing him like I do my kid brothers.

[@YetundeVlogs]

Busola Daramola Yeah I’m the oldest of 4 so that might be it 🙈

[@MissAmazing24]

First of all... I cracked up when you started the vid by saying it will only be 10 mins. That was a good joke 🤭. But I know I'm not alone in enjoying your videos whatever length they are.

[@odunayo1198]

The length is fine - 30 mins is fine actually

[@femmyo9273]

Asking what the other person means is key and gives clarity. Willingness to accept the explanation given and believing the other had good intentions is essential. Listening and ensuring you heard what the other is saying before responding or giving any explanation is very key in Communication. Sometimes not appearing to understand what the other is saying and instead making explanations most times aggravates the issue. Sorry kills ego because it has a calming and cool effect. God bless you both.

[@TheOhEmGees]

🙏🙏🙏

[@oluwadamilolailupeju2443]

I totally agree

[@Jj-rq9sp]

Thank you guys for sharing and being vulnerable before an audience which is difficult. If I am seeing/hearing right it seems like Yetunde wants understanding from Emma and Emma wants Yetunde to adjust to him? In the end understanding on both ends of a relationship will lead to adjustments naturally in a relationship for both parties. Adjustments without understanding van lead to onesided unhealthy relationships at least the ones I know. I appreciate your lovefor each other. I dont believe any worthwhile relationship is or should be fight free. It is our expectation around a differences free argument free life that sometimes make fights a big deal more than they really are at the end of the day. Fights help people learn about themselves, each other and are an opportunity to grow. Ah Emma said it! The bit about learning about ourselves in fights.

[@TheOhEmGees]

🙏

[@juliacares5984]

I also don't like talking when I'm upset. I can't keep malice but it's my way of not saying something I will later regret. It has helped me a lot in my marriage. Celebrating 13th wedding anniversary this 5th August , we had a fight 2 days before. 😁

[@EmmaOhMaGod]

Thank you o... @yetundevlogs coman see somtin 😁

[@LifeonGodzTerms]

Congrats. 15years today. I am still learning alot though. My main lesson is to never say you can't change or be better for your better half

[@cinlopa06]

My husband does the same thing! This is the fight we face all the time, my husband will tell me I didn't hear, then Im like who were you talking to your imaginary friend. I always tell him please take a moment and slow down and make sure we have eye contact and communicate to be sure that I have heard him. I'm a Nigerian igbo raised in USA my husband is an Nigerian Yoruba raised in Nigeria so the differences always seem to come about even though we are both Nigerian.

[@oluwadamilolailupeju2443]

I think it would help if the other person felt heard and fully understood. Effective communication also starts with effective listening. Talking over the other person and reading meaning into conversations doesn't help. You cannot always take everything personally. Consideration is also very key in tackling misunderstandings. God keep you guys and help you on this journey.🙏

[@cinlopa06]

We've been married now over 5 years with two children 4 and 14months. Many of our fights are how we discipline our children and how we communicate. Cleaning, he does things anyhow, I like to take my time and throughly clean each space, so to compromise I let him clean how he likes then I do the detailing at least that is what we agreed to but I secretly clean after him. Just being honest

[@drealdeal8651]

Dear Mr&Mrs, what I love most about your show is reality. I really appreciate that because it affects people positively. Positive Communications is very important. I appreciate d fact ur wife even come after a day or two to settle issue with u. I had been in a relationship that I talked like 30mins, 1 hr and she only said "i've heard u". I said what do u say abt this issue? She said" she said nothing" and she would find a time to shouting at u at home and poured all her annoyance on you 4 like 3hrs non stop. In d kitchen, bathroom and sitting room. Come and let's talk abt this issue, won't say her mind, if you like talk for 2 hrs. When there was issue, if i didn't make a move to end it, it could stay 2 months, she didn't care. I celebrate you two.

[@adaoraneboh9564]

Your question I believe is directed to people who are married to the love of their lives and not people in enduring marriages because in such marriages, any and everything the person does will be vexing to you; ranging from sneezing to sipping tea. That would have been me but thank God I ended up marrying the love of life like you guys. In fact, you guys are like a reflection of my husband and I. Now, my gets angry just from me not picking his call, but I had to discuss with him that my phone might be in my bag and I am on the road and did not hear his call. Anyways, that is in the past now. he understands me better now. :)

[@LifeonGodzTerms]

Awesome thoughts!

[@cinlopa06]

We fight about stupid things like cooking with Maggi. My husband doesn’t like to see me add Maggi but I always tell him, all the foods we eat outside at friends homes or parties, what do you think they put in it? But I have learned that it's not the healthiest so I try to use crayfish and dried fish, and iru-the olden days Maggi to flavor food, or added tiny bits of salt in each step of cooking meals. I just had to approach my cooking differently to have peace. My mother in law lives with us and she is the Maggi queen, she will always tell me ahhh no ooo the food won't be sweet oooo! I have served her foods without Maggi and she doesn't complain, the food is still sweet but in my tongue there is something missing that should have taken it to the next level. Abeg, as I reflect on things I don't want the next level to be hypertension oooo, so alternative cooking is here to stay!

[@michaelfabiyi3685]

Lovely couple. You guys remind me a lot of my babe and I 🥰. I'm a lot like Emma and she's a lot like Yetunde. We're not married but engaged. We've had couple of fights on silly issues until we realized most issues were just results of seeing things only from an individual point of view. Our key response is to communicate in the 'best way possible' what our concerns are, discuss it, each person acknowledges their faults and apologize. We encourage a two-way apology method cos we both could have done better no matter how little whenever a fight happens. So when she's sorry for what she did, I tell her it's OK and I'm sorry too for whatever I could have done better. We've not had any serious fight in almost a year now. Love you guys. Keep keeping it real. And Emma sorry ehn, that vex that starts when u remember something that's didn't go down well ehn... I can totally relate.

[@ogee_chi]

I really understand u both from ur both sides my parents have been married for 38 years and dey still have dis not growing up in Nigeria fights. My mum reads meaning into some words like wen my dad says are u alright she thinks dat he is insulting her. But saying sorry sometimes works because even now we get to laugh at de fights but mum always keep pressing on wot he said sometimes he boils up and say life in the UK is different from naija oh den my mum might now say oh so u saying I grew up dere so u can talk to me anyhow. Like sometimes I tell her mum u overreacting but sorry still settles it because we women are very sensitive to comments and we respond to it easily more dan u even expect. Both I love the way u people handle ur fights u calm down and understand each other. God bless u immensely

[@rasheedbalikis6656]

My husband also says he doesn't want to talk whenever we get into an argument and I try getting him to talk most times because I don't want us to keep any malice or grudges. The matter escalates every time I try having a chat afterwards. I actually blame him all the time for blowing everything out of proportion. But i think I have learnt a lesson today. Thought we weren't a normal couple lol

[@obinnawilliams9436]

Conflict resolution is a skill many couples need to learn. Thanks for sharing guys and yeah I can watch you guys for long

[@surefunmiee]

Lol, love you guys. There's just one thing I keep noticing in your videos permit me to say... Uncle Emma could please you let Yetunde complete her statement(s) before interrupting her? It doesn't look cool when you interrupt her (and this happens a lot).. Growing up, I noticed this between my parents and it was never a lovely sight. Please take this seriously. God bless your union!

[@ajijolaiyamorufat6881]

Yes please! Allow her complete her statement

[@swantakachidi6311]

Yea besides interrupting....he can be dismissive....try to buttress or validate her points...

[@ladyb7298]

I am soo happy to see this video... Yayyyy! I have not even started watching. Love #OhEmGees. Thank you for making time for us.

[@chisomdickson]

Always a delight watching the Ohemgees! 🤗

[@TheOhEmGees]

Thank you

[@akinpriestley3901]

Hi Emma & Yetty, This is awesome, trying to communicate and understand each other, na real work o!. It is a life term work. So keep working at it because it is the backbone of any relationship. We all need to have consensus and keep growing in how we read situation, communicate, express our feelings and believe the best in the intention of the other person. Shalom!

[@mercyafolabi6673]

As in eh the fact that he was like "hopefully 10mins".... Just crack me up😂😂.....pls leave it on the 30mins .....we love u guys ❤❤❤

[@chordkeys]

This is really good. Watching a couple have a go at each other and its not scripted. I see a lot of similarities btw this and my experience. Nice

[@Olamikuye]

😀😄😃😆i can relate ooooooo......when u re in vexing mood........u say it straight and direct🤪🤪🤪My hubby complains same way when i am angry and i want to vent my anger.....he is quick to remind me i am not talking to our child.....cos of the way i sound 🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤦‍♀️

[@ladygchannel1996]

I laughed so hard when you guys said 10mins 😂😂 like seriously this 30mins seems like 30sec thou love you guys😘😘

[@TheOhEmGees]

🙈😂

[@a.jsbrunchdrive5757]

Say that again oo..

[@josephadunola37]

This is nice. I love the transparency and how you guys just keep it real. We all are learning to be a better person. Thank you guys. God bless your marriage.

[@PRINCE.JOSEPH]

Bloody similar and I'm watching at 617am! I couldn't sleep for the most random fight! Just thinking I meant this from saying that! I've repeated a thousand times that I mena this not that and I couldn't sleep all night! I just binged ur channel from the faji Fridays or so to yetundes vlog to these ones and it's 6am already! Im going ng to do the laundry now to keep busy and not think cos I'm not thinking straight over nothing!

[@stellaebere-shepherd7011]

Awwww this is exactly my husband and I! I'm like if people ask us now won't you be ashamed to say this is what we are fighting about? ...and he also says I talk to him like a child when we are fighting but as Hod is my witness I'm just trying to state my side clearly...I watch this and I know we are not alone. It's all part of the love sha💕 I love you guys

[@ugommaokorie1660]

Emma just because I love you guys ❤, I think you should watch this back and see what you said because it will help you understand Yetunde better. At the beginning of this video, you said that you were taught when you were young to read tones in what people say/how they sound. If that's the case, then your immediate response will often be to assume that Yetunde is trying to speak to you in a negative way (i.e. that she's being condescending) rather than understanding what she's actually trying to do (which is to clarify things in order to de-escalate the situation). I think it will help to work on this by un-learning that way of thinking and by assuming that Yetunde wants to do right by you in whatever she says/does. In my family, there is a certain person who does this and as a result, she sadly creates many conflicts with everyone else in the family (including me) because she is always reading meanings into eeeeeeeveryone's tone and will not admit any possibility of having made a mistake in her interpretation. Even when you try to clarify things for her, she will not listen. If she assumed the best of all of us, she wouldn't over-read/mis-read situations and there would be far more harmony between her and the family.

[@ttlopehsofiat2670]

Now that I think of it.... I and my boyfriend's fight is usually small small things... We don't fight for long anymore plus there is rule of not going to bed angry at each other, the majority of the fight is usually on understanding in the sense that we are different 😊

[@Cocomo-if2wc]

I love this family

[@Joydan6666]

Trying to make a point or long argument usually leads to explosion.. Is best to cut it short with a sorry

[@ayokunmiadenuga8798]

Emma's conflict resolution technique is soooo like my husband's...Chaiiii....And then I'm so Yetunde...May God help us to communicate better.

[@bukolapopoola5574]

Because God is the foundation of your home and you guys keep it real. This home is certainly for life. I have learnt a lot from this. My self and hubby have beem friends for 15years, married for 3 years and we still argue about liitle things and keep it very real. I'm sure Emma knows that woman will always want to win an argument by now😁. God help us

[@EmmaOhMaGod]

Lol I'm learning

[@rotimitimisola9122]

i think i needed this video the most,... just broke up a relationship cuz of this,.. backgrounds. Thanks guys.. i just learnt a whole lot from you guys!!

[@phyl_mo]

Thanks for your honesty... Learning a lot from you 😊

[@patediale]

Yetunde, take it from me as a married man who has been married for 26 years. When your husband is angry and he wants to be left alone for a while, please let him be left alone. When he's cool down, let him come to you or you go to him.

[@Timenowistoact]

Janet Adebanwo thank God you didn’t marry him 😜

[@Uzos_Trybe]

Omg @Jane Adebanwo...I had a boyfriend who was exactly like this. He always postponed communication on issues and never came back to it..it always made me feel like my reservations were not valid.

[@olamiposiololadeademuyiwa3014]

Nice video. This is so real, just same as I experience with my Hubby but we are getting better everyday. Fight happens everyday but living above it is the key. I love your videos. 👍

[@olubukolaolaiya5734]

God bless you guys, I can relate with everything you're both experiencing right now. Have been there and we are still learning everyday. They are completely normal and both of you will grow to maturity through them in your marriage. Please keep the line of communication open and always forgive even before the other person apologize. You are keeping it real and am sure your home will flourish. Keep loving and getting to know each other with lots of patient from both side and with God at the center of your home, you will live in peace and harmony all the days of your life.

[@TheOhEmGees]

Thank you 🙏

[@aishafirdaussmuhammad2335]

@1:53 they said to keep things short hopefully 10 minutes today 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Afi 10 minutes

[@ladyb7298]

Hahahha. Right? They don't know we enjoy their videos whether short or long.

[@lolaalabievents788]

So authentic, my favs!!!

[@agirlcalledft]

Yayyyyyyyyy my people my people. I'm sha top ten to comment. Now let me go and watch

[@chiomaachukoh2820]

Our arguments are really similar. I’m totally showing my husband this and I can already see the snark on his face😂. He’s more mature than I am when we are both angry, but I’m getting a lot better if I do say so myself 💁🏼‍♀️

[@ehisiyke2951]

By the grace of God i have being married 4 almost 7 years now and we still fight like no man bizness and its actually 4 silly tins. But 1 tin that makes a marriage grows and wax stronger is communication. Always talk about the previous fight and when you have settled and then learn 1 or 2 tins from it. God bless your union

[@TheOhEmGees]

Amen thank you

[@Gandijem]

I love you guys...jem...love from UI

[@TinaVictor]

I interrupt my husband when talking and he does the same to me😂. We don’t even notice until people start talking( people’s headache). That is one of the least of my attitudes that I am working on improving cos none of us is complaining. We have better things to work on as long as we love each other like that. 🤷🏽‍♀️Going on 12 years together🙏

[@bamidelejanet3040]

10mins keh?😂😂 Is that even possible?😏 I learnt from this like every other. Beautiful family❤

[@keechiO]

God doesn't want 10min videos for us. 🙌🏾

[@TheOhEmGees]

😂

[@adeyinkaadekanmi1235]

Always here to watch you guyz

[@Hernameistunrayo]

So excited cuz I know im going to gain something more grace my ppl

[@oluwatomiwaolusola-kuti2508]

That moment the thought, "Am I lying?", came all of a sudden, I believe it was the whisper of the devil but yes, nothing speaks love to a man like respect. We love you but many more hate you, so you must guard your hearts from hurt and the likes.

[@marydayoalatishe3716]

I really love ur video cos there 're lot of things to learn

[@TheOhEmGees]

Thank you

[@GossipswithEunice]

Why Emma always has to be right? He even competes in fighting.😭😂🤣

[@fallysfoodhut]

Eh bèrè o. My people... ah! I don first do thumbs up.. let's listen. One thing I know is Yetty doesn't like losing and Emma dey sorry for Yetty (his golden heart 😍) 😅

[@chiomaachukoh2820]

I love you guys🥰

[@RebeccaArewa]

Very nice

[@temidayofayemi7287]

Ten minutes indeed!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@sanmisayoodebamike4775]

It's majorly misunderstanding that causes fights in relationships

[@oluwaseyiowa5346]

My marriage will be 1 year in September and yes we fight over little things that will then escalate. Like him watching CNN when I want him to watch movies with me (cos that was the initial plan).

[@damihatlaw8273]

10 minutes ke..... I'm seeing 30 minutes ooo😂

[@sonicolenterprise8325]

Please Emma, allow yetty to finish her conversations before you interrupt her. You always do that in almost all the videos have watched.

[@lifeoflivy6643]

Thank you I was about to say that ...Emma please work on your listening skills..you seem like you love to defend yourself

[@christopherishola1768]

I agree with that comment.

[@rachelobaseki4477]

This is the second video I have watched and I have noticed that he takes what she says with a pinch of salt. They are a lovely couple but Emma needs to listen to her and let her finish. There was a time he said “....I say something and she says whatever she says....” I look at her reaction and she looked puzzled initially but smiled it out. Anyways, am not saying my marriage is perfect. We had an argument today but we always talk it out. I love what the OhEmGees are doing. Gives you time to reflect. Love you guys😘😘😘

[@jjabb]

Most Africans in African talk like that. While in the West, people grow up waiting for the other person to finish speaking. It is a cultural issue.

[@chinonye2]

So to the next chapter - how do you settle these fights effectively then? That would be interesting to hear

[@TheOhEmGees]

That was discussed in this episode already. You can also check our today's episode where it was further buttressed

[@TheOhEmGees]

See link here kzbin.info/www/bejne/hl60ZJdjgbqdps0

[@adewunmioluwatosin7201]

Am always the troublemaker.

[@ogee_chi]

Yayyyyyy Excited

[@ogee_chi]

Josephine Okunubi no

[@damihatlaw8273]

I get where bro.Emma is coming from, you should have said I did not hear....that'll have been the end and it explains what you mean better that your back was turned so you didn't hear and I get your point too sis.Yetty you didn't hear so you were not told....lol 😂😂 na English dey cause all these things ooo....people interpret words differently

[@TheOhEmGees]

😂

[@sylviaonwe6477]

Ehen we have arrived lemme say hello before I start watching loml

[@fallysfoodhut]

Kabo

[@dramaticgospel1186]

Let the lady talk uncle EMMA, you cut her off too much.

[@FranEJ]

Hubby is sensitive and paranoid. You end up walking on eggshells when you can't be yourself. I hope you rewind and listen to each other.

[@irukaomenye7967]

I'm honestly beginning to think that this is a man and woman thing... this could have easily been hubby and I having this conversation...For us women it's about understanding. for the men it's underG about understanding but they would hardly admit it...The greatest lesson I've learnt so far about fights is that we can both be right and we can both be wrong... You can choose to be right or you can choose peace...you can let it go or hold on it for weeks...things can also e settled quickly sometimes!.....one person ALWAYS has to concede..even when they don't feel like it...most times I want hubby to concede as often as I do (which is almost all the time)...but I just learnt to worry about my own reactions....when it comes to fights, we both have our strengths and weaknesses.. i just play to my strengths to bring peace whether he does or not....and because I married a wonderful man....i trust that even though he isn't perfect...he is perfectly growing....this goes vice versa by the way, just saying from my point of view....Emma from a woman's perpective, Yetty's argument is valid....I hope someone puts up a different perspective but I also see clearly how right yours is too...

[@favoured_]

Nice one... But Bro Emma you ate on our head o.... 😁

[@eziunormokwunyei7506]

Lovely couple.Please,Mr Emma can you give your wife time to complete her sentences???Pleaseee🙏🙏🙏.

[@vinnyvincelive]

😝😝😝😀😀😀😀

[@LadyDami]

Vincent¡!!!!¡!!!!¡!!!¡¡¡¡!!!!!!!!!¡!

[@joannakolawole2378]

10 mins noni😂

[@TheOhEmGees]

Lol

[@opemmialukzie3072]

Hmm fighting on day four after wedding is it a bad sign

[@TheOhEmGees]

Lol it is not a bad sign...it is how you handle the fight that matters

[@TOBIAJOSEJERRY]

10 minutes ke 😂

[@ikeojo1595]

Helloo Ayo :)

[@Ann_Levi]

What are you guys now arguing about since you both cant remember!😂😂🤣😂

[@agirlcalledft]

Yay I was third to comment

[@agirlcalledft]

Lol 10 minutes Ke...30 whole minutes

[@PRINCE.JOSEPH]

Bloody similar and I'm watching at 617am! I couldn't sleep for the most random fight! Just thinking I meant this from saying that! I've repeated a thousand times that I mena this not that and I couldn't sleep all night! I just binged ur channel from the faji Fridays or so to yetundes vlog to these ones and it's 6am already! Im going ng to do the laundry now to keep busy and not think cos I'm not thinking straight over nothing!