What is the Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style & How Does It Affect Your Love Life

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

Are you familiar with the key characteristics and causes of the dismissive avoidant attachment style? Let me know if you can relate! ❤

[@WadeLahr]

Yes very much so my partner is DA and I see all to well the connection of her childhood impact of her parents/family trauma causing this. I have worked hard to understand how to better communicate with her and know why she does or doesn't communicate the same way I do. Your channel has been valuable. She is trying to understand and heal those wounds but it is very hard. Thank You for all your content and insight.

[@JustMeAndMyBoy]

@@WadeLahrdid she tell u what happened in her childhood? If so how did u get her to open up?

[@WadeLahr]

@@JustMeAndMyBoy Yes it has taken time to open up about that. I have known her and her family members since I was a teenager. I have witnessed the toxic way they treat each other and how cold they are. No hugging, no compliments or emotional support (none really know how to do emotions). Much criticism and negativity causing shame and withdrawl.

[@JustMeAndMyBoy]

@@WadeLahr incredibly sad. I don’t know the backstory of my DA, can only go on my assumptions from what I’ve learned here and elsewhere. My heart breaks and I’d like to be supportive in any way I can, so it would help if I knew what happened. I know that it takes time. Did u say something to make her feel safe enough to open up? If so, what? I know they trust me, has shared other incidents, but nothing about childhood. Thx for helping. 🙏

[@WadeLahr]

@user-tz1hl3pf2w she knows I am a steady reliable person. I think one of the things was for her to see how I loved and cared for everyone around me and especially how I parented my son (from previous marriage) and supported him. It's hard to balance you want to support your DA but not allow them to take too much advantage have to have healthy boundaries. It's easy to lean more anxious because they don't want to share emotions. Anytime she does I positively reinforce her and tell her how I really appreciate it.

[@Gabriel-ws2ez]

It's not just love life it is also with other people that a dismissive avoidant does the same thing, I know this because I am a dismissive avoidant not happy about it but I want to heal.

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

Absolutely! Attachment styles play a role in all different areas of relationships (romantic, friends, family, work and more). Give yourself credit for acknowledging that you want to heal, that is a big step! Check out the dismissive avoidant playlist or join me in PDS for deeper healing to secure attachment. Right now there is a 14 day free trial! ❤‍🩹

[@glennlambert300]

Is it possible for two DA’s to be in a positive healthy relationship. I’m struggling trying to figure out if she is a DA or FA - either way we are both avoidant. Pretty sure I’m a male DA. Thank you Thais for providing such incredible and useful content for all of us who are looking to improve ourselves and our relationships.

[@Sifu_Black]

I'm sure this also has a lot to do with peers as well. I imagine we likely go from caregivers to peers and if they prove unreliable we come to the livid conclusions presented here.

[@sukitha001]

Hello Thais, can you please do a video series focused on anxious attachment and how to manage it?

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

I appreciate your request! I have many videos on the anxious attachment style, check out my playlist "The Anxious Preoccupied Attachment Style" for a wide range of videos 🤗

[@sukitha001]

@@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool Thank you!

[@Rando-vn8ds]

I think "dismissive avoidant" is an offensive term, and it's past time to come up with a new term that describes a person's real experience and motivations, instead of how they affect other (more important) people (i.e. women). "Fearful" and "anxious" describe a person's experience and motivations; these people's experience and emotions are considered valid enough to be named. "Dismissive" only names the transgression the person is guilty of -- whatever's going on inside their brain is deemed invalid or unimportant.

[@LeeChrissy]

Great point.

[@katharinaheckmann4962]

I like this idea

[@Rando-vn8ds]

@@aigo000t that makes sense, thank you

[@svetikchum6988]

They are dismissive of their own feelings as well so it is fitting

[@Nonfiction.Reader]

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[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

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