Sista Says She Was Taught By Older BW In Her Family To Not Need A Man

[@mariethompson49]

I am not stupid. I will never say I don’t need a man. What I will say is I don’t need a pookie or Ray Ray.

[@301cameosis]

If you wait too late... that's what you'll get

[@willieross3745]

@Charles Clark and that's real. Black women hold their beauty longer than other nations. But it's also a curse to them. They think they have time to find a man because they still look good. But as soon as their beauty start dropping,then they want the man of their dreams. It's too late. That man can find better and younger. You're used up like a dish rag.

[@pontiac00]

That's what you sinlge toxic blackwomen RASIED BY YOURSELVES, THE POOKIE AND RAY-RAY,

[@emperorcesar8208]

How come pookies gets the highest baby mamas?. Women start saying they don’t need pookie and ray ray when they already hit the wall reality sets in. But during their prime they love the Tyrone pookies. They say handsome educated successful gentlemen were Boring and lame.

[@MyNameIsUnavailable]

@Emperor Cesar They can HAVE all the baby mamas. We want the wives.

[@hardlessons9732]

I dated a young black woman before. She was nice but has some uneasy characteristics. Met her single mom and I felt like history will repeat it’s self. I had to part ways.

[@rattales58]

You smart

[@leighm]

History does have a funny way of repeating itself. It’s so easy to do and accept what we know and what we’ve been taught. Same with parenting. Unless she was willing to unlearn what she was conditioned to believe and unless she openly denounced her and her mother’s behavior, and instead sought out mother figures more aligned with a vision you could see for yourself, it was most certainly best, to part ways with the young lady. Smart man

[@wiseoldcatfromdallas.4078]

You want to know about a woman, met her mother the fruit doesn't fall far from the tree 🎄👍

[@jayclearmen411]

@@wiseoldcatfromdallas.4078 facts this brother dodged a bullet! 3 quickest ways to find a women’s true character! 1.)watch what she does when she doesn’t get her way & she get really mad? 2.) peep how her mother looks and how she moves..and how she treats her father👀 be on the look out gentleman..Vet vet Vet!!

[@jroc2k]

Best decision ever

[@sulaimaanahmad]

this young woman gives good advice, unfortunately...99.99% of women don't listen anyway. 🙄

[@pontiac00]

Correction, blackwomen that don't listen

[@sulaimaanahmad]

@@pontiac00 vrai déclaration mon frère...true statement. 😜👍🏽

[@Shelto220]

@@pontiac00 is there any other kind of BW??

[@pontiac00]

@@Shelto220 modern

[@jldub23]

F A C T S !!!!!!!!

[@nickolasallen7734]

I actually have had the experience of holding a door open for a black woman, who rolled her eyes at me during and didn’t say thank you. I guess she assumed I was going to try and hit on her, but I was just being courteous. I hold the door open for women, and men. I’m not trying to holler at you.

[@theerealatm]

They think everybody tryna Holla. I just stop talking to BW en masse cause they head so far up they 🍑. Men aren't respected until they are needed.

[@afrikehigie]

I am only a gentleman to women who I know are worthy of it.

[@butterscotchlolly3744]

No more holding doors for American women. You just hold the door for your bros. Those days are over since they want to be strong and independent.

[@ladyproverbs]

Great!! Chivalry isn't dead!!

[@ljmorris6496]

I'm a guy, me personally where I live at I don't hold open doors for men an vice versa (unless you have an objects in your hands) because of too many LGBT individuals think it's a "pass", I've stopped opening doors for "modern women" also.

[@EELLISON2012]

There is nothing wrong with a woman focusing on her education, but the disrespect that they show toward blackmen and the "I don't need a man statements," attitudes, and outrageous standards are ridiculous.

[@wearejudah3473]

No intelligent man wants to take on her debt. And all her living expenses. And have to deal with a disagreeable woman at home and a step child causing chaos at home. No thanks✈️✈️✈️

[@joemomma3208]

the blind shall lead the blind and they both shall fall into the pit

[@freddy8479]

💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥

[@danielanderson8322]

What *Ms. Strong & Independent* fails to understand is that in striving to never need a man, man is still the center of her life

[@serene1275]

Agree but what *Ms. Strong & Independent* fails is they're really weak because they followed that beehives mentality without thinking for themselves. The real sistas who needed a man and have one are the true *Ms. Strong & Independent* ladies. Behind every happy and successful man is a lady who is not manly and ignorant.

[@MetaLavish]

Bingo! It's all they talk about

[@sonofgodNIV]

Woah 🤯

[@Asneeded]

I’m 58 and Unfortunately, I was taught that, and most unfortunately taught my daughters the same, but have since told my daughter that I taught her that incorrectly and I am not teaching my two granddaughters that. Thank God for Grace, growth and prayer to break generational curses!!

[@allanluis3696]

thanks for admitting that. God bless.

[@lineangelmangao8466]

👏👏👏👍👍 You should consider doing seminars about "Healing Through Honesty & Self Awareness."

[@Asneeded]

@@lineangelmangao8466 Thank you. One day.

[@MyNameIsUnavailable]

Thank you for your honesty, AND for trying to make it right. Grace.

[@yvonneglass2566]

My mother said to me get an education and be independent but don’t be so independent that you don’t let a man be a man.❤️❤️❤️

[@alwaysblack2436]

And, to the point where a bm would want to choose you. It's really the "interdependence" of the bw that gets the job done.

[@MyNameIsUnavailable]

Tru, Yvonne. Its the meet in the middle

[@MyNameIsUnavailable]

Holla at me, Yvonne 😘 💯 👑

[@commanderbracey7501]

It's hard to protect people who are actively trying to stab you in the back. Forget them.........do you. 😑

[@commanderbracey7501]

@@PrinceInawRakah its a cartoon ninja.......this relationship is over. 🤣🤣🤣

[@mrcassonova1]

Ain't mad at the guys with their white wives

[@harryfaber1971]

@@PrinceInawRakah this is not a cartoon, this is real life, people with common sense think for themselves

[@harryfaber1971]

@@PrinceInawRakah oh yeah STFU too ! Because that analogy was useless and dumb!

[@azatchwanto5785]

I just had this conversation with my husband. I will never understand the "I don't need a man mindset".

[@djkut]

Any woman that stands strong on that philosophy and wont change, just step back and let them fend for themselves. Let the Pookies and Ray-Rays or Myron type simps, fill that void!

[@jenningsslayer314]

Who/what is Myron?

[@RillaLord32212]

💯💯💯💯💯

[@rattales58]

Yep let reality handle her

[@leonidas0242]

@@jenningsslayer314 fit from fresh and fit

[@djkut]

@@leonidas0242 Yes him too sister!

[@Diana734]

They did not want them to deal with cheating, financial, or domestic abuse. They should have been teaching young women to pursue careers and find a good man.🙄😮‍💨

[@joemomma3208]

They most likely didn’t have a man & misery loves company!

[@laurenclark1990]

Thank you for the beauty of looking deeper and understanding the humanity of your womenfolk. 🌼 🌸 🌻 🌹 🏵 🌼 🌸 🌻

[@joemomma3208]

@@q.t.gamingfamily Willie L thinking is in full effect nowadays

[@popsmokeandghost2416]

@@q.t.gamingfamily A hit dog will holler.😎👍🏿

[@bobbyjefferson1973]

@@popsmokeandghost2416 Why is that avoided? Some women have been mistreated thats why they hop on that I don't need a man train. Its not hard to figure out its not rocket science.

[@commanderbracey7501]

Bullseye 🎯

[@aeron304]

She is so right. As an older blk woman, I see it in these young women.

[@tonyat5470]

Tha t s bc the older women sometimes teach them that

[@charlesdorsey7594]

A brother told me he held the door open for a bw. She walked thru and said, "PERIODT!" and didn't say thank you.. I'm thru!!!

[@415folife9]

Protect this Sista at all cost !!

[@msharlem2296]

@@PrinceInawRakah yes they are paid to it's called propaganda!

[@415folife9]

@@PrinceInawRakah yea dat !!

[@renegrace3158]

Why can’t a black woman have both an education plus a husband? After all neither one is guaranteed for success or failure.

[@bobbyjefferson1973]

Those 3rd world poverty women are going to get their green card when they come to the USA and do the same thing and go get a degree.

[@ladyd6375]

Bm don't want bw to have nothing but they dusty self

[@allanluis3696]

yea. why dont they find a husband...when they are around the most upwardly mobile black men?

[@ladyd6375]

@@allanluis3696 let's be honest most bm are only in college to play sports and most of them would even be able to get out of elementary school

[@allanluis3696]

@@ladyd6375 hahahahahahaha....ma'am. Only a very small minority of black men are athletes on scholarship in university. No ma'am, those were the only men you were checking for. The internet is your friend, what you said is pure ignorance. You are talking to a black man with multiple degrees. No ma'am.

[@CosmicPaletteBookClub]

She is so right!!! Most of us blk women heard that growing up definitely!!! Very true

[@For35too45min]

👏👊🏿👏👊🏿👏

[@survivingwhitezaddy2.5]

"All the ladies Independent' throw your hands up at meeh" 🎵 🎶 Beyonce.

[@serene1275]

@Paul Lunsford They're rude and the daughter obviously followed in her mother's footsteps.

[@proimagerah]

@Paul Lunsford same here man. Hollis by the Popeyes. And they’re all so rude over here. Some of the worst sistas I’ve seen

[@hawkwatch7052]

​@@iamlegend5190 your argument seems contradictive, you say on one hand you're tired of these channels talking about bw instead what bm need to be doing to make the community better, and then you say you were raised by a single bm?? Sounds like you have your answer to what bm should be doing when you reflect on your father. Besides, bw have never been made to take accountability for their family destroying behavior, and thanks to the internet that's happening. BM are doing what they need to do to better the community but the modern bw is mess of a creature, but you don't have to believe me... just think about your single dad raising 5 kids on his own

[@dedication666]

They've been well trained mules for WS.

[@freddy8479]

AND WHITE FEMINISM!!!!!

[@Mankind-ik4ie]

Facts

[@Mankind-ik4ie]

Everybody wanna feel loved

[@craigwilliams1897]

The Most High said it would come to pass and here we are our people are going to learn the easy way or the hard way . All Praises to The Most High ☝🏾❤️

[@Maxwellpenn]

This sister is 100% on point. I’m most definitely going to South Africa too!

[@kenneycooper6199]

I have an iPhone and I know keeping the light on will run your battery down a little quicker. I told a black woman while I was ordering some breakfast to go at Waffle House, I told her that she left her light on. Simple. Oh the attitude I got as if I was wrong for even saying anything to her. I open the door and wait for black and white women as they are walking in or out a store or something. I get the attitude from the black women and they don’t say thank you, they say “excuse me” with attitude. It’s a shame but it is what it is.

[@listentoauntrobin9617]

BM hold doors open for me all the time and I say thank you, all the time.

[@SolitudeofaTiger]

You’d be surprised how many look at us with disgust these days.

[@listentoauntrobin9617]

@@SolitudeofaTiger sorry there are those that don’t appreciate BM all the time.

[@honestinspiration]

College = degree for black women College = engagement for white women Career="I don't need a man" for black women Career= Let me help my husband grow his business for white women

[@dman221]

Bingo!!! Home Life for White Women: Kids wait until your dad get home. Home Life for Black Women: Kids wait until I get home.

[@sbolden123]

I love this comment

[@TriRacialAmericana]

Because them white folks obviously got it together enough to make things work, unlike the folks in our community

[@elle535]

I agree with the college statement. For decades black women have been encouraged to get a college degree in order to get a good job while white women have been encouraged to go to college to find a husband. I think a lot of the older black women teach the younger generation of women to not "depend" on a man for finances and to have their own which some people interpret that to mean not needing a man at all. I have seen a few times where women have been loyal housewives who helped grow their husband's business into a success and 15-20 years down the road get traded in for a younger model and left with crumbs.

[@ladyd6375]

Ww not helping they men fool wm have all the wealth in this country with that being said ww don't have to work bw do most of these bm have no wealth most of the black wealth is in the baby boomers

[@koolshaker7615]

They treat you worst after you help them 👀

[@ateezyrozaytv1]

Old BW keep Young BW Single! Happens Everyday

[@kelvinholmes5348]

Black women, when you call the police, your brother, your husband, your boyfriend, the child support judge, the principal,at your school, your boss man, your uncle, your son, the cable guy, the mechanic, the handy man, the president of the United States, you’re calling all men and not women so now you see you do need a man, the same road you driving on, a man paved that road, the house you live in, a man built that house, the building you work in , a man built it, the electricity that flows through your house , a man made that connection, the baby you gave birth to, a man planted that seed, shall I go further because I can so stop having a false sense of power and grow up!

[@1CHOZN7]

They're delusional and too far gone fam!

[@For35too45min]

🧢💥💥🔥👏👏👏

[@vegannn7178]

You do realize all those things you listed women also work in those fields

[@canadianbrotv1303]

@@vegannn7178 And who taught them the skills to work in those fields

[@idomalion6167]

This proves this problem isn't new but from the older generation. So this is a BW issue and not the men.

[@TriRacialAmericana]

Of course it has to do with the men. There are always factors to a problem. It’s never just one thing it’s never just one-sided. BM for the most part Have been dysfunctional for the past few decades, which are proven by the unemployment and prison numbers and this is why some of these sisters find y’all so unreliable that they pass on This advice about being able to take care of yourself, to the younger generation.

[@losangelesmade1551]

It’s dude like u throat mess up brothers with legitimate grips we ALL have to face accountability a black woman is not isolated. I’m a FBA man and I know for a fact we have to do better as men to our family and children same goes for black women. Stop embarrassing us sounding like little boy running from accountability. Some of y’all got some real bitter feelings towards our women and it shows.

[@speeeddial]

@@TriRacialAmericana you can’t shift blame on black men because you are part of the family structure. You women do that all the time. I see no change in you all. Ya’ll choose your mates and raise black boys, but blame the men you raise in environments you put them in. BW embrace single motherhood more than anybody else, and have a lot to say when they make poor choices in men.

[@guccimane5659]

It’s not, zaddy planted that seed in BW heads with the feminism bs it was done to break up the black families along with incentivizing them to leave as well and women were used as the tool . So it is the woman’s fault .

[@guccimane5659]

@@6feet6figures !!

[@jcthegreat80]

let's pray for all the homeless bw all over Atlanta who's feeling lonely and are miserable because bm are not approaching them especially the old ones. when their young they chase the bag and treat bm like trash now they gotta face judgement. GOD IS ALWAYS WATCHING

[@j.daniels1548]

Amen 🙏🏾

[@Zoloft77]

By their fruits, you Shall know them. So true.

[@3poms28]

I've seen plenty of example testimonial stories like that on the Atlanta street interviews channel. So many sad unfortunate stories of how they became homeless, it's crazy smdh!!

[@laurenclark1990]

Let's pray for yourself that you will accept truth and stop lying. Black American women stayed with you when you had nothing. This conversation has already been had. 🌼 🌸 🌻 🌹 🏵 🌼 🌸 🌻 🌹 🏵 🌼 🌸 🌻 🌹 🏵

[@laurenclark1990]

Who is "they," Sir? 🌼 🌸 🌻 🌹 🏵 🌼 🌸 🌻 🌹 🏵 🌼 🌸 🌻 🌹 🏵

[@happyme2989]

The very reason why I AM MY OWN BOSS🎯! I've NEVERRRR been the type to take advice from any female including my mom(even though she never gave me that advice)! I love my hubby 💕 I cant imagine life without him we're best friend! He make my life easy and I make his as wel,l he's spoiled so am I. GOD created Adam and Eve for a reason 🙏 🙌 it's a beautiful thing when you're spiritual connected to a person. Our love shows so naturally that strangers be like y'all in love 🥰 or yall powerful together..

[@mary14892]

You know what I have been watching this show for 2months now and you finally gave me the correct topic to pray on. I will begin to pray on generational curses to be broken from blk women. I will pray they seek God's help toward a proper spouse. Sexual purity will also be on my list to pray for these young women.

[@esthernichols4451]

Agreed. I see it too. And I feel compelled to pray about these things too. Blessings to you!!

[@sbolden123]

Women, you do need a man for guidance, protection, love, 😘 and family.💯

[@msharlem2296]

Do you hear these men in this comment section [so easily lead by propaganda] that they are trashing bw all across social media? LoL yea good luck with that

[@redmann4523]

Unfortunately they not going to listen...

[@richgunning8311]

The dysfunctional shatter the black family single-mother mindset runs pretty deep in the Caribbean too Phil.............

[@krislegends]

One could argue that the problem is worse in the Caribbean community, with only 16% of Jamaican children born in wedlock.

[@kingjamesmayo8232]

Well Said Phil 💯

[@deeringkendrick8388]

Phil can get so animated, He cracks me up with the voice inflections and hand gestures.

[@4theloveofDD]

🤣

[@yahsharahla144k]

PROVERBS 9:13 A FOOLISH WOMAN IS CLAMOROUS:SHE IS SIMPLE AND KNOWETH NOTHING.

[@sharenahartley649]

We are not foolish we are tired of being hurt I have not had one black man to look me in my eye and tell me what color they are it’s always my body my ass my boobs and my thighs

[@ServantOfYah12]

Ezekiel 16:44 "44 Behold, every one that useth proverbs shall use this proverb against thee, saying, As is the mother, so is her daughter." B-Women get their negative opinions about B-men from mama starting at childhood.

[@sidneywilder2731]

@@sharenahartley649 girl gone somewhere

[@ASIA592]

@@sharenahartley649 how about you turn into a Godly woman I pray and ask God to help you with certain situations

[@RickHTown]

I damn near stood up and applauded my damn self. When she said how can a black man protect a black woman when nothing we do is EVER APPRECIATED 😢

[@arlingtoncooke6570]

Bro Phil....I stopped opening doors & ect. because women have this attitude!

[@tekoaisrael8741]

The older black women tell them so they can make the same mistakes they made and be lonely, and hateful towards black men

[@theimportantthingsthatreal9842]

Brother Phil, most of these blk women are in soooo much debt listening to older Blk women giving them bad advise. I had just spoke about this, I had talked with a woman who I had estimated was in about $200,000 of debt from student loans. And she was thinking about going to law school which would have added another $100,000 on top of the $200,000 that she already owes. I think that a lot of older women are doing this on purpose to make sure that their daughters are their retirement plan for all of the many bad decisions that they have made. Many of the older women are in a great deal of debt.

[@sharonsmith4245]

And most of the Men are under employed, unskilled, uneducated, and on child support. Debt is Debt....

[@tankcoatpink]

You know what crazy women in my gen z are exactly what she is talking about. Imma head out.

[@frankjames6232]

Misery loves company :

[@calebhenderson6507]

We blame this new generation. But this has been decades in the making. By design most importantly

[@jdcaldwell5088]

Blacks Americans women who say I DONT NEED A BLACK MAN. But then complaining why are blacks men are going elsewhere for love.

[@keepingitrealandtruthful.5081]

Brother Phil has said a mouthful here.💯

[@jjdieselcowboytraveler79sm71]

God Almighty hears the humble and resist the proud. These haughty lawless bws are finding this the hard way. Isaiah 3:16-26 is definitely coming to pass before our very eyes and it's getting bad out there. No kidding.

[@For35too45min]

“BW’S hate instruction ☠️

[@sharonsmith4245]

Yes it is and whatever is happening is more of the Man's fault. GOD put him in charge and he did a poor job of being the Head. He failed to Protect, Provide, and Procreate and even worse he fails to see his fault in all that is wrong. He only continues to blame the women as always.

[@dalebrown6148]

How that old saying goes... a hit dog will holler. And these modern women are hollering.

[@marquishoward3529]

Of course, because the truth hurts

[@Kiki-ko1cr]

Yeah, the old heads pushed that hard and plus growing up and seeing DV in the family did not help either! I don’t boast about being independent. I’m surviving without a man but it would be easier if I had a great partner in life.

[@omarihoward8168]

And all of these BW she's talking about, when confronted by a WM, for ANY reason, will become all smiles and cordiality. It is EXTREMELY SICKENING to witness.

[@mishamandudi75]

This is sad. The beauty shop, family gatherings, church, etc... It is sad.

[@MoeFro78]

She's so truthful. She made Me smile like Madden with The Lombardi Trophy 😏😎👍🏿

[@TCSoFresh]

That’s why I don’t blame women these days for saying that they don’t need a man. They were taught the wrong values from young.

[@doclew28]

Sooooooo... what are they gonna do at retirement age?? WHere are they gonna live?? How are they gonna pay for their bills and mortgages??? They crow about buying all these houses on their own... But without two incomes and two retirements... how are they gonna get thru paying for it??? They think short term and dont even bother to fllesh this whole life thing out to completion... Sheesh... SMMFH

[@bulbulwaberi446]

She is right if i can't use you i don't need you businesses as usual

[@msharlem2296]

That is that gen X talk - bc I wasn't taught that and I never taught it! I was told no man wants no nasty dirty woman [and that was to get me to clean my room] -- that was a "mindset that was passed down stop with that generational curse. Im a young boomer ret nurse! stop the generational division!

[@ebernationtro9489]

Titus 2:3 - The AGED WOMEN likewise, that they be in behavior as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, TEACHERS OF GOOD THINGS. Titus 2:4 - That they may TEACH the YOUNG WOMEN to be SOBER, to LOVE THEIR HUSBANDS, to LOVE THEIR CHILDREN.

[@MoeFro78]

💯🔥

[@For35too45min]

“Shonuff💼

[@canadianbrotv1303]

That bible be spitting gems

[@ebernationtro9489]

@@canadianbrotv1303 Definitely! Most people thinks the bible is a fairytale, but in fact, it's our instructions manual!

[@donzacole]

South Africa!!! Here we come!!!

[@angelozue7925]

That’s why as an African guy in Houston I was so shocked to see so many black American women being lesbians and so mean, their attitude just turned me off, it’s so preposterous.

[@charlesdorsey7594]

The waves of brothers that are snowballing this movement is frightening!!!!! This is more than a fad, it a movement etched in stone!!!!!

[@MoneybagJimmy]

I like her. Smart young lady

[@williamphillips5474]

That's right... a woman should only want a man...and not need a man....That is the woman for me....

[@Nightrain349]

Too late to fixed it now 🌏✌️

[@mommieberryofficial2698]

Some of that is true but not all of it and she’s young and obviously the women she grew up around got her all messed up. My husband still open doors for me almost 35 years later

[@1CHOZN7]

You're talking about your husband. She's talking about what she's been taught by yall older black women. 2 totally different things. So what part she's saying isn't true?!

[@lineangelmangao8466]

@@1CHOZN7 👏👏💯👏💯 !!!

[@mommieberryofficial2698]

@@1CHOZN7 y’all older black women? Really is that the best you can come with. Nah my brother it’s what y’all men teach these young women so take responsibility for your actions

[@riofacts8283]

What this young lady is saying is like what young love is and nobody believes it. TRUE

[@johnduren6476]

Appreciate this sister speaking 🔊 the truth about the generational curse among our people. Everything she said was true 💯🎯

[@ljmorris6496]

"The WW no different" tell me about it, they'll even talk to you more disrespectful then they do with they own men if they in a relationship with you. Spot on video Phil about BWs attitude today.

[@RTA6226]

Oh my GOD! WHERE was I during the 80's? I swear, I LOVE male chivalry! I guess I was just busy with my life. I don't even know women in my family (except one) that act out like that.

[@mmmsunshine5367]

I just heard the Caribbean mentioned 😂🤣....the Trini and Jamaican women that I know (immediate family) can be HARD to tell them ANYTHING.....I often feel bad for their spouses...

[@sbolden123]

It's okay to get a higher education but please 🙏 make sure that it pays for itself and you enjoy it as well 🙂

[@theironhorse8227]

" Get my Daughter this College Plan/ So she don't /Need No Man." - Biggie

[@timjhonson3792]

That's fine with me that's why brothers are reaching out and marrying other women of different races you want to keep acting that way keepyou're bornThat's fine with me that's why brothers are reaching out and marrying other women of different races you want to keep acting that way That is totally on you we're not the ones that's gonna grow old by ourselves it will be you

[@losangelesmade1551]

And how does that solve the problem in our communities? Lol u dude will cut off your arm to smite your foot. No nation on this planet can be successful without their men and women together on one accord. Mixed kids leaning towards white supremacy is not the answer. We got in house issues we need to fix and I’m cool with fixing them.

[@VlogginTherapy]

You are regardless because your divorce rates are high

[@FemininePhenom]

Thanks for sharing my video‼️‼️‼️

[@quantumsolace5864]

PHIL; THAT NEW MIC IS ON FLEEK BROTHA!! REAL CRISPY!

[@blackurbangoddess]

Yes it took me years to break away from it but I was actively taught this by BOTH women and men. Nobody hardly wants to talk about the fathers uncles grandfathers brothers who preached this as well especially during the 80s and 90s. I don’t agree with that advice though.

[@SolitudeofaTiger]

But the topic is about bw doing it. Way to deflect.

[@rob1859]

God Bless the woman that can see a brother as a human being, a good soul, respectable intentions., when exiled in Babylon is his ONLY downfall... 🙏🏿🙏🏿

[@Christina-rb8vk]

I need a man and I have one! I LOVE my man! Thank God for man!!

[@sharonsmith4245]

You're fortunate....there aren't many that fit in the category of Good Men. I'm happy for you.

[@queentinadoire6931]

I am happy for you. Every woman needs a good husband. This is how God designed it from the beginning. 🛐

[@wesleyhillard4491]

I am a Police Ofc. I was working downtown near the clubs on the weekend. I saw that a young lady left her trunk ajar. I ask her while she and her female friend were walking away. Did you leave your trunk unlocked? They looked at each other and said "no." So I left them alone and they walked away. They eventually returned to the car and noticed the trunk. The driver went to the back of the car and closed it I was still in the area. I then said you're welcome, because they said nothing. Go figure.

[@sactwnrob]

Nothing has changed. It’s been like that when I was in high school so I never dated high school.

[@timjhonson3792]

Is the more that they go against the natural order of God the worst is gonna get for them They better wake up and wake up fast and get on their hands and knees and beg God for forgiveness

[@Campaign-gx8ty]

This phrase is way out of context. Having self reliance is a skill all women need. Why? In case of the death of a spouse, incapacitated spouse, or unemployed spouse. Imagine “needing” a man and for unforeseen reasons, he’s not there. This is why a woman needs skills or education on her own. Common sense, Phil. Seriously.

[@therevelator6554]

It's not just a generational curse--it has been a multi-generational curse that will continue to be passed down. It's just too late for many modern Black women. For those ladies that are truly looking for responsible Black men, the only thing I can suggest to you is to stop listening to the sisterhood and save yourselves...but time is running out on you. It actually may have already run out.

[@blaqken7726]

It is what it is now

[@sidneywilder2731]

It really is, bm know bw

[@joecool9521]

She said a mouthful,and she makes sense. Don't hate on her because she's being honest!

[@CollegeBoyDeon]

She’s talking facts!! 💯

[@michaelbrinkley9323]

I agree with the things she has said. And I will Add this. I have to fight an entire Civilization. I don't want to have to Fight black women too.

[@jonny_gage]

I'm not protecting anyone who act like that toxic bullshit!

[@tearahhall820]

Nickolas Allen please except my Thank You for opening and holding the door. I Appreciate you.

[@ballerz1]

Protect?? We are not putting our life on the line for them. They will continue on and the men would dead or in jail. Let them take that L. Use that strong and independent mindset to protect you.

[@sharonsmith4245]

Yeah and we protect yall too!

[@jamescoward110]

A generational curse. Passed down by black, democrat single mothers.

[@Jimaction1]

B1ack women should never listen to any SPINSTERS! Look carefully at those women and examine their lives; then ask yourself, "Will this advice benefit me?"

[@brandonhanner5525]

Some black fathers teach their daughters this too. Let's keep it real!

[@carl5438]

Well, some of us were misled as well.

[@ernestwicks1466]

Hey Phillip, I'm 69 years old man, I grew up with both my mother and father in the house, but my father was in and out of the house. He had a full-time job but, when he got paid, he would disappear for days. sometimes there was no food in the house, and at times our light and gas were cut off and this was Wisconsin. My uncles (not all) were the same way. The older men that I grew up around wanted to be pimps. There is an old song I can't remember the group or the title but there is a lyric that says "Let the women take care of you" That is where not needing a man started, it was survival. But these old eyes see a change in some of the young men today for the better. Some of the young women haven't caught up yet but they're coming.

[@natepolitics1490]

That's just your dad and uncles. You think your mom was perfect? That might not even be your real dad.

[@TriRacialAmericana]

Exactly. They say that accountability is like kryptonite to BW and the BW are delusional but here they are doing the very same thing they accuse BW of…the cognitive dissonance is through the roof. I can accept what they say about BW today being masculine but they refuse to accept that a lot of these brothers were trash back in the days and this is why these older sisters give these younger sisters that advice.

[@rondellittle3679]

We're never going to be able to fix this deep hatred we have for each other even when we try discourse it just gets worse at this point we might as well just agree to leave each other alone and focus on self because as the community were too far gone and to be honest topics like this aren't even relevant because that was the past and we don't even have time for fights like this we should be trying to build Financial structure forget about what was told and what happened we got to focus on where we're going but hey my family is well taken care of so I don't even care

[@dwayne4467]

Most of those women's attitudes about not needing a man, came from black women latching onto that feminist movement that started in the late sixties. Prior to that black women stood side by side with the black man. Now it seems like half of them want a white man.

[@johnjohnrice585]

@@TriRacialAmericana you’re taking an anecdote and applying it to all black men, the reason why these older woman are saying that is because they drank the feminist Kool-Aid served by Gloria Steinheim

[@MichaelJohnson-ss7qf]

I can see why a lot of BW say that because they done dealt with so many Pookie and Ray Rays throughout their life that they don’t think any BM can be a suitable husband

[@TriRacialAmericana]

Not every brother they messed around was a Pookie and Ray Ray. Many of them were regular guys who had a job at a warehouse who still were abusive or chronically, unfaithful, etc.. when you try to only blame one side, it shows your bias and you lose all credibility. Both men and women are to blame for the deep dysfunction in the BC.

[@pow2678]

@@TriRacialAmericana sound like a pookie n rayray to me

[@sharonsmith4245]

And believe it or not Pookie and Ray-Ray are a directt result of BM not being examples or protectors of our communities. But again that's BW's fault. Wow we women are extremely powerful to have the ability to make the so called Heads and Leaders abandon their post. There is more than enough blame to go around.....stop making Women the entire problem as well as the solution.

[@pow2678]

@@sharonsmith4245 That's the issue you think we making it all women's fault. The issue is the blame has always been on the man for not being in the home but we just trying to get women to accept their accountability as well. You cant lead and be the head of someone that don't want to follow

[@sirblack1619]

I have been on this planet for 40yrs and I do not remember a time that I have not heard black females say they don't need a man for ish. They have always s**ted on black men. When I look at my half sisters who are in their mid to late 60's. They are divorced and struggling. One has a PhD and she is nervous that she did not save enough for retirement. Men have tried to talk to her, but she has the nerve to be picky. And the holding the door I will not do anymore. I had an Asian female that looked at me dirty when I held the door for her.

[@my2centz728]

And those older BW probably had kids, which required a man.

[@Lee85G]

Beautiful Words From A Beautiful Sister. Much ❤️.

[@KrisIsHere4040]

Also blame the entertainment industry. They took that rhetoric and made a billion dollar industry with it