How Punjab women get into 'contract marriages' for foreign education, later abandon their husbands

After getting funding for their studies via contract marriages, women of Punjab are abandoning their husbands. Husbands are left with few legal options.
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[@vinr9105]

As an Indo-Canadian I cannot understand this fascination of punjabis wanting to live in canada. Most of them are suffering with lack of jobs and unable to speak the language ( English or French) properly . Immigrants who do manage to find a job stays in their bubble, eats only Punjabi food and does not adapt well to the new setting. A lot of crimes committed in Brampton area are by young Punjabi men. Shameful for the entire Indian diaspora there. Sorry, if you do want to move to another country please adapt and understand the ethos of that society. Stop locking up girls , educate everyone and be a law abiding citizen.

[@MaTara01]

Kudos to you for telling the truth! Going to Canada, Australia and New Zealand (USA, UK and Europe are difficult to get into) is a disease that the Punjab has got and the average price that people are willing to pay to go abroad is around Rs 50 lakhs. Imagine if they invest that money in India for some business how much they would be earning? Instead they go to a freezing country, do menial jobs, live with 20 people in a 2 rooms, live in their ghettos, are exploited miserably by their own community people to become bonded labour, drug peddlers, money launderers etc, don't visit home for ages and never talk to a white Canadian!

[@KaKA-mt2ei]

Indian Canadian? Nobody cares, you could just have said what you were saying with the pointless mentions. You say it as you feel it elevates you above Indians in India , del hater

[@sidsid9808]

One of the so called ethos is being sexually active before marriage and having bastard kids. Perhaps that's acceptable to you if your son or daughter does that?

[@ripmc5996]

Yea same thing by all indian. Haryana,gujarat,kerala,up,uk,mp all Indians are same in canada

[@vinr9105]

Not true. No other communities are involved in crime, prostitution and bad behaviours like Punjabi community. Just follow the news about car thefts, assaults etc. other communities are at least making an attempt to integrate

[@RY-xk7wp]

Finally somebody is willing to report news where men are victimised.

[@clashoflands]

And u totally forgot about women, this trend against men has Started only resently but women have been facing same problems since 90s.

[@RY-xk7wp]

@@clashoflands I didn't forget about them. But their victimisation has been reported and condemned, rightly so. Men's victimisation is often ignored these days, ir worse justified. How many films, web series are there, where a woman's wrongdoing is justified. Check for yourself.

[@shankargopalakrishnan1478]

National commission for men and idiots

[@RY-xk7wp]

@@shankargopalakrishnan1478 why get so offended because I'm appreciating a news report without gender bias. Because this bias is found very often in news channels. A crime should be condemned regardless of gender of criminal or victim.

[@samridhidas8986]

@@RY-xk7wp the Lucknow girl got so much attention whereas the same day a woman was killed by her husband in public in Delhi because she wanted to do a job it didn't even receive half of the attention. And no number of movies have made Indian women's lives better. There are more item songs, patriarchal movies than those so called "feminist" movies

[@mrumbrella9961]

Never enter into a contract with someone who is rewarded for breaking it.

[@dotproduct763]

pretty much!

[@radhikapatil1986]

True

[@anujgautam1395]

Best advice ever 🤣👍👍

[@findinglela]

Yes

[@taxicamel]

Here we go again with CHEATING EAST INDIANS who not only CHEAT when they are in Canada for years, but also figure out how to CHEAT to get other EAST INDIANS into Canada faster ....using fake documents rather than gain entry with proper documents. Canada is now full of CHEATING EAST INDIANS who don't care about CANADA ....don't care about CANADIANS ....and don't care about any CANADIAN LAWS OR RULES. Most recently, in British Columbia, the "trucking" industry has several companies that are owned by EAST INDIANS. "Driving" a truck is NOT an occupation that requires ANY education OR intelligence. So long as a person knows how to start a truck, fuel it, and drive it on a roadway, these trucking companies will hire ANYONE. Over the period of several years recently, there have been more collisions with bridges/overpasses by trucks that have had loads HIGHER than the HEIGHT CLEARANCES CLEARLY SHOWN ON EACH BRIDGE/OVERPASS. Prior to 2015, a trucking load hitting a bridge/overpass had fundamentally never been hear of before. In the past TWO YEARS, there have been a couple of dozen "bridge collisions" by ONE TRUCKING COMPANY OWNED BY CHOHAL TRUCKING.....AN EAST INDIAN OWNED TRUCKING COMPANY. The B.C. provincial government finally decided to suspend the B.C. company because this CHOHAL company did not appear to care about this record of collisions which was costing the B.C. taxpayers a lot of money in performing the repairs. Then this CHOHAL company brought in trucks from Alberta. The son of the father, CHOHAL, runs the "ALBERTA DIVISION" OF CHOHAL TRUCKING, AND THE ALBERTA DIVISION WAS NOT SUSPENDED ......SO THESE CHEATING EAST INDIANS DECIDED TO USE THEIR ALBERTA TRUCKS!!!! THAT'S WHAT YOU CALL CHEATING ......AND IT GIVES THE ENTIRE EAST INDIAN CULTURE THAT LABEL ......CHEATERS. I won't bother explaining both the gangland shootings in the EAST INDIAN CULTURE THAT HAS EAST INDIANS SHOOTING AND KILLING EAST INDIANS IN BROAD DAYLIGHT IN POPULACE AREAS .........NOR WILL I GO INTO AN EXPLANATION OF EAST INDIANS ....IN INDIA .....NOW EXTORTING EAST INDIAN BUSINESS OWNERS IN EASTERN AND WESTERN CANADA. SO IT APPEARS THIS IS THE EAST INDIAN CULTURE THAT IS NOW PRESENT IN CANADA, WHO IGNORE THE LAWS OF CANADA, PROMOTE ILLEGAL DRUGS IN CANADA, AND THREATEN BUSINESSES IN CANADA. MAYBE IT IS TIME TO CONSIDER DEPORTING ALL EAST INDIANS WHO HAVE COME TO CANADA IN THE LAST TEN YEARS .....OR LONGER. CHEATING CAN NOW BE EXPECTED ANY TIME A PERSON IS DEALING WITH AN EAST INDIAN. MIGHT AS WELL ADD FRAUD AND CORRUPTION. .

[@srini8701]

The Print is never shy to do investigative journalism on topics that are not covered by the mainstream media. Also, the reporting is without any sensationalism. Way to Go!

[@akshaychilwal7003]

Covered by Sudhir Chaudhary 6 months back. kzbin.info/www/bejne/jWq4fYxjmaaKbsk That too with pie charts, ground analysis, numbers, and graphs. Completely fact-based.

[@mastrammeena328]

Lol how is this an investigative journalism Kuch bhi likhdo English mtlb sb shi lagega logo ko

[@ultimateabhi]

hey Srini. nice to see you here!

[@Kathakathan11]

Yes but not the only one who report this. But good that they don’t sensationalise

[@Kathakathan11]

@@mastrammeena328 yes this isn’t investigative journalism, just reporting

[@amanbajwa233]

I have literally heard this from a distant relative, they wanted to send their daughter to canada but didn’t wanna spend any money on her, so instead they were looking for a wealthy guy to marry her off with and take care of all her expenses. Similarly guys from wealthy families who are not the brightest and cant speak proper english look for a smart girl and pay her tuition and visa expenses hoping she’ll take them to canada in a year or so. Even though they are real marriages with their families involved and everything, how do you expect a marriage like this to last when it’s essentially more like a business deal? Keeping in mind people grow and change very fast when they move abroad. You wont be the person you were in india after 6 months of living in canada. Many relationships fail when one of the partner moves to another country because of how they’ve changed as a person. So how can you trust that your spouse from an arranged marriage will be there for you after a year?

[@JMian]

Wow that’s insightful

[@vigneshiyer1944]

That girl would be washing dishes in some Indian restaurant. She no only bears the guilt of this man's death, but her broken conscience.

[@harmanpreetkaur1850]

Well said.

[@moviesfan5513]

The first questions in arrange marriage is salary, bonus, house l, car. Indian society is scummy at best.

[@Reason_And_Feminism]

The most sensible comment.

[@tonikpun9955]

Try not to enter into a contract marriage in the first place. If you are not confident about scoring an acceptable band in the IELTS test, or any other type of language proficiency test for that matter, then take your time and do the studying. Embrace perseverance and stay patient. Do not let desperation grow into you.

[@bobbyben6134]

This Indian woman will cheat on you

[@tonikpun9955]

@@bobbyben6134 cheating comes from both sides. It's just that men have low immunity against such mishaps as compared to women.

[@ashker4057]

It is pathetic as well. Earn your living people. Don't cheat.

[@wrendum286]

@@tonikpun9955 what?

[@sunway1374]

Easy for you to say. Cheating in exams and applying for something is common and secretly accepted in some cultures.

[@sivakrishnab8722]

This seems more like a business deal rather than a marriage.

[@anuragchakraborty8766]

F marriage

[@Subh8081]

This is going on for a long time. When I was in Canada, I know someone who came with spouse visa but were actually brother - sister and had fake marriage certificate. Imagine the shock when it became known by immigration authorities. In the Indian community some of us came to know about this, but Canadian Government didn't reveal the names.

[@lioness5838]

ew

[@pujarissunil]

Such incidents create bad reputation for the community and should be discouraged.

[@cauliflowerhead2735]

@@pujarissunil well not really... Fraud in immigration happens from all over the world . Even mexicans do this. Most middle class indians send their kids abroad who can easily afford education and living provisions but even poor Mexicans will make it to these countries with no money, fake papers, or some con they pulled. Many mexicans take money from family and friends saying they'll invest it in their business and pay them back with exorbitant interest, they take that money and run away.

[@omarabdullah5690]

Because Canada wants people

[@rahulshetty937]

This kind of things creates a bad reputation and causes hurdles for people who are genuine

[@Bebedollie]

Not being rude but in New zealand we have had a big problem in the past with punjabi men coming to my country marrying overweight insecure woman for residency. After they get it they leave them go back to punjab and marry the woman the family picks and then begin the process of bringing the whole extended family here. Our immigration laws are so very strict now it's hard to get residency even if they have a baby born to a kiwi woman. It's hard for anyone to get residency unless u have millions of dollars. There are sooo many cases I know of. And they also have childern to these kiwi woman and just toss them aside like rubbish but love there childern to there Indian wives. U reap what u sow.

[@Philosophy824]

Everyone is not same. There are many true love stories also. But you are also right. İ live near punjab and trust me , now New Zealand is not in the list for Punjabis immigration. Now, Canada, US, Australia, England. These four countries are on Radar

[@luvghd]

Yes as an Aussie we have the same problem here, I have no sympathy for them.

[@luvghd]

@@Philosophy824don’t come to Australia people on a surface level will appear friendly but in reality, that isn't the case. Only come here if you are filling a role in demand like aged care or medicine. The market is oversaturated with Indian men applying for IT roles and guess what it is always the one person with the white name and fewer qualifications that gets the role, why? Because they stand out in the sea of overqualified Indian applicants.

[@apurvavpatil]

You are not rude. This is a fact that everyone should know....some states people of India are just annoying. No one should entertain them

[@pennyc8252]

These punjabi man r doing this even in Korea and Japan and some others Asian countries. They r desperate to leave punjab but once get settle in other countries they r dying to go back there. And mostly their married punjab girl as wife. Disgusting this community

[@georgeabraham5532]

Patels have mastered this in a classic way in Gujarat. Remember a case where a guy married a girl settled in US and got the papers done to get him to US. She then divorces him and marries his younger brother. After getting him to US, she divorces him and remarried the elder brother. So it's basically paperwork to beat the system and emigrate the entire family.

[@kashutosh9132]

If true, totally messed up

[@aniketadhav2737]

Ewww

[@ashwatimenon5481]

Wow thats not just disgusting but also too desperate.

[@papprazziusa4817]

They must have paid immigration officers off. Because in Florida they do watch for fraud marriages

[@papprazziusa4817]

They immigration was definitely paid off.

[@rajendersingh5295]

These marriages are a modern social evils. Both parties knows the purpose of these marriages. It is a business planned for gains, but at times it doesn't work

[@crystalblueocean]

Well said

[@bodhisattva6308]

Well said. Both sides are equally involved in this

[@SolomonSunder]

Just that if it was the other way around, the man would be booked for dowry since accepting money, fees etc count as dowry. It is time to get gender neutral laws.

[@rabiazeb9051]

sahe bola, dono families dhood k dhuly nae ha, aur es trah kamo me es trah tu hoga, anjam tu bura he hona ha in one way or another

[@SuperSACHINNN]

The lesson: Dont be greedy and lazy at same time. If you want more from life, try getting it with your own efforts. Greedy + Hard Working is ambition, Greedy + Lazy gets screwed.

[@johnfrancis6413]

Women have been doing this for ages . Marrying up is what women always do 6ft, 6 digit salary , car and house their offer :shitty personality and 10L in dowry which they will use against you in any court proceedings.

[@Philosophy824]

And Hardworking without greedy is also screwed. I am saying for myself. I become contented even without any job, salary or money. I'm happy. That's a screwed thing. And I've appeared in 25 government job exams (qualified some of them but couldn't appear in final list unfortunately) , have graduation from a good University, have 7.5 score in IELTS. But still I think it's okay. Money is not important 😅

[@dr.harmeetsingh9772]

Print is doing awesome job by covering the uncovered topics of concern in this society..........mainstream media should learn frm the print....grt job

[@Lucky-vu6hw]

Mainstream media be like : "so this is the place where Anushka and Virat gonna marry....."

[@Avenger.1111]

Zeenews also showed news about contract marriages in punjab 9 months ago...not in detail but they showed...

[@NavjinderAneja]

I have been into IELTS training. I would say about 30% of my students went for contract marriages. It's pathetic that marriage is considered as business deals. My friends are also suffering from issues from their abroad wives.

[@nayanmipun6784]

No value of sex

[@JMian]

WTF as a keralite living in Canada this is not right.

[@amalpsunny]

@@JMian north india il ഉള്ളവരുടെ കാര്യം ആണ് bro

[@MyTechniqueWorks]

Tell that to the Indian laws which keep supporting women regardless of the situation.

[@nayanmipun6784]

Indian judiciary brain washed by feminism

[@girishthegreat]

Marriage is a serious commitment. Don't take it lightly. Trust isn't guaranteed. Each person has to earn it.

[@jaspreetkr87]

Trust and respect are the first steps to a successful marriage. Love follows respect and trust. The way you saying, that trust builds gradually in marriage - that marriage is definitely doomed.. trust can erode gradually in a marriage due a deceitful spouse but trust is not built gradually. If you get what I’m saying, hopefully your marriage and your spouse would be happy- assuming everything else is normal for you.

[@akshaymaurya8471]

Fraudulence runs in the blood of Punjabis. Cunning community

[@arunayraman6001]

There should be a movie on this issue. NAMASTE CANADA would be perfect. It can be prompted as sequel of NAMASTE LONDON

[@parvadhami980]

And who will be the actors?

[@Kathakathan11]

@@parvadhami980 Daljeet hoga toh log maan jayenge

[@eetail]

I guess Namaste england is a movie which is very much based on this plot.

[@ST0ICSAGE]

Akshay kumari plays the girl

[@kashutosh9132]

@@ST0ICSAGE Abe yr 😂

[@BMW411]

So u marry a girl.immeditly coz she has high IELTS score and she going abroad for studies,?? The unemployed boy also seem selfish here ....who see only practicle side to marry her ...!!

[@anootoshsarkar686]

"Who the hell asked them to fund the girl's education abroad??" But then, nobody asks is there something called 'Trust' in a relationship?? Trust is hard earned, even harder than money.

[@OrwellsHousecat]

She was part of the family - people fund their families

[@ranjankumarsingh4601]

Marriage these days has been reduced to business transaction.

[@GadgetMuhsin5000]

@@ranjankumarsingh4601 It's lesser of business transaction these days. It was way more of business transaction longer ago atleast that's what I observe around where I'm from.

[@peacelover5845]

Ri8.. 💯

[@itsover9008]

@@GadgetMuhsin5000 I feel the exact opposite. Earlier, couples would try their best to save their marriage despite being arrange married. Nowadays, most women are happy to leave the relationship at the smallest sign of differences as they get money. Remove the money, alimony and all protections and marriage will be back to not being a transaction. Totally ironic considering love marriages are on the rise.

[@kirank3185]

Totally fault of the punjab boys and girls. When they can give lakhs and crores on illegally migration...then can invest the same in a new business or on job oriented courses...which would give them better results. I can understand if folks lack money..as may be the case in some poorer states...but clearly this is not the case in punjab All such folks need counseling

[@beezlebub9]

I agree. And many young Punjabi are trying to move abroad on student visas with the goal of actually working and not studying abroad. They find illegal jobs that are very low-paying jobs with which they cant even pay their school fees and living expenses.

[@DM-1111]

Why don’t they try moving to another state? Why Canada? They’re not going into IT so will they do farming in Canada or what?

[@shraddhagajbhiye6]

Have heard of many cases mostly from punjab of husbands abandoning wives after settling abroad. Kudos to you for bringing this news to us, else would have never known that women are doing the same to men

[@ridhamatri9447]

Obviously, females are so innocent, right? 😂 When it happens to women, women are so angry and agressive but when it happens to men, women close their eyes and many actually enjoy it. 👹

[@Manish_Kumar_Singh]

It's funny that Punjabis in home want a communist system of agriculture and Industry, but want to migrate to a country where the sucess is due to capitalism.

[@digvijaysingh6882]

lol

[@Battlebunny07]

Just like pro Hindhutva vadis wants to migrate to Europe or US.

[@Manish_Kumar_Singh]

@@Battlebunny07 They also want to follow their economic system too. Unlike the hypocrisy of kisam andolan walas

[@manish2991]

@@Battlebunny07 we don't have any issue with capitalism

[@arunhai08]

Spot on!!!! Super Manish...!!

[@acash5996]

Immigration or migration should be the last option but in Punjab, it is the only option which people have made for themselves

[@acash5996]

@@mviv6339 exactly

[@Aayush12211]

@@mviv6339 as someone who's Punjabi friend has immigrated to Canada, I completely agree. Friend or his parents never prioritised education and always chased quick money.

[@navneetdhal5986]

Probably because of the sad state of affairs of punjab.all thanks to these politicians

[@trainman6615]

@@navneetdhal5986 even bihar up has poor education system and corrupt bureaucrats

[@navneetdhal5986]

@@trainman6615 but most of them r still in india

[@shivinunitholi2493]

Marriage has been a joke in Indian society. Its a compulsion but comes with a checklist. Wonder how that can be called a "relationship" in the first place.

[@pallavisharma1649]

Marriage has both sides. Contract marriage has only one dark side. And btw, men and women, both suffer.

[@shivinunitholi2493]

@@muskmelon2430 yo kid what solution do you want? What if I say arranged marriages suck. And for a man who's not financially stable, what if I say marriage isn't an option for him at this point in time?

[@shivinunitholi2493]

@@pallavisharma1649 the entire idea of marriage is nothing more than a contract. The only difference between a "contract marriage" and other forms of "marriage" is that contract marriage have a clarification on the time limit whereas other marriages don't (and couples mostly don't divorce and continue pretending to "live together happily ever after" coz divorce is like a black spot on their personal profile)

[@thetoothtutorr]

Couldn't agree more...arranged marriages are a joke and filthy deals...all this for a facade or perfection where the relations are decayed inside

[@mahendrakhati4732]

Are you one of the dude who got scammed

[@0000dexter]

Laws are gender-biased in India. There exists no recourse for men, it's high time, laws are made equal.

[@TheBigDaddyClub]

time to expose them. i have exposed one such girls emails on my instagram.

[@kittyman7015]

When the laws are being made do protecting women, men should also be given the same protections as women.

[@signalisthebest4075]

What about f*****g farm lawa

[@Salman-Bin-Ahmed]

How about Law to make sure you dont cheat a foreign govt if you are incompetent for a VISA ?

[@Kathakathan11]

Who says there are no laws for this, your lawyers aren’t educated enough

[@priyojitchatterjee6164]

what a filthy mindset. abusing canadian immigration laws using arranged marriage. dusro ko thagne jakar khud thag gaya.

[@drakkar7860]

Ur filthy mindset will come out when someone you love dies. Remember those who give advices or get happy on someone's death are not far away from it.

[@priyojitchatterjee6164]

@@drakkar7860 the boy killed himself. suicide is a personal choice. it was because he couldn't cheat a foreign country so even the reason was a dishonest one. im not happy. im embarassed at the level our culture and education system has fallen where young people kill themselves for failing to commit an unethical act.

[@Salman-Bin-Ahmed]

@@priyojitchatterjee6164 Well said bro, its sad to see any state accept this heinous culture of men who remain uneducated but dream big of living on their wife's success. Who knows the girl must have been forcefully married too, to this uneducated fool. I am glad she got her independence. Hope the Canadian govt protects her right to live free.

[@drakkar7860]

@@priyojitchatterjee6164 I did not see anything in your original comment in regards to what you said now. In your original comment it was straight up victim bashing.

[@priyojitchatterjee6164]

​@@drakkar7860 that's your problem. im talking about the entire video and the mentality that is depicted by the people who claim to be cheated not the individual boy. i never commented on the suicide

[@debojyotibhattacherjee3674]

Problem lies within you. You took the shortcut. It's regrettable if your spouse leaves you after going abroad. It's unjustified. But to marry someone just to go abroad don't you think it's also unjustified. Why marry? Work on yourself. The money they spent they could have easily established their own buisness in India and as far iam seeing most of these people are from well off families. If you ask me I'll say although they may not deserve it but they did dug their own grave.

[@ericcantona1587]

The whole problem could have been avoided if the man tries to learn English himself. If his family has the resources to sponsor a visa, do it for your own child rather than hoping for some kind of socially binding obligations to work in your favour. The girl should be prosecuted here for sure but the moral of the story is that if you want to get something done, do it yourself.

[@clashoflands]

I was thinking the same,as a man I feel really ashamed that men think that they ride on success of their partners. Every human being regardless of gender should put in the hard work on their own.

[@mohit13reddy]

@@clashoflands You know nothing about the man that died, so feel ashamed that you are close minded and quick to jump to conclusions.

[@mohit13reddy]

The man was a farmer that worked in the fields to make money, his criminal wife used the money he earned while working to learn skills and go abroad. If he is at home learning English and preparing for exams who is going to work the field and earn.

[@altejaswi]

Everybody is notborn with golden spoon at the same time nobody is born genius or have same learning capabilities.

[@clashoflands]

@@mohit13reddy farmers in Punjab are not poor most of them can afford luxury of spending money on their children,u must be thinking of farmers from Maharashtra.

[@NiravJoshi]

This is tragic. It is almost like tables have turned. Earlier women used to get abandoned by men fleeing abroad.

[@crystalblueocean]

Yes, it almost seems as if the tables are turning. All I have ever heard, regarding the social ills of India, is how women have been terribly abused. This is the first I've heard of something like this happening to an Indian male.

[@itsmeagain0]

@@crystalblueocean search for "Deepika Narayan Bharadwaj" and you will know further details regarding cases like these. It's not new.

[@pritech8302]

@@crystalblueocean most of the rape,dowry & domestic violance cases are fake in india.. apporx 98% .. check stats

[@crystalblueocean]

@@itsmeagain0 Hey, I appreciate you responding.... I checked out Deepika Narayan. This issue rings deep with me particularly because my wife and I helped a Punjabi woman, here in Toronto, get away from an extremely abusive Punjabi husband. It was an arranged marriage which happened in England when she was 22 years old. She didn't know, love or like the man, but she knew she had to marry and Indian. She held out as long as she could but finally gave in. She told me, her exact words, that if she had a choice, she would have married a blond-haired, blue-eyed Englishman. It was particularly hard for to give in and marry the man her parents forced her to because, despite the fact that she is Punjabi, she's really English in her mind and way of thinking. She's physically beautiful and beautiful on the inside, she's witty, has a charming British accent, and has that amazing sense of humor that most British people have. And the guy she had to marry was dull, antisocial, possessive, controlling, distrustful of people, contemptuous of other people and other races, etc, etc, etc, the complete opposite of her. She used to laugh at him in her mind, and knew that he was a joke, but she had no choice but to stay with him. She made a comment that Indian girls are even pressured into remaining virgins for horrible men like this, men who would never be able to get a woman on their own even if their lives depended on it. Her words. The moment they were married, he used her British passport to get himself officially documented and then he moved her away from her family to the United States where he used his IT training to get a job. They eventually moved here to Canada. Anyway, what he did to her was horrible, so horrible in fact that it still affects me to this day, after all these years. I didn't put any of the details in the comments, initially, because I didn't want to receive a bunch of hate mail, and people would probably not even believe me. It was the saddest, most unfair thing I had ever seen done to another human being. She received no help or support from her in-laws, and, get this guys..... her own parents blamed her!!! One of her brothers', knew that the man was not a good person, and wouldn't even let him in his house when they were still in England, but he couldn't do anything to support his sister because he lived so far away. So, after 18 and half years with this man, and giving him two children, he got rid of her, basically kicking her out of the house. The few friends that she had at that time begged her to not move out of the house, but she was terrified of the guy, so she allowed him to move her out. She had no idea of what the family assets were, what the value of the house was, nothing. She had no idea of how much money they had. Anyway, long story short, we ended up helping her get into a shelter and then into the social assistance program, and it was very sad to watch. During my time with her, I got to know the various institutions here in Toronto that are set up to help women in situations like this, so I got to know some of the stories of the other Indian women who were being helped by these institutions and it's pretty sad, guys. These Indian women are left with nothing and often zero support from their families. Their families often make them feel like they've betrayed the families and culture by reporting the abuse. My Punjabi friend is smart, she's practical, she has that Punjabi business sense, but doesn't know how to use it because she was never taught. She has no sense of individuality and has no concept of personal rights. She knew from the time she was young, taught by her parents, that all she had to learn was to obey, to make good chapatis and moong dal, and clean the house. In some ways, she has the mind and emotional development of a fifteen year old. I mean, even when we visit with her now, I still see no real growth with her, but I understand it because she doesn't understand how the world works and was never taught to be an individual. She was never taught to plan for herself, for her life. I've never seen a more deserving human being, but she is completely incapacitated now by her lack of understanding of the world and of people and, frankly, I think, even though she's only 55 years of age, she just may be too damaged to learn any new skills. Her two daughters, now married and with children of their own, are living the high life, while this poor woman is on social assistance and working like a slave cleaning other people's houses. So, I don't know, guys.... I don't like to see anyone kill themselves, that's true, but if Indian women, or any women, are figuring out a way to get out of that kind of soul-killing life like my Punjabi friend has endured, then I'm with the Indian women on this one. I know the issue is much more complex, but I choose to side with the Indian women. However, people who left comments here- Shivan Unitholl, Abhisek Das, and Harikrishnan D, have summarized it pretty well. Marriage seems to be a business, in India, and the women seem to be the ones who get the short end of the stick, either way.

[@wrendum286]

@Thunder Boom dude...indian males are lucky that they have indian women and arranged marriages, otherwise no other woman would even touch them.

[@durairajs2001]

One of the finest reportet. No screaming, just explaining the news as it is and letting victim family talk.

[@doctorfootball1479]

This is less about genders and more about the human tendency to be an absolutely loathsome species of cheating scamsters.. Strength and prayers to the family. I hope there is a hell, and all scamsters rot in there..

[@meta5291]

Well said. And it's nothing to do with Punjab, happens everywhere. In fact, even in the US, wives may slog to put husbands through medical school or law school only to have them run off with a younger woman after they graduate.

[@Vajrapani108]

@Meta that's not the point, American ethics isn't the guiding image for the world. The problem is that these kind of things are new to India, doesn't matter if they are already prevalent in thr west

[@Salman-Bin-Ahmed]

@@Vajrapani108 With poor conditions in country, people take desperate steps. When mexicans can travels 100s of kms on bare foot to enter US, illegally whats this leaving husband? Its a very small thing. Besides, in India Hubby is suppose to take care of wife, not the other way around. If this guy dreamt about living in Canada, he should have studied and worked hard, got the VISA himself, being a farmer boy, they dream of remaining married to a highly educated girl? Sounds recipe for a disaster.

[@meta5291]

@@Vajrapani108 I just pointed out an example in the US, it has nothing to do with ethics or morality of Americans or any other group. Human nature is human nature, all this didn't start now - its been the case for ever, think about it.

[@TheRajhans]

If it is nothing about genders more about human tendency...then make these laws of desertion and other such woman biased laws gender neutral

[@amandeepsingh4u]

What would one expect from a relationship which was based on greed of going abroad!!! Shortcut rides are always bumpy.

[@fai3379]

😘😘😘😘😘

[@sonatestd2085]

What to expect from such women

[@whoopsie9934]

Frankly, I’m disgusted by this behaviour. Imagine paying for someone’s visa, rent, education fees only to get ghosted and looted in the end. The taste for freedom/ independence should not be at someone else’s expense. I hope this becomes a lesson to all men out there, if you want to go abroad, please don’t expect or trust someone else to help you out. Marriage is not supposed to be a contract.

[@sys9208]

Thats just stupid to pay .

[@sumsahsumsah8507]

Well it's his fault that he trusted that BITCH and he could have spent time with a women rather ! Lesson for all men in society as you can see that this is how a "WOMEN" by birth, when grown up turns into a "BITCH"

[@singhtalks2256]

@@sys9208 some of the marriages were legal like the one above of lovpreet that suicide later, probably because she wasn't replying much back but do after a week or something but people of pind were taunting him n make him take that step, all are same

[@that_dam_baka]

@@singhtalks2256 That guy sounds like a drama queen. Most of these families aren't buying houses in Canada. She has to work to support herself. Possibly for the first time in her life. And this dude is getting dramatic that his calls are not being answered/returned. And HER family is supporting HIM in the argument. She's also JUST realizing that she has options for her future beyond this clingy dude. Is it any surprise that she's ghosting him?

[@Alice30254]

Marriage Is Exactly that though..a contract. Paper work etc..its a contract. Families marrying off a young daughter to a often times a man shes never met..yeah contract.

[@byron-ih2ge]

wow humanity is doing innovations in crimes at this point🙂

[@gunjitkumar]

It is funny but really sad at the same time.

[@byron-ih2ge]

@@gunjitkumar yep

[@Salman-Bin-Ahmed]

We are indians, we will come up with innovations in unethical crimes too. Lol

[@starsfalldown1234567]

It happens more with women though. Men take dowries from the brides family and abandon their wives by going abroad. Suddenly a few women do what men have been doing.... And It's big news worth a social outcry??? Where was this energy when thousands of women were victimised.

[@byron-ih2ge]

@@starsfalldown1234567 lol

[@manismis]

The fertile and pleasant land of Punjab sends its sons and daughters, to live in a intensely cold and inhospitable Canada. If this is not a tragedy, I don't know what else is.

[@SonuSharma-ys3jr]

Dude i m living in punjab and i have done Company Secretary course, LL.B(Hons), B.com and working in a company as Company Secretary & Compliance officer but the salary is not even close to least satisfaction level, so how can u expect a bright future. there is no scope for highly qualified professionals too. Companies just exploit their employees. Thats why i decided to move to Canada.My file is already in the pool in express entry for Canada.

[@manismis]

@@SonuSharma-ys3jr And, that is why it's a tragedy.

[@teedee2894]

@@SonuSharma-ys3jr you'll realize Canada is also turning into a sh1t with all the immigration. There were guys in chaddi playing kabaddi in a park in Surrey lol and bullying and crimes are very high. Indian population areas like Brampton and Surrey are considered low. Standard is dropping pretty fast

[@simransandhu2411]

@@teedee2894 So Kabbadi is played in Canada too, it's turned into international game with UK, Australia , Canada and India and many more playing it

[@animeuniverse5586]

@@SonuSharma-ys3jr Just being highly educated doesn't mean you will get a high salary. There are many factors involved like your collg, your skill level and your working experience or how much your work is in demand in that particular area.

[@naveensamuel9345]

Same happened to me i think iam the first person from Tamilnadu got abandoned by my wife. But our marriage is not a contract marriage. We both loved each other by that time i was been working in America in cruise ship. I left my job and came for her to get married. She forced me to come and not go back she said me to resigned my job also . After she went to Canada first one month she spoke to me well then the next month she started avoiding me suddenly she started asking me for divorce.by the time I hired a immigration lawyer from CanadaI. lost my my life, job, money everything because of her. Money can change anyone very easily. Please beware of it guys.

[@animesparklingdreamer1438]

I am so sorry. You deserve better.

[@gokuvegeta9500]

​@@thewonderkid1652 All women

[@Jennybalacio33]

​@gokuvegeta9500, not all women. Those women have no sympathy, selfish, mindless and immature.

[@ilhaammohammad5427]

Thank you for bringing awareness about foreign “education” gold diggers

[@stephaniedegange2737]

I am terribly sorry for your loss, Sir...

[@abhisekdas435]

This is a classic example of broken social system...this type of incidents are wrong in so many ways, and everyone is culprit here from govt. to people, from brides family to grooms family

[@Kathakathan11]

And peculiar to Punjab. They have glamourised Canada so much seriously.

[@crystalblueocean]

Well said, Abhisek. Very true. There is no one single person to blame. Also, one of the other commenters wisely pointed out that we don't know the full story

[@niamaaha...4141]

@@crystalblueocean i would blame the boys who cant even pass the required IELTS and the other exams to go overseas. Why do they have to depend on the girls . They should be more responsible and independent make their own way overseas. Why pay the girls fees when they can study on their own

[@WaveRider1989]

@@niamaaha...4141 or make their way in their own country. Everyone can't just go and work in Canada. It's so ridiculous this attitude of "Have to get to US or Canada at any cost". It's destructive.

[@ultraali453]

well said bro

[@23fd22]

Indian men have been abandoning their wives for decades. like the lady says in India in any circumstance it is only the women who are blamed because India is culturally misogynistic. I have lived in the US and I have seen how young men coming from India literally salivate on white skin and chase after the women in the first world (whether they are married with a wife in India or single). As long as India continues to hang on its outdated and draconian cultural values this will continue to happen. As soon as a woman does what men have been doing for decades and decades she instantly become EVIL. Can you just imagine the thousands of women who have been suffering in silence further traumatized by the social stigma of being abandoned by their husbands by a culture that preys on women treating women like objects and personal possessions completely disregarding that women are human beings with human rights. When it happens to a man it is unacceptable and its out in the media, when it happens to a women she has to hide away from society. I say either way it is an evil practice. India should do away with old draconian cultural practices and stop living like the frog in the well. Please treat women like human beings and not objects and men please grow up. At some stage the tables had to turn. India has to make cultural changes to move into the 20th century not desperately hold on to OLD OLD DRACONIAN CULTURAL PRACTICES.

[@LivingInKerala]

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@malabhojwani9156]

So true ! 👏👏👏👏

[@Richarddv88-bg7pm]

Blaming Indian culture is the only thing that you do. What do you know about Indian culture first of all. If some apples are bad does it mean that all apples are bad . Indian culture does not promote any misogyny. I don't know when will some dumb foreigners will understand this. It is the society not the culture. Look at your abrahamic faiths and culture how they treat women and other faiths . People belonging to abrahamic faiths don't have eyes to see any thing good in India.

[@Home-o2v4h]

Another insensitive hypocrite. When was men doing it celebrated ? How do you know they have wives back in their home country ?

[@sowjin6671]

I still wonder how can they sleep at night peacefully knowing that you are the reason of someone's death and someone's grief.

[@sukhkaur9440]

They lack human emotions

[@anastasia10017]

because they dont value life. They actually tell women to commit suicide

[@sun.24-g7w]

no soul

[@ImGroot100]

They died because they coward

[@anastasia10017]

because arranged marriages are between 2 people who dont know each other nor care about each other. They are thrown together the same as you are thrown next to your coworkers at your job. And since arranged marriage is kind of like a life long job that you can't get out of, the attitude towards the spouse is acquisitional -- how much dowry will I get if I marry this person? will I get a visa if I marry this person ? will I get a green card ? They dont care about the spouse - just what they will get for themselves.

[@aaibhagwati8450]

Indian laws are extremely gender biased and as a society we need to accept that law's should be equal and not biased towards men or women. 1st step is to accept that men can be victims.

[@GoofyChaiLoverGirl]

This is not about Indian law. They are talking about Canadian law. Indian law can't do much in this case

[@aaibhagwati8450]

@@GoofyChaiLoverGirl i am not saying anything about this case it's general statement that indian law doesn't recognize the gender based violence against men. Is their any law for men'? No ri8.

[@GoofyChaiLoverGirl]

@@aaibhagwati8450 nope.. somebody need to raise the case, nobody wants to fight for men's right

[@aaibhagwati8450]

@@GoofyChaiLoverGirl ya i guess .. hopefully someone will do this.

[@pritech8302]

@@aaibhagwati8450 search for mens day out.. they started fighting

[@bharamas1]

This has been exactly happening to women for centuries. Pay dowry, Let the husband grow in his career and society only to be abandoned. But it is a heart break for women/men. I think it only tells us that the only way to live is to stand on your two feet,

[@milansinha9401]

but times have changed anyone could be victim , acknowledge the past but be in present.

[@ultra8142]

Woman's Card ( Victim Card )

[@bharamas1]

@@ultra8142 Well it only takes a turn in anyone's fate to become a Victim ? Men can be victims too - like in an accident. For such rudeness i pray that you experience it to know how it feels - its not at all a game but about one's life.

[@shirokun4742]

@@bharamas1 dowry also earned by men .....girls father Not girls earned and give to his husband

[@vioinbhandsri3074]

Download was never a old tradition learn more you what le game is stuoid

[@aashnasingh839]

So basically you married your son to a girl who was decently educated and had chances of getting a visa to Canada... Who would then go on to get a degree to be employable in Canada so that she could eventually help in getting your son a visa and residence in Canada...while all this is being funded by you. Do you see the problem here ?? Quoting The Print here , "Men see getting into contract marriages with women as an easier way of going abroad on a spouse vise " What nonsensical levels of hypocrisy...this not a crime against Men !! You entered into a contract knowingly.. and were duped ! Lodge a criminal complaint and stop crying over it

[@theleagueofskeptics.2992]

"kanneda" ka rangeen sapne🤣🤣

[@charanraj1329]

Canada bhai kannada nahi

[@sheikhsphere3163]

Play stupid games Win stupid prizes.

[@ppen8359]

I do not blame the wife. The husband's family is not that innocent. They were trying to game the immigration system so they found a woman who scammed them. Whenever you are greedy, you open yourself to scams.

[@bhuvan1993]

There desperation to go outside lead them to such Fate. As a Punjabi i can confirm that here youth only dream of two things,one is govt Job and other is Going Abroad. Nobody here focuses on Skills and experience. And there is Zero Entrepreneurship in Punjab except Ludhiana and few cities , everyone just want to do Job and that even Only Govt job. And Nobody is ready to generate Jobs. And they Just Blame Govts for everything. And what that Lady said at last is totally correct that girls don't get independence here and if in abroad they want to marry or to be in relationship with someone of there choice...den its not wrong... since that marriage ws just a Scam to Go Abroad.

[@aanchalfinwoman]

Bhai pr private me bhi to shoshan hai. Delhi me 16 hazar rent aur 15 hazar salary h. Naukari 10 ghnte ki. Admi ko ghis deto h private company.

[@eliot7024]

@@aanchalfinwoman life sucks karti han India main :( I should say in most countries in Asia only some countries r close to heaven those r western countries, I was also :( dying to move out of India because life completely sucks to death here, but now I feel there is no hope for me because I m not highly skilled educated nor have rich parents, sometimes I feel like maybe in Next life :(

[@Rahulgusain9811]

@@aanchalfinwoman Delhi me 16k rent nhi hai unless kaafi high locality me le rhe ho And ab salaries bhi 15k se zyaada hai But major problem is our population itni population me utni opportunities create krna is seriously tough.

[@RasheedahNizam]

My heart really hurts for all of these young people who see no way out. This girl's husband and his parents were seeing her as a tool to use. They wanted her to get educated and pay their way. They probably would have gladly migrated to Canada and allowed her to not only be the primary bill payer but also to be the main cook and cleaner like a servant. Likewise , the son was also a victim. Like most boys, his parents had expectations on him to save them via his advantageous marriage. He may not have even liked this girl. He may have had a sweetheart who he preferred to marry. I am not saying that this is what happened in this case but we have all seen plenty of selfish parents who don't care about the happiness and well-being of their children. Marriage has become the selling of sons and the prison of daughters.

[@rajivdtttt]

This is so sad for both men and women. Unemployment and greed in sole reason for such a low our society has reached.

[@SodiumSyndicate]

Not unemployment. There are massive vacancies in India. This is pure characterlessness & greed.

[@gokuvegeta9500]

​@@SodiumSyndicate "massive vacancies" Lol

[@worldcitizen3519]

How can they move to aboard if you have no money They just want to go overseas by hook or crook

[@dr.subhashvijayran5399]

When someone does such a foolish thing, he is bound to be abandoned. Instead of funding the girl, they should have educated their own son...

[@vienogola1421]

Maybe the son was thick.

[@HeartthrobVerma]

He should have educated himself first.

[@kannan991]

Why the Punjabis have this fixation over foreign immigration? India is not a war ridden nationor something. With good educational background you can settle for a better opportunity in this country.

[@blackswan6963]

THERE ARE NO FACTORIES IN PUNJAB, GOVT JOBS ARE LTD....AND THE CORPORATE SECTOR IS MISSING, HENCE THE FIXATION FOR GOING ABROAD.

[@ulala9729]

sex retio is poor in punjab , so male wanted white women so they go to abroad

[@MrRanganath1982]

That's because u don't like progress and want to be stupid farmers.. Just blaming on govt always..

[@ssm7593]

Punjabi jatt worship white women

[@avnistar2703]

India is a filthy corrupt country. I’m British Punjabi Sikh and everything is corrupt about india. We can’t even sell our property because some people have stolen our land and the courts can’t be bothered to look into the case. This will NEVER happen here in the UK or Canada . The big cities which have jobs are polluted, crowded, unsafe and unhygienic. My cousin who works in Delhi has blue eyes and gets stared at by random men. So many men have acted inappropriately towards her and her boss doesn’t care. It’s absolutely deplorable. India will never be a superpower because of this. Too many social peoples and too many ignorant patriots.

[@vg82]

Our idea about Punjab is from cinema … punjabis are worst culture… bahut jaada fedualism hai Punjab main ..

[@vg82]

@MR SINGH Bhai Punjab main feudalism ki problem hai … ek punjabi dusare ko bhi paise ki nazar se dekhta hai … punjabis who lives outside Punjab are less fedual … ye sach hai …

[@arpandey7043]

The more i see womens of now...the more i respect my mother...

[@vigneshwardr6102]

True 👌

[@theotherside3273]

Dont know why Punjab is so obsessed with settling abroad, Canada, uk?

[@binilc6238]

Not only punjab, you tell anyone, there is opportunity, and they will fly next day. Can you blame them ?

[@theotherside3273]

@@binilc6238 no, I can't, well then let them suffer! 😂 according to ur logic! Why cry then! Send ur wife's,,, then she will send u to death 💀⚰ bed

[@sra1354]

@Mother Earth yes usa has a separate craze among telugus. Iam an employee at infosys joined in 2020. My salary is 4lpa currently and if I shift the company I can easily earn 9 lpa but guess what I am going to usa for fall 2022.

[@whocares3132]

@@binilc6238 Someone thinking they may settle abroad doesnt mean obsession. Punjabi people in general just have the huge obsession to settle abroad.

[@sra1354]

@Mother Earth wish you the same

[@sangeetarao6827]

It's really hard to see the father shedding tears for his beloved son, may God bless them with justice🙏

[@Droidzonegamer]

The parents are just stupid then. Instead of wasting money on a girl educate your own boy and then he will get a girl on his own and also will be able to earn a lot more money. But they have love for Canada tag and foreign NRI tag that they will still keep doing this. Crying will not help, It is useless.

[@VivekSingh-ts1ec]

show some empathy you piece of dung

[@suryavanshi6546]

The most underrated comment

[@vishal6kumar]

They invest on their daughter in law because parents know that his son do not have the capability to qualify ielts.

[@Droidzonegamer]

@@vishal6kumar Who asked their sons to qualify IELTS. Can their sons not just join a Open University or a Online course for software development, or Bcom, Ba economics, Physics, Statistics,Actuarial Science, Maths. Engineering. These not not expensive courses. Kid can also do CA. Then ask them to sit and study everyday till they can get into premiere institutes in India or apply for internships. A computer and wifi will cost them less than educating anyone abroad. Their kid can then get any job of their liking. They can then afford their PG courses or even get scholarships for abroad. Now this route will never be taken by them as it seems hard but it's better than sulking over being defrauded by a daughter in law.

[@vishal6kumar]

@Thunder Boom Nope. Because it was a contractual marriage, like a business deal. Many times it happen like someone cheats in a business deal. Similar thing had happened here. A cheater could be disguised as anyone whether a man or women. One should have spend few yrs with their spouse in their country to get to know each other and make a emotional connection to each otherwise it is just a business deal.

[@kartikzingade2699]

I am in the favour of the ladies in this case. They are chosen for marriage based on their IELTS scores. What else can u expect them to do? Trust a greedy husband who only married to go abroad??

[@sanjaykumar-mz6tf]

so you should favour the men who live in US if they abandon thier wives.... coz they only Marry them because they are settled abroad ....

[@chandankundnani4270]

Larka haraamkhor hai toh kya hua larki bhi toh kaam madarchod nahi hui

[@user-ld1om4qp7j]

Both sides are wrong ... this whole mindset of taking advantage of each other for granted is completely messed up. Society needs to change.

[@adriangaming4853]

Why do Punjabis have such a zeal towards settling abroad ? As someone has said earlier in the comments, India isn't a war zone, and neither we are a famine-stricken country facing a humanitarian crisis. Ethnic pride of them are not going to solve practical issues. What's this with being so much ethnocentric and regionalist people ? This is with some other states too, this "ethnic victimhood" and fake persecution complex thing. Even in this comments section, some are vociferously abusing against those who are offering constructive cristicism, _"you BIMARU states have no buddhi"_ or some long well settled in UK lambasting and despising India for being third/fourth/fifth/sixth.... zillionth world country, as if their own origin comes from Antartica and not India. An increasing number of problems and having little solutions, laughing claims emerge that _"the Government of India is deliberately keeping Punjab backwards"_ and _"India never cared about Punjab."_ Folks are gonna call me communal, sanghi, and another 5000 such fancy terms, but in my observation, I've seen such wrath more in Sikh compared to their Hindu counterparts. As far as the Sikh diaspora is concerned, they absolutely *HATE* India, nothing else. If immigrating abroad isn't helping and neither blaming others is, then a fair introspection will help better, won't it ? There is very myth in Punjab that UP and Biharis are taking their jobs, "polluting" Punjab, they are being called derogatory terms like "Bhaiyyas" despite the fact that census data shows no such thing, just like this bogus claim of mass conversion to Christianity in Punjab. How long blaming GoI, Ambani, Adani, X organization, Y community will help ? And I'm pretty sure that even on this comment too, I'd be getting tonnes of similar remarks, dozens may come to inveigh me. I'm myself from a _"Bimaru"_ state, but at least I don't have the fallacies that there is a conspiracy against my state, I don't suffer from this regionalism and ethnocentrism, I don't think it's all a fault of others, because the truth is that it's my own unaware citizens who are keeping the state backwards. This may sound harsh, but doesn't Punjab seem to be a moving towards being a _"bimaru"_ state itself too ? Apologies in advanced if somebody is offended.

[@FourthDimension001]

They are themselves BHAIYAS in Canada and elsewhere.

[@ashwatimenon5481]

I have to say while bimaru is understood as a category by economists, there is no reason for the rest of the country to not learn good things from them. The same way the bimaru states should learn from other states. I am not against regionalism everything in moderation is necessity. But with the kind of anger, fear and division this pandemic has resulted in all we see is people blaming each other. If anyone says anything bad about any state they are like us state ko dekho, ye kyun nahi pooch rahe. We are back to being kekadas.

[@cric6007]

The situation in Punjab is worsening year after year . I am afraid after 10 15 years . What will be it's consequences .

[@suhailansari3847]

@yamete kudasai Earlier I thought the same, but then I met some exceptionally smart and hardworking people from both UP and Bihar.

[@suhailansari3847]

@yamete kudasai If we only keep only smart people in the country. They won't be smart anymore and the offsprings would be the same as the people we've now. Maybe in a short run the area could see tremendous growth but in the longer run it is not feasible at all.

[@gigilamoore2656]

Let's face it, these men had ulterior motives in getting married too. This is what happens when neither side is pure.

[@SDFNI3894YR]

can you specify?

[@KaranSharma-lm6eh]

@@SDFNI3894YR true, both parties wanted to take advantage of each other, that's all.

[@sonatestd2085]

Feminist spotted

[@gigilamoore2656]

@@sonatestd2085 Incel living in mama's basement spotted.

[@DarlingSerpentine]

That’s supposed to be an insult?

[@anushreepradhan6689]

I think the whole mindset of Punjabi community has to change.educate yourselves be good doctors,ias officers there are a lot of scope in India also you don't need to be a Canadian to live a good life.change your mindset and you will stay protected from these situations.

[@qeiejxdld6302]

Akshay kumar

[@imyasharya]

Well, being a doctor, IAS is definitely not an option. You see, there's again very few percentage of people getting into these professions. So, there always be huge number of people left distressed. So, there is a need to industrialize the economy of Punjab so that a lot of Private sector can establish and give them a job.

[@VV-lq4di]

@Los Blancos The classic playing the reservation card. Got to give you that.

[@nehalulla2764]

Ias officer banna easy nahi hai

[@Philosophy824]

@@nehalulla2764 ye apka asli naam hai kya "Neha Lulla" 🤔🧐

[@manish2991]

Punjabis love communism in agriculture & industry but they have problem with privatisation in India

[@pamdogra6498]

Punjab has forever made a mockery of Marriage. Everything is a contract for them. It’s disgusting how this woman justifies their illegal acts and blames the govt. These crooks deserve what they get. They should go to Jail for cheating Immigration.

[@animesh_tiwary]

It's noteworthy here that only Sikhs in Punjab are lured of immigrating to Canada mostly in hope of lavish lifestyle portrayed by some of their relatives in Canada. Sikhs in other states in India do not have that urge and are able to find opportunities home. This points to the dysfunctional agricultural economics of Punjab which has not able to shed it's feudal structure and transform to industrialisation. Something similar to Pakistan Punjab.

[@animesh_tiwary]

@@sdsingh8713 Well, they disrupted the train operations for more than a year in Punjab not long ago. Not just Punjabi Sikhs, everyone wants to have better standard of living irrespective of the state in which he resides. But you won't find the obsession of immigration in other states as in Punjab. Highly skilled and ultra rich people all across India migrate to rich countries but not poor households or those not able to sustain themselves abroad. There are lot of sad stories of young people from Punjab trapped due to illegal border trafficking and some ending up with even bad situations midway.

[@Kartik-ij2vy]

@@sdsingh8713 so they are willing to risk their lives by crossing Mexico USA border illegally and they are so poor that they pay 25-30 lakh rupees to the agents for this ,the truth is you guys don’t focus on education and are ready to do blue collar jobs in Canada USA and then show off here in Punjab ,whereas people from Delhi ,west up and other states focus on education and hence go to USA as doctors engineers and earn millions of dollars ,my Friends family has 3 sons ,one of them is in USA as an engineer ,other one in Paris as consultant ,and 3rd one in Canada as a store manager .You guys Accept any work just to escape Punjab .

[@whocares3132]

@MR SINGH "hindi media only highlights Sikhs because they hate them" Bro are you out of your mind???? Where did you see that Hindi media or other people hate sikhs? This type of allegation is really dangerous and pathetic.

[@singhjasbeer5216]

I am a Sikh and I see sense in your comments. Sadly, the Sikhs who have commented here are just doing cover ups and are not ready to accept the reality. Someone blames “hindi” media and some bimaru states. Another one brings up theory of recent uproar in UP & Bihar over Railway jobs (totally unrelated issue), someone is like Canada is so great then why wouldn’t anyone go that’s like super insane. But no one accepts that Sikhs and our sociological order is failing so fast, what are the Gurudwaras and Sikh intellectuals doing here? It is the moral responsibility of Religious leaders to show the way if their is so much of confusion and misguidance among youth. No one is against going abroad but then getting so desperate to go abroad even when you don’t have education, skills makes absolutely no sense. Sikh intellectuals are busy accusing Hindu organisations, RSS for everything instead of addressing so many issues like these. Don’t be surprised that tomorrow they will declare this culprit wife was an rss agent who took life of a ‘Sikh’ gentleman and term it as planned conspiracy to harm Sikhs. But in the end only Sikhs and people of Punjab will loose.

[@animesh_tiwary]

@@singhjasbeer5216 Yes, absolutely. I don't think anyone wants people in Punjab to suffer. But if there is a mess as people think, then it our job to clean it up. Why burden Canadians with our problems? I don't know what Canadians feel about immigration. It has been a sore point in the West lately.

[@dannyhughes4889]

'Good luck' to the women who have to live the rest of their lives knowing that their actions were a major contributor to the deaths of their trusting husbands. The dire position of many Indian farmers is probably also a major causative factor in adding to the mental stress of these people. Coupled with a desire for a better life overseas eventually for all the family, when abandoned it pushes them over the edge.

[@swarinkeshmayankdas9612]

Good luck to those family as well who have live the rest of thier lives by Killing or oppressing women in the name of caste or religion so every coin has two sides why not we hold ourselves accountable as an individual men and women and change it....have a great day man

[@aniketrana1609]

@@swarinkeshmayankdas9612 it's not a competition of who did what you're saying as if all men are evil and it's their fault that his wife ghosted him

[@swarinkeshmayankdas9612]

@@aniketrana1609 you didn't read my whole comment he was selectively commenting on a single issue and I just highlighted the other side and there is no black and white... Hope it clarifies my standpoint

[@deepblue3682]

@@swarinkeshmayankdas9612 you are pathetic

[@gautamsharma3361]

@@swarinkeshmayankdas9612 we've talked about men being the culprits and women being the victims for so long, it's high time the atrocities done to many men out there by women is outed and told about to the world! Women can be equally selfish, abusing and cruel as men, depending on the person! So stop the victimisation and focus on the individuals!

[@chalkhillblueify]

The women in the end summed up the whole patriarchal society in few words but what she mentioned is the ugly truth of the Indian society! Now people can’t take it cause the tables have turned ! While it’s definitely bad to betray your husband, the women from these villages seems to have seen how the patriarchies use to women for their benefit. What goes around comes around !!

[@Shlok1believe]

Wow! You go girl.👍

[@tomatotutor369]

perfectly said!

[@daddashikamani]

If you destroy property of private companies, call them enemies of farmers and hate capitalism, why are Punjabis so surprised there are no employment opportunities in Punjab? Who will create jobs? Private sector. Whom do Punjabi hate? Private sector. Yelling Ambani-Adani ki jai can get you beaten up in Punjab.

[@jibran4794]

Unemployment is a problem throughout the country. Ofcourse the property destruction didn't help.

[@daddashikamani]

@@jibran4794 Unemployment is less of a problem in South where private sector thrives. At least the educated here can get a job. Don't demonise private sector which is responsible for the stable and fast economic growth of Southern States.

[@daddashikamani]

@@sriramsakura Hindi belt has also been ruined by state socialism and corporate hatred. Looks like things are changing in UP, Bihar and MP. Lot more needs to happen.

[@daddashikamani]

Private Industry thrives in TN and scores great on Ease of Business Doing index. Capitalism is thriving. Kerala's success is dependent on remittances from Capitalist Gulf. Even Socialism of Kerala has roots in Capitalism. Success of Kar, TN and Andra is purely due to private industry, especially Software exports. NOT Socialism.

[@narasimharao9492]

Hope others who dream of going abroad learn from this.. you can't have it easy.. educate the sons..

[@readyforknowing3009]

Exactly!

[@cool2251]

That's the issue ..most of them don't even know what hard work , competition and survival is..all they know is mid way illegal approach...So moral of the story as you sow so shall you reap.

[@milanshsharma1267]

this is the dumbest comment so far

[@user-pr9pq8en2d]

this is victim blaming.

[@eliot7024]

I was also :( dying to move out of India because life completely sucks to death here, but now I feel there is no hope for me because I m not highly skilled educated nor have rich parents, sometimes I feel like maybe in Next life :(

[@MandeepKaur-pk5tq]

It’s wild how they never do an abandoned wives version. Punjabi men have been leaving wives behind and starting double families for DECADES.

[@KaranSharma-lm6eh]

yes, that is also very true. A lot of Punjabi men have done this, which is condemnable

[@gerardgarcia7127]

It is bad in both cases, but it is rare to hear a news story about men being abandoned.

[@najamhassan2498]

I am Muslim Punjabi US citizen and I dated a Indian sikh Punjabi women who came as teacher visa to US ..later on I came to know she is married way back and has kids ...I felt so so bad for his husband and guided that women back to her family and stopped relationship with her ( women can be so wicked )

[@vmat6684]

​@najamhassan2498 Men are more wicked. They usually kill when things go wrong

[@mayankmehta.1117]

​@@vmat6684even you dad?

[@priyalpatel4250]

I think.... panjab should really focus on industry friendly tactics....punjab did a great job in green revolution now they should move on towards industry....

[@souravdutta9102]

Humare choriya choro se kam hai ke

[@royamehr4937]

These men deserve it. They go home marry women much younger their age. Then once these women arrive here. These men treating them disrespectfully. You need to tell both side stories🥲🥲🥲

[@fai3379]

❤️❤️

[@sonatestd2085]

Feminist spotted

[@Home-o2v4h]

Shame on you. I regret being a feminist.

[@pessimistofc]

Only thing that comes to my mind....mhaari choriyan choro se kam hai ke

[@AscentArchives12354]

This is a real menace in Punjab nowadays. And it's also the fault of the parents who tend to these false marriages to send their kids abroad. Then they cry about it.

[@Stressmessexpress]

As someone who lives abroad (without duping anyone), I do wish to say how the status of women in India is a big contributor to women ‘leaving’ people behind. There exists so much patriarchy in the country, which also gets internalised by you and other women. Things like “how will you be able to doXYZ alone?” Is a question commonly asked when you suggest you’re thinking about doing something (like moving to a new city) deemed perfectly acceptable for men. The western world is completely different for women shackled by patriarchy as you have more say and agency over your life-something you never even knew you could have in India. But, of course, there are people who label these women “open minded” and “characterless”. Is it right to have a contractual marriage? No. Is it right to abandon people and drive them to suicide? No. However, we also do need to understand the underlying issues.

[@yakkkimitsu5088]

So true! Women suffer in this backwardly world. They cant live a life they deserve. I wholefully support any woman that tries To escape this hell. Good for them

[@ertfgghhhh]

Don't blame patriarchy. These women are scamming these men

[@AntonioCostaRealEstate]

Precisely. My point. Also mind there must be fewer marriage ready females in Punjab than men

[@alizekazmi3129]

this woman was just selfish and vindictive. i dont knkw about other cases, but this is just brutal. she planned this all out and was lucky she got such a tolerant guy. if anh husband did this to her, she would eat her parents/siblibgs/friends ear off complaining. yet he stayed quiet anf stead fast. i domt care abkut other cases. she didnt need to be cruel. i dont know how u can prioritise gettint an education or going abroad, ovr a human life. she literally also destroyed his parents lives. her freedom accounts for shit if its at the expense of others. its better to live a normal life as a good person, than to live a free life as a selfish person. shes just as bad as all those who oppress women. she oppressed another human being. thats what should count. man or woman, dont be a shit person. edit/ grammar

[@alizekazmi3129]

btw, she went alone. no one questioned sending her alone. ffs.

[@prakashraghunathan2685]

The print is the only journalism which has transparency and daring young people who innvestigate in depth.

[@sankalp6872]

At the heart of it lies Punjab's industrial policy (or to be precise the lack of it). Irrespective of who wins Punjab 2022, I do not see political discourse willing to address these "minor" problems. Only when it becomes a CATASTROPHE political class will take it up.

[@Rhonda996]

Congress is destroying punjab on a daily basis. They are only interested in their own welfare not that of punjab. Only the BJP is bringing real progress and development to India. Congress & AAP are just high on gimmicry and small freebies to fool citizens.

[@goldenbrown3283]

@@Rhonda996 alkali / BJP were the party of Punjab for the past 20 years !!! Congress have only come into power recently !!! The problems go back to BJP/ akali governments !!!!. The judicial system for Punjab and Haryana is in Chandigarh which is directly controlled by the central government !!!. Chandigarh is a union territory. !!!! The police of Punjab and Haryana are controlled by central government !!!!

[@parvadhami980]

Punjab missed the "Reforms driven industrialization/growth in device sector in 1991 due to insurgency.

[@animeuniverse5586]

And I recall an incident from punjab during farm bills protest, they destroyed Jio towers. Which company in their right mind would set-up in an area where its local can destroy it? No company would

[@jatin2665]

@@goldenbrown3283only the police of the union territory comes under the central government not the whole state.

[@afriendabroad2083]

The abandoned spouse was trying to violate Canadian immigration laws via this contract marriage. He tried to do something illegal, tried to trick the Canadian government, got what he deserves.

[@anews7608]

One day when a tragedy hits your family you are going to regret and think back about this abhorrent and heartless comment

[@osasosas2982]

I'm sad for you that you don't have compassion. Also you're very uninformed in this matter. She abandoned him and you're saying he deserved it. Nobody deserves it, regardless of whether they tricked any govt. You appear to be an immigrant yourself, so have some grace.

[@dextor0000]

Punjab is atleast 5 times richer than Bihar but up/Biharis are not so desparate to migrate outside India....even north east is backward but they still don't complaint about being born in India.

[@rajeevgulia9700]

At least the print is talking of real issues

[@indirage]

It is so easy to make agent a scapegoat. From 1960s or probably even before that Punjab has been exporting people. First it was UK, then US, Australia Canada and now New Zealand, Turkey, Italy Malta. There are Punjabis go to USA as refugees through Mexico. The obsession of settling overseas is real. All these people who later come and blame agents they already from beginning that their case for legal means is very weak. So then they start forging academic documents, job appointment letters, money laundering to show they have funds and all those things. People pay good money because the objective is legal or illegal way they want to settle in US, CANADA, AUSTRALIA, NEW ZEALAND. Italian agriculture and cheese industry is running because Punjabis working as bonded labourers for 12-14 hrs a day. The literally live like slaves in Italy but backhome they pretend as they are living like royal family in Italy because they earn in Euro. This glamourisation traps other unsuspecting people in Punjab and makes them feel that they should go to Italy for better life, so they sell their lands to go there only to find that they have become beggars in Italy. Now they cannot even go back because- Log ki kahenge. In Punjab it is very common that when a boy or girl gets a Canadian, UK, Australia student visa someone (within family or relatives) will approach the visa holders family asking the the kids get married and in return they will bear all the wedding expenses, study and living expenses and when the visa holder gets their permanent residency, they will sponsor the spouse. The obsession is real. The marriage is only on paper, the consummations of marriage never happens that means they never llive as husband and wife. All these people are now crying river over the boy, did they not know this sham marriage was just for convivence to get the boy advantage of spouse visa. The heading is so wrong on so many levels, it should be "Punjabi study permit holders get in contract marriages to get funding for education and money for promise to sponsor the spouse only later on abandon their husbands. Punjabis are all aware of the scams and fraud. Go to Bhatinda, Patiala Gurdaaspur, you meet anyone and tell them that you are from Australia, UK, New Zealand Canada, their first reaction will be - do you know any marriageable age boy or girl with citizenship, or work visa, we know someone to pay to get married. Indians are obsessed with living abroad.

[@nishiltanwani241]

It's really sad what these young men have to go through in Punjab...

[@Salman-Bin-Ahmed]

Sa? I'd say its embarrassing that Punjab has accepted this model of giving birth to duds who want to live on their wife's success. embarrassing.

[@wingsoffreedom4292]

@@Salman-Bin-Ahmed many women live on their husbands wealth, what's wrong if the opposite happens.?

[@Salman-Bin-Ahmed]

@@wingsoffreedom4292 Nothing wrong if something like that happens, but to actively ask YOUR wife to do the hard work, while you try to mooch on her, is a problem for me. Is not for you? Would you happily mooch off of your wife's hard earnings?

[@nishiltanwani241]

Well he wasn't living on her earnings he was going to earn for himself and sponsored her education in the first place

[@Salman-Bin-Ahmed]

@@nishiltanwani241 he wanted to mooch off of his wife. His wife is the real one who could go to Canada to begin with. His wife is the one who could legally Earn over there, what will a villager do in canada, you think he could work legally over there? Have you been there? Do you know its rules?

[@sam25332]

The punjabans pulled an UNO reverse on Punjabi Men. Lmao

[@metatron-scribeofgod6572]

Dude u cracked me up.

[@eaglemgtow2789]

🤣🤣🤣

[@user-wd7un9qq2p]

When a married woman dies by suicide it becomes a case of dowry automatically in Indian law, but when a married man dies of suicide it is due to his own fault, people say he must be mentally weak and a coward 😶🙄

[@rsrs6959]

Double standards!

[@josephhuerell6686]

I think men wants gay not want wife. Not coward or scared.

[@aena5995]

😮 men complaining about the patriarchy thst is their own doing 😂😂😂😂

[@mayankmehta.1117]

​@@aena5995accountability is a kryptonite for women

[@ivyimogene]

Men started doing it first. Now women have learnt the same tricks.

[@earthlng]

After seeing the freedom, no women want to return to the Great Indian Kitchen.

[@manansharma6348]

probably you are some of indian origin liviong in west disattached to reality

[@earthlng]

@@manansharma6348 Agree, not associated with your reality.

[@beebomm9343]

After drugs, punjabi lads now have no wives 😂

[@gayan369]

Wait till Karma kisses them!. Their whole world will be shattered and will be turn in to Ashes!

[@ranjittyagi2846]

😆 🤣

[@gayan369]

🤣🤣😂😂😂

[@bossman1502]

You kill your daughters, you prefer sons over daughters. Later, somehow you managed to get a girl for your son and she abandoned him for her own good. Now, your son is frustrated and unable find another woman because of shortage of women in Punjab and he commits suicide. Good for you!! Learn to love and respect women more.

[@Nobodyssomebody-ob6pd]

I agree 💯

[@James-oc2zb]

When you buy a wife, what do you expect?

[@cauliflowerhead2735]

Basically joblessness has caused people to arrange marriages with partners with high IELTS scores. The guys simply wanted a green card not a marriage. There are other states where these youngsters will get jobs, why not try there? Like banglore, mumbai, chennai, delhi...

[@pbc5137]

Who wants to live in India?

[@nagallapruthvi6635]

While it's sad, I just can't ignore the funny side of it. In a society that believes men are superior, this seems a tad funny.

[@crystalblueocean]

Yes, and ironic :)

[@പരുന്ത്]

I am not really amazed by your reaction. But it definitely shows how you think. A lot of people are like you instead of thinking a human being has a problem it's all about he's a man she's a woman.

[@kashutosh9132]

@@പരുന്ത് Hard truth

[@പരുന്ത്]

@@kashutosh9132 yeah unfortunately.

[@Qwerty-jc3so]

Patriarchy backfiring at men

[@AliceMuitofeliz_01]

In Portugal there's a rule that if a baby is born in Portugal, citizenship will easily obtain. Just bcx of getting citizenship, I know a girl from Delhi and a boy from Hyderabad got married under contract basis that, to make a baby and thru that baby they will apply for citizenship. later they will go for divorce and will abandon the poor child. This kind of contract is really heartbreaking 🙄what kind of cruelty they are doing to that poor child inorder to get a citizenship. The most nasty part is that the boy is already married and his spouse is in Hyderabad. 🙄🙄

[@AliceMuitofeliz_01]

One more couple from Punjab. He brought his wife to Europe after getting Residence card. But, he left his wife n 2 big kids n went to Germany to live with his GF. Without telling his wife n family he just eloped from home. Wife has filed a missing case. 🙄🙄

[@gokuvegeta9500]

​@@AliceMuitofeliz_01 You're a woman so you're only highlighting the cases of men Women do it way more

[@AliceMuitofeliz_01]

@@gokuvegeta9500 I know them personally. Thy were my neighbors. That's y mentioned Abt their stories. 🙄🙄 🤦🤦

[@gokuvegeta9500]

@@AliceMuitofeliz_01 Fair enough

[@ayishaks6510]

This is good vs bad, not men vs women. Both sides do it. Accusing someone of gender politics for no reason is silly. ​@@gokuvegeta9500

[@jitmick]

Today's job needs very different kind of skills, just getting a couple of university degrees won't really help, society as a whole should understand this and train themselves in future oriented skills, very difficult for kids who are growing up in rural or mofussil households...hope things change fast at the ground level

[@jitmick]

@Supratik Sarkar please broaden your horizon, your comment is very radical, we need not destroy anything 🙏

[@therandomyoutubechannel3026]

It goes both ways , men and women both get abandoned . There is major unemployment in panjab ,PANJABIS have been leaving india for employment in droves for decades now , the lucky one's have made it ,the unfortunate ones have suffered a lot trying to make it .

[@aanchalfinwoman]

Majority west up is dependent on agriculture. We are not a very wealthu state as well. But here u will not see much desire to settle in foreign country from lower middle class family. May be it depends on surroundings.

[@Home-o2v4h]

Can you stop being so insensitive for a moment ?

[@chikmandi2767]

It's not a marriage.. these guys are using marriage as a business tool...loss is the first rule of any business..so why are they crying now

[@sundars6549]

Migrate to Canada.Then demand Khalistan (for what ? After all you have "escaped" from India ! The punjabi farmer expects too much for parting with land.No industrialist can invest so much,just to set up shop.Hence no industrial growth,no jobs etc etc.How long can the punjabi farmer blackmail the Indian State? And live off the Indian taxpayer ? Wise and firm political leadership is lacking.

[@manikkudyar1159]

Be single,be happy 🙏

[@abundanciaygratitud7744]

I say smart women. After centuries of abusing husband...it's time women give them a taste of their own medicine.

[@shekharchoudhary4792]

Very sad to see young lovepreet gone like this. We need people like kartar singh sarabha..bhagat singh , Sohan Singh bhakna ..they loved their country and wanted to make country free . We need young leadership .. entrepreneurship in punjab so that PPL understand that Canada is not heaven life is tough every where .

[@No-om5qn]

But now days bhagat Singh and udham Singh’s are khalistani for brahmins so we don’t care about this fucken nation

[@shekharchoudhary4792]

@@No-om5qn can you give source of your claim?? You may have personal hatred towards Brahmins....that is another issue..you don't care about nation that we already know. Why don't you atleast care about your won PPL who is responsible for lovepreet Singh's death Brahmins?? Don't worry India has lot of ppl who take inspiration from baghat singh...we don't need narcotics consuming hatred filled PPL. PPL from punjab who care for nation are already on borders from sepoy to generals..fr bollywood to corporate India.we all are proud of them . You can sleep with ISI good luck.

[@abhinashkumar3161]

@@No-om5qn get a life dude

[@nabaninandi4140]

Of course lovepreet doesn't gives a flying finger for india...he hired a girl to get visa for him...then leave india for good....and call himself as american or canadian citizen....if it was for job then I would have understood...but he deliberately wants to leave india as if its a village country...

[@mohitpanchal1964]

Punjab n Gujrat are in a race....which state can devise more illegal means to get into Canada /US.

[@cauliflowerhead2735]

Dude no one wants to go to Canada more than folks from Punjab. It's a much bigger trend there, even statistically...

[@sommyaruproy8405]

Don't compare to gujrat.

[@akashravi3995]

I think instead of gujarti you can add telugu people they are more interested in moving out. Rather you will find gujarati even in african countries doing business.

[@akashravi3995]

@Mother Earth Yeah but wherever you see gujarati people start doing business. Even in tn many gujarati and telugu people do business.

[@akashravi3995]

@Mother Earth Hmm interesting. In TN there is telugus vs nadar vs gounder vs chetty. Gujarati mostly doing business in urban areas. Among telugu it is kammas are the largest group I read some where. But I don't know but they are mostly integrated.

[@kaylab.7424]

I’m on HER side. They treat their women like pure garbage. Karma’s a bitch!! I hope she’s happy and thriving💕

[@MrJay-mn5hq]

Wtf

[@Dman34565]

That's racist

[@kaylab.7424]

@@MrJay-mn5hq pretty sick huh. Anyone upset with my statement 2 yrs ago can shove it. It’s the truth and I also say, WTF to how they openly treat their wives and women. What I said is apparently so appalling but not how they treat actual human beings..? Got it.

[@kaylab.7424]

@@Dman34565 wishing her to thrive & happiness is racist? U just hate women. …… which sounds about right.

[@bodhisattva6308]

Not the full story. The boy also got married and paid for woman’s education so he could go abroad and settle. It’s a marriage of convenience situation. Each will try to double cross other... it’s called a sham wedding. Neither of the parties are honest