Therapist reacts to Staind - It's Been A While

Therapist analyzes the lyrics of It's been a while by Staind to discuss how it being a while can actually be a hopeful thing because it means that at some point the things you want now were a reality. It means it's an accessible feeling the individual is seeking, which is easier than starting from scratch.
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[@user-wi2dt6ki9d]

Saw Staind in 1999 Aaron was a heroin addict This song is actually about his recovery and a fourth step Anyone in recovery should truly understand

[@jamesw8698]

think i saw staind with the sick an twiztid tour

[@MZ-bl6wg]

My favorite song is his pretty recent live version of “Lost and Lonely” a song he wrote for his wife while in rehab for the last time. The ownership & realism , vulnerability he takes about is SO real & heart felt & the live version with just him, an acoustic guitar and a slide guitar is SO beautiful! If you haven’t seen it on KZbin it’s so worth a watch. 🙂

[@0Cruik0]

There's so many great songs to look at from Staind. Epiphany is probably a good one after this, but it just keeps going.

[@Tonyam1222]

I can't get enough of Staind The new album HITS

[@JeremeyCowles]

It's been awhile since he wasn't a heroin addict..."cannot blame this on my father..." "I can still remember just the way you taste" "Since I could see myself straight" "All the shit seems to disappear when I'm with you" Heroin addicts are in misery until they get their dose. "Since I held my head up high"...heroin addicts NOD, they aren't holding their heads up much. And...nodding will also cause someone to unknowingly drop their lit cigarette and burn the place down, like at the end of the video! 7:30

[@minamarciano3561]

I concur.

[@jiveturkey2875]

Epiphany is the greatest. It means a lot more.. to a lot more people... than they intended it to.

[@aa_solemates89]

Epiphany was like my childhood, for how messed up I was from everything I was going through as a child dealing with adhd at such a young age and poverty and with 1 parent basically. It was my favorite song as a kid at 12 or 13. I still get emotional from that song to this day. Amazing song!

[@robtater5543]

Early Staind was so good. Their first album is a banger and when they entered this ballad style, they put out PHENOMINAL music! Epiphany is one of my favorite songs from Staind and it deserves a listen. Kind of the same wheelhouse as this one, but so broken down and just awesome! Great reaction.

[@mikeacuna6077]

Dysfunction was so powerful and raw, I love it!

[@Syzygy77]

Mudshovel goes pretty hard.

[@robtater5543]

@@Syzygy77 YES!!! One of my favorites!

[@robtater5543]

@@mikeacuna6077 HELL YEAH! Definitely a banger all the way through!

[@B-Rockabilly]

Still putting out bangers, that collab with Dorothy was awesome!

[@kurtborchers6178]

as a therapist, "Something to remind you" is one song of theirs you really must react to.

[@MinuteManClips]

Her being a therapist doesn't make her qualified to have an educated opinion on these songs but dummies like you will come on here and feed her fragile ego and tell her how important her opinion is. Her opinion means about as much as mine or yours. Yall are annoying af

[@seanhanley7777]

absolutely

[@jmike8934]

I'd add that the live version is what needs to be reacted to. There is a level of emotion that he connects to with the lyrics that doesn't exist in the studio version

[@seanhanley7777]

@jmike8934 the live version is good and he does show emotion value perfectly and should be reacted to. That being said the studio version is a definite listen to request on your own time as it in my own opinion is the best version

[@yvmqznrmx3971]

i fully agree, so deeply also it's my dads favourite song from staind

[@carlb641]

This song kills me all the time. Story of my life, still living it.

[@user-yh7ip1yh8i]

Same here brother. I lost the greatest woman because of my mistakes.

[@brentbrentham6303]

I feel you brother

[@TMacGamer]

youre not alone

[@cashaw8775]

Haha...exactly.

[@StephanieEMT16]

Aaron with this stripped down to him and an acoustic is incredible. You can FEEL it. He’s “that voice” for me when he’s in that place. “something to remind you” live at the Mohegan Sun is literally written into my will to play at my funeral. Him reflecting on life after being told about a fan committing suicide…..he FEELS it and he will make you feel it. ❤

[@shanewilkerson5128]

Stained is one of the most underrated bands of the last 30 years

[@scottthompson4193]

Underrated? They have sold millions of albums, had many top 10 hits. ???? Chevelle is a true underrated band of the last 30 years..

[@Sabamonster]

@@scottthompson4193 Regardless of the popularity they DID see, they were still underrated. They were popular but not nearly as popular as they should have been.

[@harbard_berserkr2952]

Excess baggage was the hidden track from their album, "dysfunction." I listened to it several times. Still my favorite by them.

[@mpd370]

Yes. Excess Baggage is so sad. Dealing with demons.

[@dimitriodee]

It’s been awhile since I listened to this song

[@TheScorpio1999]

I've felt every bit of the pain of not only this song, but every song on the entire album this song is on. I was in a pretty deep pit for a long time in the early 2000s - this lingering depression. Yet I kept wandering, looking for something, even if there was nothing to find. In early 2006, interestingly enough in the context of this channel; ya know what song you recently reacted to that pulled me out of that pit? It was "Stinkfist" by Tool. THAT song, lit a FIRE inside of me. Tool has often lended me strength through music.

[@Hellseeker1]

Man, I need a fucking hug.

[@jackierineer7521]

Sending you a hug!❤️ I’m sorry your hurting.

[@zippymacadoo6336]

Virtual hug incoming. I need one, too.

[@user-zo5gv8ls7k]

Hugs ❤

[@Sherbear60]

Here's a hug 🫂!!

[@thomaszach43]

Virtual hugs from me man

[@chinoherrera1970]

Staind is so nostalgic for me, definitely check out the song fade that one hits on a personal level.

[@jxstified7558]

Lost and Lonely acoustic version is phenomenal by him, its about him going to rehab.

[@Ikfer10]

Aaaah... That's a great great song... The feeling that Aaron puts into singing is unique, seeing him sing a live version is great!! I think he and Sully Erna are the kind who sound incredibly good live.

[@meghanmonroe]

Saturday will be 13 years since I kicked opioids. Unfortunately, my active addiction left a huge damage path, including my first significant relationship. And it's been a while since I could say I love myself...maybe I never had that ability. But this song has been making me cry since high school.

[@HeartSupport]

From Lisalovesfeathers: @meghanmonroe Firstly can I say how bloody amazing it is that you have managed to firstly kick opioids and remain off of them for 13 years!!! What an amazing feat but not one that is plain sailing I am sure. I can imagine it was incredibly difficult, sometimes seemed impossible and there were many occasions you wanted to throw in the towel? But it appears that strength, courage and determination won through, sadly any fight like that will leave scars and my first instinct is to tell you to wear them with pride however its bloody hard to say goodbye to your first love. That one always feels super special and sometimes they genuinely are and sometimes they really are not, you just haven’t known anyone better to weigh them up against. To find that person, that person who will be the one, you do indeed need to feel deserved of that. I already think you are but now you need to know it, What you have accomplished should make you the hero of your own story, love yourself for that, recognise that this amazing person who has fought this addiction, this wonderful beautiful soul who wants and deserves love, affection and joy is deserving of it. Start by looking in the mirror and just saying “I am a good person, I love, I am loved, I love myself” eventually you will begin to believe it and once you do you will see things begin to open up and get lighter for you. People will see the lightness in you and be drawn to that. Its true and quite fascinating. I would love to know if you try and how you get on. Best of luck. Lisa x

[@HeartSupport]

From Shan: @meghanmonroe Hi friend, Thank you for sharing. First, with it being Saturday, I'd like to wish you a happy 13 years!! Being clean and overcoming an opioid addiction for 13 years, and counting, is such an AMAZING accomplishment. I am so happy for you and proud of you - and I hope that you are too. I am sorry to hear about the things that you lost on your journey so far, and I imagine it can be hard to move on from when we think about the hurt or damage that have occurred. We can't change the past, we can only do things in the present, and already you have made decisions to better yourself and your future, and that is commendable. This is just an outsiders opinion, but I think, at the least, there was a time where you did have self-love because it takes soo much to be able to make a decision to get clean and to stick to that process. Maybe with the feelings of guilt that you feel, you lost sight of that self-love along the way. I hope that you will one day be able to forgive yourself for what happened whilst actively engaging in opioid addiction, and that you can forgive yourself for the things that you lost. You have taken steps to repair what damage could be repaired and you have been doing better for yourself. You are human, and you are doing your best. :white_heart:

[@HeartSupport]

From Celine_N: @meghanmonroe Hello, Thank you for sharing this with us, and I am sorry you are having a difficult time. I wanted to go out and say that I am so proud of you doing something with the opoid addiction. Your feelings are valid but I believe that you have loved yourself before; if you could say that you loved yourself before then you have the ability to love yourself again. Life is complex and full of changes; we live and we learn. We can't change the past but your experiences makes you flourish. Sometimes difficult paths leads to beautiful destinations. I love this quote "Life is like a roller coaster. It has its ups and downs..but its your choice to scream or enjoy the ride". I hoped this helped. Feel free to reach out to us anytime, we are always here to support you.

[@westbank5436]

13 yrs is a HUGE accomplishment, congrats!! Unfortunately I'm in the middle of a 6 month long relapse and trying to get into detox as we speak!!! I just want to break this 20 yr cycle I've been going through!! Much love to you and 13 yrs, keep at it....

[@meghanmonroe]

@@westbank5436 I'm sending you good thoughts. I know you can do this.

[@WykkedMofo]

Despite their band name, Hatebreed is a band you should check out. They spew positivity in pretty much every song. "Defeatist", "I Will Be Heard", "To The Threshold", "This Is Now" & SO MANY others. Check them out! Enjoyed your reaction. I used to listen to "It's Been Awhile" SO MUCH back in the day. Keep up the GREAT work! 🤘🤘🤘

[@MinuteManClips]

Hatebreed has always been garbage

[@merkedya1169]

Hatebreed should definitely be checked out. They are amazing, full of positivity. If i remember, supremacy albumb was written when the singer was dealing with the loss of his father.

[@chadknapp5170]

I love how you just get right into...no long, 5 minute intro with a bunch of ads or anything. Just jump right in...much appreciated🤘💯

[@1MeanMike]

Alice in Chains Nutshell Unplugged

[@Betsone_]

This man knows how to capture emotion in his music… Always hits hard. Tough childhood abandoned by mom … If you wanna explore his darker songs EXCESS BAGGAGE FOUR WALLS Are great songs to dive into

[@Deadmaninc81]

Divorced three times, my depression issues, ptsd, and so on all basically drove everyone away. I’ve learned over the years that I need to work on things and therefore have sought help and tried. Still alone and go through a lot of days that I replay life and how I’ve dicked it all up. Still here though, still hopeful that I can find a way to get happiness and love back. Songs like this help

[@HeartSupport]

From djstarion: @Deadmaninc81 Hey friend! I totally get where you're coming from. I'm glad you've learned that you need to work on things and sought help! I do have a question, if that's okay. What kind of help have you reached out to? If you've reached out to a therapist or someone and it didn't work out, I'd highly suggest finding someone who specifically deals with PTSD. It's kinda like going to a doctor. There's general practice doctors and specialized ones. It's kinda the same way with mental health professionals. Finding the right one can be tricky, but when you do, it can be a huge help! Also, have you checked on any support groups in your area? They are an excellent option as well, because the best way to get your true feelings out and be supported and listened to is when you're talking to people who have gone through the same trials and situations you have. They've walked in your shoes, and fought your battles. It could definitely be worth looking into. Regardless, you've got this!

[@HeartSupport]

From toastaintbad: @Deadmaninc81 Hi @HeartSupport_Fans, It's awesome that you are trying to improve your mental health. I struggled with trauma once in awhile. Trauma is difficult to manage but I sometimes try to not get into my head. You can never changed in the past but all you can is reflect and fix those mistakes. Sometimes music helps me with mental health issues.

[@HeartSupport]

From lizuh: @Deadmaninc81 The most powerful thing to hold onto when struggling with anything like PTSD, depression etc is hope. Hope can push you into action and take your life back into your hands. You know that you want love and happiness, and you haven't given up on it. Regardless of your past choices, broken relationships etc, you are NEVER too far gone to turn around and walk in a direction towards healing.

[@HeartSupport]

From Shan: @Deadmaninc81 Hi friend, I'm sorry to hear about the ways your struggle with depression, ptsd, and mental health have impacted your life and your past relationships. However, I am so proud of you for taking steps to work on things and to seek help. That alone takes such strength and shows such growth. This is all a journey and a process. There will be good days and bad days where you think all about the past and that "only ifs" start to kick in. But I encourage you to stay strong. We can't change our past, only the present and our future. And you have already started the hard work towards that change. I'm glad to hear that you are still hopeful. I hope with you! And I believe in you, that you can and will find happiness and a healthy flourishing love. You deserve them both! :white_heart:

[@HeartSupport]

From Micro: @Deadmaninc81 Proud of you, friend. For seeking help and being open about what you've been struggling with. Depression, PTSD and the strain it can have on our relationships are huge burdens to carry. It's been strong of you to not let yourself carry those burdens alone anymore. I know there's a part of our mind when we're deep in the trenches that tries to convince us that nothing's worth it anymore. But through it all, through all days you've cried, felt numb or could only survive, *you* have always been worth it, my friend. There is a way through this, even if during some seasons time seems to be our only asset. I wholeheartedly believe in you. :heart:

[@TMacGamer]

This song always hits me a certain way for so many reasons. I'm glad this showed up in my feed today.

[@jamessandifer3405]

He does country now, plus lots of patriotic music. He sings with so much heart period.

[@kylemcgill9146]

Staind got back together. He does country but still doing rock

[@Jcikokalol]

And it's all God given talent. He does the worst things for his vocals. Drinks, smokes, doesn't warm up, doesn't cool down. And 20+ years later he srill sounds just as good. He even got back with staind and has done some screaming in the new stuff, back to an older my fav version of staind

[@danielriggs3357]

I just wanted to share that I came upon your video by accident since I was vibing to some music from earlier in my life. I'm a therapist as well, but it is often hard to be objective when evaluating yourself in my experience. Your comments on, "a while," really made an impact on me. The idea that happiness in the past is an indication that that can happen again was what I needed to hear and helped me to put things in a better perspective. Thanks for what you do!

[@nicklemere8524]

You are such an amazing woman. What a great perspective. Im so glad you share your light as you do in all your videos. I pray that you help many suffering people. Keep shining your light!

[@skitz1020]

I relate so much to this song, I've been in therapy off and on since I was 4yo. Major depressive, BPTSD, I also have a tendency to self destruct myself and crave normalcy. This song resonates deeply with me.

[@monicak7319]

I love Staind. This is one of my favorite songs off that album. A few others are Please, Schizophrenic Conversations, The Way I Am, Pardon Me....

[@kimleith1378]

Staind sustained me in early recovery. Emotionally "gut shot" bleeding outta holes I didn't know I had when I got sober. So grateful to Aaron. Had a Catholic Priest tell me music can be Prayer. I belived him. He was sober in recovery 25 yrs at the time.

[@waylonbreaux2366]

this song hits so damn hard for me because it sums up 2003, when i threw away my wife and my life for nothing but a temporary release. this was the song i was blasting at home when the cops came and picked me up.

[@LeandroOlavarria]

You're such a beautiful person. I love your reaction. Thank you so much for your work ❤

[@lamaze2295]

This song will always remind me of the love of my life, twice over now. We were engaged over 20 years ago and things didnt work out. She came back into my life during the pandemic, and fundamentally changed me. Reminded me of who I was, who Ive always been. Sadly it didnt work out. I am thankful thou to her because I know Jesus again and who I have always been, even thou I buried it deep to hide the pain.

[@Rang3rz]

my dad would listen to staind all the time especially this song while i was growing up which lead me to liking the song , i eventually realized we both liked it so much because of the stuff that happened in our childhoods.

[@robertalvarado4633]

❤❤❤ I can relate to the addiction. My wife passed away in 2014 it'll be 10 years in September. But ur video's definitely help... Thank you for your videos.😢😢😢😢

[@shanebrewster8555]

Craziest song i ever heard dance with the devil by immortal technique

[@toddb3738]

Another good video...dang it's been so long since I have listened to this song. Crazy to think how long it's been out now already. Still can't wait for you to do some more Ren, especially his song with Chincilla, "Chalk Outlines". The verses/message in there I think will blow you away, and can't wait to see how you interpret it.

[@Levi-ou2zm]

So many bangers with Staind. You should do Epiphany next!

[@mattlaunt1438]

Thank you for your message of hope😊

[@andrewchandler9197]

Music like this is what has got me through my darkest days. Being a man I never talk about my feelings. I simply stuff it down and keep fighting. These guys made me feel not so alone.

[@Justin7Wooden]

This band and song means a lot to me. Thank you for doing it justice

[@papabeard2242]

The origin of this song was written and improved on stage at a Limp Biscet concert where they opened and he sang this song amazingly and it became an overnight success

[@tw200rocks]

how did i get here?

[@Laat-Dovah-Kiin]

Second!! Can you please react to the band Hatebreed. "Destroy Everything", "defeatist", "I will be heard", "seven enemies" all excellent songs in my opinion.

[@PML78]

Everyone Bleeds Now 🤘🏽😎

[@MinuteManClips]

Hatebreed sucks dude

[@Laat-Dovah-Kiin]

@@MinuteManClips everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but yours is wrong...

[@ramonabukatyuk2475]

Glad I experienced this Band years ago ❤❤

[@jeremylong7533]

This definitely brings back memories. I absolutely love Staind. Haven't listened to them in years. Break the cycle and Dysfunction were incredible albums. Need to react to more Staind for sure

[@user-yr3hu1ug7r]

Love this band. so many good lyrics and music from these guys. definitely worth the rabbit hole

[@hamrick33]

My God, that speech at the end… chills! Loved it!!

[@4helm]

There were years where I couldn’t listen to this song since it hit home with me so hard

[@user-te6st9dm1x]

Staind is awesome 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 Seen them 2x recently and will see them again in September!! Can’t wait!!

[@MinuteManClips]

I saw them open for korn on the issues tour back in 2000. That was when they were actually good. Now Aaron is a miserable person who puts his political views on full display instead of shutting up and playing his music

[@theloveofhockey42]

You words are what I needed. TY.

[@xtop23]

Still one of my favorite songs of all time. Masterpiece.

[@Frank-pe9pk]

Just saw Aaron Lewis a few weeks ago. He played a lot of Staind songs and covers. Great show.

[@jacobtrowbridge9767]

So many great songs to choose from Staind

[@HandleTakenlol]

This piece and others helped me a lot after the death of my mother, followed by an extremely unfortunate relationship with a textbook narcissist. I'm feeling much better now, but listening to this takes me right back to that place.

[@user-rn4ki9qu1x]

This song always gets me😢 and it pisses me off love 💕 your reactions!

[@JamesMaccomedy]

@heartsupport that feeling of coming out of a deep depression is such an amazing feeling

[@daniels5607]

This song is my child hood singing it loud and proud.

[@my_own_pace]

Just recently discovered the channel - thank you for your work and dedication to improving mental health. Love to hear you react to “To The Flowers” by While She Sleeps

[@jonandkristen]

Staind was my go to band to listen to back in high school (late 90's, early 2000's) - Got me through some of the harder times in my youth. I once heard their music genre described as Self-Rock Therapy and always felt like it was fitting. Their music definitely hits you in that part of your soul that helps you get over your troubles.

[@jameshathcock6579]

Been living this song for over a year now

[@eyespyyourspy1328]

Every teenager in the late 90's early 2000's can identify with this song on a "failed relationship" level. As a Divorced father at 38 I can identify with this in many other ways. Its been awhile since I saw my kids, its been awhile since I could see my own smile, its been awhile since I could feel like the man I once was trying so hard to be for my kids. Even though its been awhile I still keep trying to hold my head up high and be that man ai know I always was and can be even if my children aren't allowed to witness and learn from it. I may have not been the most sensitive husband or father, Marines are not sensitive individuals while in service due to many reasons. But I always loved my wife and kids whole heartedly and always did my very best to provide what I thought and felt was a stable and secure life. However being a Marine I spent a good chunk of time away from home and my ex-wifes eyes began to wander. It was my fault for being called in to duty and working too much, she needed a man home with her and in her bed when I was away. I didn't satisfy her needs in the bedroom often enough as I was away, but Jody was always there for her... I'm one of millions of Military Service mwmbers with this story. We are willing to die for our Family and Country's defense, but our wives are not willing to remain loyal to our marriage. And in the end most of us who served are butchered in court like I was. Because I'm a Marine I am dangerous, a trained killer, and abusive. Even with absolutely no evidence to support those lies they are written in stone and I carry that perception everywhere. Never once lifted a finger in anger against my family, might have chose poor words during disputes, but who hasn't? Its insane being held to far higher standards than others and then demonized for choosing to offer your service to your Country. It's Been Awhile since our Society had any respect for those willing to die for it.

[@eyespyyourspy1328]

@@xOsleepwalkerOx Talking out of line doesn't either. 2 Holidays in the United States that Celebrate Veterans and their accomplishments. Not a single holiday for Jerks. Veterans Day and Independence Day you're welcome

[@eyespyyourspy1328]

@@xOsleepwalkerOx Also less of being willing to end lives and more like willing to give my life so people like you can continue being ungrateful and condescending idiocrat.

[@user-tq7ks2xu1c]

I remember this song so much!

[@brianwj5]

This is my all time favorite band. The music had helped me through a lot over the years. "For You" would be perfect to get your perspective on. Also my favorite song "something to remind you." "Outside" and "mudshovel" are Staind classics. There are two songs of the new album... "Better Days" and the title track "Confessions of the Fallen"❤️no videos for those two but the lyrics are powerful.

[@MattWatters-fi7dl]

Yes please go down the rabbit hole of Staind and Aarons solo stuff. Please please. Any song. They are all good

[@gabeluvsnumetal]

staind had some of the most emotional music i’ve heard. their album that had mudshovel on it is really good.

[@seanpassmore7190]

I feel this song in the depths of my soul.

[@erichoiem9597]

I had a whole planned out way to express my gratitude to you and HeartSupport... But like always, it vanished as soon as I pressed the first key. Thank you for what you do.

[@BA-pz3lo]

one of my favorite songs ❤

[@krsmedley]

“Something to remind you” (live version is great), “waste,” or “everything changes” i’d love to see you react to from Staind. Thanks for your videos! Love em. P.S. on a different note, “When a demon defiles a witch” by Whitechapel!

[@gregkurtz8609]

Yes can Def relate the overdose of my ex and a very toxic dependent relationship but now myself 7 years sober but still missing that one

[@philstone2627]

Came for the song cuz it cuts me to the core,subbed for the therapy.thanks

[@bradley3017]

Thank you for this reaction video

[@cybersmasher9663]

I remember when I first heard them in 96 a few months before I went to BCT and I have been a fan ever since awesome music.

[@dennismoch2515]

Great analysis

[@GizmoZR2]

99' Family Values Tour!!!!! Will never forget seeing this live!

[@MadAdam93]

this was my jam in late elementary/early middle school

[@combatvet1307]

I found what was...and it never left me! I'll always keep the advice that was given to me by a wise old man in my life..."Every choice you make will affect not just your life, but he lives of those around you! So, take your time, think first, and make a wise choice focused on others and that will ultimately take care of your needs too."

[@drewtheleaf7712]

Good reaction, this song is super feels, just got out of prison where i became addicted on intravenous opiods and intranasal pharmaceuticals, i used to cope to as i was dumped by my fiance of 3 years and was left lost and alone in prison where i saw people die. Its hard to live going forward with so much self loathing and guilt and shame.

[@HeartSupport]

From toastaintbad: @drewtheleaf7712 Hi @HeartSupport_Fans, You are super strong able to go through something difficult drug addiction, dumped by your finance, and prison. I can't even imagine seeing people die in prison that must have been super traumatizing for you. No pressure of any means! Are you seeing a mental therapist specializing with PTSD & drug addiction? I feel like talking with a mental health professional might help you understand your emotions and improving yourself little by little each day. It takes many years for people to get heal from trauma. Don't be so hard on yourself for the actions that you did in the past. At least, you are able to make out of prison alive. Let me know if you need anything else from me. I'm here to support you!

[@HeartSupport]

From Micro: @drewtheleaf7712 Thank you so much for sharing these parts of your story, friend. From one stranger on the internet: I'm proud of you for being here today, for not giving up on yourself, and for breaking the shame by opening up about your experiences. You matter so much. www.loom.com/share/8ac1527391a64c6e8782dc66002dfa0c?sid=c9aeb6fe-e49a-4e7e-83fa-6f9fb93a8a84

[@melscienerf5977]

Love you to do so far away... It's so my life anthem and I look at it differently every time I hear it depending on where my head is at at the time.

[@steveg_33]

Years ago, I heard a rumor that this song was actually about heroine. I have no idea if that’s true, but it’s definitely a different way of looking at the lyrics.

[@JohnHull-hi9qk]

This song always had a special meaning to me since my childhood.

[@JohnHull-hi9qk]

Every one of these songs I feel at the same time synonymously.

[@fernandomoya2921]

Preach!

[@demongrunt7]

this song makes me cry for all my failures

[@karahgarrison3218]

I just saw staind live last weekend ❤

[@RelUnrelated]

I'd nearly forgotten how much I enjoy Staind. This song hits a lot of emotions for me. For some reason it brought to mind the song, "Hate Me" by Blue October.

[@gstevenson7781]

This is genuinely turning into one of my favourite channels due to the content and your reactions. I’d like to recommend “Poet and the Pendulum” live at Wembley by Nightwish. It is not the normal song people start with when it comes to Nightwish, however it is the song that suits this channel the most as it deals with depression and struggle. It was written by Nightwish’s song writer the keyboardist Tuomas during the hardest time in the bands history and he basically ended his life in the song to stop himself doing it in real life, however the new song finishes positively with a new beginning. It is one of the best written pieces of music you will come across and is broken into Acts. I won’t say more about it. Nightwish hold the record for most reacted song in KZbin history with “Ghost Love Score” (normally what people start their Nightwish journey with. However, as previously mentioned, “Poet” suits this channel perfectly, especially if the research is done on the songs meaning beforehand.

[@joseynguanzo1315]

Been there, done that. But the emotions never leaves.

[@griffin2599]

What you said at the end of this song resonated with me. About two years ago, before I lost my father to COVID-19, I was working out training in martial arts; I was in phenomenal shape and felt confident and like I could do anything. My career was taking off and going in a fantastic direction. I had that drive and fire to set an excellent example for my children. I was just happy! But after I lost my dad, I became sedentary, drank more, ate badly, stopped going to the gym, stopped training martial arts, and then after a few months, I became disgusted with what I became because I realized I was not a good role model for my girls anymore. I was sitting around watching TV and not doing anything, not being active, was setting a horrible example for my girls. Anyway, I looked back at some pictures that were taken the summer before my dad passed, and all I can think is how badly I want to get back to how I felt when those photos were taken that summer. So, like you said, it’s not like I have never felt that, and therefore, you can feel that again. Will it be precisely the same? No, because my dad is no longer here, and he’s not coming back. But I think I can get close to how I felt during that wonderful time by returning to the gym and training and re-establishing that drive I had in my career and putting that energy towards my family again. Thank you!

[@damunchman3120]

One song Aaron Lewis does that hits my heart deep is 'Outside'. It explains so much and has truly helped me heal alot.

[@bennysmith3858]

To the flowers by While she sleeps is really good.

[@Lumberjack-drummer]

Fantastic song

[@josephainsworth9681]

I'm 44. Struggling husband. Failed father. This song always stops me in my tracks. Even as a kid I always feel ITS my fault. No matter what IT is. Sometimes there is no IT. This song expresses the pain, and the inherited cloud that follows always on sunny days.

[@gsturnerjr]

the struggles are real, I'm about ten years ahead of you. Stay strong...

[@HeartSupport]

From toastaintbad: @josephainsworth9681 Hi @HeartSupport_Fans, Nobody expects to be the a perfect father & husband. Don't be so hard on yourself. The more negativity that you will bring to yourself, you are going to feel way much worse than before. People fail and make mistakes that's is what make us humans. For how many times that you fail, you will always get better. Many people misinterpret as fail as losing but it's not. You are never going to be positive & upbeat every single day. Each day will comes with a difficult challenge and you can do is push it through the best that you can.

[@HeartSupport]

From Micro: @josephainsworth9681 Yes, it is so painful to feel like no matter how much or how hard you try, there is always something in the back of your mind making you feel like you are a failure. That somehow you would be to broken, too inadequate, too worthless to have the possibility to feel proud of see the good in you. This narrative can be stuck for so long in your mind that it becomes your normality. It turns into something both familiar and hated at the same time. I'm personally right there with you on this struggle bus. 31, and it's still hard to feel like I'm not guilty of all the things that are not functioning in this world. It's like wearing glasses at some point that adds different colors to your your life and to yourself. It makes you see things a certain way, and you feel it so much at your core that it's hard to rationalize those thoughts. Whenever I would see failure in my life, I would attribute it to myself, my identity and my value, which is so hurtful. As you described so well, it's like having inherited of a narrative that you keep carrying on with you even during the good times and keeps clouding your perception. You *want* to enjoy the good things in your life, but there is this thing that filters your view and make you see the glass half empty, making you feel like you are worthless and you just don't belong. I'm sorry friend that this narrative has been a significant part of your own life. It is the kind of battle that remains unseen to most, and I think it takes a lot of courage to speak up about it, to let others SEE how it is behind the curtain. Right here, you allow yourself to be vulnerable, to be authentic, and to be LOVED in the midst of what feels like utter brokenness to you. If anything, I can assure you that your pain does not define you, and the knowledge that there is more is something that can be worth holding on to, even if it's hard to see beyond the mountains of doubts, fears and feelings of guilt. You are enough just as you are, and we are blessed by your presence. :heart:

[@danielhicks7993]

I saw them at The Family Values in 1999..... he sounds the EXACT same live.... its amazing

[@user-zt4sm3go2i]

I cannot tell you how helpful you are to me. I've been listening to these songs for 30 years and did not have that perspective on them. They have always meant something to me. I've had some recent things in my life that are similar to The situations going on in this song. You really have my mind thinking another directions when it comes to my favorite music. I lost my son to suicide in 2019 and my wife left me a couple of years later. Since then I have been very alone. Heartbroken that I wasn't able to keep my family together.

[@HeartSupport]

From Micro: @user-zt4sm3go2i Oh friend. Thank you so much for being here and sharing all of this. I can’t even begin to imagine the depth of your pain right now. Losing your son to suicide is something no parent should ever have to endure. It’s like losing such a significant part of yourself, of your world. The heartbreak it leaves you with just doesn't go away. It’s always there somehow. Then to have your wife leave you a couple of years later, on top of everything - you have been experiencing such an unbearable amount of loss and sorrow. I wish to just send you lots of hugs right now, even if I know this won't make the pain go away. My heart goes out to you right now. The loneliness, I imagine, has become almost a companion during those years, making everything feel heavier and more difficult. It’s like carrying this immense weight on your own, trying to navigate a world that doesn’t make sense anymore ever since your own world has been broken to pieces. It’s this deep, gut-wrenching pain that hits you in waves, sometimes when you least expect it. Some days might feel almost manageable, and then out of nowhere, it’s like the grief, the regrets and the loneliness come crashing down all over again. It's understandable, and profoundly human, to feel lost in all of it. It also makes sense to feel like guilt has been taking over at times. Feeling like you couldn’t keep your family together and questioning what you could have done differently. Even if you might know rationally that what happened was beyond your control, there's a part of your heart that might long for a better explanation, and the possibility to make sense out of something that doesn't seem to have any. I hope my friend that, at the moment, you can take it one day at a time, or even one moment at a time when it feels all too overwhelming. You matter so very much. You’re seen, you’re heard, you are valued, even in the darkest of times. :heart:

[@shineon7641]

Imagine my surprise when my older sister told me that this song always reminded her of me?! Yeah, she told me this at my mother's funeral. It's so nice to have sisters. I divorced myself from her right then and there and it has been wonderful to not have to put up with her shit any longer. It's been 15 years now.

[@nicolasguillory1618]

Outside by staind is one of my favorite! You should check that one out next time

[@ericplantier9201]

From an analyst/therapist prospective, you’d likely enjoy “Waste” from this same album. It’s deeply emotional (despair, anger, frustration, grief) and addresses some HEAVY issues.

[@marklove3887]

This whole album is amazing, and every song reminds me of my son's mother. I think pain of the relationship became the addiction and how I related to love. I believe he's expressing/singing about the "discard stage" of a narcistic relationship.

[@MinuteManClips]

Wow not even close to spelling narcissistic right 😂😂. Stop whining and get on with life simp

[@teddymars5762]

Always loved this song!! And great reaction!! ❤ I was wondering if you would like "To the flowers" by While She Sleeps

[@RJ_Cormac]

Outside is my favorite Staind song.

[@tylerhillman5297]

This song always triggers potent emotional symptoms in me... It's been awhile since their peace in my mind I believe it was once but I cannot remember

[@ryanmireau8454]

I searched your list of videos and I really really think you need to do “wrong side of Heaven” by five finger death punch. The video itself is such a story and is so important to the mental health and understanding that so many families are torn by.

[@BuckeyeaTransplant]

Staind’s new stuff like Cycle of Hurting and Better Days are really good.