Therapist Shares How to Heal from Trauma | The Body Keeps the Score

[@nikiahota]

Thank you for this video. I have done most of these and they definitely help. I have not tried Improv and am going to give it a go and see what happens. Thanks for the suggestions

[@StephAnya]

Pinning your comment! Let me know how improv goes for you.

[@grannyklampit1710]

@@StephAnya now a video on being ridiculed for not responding to trauma in a way that others expect, understand our empathize with.

[@faisalbi1330]

@@StephAnya hi I want to ask some questions please

[@judemorales4U]

​@@StephAnyado you have to have a specific event(s) to have trauma? Could a highly unusual life filled with responsibilities cause one to be traumatized?

[@LauraAmanda8888]

Thank you for calling out the comment "everybody is traumatized". The word gets thrown around a lot in situations where it's uncalled for

[@theosymommy]

I tried improv before. It was quite an experience. I felt free and unjudged. It brought in peace and acceptance. I didn't continue with the class after a while.. I couldn't afford it anymore.. My gosh I would love to go back..

[@anabelledoom8428]

This is actually helping me, I honestly thought my trauma broke me but I think I can do this. Thanks for being positive and right to the point with these lessons

[@StephAnya]

I hope that you can find some sense of peace and normalcy through some of these ♥️

[@eileencardonalopez52]

A lil summary: 02:25 - Physical Techniques - Acupuncture - Yoga 03:35 - Communal Techniques - Dancing - Singing - Joining a church 04:50 - Imaginative Techniques - Improv - Art (song, choreo, painting etc.) - Theater 08:46 - Directive Techniques -Psychodrama - EMDR (Eye movement Desensitisation & Reprocessing) 12:08 - My Tips - Write a letter to the person involved, explaining how it made you feel, your point of view and how has impacted you to this day. - Add what they could do to bring you closure - Rewrite your narrative how you wish it ended - Slowly revisit your triggers

[@hannahciprian6219]

thanks!

[@skatergirl8019]

I did EMDR and it changed the trajectory of my life. It wasn’t easy but it was worth it!

[@Rose_budd]

My sister had 2 of them sessions after our mom died and she said it helped her alot

[@annaelisavettavonnedozza9607]

It is amazing to have this content for free-esp when the wait is SO long for a therapist atm, & not everyone can afford it. Thank you so much

[@StephAnya]

I’m sorry that it taking so long for you to find a therapist. It’s such a busy time in mental health.

[@annies3448]

thank you so much for this video! we have so much content about figuring out what's wrong with you, and so little about healing (unless able to spend $$$$). Thank you so much for the gift of making it free/accessible.

[@StephAnya]

Thank you so much for watching. I agree with you. I'm grateful for a platform like KZbin to access so much content that's helped me as well.

[@spontaneousgenius]

from one licensed therapist to another you are absolutely AWESOME!

[@StephAnya]

Thank you so much!

[@BeKind2UrSelf6]

I'm going through a divorce and started facing the triggers I found myself avoiding. I drive the routes, visit the stores, and places we did while together. I figured it's the best way to change the symbolism of the things we once did together. It was nice hearing some of the strategies here. Thank you I'm a therapist as well. I'm curious how to implement/manage the exposure portion when dealing with layers upon layers of complex trauma.

[@evenif7431]

The "mind opener" line really hit me. I'll definitely keep that in mind when looking for therapists

[@StephAnya]

I thought that was so profound and something I've really been focusing on in my sessions ever since.

[@ashleyannephd]

Yes I appreciated that as well.

[@famray2646]

I just left a DV relationship of 5 years and your videos have really brought me peace while I'm waiting to go to the doctor!

[@StephAnya]

Congratulations on finding your peace. I'm so happy for you.

[@solegonz762]

I love how dancing & art can heal. It really helps feed the soul.

[@battlehymnoftheempath3610]

I started singing lessons. It's amazing how much emotions I release the I never knew I had.

[@honestlysis]

Yoga has been a life changer for me! I also really loved acupuncture, it’s a freaky crazy amazing experience! I had a release on my first time I was like 🤯 I’ve also found breathe work, crystals, reiki and journaling to be vital part of my wellness journey and transmuting emotions!

[@Text2healAdmin]

me too 🙂🙂🙂🙂

[@ravenasana]

As an Acupuncturist 👋 I appreciate the shout out!

[@phineapple2784]

My therapist recommended that book to me and I found your videos and sent them her way! You remind me a lot of her. I really appreciate these videos! Validation never hurts.

[@StephAnya]

Thank you for sharing! ♥️

[@rahaf88]

I love writing everything down, one time I had a really bad breakup with someone and I wrote a long letter for them and then burned it. I felt so comfortable afterwards.

[@StephAnya]

It’s so therapeutic to just organize your thoughts.

[@ashaylajack9646]

I dealt with a lot of childhood trauma that I never healed from and now I'm working on healing them now, ur videos have really been a God sent in my journey of healing and finding myself

[@mrs.anderson1519]

I find your videos very interesting! I have ptsd & fibromyalgia and recently learned that people who have experienced trauma are more likely to have fibro. Yoga has helped me a lot with both!

[@StephAnya]

The connection between our mental and physical experiences is so fascinating. I’m so glad that you have found something that’s helped you with both!

[@alakanandaxyz8074]

Been on d same boat, ptsd n fibro..successfully treated and now leading a normal life now..

[@Marissavmt]

Thank you for this! I’m a Massage Therapist and specialize in trauma more specifically PTSD and this is spot on ! So many ppl just don’t know about other therapies

[@robobobo5976]

I'm happy to put a name on what I'm going through as a first step of understanding it! My body's responses are because I'm going through a degree of trauma. I say degree because everyone's experience is different.

[@margaritatorres3407]

New subscriber here. I’m a therapist in NJ. I love your content. Been binge watching your videos. They give me a great refresher. There’s so much information out there and it’s nice to come here and get some tips and additional content. Maybe you can do a video on teletherapy.

[@StephAnya]

Thanks for subbing! That's a great idea. A majority of my caseload is virtual now. Thank you for the suggestion.

[@dr.suezettealoysiaandcarla1664]

We are catching up on our Therapy Videos and Comments Today...Happy Thursday Friends

[@barbarabarranca3128]

I have tried to explain “The Body Keeps the Score” without much success to several people and am happy that I can now refer them to your great videos. Wonderful!, Thank you!!

[@Smartbeautifulawesome]

This is a good video...I did revisit places I've avoided or people who dont like me. Sometimes it's bad like they threaten restraining orders sometimes its good like I've been places my daughter now attends schools or places and it's mixed. But I've noticed a stronger or resilience from moving forward

[@benjames863]

I've done EMDR in 2019 and it saved my life

[@DJC82]

Thankyou for this. I carry so much. Talking doesn’t help me, just brings it up again and keeps me stuck. Will try some of these suggestions. Thanks again ❤

[@hayleyhill1910]

Thank you for this video Anya, this is very helpful information. When I started talking to my therapist about a past traumatic experience that was affecting me in the present, I felt like we reached a limit as to how much she could help me resolve. So I sought out a therapist who specialised in trauma. Using techniques like EMDR, I started making progress again. It's good to know there are other options out there for healing trauma, not just talk therapy.

[@yvonnevalenza7583]

I’m currently training to become a therapist, and reading through The Body Keeps the Score. This book is fantastic. I’ll take a look to see if you did a follow up video with questions therapists can ask. As a side note about EMDR, mostly for readers here in the comments: as with any strategies to directly treat trauma, it’s really important to find someone who is fully trained in the method and certified to do EMDR. Improper training can cause more harm, similar to what Van derKolk covers about talk therapy causing more harm for deeply traumatized patients. However proper training is amazingly affective.

[@lisakelly9437]

Yvonne, licensed therapist here. Clinicians undergoing training to do EMDR with a proper consultant and support should be considered to provide care. Just as when we are trainees/doing field work. If no one gave us the chance to hone the skills, then we wouldn't get to the part where we are fully trained and certified (which are 2 distinct process according to EMDRIA).

[@Rarararue]

Baby therapist here and this gave me a few ideas I hadnt considered. Thank you❤

[@eriklundstrom1336]

Been doing brain spotting with my therapist and it’s wild!

[@Amy_Chronicallyill_bibliophile]

I appreciate this video. Another physical technique I’ve tried is EFT, also known as tapping. It works sometimes for me, but not always. I’ve been in EMDR off and on with talk therapy for years, addressing complex trauma. We do a form of EMDR called the Flash technique. We’re still trying to get it right to this day, because I would always just flashback and get stuck in the memories. We’re trying to get it so I notice the memory we are targeting but come right back to my safe space. For complex trauma, it takes a lot more work than singular trauma. I do write poetry based on my trauma and I’m writing a book of letters to those who’ve traumatized me. I also color, and typically use the colors of what I’m feeling in the moment.

[@StephAnya]

Thanks so much for sharing the techniques that you’re already using ♥️

[@m.m.8170]

thank you so much for your videos. I was stuck in my healing journey even though I'm going to therapy and the 2 lasts videos you've posted have and are helping me tremendously!!

[@StephAnya]

I’m so glad that you found them helpful!

[@ashleyannephd]

Thank you for responding to your audience's requests and providing valuable follow-up content on addressing trauma. Grateful for your commitment to spreading awareness and providing guidance on such an important topic.

[@josephyates870]

I get hype every time Steph Anya posts a video. Soo informative and thoughtful. Love it 🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@StephAnya]

Your consistency is noticed and appreciated! Thank you so much for your constant support ♥️

[@tessvemp7832]

​@@StephAnya, x

[@YistheRumGon]

Recently diagnosed with fibromyalgia and don’t know what to do some days. Thank you for providing the public with such valuable and needed information.

[@StephAnya]

I'm so sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I'm grateful that you find the content valuable.

[@gracelove5211]

I’m a new subscriber and have watched several of your videos. I am here because I lost my 2 year old daughter 11 years ago. I feel like I left with her, but my body is still here somehow. . I was diagnosed with PTSD and complicated grief. I have found a psychologist who has helped me. However, it is very expensive and I can’t really afford it right now. Could you please make a video about PTSD from the loss of a child. I am desperate to live and not feel like I’m drowning. Thank you❤️

[@gamertwig3909]

Sending love your way Grace ❤️

[@starkelly1939]

Sending you love and strength

[@jkayin07]

I’m so sorry to hear this .. wishing you love and comfort

[@katiaczech7992]

Hi Stephanie, I just came across your channel this evening. I'm a student at NCU who is just completing my content courses. I never would have expected to find such a wealth of information here on KZbin. Your videos look great, and so do you! I love all of the quality information you're sharing with everyone. I am specializing in trauma and will be working with high-risk populations. I'm looking forward to watching more of your videos!

[@lizalee4786]

Thank you for this video! I've been in therapy for 2 years and wanted to be a therapist myself to help others, but had to leave school after 1 semester. Now I'm in my 3rd trauma therapy session as well as regular therapy and I avoid so many things that it's like I'm in a bubble. This gave me some ideas to run by them.

[@seeexy]

wow sucha warm aura/ online presence u give off. i just couldn't relate to watch others vids even tho its helpful. they felt so "cold" it just relaxes me.. just to listen u.l, cuz i am rn having a.. emotional or idk facing difficulty atm otl

[@CosmicHoneyMotherShip]

Thank you for making this video. I really appreciate it. Sometimes I feel like I'm never gonna get better, I know that's not true and I;ve already don't so much beautiful work. But for some reason I am having a really hard time, and it's just nice to see people talk about this will hope/faith.

[@shadoejohnson7057]

Your such an awesome youtuber as someone that has been taking therapy for many years over the period of my entire life this is such a heart felt video that will uplift someones spirit during the current times that we live in thank you for all you do

[@Pindolene]

Thank you for making this so accessible! Your videos are so informative yet approachable 😊

[@maisieroman]

Great video! As a therapist I would love to hear more about techniques using the body keeps the score book.

[@StephAnya]

Got it. Thanks for letting me know!

[@nikiabutler1791]

Would love to hear what are expectations of ourselves is normal in knowing your healed and when is it ok to get back to dating and meeting new friends 🙏🏾💜

[@HellowBonnie]

Yes pls do a follow-up video. I work with youth experiencing significant and complex trauma

[@TheMonaRezvani]

Thank you for making this video, Steph! It’s not only helpful to hear you explain and outline the techniques to navigate trauma and traumatic responses, but feeling seen the whole time. Your explanation makes me feel hopeful and like there’s a lot more left to getting over this hump and back to homeostasis. gonna go make an acupuncture appointment now!!

[@ashleyannephd]

Never give up, you are worth it.

[@dr.stutigupta]

I am a Naturopathy doctor from India and I practice acupuncture, yoga and other modalities. Fall 2022 I am planning to move to USA to study counseling. I hope I can integrate it all into my practice. I would love connecting with you all. I am a bit nervous about studying counseling by listening to mixed reviews.

[@boomboom1258]

I found you through GQ's KZbin channel and I love the way you explained the argument scenes and how we can do better. I'm excited to explore your content!

[@LadyAmatsu]

New subscriber here. Another channel I follow who does psychodramas on their channel is Patrick Teahan LICSW. He focuses primarily on childhood trauma and performs the dramas on his own

[@indreadixonsedwayms9056]

Thank you for caring enough to share your knowledge with us. I am so grateful that we live in an age where we can view videos for free on KZbin to help us heal. Now, maybe when we know better we will do better for the good of all concerned.

[@caterina3706]

I don’t know exactly why but this video just made me tidy up some drawers that I’ve been ignoring for almost 10 years and now I want to go for a walk

[@deecee7042]

Omg I made it on time! Right when you are posting! Thank you. Best description of this book ever in your last video

[@StephAnya]

Thank you!

[@SneakerKing83]

This is great, thank you so much! I had to stop and take notes, very grateful for the transcript, that helped! I'm also very happy & humble to know that I'm on the right track. As I've done most of these things or have attempted some based on other reasons! Like improv & theater, it makes sense why I like those things. I did take drama/theater in high school and I loved it! So a few years ago I was looking where I could join, then Covid happened. Wow, I just realized that's why I didn't follow thru. 🤔🥴 Same with Coda, I was just beginning to start back attending Codependent Anonymous regularly then boom! Perhaps it's time to look back into that. I just recently attended my 2nd Toastmasters meeting! I guess subconsciously I'm still striving... I watched this video to help myself and others. I purchased Vandercult's book years ago on Audible, but haven't put a dent in it, lol I it's like 15hrs and I'm only over 2hrs in 😬. I'm so fascinated with how trauma effects us. I know I've been suffering w/PTSD since I lost my grandfather at 4yo. I realized that when I had similar experiences 20yrs later when my ex passed. For instance, I remembered when my granny had to remove every pic of my grandpa in the house because I was "frightened" to see him, same feelings w/my ex.... I couldn't look at their pics, I had to delete their family from Facebook bc I would be triggered by seeing their last name, I couldn't drive near the funeral home, I was sooo triggered by death and words affiliated with it, sunny days literally looked gloomy, reoccuring nightmares of the funeral & etc...I felt like I was living in a constant anxiety/panic attack for at least a year! 😢🤧 This was in 2009, I no longer suffer from any of this but they still show up in my dreams OFTEN...I know I still have work to do! Sheesh, I meant to mention something else, 😳 I digress! Yes, ppl that I looked up to as a child/teen, they seemed so mature. Now today, sadly they seem to be still stuck at that age. And I realized their emotional maturity is stagnant due to unhealed trauma. Perhaps they seemed mature because they were sexually active too early or they were forced to nurture themselves & siblings? 🤔 I also assume some could be on the spectrum of autism too! There's many possibilities, everyone's story is different, I just wish they'd seek professional help. I do see them chasing unhealthy, uncomfortable, yet predictable situations...oof, and some "raised" their parent's kids, but cannot raise their own...🥺

[@PushingPrettyWithCE]

I really enjoyed this video and the tips given within. My psychologist recommended the book The Body Keeps the Score to me in our first session. A few sessions in I spoke about how creating helped me feel alive and how I have been using art as a way to express myself. Creating has allowed me to keep pushing through this journey called life. Thanks for sharing your expertise and speaking about that book specifically.

[@samanthastephens9224]

Do you have a podcast? I like listening to your lessons and explanations and would love a podcast format as well!

[@ashleythetherapist7831]

Thanks for the techniques. I can definitely use these with clients

[@sierragallatin7819]

I am currently in the process of working through my childhood trauma I’ve tried before just got no where. I’ve noticed it effects me everyday with things I should be able to do like have a conversation with someone or just talking to someone i about have a panic attack I don’t go into restaurants especially when I’m feeling depressed from the fear of judgement. I victim blame like for some reason I feel like it’s my fault on why what happened to me did. Like if I would have done this differently then I wouldn’t of gotten hit…. I am struggling to have healthy relationships with anyone like my actual relationship is going down hill because of my trauma and how much I allow it to control my life. I’ve became almost mentally unstable because I don’t know how to deal with my emotions in a heathy manner or communicate in a healthy manner. I’m struggling a lot. Your videos are helping me on what to look for when trying to find a good therapist that is going to help me work through all my trauma. I don’t wanna live like this anymore but I’ve caught myself staying in this state because it’s familiar. I hate change. I just want to rewire my brain into healthy habits and reactions rather then negative.

[@marianaya5824]

Thank you so much! I love your channel. This topic is helping me feel better about helping my girls in their healing journey moving forward. Peace. 🙏🏽😊

[@gabiinova]

Great vid👍 i will say though that inner child work is the best thing for healing childhood trauma. Love&Light⚡

[@jaynesager3049]

EMDR is a life-changer for so many people, and it has become available, even in our rural communities.

[@BlackQueenA1825]

This was an AMAZING video. I think the tips were so great and so helpful and I'm excited to start with some of these suggestions. Thanks so much for making this

[@StephAnya]

I’m so glad that you liked it! Please come back and share your experience on the things you tried!

[@TommyKins33]

The point about trauma vs being traumatized is interesting since it sort of relies on others expectations and also kind of goes against what Van der Kolk discusses in his book with him having many high achieving patients whose trauma stunts or ruins other aspects of their lives.

[@StephAnya]

I see why that's confusing. From my perspective, it's not about being high functioning in general. You may be high functioning in work for example, but very distrusting in personal relationships. It's just about certain areas of your life being fundamentally impacted by a traumatic experience. From my experience, every person is not traumatized. I'm curious. Do you believe that everyone is?

[@TommyKins33]

@@StephAnya no not everyone! But I believe it is much more than we would expect - thanks for clarifying 😊

[@sivzy9356]

You have a lovely manner; you are informative yet sensitive in the way you phrase things!! Thank you for your videos x

[@liesxh]

Great information and you bring it very compassionately, thanks a lot!

[@liepa7768]

It sounds like it's better to have therapy from youtube than in Norway. There they don't consider the loss of a child as a trauma. If you don't have serious PTSD, you can go without treatment

[@itsjessicagordon]

This book helped change my life 💜

[@regina6838]

If you are going to give the letter, if you choose to write what you would like them to do, an option is "please give me flowers". That way you know they care for you and want to help even if they aren't able to talk with you about what happened.

[@stefanjamel5735]

Thank you for your whole channel. I’m inbetween therapist right now and these videos help me a lot. So thank you 🙏🏾

[@DoItWrightRo]

Thank you for your service to your profession and fellow human being. I have listened to this book and I am currently in IOP. Hopefully when I share your video, the therapist who mentioned the book will be open to including some of these steps. Take care and God bless.

[@KrysStyleGreetings]

I picked this book up prior to seeing this video and watched both videos. As someone who is healing and processing their trauma I find that one of two things keep happening. I actually just had someone super close to me do I INFJ door slam on me after she has explained that she does this. She was on my healing journey with me and would ask questions about therapy. My therapist told me I needed to remove myself from people and see who notices I’m not active. That I give to much energy trying to please people so I don’t “lose” them. So I did that and she stopped talking to me. Now my feelings hurt

[@slicebitepie8821]

I've done this. It makes you feel like your abuser was right and no one cares about you. I'm sorry and hope we both find true friends one day.

[@livy0119]

Oooo I'm early! Thank you very much for the follow up video. These videos have really helped both me and my mother to diagnose and help us to deal with trauma.

[@StephAnya]

I’m so glad that you both are finding the videos helpful

[@janaaaenay]

Please do a video on strategic family models: Milan, Haley-madanes, and MRI! You're so helpful

[@StephAnya]

I have a video on Haley-Madanes! Check out the models playlist. The others on my list. Thank you for the suggestions!

[@barbarabarranca3128]

I tried to explain the book “The Body Keeps the Score” to several people without much success and am so happy that I can now refer them to your great coverage of the book. Wonderful! Thank you!,

[@djpchocolateguy224]

So I’ve been watching a couple of your videos and I’m loving your material. Then I realized I went to high school with your husband Ndosi 🤟🏾😌

[@StephAnya]

Oh wow! Small world.

[@storydates]

I have liked Accelerated Resolution Therapy better than EMDR---it uses similar eye movements, but the structure of an ART session seems (to me) to be more based in sensations and imagery, which I think gives a lot more flexibility especially in dealing with a variety of kinds of traumas.

[@leslielou4970]

I’m so so glad I found your channel!! I adore you!!

[@StephAnya]

That’s so sweet! Thank you ☺️

[@demetriuschamblee7313]

Thank you for This. We are reading The body keeps the score in our Book Club that we started in our community. I will be sharing your video to our club.

[@StephAnya]

Thank you!

[@GorillaTactix]

Thank you for the follow up video!

[@StephAnya]

Thank you for watching!

[@SupaNova_1]

Thank you, I am looking for ways to heal and this video gave me a great starting point and great insight.

[@h.beeeeee4234]

What a beautiful spirit! I’m new to you but I thank you for this! You don’t have to do this but you are helping me and sooo many others! I love you for this! Thank You Queen 😁

[@naomigonzalezguevara]

Hi Steph. I'm just found your videos. I'm very thankful for this. Thank you very much. 😊

[@morningdevotionswithnickpe436]

Creativity is the key

[@rmy_Youtube]

😳 my face when you started to list signs of trauma. Lol! Great video!!

[@StephAnya]

Oh no! Lol. I'm glad that you enjoyed the video.

[@melissasmith7948]

Thank you

[@jwajed873]

Thank you for making this very helpful vid💕💕

[@StephAnya]

Thank you for watching! 🫶🏽

[@o.f.8679]

I tried the exposure to triggers and what happened was that it triggered memories that I hadn’t previously remembered and it felt like a new trauma because it was a “new” detail I had to confront.

[@Cre8tive_Always]

+1 instant sub 5:00 - 6:00 A therapist just summed up my life in 1 minute! I've never felt so heard. 😭😭

[@YesLikeTheMermaid]

Thank you so so much for this 🙏🙏🙏

[@ashmarielco]

I don’t think everyone is traumatized that definitely is a stretch, but I do feel that everyone has experienced some form of trauma in their life. Also all of these methods are so good, I definitely revisit my triggers and journaling/lettering has always been my go to, also dancing.

[@Candy-hq6zo]

thank you for making this video❤

[@divinelyguided1144]

Yes ma’am please do a follow up! Thank you so much 😊 Do you do consulting or retreats? I am looking for subject matter experts.

[@aretiskavantzou7115]

thank you so much Anya!! ❤

[@jeanaallison7236]

NEW Subscriber. Thank you 😊 your bright beautiful smile made my day. 💐 I love the book you're referring to. 🙏

[@aalliyahamor4019]

Hey, new subie here. I am so glad I found you. I needed to hear everything you're saying and so much more.

[@mentalcat9529]

I can feel my body like pains in my body, when it hurts i feel it right away, but when i do meditation and i focus on the parts of my body, i have issues in feeling them, like their boundaries. I feel that my legs are touching the boundaries of the chair but thats it i dont feel anything more about my legs. I feel like i am watching me piloting my body during the day. I am still conscious of myself, but im not fully present. Im trying to be present

[@danielarojas6749]

I love your energy ❤️

[@StephAnya]

Aw thank you ♥️

[@magnoliakeepitsimple3770]

I just order that book on audible. Thank you ❤❤

[@StephAnya]

I hope you find it helpful ♥️

[@ceciliairwin3059]

Thank you for this video. I have been looking for a list like this all over the internet. I am a fixer and desperately needed this ❤️

[@shelbypost3234]

I can really use these!! Thank you soooooo much!!

[@StephAnya]

Please come back and let me know if any were helpful for you!