Therapists, what are people afraid to tell you because they think it's weird ?

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@vickyoli 16 күн бұрын

The first one! When I was deep into depression, I worked harder, I got promotions, better ideas at work, arrived earlier, etc. When I am fine and happy, I will work less.

@yootoobsuks4210 7 күн бұрын

12:20 - Oh boy do I know this one! I've been in and out of therapy repeatedly because of this. And there's nothing more demoralizing than clinics/therapists who constantly "re-evaluate" you for the slightest sign of improvement, or the constant push for "developing a new plan" because they perceive you've improved. The last time I was in therapy, I was CONSTANTLY being re-evaluated or forced to come up with a new plan. I actually just gave up because it was mentally exhausting. Sometimes, you just need someone to talk to, and being forced to reach a goal is actually counterproductive. One of my biggest sticking points in therapy is that I don't know how to find motivation. I simply haven't any. And I've never found a therapist who was able to help me establish any. This is my first time watching one of these, and I wish I'd known you were going to be substituting "sexual" with "soul". I was lost for the first 15 minutes. 😂

@Rhelanae 3 күн бұрын

Motivation is hard. Yeah I can be motivated to do things I actually want to do (my hobbies namely) but the executive dysfunction hits like a freight train once it’s something I don’t actually want to do (like paying bills😅) and then nothing gets done. People telling me to do things also drastically lowers my motivation

@waynepolo6193 2 күн бұрын

@@Rhelanae most of the time, when someone mentions ‘executive dysfunction’ they have done at least some research into things like adhd, so I’m assuming that’s been your experience as well. I’m just curious if you’ve also looked into other manifestations of neurodivergence like late-diagnosed autism, which was the case for me in my early 30s. Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) is a fairly common manifestation among the autistic/neurodivergent “AuDHD” crowd.

@jordankelly2960 18 сағат бұрын

@@Rhelanae have you heard of pda? Pathological demand avoidance? That could be part of that last part you mentioned. I struggle with the same things 😅 although I was able to finally get an ADHD diagnosis AND medication for it. And that seriously has been LIFE CHANGING for me. And being on the right dose is also super important. My Dr increased my dose because I was starting to suffer again. My medicine was working but not enough and not the same as when I first started. I honestly needed the increase after the beginning of starting it but I didn't get around to scheduling another appt to ask. He gave me a slight increase (when I saw him for an unrelated appt) and it's helped so much. Edit to add: my bad I didn't see the comment below mentioning the pda already 😅

@Kageoni187 5 күн бұрын

I developed a phobia of throwing up after a very nasty illness that the doctors almost hospitalized me for. I threw up 27 times the first day. It hurt so bad. Now if start to feel like I might I cry and start begging and praying for it not to happen. It is so hard to force myself to stay calm if it happens when my boys are home they are young and have autism and I don’t want to scare them.

@memeju1ce 14 сағат бұрын

as an autistic person, thank you for considering the kids’ feelings. i’m sorry you have to also factor their emotions into it, and i hope you can heal and cope with your phobia throwing up 27 times in a day sounds so horrible. made my throat hurt just reading that!

@MsJeanneMarie 16 күн бұрын

55:34 I find a lot of therapist have a mindset of “just do it”. Like Dr. John Delony of the John Delony show. He has some helpful advice but a lot of times his advice boils down to “just do it.” And Dr. Phil, who I hate and I know is not a practicing therapist anymore, but his advice often boiled down to the same thing.