Therapists, What's Something That People Are Afraid To Say But You've Heard A Lot Before?

[@arisenpai4720]

The intrusive thoughts one honestly is so validating. I struggle with depression and my brain will randomly be like ‘why don’t you do *insert self harming action’ and I’m just like ‘…How about we don’t lol?’ I like to envision the thoughts as an annoying roommate and it helps.

[@1kxanax349]

no really, cause ive always beena quiet person but my mind is exploding with the most outlandish things. a customer disrespects me at work and my brain is like “drop kick him in the ribs”

[@arisenpai4720]

@@1kxanax349 YES! I remember my therapist being like ‘honestly, as long as you know not to act upon them then you should be good’ and I was genuinely relieved.

[@AlexBallistic]

Wait that's not normal

[@arisenpai4720]

@@AlexBallistic Oop. That was my reaction tbh. But it’s a thing that’s like ‘it’s not usual but it’s not something to feel ashamed about’ as long as you don’t act on it

[@Agender_Potato]

​@@AlexBallisticyeah it is, when you have actual depression. I have BPD and im extremely depressed most of the time and i get SH thoughts alot. It's passive.

[@raakone]

With intrusive thoughts? Something I heard once about it..."Having deviant thoughts comes with having a brain. Actually acting on them comes with NOT having a brain."

[@iloveanimemidriff]

10:00 - I very much miss my grandpa; but I also felt remarkably at peace when he died. Same happened when an aunt died. Somehow, I just felt like I was seeing it coming (aunt was diagnosed with terminal cancer, gramps was rapidly deteriorating), felt like it was inevitable, and just decided that crying about it was not going to bring them back. Instead, I should focus on honoring their memories, and always remembering how great they were.

[@moonlitsakura1944]

My Dad died in August, and I wasn't crying all the time. What surprised me is that it presented itself in all anger. I was mad at everything and everyone for anything. A month solid, I was just a angry person. I am usually easy going so it was extra odd.

[@TheMouthofBill]

Shoot man, I remember hating myself so much for my intrusive thoughts and feeling so much better after learning that most other people experience those thoughts too! Now I just do what was advised and let the thoughts run their course and then move on.

[@InkyCatTV]

I was getting really concerning intrusive thoughts about "unaliving my parents so no one can hurt them" Made and makes no sense to me. I told my therapist, and that's the first time I ever cried in front of her

[@nickorange4881]

grieving and talking about feelings can be hard. sometimes you dont even know what to call what you feel. earlier i decided to let myself be upset and sad. i tend to be reserved and keep my feelings inside. and it was for me even by myself to say outloud how i was feeling and why i was upset and sad. expressing feelings should not be this hard.

[@5herpsandadog]

This video made me feel better. I have a 14, almost 15, month old and I am constantly freaking out about if I’m screwing up about everything. The idea that worrying about wether I’m a good mother or not being an indicator that I am in fact a good parent makes me feel better.

[@nickorange4881]

if it makes a difference i dont even have a child, or even a partner and i worry that one day ill have a child and screw up.

[@mztweety1374]

I inherited my some of my moms stuff after she passed earlier this year. Sometimes I’ll just open her jewelry bag and stare at it. Her clothes still smell like her.

[@Zhonglily_99]

About story 3 : I lost my father where there was a whole family collapse at the same time. So my brain had to get in « get everything done and be strong ». So I just couldn’t cry for 5 years straight in front of my favourite people even tho I was at my lowest point. I even had comment like « you just never care, do you ? ». Well 1) I learned there isn’t a good way to grieve and losing the ability to cry is one of them 2) when you have abusive parents who tells you « never cry, you aren’t suffering enough to be allowed to cry », well it kinda block your tears… Thankfully I’m in a very much better place now (I am quite happy !) and I can cry now ! Cutting toxic ties, seeing a therapist and time helped a lot. But yeah, there is not an only way to grieve and it’s completely normal. Seek help if you need it

[@Akiku2]

Lost my dad in 2014. Skipped straight to acceptance. Dad had suffered a stroke maybe 2 months prior, then his aorta ruptured. I knew he likely wouldn’t survive.

[@zachood4507]

When i (24 at the time) got the call from my mom telling me my grandmother(66)had passed in the hospital, i went to leave work, and had ran into my HR lady in the office and told her i need to leave, as soon as she asked if everything was okay i broke down, she pulled me to an office and let me explain the best i could, i left 30 minutes before the day crew came in, breaking down while on the 30 mile drive to my parent's home to pick them up to go to my grandparents, but it seemed like as soon as i was around my family i couldnt cry, i couldnt express anything, im 26 now, and while i came to terms about her passing, and miss her dearly, i still find myself crying at random times when alone, we all grieve in different ways, and its going to be okay

[@LessaCaira]

The grief for someone passing. I feel like a monster and will only admit to those absolutely closest to me that I feel relief that my mom passed away. Yes I am sad sometimes and I cried when we went to see her and she was unresponsive even though she was still breathing. But overall? I feel relief and a touch of happiness that I will never have to deal with her again.

[@CYBER_5KU11]

The intrusive thoughts one reminds me of all the times ive been up a tall set of stairs and thought "I wonder if this is tall enought to kill me if i jumped (like just step of landing feet first) or if i would just end up with broken bones or paralyzed?"

[@Lukelins1]

I had an intrusive thought what would happen if I farted really loud. My body made it happen. It was in home room and 6th grade

[@fos9698]

I farted really loud in sixth grade Sunday school. Everyone laughed. The teacher hesitated mid-word and struggled to keep going with her lecture. My already struggling popularity took another nosedive.

[@lizbriar9565]

I get intrusive thoughts all the time and I normally try to distract my brain by doing stuff I like to do but it’s not enough to get rid of them. I’m more afraid of acting on them because of how much the thoughts nag me to the point where I’m not sure how much longer I could resist.

[@joshberg5813]

Oh, man, they're really sad. Thing is, Mike great Grandma probably got sent to an insane assigned for the rest of her life because of intrusive thoughts because she finished all. I was turning my Grandpa, so they basically gave her the electric treatment and threw her in saying a sound for the rest of her life. She had no desire to do any of that, and yet they convinced said she was a danger to her baby, and so they just walked her up and then sang that sound forever. It was really sad thing, and no one ever even visited her. As far as I'm aware, she died in that same asylum.

[@Zophje]

I think I somehow deal with intrusive thoughs by imagining them to be a great concept or scene for a book. I have probably over a hundred different written text with the thoughs I get. So far I've usually not gotten further than 10-15 pages but maybe they will be of use in the future 😅

[@iloveanimemidriff]

13:04 - if you're a Touhou Project fan, you know damn well there's no shame in liking armpits

[@yourimaginaryfriend9075]

My intrusive thoughts are a bit silly for example: I wonder if I could fit my car through those automatic electric doors. Like I said silly. I saw Mr.Bean drive his car though a shopping center.

[@yourimaginaryfriend9075]

Do spiders poop or are the webs they make poop?

[@Miss-Anne-Thrope]

Yes, spiders do poop, though they actually poo and pee at tye same time and don't produce urine separately. The webs are produced by spinnerettes (I think) which are separate from the butt and is a completely different substance. I once googled this while high, I suspect that you've posted this for the same reason! 😂

[@MRoderick89]

I have intrusive thoughts about drop kicking the kid next door he is a little shit but it's not worth it. Haha

[@tarrantwolf]

Just remember, it's in a therapists best intrest to make sure you keep coming back to them. And do people really have intrusive thoughts about offing people? Because my intrusive thoughts a like "what if i just walked up and hugged that person" or "what if I just started strip dancing right now" I've never had one about offing another person.

[@rochie4865]

Once I had to give my dad a hammer while he was working on something and it crossed my mind that I could do some serious damage to him and he wouldn't see it coming. It scared me because I absolutely adore my dad.