There Are Things No One Will Ever Know About You

[@amandine512]

"Loneliness isn't the physical absence of other people, he said - it's the sense that you're not sharing anything that matters with anyone else" -Johann Hari

[@VSerge_]

This is pretty true

[@louiscost9134]

Johann Hari has an excellent book, "Chasing the Scream", that I recommend to people on a regular basis. The book is a masterpiece in my opinion. It examines the facts and opinions, the lies and truths of the War on Drugs, and describes the issue as a bonding issue between people, in a nutshell. It's one of the best books I've ever read.

[@Chicken_Consumer]

I felt this quote on another level

[@ADFloyd]

Stolen from Jung.

[@ralucipp4223]

@@ADFloyd probably

[@scoon2117]

JERRY RICHARD LE 05/04/1995 - 03/19/21 I had a best friend of 11 years that died in 2021. There is so much between us that died with him. So many memories, laughs and stories that are gone forever because my memory fails me. There is so much about me that he knew intimately that I will never be aware of.

[@forollkin]

Just to say that i had the same thing happening to me. Best friend of 19 years.. I wish i could remember everything we said and did but its forever gone inside the depths of my brain. I can still feel the echo of his mind inside my own in many ways. We spent so much time together and i believe part of my mind is truly his. And that part of me grew stronger just to keep him here with me and share all the joys and sorrows. Wish you all the best and look after yourself

[@MellowJelly]

yes but you also should realize that thoughts, memories, and experiences are tangible physical objects. they exist in the universe. those experiences you shared are energies that cannot be created nor destroyed, they are part of the akashic records forever. in some far off distant future the average human mind might be able to read those records. with intense transcendental meditation or hypnosis you might be able to retrieve those memories, and in spirit you might even be able to attain your friend's memories as well. there is so much beyond what we can prove with science today. we have hardly scratched the surface of consciousness, and this dimension we exist and operate in is indeed lonely and limited compared to quantum reality where time does not exist in a linear fashion, so your friend is not dead, and your memories together are not in the past, but are occuring cyclically as past/present/future simultaneously. in your current state this might mean nothing, it might not provide any comfort, but i know it has importance because of the connection you shared to your friend and your grief is proof of love

[@markmurex6559]

You are lucky to have had that friend.

[@jaye5872]

@@MellowJelly do u have evidence of this?

[@klol-ld8jr]

@@jaye5872 not the right time

[@amandine512]

Sometimes when I visit a very populated place I look around at all the people and for a brief moment, imagine all of their perspectives perceived all at once. Every brain and set of eyes looking out on the world with their own thoughts and views, both in the physical world and inside their own minds. The fact that humans are the only species in existence that can perceive this is mind blowing.

[@elconejito99]

I think you're explaining Sonder

[@zestynathanielbcousin9015]

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[@cosmopsyche]

We’re the only species who’s minds can be blown 🎃

[@Stoicbjj]

Hello my friend I do something similar it is truly mind blowing and it brings me true joy as I watch the different perspectives and realize that other people live there own lives

[@mnencess]

@@Stoicbjj omgggg same💕

[@SylvesterAshcroft88]

I find writing massively helps with existential depression, even just writing about abstracts of depression, death, and self sacrifice often helps personify those emotions.

[@markmurex6559]

Same.

[@nutbastard]

I often write letters to people in my life with no intention of ever sending them. It's nice to get stuff out, and read it back as a way to help process life's complications.

[@paulodigioia]

exactly going through this now. Just get notes on phone and just tyope type type. if you lose a spiral of thought just ride another wave to type express and see the mirror of your thoughts in words

[@samsunguser3148]

or a journal. Mine is about my daily experiences. Helped a lot on being more self-aware when contemplating and writing it down. Even simple things may make you think, "Wow, we are lucky to be here, with so much to go wrong everyday, in the past years of my life, yet I am here writing and realising that though cliché, there is still good in this world but it does not come when expected so we should find a balance with self-sufficiency and a sort of reliance to others, though not overmuch, they also have lives of their own imperceptible to us, just like us to them. We may never know what they were busy at, their perception of us, their thoughts, emotions and worries at the very instant." Then so on and so forth. Goodluck on our journeys.

[@ldobbs2384]

What does it mean to "personify" emotions? Cause I don't think it means what you think it means. I think you're probably someone who says shit all the time that doesn't make sense but that you think makes you sound smart.... Am I right? 🤠

[@kandil952]

Ah yes my dose of existential crisis

[@billyalarie929]

BOY HOWDY THIS MIGHT BE THE MOST AFFECTING OF THEM ALL

[@amosz5249]

*welcome to our daily dose of existential crisis*

[@SevenHunnid]

I do food reviews while I’m high on my KZbin channel 😅

[@learnwith-mooniechan]

Hi

[@learnwith-mooniechan]

@@SevenHunnid bruh u literally have lke 16k subs

[@KaliDreamer]

I never hear anyone talk about this. I’ve always explained to people that I feel a deep “existential loneliness”, but no one really got what I meant. Hell, this video is the first time I’ve heard anyone else call it that.

[@Gaius_Julius_Caesar_Augustus]

Hey there. What's up

[@sarveshlm7624]

@@KingOfNineSkies nee manithan adaa

[@Gixxermickschumacher]

Been thinking this since I was a little boy

[@adrian-wz2zw]

@@PayAttentionToThePatterns mainlander. Try some ACT.

[@Gaius_Julius_Caesar_Augustus]

@@KingOfNineSkies u from India?

[@lena007_]

as a child I had extreme depersinalisation and derealisation that no-one knew about. I felt so extremely lonely with my thoughts, disconnected from reality, my friends, even my parents that never did me wrong in any way. existentialism is something I've known for as long as i think. seeing videos like these soothes my inner child, thank you so much for putting all if this into words ♡ :)

[@Ana-vq6tp]

YESS! I had a pretty normal childhood yet I have some memories of being incredibly lonely and having such dark feelings that to this day I can't understand. It's so weird knowing that as a kid I could already feel complex emotions like this

[@mindyourownn]

how did you deal with that? as an 18 year old right now, I’ve dealt with it for almost 2 years. I got a brain scan and blood work and everything came back fine. I try “ignoring” it so it can get better but it’s still present. I know stress doesn’t help but i just started college so I really do not have a choice.

[@Ana-vq6tp]

@@mindyourownn hey, have you considered talking to a therapist? I know that its not affordable for everyone but if it is for you it would help for sure.

[@mindyourownn]

@@Ana-vq6tp yes I did, but I slowly stopped scheduling with her, school got in the way :/

[@Ana-vq6tp]

@@mindyourownn oh, maybe try researching online therapy? I think there's a site called better help that does it, I have never tried it myself but it seems really interesting

[@hunteroverholtz9509]

“No one is you and that is your power.” -Dave Grohl

[@alalohwhydee]

...and weakness

[@tadh7395]

as someone who resonates a lot with a lot of autistic traits i often feel like i tell people TOO much of EXACTLY what i’m thinking. seeing the other side is interesting. people getting depressed over internal loneliness makes so much sense and i feel even explains a lot of our psychology. we are humans, the only ones who experience such an extreme self awareness.

[@byakuyatogami2905]

I'm autistic and I think one pushed me into the other. As a kid I would talk like crazy about anything I knew a lot about or was interested in but as I got made fun of and people stopped caring I... Sort of hid away, to the point where I left school so I would stop bothering anyone. Now I feel like it's too late for me to meet anyone I can understand or get along with except online

[@laurelcook9078]

Tbh I take solace in knowing that no one will ever know details about the fake scenarios I play in my head and verbally and physically act out. Like you’d think I’m crazy if you walked in on me while I’m showering because I pace around and speak like I’m giving a TedTalk and I see both the shower but also an audience I conjured up in my head. My parents say when I first learned to speak I’d just talk nonstop at night and early in the morning and they had no clue why. I just love fake scenarios lol. Sometimes I cry over what I come up with, other times it becomes a recurring obsession. Edit: I’m not autistic, but I’m in the neurodiverse family (ADHD) and yeah, my brain won’t shut up. But I just want people to taste the colors in my brain sometimes because it’s delicious. They don’t always think it is.

[@tadh7395]

@@byakuyatogami2905 extremely relatable. not a social person by any means but if i’m put in a social situation i seem to be too honest, i feel the annoyed reactions to my honesty over the years has definitely made me crawl into my shell more

[@DJxtd__Pariah]

@@laurelcook9078 And now you can also take solace knowing that I, a random internet stranger, literally do those exact same things as you: fake scenarios acted out, and talking to myself (i.e., private TED Talks) in the bathroom, bedroom, or any area of the house where there's nobody present. In the event that there _is_ anybody home, I have these talks with myself in an extremely low-volume manner to where I can still say "out loud" what I need to say, but nobody can hear me. Lol This is something that I'm pretty sure I've been doing since my pre-teen years, and I'm currently in my mid-20's. Honestly, I'm sure what played a big factor (but not the only factor) in this character trait of mine is/was coming from a family where communication amongst each other was practically non-existent in the most suffocatingly toxic, noxious ways you could think of. If and when there's a problem, you're supposed to communicate it, but I had/have parents that would literally ignore each other and not speak to each other for days on end (sometimes, leading up to 2 weeks) after they would have a big fight. To them, this was normal, but anyone with an ounce of a brain knows that that's the furthest thing from the truth. Growing up in that type of environment - amongst many other factors (that I won't delve into here) that led to me being closed-in/shut-off - is very much one of the biggest reasons why I always felt (and still feel) like I could never open up to anyone about anything extremely personal and sensitive. In other words, allowing myself to be vulnerable.

[@DJxtd__Pariah]

@@laurelcook9078 I guess on the bright side, though, I've actually opened up to certain family members about _some_ deeply personal stuff, but it's still just the tip of the iceberg compared to the MOUNT EVEREST of stuff that I've never shared with anyone, including all of the things/emotions that I have ever thought, felt and experienced in my life. If you've ever watched the TV show "The Big Bang Theory," there's a perfect analogy in one of those episodes for the whole topic of this video. I believe it was in either season 10, 11 or 12 when Sheldon created/drew a thing called "Zones of Privacy" to make up/apologize to Amy after she found out that Sheldon foolishly, naïvely revealed a personal secret about their relationship to many people at the University where Sheldon and the gang work. Anyhow, the "Zones of Privacy" consist of outer, mid and inner circles; the outer circles, of course, being strangers and acquaintances with whom certain information can be shared; the mid circles being friends and close friends; the inner circle being Sheldon and Amy (with the exception of Sheldon's doctor or something like that lol). However, within that entire map of circles/zones was a singular dot in the middle, which Amy asked Sheldon about, to which he replied that that represents secrets he doesn't share with anyone. I'd like to think that the "Zones of Privacy" is something that I very much liken to my own life experiences, thoughts, secrets and emotions - and I'm sure the same goes for many other people out there.

[@deonrich3149]

Very strange when you really think about it, life is so awesome. If you're reading this, thanks for being here. We're all in this crazy game together 😌

[@greenbud8946]

Have a blessed day my dude!

[@dflaming1371]

It's not, you have to work for that and find the silver linings. If you just let life happen to you, it is anything and everything but awesome

[@lucasbett3551]

It's really crazy. You're in one part of the world and I'm in another. We will never meet. But somehow we feel connected.

[@yelloooooooo]

@@dflaming1371 subjective and go write your own comment on whatever you think if you feel the need to push your opinion onto someone else

[@MeadowDay]

@@dflaming1371 wow..probably too deep for many, but I hear you. Takes a lot of trying …

[@self-inflictedphilosophy]

Solitude teaches us this profound tautology: It’s only when I’m alone that I realize I’m never truly alone. The “divine animal” inside us all understands this. As Atticus said, “We are never alone. We are wolves howling at the same moon.”

[@furrycircuitry2378]

Same here man everything is connected in some way or another I love life, I love the people in it

[@figboot]

@@vermiform this furry convention is going well

[@VantaDraws]

I’ve never had that, it just makes me feel worse with overthinking

[@lulumoon6942]

You know.

[@fcmiller3]

I feel a sense of calm when I realize it's pointless to even attempt to share my deepest thoughts or feelings. And I realize I've never really understood anyone. The deep stillness and silence comes over me of "letting go of trying."

[@AGKyran]

I heard a song one day saying "you want other to understand yourself but you don't even understand yourself". It was like a revelation. There's things that are like over us, always out of reach. And maybe it's better that way, what do I know ? Letting go of trying is hard but it's beautiful. It leads to the truth of how things are, to letting go fantasies to reach that spot where you just accept. Accept that life is this way and that it won't miraculously change to suit you better. Accept that you are you and they are them and that there will always be this gap we can't go through. And with this understanding, and this acceptance for how it is, may come gratitude for what is, that could not be. It's peaceful. My only goal in life is to live. To fill myself with experiences whatever they are, good or bad. With the hope that by the end, this thing I call my life would make for an interesting story.

[@fcmiller3]

@@AGKyran Yes

[@zyzzsdisciples6707]

One of the most important lessons of stoicism. Letting go of trying to control nature or the external is hard, but its acceptance is the only way to live a truly happy and meaningful life

[@ErenShouldveDucked]

@@AGKyran my god this struck deep

[@Yohan-yc2bv]

This is why I'm always melancholic. I'm afraid to feel a bit happy because it'll blind my philosophical views such as this. I've always felt lonely because everyone is being happy. No one is thinking of stressful things which for me are strongly worthy of attention and discussion. I know it's an unhealthy and less popular practice of life but deep inside there are questions of reality and change of perspective. I know I'm having fun at some portions of my life but I'm always melancholic deep inside, and now some people know.

[@samsunguser3148]

Don't try so hard. There is no happiness, only happy moments. It will pass and everything will pass.

[@jammin9061]

Yeah most people can't keep going with their melancholy. It's too much for them to deal with all they have and be visibly sad. I'm learning more that what you see is truly an illusion. People just expect you to brush it off and act like it's all peachy

[@saral9817]

It is only unhealthy if it leads you to nowhere but nihilism

[@eva2064]

But what changes when you know?

[@araynajoy5608]

I think I relate to what you're saying. It's hard to tell in just short little comments, but I think that might be where I was at for a long time. For the last several years, though, I have a deep, enduring joy (and truthfully, I do believe that’s because of Jesus, but that’s not what this is about). I haven't stopped thinking about all the philosophical things. That's where my mind naturally goes. It makes me sad, angry, overwhelmed, and everything sometimes. Like you said, melancholic. A lot of people who aren't that way will tell me to stop overthinking, because it does nothing but hurt me. I've just recently rejected that. I know it hurts me sometimes, but it helps other times. Everyone's personality has those two sides, and I won't sacrifice my personality just because it hurts sometimes. But I love being happy too. Sometimes I don't want to be happy, but sometimes I do. I truly believe there is hope and beauty and love and things that are worthwhile in the world. And, honestly, I believe the most progress has been made with love as the motivation, not fear or anger or sadness. Even when it is something like anger, it is usually anger at someone/something that is hurting someone/something you love. Love and belief that things can be different are superpowers. Typing that out now it sounds cheesy, like a Disney movie. I know it's more complicated than that. But, as valuable as thinking deeply is, at some point something needs to be done with those thoughts, and in my experience, hope and love inspire action more than melancholy. I think allowing myself to be happy has also helped me to not judge people. You’re right, a lot of stressful things are worthy of attention and discussion. But I used to think they were the ONLY things worthy of attention and discussion. I am in a place now where I believe that people are allowed to find fun and seemingly inconsequential things valuable. It helps with humility to not assume that everything I find valuable should be what everyone else finds valuable. Obviously I still think they should believe what I believe, or else I wouldn't believe it, but I can't control people, and I can't let my values get in the way of loving people. I am fallible and have lots still to learn. Sorry for the long comment. Maybe I am way off from where you’re at, but those are some ideas I have found worth thinking about.

[@mallyjames6770]

When it comes to art,music,literature, philosophy and knowledge loneliness is not the diseases but the cure. Loneliness is no longer loneliness, its a collective consciousness.

[@gregbors8364]

I tried to conform. It was my main goal when I was in elementary school. I just simply wasn’t able to do it. At about age 15 or so, I accepted this fact. It was a difficult process to transition to a mindset in which I didn’t care to seek affirmation from other human beings. But it was ultimately freeing. Now I know longer care about being popular, powerful, wealthy or leaving a “legacy.” I realize I will be forgotten relatively soon after I’m dead, as we all will be eventually, and I’m at peace with that. Because why would I care? I’ll be *dead.* If one worries about what other people think of them, then one lets them set the agenda for your life, and one’s individuality is f*cked. A person should never try to conform. Instead, one should look inside oneself and discover what they really value. And then do their best to nurture it.

[@samsunguser3148]

I thought along the same lines. While I'm not dead I'll be sure not to be a burden to others lmao.

[@MeadowDay]

Well said!

[@SmartMoveGraphics]

Well said.

[@ITIsFunnyDamnIT]

I have been feeling this loneliness for a very long time. feeling trapped inside my head and so frustrated that I can not articulate into words or make anyone understand what I'm feeling. I'm also very much alone living by myself in the real world, but feel even around people I'm alone and just too different for others to understand too weird for everyone to ever fit in. I know I am truly not alone in this. I mean I still am, but so is everyone else in some sense. Some just may be more lonely and misunderstood than others. I've always been aggravated that I have not been able to articulate what going on in my head, what I really mean when I say some thing.

[@joemc1776]

You are not alone. I feel/experience exactly what you stated above. I commend you on your presentation of such ideas of thought. Might have to copy and paste that for later lol. All credit will be given where it is due…a kindred lone wolf of YT…my guy…I Thought It Was Funny

[@lukelabare6580]

There were no conversations about depression and loneliness back when we had to fight for our survival…sometimes I wonder if humans were meant to struggle and have conflict…just a thought

[@MSYNGWIE12]

As I read these comments I'm saddened to assume, high school, STILL doesn't teach what we all need to know- Namaste

[@joemc1776]

@@MSYNGWIE12 Actually, high school served it’s intended purpose of indoctrination of mostly useless information. The state of mind mentioned goes back to my earliest memories of being aware I was a being. When I was 4 or 5 years old, my new age cousins thought it would be a riot to include me in a seance without my knowledge. Sure Celeste and Angela, I would love to sit in a circle with candles lit and ‘talk about basketball and He-Man and what not.’ They got a thrill out of breaking my will to include me in their witchcraft seance bullshit as an innocent child. That’s the beginning of the turmoil in my mind. I could continue but there’s no need for the whys of my mental state. But high school and all public school for that matter definitely did what they were designed to do…make good little servants and slaves to the elites. Keep the peasants dumb and numb and the elites win

[@samsunguser3148]

@@MSYNGWIE12 if it was taught, realistically, would you actually be invested and listen or doze off? Don't say, "oh it was because of the boring bla bla bla"

[@drywalleater13628]

This is why I find music so nice, sometimes using it therapeutically. Because you find a certain sound, a certain rhythm, a certain pulse that allows you to somewhat connect to the world, to nature and the loneliness of each particle that interchange with one another

[@naamanmancia2795]

“When are perhaps the least alone when we feel that we are.” Words that can carry and save us all if we take it to heart.

[@egodumpster]

It's crazy how we all once lived a life being told our feelings don't make any sense, that we're alone, and nobody will ever understand. But now on social media I see memes openly and easily conveying that same feeling and situation we all thought we experienced alone. Sure, there are things only you understand, but there are experiences you'll realize everyone relates to later in life. Wild. What I'd give to tell myself I wasn't alone feeling certain things

[@boundalive7872]

That's touchy because many people will agree to something and say they understand, but do they really know what they are saying they understand? I personally don't think so. Many times people will just say they 'understand' to fit within a social group or something like that. I've personally felt this before, so I would know.

[@egodumpster]

@@boundalive7872 actually, you're so right. Everything we feel is purely dependent on ourselves. Every victim of depression feels it in their own specific way and gets affected in the same way as well. To say you understand how someone else feels is easily deniable. But then again, if someone explains their situation well and you relate to it deeply, you most likely understand a lot about what they're feeling. But there will always be parts of ourselves nobody else will ever understand

[@LoveHandle4890]

Music is a universal language that we can all share together.

[@fl3820]

The realization that every single person from enormous amount of living at this moment carries so much of what is unknown and will never be known by me is excruciating.

[@baebaevip8320]

i wanna know what you knotw

[@thejugde859]

Today was the first time I ever heard of David Foster Wallace in a video on this site, and I just felt what he was saying in that video, then a few hours later you release this video and I got goosebumps and shed a tear. It was was beautiful coincidence. Thank you for making this.

[@thejugde859]

@@knowsomething9384 It was called David Foster Wallace being based for 5 minutes: )

[@rogerpetronio7502]

That's called synchronicity. Look it up, it's from Jung.

[@thejugde859]

@@rogerpetronio7502 Thanks will look that up. What books would you recommend to someone who would like to start reading Jungs work?

[@rg.0333]

@@thejugde859 .

[@SayItAintTso]

just wait til you read his prose 🥲

[@arealhumanbeing4651]

The joy that this channel gives me is impossible to ever truly expain with words...

[@user-yc5mw1ww2x]

Finding the one to fully "understand" me is something I need to consider getting over.. when I myself dunno what's going on

[@notionsunknown5414]

this video scratches a very obscure part of the brain. personal experiences and each specifically shaped mentality will probably perceive this satisfaction differently, but this feels like a very validating and realistic explanation of the mind's unreachable resolve.

[@themashess]

for the first time. i felt understood. i felt, that someone might go through something very simillar to what i am feeling everyday so strongly. thank you

[@AC-dj2nn]

Thank you as an artist I can finally understand why art is important

[@AnasCorner]

OMG...I'm sobbing!! I think about this all the time. Once I'm gone...my thoughts, fears, desires, secrets, inspirations...all these things that stay inside.....gone. Oy, I didn't need this today, lol.

[@BeatsWorkinMusic]

Wow. You really summed up what I’ve thought about since my brother died as a young adult in 1984. All he was and thought he was is gone forever. I have nothing to offer now, but I’m working on it. I’ve saved this video as a potential guide for part of my project at a website called WhoWas.

[@owens.studios]

Crazy how much of our lives we'll take to the grave

[@bigboibebop]

This is my obsession as someone who’s studying to become a psychologist. Things that you don’t see and repress into your unconscious mind: how do you make yourself conscious of it. Other peoples pain, certain things about other people you just will never understand: how can you _actually_ understand them without being in their shoes? How do we vocalize all of these panicked thoughts and, furthermore, how do we train ourselves to understand someone who does.

[@mider-spanman5577]

It's so crazy how I can't seem to force myself to overcome the mental hurdle that is exposing my weirdest and deepest thoughts to others. It really is a lonely place and I wish there was a way to actually connect with others mentally so that each person can see and experience what the other is going through. That would make life so much deeper.

[@sparksarts]

I'm always both comforted and deeply distressed when I think about my own existentialism. There are two sides to it that I see: on the one hand, the perspective of this video, where life seems deeply pointless and terrifying and lonely (encapsulated by the whole "no one understands me, and no one ever will). And then my friend or someone random I meet will have a startlingly similar experience to me, from growing up with the same childhood films to losing a family member in the same way at the same point in our lives, but in totally opposite corners of the world. Everyone has shared experiences with someone. No one is ever TRULY alone, even if it feels like it. No experience is ever original- which is in itself a little scary too. But it also comforts me, the same way that general existential nihilism comforts me. Everything matters, but nothing matters as much as you think it does. Everything will be okay in the end, because there will be nothing in the end. Something like that.

[@squilliamfancysoniii]

Good to know that I'm not only lonely physically, but spiritually as well. Lets go!

[@willia451]

It's not important there are things no one will ever know about you. It is only important the example you set for those who need to love and care about you. People say phrases like "I love you" or "Let me help" represent the best we have to offer. But they recede into almost insignificance when compared to the phrase "I am needed." Did you fulfill that need while you were alive? If you did, you almost certainly left the world a better place than it was when you arrived. And that makes you a true miracle.

[@italianfatman]

Honestly I thought I was the only one who felt like no one would truly know me. It’s reassuring to see others feel the same way

[@Smiteymouse]

This made me feel things. It's somehow worse knowing how many people feel this way. May we all find peace.

[@robotomo4249]

Art is the most individual yet connecting forms of communication that we have. For me I record my own music, taking great care with what feeling I want the notes to possess, or what atmosphere I want the reverb to create for example. Although language is upfront in our ways of communication, visual and audible cues reflect those deeper meanings, those things can cannot be explained in words. Sitting here alone right now while typing this, I am the only one that knows the "true" me, I am alone in my connection with others yet connected globally on a scale that we cannot comprehend.

[@anarchyangelo]

Existential dread on a perfectly rainy day. Love it🤟🏼

[@ekaterinab6064]

i definitely relate to a kaleidoscope inside of emotions. one of the big things i do in therapy is just draw or describe my feelings in an abstract way. it's such a relief to be able to conceptualise a feeling that you can't with words. it allows me to feel it and then accept it, and/or let it go.

[@smollilbean]

What do you mean by, and how do you "draw" Your feelings in an abstract way? Genuinely curious. I think I would like to draw or express my feelings that way. But I don't understand how it's done.

[@yelloooooooo]

@@smollilbean you know how we're taught that blue means sad and red means angry? for yourself you can draw whatever abstract symbol, a mix of colors, or whatever you think of to express that emotion (this is pure speculation but to me the explanation makes sense... sorry, if not clear enough)

[@ygts]

I think many of these thoughts we share with countless others, yet no one realises how "normal" these thoughts are because everyone thinks they're far from normal, so nobody shares them

[@danielgilroy8768]

“You’ll wake up one day without knowing you will die that day, you will wake up assuming you will fall asleep again later that same night, when the truth is, you might not” - Unknown

[@IndustrialBonecraft]

“No one will ever know anyone. We just have to deal with each other. You're not ever gonna know me.”

[@ericlee3341]

"We are perhaps the least alone when we feel we are.": When I feel emotionally adrift, the most comforting thing for me is to be around a busy area. Seeing people carrying on about each of their own lives reminds me it is okay to do the same- despite any lingering fears and doubts I have. Somehow everyone around me keeps moving and I can do the same.

[@SnailMan63]

I struggle to put what I think into words and have tried to explain that in words, unsuccessfully. This video is exactly the feelings and emotions I felt put into words very elegantly.

[@capitaineSZM]

Got really moved by this one. Thx for the quality content

[@Unterhosegotti]

I usually dont like your videos because they give me that exact sense of loneliness, thus I usually dont watch ur videos . Today was a weird day and I just decided to give it a go. This was exacrly what I needed. It is reassurance in a sense that to be and feel lonely bc ones inability to share is acceptable and okay. Thanks for that, I felt content for a brief moment.

[@maril1]

i really wish i found this video before i dumped my frustration on my friends because they couldn't understand me. and now i realize i just wasnt patient enough. I was so caught up in this situation I didn't think that they might have no clue what im talking about.

[@jameshasbeenjammin]

I've had similar thoughts to this video before. We are completely unique. All experiencing the world in a way nobody ever has and nobody ever will. That's quite amazing.

[@Mayakran]

This is why I’m a writer and an artist and why I read and try to expose myself to art (especially stuff that’s shocking and deeply personal/raw). It’s an attempt to bridge the gap.

[@vasilivanov1951]

Everything personal is everything universal

[@daisysmum1810]

@@vasilivanov1951 paradoxical stuff😫

[@cm13rfr477]

Beautifully written, thank you for sharing this

[@Alinoo]

nobody will ever experience my kidney stones passing as I did, what a great video walking us through this existential thought

[@lin3537]

So, art can be a language as well that can let us express things that we find it hard to express or to share with people. Let art do that, i understand why i love art, its cause i feel like no one understand my words , so they might understand my art

[@crypticcryptid4702]

You know. I've often felt lonely, which is surprising considering my social life is thriving. It kind of took me a while to realise that as much as I like talking and sharing stories, they're never the ones that have impacted me on a personal level. And that I never really would because sharing those stories would contradict the perception those people have of me and I don't want to lose that. I think existential loneliness is the perfect way to describe it.

[@os2171]

This is "the problem of other minds"; we only have direct access to our own brain, and nothing else. This raises the question, is there anybody at home? (at each of the other's homes?)

[@Truthshouldalwaysbetold]

There are infinite questions to ask here and we can go so far down the rabbit hole of seeking more questions to answer that we increase the loneliness instead of embracing it for what it is, that is when we discover true passion, the goal here is to stop seeking and to become present. That is all part of embracing our infinite nature. To silence the questions of the mind and accept things as they are. IT is what all religions point to as well as all philosophy eventually, to focus on now, the present, the gift. ONce we are able to be present in the now, then all answers come to us effortlessly as there are no longer any questions to ask.

[@josegustavomedinarios8414]

What do you mean?

[@kristiandonchev2641]

But what is the "you" in yourself or the "other"? Is it the body ? If I become blind and dont see "you" are you still there , or you are now the voice? If I have been born blind the "you"has never been a "body". Then If I am deaf I identify the "other being" as just the body? What If I am both blind and deaf , how can I identify "another human" then? And also if an already identified subject changes his identity(his way of acting,thinking,doing things) ,is he still the same ...or different ?

[@lunabernhardt7680]

this really speaks to me, and somehow, this is the most truly real thing I've heard in a very long time

[@craigrawson1260]

I remember thinking years ago that this channel warranted more subscribers than it had. looking at it now, I'm happy to see that change has been made

[@greenbird777]

When I was in my early 20's, I was in therapy to deal with the fact that I was sexually abused as a child. I've always been an artist, & for me art has always been the best bridge I have between my conscious & subconscious. Several of us who were in the therapy group I was in came up with the idea of having an art show to raise awareness about the problem of childhood sexual abuse. While we were planning, we would visit other such art shows & talk to the people involved. The 1st show I went to check out changed me forever. As I walked around the exhibit the whole thing sang to me, "you're not alone - what you think, feel, know about what it's like to be wounded in this way IS shared by others." Everywhere I looked, the images I saw, the symbolism used, even the colors choices were twins to many drawings I'd done but thought I'd never share with anyone. Before that day, most of my art seemed so strange that I didn't think it would mean anything to anyone else. After that day I began sharing my art much more freely, because I finally knew how much it could mean to others to see that they aren't completely alone. My art, any art, isn't going to have meaning for everyone, but for the people it does touch, that touch is so healing.

[@whendarknessfalls6969]

Even though we can't describe it to someone, we normally find people who understand in someway.

[@williamstroud7419]

It's funny how when I was a little kid, I used to think everyone experienced the same events similarly or that they way I experienced life was mirrored in my peers. As a freshman in college, I realize how wrong I was.

[@mariededkova603]

This sounds like a monologue in a play. So eerily beautiful and truthful. Thank you.

[@keiraallen1619]

That was wonderful. Thank you to the author.💜

[@Matt-fo5rs]

I always thought it would be great if you made some sort of full length film out of one of the short stories, or a new one. Really like your works, keep it up.

[@emris2697]

Strangey enough, I feel a sense of comfort that at least I know these things. When I'm alone I never truly feel alone. I have company in my own presence and that company is enough to not feel lonely.

[@kateskeys]

Individuality is the best thing you’ve got going for you.

[@marwantawachi1561]

How eloquently spoken and painfully true.

[@classifiedinformation6353]

I think I just reaized one of the benefits of religion; "Loneliness isn't the physical absence of other people, he said - it's the sense that you're not sharing anything that matters with anyone else" -Johann Hari John

[@Melotinecookies]

I lost a very vital group of friends. After sharing so many experiences with them I am reminded how much I told them and they told me. Things they will forget, things I have forgotten. Things we remembered, texts, phone calls. The amount I helped them but I kept so much to myself. I do not miss them as people now but who they, and I, used to be. How am I supposed to move on from people I spent 4 years connected and sharing a life with. I am no one to them and they are no one to me. We are all one person alone. But even knowing I’ll move on. I pray one day I understand why things seem so big yet so small.

[@ramsnation196]

keep moving forward and that makes you understand yourself more. everything happens for a reason

[@kenstephano9615]

“Yes, they’re sharing a drink they call loneliness…but it’s better than drinking alone.” - Billy Joel

[@theresawang7793]

It almost feels to me as though this video was made to combat an individual's existential crises and isolation by suggesting that we are not alone in our feelings of loneliness; while we each have our own unique memories and emotions, realizing that you are not the only person that knows that other people will never know or understand these emotions is likely to make you feel a lot less alone.

[@OneStepToDeath420]

I come home, I hit the bong, I see this new upload. Perfect.

[@BMohantyone]

The gravity of this very topic is so deep that the video itself says a fraction of the percentage of the real deep and buried individual thought process of a single person so vast it's impossible to fathom.

[@beatleme2]

Reminds me of the only set of ''footprints'' in the sand, you think you were alone, when all along Jesús was carrying you all that time. Another good video to ponder, ''because in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make'' the beatles

[@sophiaisabelle0227]

This is a fairly insightful video. All the concepts discussed really makes you think on a deeper level. It’s true that even the people closest to us don’t exactly know or may be completely aware of our true selves.

[@MeeCee5204]

There is no reason to ever expose the totality of yourself to anyone else. We are far too complex for anyone to handle in our unfiltered form. And we know this. So out of politeness, generosity or mercy, we simplify ourselves. But then, sometimes, in the face of overwhelming emotions, our true selves emerge and it is frightening.

[@user-md6bt6xy6i]

I think that it’s really nice to have a mystery in our lives and people don’t know a lot for us

[@sogcezar]

If the only KZbin channel that ever existed was this channel, the world would be a better place…

[@foxsnightmare]

I find composing music, writing lyrics, help a little. If you haven't gotten around doing it, I recommend it. However, the moment I am done with a project and I don't immediately have another one to replace it, I feel immensely lonely. In an odd way, being alone, physcially alone, helps me feel less lonely, whereas going out and socializing with other people makes me feel more lonely. When I'm alone, I can still have the thought that "someone out there shares things that matter with me" / "I might meet that someone someday".. But when I socialize with people, the answer is right up my nose already "these people aren't it". I know that just means I am not socializing with the "correct" kind of people. But those "correct" people are so difficult to come across you know? And the older you get, the less opportunities you have for meeting new people. And every time you deliberately go out to meet new people, when you are yet again met with disappointment, it just wears you down even further. The loneliness just seeps in deeper.

[@_rlh_]

i have no idea how youtube knew to suggest this to me because i literally never watch anything like this but i honestly think i really needed to hear it

[@santoshadhikari1]

My stress buster : New video is on !

[@lliw4934]

Beautiful video-essay as always. I like that you put David Foster Wallace quotes ! I'm currently reading "A supposedly funny thing I'll never do again", and so far so good !. I really like his quotes. Thank you for existing Robert Pantano!

[@HennryHammerhead]

Just because I am alone does not mean I am lonely. Sometimes I am my best company.

[@rebelsleighter]

there are things we will never know about ourselves as our experiences are only limited by our memories

[@echoflame4279]

What sucks is how little I know it wouldn't matter if I shared what I held in. Anytime I've ever opened up with what I know and have held inside has scared off or has been too much for people. People wonder why I want to die so bad with everything I know about the world, yet when I open up about the deep and unfortunate truths that (for society's standards) I'm "not supposed to" share....they basically do the equivalent of "positive vibes only" and then push me away for their own benefit while leaving me without a support network. They don't want to hear how the world truly is because it's a "bummer", and it's "negative". Look, sometimes the only way you can truly understand a person is by how they learn from the bullshit of the world and how they decide to work through it because of what they want to see. Yet, as much as people pretend to care...they are never dedicated enough to understanding me on that level because it's "too intense". They just crave their comfort to such an unhealthy degree that it perpetuates the suffering of others, especially due to their refusal to face the suffering of the ones they say they care and love just so they can "feel good". For me love is acceptance and understanding....for me I have neither. So I am not loved, and to me: I no longer deserve love. It's all I've been taught, and it's all I know for certain. I really should just die.

[@MiquellaTheBarber]

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[@nutbastard]

The kinds of friends who can handle someone else's darkness laid bare are extremely rare. And even those who have friends like that need to be careful not to tap that level of trust and understanding too often or for too long. Fortunately there are people who are paid to listen professionally, though trust me, it's kind of a drag to find one that fits. I'm not religious in the slightest, but I do talk to a pastor at one of the churches in my town fairly regularly. He'd very live and let live, never tries to push the bible on me, or get me to attend church or anything like that. You might consider giving that a shot. Your best bet is a nondenominational church as they are less driven by dogma. Plus it's free, so that's nice. It's literally the job of a pastor to try and help anyone who is having a hard time with life.

[@samsunguser3148]

come on, I'm sorry but other people have lives like yours and has other worries and while considering to help you or try to help, sometimes they can't, they are preoccupied. Go try writing if that's your way.

[@MiquellaTheBarber]

Keep calm it'll pass.. Can't say Anything more

[@echoflame4279]

@@nutbastard I'm getting professional help, and even though I've given her everything I can think of to work with....it feels like it's going nowhere. Going to church I know for a fact is not going to help me, and I'm not even a Christian anyways. Especially since everything I've witnessed christians do in my life has been hypocritical, inhumane, and ego-serving. There's only one person I know that lives their life like a true Christian. Regardless of how I feel about organized religion and piousness, I am just not going to get the kind of help I absolutely need from a pastor. He is only going to give me religious advice on how I should feel and think....and that's the last thing I need. My best bet is finding a better therapist, but I'm not sure I could afford one right now given I may never have my own insurance to even attempt to get my health straightened out. I'm doing everything I can to live, and it's not enough. I can't even afford to help myself even if I wanted to, especially given what jobs I can work. So in the end it feels pointless.

[@CaptMang]

The Waves by Woolf is a really good book that touches on this motif.

[@Ronnied74]

your KZbin channel is a blessing

[@elsierogers1586]

when something you have always felt is put into words. thank you

[@biancaking2502]

November 4, 2005 the day I was born. Watching this on my birthday really hits different especially when I didn’t share to anyone that today is my birthday aside from this comment section… I know the people close to me are not obligated to remember my birthday but I feel like I’m forcing them to greet me if I say it is but anyways. Happy birthday to me🎂🎂🎂

[@canocancelik]

happy birthday‼️

[@probablynotonmymeds9118]

Happy birthday 🎉

[@PRSWAGSTER99]

This video is amazing omg. Literally put Into words something I couldn’t ironically. There are times were somehow those abstract thoughts that we all share somehow Come to light. For example, the notion that people were making memes of what it feels like to run in a dream always astounded me. How did you know that joke was gonna work and how did they know everyone shared that experience. That is just one of many but its astounding seeing the abstract come to life.

[@GhERM2SOIED72]

Anything that you wholly understand is you, and therefore the fact that others are unknown is a gift- it is what allows them to exist.

[@KB-fk3jj]

I've thought about this a few times, and it's upsetting. When the time comes, I want to be opened up, literally and metaphorically. To share the driving force behind so much of my cognition and creativity

[@learnwith-mooniechan]

ahh here comes my weekly dose of existential crisis

[@cee7763]

LMAOOO

[@nematshaikh6303]

LMAOOO FR

[@seelushaikh7041]

LMAOOO

[@kafkasdaughter8299]

LMAOOO

[@Pengalen]

In other news, water is wet.

[@ThelastDJ1976]

It's hard to overstate art's vital importance in this matter. The one song, or poem, or painting that reminds that one person for one moment that they are not the only ones feeling this, that they are not alone in their singular solitary struggle.

[@Bananaman74799]

Funny how this video in itself proves that when we’re lonely, we’re not alone. A bunch of separate people watching the same video in their own time.

[@Mingmar3067]

Loneliness arises when you think there is you and the world out there. To confront it is by accepting that there is only world not you.

[@user-iz3sn6ew8r]

The book of disquite by pessoa is a beautiful book which highlights topics mentioned in this video.

[@dankalzein]

another point, mentioned but not fully developed in this video, is that no one will ever truly know anyone elses true motives. we, as humans, almost always have an ulterior motive that we chase, which always in one way or another is connected to our own and only our own benefit. even the most kindest of acts, which, sure, can be based on pure empathy, still are in one way or another just our cognitions attempt of achieving some ulterior personal benefit. that, when de-abstracted and thought of more practically, is that we are all in a way narcissistic, the only thing that differs is how we choose to exhibit our thoughts, ie. different levels of "masking" the narcissism and different routes one takes to achieve their goals. Being a narcissist can get you directly to your goal if you are smart and able enough. Being kind will make other people get you to your goal if you are able to paint a pure-enough picture. Based on this concept. The difference between different humans is merely that they choose different ways to achieve their ulterior subconscious goals. thereby, any and all any human ever says or expresses, is merely a filtered/masked version of their true intentions.

[@Disproportionableness]

Of all your videos, this is the one I come back to. Describing the human condition as a "background hum" is one of the most succinct ways I've ever heard it described. This is such an unexpectedly comforting video. :)

[@MichelleMuck555]

This experience of existential loneliness is something we all possess . You would think that it would serve as drawing power and encourage interconnection.

[@majdalhaji1822]

"We are perhaps the least alone, when we feel we are"