There Is No Love In Canada

[@WazirinJosnEnvirons]

I am an older Nigerian man, now back in Nigeria after my sojourn in Canada. I would advise you younger ladies to start to ask yourself what the 'men' you want, WANT? And if you have it. Because now you have choice, 10 years goes fast in Canada! After awhile you will no longer have the choice and life makes the choice for you. Especially in a location that has new girls entering the same market each month. Casual dating is simply 'mileage' the more your miles the less chances of receiving marriage offer. In 15 years abroad I noticed less than 10% of the cohort of women I arrived with ever got married..theyjust became baby mama. Thats a serious price to pay for steady light and good road.

[@AyanfeAyeni]

Interesting perspective, thank you for sharing 👍🏿

[@lilynwoke2128]

Hello big bros u said it all,thanks for your advice 👏

[@jamworldmusic]

Real talk never missed a point 1K💯

[@adeyanjuadebiyi337]

Most people in Canada are in love with their job rather than be in love with one another.

[@TheWatcherAbove]

The problem is that Canada is full of left leaning people, with modern mental makeup. So this means they believe in common tenets of feminism. You will not be approached because most men feel they are harrassing you. Most men have also been feminized. So they have lost that male urge to mate and form bonds with viable females. On the other hand, the females have been masculinized. So they have become less feminine and more masculine...this is unattractive to most traditional men. So if you are a babe in Canada, fresh from Africa, please do not embrace the toxic modern feminine mindset. Be fit, feminine, agreable and that other word that modern feminists hate - submissive. You will find men who will want to marry you asap if you keep the traditional values you learnt from Africa.

[@ajipadeolayemi9776]

The best way to find love is to go back home and don’t show your wealth to the person u meet back home. submissive and respectful to the guy, if the guy can respect people around him and take care of his parents and friends definitely he will show you the same love. U will find true love that will lead to marriage

[@chudiksc]

Sometime they feel that men at home will not be real to them

[@nkwojoseph2456]

@@chudiksc then they should remain single, because back home they’ll have options.

[@abrahamniilartey6492]

It will be easier for a man to do as you are suggesting than a woman would. Hypergamy is their nature.

[@4ceeflower836]

Lovely video, I liked having several women sharing their experiences. It's scary to see how long some girls have been single but hopeful to see that 2 are in a relationship I left Toronto and moved back to France after 4 years. What I'd say in reaction to this discussion: - Dating apps are extremely stressful but since Canadians don't approach no more it's hard to avoid them... - It's good to have standards but I've noticed that men don't want to spend a lot of money on dates. So be open to walk/coffee dates - It's good to focus on yourself and God but you also have to go out and take actions to meet someone - I'm Congolese and I fubd that there's a great Naija community, I came across lots of Naija men, idk how you girls don't see them o lol

[@bolajokoowosho]

"I'll rather be single than be stressed" No because that is THE energy!

[@adeyanjuadebiyi337]

Good for you. But you must not fuck around.

[@tiffaniterris2886]

Moving to Canada and seeking a Nigerian boyfriend would be like a Canadian moving to Nigeria and seeking a Canadian partner. You're limiting yourself to an extremely small pool of options.

[@carrington2949]

Facts

[@AyanfeAyeni]

Hmm, I don't think that's a fair comparison as there are far more Nigerian immigrants in Canada than Canadian immigrants in Nigeria lol. The size of the Nigerian community in Canada is actually shocking, one just has to look in the right places

[@Flourish_today]

You will also notice that a lot of girls feel lucky to have found someone. And when they do, they hold on to that person regardless of the toxicity. I remember a co worker said she could not believe i had no boyfriend because I was always busy doing things, fun things like travelling, always going to Toronto etc. Meanwhile she was in a very toxic relationship. She ended up breaking up with her boyfriend of 3 years a week after their engagement. It's almost as if men are fewer than women in Canada.

[@AyanfeAyeni]

wow, that's actually crazy! I can't imagine breaking up a week after getting engaged, it takes a lot of strength to be able to do that

[@Flourish_today]

@@AyanfeAyeni But that's the thing. Some of these ladies are willing to hold on to these men regardless of the toxicity. It's almost like a national treasure to be in a relationship. If you hang around white girls especially in the work space, they talk about their boyfriends as if they were gold. It's all they talk about.

[@gentlegab353]

Hi Ayenfe

[@kemiladipo5091]

Some guys complain that Nigerian ladies are too picky and expect too much. They find it easier dealing with foreigners sadly. They're many Nigerian guys wishing to marry Naija babes but things are not working out. Let's hear from them too.

[@oluwafolahanmi]

This video was so nice... it did not even feel like 17 minutes. Good Job👍👍

[@AyanfeAyeni]

Yay! Thank you!

[@kayycharm5532]

You are so honest..... As an older man I would like to talk to you about the reasons why..... It was nice of you to bring this topic out...... There are others who have been speaking out on KZbin and I think this is the right time to bring this out...

[@tantosworld5403]

I really enjoyed filming this with you and also watching it. you are amazing ayanfe

[@AyanfeAyeni]

Thank you so much!!

[@camels9654]

Canadian guy here. If you're female you likely live in a big city, most good Canadian guys like more natural surroundings so they tend to not live in big cities, but more on the outskirts an hour or two away on a few acres of forested and. My stats, multimillionaire, kickboxer, just shy of 6', looking to get married, but outside of the major cities the male-female ratio is skewed massively, it's 10 guys for every one woman, and the women out here end up with guys they could never get in a big city. Whenever I go into the big cities, my dating app goes nuts with hundreds of lovely single women. I suspect the ratio of women to men in the big cities in Canada is probably skewed heavily in mens favours, I guess 3 woman for every one man. Also, a lot of the guys in the big cities are not nice and very entitled. If you're in a big city, expand the dating app to 200 km range, because a lot of top shelf guys are not in Toronto, we are an hour or two away with a nice house in the forest trying to find a decent woman. The problem is Toronto is so difficult to get in and out of, so most people won't date more than 25 km away. Honestly as a guy giving my impartial advice, when I walk through Toronto and see the crop of guys you all have to date, I shake my head. If you're into metrosexual men that act like divas enjoy.

[@AyanfeAyeni]

Very interesting insights, thanks for sharing!

[@jenniiking]

Okay okay, this is interesting 😂 First time in your channel and i love it already 🤍

[@AyanfeAyeni]

Happy that you found me 🤭

[@vybefrequency]

Just watched this video and I love it 😁. Well I think the issue with guys approaching girls is that most guys place girls in Canada on a high pedestal, so they feel any girl you approach might snub you or not want to talk to you. If you can make same video with guys to create a balance would be nice😌

[@AyanfeAyeni]

Great point! I'm working on the male version

[@princeezikpeanyanso6449]

@@AyanfeAyeni I’m in love with you sweetheart

[@ForMySoulSistas]

⭕I spent almost 5 years in Canada ✔️I'm a 32 y.o Congolese woman born and raised in France, arrived in Toronto in 2019, moved back to Paris in September 2023 for that reason. ✔️I tried everything: online dating, church, single events, going out alone, going out with friends.. I didn't find my man. ✔️And it's not just me: I met ppl who are single for 5/10/15 years! And I know 5 friends who are leaving too ✔️And it's not just Toronto: friends told me it's even worse in Ottawa and Calgary ⭕In my opinion, issues are: ✔️Guys don't approach to avoid being accused of sexual harassment (Canada is very feminist, it's up to the woman to make the 1st move or say very clearly that she is OK to be approached) ✔️People are extremely focused on/overwhelmed by their career, so they don't necessarily have/take time to go out ✔️Dating apps are most often used for one-night stands ✔️People don't necessarily want to settle down I won't say it's impossible in Canada, but most people meet in their home country

[@dailydollarmaker1916]

Well, for me I just feel the girls in Canada are too picky, like how do they want to find love when they aren’t even open to being friends. And I noticed something about Nigerian girls in Canada, they don’t really texts on ig.. likeeeeeee and they want to find love so easily? Nah you have to be open to new friends. You might be lucky, to find a friend whom is relocating to Canada, and then things can work out for there, but most of them are too picky. And most of them don’t reply dm’s because we are still in Nigeria, that’s so sad 😞

[@kayycharm5532]

You girls are so real and honest... I know some girls have been abroad more than 6yrs and no single man has said how are you........ Nigerian men would rather go home to go and marry or date...... Yoruba.. Girls would make good wives abroad than any other tribe.. Do not say I did not tell you.....

[@irishinjeel2174]

‘Yoruba Girls Would Make Good Wives Abroad Than Any Other Tribe ‘. Hmm nice topic for a KZbinr 😮😊

[@olamidepeters5905]

Love this video! Please make another video but this time let’s hear Nigerian guys perspective on finding love in Canada

[@AyanfeAyeni]

I'm glad you love it! I'm actually working on a video where guys can share their perspectives.

[@queennmo]

Yes please❤

[@AmeenMoyosore]

I live in Ontario Canada and trust me men aren’t the issue. Most Nigerian ladies frown so much you’d think they’re about to curse you out when approaching them. Anyways if you live in Ontario and need new friends I’m open 🤍

[@gbengaoyede2877]

I like the "never say never" girl, lol. U pple should not give up on long distance relationship oo, u never can tell.

[@isabelevuy]

Love this video , I just moved here and my hope finding someone went down haha, anyways I will love to see a part 2

[@AyanfeAyeni]

lol don't give up, it is still possible to find love here. I'm trying to work on a part 2

[@odara6307]

shawty don't give up, we are here, we plenty die🤣

[@efiuvwereogaga]

Hi, same here. Where in Canada are you?

[@kayycharm5532]

Avoid feminism...... Nigerian men think that the girls change as soon as they come over to Canada

[@allnaturalsarah7006]

@@odara6307 me sef go soon come. Be like say na to just start relationship for Nigeria first o. Lol

[@orubek355]

Thanks for the subtitles.

[@holaroftexas]

I just came across your channel and I must tell you you are really doing a good job 👏 you just got a sub from me. Nice one sis 🎉

[@AyanfeAyeni]

Thank you and welcome to the family ❤️❤️

[@holaroftexas]

@@AyanfeAyeni you are welcome. Tell Kanyin someone is looking for her.

[@dianamachado2415]

I've been watching so many videos today on my page about dating in Canada, I'm very concerned about it. I've been thinking about spending a journey in Canada, but these issues about finding love scare me at all, anyway, but I really loved to know what you think about.❤🎉

[@AyanfeAyeni]

Don't let that scare you! It might take time but if you're intentional and determined you'll eventually find something

[@Apinkies]

You did a good job editing this

[@AyanfeAyeni]

thanks babe

[@PlasticMancityFan]

I totally relate to you honestly It’s not been easy tbh

[@orubek355]

The girl in red is funny. Thanks for the video ladies. Good luck there!

[@AyanfeAyeni]

Thank you too!

[@naadromooo]

I really do enjoy your videos alot ❤️. And I think it's a matter of time you're still new to Canada and you're yet to know people so prolly by next year you'll find love😂❤️. Much love Ayanfe❤️💜

[@AyanfeAyeni]

lol thank you ❤️

[@flyman2608]

Ya there is absolutely no love in Canada. Even worse in Ottawa. That's why I went back to Nigeria to go pick a wife. Canada won't stress me Abeg. This country called Canada is really something else. Alot of my Nigerian female friends are still single and searching. It really pains me 😦. I was in their shoes. But I vexed and wised up. Don't limit yourself. Be open to Long distance relationship. You may have to go back home to Nigeria to find someone.

[@AyanfeAyeni]

We will all be fine in the end 😔

[@irishinjeel2174]

Thank you @josiah ..but why couldn’t you at least pick one of your Naija babes over there in Canada ? Why return to Nigeria to pick one

[@oasisofficial9504]

@@irishinjeel2174because most Nigerian ladies in Canada form a lot

[@abrahamniilartey6492]

​@@irishinjeel2174 men go where they are received well, accepted and respected.

[@CharlesAnigbogu-pz9bo]

The truth about living abroad as an Adult two things are involved if care is not taken Late marriage or forever Single...Most Ladies are looking for someone's son to take care of their bills whereby its two ways things

[@openbob6656]

in canada people don't approach in person ever. so only way to meet someone is online. and its not taboo to meet and marry with someone from online dating. its normal here

[@AyanfeAyeni]

Yes, I have come to realise that

[@tiffaniterris2886]

People approach in person all the time, you just have to know how to do it.

[@openbob6656]

@@tiffaniterris2886 no man. you can get charged for harassment if you do that and go to jail. its safer to do it online

[@jenniiking]

This is me watching this video 1 year after (2023) Have you found LOVE?

[@AyanfeAyeni]

lol omo that's a conversation for another video

[@bolajokoowosho]

definitely enjoyed this video!!!!

[@AyanfeAyeni]

Glad you enjoyed!

[@annetteeweme8904]

this was so good!

[@AyanfeAyeni]

Thank you!

[@favourfalola8755]

I loved this video walia 😂😂😂 I just moved in Toronto beloved, hearing this ! Last last In God we trust.

[@AyanfeAyeni]

Oh wow! God will help us all o

[@AyanfeAyeni]

Oh wow! God will help us all o

[@lilynwoke2128]

God is with you

[@irishinjeel2174]

In Trust We God o 😮

[@aspproduction410]

what i learnt from the video is to stay single there is no love anywhere 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@AyanfeAyeni]

yes o😂😂

[@Apinkies]

Yess Tanto!!!!!!

[@olami7557]

There’s love in Canada, y’all just looking for it in wrong places. 🤭🤭

[@AyanfeAyeni]

Please show us the right places to search 😂

[@sharonkipruto6340]

@@AyanfeAyeni you only want Nigerian men, that's the problem

[@sharonkipruto6340]

@@AyanfeAyeni you should import Nigerian men for yourselves 😊

[@Tilectual]

@@AyanfeAyeni 😂😂

[@amazingtouch1322]

@@AyanfeAyeni i sincerely believe there's love in that country. The problem is some times people see love and don't recognize it, the meet love and refuse to receive it, they get love and devalue it. So they miss it all. I speak as an adult man that has been through stuff. There's love everywhere in this world.

[@femiosinaike586]

Nice watch ayanfe. Good video.

[@AyanfeAyeni]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@dideoluwaogunbode6762]

Ayanfe has cooked lemme come and enjoy 🥳🥳

[@AyanfeAyeni]

🥰🥰🥰

[@kayrourke290]

I just moved to Canada and the men are so unresponsive, not only talking about romantic interest, even just trying to be friends with men out here...no enthusiasm

[@AyanfeAyeni]

Hmm, I totally agree but I can't blame them.

[@ventdesiles5979]

Maybe you, beautiful sisters, should consider moving to the US, specially in Florida 'cause there's plenty of love in America despite all the negativity. Now, if you limit yourself to one specific ethnicity, that's a problem. I am a native of Haiti 🇭🇹 and I wouldn't mind dating a sister from anywhere in Africa no matter what her background is, as long as she's educated, curvy(that's the most), respectful and supportive.

[@ventdesiles5979]

I have been living here in America for a very long time and been trying to find a curvy Ghanaian or Nigerian girl for the longest in Miami, they are nowhere to be found. I don't want to move to Georgia or Texas to find one so, I finally 😂washed my hands.

[@bolajokoowosho]

the way they laughed after the "happy"😂

[@AyanfeAyeni]

e get why 😭😭

[@irishinjeel2174]

I suggest to our girls ; Be open minded and stop being over selective ..time flies ...

[@AyanfeAyeni]

Yes, time flies but it is better to take your time and find someone that you're compatible with than lower your standards and settle for less. Forever is a long time.

[@reallogan]

I came to canada last month and its a lonly city.

[@AyanfeAyeni]

It's always lonely at first but you'll find your people eventually

[@warpath7985]

Ok I don't understand. You've lived in Nigeria all your life and didn't find love, then you moved to a new country, that happens to be be one of, if not the most multicultural countries in the world and are shocked you haven't found "love" yet in less than a year?? Lol, seriously? You may need to open you criteria and look beyond dating someone Nigerian or even black. As you've noticed, blacks in Canada is a small minority. Even that may be difficult as just like you guys, many aren't willing to date out of their race or culture.

[@AyanfeAyeni]

Interesting perspective, thanks for sharing 👍🏿. Quick correction though, the black community in Canada is a minority group but not a small one; it is actually the third-largest minority group in Canada😏. Secondly, I'm not really looking for love 😊.

[@sharonkipruto6340]

Exactly

[@tiffaniterris2886]

@@AyanfeAyeni - Sorry, but it isn't, it's 3% and almost exclusively in Toronto and Montreal. White 75%, Asian 15%, First Nations 6%, Black 3%, everything else 1%.

[@Quintaline]

i think is because your end goal is marriage, and you all want just Nigerian men. There are many other Africans men in Canada looking for love as well. Secondly I believe you all had boyfriends before leaving Nigeria. what happened to them.

[@Gagzicool]

Lolzzzz.....as soon as they leave Muritala Mohammed airport , that boyfriend is dumped

[@irishinjeel2174]

Lol .... while I was still in Nigeria.. I remember about 3times my female friends relocated to USA, Uk and we communicated just once and they stoped replying texts and that was the end .

[@kanyinsolaayeni9713]

You’re so talented ☺️

[@AyanfeAyeni]

Thank you so much!!

[@relaxingmind6753]

People should remain single forever

[@AyanfeAyeni]

😂😂that does not sound like a good plan

[@still.sophieee]

Loved this🤍✨

[@AyanfeAyeni]

thank you! 🥰

[@oluwatomi.o]

Nice

[@b4m455]

would love to hear stuff from guys too btw🤞🏾

[@isabelevuy]

Yeah

[@AyanfeAyeni]

I'm going to try my best

[@Limitlesserica]

No love for you in Canada, no love for me in Nigeria. We're good😭😂

[@AyanfeAyeni]

No love anywhere o 😂😂

[@odara6307]

hmmm👏🏻👏🏻

[@michaelogunnaike5433]

Great job 👍🏾 if after 7years no love found nah to come to Nigeria and marry then abi

[@AyanfeAyeni]

😂lol yes o

[@benjaminayeni4208]

Go Girl 👏👏

[@AyanfeAyeni]

Thank you !

[@akinsikuabiodun6602]

Beautiful one 👍

[@AyanfeAyeni]

Thank you!

[@kayycharm5532]

I wish I can chat with you girls to fully explain the reason to you girls from a Nigerian man's perspective........

[@kayclefbeatz3150]

Na to carry babe from Nigeria ooo😂😂

[@AyanfeAyeni]

that's the way

[@queenrita7776]

This video is very interesting 😌🙌😁

[@AyanfeAyeni]

Glad you think so!

[@HealedandWinning]

Me that want to japa so that i will marry a non Nigerian that has been my childhood dream. I no too get stsndard. If we are good we move

[@favoursalami8740]

My dear we’re living the same life, Ottawa is even worse than Toronto # focusingonmyself 😭

[@efemenagift8127]

Are you in ottawa?

[@AyanfeAyeni]

we will all be fine in the end o 😭😭😭

[@kayycharm5532]

The main issue is Nigerian men do not like feminism....... And being exposed to very beautiful girls abroad... Now makes Nigerian girls second choice

[@bolajokoowosho]

Show them pepper pro max please!

[@AyanfeAyeni]

period sis

[@demolabada3958]

Ayanfeee💗💗💗💗

[@AyanfeAyeni]

❤️❤️

[@ilytenderlyn4620]

Ayanfe, why did you make that face at 09:24? 😂😂

[@AyanfeAyeni]

I thought nobody noticed 🤣. Hmm e get why sha 😂

[@princeezikpeanyanso6449]

❤❤❤

[@priscilliamaiyeko3626]

❤️❤️❤️

[@PreciousPerrySolomon]

Glad to know I am not alone 😂

[@AyanfeAyeni]

We gather dey o

[@Tommy.o]

🇳🇬😭 y'all haven't found me thats why

[@AyanfeAyeni]

😂😂😂

[@orubek355]

I can't understand why men in Nigeria can deal with rejection but once they move in Canada they can't 😂

[@AyanfeAyeni]

I really don't know 😂

[@irishinjeel2174]

It’s because of the cold I think 🙄

[@morgancollins7179]

How can we meet single ladys in Canada from Nigeria Yoruba's in short please

[@AyanfeAyeni]

Lol I don't know if I can help you with that

[@orubek355]

For sure you need the therapist after dating apps 😂

[@AyanfeAyeni]

😂

[@Danii-YelleGlow]

🙂

[@kanyinsolaayeni9713]

There’s no love dear 😔

[@AyanfeAyeni]

😭😭

[@withlovewumi]

This was enlightening but I would’ve loved to see it from a male’s perspective as well.

[@AyanfeAyeni]

Thank you, and I'm working on that

[@agtyu]

@@AyanfeAyeni Are there male version of the video already?

[@daliaa5294]

I think you ladies are limiting your opportunities. There is not a lot of Nigerian men in Canada. I find that Nigerian men there like the white ladies. Please open yourself to other races

[@abuubakarmaxamed4630]

❤iliket and enjoyed bat

[@BalogunTobi42]

Men are not born liars 🙄

[@AyanfeAyeni]

lol 😂

[@irishinjeel2174]

I just Dey look d girl mouth wen she dey say ‘ men are born liars ‘ ‘show dem pepper’ like seyy Na pepper soup she go Canada go lick 👅 Lol😅

[@ab.roberts]

Fr you bashing Nigerian guys.. 💀😂

[@AyanfeAyeni]

well, they deserve it lol 😂

[@무희-i8r]

한국놀러오세요 친구들 환영합니다 아파트오빠살아요 환영합니다 초대합니다 한국오세요

[@AyanfeAyeni]

북한이나 남한

[@무희-i8r]

@@AyanfeAyeni 남한코리아

[@bigdeal_ify]

agree, video was completely pointless.!

[@AyanfeAyeni]

My video was completely pointless?

[@bigdeal_ify]

@@AyanfeAyeni lol, apologies! (u said so yourself), no disrespect to all d beautiful ladies but u gave us no hope... I know its harder for girls to find someone serious, considering that guys just want & do what they do..but I am sure they all have had some good experiences with guys over here in Canada,its can't be all negative, maybe do a video about same... just subscribed....xoxo

[@rubbyo2733]

If there is no love in Canada then move out to a different country.

[@AyanfeAyeni]

WIll you pay for my ticket and cover all relocation costs 😅

[@rubbyo2733]

@@AyanfeAyeni Jokes apart I will definitely invite you to the Uk make arrangements for ur flying tickets trust me

[@queenrita7776]

She said I think 😂😂😂😂💔@bolanle

[@kayycharm5532]

The girl on black shirt or sleeve.... I will like to talk to you about this topic...... What's your Instagram..... This is not only in Canada but in the uk... USA and Europe

[@AyanfeAyeni]

I'm not sure which one of us you're referring to but everyone's Instagram link is in the description box

[@kayycharm5532]

Pls what's your Instagram?

[@AyanfeAyeni]

my Instagram is @ayanfe_ayeni

[@kayycharm5532]

@@AyanfeAyeni great... I will continue the conversation with you there.....