PART ONE: Selena Gomez Opens Up About Emotional Abuse During Justin Bieber Relationship

[@kaykay56]

And this is why you need to stop idolizing celebrity or “influencer” couples . We don’t know wtf is going on behind the scenes. Stop glorifying them

[@vsatromp5358]

Kay Kay in general totally agree but i think when this relationship was made public fans wanted Selena dead. Yeah she had to deal with that too.

[@feefs2139]

Thankkkkk youuuuuu. Only God is to be glorified.

[@lisamariemontoya2594]

Kay Kay This is why this society is so corrupt and ignorant; Their foundation is off of this and social media. And then people expect to have a healthy, successful relationships with this mentality. Selena is older than Justin, probably more grounded and left her value in the hands of a man. Good for her she took the healing course but don’t judge a book by its cover!

[@thr3385]

Even WHEN justin Bieber and Selena Gomez were together we knew the Tea

[@lisamariemontoya2594]

Thr 33 True. Selena is here, telling her story and Justin is taking accountability for whatever toxic traits he had during their relationship. People want the sun to shine out of his ass lol Damned if you do, damned if you don’t 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@Lovely-yg7ie]

The victim always takes longer to heal and move on than the abuser.

[@whatzittooyah]

Or maybe the abuser is the one that’s hurt and never healed from something if their past. Hurt people hurt people. You never know who’s the one that’s hurting

[@Lovely-yg7ie]

@@whatzittooyah yes that is completely true, but still they move on faster than who they abuse. Not to say they are healed, which is what the abuse usually does before they move one. But usually the abuser forgives themself before moving onto to someone new without being healed from what they did. Justin said he was emotionally abusive in all his relationships so he moved on to more people before being healed and kept the same pattern. The problem he/others doesn't see is how much they may have affected those lives with his abuse but is still selfish enough to do it again and again.

[@taylor7077]

@MrSpliffstarz or maybe she was abused like he SAID HE ABUSED HIS RELATIONSHIPS.

[@Lovely-yg7ie]

@THOT Patrol yeah she may be jealous he got married, but I honestly think she is better off than him considering all the drama around his marriage

[@ev_green_]

an abuser has far more healing than the person abused, they may never admit what they have done. they are psychotic

[@lastnamefirst9423]

I'm impressed and grateful that Justin validated her experience. So often emotional abusers don't admit fault, gaslight, dismiss, and manipulate facts to avoid accountability. I hate she had this experience but she can count that as one blessing, to facilitate her healing.

[@dex5727]

Yess

[@cgill914]

I totally agree! I give Selena credit for speaking on it of course. But I give Justin credit as well for admitting to being wrong. Most men would NOT admit to that and be willing to take responsibility. That shows real growth and also deserves praise in my opinion.

[@MimiOnliine]

His Instagram post about it, shared on the Real, is from 2019 though , so even though it happened, he hasn't yet addressed Selena Gomez and her experience directly. Thought I'd add that just for context.

[@cgill914]

MimiOnliine good to know. I hope that he does address it directly then.

[@Pdazzling]

I thought that as well. I admire his accountability, and it not only validates her experience, it bodes well for his emotional growth. Justin Beiber was the victim of being commoditized at such a young age, and hurt people hurt people. So many young celebrities do t make it out of that. I would however, like to see him further champion both his cause and hers, by speaking AT emotional abusers about the damage they are doing.

[@capriv4227]

So ignorant how people feel so entitled about Selena Gomez’s healing. “Get over it. Stop talking about it.” Emotional abuse is no joke and trauma takes years to recover from. I was emotionally abused 4 years ago but guess what? I’m still healing from that abuse. I applaud Selena Gomez for being so candid!

[@amandamorgan8349]

She’s lying. She was the one abusing Justin. She literally was caught on camera hitting him and admitted she abused him too. It wasn’t just Justin. She talks about Justin bc she knows that’s the only way people actually listen to her. Using him for clout

[@isc6197]

@@amandamorgan8349 imaging milking a light slap to make it sound like she was forcing him down punching the life out of him. like she might as well actually did that with the way your making it out to be

[@briana1643]

I have ptsd from it nit even regular complex ptsd

[@isc6197]

@@amandamorgan8349 girl literally has justin bieber in her banner acting like we supposed to believe her biased ass. imagine trying to water down someone’s abuse because you like a racist mans music

[@lilxtasy4936]

candid? all she uttered was three words.

[@allyshaw]

“I hate that”. I felt that when Jeannie said that

[@urockit2011]

I felt that. Deep in my soul.

[@vsatromp5358]

same.. same.. not bEcause HE is married and maybe moved on does that mean that the abuse Selena received is canceled or goes away or becomes invalid.

[@MAly-gp7ti]

Yeah true. But it’s good Adrienne mentioned the other perspective and it wasn’t one sided

[@phillinsogood]

M. Ali exactly I’m all for her sharing her story but cmon they broke up years ago and he’s married now. It’s time for the general public and media to move on and stop bringing it up

[@SVRAHT]

There’s no time limit to healing. When Jeanie said “i hate that” i felt it! Cause that’s not up to you

[@emmalou6742]

This is Selena’s story and she can tell it today and she can tell it when she’s 80.

[@melissaochoa927]

Emma Lou best comment ever !! 🙏🏾

[@-.a9942]

That’s doesn’t mean people will not have their opinions or get bored of it.

[@obeyariana9342]

@@-.a9942 and they can have their opinions, just don't invalidate anyone's feelings

[@JR-sf7td]

@Emma Lou J biebs can also tell his story when he’s 80 to.

[@irielissette]

I thought Adrienne's approach was insensitive. Time is irrelevant and doesn't make your pain any less significant. Everyone heals at a different pace, let her speak her truth at her own time

[@testaccount01336]

❤❤❤❤

[@TaylorAshleyyy]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@ladiired00]

I totally agree. And she kept saying " alot of people" when it is obviously the way she feels

[@jyn88]

Yes.. I actually just made a comment in reply to Adrienne. Doesn't she get that her album was just released and so people are going to ask her about it? She has the right to explain her songs.

[@santiagogonzalez2814]

Exactly! So glad Jennie stopped her and said “ I hate that “ silencing someone from telling their abuse story no matter how long it has been so just inhumane and disgusting.

[@KerenOrtiz]

I loved when Jeannie stepped in with the " I hate that" even if people change and are sorry for what they did to you. That doesnt mean that you will automatically heal. It's just hard to process why the people that we love can do certain things to us. Let Selina talk about it all she wants is her life.

[@melissaochoa927]

👐🏾

[@quitecontrary23]

Not only that but Adrienne talks about Rob anytime someone asks about it

[@faycoleman9023]

I'm sure words were had after this segment. Cause Adrienne intentional or not is supporting being quite. What if Justine was beating Selena? Should she have just gotten over it cause time passed. Also 100% if he was emotionally abusing her he probably put her in compromising situations that scared her. He might not have been the direct threat but he probably still made her feel like she was in danger.

[@justintime1370]

It takes time.. she’s busy with her career health etc.. she is taking her time to process her experience slowly because memories come unexpectedly & trigger depression anxiety etc… she’s learning what she feels and what it is that bothers her … sharing as she goes.. it takes longer to heal & some never heal from trauma… so let her be Adrienne Bailon!

[@justintime1370]

For real let’s be real Adrienne Bailon.. you’re not a doctor..

[@137rtekke7]

Rare is Selena’s first album in five years since Revival back in 2015, she’s speaking her truth about her life from 2015 to now and she has every right to do so, Justin happens to be part of that. She hasn’t been talking about it constantly for years, she’s been very low-key since 2016 because she has lupus and had to have a kidney transplant, now is her time to speak. Justin talked about Selena, wrote song about Selena on Journals in 2013 and Purpose in 2015 but nobody told him that he needs to move on or that he’s been talking about it for so long.

[@RealAnita926]

She's written songs about him prior.

[@alexhallow5119]

Why is this girl still relevant? She can’t sing worth a damn

[@jahzealjr6810]

Does the world revolve around this girl? So many people have been through way worse, like me for example who grew up with no parents. Selena is good bro, she's been rich all her life, don't waste your time talking about a celebrity.

[@XsukiniiX]

Y’all are so hateful in these comments

[@magu9841]

137rtekke She needs to move on! Plus he used him. I don’t like Justin Bieber but clearly Selena used him.

[@msislabonita]

WHEN JENNIE SAID “I HATE THAT” YESSS CLAP BACK

[@savvyaranda]

what adrienne said honestly upset me it doesn’t matter if everyone moved on it’s never too late to share the abuse that you’ve been through just cause he’s married doesn’t disregard the stuff she’s been through that’s just my opinion

[@magu9841]

Selena is an attention seeker. She can’t sing so she talks to stay relevant.

[@adelinavasileva8539]

Jeannie is an example, she did it very late compared to other people

[@savvyaranda]

Magu G we’re not talking about her voice. she’s not an attention seeker she got asked a question and she answered honestly.

[@a.b.5473]

Magu G her singing voice has nothing to do with this lol

[@tivkaamary9963]

👏👏👏👏👏

[@riasimone4175]

Can Jeannie have her own segment giving advice/wisdom and telling us her stories? She should also give book reccomendations to the viewers since she loves to read and a lot of times references advice from books. Follow me on Twitter: @re_uuh

[@AdelaideAnn]

She does a book club on her Instagram! And she also has a podcast too where she shares a lot!!

[@andreiroman6043]

Please

[@jonnydavis6066]

no. all she does is repeat what her therapist says

[@lisarodriguez5107]

jonny davis and you’ve been speaking to her therapist? Jeanie speaks from her own experiences too, she relates.

[@gabbs5958]

She has her KZbin channel where she talks about some of her stuff

[@thruthemotions]

Im with Jeannie. Its so easy to diss Selena and say "move on" when its not that easy

[@kayzihle1065]

TBH Selena is the symbol right now that we as young women are vigorously abused in relationships by these [young] men in this day and age. Many of us are facing this so yes, sis, talk about and help other women speak out too

[@jonnydavis6066]

shut up

[@ramonajavier5938]

@@jonnydavis6066 you stfu

[@jzwalz51robin45]

@Nobody Women who abuse their children set that stage for the abuse.

[@damiendevil333]

*Some males* no MAN abuses their partner .

[@user-nq6um4bs5y]

JZWALZ51 ROBIN How come the daughters of abusive mothers don’t commit as much abuse to men as men do to women

[@riasimone4175]

I love what Loni said about helping girls realize that they are in an emotionally abusive relationship, and I agree with Jeannie. There is never a time limit on telling your own story!

[@yasminty7404]

adrienne’s comment really rubbed me the wrong way. people are on their own paths to heal and it isn’t anyone else’s place to dictate when and how long they choose to open up about it.

[@Breyven01]

yasminty Cause @adrienne as we all know a HOME WRECKER ASS. Insensitive BIATCH! look where you come from isn’t a mess too? from rob k to a man that u took away from his family? YOU HOME WRECKER BITCH. STFU . Freedom of speech I gt it!

[@fagggggia]

Adrienne girl bye. There’s no right time to heal. You either heal today, next week, next month, or in five years. Hell sometimes some people don’t.

[@humblewarrior7593]

Jeannie said it perfectly, can't judge somebody's journey to healing. Keeping it real, she hasn't said anything about it before now and the song she wrote is about their relationship so she can't help but to talk about her experience.

[@ncj8879]

Adrienne talked about rob for the longest time.. even after they both moved on. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m just saying it was irrelevant for her to say that.

[@KF-ph4pz]

Adrienne is disgusting! why is she acting like she never had to heal from a situation before?? then to throw it out there that Salena could have been doing drugs with justin is ridiculous! what is wrong with her. smh

[@CelleSleuths]

I was apalled at those twitter comments...nasty unhappy people... they fail to realize that she was last with him in 2018.... thats less than 2 years ago and hes already married.... that is not a lot of time to get over a how many year relationship?? longgg time... and besides that, she is an artist... music is how she expresses herself... those songs werent written yesterday... and just because she is releasing them and speaking about the songs doesnt mean she " isnt over it. " People are so gross, so im glad to hear that you guys were positive about this because if yall said some ish about selena I would have been like damn i thought yall were better than that but YESS queens.... queens supporting queens, we love that. Its so crazy how people will point the finger at Selena and say she needs to get over it, but they wont mention or hold Justin accountable for what HE did.

[@Lelereyes7777]

Celeste Noelle And not to mention he’s still trying to hurt her by dropping his single and his album at the same time!!! Couldn’t he had waited at least 3 months.

[@melissaochoa927]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@melissaochoa927]

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@ynellirosas]

I really don’t like what Adrianne said. About “how long is too long” That was so wrong. Thanks Jeanie! For clarification about healing. Even if a person apologizes, the person that has been damaged should have the freedom in time to go through the healing process. Some people can recover from abuse rapidly others never really do.

[@user-py2fx5wp1o]

nelli rosas like someone else said I think Adrienne feels that way because her own husband does not have such a clean slate in his past relationships.

[@jesusiskingofmyheart]

I totally agree with Jeannie. I was in an emotional & physically abusive relationship almost 10 years ago & I'm still "healing" from that abuse. I'm thankful to be alive.. 🙏🏼 There isn't a set time to heal and be able to speak out on your story. I disagree with Adrienne completely. You go Selena ❤ We support you girl x

[@allyshaw]

I’m glad that they were both able to be honest about this. Sometimes the victim, and even the abuser, is too embarrassed to share.

[@chinitadoll7016]

The topic is emotional abuse Adrienne why make a clear assumption that Justin was doing drugs with Selena 🤨

[@Ashley-dt7tv]

Its not. He himself said that he used and was in a dark place

[@xoMari24]

@@Ashley-dt7tv Right, and then Adrienne adds in "I don't know if they used drugs together" which is what the girl is referring to with her comment. One person admitted to drug use and abuse (Justin) but it's so unnecessary to make the kind of statement to question whether the person abused was as doing drugs with him as well.

[@darkmind3711]

Truth Hurts and how do you know that? After the kidney transplant she shouldn’t be allowed to drink

[@chinitadoll7016]

xoMari24 THANK YOU 💯

[@chinitadoll7016]

My comment went over y’all heads and it shows. 🥱

[@robbie-leighlock8573]

I’m glad that Adriennes never had someone emotionally abuse her, if she had been through that she would know how long it truly takes to try and heal from this mentally.

[@tivkaamary9963]

Rob kardashian did & she couldn't stop talking about him till she got married & yet she is being condescending about this issue

[@melissaochoa927]

Robbie-Leigh Lock 🙏🏾👐🏾

[@alonialewis305]

She just healed now y'all want her to be the spokesperson of emotional abuse. COME ON LADIES SOMETIMES YOU IGNORE THE OBVIOUS.... with the exception of Jeanie

[@J39222]

She abused him to.

[@alonialewis305]

@Ona Xhemali healing is an on going process and is different for each person.

[@alonialewis305]

@@J39222 and he has the right to speak about that as long as he needs/wants to as well

[@whatzittooyah]

Alonia Lewis. Healing means the wounds don’t hurt anymore and it’s not a bother. When you heal it’s not on going. The process of healing is over.

[@whatzittooyah]

Heal I meant. She’s still hurt. She ain’t heal anything

[@FA-dv5he]

I know how Selena got out of that relationship. Justin married Hailey. If it wasn't for that she would still be going out off and on with Justin.

[@adaabeja2061]

Edit Name I had the same exact thought.

[@camille98tt]

Dude what ? She literally stopped liking him years ago when she dated the weekend. Y’all are sad trolls

[@amairani6449]

T sassy12 No... she was literally seen with Justin a few months before his engagement with Hailey.

[@lunadexelaju3494]

Yup! She kept it going too. She should thank Hailey for taking that problem away from her.

[@savvyaranda]

it’s sad but i agree ☝️

[@eloram1752]

Adrienne is forgetting that Selena was Justin’s date to his dads wedding in February 2018. No one actually knows when they broke up or how long they were together for in total

[@melissaochoa927]

Zarina A 👍🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@MaryThiboudeax]

I don’t care if it’s drugs, alcohol or stress at work, there is no excuse to abusing a woman in ANY form!

[@MajesticMyronn]

All I will say is this... everybody heals differently... if it takes going to therapy to heal... DO IT ! If it takes having a one on one conversation with that person that hurt you so you can get closure... DO IT! If it takes accepting the apology that never happened so you can have self relief... DO IT ! Do whatever feels necessary to get out of a place of hurt , pain , and resentment... because then you’ll be able to truly heal once you’ve released all that stuff that happened in your negative past to lead to such a positive future and learn from it !

[@ghiaferrari7585]

The abuser never learn they just hop on to the next victim. Poor Hailey.

[@faycoleman9023]

They can learn but most don't, usually they just learn how to hide their dirt better or package it differently.

[@faycoleman9023]

@@enyaprior30 You're right, he might be doing better and I hope he is. No body knows if he abused Selena aside from her and himself. It definitely seems like he has a lot of guilt regarding her though and she has seem to go down hill since they dated. My original statement wasn't specifically about Justin just abusers in general.

[@ft4257]

Thank you Jeannie! U really know what u were talking about. I used to be in abusive relationship for years and many people didn’t know but Once I got out with depression and anxiety. I started talking about it so can have some relief. Everybody heals at their own time.

[@avianalaureano8264]

Many women are in emotionally abusing relationships I’m glad that she told her story

[@melissaochoa927]

Aviana Laureano me too👍🏽

[@Giuseppina-Alessandra]

Seems like Adrienne’s opinions touch on her situation with her husband without being too obvious.

[@j.graham8201]

Why would it apply to her marriage? I even think Lenny was being emotionally abusive to her now that she told us more about her relationship with him.

[@user-py2fx5wp1o]

Alessandra B exactly what I thought. Adrienne knows her husband’s past could come back to haunt them if any of his exes decided to speak publicly.

[@laurencameron3150]

Although I agree with Jeannie that everyone heels on their own time. However, part of the healing process is moving forward. So, I think it’s important for people to recognize when they’ve moved to the next step and when they’re stagnant.

[@ElmTreigh]

Too true. She should speak on the signs of realizing you had moved on. There are times that when you are going through your healing process, sometimes you've moved on without knowing you've moved on, but still talk about what happened because you just got used to talking about it.

[@angxxv8953]

it sucks because i'm sure Selena wants to move on but she keeps getting asked about her previous relationships in every interview HOWEVER If selena wants to tell her side of the story, she has every right to do so!

[@nmoomoo]

Ang xxv also she’s only come back to the limelight. She hasn’t been talking about this forever so it’s not like she hasn’t moved on.

[@susan-ku5py]

I agree and and I also kind of agree with Adrienne too. How many times should Justin have to apologize? I’m sure he’s sincerely sorry but he also has the right to move on with his life and be a better man to his wife now.

[@vamperkillzshy]

Thank you lol

[@AllisonTamayo]

I was in a situation where I was being emotionally abused and the abuse is very very real and leaves internal scars for years. I hope she’s doing the healing she needs. Glad she came out with it.

[@nataliawilliams5365]

It's so unfair to assume she had healed because he did. She gets to talk share her story regardless. Maybe the fact that he healed first affected her process. All the pressure. I always figure it can't be easy to be young and have everything but feel like you have nothing because the thing you want most you haven't found yet.

[@alexfran5627]

She was asked a question and she answered it. Idk why this media is trying to twist her words.

[@Breyven01]

Alex Fran cause that’s how they make $ simple as that. When that money starts to move around the table , like what they said FAKE IT TIL YOU MAKE IT.

[@bella8972]

It’s great to see that this was spoken about and I wish more women can be candid and speak about this issue more often. I think I can relate with Selena as a woman who has been there, abused verbally, emotionally, physically and mentally. Some women at a young age falls in love are sometimes naive and tend to put the young man up on a pedestal. We give so much and become so vulnerable and we forget about ourselves. We become so submissive because we think it’s the norm and we don’t want to disappoint the man we love. It’s real! It’s unfortunate but there can always be a way out. I’m very happy for Selena and I think she can still do better! My prayers for her! 🙏🏼

[@janelleflores5141]

this just shows once again that we are much the same then we are different. we struggle in relationships and unfortunately sometimes it can get ugly by staying in an emotional abusive relationship. they were never perfect, and people till this day idolize the two of them together. i respect selena for speaking her truth, and i also respect justin for owning up to his mistakes.

[@hellokittymakeuplove]

Adrienne was so insensitive in this girl talk. 🤬 How many times did she bring up Rob & Lenny? Gurl bye!!!

[@ashtonmarie6336]

Nancy S. Higareda HAAAA right?! What she said kissed me tf off

[@Lil08103]

lenny aint married though and selena/justin ended 6 yrs ago. girl, go get some therapy and let it go lol smh. adrienne talked about lenny when her break up was relatively fresh.

[@mercedezzz007her7]

Selena is mentioning it because they asked her in interview. Where she clearly said she won’t be talking about this forever. She has the right to speak her TRUTH Adrianne and at limelight

[@samuelochs2254]

Any plus it’s Adriennes decision whether or not she wants to bring up that time and plus she never said Lenny was a bad person or that he emotional abused her. Rob on the other hand he probably physically abused her

[@ZawadiBirya]

Absolutely, I'm very surprised!

[@ErikaRodriguez-jr3qb]

Preach Jeannie! Selena is healing through her music and for years she kept quiet and kept it all in. As someone who was once emotionally abused, I am so proud of her for speaking out. She’s is in the process of healing people, let her be 💕

[@sefakorfiadjoe7404]

People should tell their story if and when they are ready. Especially when we haven’t been in her shoes. Let’s just encourage and support her truth!!🙏🏾

[@amani5161]

Loving the vibe from this chat! Everyone getting a chance to talk, no one speaking over anyone else! Loving the new team ♥️

[@lisamariemontoya2594]

Everything Selena went through with Justin I’m sure was very difficult and clearly took a hard hit toward her self-esteem and value. People want to point the finger all day long but take some accountability! Justin needed healing and she just wasn’t his HELP MEET. Selena is healed and I’m sure wants to share her story but THERE IS ALWAYS 2 SIDES OF THE STORY.

[@halieransom]

You sound like someone who expects women to fix broken men

[@lisamariemontoya2594]

HalieRenee I don’t expect anything. People are so naturally entitled even in relationships. They were both too young to even know what a healthy relationship is. If you have to verbalize or force someone to change, then that person isn’t for you. It’s only up to the person to want to change. Your response (one sentence) is judgmental coming from someone who is a mental health graduate. I’ll pray for you hun.

[@ray-ann3476]

Straight up... you get out of it when you’ve had enough or when the other person has had enough. If not one of you walks away for good, it’ll never end.

[@IAMASELENATOR92]

I am so proud she was brave enough to speak about the emotional abuse she went through.

[@natahsachansa9777]

Jeanie Mai. God bless you for been a part of this table.

[@FRANKIBABI_]

🗣I’m SUPER PROUD OF HER‼️ 👏🏽

[@dania6363]

AS SHE SHOULD!! Selena is an incredibly strong individual and has been a role model for me since I was in elementary school, it sounds so stupid to adore someone like a celebrity and someone I will probably never meet, but Selena is one hell of an inspiration, nothing but love.

[@yourstrulysheila6731]

I’ve been in a relationship/FWB or whatever you wanna call it situation to where it was emotional abused. I got cussed out all the time, a door slam in my face, if I didn’t leave.. things would have gotten aggressive, got lecture when I did something wrong, always putting the blame on me, try to tell me what I can or cannot wear & cussing me out in a public area. Now due to that situation it has caused me anxiety... So, I definitely feel for Selena.

[@ciac9972]

im sorry to be fact checking but ariana grande is the most followed person on instagram for a while now

[@estefaniavargaslora1214]

cia c actually, is Cristiano Ronaldo. She’s second

[@je5186]

estefania vargas lora Right. Men are the most followed on every platform, studies have shown this

[@dawnarxtic]

@@estefaniavargaslora1214 most followed female

[@sunshinequeen3262]

sis Cristiano Ronaldo is the most followed person on instagram. you must be living under a cave.

[@estefaniavargaslora1214]

John Easton well I don’t know about that.

[@yvonnedavis9650]

I went through emotional abuse with a guy. He always put me down and criticized me and acted like I couldn’t do anything right. It’s been since July 2019 and I’m still hurting over it. There’s no specific time.

[@jinkzava]

Loni and the girls saying teach her followers how to get overcome it ... did they not hear the album or her interviews her whole album is based on self love and taking your power back the title of her album is “rare” these women dont do their research just talk bout the key points

[@Truther1903]

Adrienne went out of her way to say Selena may have been doing drugs with Justin. She’s so biased in all of her opinions and clearly doesn’t like Selena. I’m glad this show is ending because Adrienne has nothing to offer.

[@whisperingwhiskerss4877]

Okay... It’s never okay, but I’m glad Justin owned up to it 🖤

[@marquiesortiz97]

Not just women but guys is well can be emotionally abused

[@lujainmustafa20]

Yess

[@alaza61]

This is true.

[@aaaserobehonest8174]

Yeah, both of them.

[@EvieSerrano657]

I didn't realize I was in an emotional abusive relationship till my late 30's like eventually you'll realize how much you're being effected when you loose yourself is when i started educating myself.

[@asmanu1010]

adrienne spoke my mind , it migth be insensitive but we cant ALWAYS be PC

[@LegendLex]

Stay on topic , it’s not about followers it’s about emotional abuse & explaining the story & the healing process

[@raidenhara4624]

I think that was a great question that Adrian posed at 2:30: "At what point do you stop telling your story?" Amanda and Jeannie chimed in, with the latter saying that "I hate that". You can enourage people to speak but pay attention to specific people they allow to "tell their story". If this was a female musican they all idolize and make excuses for, and a past male lover comes out and talks about his past with her, I wouldn't be surprised if the women on this panel gave him the cold shoulder. There's so much bias against men in favor of women. He will be viewed as the bitter, old boyfriend who's trying to interfere with female's success. Selena Gomez can speak on her relationship if she wants, especially if she hasn't talked about it much, but there is a point where speaking publically about a high profile relationship becomes past its expiration date, like America's obsession with Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston, particularly if the conversation is superficial and trite.There are certain stories that are constantly rehashed and doesn't have to be anyone's business. If the women are all about equality, they should keep the same energy regardless of the past lover is male or female, high profile or not.

[@opnspa55]

Emotional abuse is mostly the same as verbal abuse.Until you stop talking about a problem you are not getting healed.Healing is when you hardly remember what affected you.Selena will forever be the girl I wished Justin had married because I know they both loved eachother. But most times who we strongly love is who is not so good or relationship wise good for us.She will find her better half.

[@malksme]

I actually think it was really respectful of her to wait until he was settled down and that it would no longer effect his dating life before coming out with all this and releasing "lose you to love me".. she didn't have to do it but she did.. 🙌🏻

[@tefniee4352]

The fact that she did it after he got married shows she has no respect for matrimony and another woman’s marriage.

[@natashalaureano2306]

In my opinion you can NEVER stop talking about ANY type of abuse that you go threw, especially if it can help others. Don’t say it’s good for her to tell her story then ask when when you stop telling it. You keep telling your story and try and help ANYONE that goes threw abuse no matter what form it’s in. You can forgive and not forget and continue to work on yourself and continue to SAVE lives of many others who aren’t able to over come their abuse.

[@khadijaali9045]

Women are more likely to be abuse emotional than physical these days. Times have changed men's are being emotionally abusive more now. It's hard to accept being in an emotionally abusive relationship because you don't even realise until it's too late. Selena Gomez has every right to talk and express her emotions because she was most likely wasn't allowed to express her emotions in the relationship. We need more celebrity like her being awareness to this issue.👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@karagomez4394]

I was waiting for this ✌

[@sh-oo4wm]

they love to remind chris of his past but this girl tells HER story about justin ONCE and they want to tell her not to bring that up TUH

[@Sorekneecap]

Tamera looks extra beautiful today! Gorgeous.

[@peterknight7646]

Yep...Them titties.

[@albacastaner5661]

@@peterknight7646 sometimes it's better to not say anything at all

[@thuggg321]

adrienne is becoming more and more insensitive these days.

[@lunaForever2020]

Adrienne's right. I felt the same way when she kept brining up rob Kardashian over and over! She wouldn't let it go!

[@jessicag4422]

Gypsy soul the difference is she wasn’t emotionally abused, or else she would’ve said it. With that big mouth of hers 🙄

[@giftyagyekum1242]

Yes, she should speaks more about her moving on and staying healthy I think she should let go of Pain, there're beautiful things ahead...

[@rodjulius2745]

I was verbally abusive in my last relationship but seeking the help i need for myself I'm truly sorry about everything

[@Kitterfly247]

I also wanted to say that some sources say that it was a two way street and Selena was abusing Justin as well (physically/emotionally) overall their relationship was very toxic

[@thestarinhereyes2]

Listen, they both hurt each other, it takes two to tango. With that being said, I applaud both of them for speaking their truth and still healing from the hurt. I’m not gonna victimize Selena because she’s a strong woman and she WILL get through this. When two people are broken and come together, they become more broken 🥺 glad that chapter is closed and done!

[@Kadericka]

Thx so much Jeannie 👏🏽👏🏽

[@noellet62able]

One toxic relationship can f you up for life . It makes you expect pain & rejection in every relationship you enter after it . It destroys your self worth & confidence. Gas lighting and mental abuse stays with you for life! And those that say “ oh it was years ago get over it “ clearly have never been in a mentally abuse relationship!

[@Thembi_TM]

I agree 100% with Jeanie, I feel like we all want our opinions to matter when it's convenient for us, they have discussed issues of the #me too movement in this table and for A to say/ask " at what point do you tell the story" it's unnecessary, each person's journey to healing, gathering confidence and strength to talk about abuse is different. In my opinion Selena is not saying what she said as an accusation against Justin, I think for her it's being vulnerable and telling other young women to recognise the signs of abuse, that it can come from any type of relationship and to love themselves enough to get out of such situations.

[@yazzidillard7087]

I can tell man, she don't seem like herself and all the rehab, it was heartbreaking. I'm glad she's speaking up. I'm glad justin admitted his wrongs instead of dismissing it.

[@VONiiE8]

I hear what Jeannie is saying. People heal at different speeds and in different ways. But also at the same time, not necessarily Selena, but some ppl hold on to that pain/hurt/story bc it’s all they have. They don’t let it go or try to move on from it. Andthey start to use it as an excuse.

[@destineeallen88]

I’m sorry but can we applaud Justin Bieber for a sec. a lot of man drag women through he mud and never own up to it.. I think it good for not only Selena but for a growing point for himself. And I agree with the ladies Selena can tell her story all day if she wants but if you not raising awareness and taking acting for your followers then it’s just a another story.

[@UnlikelyAngel14]

Dessy Allen good for him but it shouldn’t be applauded.

[@Ashleyyyy_xx]

Like Faze Banks did to Alissa Violet

[@ChantalE41]

Just talking abut she’s bringing awareness! She’s one of the few celebrities who doesn’t shy away from mental health issues. As for Justin, I won’t praise him for owning up to his mistakes. Let’s hope he actually apologized to Selena personally and not just doing it publicly.

[@vivianev6287]

@@Ashleyyyy_xx They are not together anymore?

[@Ashleyyyy_xx]

@@vivianev6287 Yes because he cheated on her then tried to make out like she was the bad guy.

[@meldelirious]

It’s true with what Adrienne is saying though, Selena should’ve been done talking about him. He’s married and has a wife now she could’ve just said my ex she didn’t even have to call him out by name. She can share her story as much as she wants but he has a wife that is going to hear this and it’s going to affect her because I’m sure her hearing about Selena mentioning Justin time and time again in publications/interviews eventually becomes annoying. Like unless Selena has permission from Hailey and Justin to talk she really should stop mentioning Justin by name in interviews. It just gives people something to talk about like stand on your own quit using Justin as a crutch to stay on media.

[@Breyven01]

Mel Sandoval did she mentioned a name? lym-ie yum? The interviewer’s the one who have the gut to dragged lym-ie yums name not her.

[@diamond869]

Everyone would’ve known it was Justin. She didn’t bring this up to bring Justin down. Selena is seen as a role model, lot of people look up to her. Her opening up about her abuse probably helped someone else out there knowing that if their idol can make it out of that situation and come out strong then they can too.

[@tivkaamary9963]

Are you saying the women who accused Harvey Weinstein shouldn't have said anything because he's married?

[@meldelirious]

Tivkaa Mary there’s a whole SAPCE difference between someone talking about a toxic relationship than an old ass man sexually harassing multiple women because he has power. Please do not confuse the two.

[@taylor7077]

Him and his wife were searching for her Coachella outfit TOGETHER. Sit down and let the girl speak.

[@davidas6291]

People have no idea how much it hurt by someone you Love and care about. It’s absurd to me how the abusers or guilty person move on so fast and treat the other person better than they did you. It’s hurts you and you left to wound if something is wrong with you. I honestly think if you hurt someone you say you love apologize and make things right and not find someone else.

[@ariabanks6239]

I really appreciate you ladies not tearing Selena down and admiring her for being a strong person

[@rotisserie8444]

She’s a abusive too. There’s literal videos online of her slapping Justin. But who gives af if a man is being abused? She’s isn’t strong and sure as hell isnt an admirable person.

[@breannaregans8211]

I love Jeannie's hairstyle!

[@karens2927]

Im not sure if all women have been through this, but this is something very difficult to talk about. Im so proud of Selena for speaking up.

[@julien6784]

What if you never heal ? Does that mean your just not strong enough? Some people never heal and just learn to live with it bc healing is not something you plan it has to be something that happens at its given time

[@bratty_31]

I’m just getting out of one and it’s sooo hard...I fight the urge to bring him back....it’s like an addiction...she’s such an inspiration and that album is the best she’s ever done...maybe one of the best in recent music.....it’s pretty dope.

[@kirstencon]

I had no idea I was in a toxic relationship until police got involved and charged him! Everything he said to me still sticks in my mind daily

[@thatonegirl8975]

I was in an emotionally abusive relationship for a year. He was former military and had PTSD, and I took that very seriously, and he used that to manipulate me. Every time I had any complaint about his behavior, or even any time I was personally struggling, he'd turn it into a pity party for him, and it was alllll about how his PTSD affected bla bla bla. Every time I was mad, he'd turn it into "well if you left me no one else would ever love me". I tried to break up with him 5 times. One of the times we'd been apart for 2 weeks and he called me saying that he "was taking out a life insurance policy" because he "didn't think he'd make it another 2 years" so basically threatening to kill himself if I didn't come back. Soon after I came back strictly out of fear of what would happen to him, he lost his job. And I left for good the second that he got a new one. And he left me hundreds of messages and voicemails basically still saying he was going to kill himself, and that I was selfish for leaving while he was going through a crisis, and that his depression was worse and he was always 'disoriented', and that he only bought his dog because of me. Not once did he take any of my advice, listen to any critique I had. He bought the damn dog AGAINST my advice, and refused to listen to me when I tried to teach him how to train it. He isolated me from my friends and told me that i "wasn't a good fit" for the career path I wanted to take. And yet he somehow turned it around so it was all my fault. Emotional abuse is no joke. There are no physical signs so the outside world can't see it. It is the most manipulative and evil thing you can do to a person.

[@Ubetchagirl]

I'm really glad Loni brought up the point up that Selena could also share how she got out or overcame the emotional abuse....

[@lebhotshorty]

Hurt people, hurt people. I would love to hear more of Selena’s story.

[@mariaperales7949]

I'm glad they are not together anymore. She deserves a real man to love her protect her and just be herself.

[@joy844]

I think a lot of women want to seem happy and powerful when a man breaks up with him. Like Beyoncé’s irreplaceable some women upgrade themselves .... But some people are truly broken, bitter and hurt.

[@cebe2624]

Yes true but that's the healing process. don't you think? It helps to upgrade to feel better about theirselves, physical transformation we'll say.

[@CaitKat]

Can we also appreciate tho that Justin was honest and up front and took responsibilty for what he did as well? Everyone always should take responsibility and few do

[@venusianism]

there’s literally a clip of her continuously hitting him but NOBODY ever talks about that. and literally laughed while admitting to making him cry in an interview sooo????? why is she not getting called out for emotionally and physically abusing justin????

[@finnickjunior1258]

Why are some of you going off on Adrienne, she just asked about an alternative opinion some people may have in the situation, I’ve seen the same sentiments online too

[@stephanieanguiano1004]

Personally, I know that she went through a hard time because I went through that at some point. But I think that if she was truly over it and healed, she wouldn’t continue mentioning it. I mean, Justin is married now and he never says anything about her. It’s been so long and I know people say interviewers shouldn’t mention it but her bringing it back is just pointless imo. It’s been so long!

[@kbella4081]

Who would you remove from the show? Tam - Tamera Ad - Adrienne Miss Love - Loni Jenie - Jeannie Amanda