Could This Be the Reason Why Some Marriages Aren’t Lasting as Long?

Nowadays women are doing it for themselves, so the thought of staying in an unhealthy marriage is no longer appealing. We’re also weighing in on a boo who doesn’t know how to budget, plus why keeping your pregnancy a secret from your bosses may work in your favor now that we’re all working from home!

[@kakikarei]

Loni needs to NOT let The Real stylists touch her again, EVER!

[@jessicalopez5986]

😂

[@qutielove2208]

Just because their home doesn't mean they don't have stylists come over and fix them up.

[@ljanicelee5870]

Real thing ! Her makeup is always on point & her hair styles and outfit are very creative

[@chrisgrace81]

Yes!

[@Ms19741979]

Agree

[@Candie4JC]

Loni should totally do her own hair & makeup when they return to set. She knows what she’s doing.

[@dawnwiltshire8847]

100% FACTS Loni does her own makeup the best you are truly BEAUTIFUL and an intelligent woman keep shining 😍😍🙏🏿🙏🏿

[@missdee7045]

Well not in this clip. She looks orange here but overall her makeup is better.

[@noveldixon9963]

YES👏👏👏👏🤔😍

[@msbrad2013]

Right! Stop paying people to do her wrong lol.. she looks great!

[@peacehappyb237]

She looks so good!

[@tamerilee]

Women stayed married that long bc they HAD to, they either would be ridiculed tremendously for leaving, or not having the financial reasons to leave. We got more independence and resources now

[@Tan87ful]

Agreed

[@Ryan-yw8iz]

Yes. My grandmother had 7 children and she stayed home with the kids while her husband worked. She said she couldn’t stand him but she had all those kids. Her best friend had 12 children as well.

[@noveldixon9963]

Divorce was a dirty word back then

[@stephstyles622]

Facts

[@christiansoldier77]

Tameri Harding Thats sucha stupid thing to say . Thats like saying Men took care of their kids more in the past because they had to

[@Desi-zz4gb]

I agree with ade. Older couples went through a lot and the women let a lot slide. And that's not something to look up too. Quality over quantity

[@queenbutterfly4888]

She just knows ratchet folk

[@Desi-zz4gb]

@@queenbutterfly4888 whether they're ratchet or not, a lot of them went through a lot. I know a couple of them high class marriages lasted even after infidelity etc. They stayed for those reasons stated in this segment

[@MO-ty3he]

agree

[@peacheskong2245]

True, we shouldn't forget to bring up how women also used to carry other men's kids and would die with that secret too.

[@taylorlee8515]

Lol my boyfriends grandparents are the most proper people I’ve ever met. And his grandmother went through the same things they just talked about. It’s what a lot of women went through

[@paulinejames7410]

Loni please keep your stylist and makeup artist girl you are looking good

[@yahainHotPink]

I think it is Loni herself!! 😊💛

[@ajohonly3721]

She’s doing it herself at the moment.

[@paulinejames7410]

@@ajohonly3721 hi I hope all is well with you. Loni is killing it I love me some Loni love

[@JJ-mx3pd]

If she’s doing it herself then she shoulda been doing it ever since and not bothered with hiring! It looks great!

[@225580mj]

I can't stop lookimng ta her.

[@tamerilee]

And don’t feel guilty and ashamed leaving a relationship that was/is not healthy or not for you!!! PEACE, RESPECT, AND HEALTH >>>>>>> LONGEVITY 💅🏾💅🏾

[@redsonya101]

Thank you for this, I needed this.

[@tamerilee]

@@redsonya101 I’m going through it too, but self care isn’t selfish so we gotta respect ourselves and that’s a beautiful thing 👏🏾❤️

[@jojoc326]

Women supporting women!!! 👏👏👏 let's have each others backs!!

[@Mel__21]

Ugh YES!!! I just wished my friend would leave him :/ she deserves so much better.

[@engineergirl6869]

Women stayed....that’s it. Today, we don’t have to. I left with two small boys while pregnant, due to cheating. He thought ide stay. But I knew I could make it. I struggled for a year and now have my own place own car and great job, and a wonderful boyfriend who loves all of me. Girl power! Ps. Yes he is still sorry and tried to get back with me...swerve!!!!! Edit: I just got back from my honeymoon. My bf and I got married Jan 28th!!!! He has no children and is a wonderful man. Never let anyone tell you who you are. You are worth as much as you believe you are. My husband now is a beautiful buff black man. 6’2 and we work out together everyday. He has brought out the best in me. And continues to push me to be better. We’re planning on having two babies!!!

[@nomskieejay7946]

Really happy for you and proud of you. Go girl. I wish you the best happy life with a lover deserving of you.

[@Ambereigh]

Wow I have a son and still feel like I’ll never find someone who will accept us as a packaged deal. You are so strong !

[@TheGoofy1932]

Then you don't need them if they won't take you and your son. They should be grateful to get your son as a bonus. If not then move on.

[@veronica5080]

So proud of you! Your inspiring!!!

[@engineergirl6869]

Thank you all. I’m so happy that I was able to build myself up and lose the bad habits I had picked up in an unhappy marriage. I’m a newlywed now!!!!

[@2001Butterflykisses]

In my grandmother's generation the women would say that "It's better to have half a man than no man at all" so that says a lot.

[@mlewisbaltimore4947]

I remember my mother telling me this BS I love my Mom but we are two completely different women.

[@TheShooteR28]

My Mommy always told me to be w a man who loves me more than I love him. I honestly don't think I could, but I see the reasoning behind it. My relationship has to be 50/50 physical and emotional.

[@ameliagray1618]

@@TheShooteR28 OMG SAME

[@kavaniawilson860]

I mean back then the man was the breadwinner and woman didn’t work. They couldn’t just leave because they were financially dependent and on the guy.

[@iSwEedE]

So Sad for your grandmother :(

[@malaikapaul6315]

They didn't have no choices Only the men was bringing food at home.

[@lovechocolatemuffins]

Ikr, many old people have toxic relationships

[@NellieKAdaba]

True

[@maznaabukar3026]

😭😭😭

[@enjays6498]

I CANNOT wait to hear when Adrienne is pregnant I’m praying for her! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@medialogie]

Yeeees !!! I sooo want her to be pregnant 🥰

[@Ryan-yw8iz]

It’s stressful. I finally got married to a wonderful man but he doesn’t have children. For some reason I haven’t been able to get pregnant. I have 2 children from a previous relationship but my body isn’t working now. My youngest is 9. I don’t know.

[@SarahR2D2]

@@Ryan-yw8iz I will put you i my prayers

[@dianaa3336]

Ryan check out @drjessmd on IG

[@millsykooksy4863]

It’s very difficult to get pregnant after 35

[@shekinahmack2508]

Loni 🥰😍😍😍😍 she is glowing

[@paulinejames7410]

Yes girl she is

[@ZoraNH.dusttracks1891]

Said the same thing. Loving everything about her look.

[@irakaye]

100% 😳😍😍😍

[@C2G2]

And I love her head wrap too ❤️💯

[@cydniekennedy2790]

She is! Beautiful woman! ❤️

[@aceee9813]

I'm glad Lonnie brought it up. Back then women's only security was being married. It wasn't always about love it was about security. Plus it was more pleasure for the man, how the women felt did not matter it was all about making him feel good. Women who were single were shamed for it aswell. Just sad sad. Now women can choose what they want to deal with and not. I dont really think marriages will ever be as high as they use to be going forward cause now it's about being in a marriage that's based on truth, faithfulness, and actual love for eachother.

[@C2G2]

👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿PREACH!! 💯👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

[@collyscooking]

Factsss

[@Tan87ful]

Exactly

[@angelinasulejmani7688]

Still in some cultures including mine our security is being married . It's sad sometimes .

[@veronica5080]

Yeah its really sad how it was like back then and rven many pleaces now!!! And its not us! We are smart, talented capable... just enslaved...

[@Naniso]

This is a great topic. I did my internship with amazing people. When one colleague told us that she was pregnant, all men in my team donated some leave days for her to stay with her baby for longer. I was so proud of that culture!

[@818vlly]

Normalize marriage therapy know what your getting yourself into don't play house it's too deep families are the first foundation.

[@C2G2]

Thank you for this post I really needed to read this and I posted it on my Instagram too 😊❤️💯

[@omphilemoerane2569]

I think my boyfriend and I are going to need a LOT of marriage counseling cause both our parents are not married but we want to get married. So we basically want to enter into this thing and we have no clue what the hell it is😂

[@ashleyyoung2924]

Yes! Premarital counseling and marriage counseling are NOT a bad thing at all, I do think they are stigmatized as if people shouldn’t need a third party to help. Seeing a different perspective can be so helpful. Years of marriage counseling still cannot “fix” each other’s issues if both sides are not willing to work through it together though.

[@kat1984]

I grew up in a house with a miserable marriage. I was happy when they divorced, it was a relief.

[@because0011]

No way I’ve been with my husband for 25 years. We still are very hot for each other. We always laugh, talk and understand each other. I wouldn’t want to be in a loveless marriage. If I feel that there’s no spark, I wouldn’t stay.

[@laurenmanning5921]

Lucky, my parents have been together 25 years also and not a day goes by that they don’t argue

[@AP-id4kg]

@@laurenmanning5921 mine too. 33yrs fighting every day

[@rahmancyrus65]

​@@laurenmanning5921 that's not being lucky life is what you make it, stop talkin to people as if hey got it easy when you don't even know them. Life has challenges for all, no one is that friggin lucky. If you want something you got to act like and that's how it is with marriage. It has to be done on purpose. Happiness is not for the lazy.

[@laurenmanning5921]

@@rahmancyrus65 You are putting way too many words in my mouth I didn’t say any of that, In a way I was saying that her life was better than mine because I have to deal with my parents yelling at each other 24/7 and it effects me a lot. So please don’t put any words in my mouth if you don’t know my life.😘

[@rahmancyrus65]

Don't listen to these folks making good life choices isn't being lucky it's called being smart. People these days just wanna blame and complain. The only focus on failures, the negatives & people who are feeling the consequences for their bad choices & not listening to found advice. They just wanna complain and expect for happiness to fall into their lap with no effort. Notice ho neither of these guys nor anyone else has ask for your advice on how you and your husband are happy? yup that's how they are they want things, people and money that they don't wanna work for. Lazy good for nothing generation. Even if they get it they wont be able to maintain it, they want some random person to show up in their life and do all the work as if they don't have a life of their own, lazy.

[@caralandes8393]

Now ladies .... I love you all. And ... having both sets of grandparents who were married for 70 years each, real love does exist. My grandfather was completely heartbroken when the love of his life died after 70 years. He just gave up. He started having chest pains and we had to take him to the ER. He told the sweet little nurse, "My heart is broken." On the other side of my family, my grandma of 70 years buried my grandfather. She is completely lost with out him. She talks about him all the time and says she is so glad she had a long life with him. Real love does exist.

[@kevinroyceho]

Of course real love exists. No one here is denying that... But you have to understand that not everyone is fortunate enough to actually be in a healthy relationship with safety, security, love and respect. And the fact of the matter is, so many human beings (mostly women) have had to endure abusive and traumatic relationships because they had no other choice. There’s nowhere else to go, no one else to support them and no other options for them. This is especially true for immigrant families. All this is another narrative that needs to be discussed and validated!

[@xs9062]

Loni, Adrienne, and Garcelle have great chemistry. It’s more like girlfriends having a chat a home. I have been enjoying the show a lot more recently.

[@marisahall6741]

What are you saying huh?😁😁😁

[@xs9062]

Mari Sahall 😉 I think you know. 😀

[@marisahall6741]

@@xs9062 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@donne32701]

?

[@phathutshedzonekhavhambe233]

The colour coordination reminds me of Totally Spies😅

[@ninderhenry462]

🤣🤣🤣 more like traffic lights

[@EdInABook]

Yo, same though XD

[@laurenmanning5921]

@@ninderhenry462 omg😅😅

[@cooky75015]

Same girl

[@with_Thandii]

Or the Ghanaian flag

[@veradarby7222]

Lonnie, I am loving the head scarves you are wearing. You look beautiful with your hair styled this way. We’re able to see your features better.

[@tamerilee]

This meditation working for Loni I haven’t seen her this goofy and silly in a while 🥰🥰🥰 happy for you girl!!!

[@jyn88]

I love Loni's look today. Her hair, makeup, and shirt. Glowing and beautiful!

[@sakinamohamed400]

Women respect marriage. Men have never been the ones to hold the marriage.

[@rahmancyrus65]

that's the men YOU deal with. Foolish belief that all men are bad and all women are good and incapable of doing wrong, even when you can't even get along with each other & so many female "friendships" are full of gossip, backstabbing, hatred etc.

[@lucianjones4727]

"And that is that women initiate divorce more often than men on average. ... In fact, nearly 70 percent of divorces are initiated by women. This is according to a 2015 research study conducted by the American Sociological Association (ASA) which suggests two-thirds of all divorces are initiated by women."

[@elyse443]

If you believe that then you may believe you respect marriage but you don’t respect men. So yeah, that can’t go well.

[@jazminebianca437]

I'm just here to say I LOVE Garcelle! She's a good fit :)

[@tamerilee]

LONI THIS LOOK!!!!!!!! She clocked in bc she putting in WERK today!!! 👏🏾🥇😍😍

[@dhrachth1]

My grandparents were happily married for 65 years and they're always said their secret is that they were best friends and always acted as a team. For example, they ran a business together in the 50s as equal partners. At the time people would be say things about him 'letting' his wife be in charge of all the money, and he'd immediately admit to failing math and her being the brains of the marriage. I just wanted to mention this as the other side of things. Not every long marriage is an unwanted burden held on to for a lack of choice.

[@nicoleestellatv9531]

Your grand PA was a real one... Definitely too good for his generation.. But hey they never knew better...

[@Tan87ful]

Awwww. How nice and sweet :))

[@tatianadaniel3569]

I'm so glad that you said this!!! Though Loni did disclaim that they were only speaking of SOME longer-lived marriages, the conversation as a whole almost made it seem like ALL longstanding marriages were abusive.

[@melmel7011]

@@tatianadaniel3569 Lol but do you realize that if all discussions were focused on 100% cases then we would never ever have anything to talk about. Topic of discussion follow the majority not the minority... that is just a common sense rule I believe

[@tatianadaniel3569]

@@melmel7011 I'm not quite able to follow what you're saying. The question was: Why aren't modern day marriages lasting as long as they did back in the day?Though abuse, religious misunderstandings/fears, and financial inadequacy were common factors for some women and men staying married longer back in the day, where is the discussion in which we acknowledge that our generation and the selfish culture we've embraced and romanticized not adhere to basic moral principles such as exercising the beauty of discipline, forgiveness, accountability, and care? The conversation the ladies had was not geared toward establishing well-rounded explanations as to why marriages are failing at an all-time high. As I said before, though Loni did mention that not all longstanding marriages were abusive, the conversation, itself, created this narrative that the majority of marriages lasted longer than today because the women suffered more. They didn't add balance to the fact that people (husband and wives) these days don't even honor their marriage vows because at the root of every decision they make is selfishness and pride which cannot produce a healthy and joyous marriage.

[@tamerilee]

Garcelle I’m here for ur bubble pony!! 😍😍 yall sleighing these hairstyles okay!!!

[@MaishaOnTop]

I know she looks so cute!

[@kristinaerickson2353]

My mom worked at a paper mill while 8 months pregnant with me. When she came back to work she had to fight the mill to get a clean place to pump breast milk. They wanted her to pump in the bathroom 🤢. She threw a fit and got HR involved until they allowed her to pump in the nurses office. They now have a pump with disposable parts so new moms at the mill can pump in a clean and sanitary manner.

[@Erica-wz8yv]

Good for your mom 👏👏👏

[@indigobeauty1]

Some marriages didn't have the solid foundation from the beginning.

[@ZeeliciousFoods]

Loni!!!😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

[@esetamyreelemanu8584]

Riiiiiighttttt??!!! 😍😍😍😍😍

[@dorothysingletary4444]

Yes Lord! When she did the face💀🤣🤣🤣

[@maggybelle6804]

Loni - Back in the 50s side chicks knew how to stay in their place FACTS

[@nijayjj9221]

I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex wife and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems ❤❤❤

[@nijayjj9221]

Contact me on what's app for help ❤❤❤

[@nijayjj9221]

+ 1 4 0 1 5 1 5 5 9 3 2 From Rhode Island USA okay

[@SweetCaramel_1]

Yeah bc the husband went to the side chick’s place 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@mlewisbaltimore4947]

There should be no “place” for side chicks/dudes. Married folk need to stay in their “place” or not get married or just get a divorce. Well you know if this were a perfect world...

[@NgataNare]

Loni is goofy as hell 🤣 . Adrienne has evolved in her critical thinking since TamTam left. I love it

[@kidiuswon3481]

You mean since Amanda mental break down. TAM TAM LOL

[@deborah18]

Totally agree. I was very impressed with her response. She thought about it before speaking. It didn’t sound judgement like she used to sound in the past.

[@dhfgsncujsajh12]

The outfits are giving me ✨Totally spies vibes ✨

[@gmcmim1]

Adrienne and Loni had me cracking up with those expressions of 60 years of marriage. So true.

[@LL-xn3jk]

Jeannie coming back is probably the only news I needed

[@djm2985]

Let's talk about that! Praying they aren't getting too comfortable without her. Wishing her a speedy recovery.

[@MsMak03]

Bruh

[@bongibalfour1553]

Loni is glowing I can’t stand it 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

[@aneisa10]

I waited until I was six months before I told my employer. When I came back from maternity leave, almost EVERYONE in the building did not know I was pregnant. Because I did not want them to know.

[@ambercarter6551]

Loni is looking scrumptious hunnyyyyyy 💁🏾‍♀️ All ladies look good as usual but Loni is truly glowing! 🧡💛💚

[@truelove-lo7fn]

Jeannie Bean coming back healthy and strong..we miss you so much!!!

[@jyn88]

They described my aunt’s marriage. They been married since forever. She has/had no job, lack of education, no car, barely knows English, etc. She relies on her husband for everything! She had to put up with his multiple love affairs. Yes, it’s a long marriage til death do them part but it doesn’t mean it is a great one!

[@shawncasey4331]

It makes me sad for her

[@ChatiseE]

sounds like slavery

[@jyn88]

@@shawncasey4331 It's 2020 but they live like the olden days. He's dominant/authoritative. He controls nearly every aspect of her life.

[@shawncasey4331]

@@jyn88 did you ever talk to her about getting out of this marriage?

[@jyn88]

@@shawncasey4331 No, she's a lot older than me. It's my mom's older sister. We don't have that kind of relationship. Language barrier is another issue. Her adult kids have spoken about it to their dad years ago. It seems he got better in ways. Even their adult children is under his spell. It's weird.

[@stephaniepapa8046]

I hid my pregnancy until I was 34 weeks because I was too scared I would lose my corporate job..

[@Burstillo]

same

[@neysac2969]

You can't get fired when you're pregnant

[@stephaniepapa8046]

Unfortunately I was at the type of workplace where they wouldn’t say you lost your job because you’re pregnant, they’d find another reason

[@Drawingboredi]

Adrianne! You can not always be the 1st or the only one to speak, speak the most or interrupt people. Goodness, learn.

[@tolubaruwa2632]

They all look sooo good! Especially Loni, she’s just glowing! 🤩

[@adamgranger5653]

My parents were together 29 years and married for 28 but i know that my mom was not happy for a lot of those years because she didn't feel loved in a way she felt like she deserved. It got to the point where she would meet up once a month with one of her girlfriend's husband cause she felt closer to him and could talk to him about stuff but not my dad. Then the girlfriend's husband passed away but she would still go to that same place once a month after he was gone and would talk with other friends about him. It actually started to become a rumor that my mom and this other man were having an affair even though nothing physical ever happened. I remember asking her once if she wasn't happy why she didn't try to leave my dad and her answer was that she didn't have any money and she didn't have a place to go which to this day i think about that moment a lot. When my mom was about to pass away she was able to let my dad know that she loved him and those would be the last words she would speak in this world cause she left not long after that moment

[@yosrabenchikhi]

Thats my mothers situation too. She was so unhappy almost all her marriage. But she stayed because she now lives abroad, in Europe. She couldn't just go back to Morocco to live in poverty again. She also wanted us to have a better future and more possibilities than if we were growing up in North Africa.

[@dansaidthat7942]

She was having an emotional affair with her girlfriends husband.

[@adamgranger5653]

@@dansaidthat7942 there were affair allegations against both my parents. Each one allegedly had some sort of outside relationship going on

[@TheAlkebulanTrust]

Some marriages aren't lasting long because they don't have the right sufficient knowledge on how relationships/marriage actually work. As your reality is very much based on the information and experience you have received so far...undeniable truth or correct?

[@818vlly]

Yup anything successful requires knowledge and experience

[@Tan87ful]

Agreed

[@IHYC678]

For sure! So many people have no idea what they are actually signing up for. Social media adds to the unrealistic expectations and disillusionment.

[@Im_LaurenB]

Profound statement!!

[@Ambereigh]

But every relationship and marriage is different so it’s not something you can really know how it’s gonna go until your actually in it. On top of that your going to change into different people. It’s just a bag of snakes really. You never know.

[@MajesticMyronn]

When i tell y’all i am so elated that our Jeannie Beans is GONNA BE BACK TOMORROW!!! God is Good! First of all I wanna commend her for making sure her health was her number one priority and I wanna give a hug hand clap to Jeezy for paying attention and noticing something was wrong and IMMEDIATELY taking charge and taking her to the hospital! It’s gonna be one hell of an emotional show tomorrow

[@jmeiahburke5388]

AMEN! Praise God!!

[@C2G2]

Yay I am so happy that she’s coming back tomorrow I’m starting to miss her a lot especially during this segment ❤️🙏🏿 Jeezy is an amazing husband for sure❤️☺️ Jeannie is so lucky to have him.

[@MajesticMyronn]

@Lady Scorpio let’s make one damn thing clear she DID NOT have Covid !!! Just because she is Asian does not mean she has covid ! Just because Covid is st the forefront of the media doesn’t mean everybody who is sick rn HAS Covid ! And third of all don’t use Gods name to praise someone else’s downfall or their illness... keep playing and you’ll end up sick yourself !

[@C2G2]

@Lady Scorpio I bet you, YOU HAVE COVID TOO!!! ✌🏿🖕🏿

[@C2G2]

Thank you for the update @Myronn Coleman 😊

[@818vlly]

I think there's too much playing house going on . Marriage is a whole skill very demanding if done right it's magical if not done correctly well you either leave or you learn for better or for worse ☺️

[@chattyash]

Because Grandma was putting up with some bs.

[@liahhx3]

Yes, and most of us women nowadays know our worth and aren't putting up with that mess.

[@omphilemoerane2569]

Yeah it was easier to put up with infidelity back then cause there werent all these STD. If we attempted to put up with side chicks and side babies and side families today (meaning the man is not protecting himself), most of us wouldn't make it to our 50th birthday.

[@malebosegwapa]

Omg I was literally having this conversation with my grandmother who's been married for 49 years and asked her how she did it, and her answer was simple, because of perseverance and endurance, she further explained how women these days can't put up with nonsense, you keep messing up, honey she's gone, ain't no time for playing. Which actually gives me second thoughts about marriage...

[@MZARIIXHEALTHSAVER]

So glad Jenni is feeling better,Miss you Jenni so glad you will be back tomorrow.....❤❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏🍷🍷🍷🍷🍹🍹🍹🍹🎉🎊🎉🎊

[@kenideg1558]

Jeannie*

[@MZARIIXHEALTHSAVER]

@@kenideg1558 Sorry about the type O, Jennie but so glad your feeling better. I understand what you went through I had the same surgery right before Covid -19 hit mine was so bad it was closing my air way and pushing my throat forward.....So wishing you a happy and speedy recovery.❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@denisef5217]

Both my parents come from broken marriages and had an abusive father. But my parents have been together for almost 40 years and they‘re still best friends and in love. It it possible, if you find someone you really match with. But if it doesn’t work out or you‘re not being treated well: leave!

[@sunnymorning171]

I love this conversation. I am just 23 and starting to realize the reality of this. You have to put up with some crap I order to stay together & my grandma always tells me “no hay dos glorias juntas” meaning “you can’t have everything in life” people admire marriages that have last 30+ years but like Adrian says it’s true. That’s the reality of things.. you have to balance the scale .... It’s all about constant forgiveness & sacrifice. That or probably stay alone forever. It’s hard to find someone that does not have deep baggage (alcoholism, drugs, sex addiction, porn addiction, verbal/physical abusive, extreme temper, extreme mental illness, can’t hold a job, marriage rape, shutting down and now communicating, workaholics, gamblers, money abuse, extreme jealousy, lazy husbands/no true coparenting, bad mother in law issues, pathological liars), constant social media indefinitely/emotional cheating) I could go in and on ...

[@incognito.502]

U searchin' for an angel boo? Every human sins, every human has flaws. Even the best of humankind. Humans are not free from imperfections kid. only God is perfect.

[@goldrays4862]

Extremely valid point. The older you get the scarier the demons....but women stay at the mentality of 15 year olds in relationships...I believe maturity and understanding, forgiveness and perseverance are necessary. Marriages lasting is ideal, no matter what from every angle imaginable. People quit too easy.

[@therebex23]

Pretty obvious with marriage these days vs. the past: today we *choose* to marry for love vs. in the past we married for function...it's changes in societal expectations (including religion), function/benefit of marriage, and women's rights (ie. legal rights) to work and, furthermore, to choose to divorce. A more realistic view of this topic would be to compare women filing vs. men filing for divorce then vs. now.

[@missondo4887]

Wow this is good I don’t know how the filling for divorce can help

[@tamerilee]

This is a great period for pregnant moms to work remote!! They don’t have to travel or get that exhaustion moving so much and they get to work comfortably in their home and have their fam to help them around 😌 that’s just in my mind tho I hope Thats the case!!

[@Erica-wz8yv]

For me it’s been great 😊 especially in the first trimester when I was so tired, I would take a nap as soon as I clocked out for the day lol.

[@VhugalaHaweM]

The Real Co-hosts wearing my country's colors🇿🇦 Proudly South Africa🇿🇦

[@ClaireHaire]

Let me save you some time,the top 3 reasons are: 1. 3rd party influence- do not go to anybody about your problems unless they share a marriage certificate with you. 2. Options- I would make some of you blush at how desperate men who are married/single throw themselves at me all the time(I’m married) on social media. Goes for both sexes. 3. Glamourization of Marriage- it is a marathon not a race , there are certain days we’re you’re not feeling it and you have to continue .

[@michaela_xo]

This has been said so many times but I am LOVING Loni’s look!

[@representationmatters]

I wish Jeannie was part of this conversation

[@laurenmanning5921]

She comes back tomorrow !!🤗

[@estarr]

Yes! She was married, divorced, now engaged, it would have been interesting to hear her thoughts!

[@DSN430]

This was cute, their chemistry is great

[@mt3388]

Adrienne hit it on the nail, according to every single person (except one) who is older that has opened up to me about their marriages.

[@truelove-lo7fn]

YEAHHHHHHHH MY BOO BOO IS COMING BACK..I miss you her sooo much❤❤❤

[@michelleberube5263]

Our grandmas didn't pretend that perfect was a possibility. They accepted their relationships, positive and negative. I never saw my grandparents relationship as anything other than perfectly happy. The truth is there was infidelity, and alcoholism, but they overcame their troubles and stayed together. Long marriages don't mean perfect, but they don't mean miserable either. Relationships are messy. We give up much too quickly on all relationships today compared to those before us.

[@RTRRT]

Umm... i think you missed the mark here.

[@joannaherodotou1491]

Can't believe Garcelle is 54!!! She looks amazing!!!

[@SandraBanse]

My great-grandmother is from Indonesia, was married and had 2 kids. Her husband and daughter died in an accident because of the heavy rain. She went to the Netherlands by boat with her son (at that time Indonesia was a colony from the Netherlands). She got married to someone who lived in the Netherlands while she was on the boat (i.e. never seen this man before, no picture nothing, only a name). Unfortunately women weren't allowed to work or at least didn't make enough to support a family, so she had no choice but to marry someone she didn't know. When she and her son arrived in the Netherlands they found out he was horrible, abusive, a narcissist, anything bad you name it (there was a reason he wasn't yet married....). After knowing what she's been through and my grandfather (her son) has been through I made a promise to myself to NEVER settle for anything I don't deserve. We're blessed to live in a time where we can choose who we marry, we can choose we don't even want to get married. I'm so happy I'm a young adult in the 21st century.

[@AwkwardMarina]

Adrienne is the kindest, sweetest person and always has the opinions that I agree with on this show

[@kathyalex778]

A long relationship doesn't necessarily mean a happy or healthy one 🤷‍♀️

[@yeanigga317]

Adrienne took the words right out of my mouth, it’s so true! I love that this generation stands up more for what they believe in and happiness is everything 🥰 never settle ladies! You come first! ❤️

[@CabriniDivo]

I just smiled through the whole thing. Garcelle is just a Good fit into this show too.

[@Erica-wz8yv]

I’m currently 17 weeks pregnant. I haven’t told my employer. We’re all working from home so I don’t feel the urgency to tell them yet because they can’t see me 🤷🏻‍♀️ Planning on telling them around 20 weeks.

[@dashelledisna6239]

It's both what Adrienne and Garcelle said. That's why I never praise and "Look up"to ANY ONES" marriage because you dont know what's going on behind closed doors. Theres only one way to look at marriage and it's the Biblical way. If we don't go into it like that, already people are doomed.God doesnt like Divorce, so make sure WE all make great choices the 1st time. Marriage is nooo joke. 😬

[@lucky4evr1]

God doesn't like divorce??? Lol..ok. I'm pretty sure you're wrong!

[@dashelledisna6239]

@@lucky4evr1 read Malach 2:16[AMP],Mark 10:5-12, 1 Corinthians 7:39, Hebrews 13:4

[@lucky4evr1]

@@dashelledisna6239 I don't care what that says. I care about the people who had near death experiences and lives to tell their stories. Here's one for you..a woman said "GOD" asked why should I send you back.. oh you have children?? So!.. What about your horrible husband? Long story short.. She came back.. Divorced her husband, opened her own shop and is striving to this day. So I'm sorry I don't believe "God" dislikes divorce 🤷

[@dashelledisna6239]

@@lucky4evr1 If you don’t care about the source then don’t come for me under my comment beloved. God hates divorce like I said. And read my comment, I said that’s why we need to make sure we make a good decision the 1st time. Read all the chapters that I mentioned.There are ways to get out of marriage , but ideally God didn’t make marriage so people can just divorce. Thank you!

[@adwoatumtum]

*Loni is so beautiful* 🥺

[@sabrinasmith813]

I was lucky to see my grandparents happy and in love throughout their life together. I would like to give it up to my grandad, he is such a wonderful person loving, caring, funny, honourable and hardworking man.

[@lesxjl5353]

When I was pregnant with my 1st baby I was definitely afraid of telling my employer. I was afraid of losing my job and not being able to to support my child. They were all nice with me at first (when I was pregnant) but then after giving birth, their attitudes changed completely towards me. I ended up putting my two weeks & now I’m a happy stay at home Mom. Lol 😆

[@kavaniawilson860]

That’s how I felt too but that wasn’t the case at all. After I said I was pregnant, 6 others were pregnant too. I was only at the company for like a month and my boss gave me a pregnant. Plus I work at a preschool and my job want the babies.

[@annatube5123]

Loni is glowing 😍😍😍 she looks so healthy and happy!!!

[@yahainHotPink]

The ladies look so beautiful.

[@dawnbriefman]

I put my tree up yesterday! Sorry I had to I need to get into the spirit. I’m also sick and it may not get put up if I’m not going to get better soon. Holding off on the wreath and lawn ornaments until after Thanksgiving.

[@n.m.9938]

One of the main reasons for me is that people now want to be in the "honeymoon phase" (aka "having butterflies") all the time. I would blame Hollywood and romantic books. When this phase ends, people have no idea what happened. Majority of divorces nowadays are no-fault divorces, reasons being "we grew apart", "don't know what happened", "I wanted more"... My parents are married for 45+ years (both were virgins on their wedding). Are they "in love"? Do they get butterflies? NO! Do they LOVE each other? Do they trust respect and trust each other? Are they faithful to each other? Are they giving their 100% to their marriage and family? YES!! This is marriage for me, more about trust commitment, compromise than adrenaline rush in your vains.

[@Behappy-rf8gl]

My tree been up before Halloween, not sorry I needed the joy. Now I have covid & I’m so glad I can rest & look at my tree.

[@RTRRT]

Right. I believe it dont matter when u put up the tree. I remember one year we never took down the tree lol

[@Tan87ful]

Wow

[@sabrina.natalie]

Garcelle looks breathtaking. Love her bubble pig tails, makeup, and emerald blouse! ✨

[@melissalitus8879]

I love girl chat. All the ladies look beautiful 😍 I think marriages aren't lasting anymore because of people aren't taking their vows seriously and lack of trust and communication issues. If I get married I want it to be my first and last! But I will not put up with disrespect, cheating and abuse 💯 we too grown for these games. Treat me like a Queen 👑 I will treat you like a King and give you all my love. Nowadays people care more about the wedding then the actual marriage

[@Tan87ful]

Exactly

[@lucillescheepers972]

You guys just seem to find the funny in any situation I love it 👐👐👐👏👏👏👏👏

[@jocelyneponce712]

Loni’s makeup is way better and natural than when she is on the set! She’s beautiful

[@EdInABook]

A friend of mine got divorced and no one knew why. And they have twins together, so he wanted me there to be at the custody battle hearing. She wanted a divorce from him because SHE DIDN'T WANT TO RAISE THEIR KIDS TOGETHER. Their marriage failed, from her standpoint, because of the children. I was so disgusted with the fact she blamed her children because she got a divorce. Needless to say, he got full custody.

[@RTRRT]

😮

[@nicoleestellatv9531]

I think she was in it so she can get some babies and then move out...

[@MajesticMyronn]

Lasting Love ------------ I think the difference between marriages now and marriages back then is that back then a lot of marriages both partners knew how to hold out and fight for when it’s worth it and keep pushing to stay loyal to somebody that they vowed under God that they would be married to this person through thick and thin and sickness and health... whereas now women are finding the courage to maintain their independence and now have more access to just bounce whereas women felt like they had to stay back then ! Zoom Baby Boom --------------- I mean I don’t really understand how being pregnant would affect you if you’re working from home anyway... I can understand the reasoning for not wanting to tell your boss but like I just find it crazy that we have women even pre Covid that would be nervous to tell their bosses they’re pregnant Deck the Halls ------------- I think it’s ok to decorate at least week before thanksgiving just because it sets the tone of the holidays being here!!! There’s not really an thanksgiving decorations 😭😂

[@C2G2]

Bingo 💯😊

[@Taikyaa]

Ehh. Couples back then would cheat on each other ALL the time, if anything it was easier to cheat back then and NOT get caught. I think part of the reason for more marriages back then is because it was such a serious thing and divorce was very frowned upon, so couples would just stay in loveless even sexless marriages and keep their lovers on the side. The women didn’t leave because where was there to go? And the men, well it was cheaper to keep her.. I mean who’s gonna take care of the kids?

[@selenajoefield3104]

@@Taikyaa I understand your point. But why focus on only the negatives? Not every single marriage had infidelity or abuse or side women and children back in the day

[@brielle949]

People marrying for love not realizing it takes more than that to have a successful marriage and raise a famo. Marriage has become too romanticized and the first sign of things going wrong people ready to hop off the ship.

[@tatianadaniel3569]

Yep!

[@KK-MyLittleMermaid]

before my nana passed she told me that when it came to marriage back then they felt like if they divorced their man no other man would want them after that. she stayed with a man who beat her a lot. never beat ghe kids but deff beat her. and when she told me that my heart broke for her. they deff put up with a lot of the stuff we wont put up with

[@faithfulindigo]

Great topic of discussion! However, Loni looks amazing....she’s definitely got a glow!

[@djm2985]

I hate how healthy marriages aren't being talked about or even highlighted. Could it be that when we take accountability for ourselves this generation takes it as being judgemental because you're forced to look at yourselves and be better? Or it's looked at as unachievable? Marriage is honorable and a spiritual commitment before God. You can still be independent financially and be committed to the marriage. I'm sorry to the youth that only see and hear this side of marriage that people continue to show. Pride, lack of self control, unforgiveness, not knowing your roles in the union has a lot to do with the discard of marriages today. Although some of what they're saying is true marriage was taken seriously then. Basically not producing the fruits of the spirit is why it fails.

[@passionatezfreedomz683]

Amen!

[@tatianadaniel3569]

Thank YOU!!! They never said ANYTHING about this generation lacking accountability, honor, and commitment. This generation is solely addicted to immediate satisfaction and gratification.

[@exceptionaltalentspc4954]

Just today I came across a male preacher on the radio preaching against divorce and I remembered a friend telling me that marriage is only convenient for men because women have always gotten to put up with the with the worst part of marriage.

[@joceymarielopezmatias80]

I had a boss that wouldnt hire pregnant girls & those who were pregnant after being hired she would miss treat them. I was terrified of getting pregnant while i had that job. Sad thing is that she was a woman 🥺😢

[@virgobleu27]

I’m currently six months pregnant and told my job I was pregnant and I feel this so much I was scared to tell them

[@deleonrichardson613]

Adrienne hit the nail on the head..and when talking to some of the older women they would express that we have more options today because we are more fiscally independent than them

[@tamerilee]

I think it’s important to tell if ur pregnant if you work for a small business bc it could really affect them if u leave and there’s like 2 ppl left 😭 at least give them a month or so notice before u take maternity leave so they could find a replacement or temp but that’s me 🤷🏿‍♀️

[@Tan87ful]

Exactly

[@AP-id4kg]

Exactly!!! Its a huge burden on small employers

[@madridista703usa3]

That’s why there’s a lot of old single women out there

[@avataz]

Yup, lot of single chicks with cats and box wine

[@SweetCaramel_1]

I’m a young woman but I rather be single and disease free

[@avataz]

@@SweetCaramel_1 we will see if you are saying that when those eggs dry up

[@SweetCaramel_1]

avataz no need. Don’t worry about my reproductive organs. I’m blessed with two children!

[@toffecrunch]

We love being single... age is just a number. Live and let live. If you want to get married... by all means get married. Be happy.

[@RealTakerslady]

Loni head wrap is beautiful, I want it

[@ashleyyyx2355]

I think ONE of the big reasons relationships aren’t lasting nowadays is bc there r too many options. U have Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, dating apps, hook up apps, phones/texting ur side chick sending nudes at 3am when ur wifey asleep next to u.. etc the internet basically. I once heard someone say, “A man is as only as faithful as his options.” I’m not sure if I completely agree with it it really depends on the man himself though. But it’s definitely a different culture/world that we live in now compared to 60-70 years ago

[@mairamenezes5883]

Adrienne has always been awesome, but she keeps getting smarter

[@taneshareedkinard8144]

I’m pregnant, working remotely and yep I waited until third trimester to tell. Didn’t want no drama

[@omphilemoerane2569]

Don't you guys have employment laws that protect pregnant women? I mean for goodness sake you live in AMERICA 😯

[@torip2165]

@@omphilemoerane2569 Yes we do live here and They STILL suck... smh... progressive my azz...

[@sudhiramg]

Yo legit story here! We wanted to celebrate our grandparents 50th anniversary and my grandma said " I don't want any celebration of this, because it has been 50 years of torture to me"!!!

[@tammir6236]

Loni..🤣🤣🤣🤣I can’t... she’s friggen hilarious🥰🇨🇦

[@serianemorapeli5030]

🤣🤣