The Power of No | In The Room

Sometimes “no” is the best response for our peace. Saying “no” can make room for the perfect “yes”! In this episode of #InTheRoom, we're discussing setting boundaries and overcoming brokenness along with a few key takeaways from #TheSameRoom conversation around Balance with Touré Roberts.
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[@kizzyrock]

Yes!!!! God will DRY things up including relationships, jobs, family etc! After a certain point he doesn't care about our emotions when his WILL is calling you! He will even allow people to leave you who you are not strong enough to leave! He will snatch the rug- literally

[@janey_oge8865]

Wow…this 📌

[@kizzyrock]

@@janey_oge8865 Yes sis!!! In 2015 he snatched EVERYTHING from me and threw me in isolation season! I was lonely, lost, confused and broken! I had NO clue what he was doing. He was stripping me in order to prepare me and my God, the blessings were tremendous! If ANYONE is going through a stripping season, he wants to transform you to give you everything that belongs to you! Many of us are called to break generational curses so he will pull you from your family sometimes because of toxic and trauma bonds, he will allow you to loose that job and push you towards purpose, he will end that relationship so he can prepare you for your husband. Hold on and remain obedient even when you don't understand because soon it will all make sense. Don't fight against the process because you will cause the storm to linger longer. ❤

[@janey_oge8865]

@@kizzyrock Hmm…this is such a well-thought out blessing. Thank you so much for this. God bless and keep us. May I also yield to the CALL by the Holy Spirit. Really appreciate you 🙏🏽🤗💜💜

[@priscillaxsafi]

@Kizzy Rock 🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@kizzyrock]

@@janey_oge8865 I stand in agreement with you!!! The blessings God has for you will CHASE you down!!! When I came out of my storm, I promised God I will attempt to help as many people as I can so I started my KZbin channel. We literally have to hold hands and help each other. Following God is beautiful but NOT EASY!!! It's your time sis!!!!

[@wtfavor]

“Surrender to stillness so your “no” can be purposeful” -Brenda

[@gladiasnaturelle]

I was listening to Myles Munroe, I believe it was him if I’m correct, but he said something that convicted me. This what he said, and I’m paraphrasing, you tell God your laundry list of what He should do and we don’t give Him time to even answer! It’s like calling someone and telling them your problem and asking for help then hang up before they can say something. I’m telling you this talk with you guys was on time. He said it should be 5-minutes prayer and 2-hours listening. I was mind blown. It’s the truth. I’m a busy body myself and I have to force myself to slow down on purpose. Being intentional about where I’m going makes me intentional about what I should do to get there. That includes now sitting my behind down in silence. Baby steps for sure. But it’s a love language that I want to make a habit in my life. Love you guys for talking real like this.

[@priscillaxsafi]

This talk was personal to me from people pleasing to God drying things up in your life so you can be still in him! Literally God will call you, them strong convictions, soul groaning because there is something more in the inside or what he wants to tell you! I’m in a season of stillness, away from what i think that are my desires and just to be in awe of who he is and spend time with him. Morning Prayers and Stillness has become my fundamental routine, meeting my father and acknowledgment of my identity; to be in agreement with the great I am! Lastly all of you women of God are amazing! Brenda’s meter analogy was great the perceptive that makes you understand why your calling is worth fighting for

[@dr.princessbriggs]

"if your judgment of me is not the truth, then I need to release that." Wooooowww.... Thank you Stephanie ❤️

[@kimberlygriffin8022]

“Wasn’t stopping for myself.” That was a powerful statement.

[@chancarter3440]

I agree!

[@earth2domi]

i really needed this right now. i’m trying to get out of my people pleasing phase of life (which has been all 20 years of my life lol 🙈)

[@yolandabacon3662]

It is a beautiful feeling - to be on the other side of people-pleasing.

[@shanazhu2673]

When you stop pleasing others it is so freeing thanks be to God 🙏

[@ganaruth]

When Fatima said " she use to be friend to you" i figured she was talking to me. Its very hard for someone like me to say NO even when it hurt, and i had to learn to use the word NO rightly in a hard way. But at the end it paid off. I'm currently reading a book on setting boundaries and it has been beautiful journey riding with it. Thanks to "in the room" you guys are doing awesomely well and I'm learning a lot here.

[@superhooper425]

I now know why I kept avoiding this podcast when it popped up, the powerful convo in this room was going to be a stepping stone in me breaking free. Every single thing said has been my entire journey in Christ. When I say everything. 🥺😢 From the first woman who spoke to the last. Wow!!! I hate disappointing others, I hate the thought I may miss out on what I need, I can go on and on.

[@JoniecePerez]

"Surrender to stillness so that your no may be purposeful"

[@StandazjahGunn]

Write more to God. That’s how a lot of my blessings came through. Finding what works between you and Him. It’s amazing you must think of it as a relationship. God loves intimacy!💕

[@artforchrist5065]

I love everything about this conversation, & I relate so much to everything said. A book that has blessed me is called, “Wake Up Girl & Push Through: Designating Morning Alone Time With God” It has beautiful morning prayers to start the day with. I stopped reading it mid way through, but I am deciding to start the book over again today. This word was one of the motivations I needed to focus on being consistent in my relationship with the Lord. As Pastor Stephanie said in a recent sermon, “Resist the Resistance”! Shalom to all of you beautiful ladies in Christ.

[@GodsWarriorNaNa]

Being submissive, consistency and discipline in my stillness. Thank you Queens for this powerful word🤍

[@funmitaiwo4002]

These are the women I need to be around often JHEEZE. Lord thank you for these women 🙏🏽💎💞

[@maydavalle]

Thank you God 😌💜🙏🏽

[@shadowsofthemind6954]

I’m in love with the understanding that a properly placed No is a preservative for your calling. And as you guys said about saying No to yourself. The FAITH it requires to do that. Saying No to yourself is a work all in itself. I’ve witnessed the way that God stepped in for me when I just told myself No. powerful.

[@meganbryant9598]

You all talks are always AMAZING!! But this one right here spoke so much volume, from saying no to being still. Everyday, I'm faced with "what my task is for each day" because I just feel like I'm just doing life. And I am troubled with being still I always feel like I have to be doing something and when I am still, I feel like I'm not getting anything done. I often times feel like I have to be that friend and I have told myself, " I feel like I'm being fake" because I'm not genuinely doing it. I just think I'm doing the right thing. Also when Fatima she felt free when she said no, I desire that freeness, but my trouble is saying NO. THANK YOU, ladies for the beautiful topic and talk. It really dug deep!!

[@Intimately_tish]

These are the good friends I desire. No bars held.

[@mzbrenbren9108]

Excellent Segment God knows when to send what you need The moment I said No to a so called best friend of 15 years previously saying yes to their every need they not only turned evil towards me and shut me out of their circle I can’t get the Time back I can’t get the resources back only thing I can do is move forward and learned that I probably should’ve said no a long time ago I have my peace I have more time for myself I have more money and I still have compassion towards people does it mean I say yes to everything that doesn’t mean I say no to everything that I learned valuable lesson in saying no ,

[@sallyebongo5236]

I think God speaks through His word. We can get daily guidance f as we read and ask questions and rightly divide scripture for the day. If He has more to tell us He would do so as well. I love your discussion.

[@dannib3948]

Everytime that I watch an episode I always wish I had REAL GIRLFRIENDS LIKE THIS💖

[@brainsNbeauty727]

Yessss!!

[@naomiomireh7014]

Me too

[@itsyahgirlebs5623]

Likewise

[@Maria-006.]

Same 🙏🏻🙌🏻🥰

[@misstodd6023]

🙌🏾

[@MsIvy-gc3ls]

Omg!! I love this so much! I've been in a season of "No" and sometimes it's tough. I struggled with that people pleasing in some parts of my life. But I just really been allowing God to empty me and standing strong in my 'No". And you find out who's really rocking with you in your "No" season.

[@jasminegeorge2811]

I’m sooo happy for the more consistent content 🙏🏾 the topics always resonate. God is really speaking through you guys. Thank you for the videos.

[@shanicebonga]

“No is a full sentence” Brenda Palmer 😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨what a word

[@Kensworld28]

Love these women. They have taught me a LOT.💯

[@bruceparramorejr.743]

I know the lord love yall what an vibe thanks you holy spirit for guiding the holy father daughters amen

[@deborahlowe2440]

I love that you provided a talk show for young Christian women. This is something I needed.

[@lovejoy6710]

Y’all got me weak 🤣🤣 i love the realness

[@ddoseofdivine]

Thank you for this!!!!! Starting tomorrow, God willing I will wake up and pray for clarity for the day and setting my expectation. Also, learning and discerning how to say no. I just found the channel and just subscribed :)

[@latoyasinspirationalcorner]

Whew I struggle with No because I hate disappointing others. I can admit I need help with that, it’s not my strong point! God bless you ladies! I pray for friends like you all.

[@stephanygomez8021]

Stephanie saying “your train of thought said no” I literally laughed out loud 🤣🤣

[@edensgarden89]

Thank you God! because this was a message to me. I relate so much to what was said and the No's I need to start saying not just to my flesh but to what God has not set before me. "For the grace of God has appeared that offers salvation to all people. It teaches us to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age" - Titus 2:11-13a

[@nduh2232]

You ladies are helping us in so many ways 🙌🏾

[@paulinemutua2422]

My loyalty to who lam serves people best🤍✨Thankyou Stephanie❤

[@chrissyshay8539]

It's always impactful to be in the room with these wonderful women

[@leahmwananyanda2960]

Thank you for the profound messages... The room is next level 💯❤️🔥

[@breszzy]

Thank you God for this word!

[@zandilesokhela1578]

Love you ladies,can't wait to hear Stephanie sharing her story of how God convicted her to say yes to her fiancé ❤ ♥ (Surrender to the stillness ...I believe God has called me to season of stillness in such a way that I don't care about Facebook WhattApp as I used to be)Thank you! ladies!!

[@sandrafarrell5587]

I can relate too, some days it has come to me to be still, and get easily distracted.

[@refilwetsalaile7647]

YAAAY! Back with some power backed Wisdom. Thank You ladies for this platform. Watching from Botswana, Africa. God bless!!

[@vanialegall8194]

So random, y’all are all some beautiful queens. That’s all. Had to say it. But for real though, I needed this.

[@carolinejepkorir9653]

Learning to say no out of love

[@millicenttau]

God very clearly led me to this and wow. Such powerful words ladies. Exactly what I needed to hear. “It’s not a selfish no, it’s a purposeful no” sheeesh👏🏾

[@brittanyb9292]

This was so powerful I stuck people pleasing but when I start saying no it does help with my identity I able to hear what God need me know also stay in stillness but always distracting or fasting helps you figure out who you are and who God made who are you

[@Muhle64]

Setting boundaries should never be said to be overly spoken about. It is such an important topic for us to continue highlighting to empower us and set us up for success. 💯…to cement us in who God has called us to be; not seeking validation from people that we always trying to please above God’s perfect will 😢

[@trinityfalayi1033]

God bless you stephanie ike, love you with the love of christ ❤

[@jaysmith143]

You all are such a blessing to me. I’m learning how to grow in the Lord. A better relationship with God. Can you please pray for me? Thank you Jaquay ❤

[@TalkswithChristi]

I love this beautiful kingdom Women discussing the power of No and sharing the word of God! 🙏🏾💗 I’m learning to say no now and praying for discernment so I know when to say no.

[@LadyPetrine9205]

This was good, I really need to practice stillness cause I dobt do that at all. I will wake up early to pray, but once I'm done I dont give God the chance to speak. I'm sorry Lord🙈🙏

[@JazzWorld93]

This is POWERFUL! Thank you God✨🙏🏽

[@titilayoabaniwonda6508]

If your judgment of me is not my truth, I would release you. This hit me differently

[@uapengondirokatjiuanjo1401]

This was so insightful yet so fun Whoever said Christianity is boring needs to watch this.

[@ravenshanks]

Sheesh... I saved this video to watch later. And remembered it today. And how on time it was today. This has been a major struggle for me. God is working in me everyday with this. In order to follow God we have to make a choice. I don't want to live my life allowing everybody to use me. Doing "good things" but miss the GOD things he wants me to do. When Jesus says come to me all who are heavy laden and I will give you rest for my burden is light. What God puts on you. What he sends you to do. He will give you the grace to do it. Even hard things seem easy when Jesus is gracing you to do it vs taking on things you were never meant to carry sheesh. This was so on time

[@maydavalle]

Love that verse❣️ Luke 8:45-46 “Who touched me?” Jesus asked. Everyone denied it, and Peter said, “Master, this whole crowd is pressing up against you.” But Jesus said, “Someone deliberately touched me, for I felt healing power❤️ go out from me.” Luke 8:48 “Daughter,” he said to her, “your faith has made you well. Go in peace.”

[@jackc981]

No is teaching you How important your Yes is.

[@dennaesmith415]

I love this conversation but the end about stillness was🔥🔥🔥. They were definitely all up in my business!!

[@nancychukwuemeka]

I want to be in this room!🥺💜 God bless y'all.

[@yolie1285]

I find you guys few months ago ♥️ I just want say that I love you .u bless me

[@TimewithLivi]

Such a great conversation! So much to reflect on.

[@LysaRenee]

When I say you all have blessed me! Whew chile, like literally spoke my whole life! Thank you all so much! This fed my spirit

[@brittanyb9292]

Love the wisdom in the podcast

[@laurensolomons5142]

I love your podcast❤️🇿🇦

[@TyGee777]

Beautiful Ladies! 👏👏👏 Yes to "No".

[@letecianti109]

great conversation ladies!!!!

[@mv1714]

16:30 Y’all went DEEP

[@cassie_ohsoclassic]

I feel like this episode was meant for me. I struggle with stillness a lot.

[@markietacrockett]

God is love! God changed all around me. God gave me a NEW LIFE! God is powerful and I have Holy Spirit power. Only blessings, favor and abundance is around and in me. In Jesus Name pray Matthew 6:9-13 LOVE ❣️

[@travis_km]

This is Good. Sometimes i felt that need to be still and even found worship music to be distracting. I thought i was the only one.😅

[@smileyperlishia]

Awesome transparency ❤️🙏🏾

[@darlingsantos4228]

Loved this episode so much🥺😍🥰🙌🏾

[@citygirlofbethlehem]

[@ponderingwithsaffronking]

Amen, this is a beautiful talk xxx

[@summerjohnson1809]

This is sooooo good ladies! Thank-you

[@Comfort_Moses]

God bless you 🙏

[@wtfavor]

I’m so grateful to God for this channel

[@jojo_powers3147]

I needed to hear this

[@GodsWarriorNaNa]

Fatima when you said I just started doing this today😂

[@itsyahgirlebs5623]

I really needed this ✨🙏🏼

[@danalewis3027]

Dope dope and healing conversation!🔥🙏🏾

[@chrissygift]

Sooo great. & such an on time mentored message. Thank you!

[@nubi688]

Hi Ladies, great conversation! "No" No has Peace, Strength, Purpose, Positive Energy, Awareness, Stillness, Mindful Movement and so much more. Can you please tell me the name of the book you mentioned? Thank you all for sharing!!!!! ❤❤❤

[@missyyyyy]

Hi! One book was Balance by Toure Roberts. I’m not sure about the other two they mentioned.

[@ruvimbonyabando3849]

Loved this conversation 💕

[@jatavialockett409]

Girl the stillness is hard!!!!!!!!!!frfr

[@nancychukwuemeka]

Hi Jatavia, Yes, it's hard- because we rely on our strength most of the time. I believe the Holy Spirit is the one who empowers us to surrender to the stillness. Ask Him to help you, it's His ability in you that helps you walk in alignment and fulfill your purpose. Don't rely on your strength, environment, or abilities. It's the Holy Spirit's ability in you that empowers you to do the things you didn't think you could do- Just Ask, Listen and Submit.

[@jatavialockett409]

@@nancychukwuemeka thankyou so much, that’s exactly what I’ve been doing, trying to do it in my own strength when all I needed to do was surrender,Thankyou father for using your children to do your work

[@nancychukwuemeka]

🤗

[@keirranorfleet]

Why is it so painful telling people no despite how things may transpire!!!!

[@kiashahines20]

This was good👏🏼✝️

[@TheHighkeyLowkey]

Big shoutout to Brenda for that book recommendation from Erwin McManus. I’m checking him out asap

[@terrology]

Learning to say has been so hard for me

[@kizzyrock]

Yes!!! Many times it's ROOTED in past trauma. Sis- ask the holy spirit to show you the area of trauma. It takes intentional practice but it's freeing!!!

[@dmae93]

I LOVE THIS! 💕

[@chanteledmond9648]

I NEEDED THISSSS!!!!!!

[@mirian4837]

Can we have some more vids guys ? I love the conversations

[@gladiasnaturelle]

Amen!!!

[@michellekusi1027]

amazing episode, God bless you all

[@karifoster4851]

this was good and being still is sometimes hard

[@martiquatrammell1407]

Jesussss this !!!

[@MARIELLARAQUEL]

Then love! And forgive and forget 💖🦋🤍✨🌸🌈🥰💕

[@This_is_Turpui]

When she said " I thought being friendly was a Godly thing " that part

[@zahairawilliams9125]

AMEN

[@raewithgrace]

This conversation.... !!!

[@michelleknighton893]

So good! ❤

[@victoryv763]

Good stuff ❤️