These Asian Traditions NEED To Be Stopped!

[@pasadenaphil8804]

I just recently stumbled into this YT channel and I am really impressed with the intelligent and entertaining discussions. The comments are great too. Glad it found its way onto my YT feed.

[@UnstableYT-u7k]

It seems very narcissistic for Asian parents to compare their children with other children. It’s like they place their own values based on how well their child does rather than focus on their wellbeing. They need to understand that their children are human beings as well and they’re not perfect. If perfection is what they expect out of their children then they might as well raise an AI and spend all their money on upgrades.

[@CliftonDon74]

I agree. I have dropped this tradition of comparing the success of my kids to each other and their cousins. Letting them know they are enough being who they are is encouraging enough. My parents and their siblings compared me to my siblings and cousins growing up. In our case, it made for a healthy competition, but I can see where it would have applied unnecessary pressure. I think the intent of our elders was to motivate.

[@badassoptic]

It's like a hard etched communication pattern too. Other kids have get taught by the same teacher, eat the same lunch as you at school. other kids get A why don't you get A? Are you missing a brain cell.

[@TOOTOO-f6v]

they should learn traditional music and culture

[@theia1653]

Everything is fuel for their narcissism cause it's built into the culture to have kids to serve and worship you, they should be eternally grateful for being born and provided for at the bare minimum, sacrifice their first born for you, you are given a magical exalted omnipotent status that was not earned, and they live through their kids. All the extreme overacheiving is so they can look good, have honor, brag, steal credit, and use their kids and their kids as their retirement plan. This cycle has continued for thousands of years.

[@martinvanburen4578]

All parents do that. All people do that but maybe Asian women/parents are more coarse and vulgar in terms of making it public.

[@callie4348]

I hate that all my family compete with each other to see who has the nicest house and the best cars. While most of them are in heavy debts

[@Gabster1990]

Being OK with blue collar work is something Asian people can work on.

[@LeahDyson-kq4bd]

And Jewish

[@CliftonDon74]

The Fung Brothers, tackling the tough topics. Thanks for your channel and this platform for Asians to air their grievances. Kind of like Festivus. 😊

[@TheStoner420PotHead]

For the Restivus

[@Iluvmydogs128]

Amen.

[@Pinoyguitarist5]

Having kids take care of their elder parents. If the wife and I ever have kids, we are making sure we have retirement planned out so that they don't have the financial/logistic/mental burden of us in our old age that would hold them back in life(buying a house, paying off student loans, planning their own retirement, getting married, etc)

[@theia1653]

@cassiopeia309 Yeah? Well, maybe we never wanted Ivy League or law and medical school, and we haven't forgotten the decades of mistreatment either. No one has the time or energy to take care of them, we have our own lives and kids to take care of. The best deal they can get is independent living and a LifeAlert.

[@Pinoyguitarist5]

@theia1653 I have no gripes with my parents or my wife's parents. They weren't bad parents or didn't intentionally not save for retirement(they didn't have the financial knowledge/viewpoint that our generation have now) They did the best they can, and my in-laws had some bad events happen with their businesses in the Philippines. They are good parents, and we have not had bad experiences with our upbringing. They aren't even expecting us to help, it's just something we feel like we should do if could to the best of our ability bc they are still our parents and they are important to us. Even if they aren't pressuring or asking for support, feels a way to give them as much support as we can. My statement wasn't a reflection of parent, just how it shouldn't continue. (My wife came here to the US 5 years ago, and I'm a 1st generation US born to parent from the Philippines). However I can understand if your upbringing wasn't ideal to have a particular viewport of this. It's must be difficult to have that underlying emotions.

[@jaimeflor4181]

I think for me, it’s the lack of emotional support & openness. Also, not talking about mental health & emotional topics. Maybe my family was more closed off than others, but my parents have never verbally said they love me. Also, insensitive criticisms of weight or skin color (being too dark). The pressure to be successful is too much as well & it sometimes backfires. For me, it made me rebel instead of being compliant & more successful. Being overly strict as well.

[@LeahDyson-kq4bd]

My parents were old school New York white people and they "didn't do feelings" and then of course I became a psych major

[@TenchiBushi]

I broke the tradition by enlisting in the army. I became an Army Infantry Officer after college that became PSC (Private Security Contractor). My parents preferred to have me to either be a doctor or lawyer. My mother still calls me asshole marine.

[@mt0881]

For me having my kid to only befriend other asian kids and discourage being friends with non asians

[@bangbang2070]

Befriending friends with Asian kids is actually a plus. Non-Asian kids do not benefit anybody, trust me on this lol

[@pinkypilot]

Only girl amongst 3 brothers and had to do all the chores...started piano at the age of 3...violin at the age of 7... got punished for getting a B in math...snuck and tried out for cheerleading and got beaten (made the squad but couldn't participate)...couldn't have seconds at a meal...wanted a Barbie for Xmas, and got a replica...married an Irishman and was told the marriage wouldn't last a year (going on 20+).......Yeah, I can relate!

[@scratchitch1187]

Well they should be happy you married a rich man! 😂

[@ftu2021]

@@scratchitch1187 »white man »

[@scratchitch1187]

@@ftu2021 I know. It was a joke (that I actually stole from a Chinese woman who married an Irishman). 🙂

[@LeahDyson-kq4bd]

Did you really get beaten? I would get physical punishment as a white girl but I felt alienated none of my other white friends got hit

[@pinkypilot]

@@LeahDyson-kq4bd oh yeah

[@benficaM8888]

I'd say, most of the serious stuff around pressuring your kids, mental health, never apologizing, they have to go away.. But some of the "inconveniences", i'd say that's makes us people. I'd be happy to keep them going

[@vanessajones3508]

Culture and manners is very important.

[@CliftonDon74]

@peekaboopeekaboo1165 it does, but it is hard to find a Confucionist / Taoist temple in NJ. The Asian church group that my mom belongs to is Christian based, even though they practice a lot of the old world Chinese traditions.

[@theia1653]

@peekaboopeekaboo1165 Peaceful coexistence also means docility and servility, a society that can easily be taken over by an aggressive one and you do whatever the regime wants.

[@theia1653]

@peekaboopeekaboo1165 Open a history book and how many Chinese do you see that made it in because they dared to challenge the status quo? Exactly.

[@theia1653]

@peekaboopeekaboo1165 Which is very ironic considering that Asians are the LEAST understanding people, the least open minded and willing to learn, the least willing to cooperate and have an open dialogue.

[@luvpinkhellokitty]

OMG!!! Wow! I thought it was just my family!! My parents used to compare me with my evil cousins, ones that are close to my age, (my dad side) on grades. And yes, when I make a mistake I never hear the end of it!!!! When I do good…I hear nothing. So traumatized that I didn’t want kids…afraid I ended up being like them!!

[@MedalionDS9]

Keeping quiet about mental and physical needs. Bottling things up and just study study study.

[@JakeAkstins]

The push for phd's. 8/10 phd candidates don't make enough money to support a family. It is similar to people wanting to be an NBA player where a select few make enough. There are rich phd, but the majority do not make good money for the amount of work and the difficulty of it..

[@DapperArtImagery]

But if you want to date another high value asian you'll need a PhD in something lol

[@JakeAkstins]

@@DapperArtImagery As I mentioned before, the return on investment is not worth effort needed for a PhD. There are plenty of Asian's that will date someone that does not have a PhD.

[@DapperArtImagery]

@JakeAkstins I agree with what you're saying. And I was expressing a bit of hyperbole tbh. I just don't feel in practice this tradition will change anytime soon. Dating someone with a prestigious educational background is still strongly ingrained in asian culture coupled with pressure by family and peers.

[@JakeAkstins]

@DapperArtImagery prestige is important. Income is more important. You cant eat prestige. Prestige can't buy a house nor a car. Prestige can't pay for a child's college. I think most parents would rather a person be financially sound than have someone with a phd making 35k a year. Being a decade removed from college, my friends that went the phd route are all struggling financially, but are putting the same number of hours of work as I am working consulting at deloitte, but at a fraction of the compensation.

[@justacontrarian]

Not for nothing, but I wish that the black community adopted most of the traditions that Asian Americans want to abandon, within reason. Communities become toxic by abandoning traditions that produce results.

[@theia1653]

People want to be a part of rap, pants sagging, twerking as a form of counterculture but no one, not even Asians, wants to be a part of confucianism. Who has produced results are Europeans that had a scientific revolution, took over the world, invented most the modern technology we use today, and guaranteed basic rights within the last 500 years and they didn't get there with obedience or filial piety.

[@Ed-xv4sy]

I'm Somali, I respect east asians tremendously but I would also say, times are changing. Do not wreck your mental health trying to work for some toxic corp. that doesn't give 2 sh*ts about you.

[@bjj5746]

I’m a second gen with crazy first gen parents who basically controlled my every move. I try my best to just allow my kids to have self motivation and find happiness…but my kids school has so many first gen Asian kids that a lot of the pressure comes from their friends! So, they push each other to toxic levels at times and I have to settle them down. 😂

[@theia1653]

1st gen ruined everything for 2nd gen who grew up a westerner. I have no friends that are Asian, because I don't want to deal with this.

[@LeahDyson-kq4bd]

If psychoanalytic theory was mandatory all these old school parents would've done things differently

[@madbug1965]

I can tell you from experience that your attitude will change when you become a parent yourself. We all become the thing that we hate...

[@sleazybtd]

That usually only happens with people of low intelligence. They rebel, rebel, and rebel, but put no thought into the actual behavior, so when they get thrust into the same situation, they go with what they know, which is what was done to them. Intelligent people think about why the parents did what they did and then consider alternatives, so when they are thrust into the same situation, they're better prepared.

[@theia1653]

No. I will parent smarter, not harder. That is what I have learned from a cool dad who was more of a dad to me than my Asian tiger dad. While APs forbid us from doing anything, we will do it and know how to handle any difficult situation and be street smart. Everything I do is to spit on these values.

[@theia1653]

Secondly, my kids come first. Not even my wife so there will be no confucian hierarchy either that places children at the bottom rung. In a famine, they eat first. I may even serve some mystery meat.

[@Iluvmydogs128]

Not true. I am a parent now and I know what not to do.

[@MalarkeySixTwo]

I’m so happy someone said the quiet part out loud

[@letsgowalk]

I’ve been called a “fobabee” (wannabe fob) by both ABCs and non-American born because I try as hard as possible to be as HK as I can reasonably be. Am I anywhere close? Obviously not. Any real HK’er can smell me from a mile (or km) away, and call me “jook sing jai” (empty bamboo boy), which is a playful way to poke fun at ABCs. But guess what? For them to even acknowledge my existence, and to tease me in this manner means that I am somewhat accepted in their circles, as opposed to someone they don’t even recognize as one of their own whatsoever, which is how they view most other American Born Chinese. I get along with HK and Taiwanese folks way better than fellow ABCs. I feel like I have more of a kinship with them, most likely because I try to stay as culturally grounded as possible. To me, the American side comes by default, so it is imperative to bring out the more traditional side in order to keep the heritage alive. The funniest thing is that even in the States, Chinese don’t assume I am ABC anymore, but rather Singaporean! This is flattering, yet equally puzzling, since the population of Singaporeans in the US is very minuscule. I’ll take this new alter ego though! 😂

[@theia1653]

Only fake people and posers put on an act to pretend to be something they're not.

[@letsgowalk]

@@theia1653If it’s something of genuine interest, is it considered fake though? I never claim to be anything. It’s their perception of me.

[@Camaron8928]

You sound so f up

[@shun8104]

Traditions that needs to die would go away if we simply could use our brain to decide what to do instead of braindeadly following our parents' footsteps. Also build a mental that can resist peer pressure or whatever because some parents got kids and they don't even know why.

[@theia1653]

You're not following their footsteps. It's not like they're a self made tycoon and want you to fill their shoes, or even someone that can teach you things of real value. They just think they know it all when they don't, think they get to decide your path for you, and expect you to obey them. The worst mistake you can make is listen to them. You have a brain, use it, don't care what they or other Asians want, and you don't need mommy's permission either.

[@sleazybtd]

Sticking chopsticks in rice is a funeral practice.

[@PricefieldPunk]

Oh forcing kids to play instruments that they had no interest in playing to begin with def has to go. I played violin, 2 of my cousins played violin, and 1 played flute as kids and none of us play it anything as adults cause we all hated playing. We all saw how our parents just wanted to show us off to the whole family like everyone gather round and listen to my kid play. Absolutely cocky and narcissistic behavior that killed any enjoyment a child has. A child has to want to play cause they actually are interested in playing not cause you force them against their will.

[@mitziikemoto5937]

I am an 81-year-old Asian grandma and I really enjoyed this show. That is so true in everything you mentioned and made me realize how some Asians are struggling in the US. I think all come with balance, we are still lucky to live in this country and we can pick and choose how we want to live from both Western and Asian cultures. As we get to the 4th and 5th generations, they are a lot happier and doing their own things. Every generation is different and learns from the previous ones, good and bad. If young people can accept their parent's shortcomings and how they were raised, maybe they can understand with your difficult parents or grandparents. That's what I did with my mother, once I realized how she was raised, she couldn't help the way she is. Every parent did the best they could in their situation. My mother used to compare her son with her brother's son, who was almost at a genius level, became a doctor and my brother had a small business. Maybe that genius boy worked as a doctor for 10 years and had a nervous breakdown, Schizophrenic paranoia, and on disability forever. My uncle regret pushing him so hard but too late. Meanwhile, my brother is doing fine with his small business and happy person with a happy family. My mother did realize she was wrong in comparing her son to others. Every young person needs to look forward and quit looking back or making excuses for their upbringing and focus on their life to be happy and achieve their dream. Everyone is responsible for his own life in this world. Keep up your good show, I really enjoy watching your show.

[@theia1653]

All of it has to go. No confucianism, confucian hierarchy, tiger parenting, rigid traditional gender roles, or collectivism. I will not take care of you and split my income three ways. I don't need your approval, you don't get to decide for us, and you can't shame me. My child is mine, not yours, and I will put them first, not you. In laws will not live in the same house or have a say in how we run ours. No waiting until marriage or monogamy. I will never be filial or deferential, accept it. No conformity, obedience, or passivity. There will be boundaries and consequences for breaking it. We will not tolerate your narcissism, mental illnesses, emotional abuse, and negativity. Love isn't just food, I am always my child's advocate, mentor, I genuinely care, and nothing is too embarrassing. I care that my kids are well adjusted, have people skills, confidence, a high self esteem, independence, are fully Americanized, pursue their own passions, and they will do everything other kids do to include sleepovers, field trips, road trips, dating, parties, and prom nights. A daughter will make her way in the world, she doesn't need you or your money and I will warn her to stay away, because she comes first, not your mommy, and she will not put up with you. Our destiny is our own. No sacrifice, just live your own lives and don't expect anything in return. Don't compare us because we will always be a different breed. Don't even fight over the check at a restaurant, just pay yours.

[@sashakarasawa5794]

Wdym no monogamy?

[@johnq4794]

Filial piety, the worst. Respect is earned not given based on age. Being older doesn’t provide a trump card to every argument or debate.

[@tzenzhongguo]

Filial piety must be kept traitor. It’s absolutely disgusting and abhorrent to leave your parents at a retirement home. A nursing home is understandable if they need 24/7 medical care. I voted for Trump and will vote for him again. I Love and am proud of my Chinese culture. I loath the woke white left Westen toxic inclusivity and regressives. Traditional East Asian values are compatible with western conservative family values. God bless East Asian patriarchy and misogyny. Too many East Asian girls are race traitors in the west (Australia, Canada, and USA).

[@theia1653]

People that actually earn respect will always treat you as an equal, focuses on your strengths to build you up instead of your weaknesses to tear you down, are always level headed, it's okay to learn from each other, and they have a natural charisma to them.

[@mycojanetyson]

Parents just stop forcing controlling their children.

[@vivianjones9749]

Something I just found out about is Certified Anesthesiologist Assistant! You do t have to go to nursing school with this and it’s basically like a PA. You work with the Anesthesiologist and median pay starting is like $150k

[@vivianjones9749]

My white/Latino son married a Chinese young woman. No bride price, They paid for the wedding themselves (usually the groom’s family pays)-I paid for their nights in the hotel since I’m a Diamond member. This was during COVID so tea ceremony was done over We-Chat. Their marriage seems to be a healthy one with each pitching in to help around the apartment. My son even cooks. I adore my Chinese DIL and can’t wait to spend more time with her discussing all kinds of things. We do have a great time together. She went to college in the US.

[@darrylt8502]

Hot take: Red envelopes. Once you reach the age of 26, that's it! No more red envelopes for you! I hate receiving them from my parents and grandparents. lol

[@AstarionWifey]

Free money bruh

[@VirtuosoStudios]

As a piano teacher, I believe the key objective is for young students to develop good habits. It's not necessary to dedicate as much time to music lessons as the past, because we don't need kids to grow up to become Mozart or Beethoven etc., we just want to encourage kids to build up good habits and have maximum potential for music appreciation in the future. Many children may not fully appreciate music at a young age, while adults who genuinely love music often learn quickly. It is important for parents to realize that music is a powerful tool for understanding and appreciating the interconnectedness of life. By fostering a love of music in children, we give them the POTENTIAL to love music and love many aspects of life. Our role as parents is to support kid's development and provide them with the tools they need to succeed. Whether they kids choose to use those tools to release use them to their fullest potential is up to them when they grow up!

[@yangp2k]

Been a firefighter in SoCal for 20 years. I was an engineer for 12 of those. Engineer is the guy that drives and operates the fire truck. My dad would say to his friends that I’m an “engineer” that I “build and design” things for the fire department. That being said I do have a CE degree.

[@ChamP10nk1ng]

These ol' Asian traditions need to be revamped with Smala sauce to kick it up a notch 😊

[@sonh788]

Just pay for your own order . It's not that hard

[@SamZhao-v3y]

I hate to be compared, but that's only because I can't keep up with other kids.😅😂

[@wiikends]

You guys along with other ytubers have thought me how hard kids had it & I thought hispanic parents were bad because they whipped us or pulled our ear

[@-amosc.presley-7192]

Happy early Thanksgiving and Gobble gobble

[@ShubhoBose]

FYI, Bengali-Indian means Bengali people from India, not Bangladeshi and Indian which is what I think you wanted to mean. A third of Bengali people live and are native to India.

[@LeahDyson-kq4bd]

Like a Bengal tiger

[@eshabiswas1087]

Thank you!!!! 🤣💯

[@phatbui9262]

Need cable management for the hot pot boys sign, route it to the plants.

[@Razear]

In principle, wrapping a remote actually makes a lot of sense knowing how greasy people's fingers get, especially when you're figuring out what to watch while covered in Cheeto dust. But yes, the optics of it is tacky but not something that I would necessarily be scorned by. I think Andrew's middle ground take on your child's career choices is right. You want to encourage your kid to pursue their passions, but you also want them to be at least somewhat pragmatic and have a safety net to fall back on if their first choice doesn't materialize. Shoot for the stars but don't get drunk on delusion. You're never going to convince traditional Asians to restrain themselves from fighting for the tab at dinner. Saving face is everything. If you allow the other party to pay and don't even provide a half-ass offer, you will be perceived as cheap and inconsiderate. It doesn't even matter if you genuinely don't want to pay. It reflects poorly on your public image if you don't at least make it seem like you're putting in effort to act generously. Asian parents don't put their kids into music lessons because they expect their child to become a professional pianist or celloist. They do it for the mental rigor and the development of muscle memory associated with playing an instrument. It also instills discipline because an instrument takes routine practice to master.

[@theia1653]

Or how they have to pass out money like they're rich when they can barely afford food and not even Elon Musk does that. Or shop expensive clothing brands when they're deep in debt like they're a part of high society and they have to be indebted to and get everyone around them into debt too. You don't spend more than $100k after a week in Vietnam unless you were passing out money or were scammed and they can't explain where the money went but won't ever save that much.

[@heelhook79]

Studies show that learning to play an instrument helps with brain development and I think that's the main purpose of why Asian parents make their kids do it.

[@massvt3821]

I'm not Asian but a good conversation anyway. David 's impression of the stereotypical white guy funny, snd accurate 27:54

[@SouRi1Two3]

If my teenage daughter gets pregnant I’m not going to send her off to get married. She’s my child. I messed up on teaching her about safe sex. I’m not letting someone else raise her as their property. We don’t live in villages anymore. Want to get married? Wait until you’re 18. My daughter will live with me. My grandchild will live with her mother. Her father can visit.

[@Cindyyy768]

If they want to fight to pay the bill, teach them a lesson. 😂

[@eshabiswas1087]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣💯

[@user-fp4dr1ne7z]

Confucianism

[@jimwoo9552]

When asked why certain customs and traditions are needed, and there aren't reasonable answers other than, because that's the way it's been donw, shows the lack of critical thinking among us. Don't be robots and follow like sheep. SMH...

[@monchichipower6334]

What if you don’t care to have kids or be married Just have a gf What’s your thoughts on a Chinese traditional perspective

[@jimwoo9552]

Think all cultures want to propagate the species (and carry on the family name) with (male) grandkids

[@monchichipower6334]

@@jimwoo9552 some guys don’t care for it They enjoy their freedom and liberation Just have a gf to enjoy life with

[@6kids-n6t]

There’s an advantage and disadvantage of the old school but I’m glad growing up with multi cultural

[@Quandoquesto]

I enjoy Asian food, and traditionally eating with chop sticks, but I've mostly rejected the wider Asian culture of my mother's side, having witnessed how damaging and destructive it can be to children, especially if they grow up in the west. All of my siblings have done the same... it's been a collective 'f you' to the stricter and more oppressive Asian side of the fam. Simultaneously, having a weak and ineffectual non-asian father we've all had to force our own path in life, regrettably being very ruthless with kith and kin

[@jimwoo9552]

How about some of the Feng Shui traditions, some are ok, others are very retricting practices that are not fit for the modern world

[@mycojanetyson]

The point is don’t HiT the child for sticking the chopsticks in the rice.

[@tiger2eye]

It is interesting that you should mention Daoism after Confucianism. I can certainly understand some modern rejections of Confucianism but what do you find so objectionable about Daoism? Please do not mention superstition. That is not truly part of Daoism.

[@oliverclothesoff4142]

My white patents never made me do homework a day in my life. I’m 44 and I’m successful but I wish they pushed me a little bit harder. ☕️

[@oliverclothesoff4142]

Parents * damn it lol☕️

[@OceanicPearlz1]

I cannot relate. 7yrs old I started tutoring. Rather yeah emphasis on education but I literally been cooped up in a box till breaking out to a different state for college. -Chinese Parents(NOPE NOT ABC. direct immigrants)

[@ttrruaminpn5755]

Dang I realized I am an Engineer and my brother is a Doctor. I don't remember my parents force us to be so.

[@Critique808]

My Filipino electrician told me his kids are doctor, engineer, and the other one is nurse.

[@saeedhossain6099]

sorry but sons over daughters trope doesn't hold much water anymore, the complaints persist but out of everyone I've seen that is South and East asian, i have yet to witness it, maybe its just me, but it honestly is that everyone gets it terribly.

[@Usagi2380]

Let people date whoever they want

[@jstn616]

The real tradition that needs to die is every asian in western movies named Shang or some super asian name. Like bro name him Josh or something 😂 i know one asian person who has a very traditional name but she goes by something completely different

[@TheFlagUnit]

Its clinically taught that there are two effective ways of raising kids - authoritarian and authoritative. Authoritative is typical tiger parenting Authoritative is still demanding, but explanations along each step along the way are given why things are being done, and the children's concerns are taken into account. I think this is more like Jewish parenting. Of course, if the kids want to drugs, thats a forceful no. But that is the difference. Interestingly enough, even Asian style authoritarian style parenting produces better results than White Caucasian Lasseiz-Faire style parenting. Although you end up with more neuroticism unfortunately and may need some therapy as an adult lol.

[@dylanblack3279]

Personally, I think that Daoism is awesome if its magical parts are ignored. The Daodejing is a beautiful work of literature and spiritual wisdom.

[@TopJoo7]

Our parents worked hard to raise us with a limited perspective of the world and yet most us evolved into respectable beings because of it.

[@jimwoo9552]

Post-partum rules. Can't wash your hair for a month...eewww and other ways to protect and nurture the mother's recovery are not needed anymore with modern medicine,

[@GodIsADog]

No matter how shitty Asian culture was in the past it works. As a person that was mentally and physically abused as a child raising a kid is not sunshine and rainbows at all. I’m just saying Asian culture is the top especially in kids behavior to adult out of all races. I’m just looking at the data.

[@holonet1]

Yeah, trying to carry on outdated traditions in a modern Western society doesn't mesh very well. I'm only maybe 60% fluent in my native tongue. Never learned how to read & wright it. That's on the old man, considering he was the only one who knew how. Most women were never taught & the few who learned, probably didn't progress beyond first grade level. Yes, being a foreigner subjects you to all sorts of difficulties, culture clash, racism, language barrier, etc. I'm not sure, I would imagine, certain groups, such as Japanese, South Koreans & Chinese would fare much better than those of us who came from South East Asia. We literally came from the jungle & knew nothing about modern society. At least the 1st & 2nd gens are doing leaps & bounds better. Even though a lot of millenials barely speak the language & certainly no Zoomer! Lol Even though the utility would be non-existent. Even many of the customs are outdated & doesn't apply to modern day living. The only reason to preserve some of these things would be for historical record keeping. With regards to superstition, I don't know what everyone else's personal stance on the super natural, but my people practiced Shamanism. I witnessed the initial rounds of the ceremony. Where a live animal was sacrificed. Even though I bailed, because I didn't want to be part of it. I later pried the events from my siblings. They bore witness to super natural events & were traumatized for life. The spirit world is real. While there maybe many faux shamans, there are those that do possess the proper knowledge & resources to access such manifestations. In closing, because of modernization, via science, most of that spiritual knowledge or what most would consider superstition has been lost. Life has been changing at a faster rate in the last 200 years, then it has for millennia. Obviously there's only been a very small percentage of mixing, but there has been an outcry of losing our ethnic identity, because of Racial Mixing. Those offspring are not really accepted as one of their race or the other, because technically they're neither. Although physically, they'll take on more phyical traits from one Race over the other & usually just get thrown into that lot. So, even our Racial identity is changing, gradually. That's what some of the Boomers fear, is that we'll no longer even look like our ancestors some day! Lol Although, the reality is mixed relationships are still pretty rare compared to non-mixed. Well, then again women are marrying out of Race more than men. Well, I'm sure that's just to get away from the cultural toxicity. Besides through Western media, Asians apparently just aren't measuring up to the Zoomers of today's 21st century.

[@TOOTOO-f6v]

there's Daiso

[@kapiatgatas]

Ban flogging on kids.

[@ktefccre]

Reading some of these comments, made me realized how good my parents were to me. I did terrible in school and failed college 😅😅😅 Worked out okay though. Got a good career and making enough to be classified upper middle class although, i wished I did better in school becaue that would have made life easier for me 😂😂

[@kapiatgatas]

Stop using WOK in your cooking for a change.

[@kevinchhuon7373]

Nothing needs to be changed. Other ethnic group need to follow asians traditions. Most of them are unsuccessful in life health wise, career wise, relationships ship wise etc. If it's not broke why fix it.

[@H3ll0-W0rld1]

It's a case of good times create weak people..That's why Asian Americans should never abandon traditional values such as hard work, education etc..

[@CliftonDon74]

I agree, spare the rod, spoil the child. I am all for encouraging individuality in my kids, but since they have never had a hand raised to them, it feels they don't need to listen, then I see them stumbling and falling in the common parts of life.

[@jasonfromguitarcenter]

@@H3ll0-W0rld1Then You’ll Have To Sacrifice Evolution & Stay Behind

[@H3ll0-W0rld1]

@@jasonfromguitarcenter Hard work and education(obtaining knowledge) is what built the United States and other technologically advanced economies to what they are today..What do you suggest people should do? I’m curious..

[@jasonfromguitarcenter]

@@H3ll0-W0rld1 Not Act Like Savages Like Back In Their Home Countries

[@captain0310]

There is no one-size-fits-all or template for what is the best parenting. However, your immigrant parents sacrificed everything to come to the U.S. for a reason. Compare yourself to the people from the old country and you will realize how fortunate you were raised in the U.S. Go look and touch your parents' hands. The strong and soft hands are now rough and all scarred so you don't go hungry and have a roof over your head. Sorry no sympathy from me for these traumatized cream puffs. In life, you are not going to get good cards all the time.

[@huojin01]

Fung bros are a bunch of betas and their guest is a definite beta male. 😂🤣😹 Aside from that the miao culture needs to disregard restricting marriage amongst those with the same surname especially when there's no family relationship.

[@huojin01]

I’m glad to hear this topic discussed. I’m of Hmong/Miaozu 苗族 ethnicity and one unwritten prohibition is forbidding the marriage between two people because of them having the same surname despite having no familial relationship. This custom needs to be repealed or be nonexistent. It’s pathetic you’re prohibited from marriage despite there’s no familial relationship. Aside from that, think the guest shouldn’t call it misogyny.