Romi's awakening PART ONE (Talking insomnia

[@thesleepcoachschool8192]

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[@romic5689]

Thanks for letting me share my story! It was an honour

[@kwesidarkwa5443]

Rami I need to get in touch with you to bring your thoughts to help others ....

[@romic5689]

@@kwesidarkwa5443 let me know how I can help

[@thesleepcoachschool8192]

It was super nice having you Romi, many thanks and look forward to connecting again 😊

[@zincerish]

​@@redstareditsthat's encouraging! What's the biggest change you made to recover?? I'm still going thru it after 5 months now :/

[@zincerish]

@@redstaredits yes I read the book but I'm still trying to find a solution by taking supplements or teas etc, I think that's my problem, did you take anything at all during your struggle that helped but you're no longer taking? Eventually I want to go back to taking nothing at all and sleep like a baby like before

[@InfiniteRen]

Hi Daniel and Romi! Long time subscriber here and lately I've been dealing with a lot of insomnia brought on by pregnancy and anxiety, and so I've found myself on your channel again and really appreciating these videos! But I have to say, this one in particular has helped me so much!! I was able to sleep normally last night for the first time in a long time after many nights of 3-4 hours of sleep, so I wanted to say thank you so much!!! Being able to relate to others and see people in the same struggle building up their sleep confidence is just what I need :)

[@shariwithey2704]

"I am not a human being" this is so relatable. I also felt like this. Great story!

[@thesleepcoachschool8192]

Thanks Shari for the support and for being in touch 🙂

[@sabzrina1611]

What a wonderful interview. Such a brilliant guest. His storytelling is amazing. Thanks

[@thesleepcoachschool8192]

I completely agree, and thanks so much for the kind support 🙏!

[@sharang747]

This guy looks super good for someone who doesn’t sleep super healthy good skin! Looks young! Welldone

[@ackphilchi6880]

Romi also mentions that when he had sleep anxiety he was going to the bathroom a lot. I read that it is common by product of sleep anxiety since your bladder has nerves and when your body is in hyperarousal then the nerves in your bladder are activated.

[@thesleepcoachschool8192]

Yes, I'd say not only sleep anxiety makes us pee frequently but any anxiety can do that. And normalizing helps so much!

[@eleanorrigby5759]

Thank you ❤

[@rosiemac2538]

Thanks for this interview Romi - I could resonate with so much you said !. I listened yesterday after an all nighter of insomnia the night before 😟. When you said you " hated yourself " after a sleepless night ,I'm in the same boat there - not a good thing to feel about one self .I think it stems from the perfectionist in us .I'm trying to change this mindset ( not easy ) Also magnesium glycine did the opposite for me too ,left me extremely restless . So much for the big reviews there ! Thanks again for this .Best Wishes . As Always Daniel, A Big Thank You to you for this lifeline of Hope☺

[@thesleepcoachschool8192]

You’re so so welcome Rosie, thanks for the support 🙏

[@JenS0513]

My battle started mid February & im still struggling , some nights are better then others but it’s still so hard for me to cope with . I’m getting about 5 hours but all broken . And when it’s not broken it’s about 4 hours straight 🙏 way better then before but it seems hard to break this cycle 😢 I fall asleep fine but I wake up so many times . Have you experienced this Romii?

[@julla1416]

Wow, this is great and helpful. I had/have similar experiences and feelings to Romi.

[@romic5689]

I hope you’re out of the thick and beat it?

[@julla1416]

@@romic5689 No, I am just starting the battle! And it's full of anxiety, fear. For 15 years I can't seem to get myself to go to sleep (I can't resist stayin up, being on the computer, watching TV, etc.). Also I have somiphobia (the fear of falling asleep which is different than insomnia) AND insomnia. But these videos help and I think one important takeaway is not to be afraid of being tired the next day, which I am. So the bumpy road for me has just begun. :0)

[@romic5689]

@@julla1416 wishing you a recovery sooner than later!! Best of luck

[@julla1416]

@@romic5689 Thank you Romi. Much appreciated. What's your podcast?

[@romic5689]

@@julla1416 ol’ Nerdy Bastards (Entertainment content) feel free to check it out lol thanks

[@SergioRussoPlus]

This was an incredible conversation thank you. I am binging quite a few of these videos and they are already a great help. Romi seems like a really great guy - I am pleased things have improved for him! I'm just getting into these videos and am on my own journey with insomnia. I have ordered the book Set it and Forget it and am wondering if it is still update to date with Daniels latest advice. I understand there has been a move away from strict cbti to something more relaxed. Once again, thank you for your videos and resources. If things don't improve I will invest in Bed Tyme as it looks like a fantastic resource.

[@thesleepcoachschool8192]

So glad you found it! And the channel itself, there’s so much here that I hope will really help. Thanks for getting the book and for the support!!

[@SergioRussoPlus]

I've subbed to Bed Tyme! Working with Coach Chris @@thesleepcoachschool8192

[@sharang747]

I must say taking vitamins at night like iodine or other had really messed up my sleep people should be eating properly also! If your diet is bad and you may have some bad habits it can also contribute. Trauma healing is also important I still suffer from an ex partner abuse cycle because we share a child. I manage to sleep the less I eat tablets and eat properly. Watching documentaries and comedies.

[@michellechang2538]

I totally can relate to Romi’s story, I was suffering the anxiety and insomnia for a year,i tried. Everything from sleep meds, melatonin, herbal teas, sleep teas, antihistamines, meditate, exercise,all kinds supplements and many more, nothing worked, it was living life in hell until I found the podcast from Daniel and Martin Reed and that was the game changers for me ....I now able to sleep like normal human being. Just wanted to thank Daniel for continuing post the interview with countless successful stories that save my life ! I’m so thankful for everything you do to help people with insomnia !

[@michellechang2538]

I did CBT-I therapy for 8 weeks then none stop to listen and watch Martin Reed and Daniel’s podcast interviews, it really helped me improve my insomnia completely, I’m now off everything just pure sleep, although I average sleep for 5-6 hours a day still much better than before (1-3 hours with pills) it will continue to improve, overall I felt great and full hope !

[@michellechang2538]

Have not concluded the reason for insomnia, still doing various things to figure out the cause of my anxiety, but I’m glad that I can sleep now, that’s huge change for my life an improve the symptoms of anxiety ! I’m grateful & happy !

[@michellechang2538]

@@teresahoang6593 i strongly recommend you to connect with Daniel or Martin Reed to do the CBT-I therapy session, it really helps, it helped me so much, I’m now free of any drugs or related supplements, hope one day you will figure out a way to help your sleep.

[@thesleepcoachschool8192]

So so wonderful to read these lines Michelle 😊! So glad you found us and thanks so much for sharing these words of encouragement and hope and inspiration 🙏

[@michellechang2538]

I sincerely grateful for you Daniel and all of CBT-I coaches, you all have changed lots people around the globe with insomnia & anxiety. Your sincerely & truly wanted to help people and you care about people’s concerns shows in your heart ❤️ and we all can feel it in our hearts 🥰 ! God bless !

[@poojachhatwani]

An amazing episode indeed! I have a question Daniel. I am going to start with my first ever job in few days. This has been my dream job and everything but overthinking about this and moving out of home to a different city makes me more anxious and obviously difficult to sleep at night. 2 weeks back I was in a position that I was sleeping well at nights as well as taking naps in noon time idk how I entered into that mindset but all natural. But now last 2 weeks it has been back and forth and I as well as my parents are so worried that will I be able to manage my work with this. I know so many here do. I just want to go ahead with my life decisions without reconsidering them because of something like this which I know is created in my head.

[@christinab2703]

Hi Pooja, best of luck with your new dream job and congratulations! I am in a similar position, I haven't worked in 11 months due to my husbands job moving us and now since my insomnia journey began a few months ago I worry about starting a new job. I feel like Daniel will say it's important to do the things we are fearful of to prove that we can still do them despite sleep anxiety, atleast thats what I imagine him saying lol.

[@poojachhatwani]

@@christinab2703 Hi, thankyou and congratulations to you too🩷 I think yes we need to take this leap of faith for our career and also to get over this sleep anxiety for good and forever. But I am still fearful it's difficult to explain in words but deep down I know I am.

[@thesleepcoachschool8192]

Hi Pooja and Christina, I’d say first Pooja that it can help so much to see that two weeks ago, sleep happened thanks to lack of effort. This way we don’t think “I did something then, but now it doesn’t work.” Secondly, anyone about to start a dream job can sleep less! And yes, I wouldn’t maybe use the word important, because what we want has no requirements and the gentle path is so nice. But it can definitely help to do things we have been scared of… even if it feels scary we see there’s no real danger, and we can do amazing work even on little sleep.

[@poojachhatwani]

@@thesleepcoachschool8192 Thanks for you words and motivation Daniel. I am having a real hard time deciding my course of action but I think I should take this leap of faith and go ahead with this job and environment change and everything and maybe it turns out to be even better for me.

[@thesleepcoachschool8192]

If you do that’s brave and this helps! If you don’t, then you can see that it was an act of kindness, which helps much 🙂

[@leanneweston]

thank you for sharing you're story Romi, i'm currently still in the struggle, every night 0 mins or 1/2 hours. you talked about bedtime anxiety...i have been saying i beleive this is what i have also. also the part about 'i'm not a human being' i felt that so much. i'm half the person i used to be bubbly happy fun adventureous etc... my question is yes we can accept nights of no sleep etc and try let it not ruin our day ahead etc...but how did u cope with the physical symptoms of insomnia. most days im feeling like 'im dying' slowly diteriating headaches/blured vision/ attacks... so its really hard to get up and go when your'e feeling so poorly from lack of sleep? thank you.

[@thesleepcoachschool8192]

Hey there! Your struggles are valid and you're not alone in this journey. Your comment means a lot to us, and we're here to support you. Keep moving forward.

[@irishinaanuran739]

I hope i can buy your book too. I just dont know how😢

[@thesleepcoachschool8192]

Thanks so much for the interest, they’re on Amazon, and if you live in a country where there’s no Amazon, you can often find sites that help you navigate… rooting for you

[@AyeshaKhan-q9s]

Hello coach, How can I deal with intrusive thoughts and hopelessness? How do I channel my thoughts?

[@thesleepcoachschool8192]

Hi there, I think when we call a thought intrusive, we are a) discovering that we think of some thoughts as wanted and others as unwelcome which leads to b) attempting to manage/channel/control thoughts. And the more we try to control things that get more intense the more we try to control them, the more we feel a loss of control. On the other hand when we no longer label thoughts or judge them as unwanted, then we no longer try to channel them, we just let them be. Then our sense of absence of control fades away as we no longer attempt to control that which cannot be controlled.

[@gabriellaacheampong3687]

I would love to be a guest!

[@thesleepcoachschool8192]

Amazing! Let’s set it up 👍 send an email to [e-mail] and she’ll forward to me!

[@Bratznasam]

I have a question, if my insomnia is caused by sleep anxiety, similarly to romi. Then shouldnt anti anxiety meds be able to help?

[@TheGuym619]

It definitely could help. Understanding the anxiety and resolving on your own is obviously preferred, but some people need meds as a starter

[@allycat6141]

Thank you for sharing Romi’s story IN PROGRESS! This is so helpful to someone like me who is still very much in the journey and in a deep speed bump. His comments about the earworms keeping him awake are SO relatable. Do you have an episode specifically about this and what to do? Ignoring it isn’t working (day 4 of the same song in my head only at night), listening to the end of the song like experts suggest isn’t helping. If anything, it seems to be reinforcing it. I’ve tried visualizing it as a cloud moving away from me, putting the song on a train headed south, and evening forcefully singing along with it in my head hoping that my brain just gets sick of it. Do you have any videos or suggestions on this? Thank you!

[@thesleepcoachschool8192]

Hi AC, We don’t, but now it’s on my list! Kristen talks about this in her story as well. Oh and Romi, he said just after we stopped recording that one day he felt like “why am I scared of this song”, the ear worm song, and he played it in his car. Then it stopped! It’s always the same answer, when we try to make something go away, by imagining it as a cloud or some other way, it stays. When we welcome, things bother us less and less

[@allycat6141]

@@thesleepcoachschool8192 thank you! That’s a great suggestion. I just found the song that’s been bothering me and listened to it. I do hope it helps my brain let it go! I look forward to seeing the episode on earworms in the future. Thank you again!

[@Megatron986100]

Hello Daniel. Acceptance is something I don’t fully understand. How do you let go and accept this is happening (which then in turn leads to not controlling)? Very hard to understand this concept. I’m seeing this is the key.

[@shariwithey2704]

Hi 👋 I also really struggled with acceptance. I remember thinking how can I accept something that is so completely awful? How can I not care? I felt as if it were impossible. But the truth is, it is happening, whether we like it or not. All we can do is try to make the process easier little by little. Sometimes I found it easier to just be truthful and just accepted that in this particular moment that I don't accept it. I would then move on and find small ways that I could accept each moment/night. No one would be able to accept having insomnia forever. But can you accept that this is temporary and all the small behaviour changes you can make will add up to you being free from insomnia? Hope this helps a bit 🙏

[@Megatron986100]

Do you have to wait for your emotions to switch to accepting it to accept it?? It’s not something that can be forced correct?

[@shariwithey2704]

@Megatron986100 Your right. You definitely can't force yourself to accept feelings, emotions or wakefulness. Those things can never be controlled. But you can do things to teach the brain that wakefulness is not scary. It really takes time. But if you can show yourself that you can still do things after a bad night, or that being awake at 3am is allowed, then things start getting easier bit by bit.

[@thesleepcoachschool8192]

Shari said it so well, nothing to add 🙂

[@Megatron986100]

@@shariwithey2704 if you are practicing acceptance of your reality, how do you let go of your underlying motive. For instance, practicing acceptance so you will sleep or practicing acceptance so you can get rid of anxiety. This part is tough to wrap my head around.