They hate that you go to work, do your job, then go home

[@KadysNewLife]

Just noticed the appreciation video didn't pull in ALL of the people I wanted to say thanks to. So I wanted to make this pinned comment to say thank you so much to Paul McGuinness who became my 1st ever member of the channel. Thanks PAUL 🙏💜

[@spudman869]

When the boss used to come to me and say' You are not a team player' I just used to say "If I wanted to be a team player I'd have been a football" I always remember my dad giving me some advice before he died and that was ' You work to live, not live to work'

[@KadysOtherLife]

😆 what a great response! W Dad

[@oldbloke204]

Yep but then you also have to be able to support yourself in life and provide for the time when you can no longer work imo. Being old and broke or living hand to mouth really doesn't have a very good ending for most people I have found.

[@kimstockwell721]

Wise man your Dad.

[@MarkRogers-km3kd]

👍

[@suad01]

The team player line is just a form of coercion. There's no principle behind it other than coercion

[@alexmac337]

Always kept myself to myself at work and because of this I always end up finding myself at the centre of some trouble or gossip. Work is no different to being at school. And whilst most employers denounce bullying in the workplace, fact is most are happy to encourage it as a bit of workplace drama gets them through their day.

[@DJ-Daz]

Even if you do all that, working through lunch, work overtime, actively participate, they don't appreciate it. You can't win. What HR wants is a shiny social pebble.

[@Londonfogey]

Yes, you basically have to 'hold the correct opinions for the time of year' as the poem puts it. If you don't bend with the wind of trend and office politics, but stand firm, they hate you for it.

[@raymondbenadictine]

Human resources tell you exactly what you are. Nothing but a resource for the company to use as they see fit.

[@Boilingfrogg]

They hated the fact that i didn't do any overtime. I was 18 single living at my parents. Had enough money, why work extra for a few quid?

[@turbotheamericanstaffy]

Maybe more people would be willing to put in extra if overtime wasn't taxed. Maybe organisations wouldn't need workers to do overtime if they hired enough staff.

[@oldbloke204]

Main reason is to build wealth over time and if you don't like working when you're younger I can guarantee you won't like it any more when you get older. I didn't want to work until I was broken so going hard early and then taking it easier when I was older worked out very well.

[@garyhost1830]

Have you become independently successful? Would you say your further ahead or behind where other people of your age are doing ? Was it a future predictor of your outcome in life ?

[@Boilingfrogg]

@garyhost1830 I've been on the sick since 1994

[@garyhost1830]

@@Boilingfrogg on the sick ? Is that like social security or the dole Or welfare ? Sorry I don't fully understand

[@RaVeR076]

Yes most people "suck" their way to the top. Seen it myself

[@RB-jq6gh]

Being called a misfit was a compliment to me.

[@leonhantz6383]

Worked for several large companies, you have to play the game, does not matter how good or bad you are at the job. If you are seen as an 'outsider' by management types, you are never allowed in, and if they want rid, they will throw you under the bus at every chance (pretty much what you said!)

[@tazpot]

Yeah can totally resonate with you on this, I hate gossip and small talk. Like you have had a number of jobs and i never fitted in because I don’t follow the sheep. I find it has got much worse in today’s work places and I can’t do the crap anymore. It’s like a playground full of 5 year olds.

[@KadysOtherLife]

I know right... I can't stand people on the best of days let alone having to try and Go back to school times. This is another reason why I never lasted.

[@frauditorshavenofriends]

@@KadysOtherLife So should you not get a job where you do not have to interact with people? If you can't stand people why do you put yourself in this situation - they probably dislike it as well.

[@DeaconessPemberton24]

Im in my 50's now and wont tolerate bs.I had a boss who would call/txt me over the weekend telling me what i did/didnt do right during the course of the week and then proceeded to send me countless txts of quotes etc .I promptly told her to leave me the eff alone and that she neded to get a life and left !!

[@vanessabowness2657]

Well done, bloody cheek😡

[@rickystephenson518]

I’m in the building trade.similar age my gaffa knows not to call my phone after 4pm or bother on a weekend.

[@garrymathers2569]

13 BENEFITS OF KEEPING YOUR LIFE PRIVATE 1.People don't get to see your plans, they only see results and this constantly keeps them guessing. 2. More respect. Over-familiarity with the public attracts disrespect. 3. Less hate, drama and toxicity from the public. 4. It helps you gain inner-peace and genuine happiness without seeking for validation 5. When you're private, people don't know how and when to attack you. So, you keep haters confused. 6. Other people can trust you more especially with their personal lives. 7. You don't have to depend on others to be happy. 8. It saves you from mental health problems 9. You prioritize your happiness and self-growth more which makes life more beautiful. 10. People can not use your weaknesses against you 11. You focus on your purpose, passion, good relationships and other things that matter most in life without constant distraction. 12. Your self-confidence increases. 13. You become a role model to others.

[@call_in_sick]

❤

[@OnlyOneName]

Doesn't work for women. You get ostracised and smeared if you act this way.

[@lenshand]

A lot of people that do extra work, an hour here, work through lunch, then an hour or two at the end of the day, and then some on a Sunday do not realise that it does NOT get appreciated by their managers. The ONLY thing they are doing is devaluing their salary. And yes, for the teachers out there, I am talking to you too.

[@drecklydave9594]

I was a very good teacher, and I worked for the kids, not the LA! Didn't give a $h1t about them.

[@Londonfogey]

I once knew a woman who worked for a city bank and she was always working late, weekends etc and constantly stressed out. She claimed everyone worked like that and it was the only way to 'get on.' Eventually I met someone from the same bank who laughed and said it's not like that and she was just doing it because she thought it would be appreciated, which it wasn't.

[@OutlawDressmaker]

I absoultely HATE the 1 hour lunch. If I have my way, I just take 30 minutes for lunch, then f off home 30 minutes earlier. After 30 minutes I just start getting INCREDIBLY bored..and NOTHING GOOD can come out of me getting bored!

[@KadysOtherLife]

🤣 I never thought of it that way but I totally could go without getting lunch and be sent home an hour earlier!! Why don't we do this ???!!!

[@OutlawDressmaker]

@@KadysOtherLife I have done that before. There is one problem with that...a legal requirement to take a 30 minute lunch. But, I am ok with that. After sitting in front of a computer staring at a screen for 4 hours, it really IS kind of nice to get a break, get out of my work area and just rest a bit and eat. Since I have my own business, I can take lunch when I want and as long as I feel like. I still take the regular 30 minutes, unless I have to run into town for something, then I kind of have to take longer.

[@frauditorshavenofriends]

@@KadysOtherLife Because often the smooth working of a department relies on on all positions being available at the same time - once you start letting people dictate their own hours tasks will fail. 'Hello receptionist, can I speak to my solicitor?' - 'No - sorry - he decided to leave early today'.

[@SilverhairedWisdom]

I agree ❤

[@michaelodonnell3059]

your one of the lucky one,s most employers don,t give one hour lunch any more!!😮 but I agree with you I would rather have half hour for lunch and AWAY half hour early forever..

[@VirtualHumanBeing]

My last line manager came to me and said: “It has been said you are aloof.” I never engaged in gossip, but he clearly did. Narcissists love to climb the ladder and they set the toxic trend. They are the ones sciving off whilst pointing the blame at those who don’t play the game. Too many demons out there and you don’t get paid enough to navigate it.

[@AlanBragg-bn7wx]

Haha I have never wanted to progress either! I never forgot the radiohead lyric "Ambition makes you look pretty ugly". I just want to work, get my pay and fuck off home too 😁😁😂

[@vanessabowness2657]

Yep me too

[@jammyjay917]

Great video...i can so relate... once we say yes to do extra shifts, they will always ask you...

[@turbotheamericanstaffy]

You'll find that many of these gossip mongers are lonely or they are stuck in unfulfilled relationships with kids they regret having so their only outlet and entertainment is their employment. Its like a soap opera except they are messing with other people's lives for real. Misery loves company and they'll do just about anything to bring co workers down to their level.

[@pkc3168]

So true my boss is the only one in the office every single day whereas the other managers aren't. I already know he has a turbulent marriage ( caused by his arrogant impatient personality no doubt), he earns way more than me and gets an expensive company car but I see him as sorry and pathetic these days and honestly don't envy him. My family is my best investment.

[@melissapereira9879]

100th like 100% agree with this. Can't stand fake corporate workers. 🐍 Do my job, go home, rinse repeat. They have brainwashed us in the system. Nursery was 1st day of it all.

[@KadysOtherLife]

Snakesssss in the fields indeed

[@melissapereira9879]

Snakes 🐍 and ladders. 🪜 Snakes are wolves in sheep clothing, just to suck up and move up the ladder in the corporate world. If they were good workers they wouldn't have to play dirty like that. 😊

[@darrenjackson2965]

I've never been one of those workers.... Overtime.... Bollocks to that, i struggle to do the standard hours... 😂... Great video 😊

[@ellaphillips1865]

Bunch of looses. Not right thing to do. Find YOUR PEOPLE TO WORK WITH. You just didn't like the Community you work with.

[@RolandoRatas]

Some bosses and colleagues treat the putting down of staff in the office as a kind of sport, I've noticed.

[@KadysOtherLife]

Probably running bets

[@THIS-IS-BRITAIN]

I prefer working for myself. I'm now an ebay reseller, dealing in antiques and also rare comics, toys and trading cards. Its better than going to a factory everyday. I use to have my own shop too, selling books, music, spiritual and pagan items, etc. But the council shut it down for no reason. I think they just didn't like me providing knowledge for free thinkers!!

[@yesihsaid]

I don't think so, I'm sure

[@KadysOtherLife]

That's so cool thank you for your comment! Question though are you worried about the new eBay thing coming up?

[@alecdurbaville6355]

No, they just didn’t like you selling bongs for druggies and not paying the rent.

[@prochoicenotantivax119]

They don't want you pushing satanic stuff in a christian country

[@THIS-IS-BRITAIN]

@@alecdurbaville6355 I never sold bongs! I sold books, etc! And i did pay the rent.

[@ASaltyGurl]

Kady, I wish I could have tea with you and tell you all the sh*t that I have been through in my working life. I'm 66, and started working at 12 in a beauty shop as a comb/brush girl, aka maid. I was so young and very ignorant of the ways of the world. The word for all this is called "narcissism" in all of its forms. I've had pretty much everything pulled on me, as I didn't play in the kiddie pool of gossip and deception. Today, the more you work for someone, the more they want. I don't have a lot of money, but I work for myself and get by. I'm retired but I manage. Btw I'm in the US, and this narcissistic behavior is a mental illness and is rampant here. I absolutely adore you and your no prisoner attitude❤

[@KadysOtherLife]

@@ASaltyGurl thank you Saltygirl! Sounds like you've been through a lot. But I can already tell you're an exceptional soul for doing so. ✌️💜

[@deborahbutcher624]

So true! this is so refreshing to find someone who's had the same experience! This is why I love working alone, I always knew I'd never fit in with all the bs

[@EgoChip]

This video rings very true. Just do what you are paid to do and no more. You don't benefit from going above and beyond. If you have free time, use it for yourself. Don't give it to corporations who will not appreciate it or reward it, yet they will profit from it. Also, keep to yourself as much as you can. There will be a lot of sycophants and backstabbers who you absolutely can't give any ammunition to.

[@simonensor9151]

Thanks

[@KadysOtherLife]

SIMON! thank you so much 😊 very kind of you.

[@ItsMe-co4bj]

I fuckin love u ! U talk so much sense Kady and are so funny the way you get your point across, u have me in stitches seriously ! Keep going this channel is going places.

[@KadysOtherLife]

😂 This made me smile Thank you so much!! 🙏💜

[@bobjames6622]

Definition of a co-worker; somebody who, purely by coincidence, just happens to work at the same place that you work in, and at the same time period. Beyond that, I have learnt, you have NOTHING in common.

[@Ngamer834]

I learned through experience the hard way these golden rules Coworkers are NOT your friends Don't be that YES person to management you will be taken advantage of regularly You are just a NUMBER to them they have no loyalty to you Leave when it is your time That's not to say I go into work to be lazy because I prefer to be competent at my Job. I just prefer to keep my head down and do what I need to do until finish time without the workplace politics I simply don't care.

[@ASBO_LUTELY]

I defo fell into the trap of doing everything as a delivery driver, when your job title is delivery driver and I was getting change for the till, fetching printer ink from the supermarket, staying until the end of the day to clean the store, eventually you burn out and quit.

[@MarkB-33]

Getting near retirement age and luckily i have been able to get off the rat race treadmill. Work is a necesary evil for most of us. I always viewed our system as a slave one. Like Prince once said, we are all workers on the plantation. I think he was correct. I had a lot of jobs and the last one i had was a dream job doing something i really enjoyed but i saw how the workplace changed in my 15 years with the company. I was paid well and i enjoyed what i did and i was still happy to quit. I have gone off track slightly as what i wanted to point out is how the work place has changed for the worst since i left school in the early 80's. Back then i used to look forward to going in as i made friends and the work was done but you could have a joke and chat. I watched this slowly erode as i changed jobs and time moved on. Work now is in such a toxic environment where nobody can seemingly be happy. Good riddence to it. Work sucks. And i say that having left my dream job. Think about that.

[@Monicaaa13]

I always get bullied by an older woman at every job. They hate when you don’t gossip with them or if you try to outshine them

[@magdalenelawson]

Absolutely, especially if they have been in the company forever.

[@sotepniques]

sorry you had to deal with this, people can be cruel at times

[@KadysOtherLife]

They're probably jealous that you're gorgeous.

[@TheOver50Meanders]

Great video! really enjoyed listening to you! I'm so glad im at the end of my working life crap! Like you I have never been interested in working for someone else! i do what I have to do and that's it! If I want to go the extra mile i do this with something I enjoy!

[@KadysOtherLife]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@thedarrenzone1963]

Spot on. I learned the hard way once that even if you do put in the extra effort and "go the extra mile", as they say, that won't stop you being first out of the door when they want to make changes or your face stops fitting.

[@OctoberCountry-u4m]

Same! I don't give a damn about who's doing what at work, who's doing who at work, your problems, you're crappy ex, any of it. I don't want to make small talk. Im not here to make friends. People absolutely ostracize you, talk about you, and sabotage you for being this way. I never cared. I've always had a hard time keeping a job also because it's only a means to an end - paying bills and surviving - nothing more.

[@call_in_sick]

This is why I retrained. I mean I did the uni thing twenty years ago. Moved from the north to London and did a MA at a good university (royal academy) London destroyed me to some degree!! 😂 Years later I retrained as a hairstylist and now work for myself. I will never work for someone else ever again. I’m glad I did uni and all that but it never lead me into a great career. And the 9-5 never worked for me. As daunting as running your own business can be it’s the only way to have some control over your life and actually make some money!

[@dm95422]

Love your hair. Great post ! ❤❤❤❤

[@dansmith263]

I love being unemployed no drama No politics, no bureaucracy. Well, you have to do all the job centre bs

[@frauditorshavenofriends]

Well don't do the job centre bs. Why should you be funded if you consider society thus? I suppose you think you DESERVE social tho' - ever the victim?

[@obstantiadiscindo]

We'd all like to avoid the bureaucracy of work. Alas, we all have to work to eat. Life isn't a free lunch.

[@111dddcca]

If you get a job you'll be taxed (same as a fine) so I don't blame you for being a benefits claimant. You wouldn't park somewhere where you'd get a fine, so why work when you get "taxed"

[@obstantiadiscindo]

@@111dddcca Well, seemingly so our fines can pay OP - or yourself - not to go to work but still eat.

[@steve00alt70]

Even in Retail iv lots of experience in it over the years and each employer was probably eondering why iv been at the same basic low position in every new company and why I dont hold jobs down. Getting promoted just means more stress with very little pay.

[@CameliaCraftsDesigns]

Glad you popped up. No idea yet what your channel is about, but I'll be watching😊

[@MargaretJones-y7w]

Hi Kady, Your video resonates on so many levels. Lots of love❤❤❤ PS I do remember gossipers😮 I definitely won't elaborate 😮

[@KadysOtherLife]

hey Margaret! thank you x

[@hvitserk-x6g]

You're my favourite youtuber! You speak more sense than all in parliament. You speak my mind and I absolutely appreciate you for that, your fcking awesome 🤝🔮🌌🍀

[@KadysOtherLife]

Thank you hvit!

[@hvitserk-x6g]

@KadysOtherLife you're welcome

[@cheds1]

Not just co workers - your so called friends will do the same.

[@KadysOtherLife]

That's why I have a very small circle of friends

[@alisonmacpherson8133]

👍💯

[@lislelisle5453]

Yeeeeeaaarrrss ago i had a person not let me go on my lunch, so one day i just took it, she came running out to me and folded her arms and said i never said you can go on ur break, sooo i looked at her and told her to shhhhhhoooeeee lol She flipped i then reminded her of the law, and then ignored her she acted so immature i was so confused, now i know a little more the woman was clearly unstable. Because those behaviours are not normal.

[@johnnyramblefinely2430]

Theres another type. The ones who will never ever get anywhere for whatever reason and they are the ones who make it their business to make sure you don't either. Similar to what you describe but doing it just out of spite rather than ambition. I've been at companies and doing well, actually enjoying it and thinking of moving up and one day I've come back from lunch to a sea of blank faces and a realisation that from that point on its over. The idea that gossip is harmless integration is one of the worst lies.

[@CraigSmith-ui2xx]

I worked my arse off till 50, doing jobs i hated but paid well, got the mortgage paid off, then set up a small business to pay the bills. These are by far the best years of my life and I recommend everyone to become self employed if they're able. Working for someone else is a miserable existence that's 100% tilted in the employers favour, not yours.

[@Jean-MarcBordeaux]

i am like you just went to work and worried about getting my annual leave granted and saving up for a good holiday . Even in France we have the snitchers that like to wonder into the office of the boss to snitch, in France my working times today are, Start at 7-45am but have a coffee and chat then start real work at 8-30am Then lunch time 12 Miday until 13-30 so I and half hours lunch break, Then finish at 4 pm, and its a 12 Miday finish on Fridays, But in France we have protected workers rights with regards to annual leave etc, I love your concept and thinking on the situation. With regards to being invited to Christmas Party and Birthdays in the office forget it,

[@Sauceman-rj9ej]

as a 54 yr old,I've had this crap so much, my last straw was working in a secondary school,( i was a single father of 3 ,so it was the best thing at the time )i lasted 5 1/2 yrs ,then went back to being a self employed gardener. I now get thankyou's coming out my bum😅 ,everyone is so appreciative of what i do ,and basically I'm left to my own devices, and i get Christmas presents from most of my customers ,and have lovey conversations over coffee, with many interesting people.I actually bloody love my job ,even if the weather is so bad as it is now ..I'll never work for a company ever again. ❤

[@LeePerkins317]

Completely agree! I used to be in the army! My boss would be phoning me up at 11pm to task me for something the next morning! Meaning I’d have to plan and prepare all night snd deliver in the morning as requested! It used to enrage me with anger!

[@XPLOSIVization]

Being the quiet kid at school and then at work, ive lost count how many enemies i made for not choosing a side and just staying silent, Even had some old A hole at my last job decide because i was not like all the other working droids, i should be picked on for the rest of my working days at that job, I bloody hated it and him and his little "work gang", The people at the top were no good either because as soon as i said i had a problem they told me to stop complaining and that they didn't care, So i guess not choosing sides was the right thing because both sides were scumbags, i left after a month

[@cheechU38K]

Right on! You’re either a spitter or swallower 😜 job culture is like school with cliques, bullies and the like 🫠

[@AlanBragg-bn7wx]

Hehe if we are using that analogy I guess I'm a swallower 🤣🤣

[@Resistcontrol-u2g]

That's how i used to be, I didn't fit in, that's why i was a self employed window cleaner for 22 years

[@trevorvincent9140]

Yes I agree ....some people start work early..don't take the break when it is available..so work at least an hour a day for FREE...say 6 to 10 hours a week for FREE...over a year or their career how much time do they do for FREE!!

[@steamhammer2k]

I was doing more than i should at work, gained nothing so when i changed jobs i started a clean sheet and stuck to my job and hours (work to rule) I seemed to get respect for holding my ground others never bothered asking me to go beyond my JD. I just walked out when i stopped getting paid. It helps when your boss thinks you are not desperate for money so they cannot hold a gun to your head.

[@crystala98]

Hi Kady, glad to have come across your channel, been loving your videos. Completely agree with your views on the corporate world, you definitely have to "fake it till you make it" to get ahead in some way, shape or form. I have always liked the idea of working for myself and working at my own pace, without the added pressure of someone else's expectations or having to conform to certain ways of doing things. However, I consider myself as an "introvert" so have been contemplating if entrepreneurship or being my own boss would be something I would thrive in. Alongside this, I also have autism and ADHD.

[@KadysOtherLife]

I'm sure there are many things that will get in your way with your conditions, however having said that I strongly recommend that you just give it a go because what is there to lose? You might find out that actually you find yourself really involved and really enjoying it and therefore brings you out of your introvert self. On the other side of fair is success

[@mydanshi9683]

They call just doing your work and going home on time ‘Quiet quitting’ 😂 I did that for 40 years. I worked to live not lived to work.

[@OutlawDressmaker]

Company: we are just one big happy family here. Me: ::knocks the chair down while running away screaming::

[@garnhamr]

That's very well described and i've definately experienced that and been gotten rid of/lost jobs because of that. People are so two faced and back stabby in britain. It's full on hunger games. I've seen a job advert recently, saying that overtime (unpaid) is expected when necessary. I wonder why... Also it kinda feels like divide and conquer is working a treat. People sell their soul and betray their own feelings for the sake of the money, friends not just because they get on with someone but because it makes sense financially. And they're everywhere, low paid jobs, high paid jobs, no difference. Like this mug i see at the amazon warehouse when i pick up my flex block. A proper npc, jobsworth for his almost minimum wage job. But i guess eventually he'll get a promotion, woopee do. I worked for glasswells in bury st. edmunds as a self employed floor layer for a little while and that was a toxic back stab fest. I didn't last long.

[@QoraxAudio]

Yep, cheapskating employers always want to squeeze employees as much as possible. It's just an alternative to underpaying. They either pay like crap or make you do much more than you've signed up for.

[@CT-pv9gu]

I get this all the time. Whenever I get in the bosses office I literally don’t know what to talk about. The work is done, what more do they want? Nothing is personal at work, but they seem to think we’re all friends. We work for money, that’s literally it.

[@Pinkbubble702]

God, you absolutely sound like me. I've never fitted into the whole work/office bs. Used to see the bitching going on behind all the women's back and I'd just stay well out of it. I've been happiest in male dominated environments like the funeral sector & construction 🚧. Prefer the banter, etc. Now I'm just a loner, but hey, better than being bullied, which I always was.

[@patrickbonney8082]

To conform or not to conform,this is the question.....

[@mattw9764]

Yeahnah. They definitely hate workers who don't align with their idea of a good worker. It's just not directed at any particular type of non-compliant worker. It's possible to really care about the work you do, do it well but not align with management or coworker expectations in all kinds of ways that put you in the bad category.

[@dottieland7061]

I live in Japan and they expect you to do overtime in the corporate world. My husband was part of that world working for a major car manufacturer. You have one based in your country. It got so bad that he would drive to a rest stop sit in his car and ring in sick on his way. He was that sick of the bitchiness and the drug taking and you were supposed to do overtime. He refused. COVID came he saw the light and left. He now works for an agency when he wants to work. The agency love him I have worked in vintage fashion for 20 years for the same boss and he is awesome he used to work corporate and he is anti corporate. He lets me bring the kids and the dog to work and I can work what i want. He even paid for my move to Osaka. As I assist the Osaka store now. I treat them as children my children I am not interested in tattle tales . I open the store and check the online orders and speak to the boss. I care about my team.

[@kimstockwell721]

Really enjoyable listen Kady and so so true.

[@louiseroe778]

Absolutely 💯 agree

[@NonaMaryGrace1952]

Hello Kady, this was an honest video. Thank you. 💕NonnaGrace 🐓

[@KadysOtherLife]

You are so welcome Nona💜

[@matthewfike4491]

One of my favorite things to say at work is: “I’m not asking for time off, I’m letting you know when I won’t be here.” Thanks for your content.

[@KadysOtherLife]

Love that! 😂

[@CT-pv9gu]

And I’ve noticed that all the social shit at work is a big clever game to keep us constantly distracted from what’s really going on behind the scenes. You might be on the redundancy list, but you’ll be so distracted with the social shit that you won’t know your on that list til that day comes. Work in general is a big clever mind game.

[@Gearhart_Music]

In the U.S. (depending on the state) there are laws in place requiring you to take your lunch and employers can be fined for not allowing employees to take lunches. Some companies may still pull shaming or gaslighting tactics on you to try to go "above and beyond", but they can't explicitly tell you without risking litigation.

[@14Daystopay]

Some people work for the job Some work just for the money. It amazes me how hard it is to get a interview for a job but there are so many useless crap workers you encounter every day.

[@kimstockwell721]

True.

[@ButternoteBackingTracks]

Topic as old as the hills. If you take on a job, assess what you're getting yourself into and decide if it's really for you. That might mean working long hours, megalomaniac bosses, unreasonable workload, crappy work environment, etc. It's up to you to determine this at an interview. Do plenty of research on the company and trust your instincts. If something feels off right at the start, walk away. Be realistic in your expectations, though. Companies will expect you to conform to their culture and values, not the other way around.

[@jasonbrown9327]

If your "boss" asks you to do overtime don't directly say "no" unless you have a nice boss, leave them hanging with something along the lines of "I'll have to check my diary" or "Iet me think about it", or "I am trying to see if I can make it work for you" don't just say these things look as thoughful as you possibly can when you say it - eventually they will give up and find someone else to do it lol.

[@alanmacmillan6957]

postscript: after 30 years of busting a gut. I don't believe in the 'system' or 'establishment' any more. my daughter came out with 14 GCSE's - had the 'world at her feet' etc. but instead runs a lash tech business now and doing well. she wouldn't give up the self determination and work-life balance for working in a conventional office ever!

[@KadysOtherLife]

Good for your daughter Alan! She sounds like a really bright young lady

[@PilgrimProgressing-bv6ih]

@@KadysOtherLife thanks. you're sharp as a whip too! go get em!!

[@call_in_sick]

Similar situation to me. BA and MA - now doing hair and wish I’d retrained years before I did! We all get where we’re going in our own time.

[@alanmacmillan6957]

I stuck in at school and did get an education; it turned into a career and it worked for me but...... I know one girl in class was ultra badly behaved. she kicked off all the time..... about 10 years later saw her on the bus, she became self employed and had her own interior design business and doing well. the problem with school is it's an institution. they only have one roadmap - GCSE, A levels, Uni. nothing else is viable to them. but there's college, other vocational courses and other employers that provide training, as well as the creative and self employed route. you have a smart head on your shoulders Kady - a real thinker. you just have a different roadmap and destiny!

[@EgoChip]

It's sad isn't it? I know people who didn't bother with school and are now successful with their own businesses. People who stuck with it and went to uni working a dead end 9-5 for a faceless corporation. School is nothing more than preparing people for the corporate world we live in. It's not education, it's indoctrination. We are creative beings. We shouldn't be wasting our lives away so the 1% can get even more obscenely rich.

[@KadysOtherLife]

Well said to both of you 🖤

[@kimstockwell721]

This is so true.

[@PilgrimProgressing-bv6ih]

@@EgoChip 100% i'm 50 now and i've spent over 30 years working. I had the funds to do the stuff i wanted - but not the time. now i'm all busted up with a bad back i can't do those things - so opportunity totally lost - so what was the point. you can learn a hell of a lot of what you need online now, i think education is changing and the system needs to evolve.

[@frauditorshavenofriends]

@@EgoChip How is it indoctrination? Myself and many of my peers had a fine time at school and have succeeded in life. What is the alternative? How would YOU prepare youngsters for the way ahead - serious - what would you propose?

[@ellaphillips1865]

Work is a Community. Nobody needs your expertise. The work community would train someone they like.

[@cjh0751]

Love you darling, speaks the truth.

[@frauditorshavenofriends]

Never had a problem. Worked hard, got on with everyone, was pleasant and respectful - and received same.

[@James-r7j4n]

Lucky you

[@HajzlHajzl]

Absolutely correct.

[@RickyWiild]

37 here. This is real talk. These cultures and how they operate are complete toxic.

[@cynthiawilliams1948]

When my boss use to say that I wasn't a team player, I just ignored her and went back to work. I don't come to work to join a team, a sorority club or a gang.....I come to make money so I can live. It is so tacky and ignorant to work for people who just want to talk about each other everyday and stab people in the back.

[@Allbanian]

Imagine what it’s like in a hospital as a nurse on night shift for 12 hours a day. Those big heads will crush anyone into the ground your whole mind will change like a robot. Realise move quick and don’t look back even if you have to change carriers or jobs it’s not good for the health trust me. It’s them people that cause that environment within that place where people work that’s dull and nasty. Don’t worry they are new places even if it takes to leave to a new place.

[@craiggilchrist4223]

I am 50 this year and when I started work after 2 years at college a guy coming up to retirement told me remember Craig you work to live not live to work and also they said the more you do for a company the more they expect you to do. It stuck with me. I can sniff out the Boss' narks a mile away in a company. Jedi mind tricks don't work on me I'm afraid.

[@LeeBurrows-w3u]

I think they don't want it going back to how it used to be , when I first started work , many places were unions and the old school attitude was still strong , many workers weren't backstabbers and the boss never knew anything, out of a site full of 50 men , you may have to watch what you said to ons or two , as time has gone on , its the opposite ,,one or two decent ones , while the rest are backstabbers, the bosses learnt , if you are at war with one another , then you are not at war with them , the whole of society is similar these days , that's why I prefer my own company these days , can't trust anyone

[@MarkB-33]

Spot on.

[@SilverhairedWisdom]

I definitely can relate❤❤❤

[@Londonfogey]

Part of the problem is the feminisation of the workplace. In the old days when corporations were male dominated you at least knew who was boss and who you had to keep on the right side of. In the feminised workplace it's a lot less clear, with a much less hierarchical command structure which is constantly shifting according to who is popular that week.

[@call_in_sick]

🙄 what a load of tosh

[@RobertMunro-wb6jb]

Had loads of jobs in the past that i didn't fit in because i didn’t want to talk about all the gossip about co workers ! And the fact I was a competent worker that just wanted to work my shift and go home and forget about work till my next shift !!!

[@user-ln4qe1sh8i]

I can sadly relate to all of this 💯 since I stopped drinking alcohol (4 years) I don't see the point in going to work events and I would rather exercise at home and work on my body goals and people can't understand it. My free time is precious and the way I see it, I'm not being paid for it. I always sensed I wasn't meant for office life as I've never fitted in but maybe that's bc I'm neurodivergent ⁉️

[@rosenamarshall5502]

I’m 68 and so glad I’ve retired now . The rat race just gets worse plus workers rights have long gone .

[@frauditorshavenofriends]

Surely it's the complete opposite now? Employees enjoy far more control than they ever did.

[@rosenamarshall5502]

@ in the 1970s and 89s the unions were strong and fought for workers rights . Now days they just are a token gesture and bow down to management .

[@bogwoppit792]

No job is worth missing your lunch break apart from working in emergency services. I know folks who use to have office based jobs but the lockdowns were a blessing for them because they preferred to work from home. No office B.S

[@ArayaLight]

This was the FIRST VIDEO IN MY FEED ❤❤🎉🎉🎉👏👏👏

[@KadysOtherLife]

Hell yeah Araya 🙏😆

[@T4TipsGuides]

"Corporal jobs" Reporting for duty. 😂

[@GazBobOutdoors]

There were jobs where i did go "above and beyond" bascially because i was scared of losing the job, i had a lot of pressure on me at the time, still do, but i never expected anyone else to.

[@markphillips1509]

I get what you are saying but I have ZERO need of a one hour lunch of DEAD time. I would get bored after 15 minutes and at around 20 minutes I would want to throw objects out of windows etc etc. And lets be honest if I can use my lunch hour to get ahead why shouldn't I. It's not like I could do my washing or ironing, it really is dead time otherwise.

[@dansmith263]

dead time is the worst so boring

[@johnwoods271]

Yep yep and yep... You gotta watch out for those snakes in the grass (Great way to expose those types is to keep quiet at the start of any Job and like Cult members they approach you with sly little comments to try and get you onto their side) This is exactly why I started working for myself. If that fails at any point- I'm packing my bags and living in the F-ing woods. I would rather work 16 hours a day 7 Days a Week for myself just to earn minimum wage then ever go back to working for most companies.

[@williammarshall12345]

All my jobs have been like this and i have to say i have folk coming to me all day long mosning about others when actually those moaners are the biggest problem. I totally agree with you, theres a lot of simple folk our there who moan about simple issues

[@Strider9655]

Work is not about how much work you do, it's about how much work other people say you do. AND in fact, i've been hounded out of jobs for being more efficient and higher performing than everyone else, when that other type of colleague gets the promotion, they seek to get rid of any threats.

[@RunninWithScissors]

I could listen to you rant all day 😍😆

[@KadysOtherLife]

Good cuz I could rant all day 🤣

[@kirakeynow]

same, I struggle with this all the time. I am now 32 and changing my life big team because I cannot deal with this big bs

[@nickrougier8014]

I am 58 and semi retired and looking back over 40 years of contnuous full time employment I would summarize its key traits as 1. Consistently hitting targets and exceeding 2. Total punctuality and reliability 3. Always being a profit centre for whoever i worked for and lastly 4. Being treated like shit by management especially when you perform well, drowning in the consequences of office politics and never seeing a single one of those 40 years as in any way worth it other than as a means if survival. British employers and senior management are about the worst there is. They are cynical, hot-headed, have no people skills, are morally bankrupt and lie as often as politicians- manifestly unreliable. It was fascinating when working in London offices with people from all over Europe, to hear their views of the office and treatment shock of working here.

[@batmanwins5701]

Some people have jobs that are meaningful to them, some people make an effort to endeavor and Excel in the field they work in, they make the time spent have value onto themselves. Some people want to collect a paycheck and go piss their life away at a pub, never really going anywhere, just temporarily escaping the hamster wheel of a life lived in obscurity. There is more ro life than work, money, things... But there is something to be said about those who make the present moment a thing of value. Id rather be the best gas jockey than the worst acrobat. But id also prefer to find a challenge and rise to it, than rot for 8 hours a day 5 days a week just to get a cheque