Things no one talks about when it comes to sleep training…

[@kirkdickson8878]

Strongly agree with this. We do not regret giving our twins and other children a little extra cuddling when they were tiny babies and needed it during the night. They all somehow learned to sleep without special “training.”

[@holasona]

Thank you for sharing!

[@Beevoverfied]

Thank you for posting this. As an uncle, I had a visceral response to seeing this implemented with my niece and her parents. My niece was adopted and had some trauma as a baby and I felt was in need of MORE care, not less. Not to get too far in to detail, but this helped me connect better with thoughts and feelings of that experience. God bless you and your family. ☦️

[@holasona]

Thank you for sharing! I am glad the video was helpful! God bless you and your family too!

[@nancyfarkas3592]

I agree with this. Children need us at night not just during the day and I don’t believe kids cry to manipulate. Adults don’t sleep alone. So why should kids. No child goes off to college still sleeping is mommy and daddy’s bed. They will eventually do it on their own and it will not make them dependent on us if we rock them to sleep,etc. we need to listen to our instincts not some parenting expert

[@holasona]

I second this! Thank you for sharing your wisdom!

[@alvareo92]

Kids can cry to manipulate. Newborn babies and toddlers, not so much the case. And even if they did - it's better to be sure and attend to their need for attention, comfort and affection.

[@lauramariotti746]

Yes!! You are so right. My sister was only a year old and she remembers being sleep trained by my mom. She put her in the basement in a pack and play so she didnt hear her cry. Still traumatized my sister and my mom cried when she told her as an adult. All my relatives told me to not co sleep with my first baby and he was a horrible sleeper!! It worked out wonderfully for us and my husband took a rail off his crib and pushed it against my side of the bed. We all feel safe and together with our own space and you are so right about it healing you as a mom better with postpartum. I am not willing to traumatize my child and they will eventually sleep on their own ❤️ thank you for your video

[@holasona]

Thank you for sharing this story! We also made our crib a bedside crib and it worked very well with my daughter for almost a year. We, moms, find creative solutions when things seem hopeless:)

[@akankshasingh5044]

It’s only a thing of western countries. We do not raise our children as pets, trying to train them from such a young age! Some nights are rough, some are fine. Yes we have a good amount of maternity leave, that helps for sure! But your work isn’t an excuse to traumatise your little baby.

[@holasona]

Thank you for sharing! I feel like there’s a lot of pressure in the US to do everything by the book. And in the effort to do everything right, we disregard our own instincts and feelings.

[@AniAlexanianArt]

I didn't sleep train and it's worked great for us. Does my Baby sleep through the night? No, but I feel like that's the wrong question to ask. I never felt like a baby waking up is a problem, it was just normal and we found ways to work around it so we would still get enough rest. I am not tired or exhausted, sure I wake up when baby wakes up at night (since we cosleep and I still breastfeed) but we both fall asleep easily and get up together in the morning at 8am, with enough sleep. Breastfeeding also lets one fall asleep easier, so that has surely played a role. My point is, it doesn't have to be exhausting, it depends on the child and the support system (having a long maternity leave helps a LOT). I also honestly think some kids will be ok with sleep training, because they were ready to sleep independently anyways and just needed a little nudge while others absolutely are not and will be traumatized. But a child wanting to sleep close to their primary caregivers is not a problem but normal and instinctual. There is also science, that children who are sleep trained, wake up just as often, as children who weren't, they just don't call out for their primary caregivers for whatever reason. What I hope changes in the future, is problematizing developmentally appropriate behaviours of children.

[@holasona]

Thank you for sharing! I 100% agree. I don’t like demonizing baby’s sleep “problems”. Even if baby wakes up multiple times a night and needs their mom or dad to soothe them back to sleep, it doesn’t mean it’s wrong, or bad, or age inappropriate. It doesn’t mean baby is not developing properly or has health issues. It’s just his/her way of doing things.

[@dragana2245]

I don't remember having issues with my childrens nap time. I think some days they would sleep on their own and some days we would nap with them for little bit untill they fall asleep. We have not forced anything upon our children.

[@holasona]

That’s really great! My babies never fall asleep on their own 😂 We always have to rock them to sleep or sing to them, but we don’t force them to sleep either.

[@Sopran04]

Let’s get back to basics. When human babies, back in the days when saber-toothed tigers were still around, were left alone to sleep, they were destined to be one thing, and one thing only: saber-toothed tiger’s next meal. So it’s an INSTINCT for a baby to need to be kept close to the one who can protect them. If they feel unprotected, they cry to raise attention of the one supposed to protect them. If that’s unsuccessful, they begin to be quiet. That’s NOT a calm and peaceful quietness, it’s a resignation, paired with lingering fear. It’s a pure and mere survival to maintain existence. Now everyone ask yourself: have you ever been truly happy while being fearful? It’s a constant state of distress. God wired us this way. He wired us to seek protection as an infant and to give protection as a mother. That’s why we as mothers completely sleep differently than we used to do before motherhood. That’s why we as mothers can feel physical pain when we are held back from our crying baby in need of our protection and care. God did such a marvelous job when he created mothers with this irresistible urge to protect our babies. Let’s not go against Gods creation. And don’t worry: you can’t spoil a child with love and closeness. Believe me. You won’t carry him or her to their graduation party. Give them roots, so they will develop wings to fly.

[@holasona]

Thank you so much for sharing! Beautifully said! 100% agree!

[@bridgwll]

My daughter used a professional sleep trainer. Her daughter was only sleeping 1 hour at a time. That has all changed.

[@holasona]

Thank you for sharing! If it worked for your daughter - that’s great!

[@amussel]

I disagree. I did sleep training with both my daughters. They both sleep great and that sleep is essential for their development. I also have a great relationship with both my kids.

[@holasona]

Thank you for sharing! It’s great if it worked for you. For me, the emotional turmoil we went through was not worth it at all. I absolutely agree that sleep is essential to baby’s development, but sleeping through the night or long stretches is not essential. It’s just a nice bonus, but it’s not necessary for a healthy development.

[@TheKaraqi4]

You’ve got good nerves. I was not able to let my baby cry for too long on her own. She cried enough in my arms already. Her sleep improved month by month slowly and after 12 months she’s been sleeping through the night in her crib. But to this day she falls asleep lying next to me before I transfer her into her bed and im fine with it. It’s our routine ❤

[@holasona]

Thank you for sharing!

[@amussel]

@@TheKaraqi4 sleep training doesn't mean that you let your baby cry. I never let them sit in their crib and cry.

[@amussel]

@holasona the brain doesn't have a lymph system so long stretches with rem cycles is essential. At least that is what I learned. Every family has their own routine!