Things No One Tells You About Being Pregnant

[@starscreamapologist3003]

I hate it so much that women who don't want to get pregnant or to have children are seen as "heartless" and are told "oh you'll have children one day." So what? I don't want to have kids. Does that make me a terrible person? No.

[@msivy0511]

That doesn't make you a terrible person. It's your opinion and your choice. As a mother of 3, I respect that decision and I completely understand it. 😊✌🏼️

[@becksunicorn7354]

I agree

[@peengoo]

+All the stuff you call awesome. i agree :D

[@NolaD1123]

+Hannah Weisman no one should ever make you feel bad for doing what YOU want in life... i totally agree...

[@gerardbutnotway1258]

Same with me. Every one who brings it is always like, "Oh you'll change your mind" or "Are you serious?! children are wonderful!" My choice. I don't care what you think.

[@razannegrayman]

The one with the pixie cut reminds me of Pink. Even the voice!

[@TheMsbronte]

That's what I said lol

[@thaniquamarie9178]

Same ugh that is what I think every time I see her on buzzfeed finally someone else notices and I am not crazy for once in my life . Lol

[@madisondunton9694]

I thought of brienne of tarth

[@amycregg6048]

She reminds me of patricia arquette idk

[@TrueComic1987]

Amy Cregg I can see that.

[@megharoni]

If it makes anyone feel any better, my mom swears she loved being pregnant and some moms really do have that great pregnancy. Personally, I'm terrified, but I hear the reward after 9 months magically makes all discomfort worth it.

[@eslammohamed9235]

***** of course

[@Jessica25710]

Well said

[@joelover33]

It does! I speak from experience. My pregnancy was lovely but labor and birth was awful and horribly painful but I had extenuating circumstances. But gosh it is worth it,,.. My son is 14 months old now and he is my world

[@y0lka]

***** often the struggle with new baby is harder than the pregnancy

[@rebeccasamuella3970]

i'm 10% scared of being pregnant, 30% scared of giving birth, 60% SCARED of pooping during the labour.

[@wingicecream7125]

I would be too and that's a common one I hear my pregnant friends talking about. Don't worry, like 60% of women poop and the doctors don't care.

[@haleybarnitz7436]

You never know if you do. The pushing and pressure is going to make anything come out.

[@scoopdiddywoop6297]

theres so much pain you wouldn't ever know if you pooped

[@josiep1547]

My sister still doesn't know to this day that she pooped when giving birth to her now eight year old son... We never had the heart to tell her.

[@AnaMacedox]

currently 31 weeks pregnant and I 100% agree with everything you just said lol

[@unis0ph]

"I always wanted to be a mom, but I never wanted to be pregnant." What about adoption?

[@kimberly6198]

I think adoption is great as long as you really care for the child

[@jooesfangirl]

Uni Soph Adoption is hella expensive and even if you can afford it, there are many many factors that come to play for the agencies to find you suitable.. like age, how big your extended family is, where you live, pets, etc.

[@angharadirvine9279]

Uni Soph Adoption is just not for everyone.

[@Dani-ly8vh]

It takes a year or two to complete the adoption process.

[@garyjaycat]

Nicole Garcia pregnancy is a nine month process, sonetimes longer if it takes someone a while to get pregnant

[@maireadhudson1983]

Being pregnant doesn't scare me, giving birth scares me. My mom tells me too much....

[@LilaMudbanana]

Giving birth to my son took 25 hours, but once it's over, you'll never think of it again. All you'll be able to focus on is your beautiful child and that's worth every possible pain or struggle. No matter how hard labors are, they're worth it and billions of women have done it before.

[@MapleArt23]

Thank you truthful media.

[@mindyporter865]

Exactly Who wants to risk having their vagina ripping?

[@meganslonksnis7067]

+Mairead Hudson DON'T WORRY YOU HAVE LOTS OF TIME HONEY

[@Margaritaaaa00]

+Megan Slonksnis ALLAH AKBAR.

[@neptune11ful]

I've always been super afraid of pregnancy and hyper aware of everything that isn't good about it or could go wrong. Is it selfish to want to adopt even if I'm able to have a child on my own?

[@ABLuna712]

Samantha Paul No! Absolutely not! the child you may adopt will love you for adopting them anyway. It's like a parent saying "am i selfish for wanting a child of my own if i can adopt?"

[@teddibelle]

Far from it! If you were to adopt you would be giving that child a chance to have a family! It's a great thing to adopt 😊

[@maddiepaige8321]

No dear it's not selfish!! Trust me there are more children in need of homes than there are people who cannot have their own kids and want to adopt

[@ChampionGold]

NOT SELFISH AT ALL!! If anything it is generous. There are tons of kids in need of a loving home. Plus we are sorta overpopulated, so you would really be helping us out :)

[@gabooper]

it's totally not! it's great because a deserving child could have a second chance at a great life :) i think it's more selfish to get pregnant when there's so many orphan children out in the world waiting for someone to love them and adopt them.

[@PNWFAE]

Haha I'm 25 weeks pregnant with my first (it's a boy!) and my pregnancy has been super easy so far, no morning sickness, no stretch marks, only think is I crave pears. I love feeling him kick. I feel really lucky after watching this!

[@macapple2697]

Hope it turns out well!

[@MegaXmen20]

***** Congrats! :)

[@kayborndadon4009]

***** Did your husband want a boy or girl?

[@cookieferret9136]

***** Congratulations! And I hope your pregnancy goes well! (:

[@freyac-h3075]

When did she ever say she has a husband and why does it matter whether he wanted a boy or a girl

[@julieloeung2009]

I've quite obviously never been a mother but watching this brought me to tears. Just think about your mother, and all the pain she went through. And to think my mother, despite knowing all the troubles, did this 3 times just to have the little, somewhat bratty, children that she does and still loves and admires. I'm the youngest of all my siblings which means I'm usually the pickiest, clumsiest, laziest, etc. and also means I've never really thought about this. We caused our mothers so much pain while she was preganant, and now that we're here on earth we still ask for so much. They try their hardest everyday and still give us a lot more, they give us love. Uncontrollable love. I swear a mother's love is undying. I will never ever take my mother for granted. Thank You to all the mothers out there for being true heroes

[@sb4825]

❤👌

[@kimberlyna13]

Beautiful words, it makes me so happy to read this :')

[@jenemsp4591]

+Julie Loeung Damn now I'm crying

[@mximawu3580]

That just made my Day. I just hugged my mum and Said "i love You! You're always here for me" after Reading this :')

[@scemoperson333]

Some mums... but not all unfortunately

[@TheLegendwwe]

In North Korea babies fall from the sky

[@fat451]

Kim Jong is the farther of all babies in whole North Korea

[@didntreallyknowhowlongause2083]

Is that why your mind is so messed up? You landed on your head?

[@fat451]

No Kim Jong was raised by lions

[@Sirjan123]

You probably landed on your head

[@kyleaveragegamingplayerlit417]

Kim Jong Un and the soil's filled with love. And real unicorns.

[@leo50perez]

I'm 15, but i can't wait to be a dad. Just not while I'm a teenager.

[@dayanasanchez7038]

Cool

[@ccbab613]

I like you.

[@MetallicaBand2]

leo50perez And this is what the American Millennials/Gen Y have failed to learn. STOP PUMPING OUT YOUR KIDS AND *WAIT*!!!

[@lanebo8276]

That's great, man, but don't be stupid about it. Make sure you wear a condom. I've seen too many of my friends become pregnant or dads at the age of 18. Shit's crazy, play it safe.

[@MrPorterdog]

Being gay is not an insult, it's cool that you can admit that, don't let a bunch of creepers tell you what makes you less of a person. Trust me, I'm 15 and all my friends wish more guys spoke like you did.

[@ireallylovemycat1]

Thanks buzzfeed for making me not want to get pregnant even more than before. Sucks to be a girl.

[@motherfuckerjones4554]

Snowboarders Rock Why does it suck? A woman's body is a work of art. So many good things come from them, including life. Being a woman can be and definitely is painful, but isn't your pain worth the beautiful rewards only you can give?

[@motherfuckerjones4554]

***** Damn straight.

[@erzascarletcat]

Please don't let people change your opinions on things just because they bring out the negativity from it. There is ALWAYS a better good side to something that is not. If you think about it, when you're pregnant YOU ARE CARRYING A LIFE IN YOUR TUMMY! I would be very honor to have that ability if I were you (not that I don't)

[@shirokhorshid2997]

***** If you don't want the reward, your SO should have just pulled out.

[@motherfuckerjones4554]

***** So just go on hormonal birth control or have a hysterectomy if you don't ever want kids or periods. I was speaking in general terms. Periods are still very much an important(if not THE most important) part of human nature , you not wanting to have kids does not and will not ever change that.

[@omgitsleila]

"Don't have sex, because you will get pregnant, and die." - Coach Carr

[@rm-iu4gs]

i still live by that and i am 33 and virgin and single with 4 dogs

[@LeeLooface]

I'd rather adopt a kitten. They are great cuddlers, they are full of love, and they look after themselves.

[@mabepines5895]

Yeee kitties

[@abbymaxwell3666]

😑

[@deadaccount548]

Joanna R but if everyone said that, we wouldn't be here! 😲

[@imanshazly4149]

same

[@lorettal7157]

+I'm a Potato i just canceled the same reply for het and i saw that ahhaha😂😂😂

[@xCarxMellax]

you guys left out stretch marks, back pain, sharp pains when the baby decides to kick your guts. ;) the last 2-3 weeks of pregnancy is the most horrible feeling. shortness of breath have to pee every 5 minutes ..... gas, discharge, losing mucous plug, heart burn with everything . can't sit up easily can't tie shoes or put on socks.

[@haioemma4]

i cannot wait to be pregnant honestly

[@Bloom2Grow]

Don’t forget the severe headaches ughh

[@W11ngd]

Got that and am only 17 weeks in

[@LaMuffin-il7ei]

I just didn't want to have children before...now I'm sure I won't.

[@motherfuckerjones4554]

Grace Sáenz Don't worry, one day if you do get pregnant by any chance, I'm sure you will be glad you changed your mind. Your body is a work of art, not something to be afraid of. Being a woman is definitely painful, but the pain becomes worth it when you see the beauty that only you can produce.

[@motherfuckerjones4554]

***** That isn't what I meant. When I said "only you" I was talking about FEMALES. As in ONLY females can create life from their bodies, genius. And by that, I mean gestation and child birth.

[@motherfuckerjones4554]

***** Thought I was being specific.

[@md.zaforali4435]

Ok.but don't regret when there will be no one caring for you when your old

[@Lilyskz25]

It's tough to watch when you're struggling to become pregnant. I would gladly take on the whole experience. I know that it will be worth it without someone telling me it would be.

[@Leimiful]

If it doesn't work out ADOPTION!! My mother found out after a failed pregnancy that she couldn't have kids so she adopted me and gave me a life I never could've dreamed of. The world is over populated so perhaps think about it if it doesn't work out. Good luck.

[@littlehammerman]

Good luck, wish you all the best

[@MySpiritualShenanigans]

Praying for you, hope things work out for you! :)

[@Bibimbapski]

Leimiful That's wonderful :) It's my dream to adopt children too and start a family with them.

[@spamabby909]

Bibimbapski me too!

[@xenagabbyxena]

Screw being pregnant and having to give birth! If I want a child, I'm adopting.

[@md.zaforali4435]

And those children you want to adopt were also born.And what if there's no more orphan children.

[@perfelfs]

@@md.zaforali4435 i don't think we have to worry about there "not being enough orphan children to adopt"

[@williamtang2299]

Good idea Soybea

[@ayantikaC03]

Totally

[@kaylanfranklin4351]

I honestly don't see the appeal in getting pregnant and having children..

[@StuffyPengwin]

Depends on your age. If you're young then it's jury because you don't understand what being a mother is like. If you are older then it's not for you

[@shelbythompson4656]

Kaylan Franklin it's what my nightmares are made of

[@joelover33]

It's not for everyone certainly. But it was for me.

[@blareknightley2015]

Same

[@jpteknoman]

+Kaylan Franklin im a guy so i cant get pregnant and while i like kids, i dont really like the idea of having my own... too many responsibilities come attached to them

[@AA-hy6nb]

The older people and media should stop brainwashing women into idea, that pregnancy is "magic", that pregnant woman "glows from inside" and "feels joy of waiting a baby". Lets be honest,- pregnancy is a hard job,- and often a hard fight. Do you want to know, how it feels to be pregnant and than to go through the labor? See a typical action movie with a "good guy on a mission", saving the world. Though this process hero gets beaten, injured, insulted, loose his friends,- and finally he lays on the battlefield, covered with dirt and blood, and feels both grief for all he has lost, pride for all he has achieved, but most of all he feels dead-tired. And that is how you will feel. when your baby is small,- like a superhero, who fights alone against all the odds&enemies,- and still your mission is not over yet, because the baby has to be brought up properly also,- which takes at least 18 years. So,- good luck to all the pregnant dames, and my GRAND RESPECT to all of them,- they definitely sacrifice themselves for the survival of the humanity.

[@МаргаритаМомчилова-ъ6х]

A A That was really, REALLY WELL said. Amazing words. It's great to see that there are people who think like this. Are you a guy or a girl? Because if you're a guy, your girlfriend is lucky to have you by her side. If you're not in a relationship, I'm sure you'll find a girl who'll appreciate you. You have my respect.

[@abcdefg2174]

I know people who absolutely love being pregnant lol, but yeah most cases it's a huge struggle!

[@mysecretsketchbook865]

Update on your views have they changed?. Do u have children Now?. Do you still feel the same as you did when you typed your comment. Peace out.

[@luluraeembury9966]

I love being pregnant but at times it is very difficult. And I hate hearing "just relax and enjoy it". I am enjoying it but sometimes I can't relax. It's definitely not for everyone and that's ok too.

[@nachannachle2706]

Nothing is easy in life and choices have to be made. If you don't want the hassle of labour, then here is a C-section. IMHO, it is much easier to recover physically and psychologically from a C-section surgery (provided you are in decent/good health in the first place) than to recover from hours of labour and perineal+vaginal tears. To each his/her own. 🤷‍♀

[@arabella777]

This makes me never want to get pregnant

[@AngelicPeopleHurt2]

Right? Adopt...or get a dog.

[@arabella777]

I already got a dog lol and I was thinking of adopting and getting pregnant but this makes me want to rethink my choice

[@kaylanguyen789]

+Mia same

[@seegenezareth2286]

Well think about it....thats no coincidence...This video exactly aim at this

[@arabella777]

L S But what would the purpose of that be

[@kt-xy5zo]

Lol I'm never having kids.

[@Seanistheman]

Says that now....10 years later.......

[@retrodancer6812]

I'm with you. I want to travel the world, live a nomadic lifestyle. I can't lug my kids around everywhere.

[@theawesomerobloxian6624]

10 years later.... OH OH YEAH MHMMMM WORK IT.... 1 day later in the bathroom.... The pregnancy test is in. I'm pregerrs :O 9 months later AAAAAAHHHH -pop- WAAAAAAA

[@lanebo8276]

Same. I got too much shit to do with my life, so many opportunities and places I wanna go. No way I'm having kids anytime soon.

[@nj66666]

Oh man....I know right.....this looks scary as hell....and I am a person who can't bear discomfort or pain so....yup never

[@Gat238]

Thank you for your honesty. I just wanted to add: Vaginal bleeding after giving birth. No one tells expecting parents about this but the hospital expects you to know. Your vagina is basically an open wound for weeks and you can lose a lot of blood so you wear diapers. I've read stories of people who said that it even hurts to pee and wipe so many pee into the shower and then rinse. Although medicine has improved a lot in the last 100 years pregnancy remains a difficult and dangerous thing

[@breanneboyd197]

I LOVED being pregnant. It made me feel so confident. There were downsides like the occasional random vomiting, the exhaustion coupled with not sleeping. One time my husband made me laugh so hard that I barfed in the sink and simultaneously peed all over the floor. So Glamorous!

[@EliteMuppet]

With all this pregnancy stuff and baby talk on buzzfeed I think you guys should have a video or two for us childfree folk. We are scrutinized over our life choices and the way we feel towards children. Told that we are not mentally competent enough to make the choice to not procreate, while 16yr olds are capable of making the choice to? Women especially are bullied and told they are not truly women if they don't procreate. I would like to see a spin on this topic from you guys! BuzzFeedYellow

[@toriiilove13]

Well said! I agree fully. :)

[@1bennettm]

Feminist alert

[@Nowle92]

Elite Muppet Buzzfeed already did something similar to that - cant remeber what it was called though :(

[@joelover33]

Honestly when I see a woman living life without children I just die because I wish I had that freedom though I wouldn't change a thing I love my son. Those who choose to not have children seriously you are awesome. Live your life let nothing hold you back

[@BurningFreesias]

+Elite Muppet Despite what our natural instincts would like many to believe, not everyone was meant to have kids. I wish societies could just accept that and let people live childless lifestyles if they want, but unfortunately the reality is that it'd just swing in the complete opposite extreme and chastise those who do want/have children, instead. It's done it before.

[@JaydaHeartTV]

Never wanting children, I'd rather live life freely.

[@perfectjoji]

What about periods

[@kyleaveragegamingplayerlit417]

JaydaHeartTV I'd won't want to be a husband. I'd stay a boyfriend or whatever. Less paper work i'd assume.

[@JaydaHeartTV]

average gamingPlAyEr SAME. Getting married is too much of a commitment in my opinion.

[@jadeoliver3424]

If your perspective of pregnancy is giving up all of your freedom completely then you really shouldn't have kids.

[@unicornsisterasdri8504]

Have u seen the state farm commercial. The guy says im never getting married -gets married-. We are never having kids -shes giving birth- we are never having another child-she says im pregnant- then he says im never letting go

[@arlh2309]

LOVE this. I am 7 months pregnant and it has been a terrible experience. I have been sick, mentally drained and I dont look pregnant I just look fatter. When people ask me how I'm feeling I'm truthful and tell them it's not going well. More women need to be open about the struggles not just all of the positive. 👌✌😘

[@MissAprilRosa]

I'm pregnant and this touches my heart :). I've experienced many of these things and I love when people are open and honest about it. I will say that even with my mental struggles, hormonal issues and bodily discomforts, pregnancy has been the most amazing thing I've ever experienced and I would do it all again without a doubt. It brings me so much joy and it's a very special time for me, my husband and our baby. It's amazing. God is so great and His creation is wonderful. I'm so thankful to have the ability to do all of this.

[@ondreatorrence4322]

Thank you for your honesty 🙏💜💜

[@spikeschilde621]

I was four months sick, but after that, my pregnancy was awesome. 2nd trimester was my favorite. I've never felt more beautiful and the magic of feeling a baby grow inside of you and experiencing everything for the first time is so amazing.

[@karinaarias7723]

boys are lucky

[@bloodsports6147]

:D

[@butterpig3821]

ya

[@rm-iu4gs]

umm us girls don't HAVE to get pregnant if we don't want to. i'm 33 and still a single virgin with 4 doggos.

[@aliciarichardson7342]

True.. But you don't have to have kids.

[@cutiemalu3602]

@@rm-iu4gs yeah but many females want kids but they are really scared of giving birth that can be hella painful

[@chipmunkrockz]

I'd rather adopt or having one child and adopt if I want more .

[@whatashame3327]

FINALLY SOMEONE ELSE

[@FluffOfFuzz]

Yesss

[@DrPeppersprayPiss]

Looking at how many children there are without a family I think those are great thoughts of you. There should be more loving parents adopting those who were made and then abused by their producers..

[@zhamenable]

Same!! I am opting to remove my uterus.

[@butterpig3821]

yah I'm only having 1

[@mindythefox4120]

I'm going to adopt a baby when I am old enough :)

[@natasiamoore5533]

same

[@madelynmcdaniel4905]

hey , I want to have a baby and not adopt a baby that isn't mine because I would like to see a baby in it's own mothers arms

[@loafcat4965]

+Madelyn McDaniel moron if you adopt a baby you can hold it: they'll be in their MOTHERS arms

[@butterpig3821]

you need a lot of money

[@officialangelazhang3466]

you're the moron. Madelyn said ITS OWN MOTHER, not the adoptive mother

[@navinez7984]

I'm 29 weeks pregnant, I thought being pregnant would be a magically experience but I hate it! Don't get me wrong I love my little girl that's growing in my tummy but I hate the fact I have no control over my body- my movements are restricted, it's hard to breath, it's hard to walk, if I have pain I don't know which organs it's coming from since everything has shifted. And the worse thing for me is not being able to feel beautiful, I hate looking in the mirror and seeing someone who has gone up 3 dress sizes, since I've always been worrying about my weight- but I'm have a baby and for that I am thankful for everything I'm going through

[@taylorm6797]

Congratulations and good luck to you!

[@izzyjean8097]

I never see a reason to have a child, adopt and save a child

[@raechelm4116]

Literally a lot of people can not afford to adopt a child. It's not like they decide to adopt and the adoption agency just gives them a baby. Adoption can cost upwards of $100,000

[@izzyjean8097]

That's adoption in america, if you adopt from a different country like India or Africa, much much cheaper.

[@raechelm4116]

+ziakey Jean-Louis yes adopting outside the USA can be 'cheaper' but it can still cost $50,000 which a lot of people don't have. Bottom line, adoption is not cheap.

[@izzyjean8097]

Well, adoption is better in my opinion. Can't change that.

[@raechelm4116]

+ziakey Jean-Louis yes that's fine to have that opinion but you can't generalise as it being the best option because many couples simply can't afford to adopt and it really isn't realistic for everyone.

[@adrinmanavutah5872]

Thank you for that. You just lifted my spirit. I am 4 months now with my first child & that was helpful.

[@anaissj9797]

I want to be a guy so badly... I hate kids and I won't one in my body for 9 months and all the struggle that come with the kid at least 16 tears later.

[@anaissj9797]

Years* ... freaking phone

[@GamerRageCentral]

Anaiss Jacobs then change to a guy

[@CarebearisaHomo85]

Birth control, its not like anyone is forcing you to have a child and if anyone tries to make you feel like shit about about it, eff them..having and raising kids is difficult and not for everybody.

[@rm-iu4gs]

i'm a 33 year old virgin with 4 dogs, still single

[@md.zaforali4435]

Don't want kids ok.Keep it personal don't encourage other.And Don't hate kids our parents also could've said thay

[@andreacarrion6462]

i love children but i have severe depression and i feel like i would be a crying depressed mom just like my mother was.

[@hannahkip7851]

Oh honey, it'll be ok

[@Sakurainblue]

Me too. Me too...

[@DancingDeity]

same here

[@ihavenoidea2805]

It's ok you can for example work with children (in kindergarten or babysit for example) or help with taking care of someone else's child if you feel like it instead of having your own, whatever makes you happy

[@Blackvoid2me]

Good thing this wasnt an abortion video. Comment section would be like a battlefield.

[@EeveeFromAlmia]

It is

[@SuperGabbyGabs]

u wot m9? me mum had and an abortion the day obama was born and i find that very effensive. The baby they killed was me and I am a dead fetus

[@EeveeFromAlmia]

some people are trying to be normal here dude shut it

[@SuperGabbyGabs]

But I AM a dead fetus

[@EeveeFromAlmia]

ItsBob! you are also a very bad troll lol

[@elizamilton26]

I’m 23 weeks pregnant & I have HG, which is a very dangerous & painful pregnancy illness & I had to quit my job because it wasn’t safe for me anymore. I had to be hospitalized 3 different times & my life was threatened each time. I’ve had to stay on medications & will have to until baby is out in the world. Pregnancy has been one of the worst experiences of my life. And if I hear one more person say to me that I should just be grateful because atleast I can get pregnant... to me that’s like someone without an arm going up to someone with a broken arm & insisting they should be grateful atleast they have an arm to break. Of course I am grateful I can conceive, but this has almost killed me & made my life so hard in every aspect... it isn’t beautiful & easy for everyone & we shouldn’t be ashamed to say that.

[@BethiBEAR]

I needed this video so much. I feel like I've struggled with pregnancy so much! I am glad that it's almost over, but now I have a new set of fears. This video made me feel so much better ❤️

[@cymophanous8193]

THIS is the Buzzfeed that I love. THIS is the kind of content that I want to watch and that I want to support. Do you hear that, Buzzfeed? More of this. Please.

[@KeriNyx]

Kudos to all the mothers out there! ^_^

[@zoetonykennedy9141]

I'm loving every minute of being pregnant! the morning sickness has been from week 3 until now at 4 months! still just as bad but so worth it! just want baby growing bigger and have him/her in my arms snuggled up all safe with me💙

[@wingicecream7125]

I'm not pregnant, I don't plan to be pregnant, yet I like justifying my decision to never be pregnant by these vids.

[@atotalfiasco4213]

Same here!

[@ShockResistor]

No need to justify such a personal decision. You do what is right for you.

[@ihavenoidea2805]

It's ok you don't have to be pregnant

[@ivory8492]

literally same, it makes me feel normal for not wanting to do that

[@blackmagictaco]

I was sick 24/7 in & out of the hospital for close to 8 months while I was pregnant, I couldn't shave anything passed my tummy so my husband had to, the first week after I had our daughter was so rough, she wasn't eating, my back was killing me after being in labor for 60 hours, & it was tough after my husband went back to work but let me tell you it's the most rewarding thing in the world! I never wanted kids until I met my husband & he made me want to have kids. I love my family & knowing my husband & I created our daughter💕

[@rachelHrtWFBgym]

What about those women out there that don't EVER want to have kids or be pregnant?!

[@Tatianaesimpson]

Then that's their choice, no-one is stopping them.

[@MeggieLee22]

Rachel Marks They can do what they want. No one is saying you have to get pregnant....just...unexpected side effects of pregnancy. Like obviously the video is about being pregnant why watch the video if you don't care about getting pregnant or having babies or whatever.

[@rm-iu4gs]

MEEE

[@Alethophobia]

What a beautiful video, Buzzfeed. Keep up the great work. Although I've never been pregnant (I'm 21), this video has helped me understand a lot of what the women around me may be going through.

[@daybrathomas]

Needed that... im 20 weeks and can feel the sadness come and go.

[@StuffyPengwin]

Hope it all go well. :)

[@daybrathomas]

Thank you☆

[@yami8582]

I'm currently 36wks and being pregnant has been the toughest experience of my life. Physically and mentally. I did not expect it to be so bad... Honestly I was really excited but it hit me like a truck. I'm just excited for it to come to an end but I'm also really excited about meeting my son and yes I would do it all over again. He is still inside of me but its all worth it.

[@RhlanaGibson]

right now I can relate to all of this... I love that I'm going to be having my darling baby but I struggle so much with all of it especially with my health and mental health

[@versace138]

Pregnancy is physically exhausting and emotionally draining. I’m amazed at women who chose to give birth to multiple children. You guys are superhero’s in my eyes. And women who chose not to give birth naturally, I respect you too. Adoption is awesome.

[@MrSkizzizles2]

As a pregnant male, I found this video very helpful

[@brittaniwheatley5876]

Being pregnant with my son was horrible...the pain. The sickness. The stress. It sucked. It's been six months and I love my son more than anything in the world but the postpartum depression is horrible..everything sucks but I'm still going and trying to keep going💙

[@lIllIlIllIlIlI]

i want to have my own child, but i don't want to go through pregnancy. basically i want to be a dad :'(

[@hershey3327]

tiffany adopt

[@tristancruz9274]

You can adopt or pay somebody to carry your baby but that’s 90K+

[@er1235]

I love it. "your the perfect parent for your child." couldn't have said it better myself.

[@ovc1880]

I don't know if Buzzfeed knows how many adolescent girls are watching this, who could develop a completely different view on pregnancy and having children from this video. I for one have been considering not having kids since I was 14. This video was just what I needed. #nokids #noproblem

[@orangecrush4]

If anything, the world is overpopulated.

[@ivory8492]

this is literally me, i dont think il change my mind when im older

[@luluraeembury9966]

I actually love seeing my body change so rapidly. It's so cool to see how fast my body adapts to another human. It just reminds me that I'm built for this therefore I can do it.

[@kyleaveragegamingplayerlit417]

so true. they don't tell us this in school.

[@natasharose3176]

This has opened my mind a bit and made me think a bit widely about being pregnant and having a child but I think at the end of the day it's totally worth it because you have this beautiful baby that you made and it's your baby

[@celestialmorpho]

if you don't want to get pregnant, don't have sex.. (some in the comments were like now i don't wanna get pregnant) But i want to get pregnant. i want to feel the baby inside of me. that closeness is something that you can't replicate no matter what, i feel like . i also want to talk to my baby in my stomach and feel all of the weird kicks. i want to hear the babies heartbeat for the first time at the doctor. i want to experience that. i think pregnancy can/might be really horrible but in my eyes all the things i said before make up for it. you're creating a new life. that is mother nature's way of magic. but i was always one to think babies are so cute. i aways love to hold babies. but it's whatever though because i'm only 14 lol ..i think i should clarify i don't plan to get pregnant any time soon 😂😅 UPDATE: I know what contraceptives are. some shit head thought they should let me know. But i'm just saying if you can't deal with the consequences of having sex (there is that tiny tiny TINY percentage that contraceptive won't work and even if it does) you shouldn't be having sex. like...make sure ,if anything were to happen, you trust this person and wouldn't mind dealing with this person for the rest of your life or at least a very long time. I don't suggest just sleeping with anyone but if you are about that life then.... 😐 do you

[@EeveeFromAlmia]

Pretty much yeah. Just wait a bit to do it haha

[@celestialmorpho]

Mollylollie7​ lol i know. I have 24 yrs or more to do that haha omg

[@EeveeFromAlmia]

what better time to waist doing things that you can't with kids lol

[@celestialmorpho]

Mollylollie7 👐👏 exactly

[@EeveeFromAlmia]

It's like all us 14 year olds have our shit together better than some adults

[@XxBaconPandaxX]

I thoroughly needed this video. I'm an American living in Italy and I'm thinking seriously about starting a family. Being so far away from my family is going to be hard, but I needed to hear from real women what reality looks while pregnant. I need more of this. I need to be reminded that its not all rainbows and sunshine, but that its WORTH IT.

[@cressreeves171]

I'd choose a puppy over a baby any day😊 but that's just me..

[@louiseh4501]

same

[@Blissful_Gia]

I’m 36 weeks and for the first time I can say I honestly hate being pregnant. I’m in so much pain, I can bearly walk without my legs giving up on me , my back constantly hurts and I’m just tired and getting annoyed with being pregnant. I’m not getting pregnant anytime soon. Im 26 and this is my first child and the last few weeks are honestly the worst because it goes so slow and your body just given up on you at once 😩

[@TheHyperVampire]

Seriously? no one thought pregnancy would be hard? O.O

[@lucyhannah1227]

pregnancy is both glamorized and seen as a commodity, so it's not surprising most people assume it won't be THAT bad.

[@TheHyperVampire]

carrying a human being around in your body is why women are so badass, amongst other reasons. Anyone who thought it was easy didn't do their homework. Plus there are nature documentaries that show the brutality of motherhood. Being a mum is the toughest job you can do and not to be taken lightly. I wish more people knew that, then there would be less abused/neglected kids in the world >.>

[@anonamoose2229]

I'm currently 21 weeks and watching this has helped so much. Pregnancy is hard work!

[@Airrivalsgamer]

I'm so glad being a guy

[@StuffyPengwin]

I would never be able to cope with a pregnancy dang

[@GoldenPuppy1O1]

Don't rub it in :///

[@annak601]

i mean sure we bleed out of our vaginas every month, we have to deal with pregnancy, we have to shave, whatever whatever, but at least we're expecting it.. i mean like getting boner in the middle of class isn't as bad but is still much more awkward imo

[@gwkonyoutube]

Anna Potter Random boners in public literally only happen 3 or 4 times in a year if it's embarrassing. It's something that doesn't happen really at all like people say

[@NoItDoesntChange]

Finally someone isn't bitching about being a guy, and complaining about buzzfeed supporting feminazis. You go, Glen Coco. Embrace your manhood.

[@emmilittlemuffin]

My first pregnancy was horrible, I was a month overdue, I had hyperemesis gravidurum, I was sick and depressed and in pain the entire time, and I'm 10 weeks pregnant with my second, and this one I've had no sickness and it's so much better now that I know I will have to deal with anxiety.

[@elji02]

the world is over populated anyway..I mean is it really necessary to bring another person to this world ? why ? because you want someone to take care of u when you get old ? or because you want to leave part of you on this world after you die ? both of those reasons seems really selfish to me.. people should just enjoy their lives.. travel, meet new people , help the less fortunate.. how u dare to bring life to this planet when you can't even enjoy your life ?.

[@alexandratrigg4778]

elji02 Who said they weren't enjoying their life? People want children because they want to bring life into the world and love something.

[@lenerush1520]

The first time I was pregnant was from january 2014 to oktober the 17th 2014, and it was amazing! I didnt have morning sickness or any symptoms the first three months. I only har some cramps in the mornings sometimes in my legs and heartburns when I was 30 weeks or so. My labor lasted only 40 minutes, and I dindt use epidural only nitrous oxide, but ofc it did hurt alot and I screamed, but it was over fast. I had some stitches. The breastfeeding went perfectly well, I had alot of milk. And now my son is 10 months today/tomorrow, hes never been sick and are allways happy. I love him so much. Now im pregnant again and 11 weeks in and im having much more struggles physicly and mentally. I had some small bleeding but it was nothing serious. Now that Im almost 3 months in Im not that nauseous anymore, but im still dizzy and sleepy and i get hungry REALLY FAST.. and its hard to find something good to eat at the same time :P This pregnency may be the opposite pregnancy compared to the first one. BUT I will get through it and im looking forward to childbirth even if it hurts, because it really is a fantastic experience

[@Thvndar]

It's like nature sanctioned torture! Damn Eve had to mess it up for everyone else.

[@MrBklein31]

Great Video! I love it when I get to see how a woman really feels deep inside. The women I know are so good at hiding their feelings, and I want to do is understand them better. Thank you for giving me the insight that the women around me don't want to share.

[@sarkin5181]

The notion of studying infertility is very difficult for me to *conceive*.

[@Dami_diary]

Julia Dodge Pun intended? lol

[@sarkin5181]

OJ-Addict The pun was very intended. I bolded it just in case some people were complete idiots and didn't understand. :D

[@Dami_diary]

lmao.. gotcha

[@illchangemyusernamewhenith9130]

Julia Dodge Barb damn it Barb!

[@kyleaveragegamingplayerlit417]

your even more punny than my 4 punny friends.

[@Dkclyrd]

So brave of these women to share these stories!

[@quindixie6867]

Dogs are easy... I like dogs.......

[@juliep8131]

Good video . My baby girl is due in April and the ladies hit the mark. Pregnancy is a trying experience so far and its not a joyful 24/7 movie type of thing. Ppl don't treat u nice just because ur carrying a another life and your body is out of ur control but feeling your baby move and hearing her heartbeat is life changing

[@Wallis_2001]

I'm okay with the idea of having a child, in fact, I'm pretty sure I want one, but it sounds really painful. If there's one thing I can't stand, it's PAIN.

[@mgaines4178]

I'm so jealous of women who love being pregnant. I'm 7 weeks pregnant with our first and only child that we will ever have. It's been miserable. This is such an amazing and beautiful process, but the joy is sucked from my life by 24/7 nausea. It's absolutely miserable. I hope that our 8 week scan will bring back some of the joy. It's worth it in the end, but I will never do this again.

[@Walgreens27richmond]

Liar

[@JohnSmith-wk9wv]

Really...this is an issue? Here's a solution, adoption! Our world is over-f*cking-populated as it is! Unless you're some amazing genius, or innovator, the world will probably find a way to go on without your genes. However there are already children out there who are in desperate need of your love, and would love to be a part of your family!

[@Candylover449]

You're not a women! It's not that easy

[@JohnSmith-wk9wv]

Jillian Giorgio Are you f*cking kidding me!? Why though!? Why would volunteering to take in, and raise a child be such an expensive process? I understand they'd need to evaluate your financial situation, and the process itself should be difficult, to prevent just anybody from getting children. However, to charge you out the butt completely turns off many potential parents!

[@alyssagonzales8954]

I very much agree. I also think that the backround checks also means the new parents are able to provide much for the child also.

[@MeggieLee22]

John Smith To adopt an older child isn't so expensive, but to adopt a newborn (according to google) is 10k to 25k....and most people want to adopt babies because they want to start with a clean slate - so to speak. Not saying it's right, it's just how it is.

[@Kparso01]

I'm 34 weeks Sunday and honestly I feel like the worst three things that have plagued me during my pregnancy are the 1) 8 weeks of throwing up daily, 2) insomnia from heart palpitations 3) fear and anxiety about being a mom!!!! -not to mention fear of labor!!!- It has truly been a very INTERESTING journey so far... I'm just so ready to be done & have a baby!!!!!

[@Star_Rattler]

Dude like I can't even watch my little brother for more than like five minutes without losing my mind, I'm 18 he's almost 2, nah, even if i could do pregnancy i couldn't have the child lmao

[@chibilaichi]

The first time I was pregnant, it was a miscalculation because I did *not* want to be a parent; EVER!! So, when I found out my life was going to change forever, I literally started bawling when the doctor told me I was pregnant. I became super depressed and had horrible "morning" sickness (they say morning sickness, but it is literally being sick morning, noon, and night). It was horrible; my family was completely unsupportive and I felt completely alone. I decided that *I* had to be stronger for the sake of my baby, so I had him, and I had so many struggles, but he became the highlight of my life.

[@thatthingyouseeatthecorner5249]

I don't even want kids ! Who's with me?

[@SoffyLoves]

I had nausea for the first trimester then it was smooth sailing for the next two. I loved being pregnant. Had my son at 29 y-o (like I'd planned when I was a kid). Lol. My husband and I got to travel for 8 yrs and enjoy each other, and do all we wanted to do. Now our lives revolve around our son. Wouldn't have wanted it any other way. Being a mom is simultaneously rewarding, scary and challenging.

[@isabrockway7427]

Am I the only human who actually wants to get married and have kids❤️❤️

[@theloveshow8079]

No

[@lucyhannah1227]

i mean...literally most people do lol. one of human's most basic primal instincts is the selfish desire to reproduce. it's actually refreshing to meet other people who don't want kids.

[@lexiright5609]

+Lucy G It's not selfish to want to have a child.

[@lucyhannah1227]

Lexi Right It's a basic primal instinct, it's considered selfish in the same way that we always fend for ourselves. it's not a bad thing.

[@lucyhannah1227]

froot I'm sorry? If you disagree with anything I'm saying, feel free to take part in an intelligent discussion rather than insulting me right off the bat. And I'm not criticizing people who want to have kids, far from it. I'm just saying it's a basic primal instinct for people to want to pass on their own genes.

[@joelover33]

Been there done that. I had a very normal pregnancy all of the classic symptoms through and through it sucked sometimes but it was also amazing!! I would stare at my stomach for hours watching my son twist and kick. Can't wait for next time. When baby is here is when the real work begins trust me. Though now if think toddlerhood might be harder. I have a 14 month old son and he walks almost runs and climbs everything! He is a dare devil and my nerves are destroyed with all the worry. Doesn't help having an anxiety disorder at this juncture in motherhood. But I promise you it is life altering and you will never know a more true love then the love you have for your child.

[@limeyfigdet7460]

Another few reasons for not having kids.

[@Moonblood1808]

I can relate to almost all of it. Only that I've never had any great expectations about pregnancy in the first place. I was always a bit terrified of the physical and mental changes.

[@lady88569]

Ya'll saying you dont want kids (especially the girls) and I totally respect that and I think it's great buuut I honestly can't wait to have kids lol. Be a mom...dressing up my kids in cute clothes..tying my baby girl's hair haha lol

[@ajsssxaadjjqkq4333]

umm you don't know if you'll have a girl???

[@ajsssxaadjjqkq4333]

Areej Jawaid​​ calm down😂😂😂😂

[@adg6352]

I mean you can have all that with adoption. I don't want to have lots of biological kids, but maybe having one and adopting one sounds good to me

[@lostchild06]

+Areej Jawaid Dressing up your baby in cute clothes will be the last thing you will think about when you have a baby. You will be so tired from night feedings and such that you will be too tired to even think of what cute outfit to put on your baby. Trust me, I thought the same thing and now I have a 1 month old. He will sometimes poop through his clothes and I completely forget to match his clothes when he does that. I just put on what ever is clean and temperature appropriate.

[@lady88569]

Consuela Lemon Haha yeah ofc. I know after I give birth I won't be thinking about dressing anything up lol.

[@8ks141]

I'm struggling so hard in my first pregnancy. It's nothing what I thought it would be.

[@CarebearisaHomo85]

40w+6d pregnant and I'm over it. I'm swollen, I have to get up and pee 5+ times a night, wear a pad when I go out so I don't piss myself. My hips and groin hurt because they are preparing for childbirth by splitting apart ever so slightly. I can't sleep through the night. I didn't have morning sickness thank God, but the last month and a half have been difficult. Yup, and I'm not looking forward to childbirth because with my first I had to push for 3 hours and get stitches afterwards. Joys of growing and pushing out a tiny human being. But you know what? You'll never love anyone the way you love your baby, its undescribable. I've heard from somewhere, its like having a piece of your heart walking around outside your body. Don't get me wrong, they'll drive you insane but you love em with all of your heart. :)

[@joelover33]

I feel you girl!!! Had to push for 2 hours was in labor for a whole 24 hours and my son literally ripped through and I had stitches... Painful as f!! But you are so right. My son is the love of my life and I can't wait to have another but I will wait a couple years 😊

[@angelwhite5544]

"You have to wear a pantyliner everyday." A lot of girls already have to do that because of discharge.

[@taylorholmes6910]

21 weeks pregnant i can say, so far this is the best experience of my life. i use to be the one to say i will never have kids because of the pain and mood swings just all the discomforts that come with it especially when shes on my nerves and my back and legs hurt! but i feel like a super hero! (:

[@FantageChic]

I think I'm going to adopt later in life. Once you're pregnant, you can't just get out of it. You have to suffer through 9 months. I don't think I can do that.

[@Candylover449]

It's not easy getting an abortion, and it a life and most people don't have that heart

[@FantageChic]

Guadalupe Medina It's not as simple as that. You're taking away a life.

[@BurningFreesias]

+Guadalupe Medina I get what you're saying, and you're right. It is an option. A contested one, but one nonetheless. However, I would just like to add that even from a "secular" standpoint, abortion is expensive and can cause negative and prolonged repercussions to the mother's body. It's still trauma being done to it, to tear out something that, biologically, was designed to continue its natural course.

[@markigirl2757]

I want to adopt for my second child I’m pregnant too and after that I’m done if my husband wants more kids we can adopt. I was adopted too and I always wanted to give another child a family when they lost their own

[@oreos888]

I really liked the woman with the brown, wavy hair. She seems super honest about her experiences which is a breath of fresh air to hear apart from "Oh my skin is glowing all the time" or "Wow, this is the best experience I've ever went through"

[@catchang9697]

Great video!! 😆 I can't wait to be a mom in like uhhhh 8-10 years

[@perfectjoji]

15 years :3

[@faridunisomatov9724]

Chad wait or be a dad in 13 years I'm 12 xD I just want to get the whole kid situation and marriage over with

[@perfectjoji]

XD I'm 10

[@StuffyPengwin]

I'm 13 but honestly can't wait to to be a dad and have wife that I love and that loves me.

[@faridunisomatov9724]

She won't love you if your a pyramid

[@ValentinaMoralesP]

I really hope no woman gets discouraged after watching this video. Every pregnancy is different for everybody. While some women may have experienced troublesome, conflicting, or difficult pregnancies, does NOT mean you will too. When I found out I was pregnant, everyone told me that it would be awful. And it has been everything but! I am now 33 weeks pregnant and have thrown up once, had any discharge, have had no nauseousness, any crazy side effects, nada. I feel amazing. A lot of it is also psychological. Don't let people fool you into thinking that just because their pregnancy was bad, yours will be too. Enjoy every moment while it lasts. It's the most beautiful thing a human body can do! (:

[@mp57634]

But you're right. Sometimes I get so disappointed and down on myself but I have to remember that I'm making a baby. I have to remain positive and healthy and take on this sickness head on. Being able to have children is such a blessing and other women would kill to feel what I'm feeling. I know it will be worth it in the end. I hope all is well with you!

[@fabulouzmiri7227]

It’s not joyful period!

[@hypequeen9588]

I'm 15 weeks pregnant and spent the first 12 with my head in a bowl, in hospital or crying. It's been a fucking nightmare. This will be my first and only pregnancy.

[@pandaEMOx]

Solution: adopt! it won't wreck your body and u will be a parent :)

[@MistyGlades567]

Pregnancy is still something not every one gets to experience. That in itself is kind of awesome. That you made a human being and now its growing inside you. I can't wait till I'm pregnant.