Things Not To Say To Black Women

Whether it's people touching your hair, assuming you like to twerk, or treating you like an "exotic animal" on dating apps, black women regularly face a variety of racist and dehumanising presumptions. Here, eight women relate their experiences of the stereotypes they've faced - but also the strong sense of sisterhood they feel as a result.
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[@hamoyamo]

“I’m born and raised in London, nothing exotic about me” AAHAHAHAHAH

[@alisaben1]

My favorite moment!🙋🏽‍♀️

[@chatnoir9038]

I meannnn... tbh I sort of have a thing for British people so.... For me British= exotic as I’m from Northern Europe 👀

[@s2me89]

I don't know why I read this as if I was singing Dizzee Rascals Bonkers 😂

[@lunaluna6459]

Mia Death - haha that’s so weird when we’re one of the least attractive people in Europe, whilst Northern Europeans are some of the most attractive people in Europe. I will say though we do have a great sense of humour.

[@lunaluna6459]

Mia Death - looool actually I think I know what you mean when you say there’s something intriguing about British men 😂 I think it’s the fact they’re very approachable and some can be charming or cheeky.

[@a.d.w8385]

I am an American black woman, and the stereotypes get on my nerves. I can't twerk to save my life, I am a nerd who loves science and comic books, and I hate reality tv and rap music. We are all different.

[@gone5815]

Yes this so much

[@TheNervousAnna]

Damn now I wanna know what comics you folks read

[@Tan87ful]

Cool

[@fanfanatic9344]

i relate

[@BubbleLush16]

a.d.w. n. LoooooL 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@carlynrose7596]

Someone looked at my black friend and said she was pretty for a black girl then his best friend said “ no she’s pretty.just pretty”

[@LadyPinkster]

That was sweet of him for correcting his friend.

[@brooklynyangoue8806]

IshyK1 CurlsOfficial and judging from ur profile picture u must be attractive 🤢😷🤮

[@larryANDlaurent]

IshyK1 CurlsOfficial, and you got the clap.

[@larryANDlaurent]

RexyMusic, you why-people MAY have the standard look to many but definitely not to all, so you can shut that all the way down & take a seat on the floor.

[@jalea5298]

RexyMusic I don’t know if you’re trolling or if you’re that stupid.

[@niniolaosineye7384]

“I’m not exotic, I’m not an animal this is not the jungle” I creased🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@meftnm]

I think the term "exotic" is actually a compliment. What car brands do people think of when they talk about exotic cars? Ferrari's, Lamborghini's, etc.

[@snekoverlord5868]

@@meftnm cool fact: black people aren’t cars

[@meftnm]

@@snekoverlord5868 I swear, I KNEW somebody was going to say this, lol. I was trying to say "exotic" isn't necessarily bad, on the contrary. Anyway, no racist here.

[@israelmckenzie2295]

I couldn't breathe anymore omg

[@hi-pu5yy]

@@meftnm "exotic" is offensive, as it others black people. In addition, people deemed "exotic" have had a history of being hypersexualized and fetishised (hence entire porn categories for Black or Asian people, geered towards the white male gaze). Asking people "where they're (really) from" is offensive for similar reasons, as it implies that the person can't possibly be from the predominantly white area they're being asked that question in.

[@monaooomm]

You forgot the “ you’re beautiful for a black girl!” compliment 😑😑🤮🤮

[@Bubbsmaster]

You missed the air quotes over the word “compliment”

[@dellisaflavius1538]

Yes.. that amazing "compliments" they give us..

[@mysunshine6940]

I don't quit know how to feel about that.

[@iamthepocketironpocket1889]

Wow! Now that is terrible. Have you actually heard people say that to you? That's a barbaric thing to say to anybody. In all honesty, beautiful women exist in all races. Ugly people also exist in all races. Beautiful is not a race or a certain set of traits. Shame on those people who would ever have the nerve to say that to you.

[@yvonnewinters9699]

That’s annoying no matter what! “You’re beautiful for a black/curvy/thick/short/long woman” sounds like someone who is black (or short or anything else) usually isn’t.

[@YungDubee88]

As a American black woman I use to hate people saying " you're cute for a dark skin girl. " WTF DOES THAT MEAN. 🤔🤨 ugh.....😒

[@lizmowrey9866]

People said that to you? That's rude

[@YungDubee88]

@@lizmowrey9866 Yep, got that comment all the time growing up. I always thought it was a weird thing to say to someone.

[@__CJ___]

Oh god same or for me “you’re pretty for a Haitian” uhhh wtf?

[@roachtingz9061]

Tamia Jackson you’re being sarcastic,, right

[@tamiajackson]

@@roachtingz9061 I was being cynical

[@artemisgoldheart6791]

Black girl: *shows any emotion beyond being completely boring Everyone ever: yoU’rE BeINg aGgrESsiVe

[@diamondbae5217]

FR lmao

[@ashleymiller9559]

Factssssss

[@jihannahaine2002]

exacly smh

[@155chipmunkz]

Italian : *speaks at a normal volume Everyone else: STOP SHOUTING! Italian: *speaks softer Everyone else: OMG SPEAK UP! Italian: 😑

[@2centsbear638]

But they are loud

[@jaypay1252]

Girl with the dark green dress and large hoop earrings is really pretty.

[@kittygrimm7301]

The colour green *really* compliments her.

[@bakugosnonexistentwife3153]

They all are 👏

[@bakugosnonexistentwife3153]

Dustin Sharber what

[@seretkaur3094]

Dustin Sharber Someone woke up on the wrong side of the bed

[@bakugosnonexistentwife3153]

Seret Dhanoa 😔 fr tho go shop at better night sleep store babe

[@dianakennedy1306]

“Twerking On my way to work” LMAKSOAOAO IM DEAD

[@MrThemovie321]

twerkin on the bus LMAO

[@AshaMaracuya]

I died!

[@Pika-Chu64]

Lol

[@paulaprintz6678]

That is my favorite!!

[@GTEyez]

I twerk at work, dont you?

[@JazzyJ96771]

"I twerk to work, I even twerk on the bus home" 😂😂

[@ThePltsweet]

That mental pic just got me busting.

[@sajidaassaf174]

@A M underrated

[@lindamariam4189]

I'm dead

[@sos757]

*pretends to have lifetime of oppression*

[@sos757]

@Mø Nälayé no its clear you folks are fuckin liars and you been playing us innocent folks for a few years now! n everyone is starting to see it now. So well done. All those lies are catching up to you lot 🤦🏻‍♂️

[@blackirishrose4040]

I'm not aggressive I'm passionate.....

[@jojos.1041]

mergirl2000 Dunne rightfully said👏🏾👏🏾😌

[@Samara077]

💯💯💯

[@ashr7871]

Yesss!

[@Cantetinza17]

Thank you I say the SAME THING!!!!

[@Sumsulsulsususj]

Nice but who asked

[@aishasimone06]

The women on here are great representatives for us black women, so intelligent

[@loveisthemostpowerfulforce1397]

This is Britain though, black people there are a lot nicer and more intelligent over there, I'm not being racist, this is how it is because black people in America usually come from poor families.

[@jihannahaine2002]

@@loveisthemostpowerfulforce1397 or just because black ppl in America grow up in AMERICA and America is such a racist country if not the most racist

[@onemanarmy7081]

What is differences between black,white or indian lady? Black woman always want european man, I am an Indian man, I want an African girl friend, she should be beautiful by heart, have any african real and true lady?

[@tessascott7584]

I support your rights! 💞

[@nuck-]

What?!?! They were all quite nice, but intelligence? Did we watch the same video?

[@tazhaneclaude5364]

People also love to ask "why are black women so bitter?"

[@kushinaa1XD]

@Larry Jones

[@glockperfection8248]

Because we really want to know, no one seems to be able to answer this question.

[@zaria1758]

Glock Perfection we’re not. thats the answer. that question is annoying to us.

[@bat8046]

And then it's like "you just answered your own question buddy"

[@UKLeonie]

I love your hair thou

[@rosieschweebie]

I’m a black woman from the US. When I was a receptionist at a law office, the clients would come in to sign paper work, or whatever. You should’ve seen the looks I’d get, and their comments were ridiculous!! “You don’t look anything like you sound on the phone”!! Really??🙄🤷🏾‍♀️

[@kimthejunglist]

My response is usually, “well now you’ve learned to stop stereotyping people by voice.” 😁

[@kimthejunglist]

Trey Diggz :: Are people of specific races supposed to only speak one way?

[@eternalstyle4697]

Now thats said They don’t expect black people to sound educated and articulate 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

[@ofentsefefe04]

😂😂😂😂wtf!?

[@bayg6703]

BLK American stereotype white ppl all the time and never be called "a racist" but when white ppl do it, it's racist😒

[@themoon8321]

I’m not black nor a girl but hearing those phrases just makes me mad. Like how can some people be so insensitive and rude?! We all human so like why don’t we treat each other like that? You get me? Why can’t be all just be nice?

[@DesiDeslei]

I know right? Im black as well and a stupid toxic friend that i have calls me "poo" or "brownie" so i say: thats racist stop it. AND THEN SHE SAYS THAT IM AGRESSIVE, LIKE WHAT THE HECK

[@emokiller907]

@@DesiDeslei That's not a friend you should be around anymore

[@nogaamram4387]

@@DesiDeslei that's racist and hurtful on another level what the hell. If they're talking to you like that they're not acting like a friend or a respectful human being.

[@earlysnset]

@@DesiDeslei hey, im sorry but why calling you "poo" is racist? im really sorry, im not a native english speaker but i would like to understand bc i dont want to offend anyone

[@haleythompkins4472]

'Poo' means 'poop', and it's rude to call anyone that but especially if they have dark skin

[@sheisbrit17]

Black woman: *expresses herself in any way.* Everyone: "WHY ARE YOU SO AGGRESSIVE AND BITTER?"

[@lil8579]

Mexicans we are loud and when I speak and I am very passionate we put strong emotions. My boyfriend korean he is quiet and he ask me why are you mad and screaming and I told him I am not screaming is my speech tone it is ruled by my passion of the subject. That is who we are we cant talk without passion because we are not boring people for us communicating and socializing is our oxygen.

[@apriladelewhyte]

Not everyone, I personally like the fact that a lot of black women have big personalities and are expressive. I feel like white women are all expected to be dull and quiet, it does my head in. I am expressive and loud pretty much always, regardless of my mood haha.

[@Julia-lk8jn]

Because of all the idiot strangers who think that touching my hair is okay? if it's any consolation: I had that happen to me too, and I'm about as northern European as it gets. Even worse, it can come from other women. Yikes. Stupid ******s

[@Cookie_munchee]

The “aggressive black women” needs to go. There are a lot of black women who are afraid to say how they feel because of that stupid stereotype. 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@keragiscombe7338]

I hate it my ex use to say it in every argument we had I hate it

[@paulajean4540]

Because society knows that if women, especially black women ever rise up and act on all their rights-- to vote, to assemble, to learn, to be happy that NOTHING could stop them! Its suppression of a population that the dominant class fears.... Be aggressive, be classy, be powerful, and rule the world-- Hell Be Michelle Obama! That's why she dealt with so much hate-- but she was classy and powerful when she let that shit bounce right off of her and kept doing good things! Someday people will realize that the amount of melanin in their skin and the genitals between their legs doesn't determine the amount of respect a person should be alotted.

[@user-jb7jg5fw6c]

I feel like black men can relate as you become a dangerous angry black man

[@sassyjazzy126ify]

I’m that black woman it irritates the hell out of me so I bite my tongue all the time

[@vutekoaalu4188]

I ain't black but i am naturally violent, if you don't agree FIGHT ME!

[@dnictt]

as a black woman i saw each question and let out the DEEPEST sighs

[@QueenDramaVevo]

Dani Cutts i let out the sighs of all my ancestors at the questions

[@pointnexter03]

Joon Stan ?

[@shakira1682]

@A M how do you know?

[@shakira1682]

sameeee

[@littlepookie5362]

Oh yahhh gurl staaap

[@bvnny1379]

Who else hate being called an Oreo?

[@dejavu4103]

Omg meeee I HATE IT don’t call me oreo

[@chynacoleman1660]

That shit is soooo irritating especially when it’s from other blk people

[@Cutecare]

I've gotten coconut as well.

[@KitsuneFyora]

I had a friend who would be called an oreo. It was interesting hearing others call her that. Didn't sound right.

[@jrenee1040]

@@Cutecare coconut?! I didn't get that one growing up! Are they trying to be creative?

[@fmw_lol7223]

Mentioning race in a "compliment" immediately takes the value out of it. Instead of saying things like: "you are so pretty for a black girl!" Or for a white person: "you have a big butt for a white girl!" Say things like: "you are so pretty!" Or for a white person:... don't say things about peoples butts.. thats weird. These easy fixes will make it so people wont resent you.

[@bluebutterflywellness2273]

Them: (Sounding surprised) "Oh! You're so intelligent!" Me: "Yes, B****, I went to school too." 😐

[@chocolategelato829]

You mean "YAAAAAAASSSS B****!I went to school."

[@abja101]

@@chocolategelato829 lol that was just right!

[@onlythereal3233]

Chocolate Gelato that’s something lil white girls say lool

[@yakimaharper9707]

A message to black women kzbin.info/www/bejne/b4vEqXh4frWYarM

[@tryingmybest7659]

They say the same to me and am Arabic 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@alecellis]

I've noticed the "why you so aggressive?" one on twitter and other places online where debates are happening. Any black women just states their opinion and it's automatically "attacking people with your views." No it isn't, a black woman made their point, there's nothing aggressive about it. It's terrible to just scroll and watch the double standards unfold.

[@kingsdaughter4evr797]

Deep dude. Respect

[@Julia-lk8jn]

I've come across similar stuff. I think you can run into that both for being a female who speaks her mind and for being dark-skinned and speaking your mind. If you're both ? Hope you have a good deep breathing routine, you're going to need it.

[@abby-kq6lw]

But when white women do it, it's considered feisty or inspiring or motivational

[@sydneywolfspeak7804]

I'm soft spoken, and have been my entire life. My family nicknames are peanut and used to be mousey voice. Some people think it just can't *really* be how I speak. It must be fake, or they say "she's boujie" or fake. * Sighs * 😥 Am I supposed to be loud? Is my voice supposed to be man-ish, or deep?

[@chickennoodlesoup5066]

Sydney & Wolf Speak of course not.

[@amarjo351]

If you're a 'STRONK' black women the yes apparently.

[@ItsNotRealLife]

What's "boujie"?

[@amarjo351]

@@ItsNotRealLife fancy with mixed with undesirable black stereotypes.

[@scee8474]

I’ve gotten that boujee thing too and idk if they mean it as a compliment but it’s actually kind of annoying tbh

[@zontdoit5220]

Don't forget "the sassy black woman" 😒

[@155chipmunkz]

I blame Hercules for that one.

[@laurawilliams4087]

Not all American black women talk like that either! It's all stereotypes!

[@lunaluna6459]

Maybe not, but those slang words came from the US, I think it came from US black women. People need to stop applying US culture onto England/the UK.

[@laurawilliams4087]

@@lunaluna6459 true and as a black american woman people need to stop applying all of us to ghetto culture we are not all like that.

[@lunaluna6459]

Laura Williams - true, at most ghetto culture is a subculture like hipsters, skaters, emos etc,

[@lunaluna6459]

IᒪᒪEGᗩᒪ ᗩᒪIEᑎ - i don’t think most nor all black Americans from the usa sound like that, I’m merely saying those words are u.s slang words, and not English nor British slang words - which is true.

[@lunaluna6459]

Destiny Long - isn’t that creole or AAVE or Ebonics? I find the history of the language fascinating

[@sofialigeiro405]

If they ask you “ is it your hair?”, just say “ hell yeah, I bought with my money so it’s mine” 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@brownbbydoll1777]

Sofia Ligeiro mhmmmmm!!!

[@ridealongwithnicolle1581]

Yepp

[@sanctusignis9746]

I have the receipt

[@jessicawillis6701]

That's a good one 👌I never even thought to say that before.

[@tone2106]

Smh black women and their stupid ass weaves.

[@freyawalker6860]

A girl @ school came up to me and SMELT my hair “OMG COCONUTS”

[@marth_ratthiam7040]

Omg that also happends to me 🙁

[@GloomySunset]

Ew

[@naledinkosi3755]

😑😑😑

[@jeanmichellelaurent]

Man that shit is creepy

[@155chipmunkz]

I bet that’s what Lizzo smells like.

[@trinitywalford1854]

Black girls are soo beautiful and dont deserve the things they go through

[@155chipmunkz]

Except the ones who bullied me in junior high. They can burn in Hell.

[@veronicacorningstone8059]

what things do they go thru? having questiones asked? 😂

[@TM-il8rb]

@@veronicacorningstone8059 They don’t get good, and enough representation, and these aren’t just “Questions “ like imagine being stereotyped negatively when people see you.

[@nokwethembamthembu1019]

"How do you say this in *African* ?" "Are all black people *loud* ?" "She's late because she's running on *African time* ." "You're from/are * *insert African country* ? You know, I was in Africa..." 😒

[@jasmineford8514]

First off Africa is a continent with many different languages and cultures so people who say this need to be educated before they even speak

[@aphelion7427]

@Jasmine Ford yasssss speak

[@jarodbamm2996]

Like seriously $^÷/*?(

[@theamvgirlx]

The “black time” thing is an inside joke that black people made up themselves lmao but I agree with the rest of it

[@onlythereal3233]

JohnnyBoy14532 *Most american

[@madamebutterfli00]

Friends have told me that the strong black woman trope is especially damaging because it makes them feel as if they aren't allowed to show a complex rage of emotions that all humans experience. It's really sad.

[@tabitha8232]

madamebutterfli00 It completely is. And more than that it makes everyone see us as masculine. Even Kevin Hart said that dark skinned black women can take a punch better than “soft” light skinned women. We aren’t considered feminine, aren’t considered worth protecting, and certainly not considered beautiful.

[@RunninUpThatHillh]

"Makes them feel as if they aren't allowed...". So they are allowed, but just feel like they can't? Nobody controls our emotions but ourselves. Time to take responsibilty. Time to give less fucks about what other people think. Most of the time people assume someone else thinks something they aren't thinking, also. Lots of mind-reading I noticed. Big waste of time.

[@grisellimay]

@@RunninUpThatHillh oh no ... You've quite missed it

[@drbriii]

@@RunninUpThatHillh When we give no fucks that creates the stigma of us being "aggressive and angry". Now that leads to the next set of problems for us to deal with. It's like we are skating on egg shells no matter what we do.

[@jlivb]

madamebutterfli00 or not want to be protected. The strong black women narrative means that we don’t need protection, or a man, or to feel wanted as in a relationship. I’m not a strong black woman, I’m just a black woman. That stereotype is retarded

[@chrissiep7363]

When I try to twerk I look like a wet noodle

[@zoeythemoth]

Chrissie P at least you show not every black women can twerk.

[@Kit.E.Katz45]

Sister!💖😂😂

[@Cantetinza17]

Maybe we should all Twerk to work apparently that's how you get good at it ROFLMBO

[@Kingofthenet2]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@marshallposey2063]

These are just common sense...... but common sense these days is just not very common. 🤦‍♂️

[@lavendergold6379]

This is why I decided to not have friends or be in a relationship, or just be around people in general. People can be really be irritating.

[@caovuonglam]

@@lavendergold6379 lmfao maybe your ignorant

[@lavendergold6379]

No because I don’t want to be around closed minded people or hear these ridiculous stereotypes, satire comments. I don’t need that. People nowadays are so demanding and fake. And act like they know people they don’t know. I don’t belong to anyone or anything. My well being and safety is first. Humans irritate me real easily. I’m nice but I just don’t like people. I like being me for myself. Society is full of ignorance, stupidity and gaslighting. Why’d should I be like around people. No thanks. Glad I’m suicidal. I don’t care. I have every right to feel how I feel.

[@mariamk7828]

Kendall Williams don’t generalize

[@shanayabotao6173]

@@lavendergold6379 You'll miss out on meeting really great people.

[@rachrach5]

As a 17 year old going to a predominantly white school, I relate to this video on such a strong level.

[@beediverse9086]

*Pats your back* I am so sorry

[@smb.]

Jason Heilinger she obviously can’t. How about u go to a page/channel that talks about that. Instead of trying to downplay her experience

[@bellanewell4537]

Jason Heilinger I hate being white

[@Abeanhead0430]

This was me at a school of 1200 kids and roughly 10 black kids 8th thru 12. .... I look back now and I'm surprised I never cussed anyone out or hit anyone esp for touching my hair. Graduated in 2004

[@jodi-.-]

Bella Newell don’t hate your color. Your race shouldn’t matter it’s your personality. Learn to love yourself for who you are. Unfortunately I am struggling to love myself in all ways possible so I can understand. But we both must have to at least try to accept ourselves because no one else will first.

[@real_lampcap]

"Can your mum twerk? How bout that?" Had me ROLIING! 😂😂😂😂😂

[@rahinatu2060]

Some granny said I looked exotic and I thought "am I a mango??"

[@christinaraynor1713]

"You're the whitest black person I know." "That's racist!" "No, it's a compliment!" Actual conversation that my sister had with her white co-worker. It's wrong on so many levels smh

[@littlespiritchild9139]

"Your a strong black woman" *OK OPRAH!* I'm done. That's too funny 😂😂😂😂

[@safiamccants9476]

When I was told 'You are a strong black woman' was imposed on me as accept the micro's abuse if I want my job.

[@itsathi6055]

Real shit tho when I was 13 a lady touched my hair at McDonald's without even asking. Shampoo and conditioned at least 5 times that day

[@jasminepearls1047]

Yes

[@crazyd0glady295]

I am white and I have had random people come up and started petting my hair out of no where. Freaked me the hell out

[@sarahurie4702]

There is a guy who went to the same university as me,whenever i saw him he would come to me and start touching my hair without even asking and he kept doing it for a months knowing that i told him to stop several times and that made me feel anxious for a long time.

[@itsathi6055]

@Lola Jenkins hence conditioner

[@killabarbie4923]

This woman touched my hair while we were on the cruise and we were in an elevator

[@caucasiansarerednotwhitewh8111]

"i'm finna get diabetes from all this chocolate" 😂😂😂

[@netherlands7534]

You can say be what you what you want but you probably never Saw a White Person but we everything but NOT red, racist. Only irish are red whites with red hair.

[@judielove3784]

Oh my goodness sis, what's up with your profile???

[@julliboo3517]

"Oh , you talk white" When has speaking and acting sophisticated been a white thing?

[@Inka_Morrisson]

Thank you !

[@svetik1587]

always

[@julliboo3517]

@@svetik1587 lol you got jokes man

[@julliboo3517]

@YOLO MAN I want to thank you for the reminder😌. But I think I remember being the one writing out the comment😅. So I'll take the shade thrown 👌🏾

[@caesar8683]

Since a sophisticated culture was established by white people hundreds of years ago

[@endymionredacted1304]

Watching this as a white person and I'm so glad that I haven't said these things... The embarrassment...

[@classicnobody9872]

Same

[@bat8046]

I have to admit that in sixth grade I did ask to touch my friend's hair. eek. it was definitely not a proud moment

[@stickyb00ger63]

@@bat8046 it's ok just let that be your last time lol it's alright 😊

[@bat8046]

Ari Rose you can count on that. I was a dumb little kid.

[@zahrah8512]

Natalia Madison Some people don’t mind somee... majority hate it just always ask if you just go up in there then they will probably hate you

[@jeoneunthatbitch3897]

"you got so much attitude" *snaps fingers*

[@quwandathornton]

*neck roll* “MHM” They mock us. Steal from us. Shame us and also bring others up (Kardashian’s.) who so the same as us.

[@opangel4854]

Not all American black women speak "urban' either.

[@neneschannel4209]

Society is ignorant in so many levels. Say no to stereotypes!

[@bazbanter9329]

I have an online friend who is from New Jersey and she is black. She has told me how people judged and teased her about liking Harry Potter and stuff like that saying she acts "white". I was also dating a woman once who was black and she said "its so nice to find someone who finds black women attractive". I thought that was quite depressing cos every race has their own beautiful qualities. People need to stop stereotyping and defining people based on their ethnic origin. Media has a lot to blame for it. Like whatever you want and live your life how you want to. Be yourself which is a unique person.

[@bazbanter9329]

@Brian Morgan Bad experiences I guess or insecureties :/

[@maranaomi8235]

@Brian Morgan Because as blk women it will be said sometimes directly to you, or the backhanded compliment. AKA " Your pretty for a black girl".

[@tamiathompson3426]

@@maranaomi8235 Like why does it always have to be "You're pretty for a black girl" or " You're smart for a black girl" it's insulting and ignorant that knowledge and attractivness is based off of our skin tone.

[@liyanibernier5720]

Baz Banter93 hi you are handsome if that’s you on the profile picture ♥️

[@bazbanter9329]

@@liyanibernier5720 Thanks. Yes it is me lol

[@La2tu]

I love thier accents.... but most of this is relatable af. I am African American btw.

[@OILDHANS8841]

Can we get coffee sometime

[@ginihall1234]

Apparently the uk BW think they are different than us.

[@Fhalei]

​@@ginihall1234 Black women all over the world share many many experiences, and there's solidarity in that, but each group within the diaspora has its own variation of the culture. No one was trying to imply anything negative about US BW. It's just weird that British people's only point of reference for how to interact with UK BW is from observing Black folk in America. They don't even notice or realise that we aren't identical, even though we live in the same place. Tell me, wouldn't you find it weird if some random person said: "Where your ends at, fam?" or "Catch dat peng ting?", and expected you to know what that meant because Black Brits use those phrases, and your DNA should magically give you the answer or make you identify with it. Even on a micro level, there's a slight difference in culture between black folk e.g. in NY vs GA.

[@user-dv3kq3rm4h]

@@ginihall1234 That's because culturally they are. Try doing some research then come back.

[@ginihall1234]

simone rose I’m not saying culturally I’m saying as a black girl this is relatable across the board.

[@twincode_6743]

You’re Cute for a Darkskin girl 🤔... I hate that one

[@pliktley1]

Dark skinned girls with vividly coloured hair are seriously the most beautiful

[@turnitupwithnelly-2337]

"You don't sound black" I fudging hate that! Like even the black people say that and I just get so furious.

[@TheNicoliyah]

Same it's tedious!🙄

[@alakranzitagalarza2157]

I'm Mexican and been told I "sound" black 😂 I must be mix

[@TheNicoliyah]

@@alakranzitagalarza2157 Ha ha!!! 😂😂

[@hiitsme__-_-3760]

I'm latina and I get told I sound like a white girl lmao

[@schaltendinopatrick5364]

a

[@theelolicious9302]

the aggression one hit home. you could be as cool as a cucumber but they’ll just throw in something about you being angry and you’re standing there like... should i really show them what anger is? more times you just have to walk away from the situation and the stereotype

[@pootlovato8237]

My coworker does this to me! Its so infuriating, especially since im probably the softest one there. Im 19 and i still tear up when my parents scold me, what makes people think im going to be aggressive????

[@theelolicious9302]

poot lovato girl these people already made their minds up about us before we even speak. don’t let it get to you sis

[@Depplova81]

@@theelolicious9302 ^^^^ boom^^^

[@OfficialSnyd]

People are just ignorant. I first became friends with a black woman when I went to university (I'm white male) and I never took it as aggression, I actually admired her for being able to speak her mind. It's courageous and also allows you to work through problems more efficiently.

[@youruniquestyle]

TheElolicious I hate that!!!

[@kisharagriffin6526]

I love the fact that it’s all dark skin women on this platform

[@iainteverseen6723]

The thing I personally hate the MOST when people touch my HAIR

[@aesthete7227]

*ALL THE GIRLS IN THIS VIDEO ARE SO BEAUTIFUL. **#BLACKGIRLMAGIC*

[@sheetalkaur2693]

- ruunmina - true

[@southafricanizationofsociety20]

- ruunmina - They’re all guys...

[@Pika-Chu64]

Lol

[@yourugly7503]

@@southafricanizationofsociety20 you wish

[@DevotedDisciple-x]

Bro.. were we watching the same video?

[@bekyuu]

These women are all so beautiful, but gosh, that’s so disgusting the way people have treated them. I wish people would just stop.. it’s not okay to talk to anyone this way.

[@garrisonnichols807]

As a white guy I'm sorry that black women have to endure this in our society but I will say that black women are very sexy and some white guys take it too far because we don't even know when we are being racist when we're trying to complement you. If you're a black woman you probably already understand this. I'm glad there's videos like this on KZbin that will better help me understand my errors and help me in dating.

[@jolietamichal]

All American black people do not say, "Yaass or Slay." That is stereotypical culture, which has become popular culture. However, it is not a true picture of blackness in America.

[@suntruthg]

“To always have to double think.. before doing anything is EXHAUSTING” 👏🏾👏🏾

[@babyyodachelsea7034]

American black woman who doesn’t do this stuff and can relate to everything you say 🙋🏿‍♀️🙋🏿‍♀️

[@niayadepp5603]

At least I know that we're not the only ones who go through this 😧 nice to know because it gets annoying.💯

[@ginihall1234]

Leeber Gruber well they don’t have a court that hates them. Congrats

[@infinessia4019]

I will never understand why people would touch people’s hair without permission. Black or otherwise.

[@DystopiaRoadToUtopia]

they are all so freaking pretty wth

[@eklectiktoni]

Someone should take the compilation of all these "things not to say" videos and make it mandatory sensitivity training for employers.

[@vonettaspencer1116]

eklectiktoni there was a series done for mtv years ago too

[@aviianna]

It’s crazy that half of these stories happened at work 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@ah5721]

I couldn't agree more ! That's a great idea!

[@dtikvxcdgjbv7975]

In schools as well.

[@susansheldon2033]

Creating a list of microaggressions around diversity and this is one of the places we are using to creat the lists for our workplace.

[@cocobuttababy6048]

I hate it when I put on my "serious face" at work and then get told I looked angry...in my culture serious face means "concentration"....and no I'm not made out of stones...I have feelings too

[@jenifierce6517]

Juicy Jules ...yup and they’ll be like ‘why you so mad? Smile damn’ I usually hear that from black men

[@FakeAccents]

Yeah I get that too 🙄🙄 just working mate.

[@SleazyRider86]

I'm a white guy and I just get told I look like a serial killer🤷🏼‍♂️

[@EmauniSimone]

Facts went through this at Chipotle when I worked there like two years ago and all the staff was white except my manager who was half black and half white but leaned more to his white side and he would nitpick with me and constantly tell me I looked angry for just having a relaxed face and doing my job lol nowadays I rarely associate with people who aren’t black just because I’m tired of the racial micro aggressions and ignorance

[@onlythereal3233]

The Beer Meister General i-

[@gracebarnett5942]

No one is always strong. Black woman are people. Everybody is human and no one deserves to be dehumanised or have jokes made about them. Yes you are strong everyone is strong as a human but not all the time. If you don’t feel strong that is perfectly ok. We don’t need to g9 back to the stereotype of you’re not strong if you need help or if you show your tears or if you’re struggling. People struggle and black woman arent any different to any other human being. So why are they being treated differently? Stereotypes and people who believe it’s ok to base someone on what they look like or sound like make me so annoyed because a person isn’t just the exterior that everyone sees, they are also a person inside as well and humans have a personality each to their own. It’s 2019 come on people get over your self prejudiced and arrogant self and move on to the more important matters like equality or people being allowed their own opinions or global warming.

[@penis12327]

All so pretty

[@abdulaleem9970]

Black women are

[@franmcmahan9182]

My favorite(sarcasm).... "You're the whitest black girl I've ever met."

[@yeetqueen8729]

I litterally had that exact phrase said to me by a latino boy.

[@estherharvest5295]

The sad thing is I’ve even seen *black* *BOYS* do a lot of this?

[@josephbarthley]

Esther Harvest liar

[@ericabronxgirl2583]

I hear from black men, "you're pretty for a darkskin woman ". What an underhanded slap in the face comment...ugh.

[@abja101]

They may get a double dose of tearing shit up.

[@obitouchiha4739]

lmao I'm a black boy, why would I be saying stuff like that to my own kind?

[@the.writer.321]

@Nzila Kongo no its not

[@abagoffrogsandeggshellswit8031]

Dude, they’re so pretty!! Love these videos, helps me see things from so many points of view and it’s eye opening!!!💕💕

[@alexar1533]

I hate when people say “the black in me almost came out” or “theres a mad black women in me” 😐

[@jarmainharrell7084]

Thank you so much for educating us. I feel like as a black man, I should already know all of these stereotypes because I have a black mother, aunts, sisters and cousins but some of these stereotypes surprised me.

[@saeon4427]

U don't know , but you black men expect black women to know everything bout u and listen to ur problems

[@Bayo106]

@@saeon4427 stop generalizing; you sound dumb.

[@inphanta]

@@saeon4427 I bet you eagerly scrolled through the comments looming for a black man to have a go at, didn't you? You seem the type...

[@emmanuelaadebisi5743]

👏🏾

[@inphanta]

Imani Alexander 🙄

[@nobuhlemarima6259]

I’ve watched this about 3000 times, too relatable

[@doirocean2144]

I’m a white ginger girl but people used to wanna touch my hair when I was younger too case it was long and I was so confused why ppl were fascinated by it

[@astoldbyjada367]

I remember someone told me I was smart for a black girl. Like umm can you not Oh and whenever I listened to Lana Del Rey they give me the you don’t listen to rap music. Or when people say they are scared of me because I look aggressive. But hey if you fear me that doesn’t really bother me.

[@Rosie-oo5nw]

ANOTHER BLACK PERSON WHO LISTENS TO LANA DEL REY AND NOT RAP MUSIC I LOVE YOU ALREADY

[@astoldbyjada367]

Rosiellee Belle we are lowkey hard to find lol

[@astoldbyjada367]

Solutionist ' you took it out of context, I personally meant that it’s hard to find another person who listens to Lana period. I can see what you meant, but you missed the point you were tryna make lol

[@Elle-ml6ij]

You do know Lana Del Ray is a racist right🙄

[@astoldbyjada367]

Leah and you see this was ten months ago right?😐

[@cortneehodges1383]

"You're sooo pretty for a black girl...i mean I'm not usually attracted to black girls...but you're not like, BLACK black..." 😒😔

[@eklectiktoni]

OMG yes! I hate that. It's worse than the usual "you're pretty for a black girl".

[@xosilverwingxo]

“I even twerk on the bus home” 🤣😂 Omg but yes, that is annoying!

[@elizamcclain207]

"I twerk to work, I even twerk on the bus home." Omg. Lmfao 🤣🤣🤣 I can't!

[@nope5709]

“Do you know how to do edges??” Excuse me so because I’m black I have to know how to do edges?

[@pukapuka_]

The_ Lonely_club seriously. and not all black girls have edges. it’s not something mandatory lol

[@davidstyles1648]

Yep

[@tomfrazier1103]

Of what?

[@zahrah8512]

A K That’s just racist though

[@dayoariyo8261]

Some people might just ask anyone if they know cause they need help with styling edges and stuff but others just ask only black people right and it’s so annoying

[@andreaargueta9039]

"Can your mom twerk?🙄" 😂😂😂

[@nehadhurwey503]

I was looking for this ...😂😂😂😂

[@Introvertsan]

Oh my gosh that's awful and weird

[@mldnmiakhel2332]

Mum *

[@stickyb00ger63]

that's such a cringy and stupid thing to ask like WHY IN THE WORLD WOULD YOU ASK THAT????? ANSWER THAT!!!!!

[@wildcatste]

To be a Black woman is for everyone to assume that you are being aggressive when you are going out of your way to speak as calmly and softly as possible, like you're trying to sooth a defensive animal.

[@jessicamarie6448]

Universe Says Your comment is just made up of a bunch of assumptions, nothing to add to the conversation

[@khuduran27]

“Oh my god is your hair real or is a wig, wait no I know...... Its a wig isn’t it” “Are you or your parents from Africa.”

[@icermanz]

It's 2019 and the sad reality is we have this video in existence and people do actually say these things and think nothing of it. Shocking!

[@JETJOOBOY]

Everybody gets annoying and rude things said to them... Do we all get a video made to protect us? Call me when "Things not to say to White Taxi Drivers with Spectacles" has been made..

[@bbfunky1]

JETJOOBOY You honestly have to stop and ask yourself why you are mad that the BBC made a video about this. These are things that annoy these people, many can relate and others can sympathise. It’s all light hearted at the end of the day. Go be happy, go make that video about white taxi drivers or suggest it, what’s stopping you???

[@emanatingf]

@Warrior-of -the-sea Exactly

[@lovely0989]

“Black is an accent?” I love that! I get that all the time. Like wtf am I supposed to sound like?

[@juratory8876]

It irks me when non-Black people, specifically white people, call us "ghetto" or "ratchet" for using Ebonics/AAVE, but then they turn around and use it themselves like they didn't just insult us for it. Also, can we talk about how all of the women are gorgeous? ❤️

[@jamie_p0758]

Your only saying they are beautiful because there black

[@Lol-rn6uv]

@@jamie_p0758 no

[@jamie_p0758]

@@Lol-rn6uv literally every black person is called beautiful in the comments, notice how they are never about white people

[@Lol-rn6uv]

@@jamie_p0758 I call everyone beautiful because everyone is beautiful

[@dafyddllewellyn528]

I personally think black women are beautiful, and appreciate their friendliness and openness. Conversation s I have had with black ladies are special, in fact when I go to an event I will look deliberately to sit down next to a black lady to have a conversation, I find black people in general more approachable and more open to talk to, years ago went to a church in Edinburgh , and there were a lot of black people there and I thoroughly enjoyed their fellowship, and conversation , the prayer time was fantastic less formalistic and open to Christ, just always had far more positive communication with black people. So for all the black people out there, I appreciate you.

[@fish7860]

Thank you!

[@yasminaburger1957]

Dafydd Llewellyn that’s being racist to other ethnicities

[@joanne_adne8808]

Awww you're so sweet OMG 😭❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@stinameaner]

❤️❤️❤️God bless you

[@varyiaverner]

Fluffythebunny Floof ball how is that being racist he/she is giving a compliment

[@frini3324]

I'm not black but I can relate to the hair touching. If you have curly hair people just won't leave your head alone.

[@carolmeyer2822]

No they don't. I had a black supervisor who would come up behind me, bounce my curly bun and say, girl what you got in you. I'd tell her, I don't know I'm a mutt.

[@rebeccaconklin1679]

I've never had a child, but I'm appalled at how many people think it's okay to touch a stranger's baby bump! We need to none of us be touching others anywhere on their person without express permission. I mean, why do people do this? Are we all just starved for human touch? Maybe if we went back to shaking hands with everyone we meet, we'd stop taking unfair advantage of people with less social power.

[@oswalcarranza6972]

I am latina and I have long but very curly hair and people always ask me to touch and some ppl would even touch it without me knowing or my permission and its annoying . like I need personal space I dont like it when people touch my hair all the time.😢

[@ravenscarlettanis13]

Omg I’m not even black and having people touch my hair is so annoying. My dad does it sometimes, but not maliciously, but it still provokes me. Is this bc of my autism? Maybe…

[@Nemeraton45]

Love my wife, she is black and the most Beautiful woman i have ever seen!

[@Incognito-jl3jk]

You ain’t got no black wife shut up.

[@obitouchiha4739]

@@Incognito-jl3jk are you a black woman?

[@Incognito-jl3jk]

Obito Uchiha are you a Uchiha?

[@obitouchiha4739]

@@Incognito-jl3jk This is just an alias.

[@Incognito-jl3jk]

@@obitouchiha4739 Sounds personal.

[@lala_818]

Why does this innocent video have so many dislikes 😒😒

[@dannyb2519]

You don’t sound black.... “Because black is an accent....?!” Had me rolling😅😭😭 3:44

[@Ben-cx5qp]

Black people generally sound different though. What's your point

[@awkwardomelette7316]

It is an accent

[@Mark-yb1sp]

Awkward Omelette It’s not so much an accent as it is laziness in speaking English.

[@shamikamoses6326]

It's really just sad how we have to explain ourselves

[@itchybellend5734]

Shamika Moses that's life, perhaps you should see how a Asian in a burka gets treated and you'll realise there's alot more people out there with issues

[@AtheneHolder]

All. The. Freakin. Time.

[@ifyoudontlikesomethingthen1186]

Shut up

[@domingas.teca0695]

@@ifyoudontlikesomethingthen1186 what's your problem dude, your mom is not black?

[@domingas.teca0695]

Exactly

[@ashleessingingsensations7294]

I'm mixed (black and white) and my heart breaks for these women. All women, regardless of their race, should all be treated equally. But sadly because of today's society, that's not the case

[@Abby-yj9zh]

same here. I'm mixed and I don't understand the level of disrespect that black women receive on the daily.

[@loliwinxedits6095]

"Your not acting black, your trying to personify a black stereotype" *some famous person*

[@olbiomoiros]

The sad thing is that people are prejudiced without realising it.

[@saeon4427]

I say that all the time

[@LIVEINPEACE2023]

I think it’s ignorance not prejudice.

[@fanbase4226]

The aggressive statement gets me every time. Like someone will say something hurtful and then when I cry my voice gets pitchy like I don't even want to say louder, but my voice cracks. And they'll be like "Why are you so aggressive?" It's like you can't even reply after that without seeming like you are being aggressive.

[@saeon4427]

Don't listen to them when they ask u that ,ask them why are they bully

[@laman8914]

This one was professionally funny. We like how they downplayed those stereotypes with sarcasm.

[@caslikes]

I don't know if it's just because finnish people tend to be kind of timid (except when drunk) but I would never ever try to touch someone's hair??? Like ????? Why would you touch strangers ???

[@sarahmarciano428]

“This is dehumanizing.” Yes, it is 😂

[@sixbacons1993]

I went to a job interview and people genuinely didn't think I was who I am. "Wow you look nothing like what you sounded like on the phone, you're very well spoken "... thanks ?

[@Depplova81]

"Thanks, so are you..* *sweet smile* I've answered back with that a few times. If they get offended, then you know for sure they were being offensive. Y'know? Why, take offense if I mirror back to you what you did/said, if it was coming from a positive place? It works everytime. Lol And if they're honest folk (we all say stupid stuff at some juncture) it'll open up a dialogue about it.

[@Depplova81]

@@WhizkeyGamer That's just somebody trying to kick off. *shrugs* As you can see, I didn't entertain it. Pay it no mind x

[@musa5403]

This is the only video from this series that I like, I relate to every instance they brought up fereal.

[@hinatababe97]

Omg the twerk question is so weird. I’ve def been asked before 💀💀😭

[@Glambaeofficial]

Everything you just said is exactly my life in China. The hair is like a magnet, in the middle of a work meeting "wow, you changed your hair. Is it yours?" "How do you attach it?"...... Can we settle for a "You look good, how are you?"

[@josealexi5141]

so it's not just white people? good to hear.

[@amym976]

ughhhhhh this must be so annoying to deal with regularly and then even when being honest in certain situations being called "aggressive", can't bloody win!

[@itchybellend5734]

This is all 1 big cry, people of all races and genders face issues it's not just black women. These black women should try living like a Asian Muslim for a week and see how it is for them.