Things Not To Say To Someone Of Mixed Race

From being treated as a rare, exotic creature, to being asked which side of your heritage you'd pick if you had to.
Here are just a few preconceptions mixed-race people have to deal with, along with a few of the best things about being dual heritage.
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[@jessica_zziwa]

I'm mixed. My mom's white and my dad's black and I'm very dark and my hair is very kinky. I've had people say that I got the bad genes since I look more African. It's honestly horrible

[@mojiokedara365]

Gurlllllllll, I don't even know you but I'm getting angry for you 😂. Shiet wish i could suxkerpunch the people that said that. I hope that you love yourself and don't let such comments bother you😊

[@HH-bz6me]

That's horrible to say and remember mother nature makes no mistakes!

[@bbfunky1]

I hope it is not your family saying that.

[@Sideshyt831]

Jessica Zziwa Same here!!!!

[@Sideshyt831]

Jessica Zziwa My brother and sisters are very light-skinned and I’ve been asked “Are you sure you weren’t adopted?”

[@ingridjansson4284]

shout out to all the mixed race folk who dont look mixed race. youre identity is still valid.

[@kittykatgirl100]

Ingrid Jansson I'm half white half Mexican and everyone I know thinks I'm full white because I'm light skinned. It makes me pissed that half of my racial identity is being erased.

[@PHlophe]

Auntie Sam, can we stop pretending mexican is a race ? because it ain't mexicans are mestizo , essentially a mestizo paired with a white person , means that person is mostly white ( whether that person is white looking or not ). so you are here trying to deceive us.

[@olivercetus6956]

Lol my mom's black and my dad is white but I came out looking middle eastern

[@rohhsk5560]

Sam Smith same! I'm half white half Mexican and ppl think I'm white because of my skin but everything else looks mexican

[@enbyious8715]

Ingrid Jansson Thank you ( >∆

[@yllekluap]

"Mixed race babies aren't just for Christmas what the fuck do you think this is" I am deceased

[@alexsmith3671]

no you are not you are alive and well -_-

[@ewwwwwwwwwwwwwww]

alex smith gtfo, you ruined it.

[@007Fusiion]

I'll make mine on Christmas Eve this year.

[@MixedRogueKhorri]

I am literally adding that to my cachet

[@Aegor-Rivers]

Why would they be?

[@chichan4461]

"Please select ONE of the following races" *sweating intensifies*

[@ampotato076]

I always pick "other" 😂

[@oxicontin]

YESSS I HAD THAT ON A TEST AND I WAS LIKE *raises hand* "what do i put here?" Teacher :"your race duh" Me :ummm Teacher fill it in ! Me: .... My friend "shes mixed" Me :yeah Teacher : just dont answer it ok

[@theautistic.teacher]

@@ampotato076 same lol

[@203.nathanielallen5]

I can relate to it🤦🏽‍♂️

[@chichan4461]

@Sweetbutter Cupcakes omg I never knew about that :0 I will definitely read on that.

[@LittleMissDeeDee]

I've always wondered how mixed race people felt about being fetishised. My partner is mixed race and although he understand why this is offensive, it's never bothered him. I however always found it weird how both black and white people talk about mixed race children like they're a new exclusive handbag.

[@nikitita13]

naturallybronzed xo I think fetishization of mixed race people isn't common everywhere. In countries where being mixed is the norm like the hispanic carribean countries, PR, DR,Cuba... it isn't a thing. Cus people are soo mixed it seems stupid to fetishize.What you do get is colorism being lighter skinned and having light eyes

[@LittleMissDeeDee]

Yvonne Rodriguez I do think it is a thing in Hispanic countries only because mixed race people that have "blacker" features aka kinky hair, thicker lips, dark skin are usually treated differently to those who are more in between or have features leaning towards a more European standard. For example, the mixed race woman in the green jumper would get treated differently from the mixed race guy with dark skin and kinky hair.

[@nikitita13]

That's why I mentioned colorism. In PR, where I'm from there was a huge push to whiten the race. I myself am mixed but with kinky 4A hair. I don't get fetishized even though I'm lighter skinned or have more caucasian facial features. However fetishization here if it does happen is all about the hair. You can de dark as night as long is the hair is sitting right. That is the ultimate beauty standard by far. But I dont see white people ever saying i want mixed race kids. Black passing women don't neccesarily date white or white passing men for their genes. It is hard to explain or even conceive if you haven't grown up around it. I personally don't think of myself for example as being in interracial relationship even though my bf is white( for all I know his great grandma could be black idk). I dont think of our future children as mixed babies, just puertorican babies. My family has so many different shades that being mixed is just the norm.You dont think about being mixed or mixing consciously. Race issues here are different. But yeah colorism is a thing. You will still see people saying" pa negro yo" which basically means i'm already black and that is all the blackness I need in my life. Lol. It is messed up. Maybe we disagree on the fetishization part because here the people who are consciously dating outside their race are trying to lighten their blood line.

[@AshleyLaGata]

naturallybronzed xo the difference is in PR almost every is some percentage of black, that's why she said colorism. it's definitely a version of self hate where people don't want to have the black part of them or their future children be too visible. But people in PR know that their music, food, and culture are heavily influenced by the blackness in their bloodline. Most people are proud of their blackness unless its the visible traits like hair. And in PR a light skinned green eyed girl with straight hair dating a darker skinned brown eyed boy with thick hair isn't considered mixed race even tho to American or British eyes it would be.

[@editingwithmiyah1013]

Heinz57Human So do I. I'm mixed and when I tell people that they don't believe me and it's so annoying because I don't meet the standards of being mixed. I'm mixed with uncommon races together.

[@mavisrahwa]

"where are you from?" -"I'm from here. I'm German." "But where are you reeaallly from?" -"from Germany" "you know what I meeean come on" -"just ask what u wanna know" "wHy aRe YOu BLacK" -"My mom's German, my dad's from Eritrea" ... ... ... "where's that"

[@unicorn1655]

Omg,das passiert einfach IMMER

[@hyeshu]

One Bias Six Wreckers Omg I’m half Eritrean and half Ethiopian!!! My dad is Eritrean and my mom is Ethiopian

[@hyeshu]

Victor Stone Selam

[@hyeshu]

Elsa Haile same lol

[@hashly8521]

Worse part is, everyone asks this question. Everyone.

[@je8479]

I hate it when people think I’m adopted because I have a dark skin mum. Like no she is my REAL mother and I love her to bits 🤦🏽‍♀️❤️

[@ZZ-xi9dp]

Lol I relate I look full black and everyone asked who my mom is. Assuming I'm adopted

[@sunnyskies489]

Same except my mom looks white but she's mixed with white and Puerto Rican and I look idk I look more black I guess

[@connieharrison6077]

Could have said “biological mother” instead of real ..... that makes it seem like kids who are adopted don’t have their real mother with them

[@ComfySunday]

bro same will happen to me but with my white mom. when i'm with my black dad i never get asked are you adopted

[@AnonymousLdn]

lol same my mom black asf

[@LightninGamesOfficial]

Some people in these comments don't know the difference between Race, Ethnicity and Nationality

[@reuben8648]

Sorry honestly please tell me. I’m confused.

[@LangBellsChannel]

@@reuben8648 Nationality is country of birth, and ethnicity is heritage. Example: An immigrant from Italy has a child in America. That kids ethnicity is Italian, race is white and nationality is American.

[@sumimaind]

@@LangBellsChannel White is not a race, its a skin colour!

[@destinyjourdan8945]

@@LangBellsChannel their race is roman and latin.

[@Kate-fi4uj]

LangBellsChannel yeah but most of us mixed people don’t know everything about us. Like I’m white (Norwegian, tiny bit of French, German) then I am Mexican (idk if I’m Mexican or if im Hispanic, Latina, Etc), then I’m Native American (Shoshone) and a a tiny bit of Cherokee. So can you help me?

[@emmalindwall702]

I hate when people tell me "you have to choose a side" and then if you do choose a side everyone tells you "oh no you're not dark/white enough" it's so demeaning and people don't understand

[@astrellax11]

THANK YOU! It's so hard for us to know our place. I've found a lot of mixed people tend to struggle with feeling lost or disconnected because they have a hard time finding their tribe, so to speak. On the bright side, I think being mixed helps us to understand others better.

[@ToLovelyJesus]

I'm very sorry that you have endured that. You don't have to pick a side. You are you.

[@sumimaind]

The same happens to me! One close friend of mine decided from one day to another that I have to identify as black otherwise I'm being racist and I'm denying my blackness. The problem is that I'm not one OR another. Both my parents are mixed and if we go reaaally deep in the past I have ancestry in Europe, Africa, Arabic countries, and Native South America. How can I pick and choose just one thing? Usually, I just say I'm Latin American because in Latin America we are a mix of all of that, but it is really annoying when people say you have to pick and choose a side of the fence and when you don't they look at you like as if you have a problem or you are not accepting yourself. Well... I am accepting myself and that's why I am not choosing one side. That's not how nature works...

[@naturalwalker5407]

My only solution to this is artificial insemination so I can avoid the BS of racist attitudes I'm capable to showing compassion tho some may not notice

[@thedeaforc]

Same here. Your not native/white enough. How can you have blond hair and Asian green eyes.

[@moochikyuu]

Both of my parents are mixed and I am child with a bunch of ethnicity-

[@MsDimps24]

glossysunmin same

[@sumimaind]

You just described a big part of the population of Latin America!

[@londondyen7010]

Same

[@jen5005]

Same!

[@PixiieGrotto]

Same

[@Baylaruse]

I'm mixed race and I really like when people ask me what my ethnicity is. Being shown interest into what my ethnic background is rather than just assuming is nice!

[@deefraser9734]

Sage Mirei your not mixed race ur white gosh

[@Tk-wl9km]

Sage Mirei I’m Japanese and black and the other black people at my school tell me to stop acting black and when I went to go visit my cousins in japan I hung out with them and one of their friends said i was adopted cuz I didn’t look like my cousin so I had to explain I was a halfu

[@Baylaruse]

+Jykeyl Patterson That must be rough, I'm sorry. When I'm with just my mom people sometimes assume I'm adopted too, because she has red hair and blue eyes.

[@niccolom4556]

You may be mixed race but you're mainly one culture; the dominant one. Usually the minority side of you gets assimilated e.g. you can't speak that minority language anymore and can't pass it to your children.

[@paquitaelmaestro1576]

Sage Mirei i totally agree with you, people are curious and they ask questions because they are trying to get to know you.

[@Tomski_19]

"Where are you from?" "London" "No but where are you really from?" "...London" "No but where are you from originally?" COME ON NOW

[@Spinpabz]

Tomski_19 I get that soooooo much 😂

[@daspicybirb9356]

Tomski_19 That gets me so much!!!

[@user-vdjxbwkskbc]

Sameee

[@ampotato076]

Yes!!!! I get that literally every day! I alway say like you know the area that I live in England (not gonna disclose that but you get it) then if they ask again I say the specific village then the street I live on and then if they still asking I say my mum's womb 😂

[@savagethepunisher]

I get this too one of my workers singles me out because of it I don't get this from my mum's side witch are Indians but I get shit from my dad's race witch is black shame I can't see eye to eye with my dad's race but I can with my mum's but it's difficult

[@tyresewilliams7009]

I'm not a Twix, i shouldn't be forced to "pick a side".

[@Maya-bf5st]

Tyrese Williams 😂 I'm going to use that one

[@jaysintonus1143]

blame your parents

[@brandonbahret5632]

I've never personally been asked to "pick a side." Though I get the impression this stems from society's unhealthy fixation on racial-identity. medium.com/@brandonbahret/why-we-must-resist-racial-identity-cd762c191c97

[@kookiestimberlands6425]

You are the best point blank

[@kookiestimberlands6425]

jay sintonus what are you on about? What did he say about racism? He was talking about people making people who are mixed feel like they have to be one race or the other when they're both. And if a doctor is asking for your race then giving them an accurate description of what your race is in detail would probably help them help you more then you saying you black or white when you both scientifically.

[@sebgrant1020]

I've had people say ' stop acting white' and then later the same guy say ' you're not black ' just gtfo I'll act however tf I want

[@akoshkosh460]

Blue and White Skittles I'm mixed and people consider more on the black side o have been accepted

[@australiumbacon5598]

Blue and White Skittles How does one even "act white" or "act black"? Are people seriously assigning personality traits to specific skin tones? That's ridiculous and stereotypical.

[@niccolom4556]

well if you're not conscious of it, you'll act certain ways without even thinking of it or knowing. If you're not conscious, you're more likely to "prefer" White people and continue on your assimilation journey into Whiteness. You'll quickly lose the "Black" side of you.

[@avatarkyoshi1693]

Blue and White Skittles Same. I am mix I get that alot.

[@Eniez13]

I hate this, happens a lot. What are we suppose to be?

[@British_Cocoa]

Shout out to all the mixed race people . You are what you are and should be respected for embracing your mixed heritage and not choosing a side . Love black girl 🥰

[@oddrey4888]

omg that made me cry

[@teamari1536]

You’re super gorgeous btw ❤️

[@matheuslanerre2895]

@@oddrey4888 How?

[@onlyplayaseattacoswiththei9433]

I love that , but I'm different. I'm mixed , born & raised in Philly & I was always taught/told that I'm just black. I NEVER knew a white person besides my mom & teachers until I got to h/s. My dad always said "you are what the father is" I never questioned it or wanted too. I think the biggest benefit that I get from being mixed is that it's my duty to love BOTH of my races. Whether my ppl on either side except me or not I HAVE TO love them. Can't pick your family or your color. But its cool bcuz I NEVER met a woman of any color who had a problem with me. Women have good taste 😊

[@onlyplayaseattacoswiththei9433]

PS love you to girl😉🌷💯

[@leticiasgroppo]

Is the concept of mixed race that strange in Europe? In Brazil we just call it "people". Everyone is mixed in some way.

[@livelife5947]

Leba Groppo no it's not strange in Europe, mixed race people are EVERYWHERE in Europe & no-one cares, these people are totally over reacting

[@leticiasgroppo]

Tina Marie oh, ok! that makes more sense.

[@nikitita13]

Leba Groppo I'm Puerto Rican so I'm already mixed and mixed raced people are basically the whole population. But since Europe is a more homoegenous society, although they have immigrants, it's much more bizarre for them to see people who don't look as homogenous racially as they are.

[@lacksofimagination7732]

Leba Groppo I'm from Italy and mixed-race and people are definitely weirded out by my looks and ask me where I'm from all the time. but Italy is a super white country so 😅 I've had people ask me where I'm from and then when I replied with: "Milan" they were like: "you don't look like it". like I'm sorry but what? haha

[@aniraminom]

Leba Groppo it's an American thing but in Brazil we do have that though. I've experienced that

[@ethanchang7802]

I’m an Asian Native American European African Polynesian. Any document: Choose one race Me: ...

[@olivercetus6956]

I'd pick all of them if I were you

[@emmanuelaadebisi5743]

Oop

[@seiya-chon]

Oh, I didn't know there were cases more confused than mine...

[@Crayolapup]

They need to take that off applications. Its irrelevant to the job

[@meganc1833]

@@Remember_the_Time black is a race and Hispanic is an ethnicity, I'm black and white as my race and Hispanic as my ethnicity

[@WRECKALIENS]

im mixed and honestly it's not that deep

[@pharastar1]

WRECK ALIENS everyone has different experiences!

[@WRECKALIENS]

pharastar1 ive had people tell me most of this stuff and i dont really care😂

[@deenigeechtesjohn2546]

WRECK ALIENS I know right XD I'm mixed as well

[@aiwxo]

WRECK ALIENS SAME!!!

[@aiwxo]

squid lord I've had almost all of these irritating things said to me. 😐

[@Bennie_Xt.]

Person: if you had a choice what would you pick? Me: beating you up

[@deadkings4035]

“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” This is a very old British proverb, meaning that words taken from the mouths of others shouldn’t have any effect on you and your mental state. Violence should be the only personal factor that should effect you. By getting offended by these petty and ignorant ideals and concepts (words), doesn’t it prove you are either weak-willed or easily moved. The world is changed by people’s actions and behaviour, and people tend to do this (in my experience) as a way to demean others and relieve themselves of their own inadequately. By paying heed and letting yourself be effected aren’t you just feuling them, thus increasing it’s frequently. Unlike yourselves, I have broken through this barrier, and this isn’t used as a subject of ridicule by my surroundings bullies anymore

[@ahbcd5442]

Good

[@Spinpabz]

Lol

[@r-boy9677]

I'd choose black

[@chichan4461]

"Which hand you wanna catch? This hand 🤜 or this hand 🤛?"

[@kxy4089]

im half filipina and half black and the number one question im asked that bothers me is "what are you?"

[@MerciX1001]

Kayla Is Krazy why does that bother you hun? Humans are curious beings. When I see a mixed race person I don't jump to ask them questions but if after the basic conversations I do like to ask ' if you don't mind me asking where are you from '.

[@kxy4089]

claire lola well, the way you ask it wouldn't bother me lol. it's not even being asked that bothers me, because I understand that people aren't mind readers. it's just how people ask. like no one has ever asked me as politely as you worded it lol

[@MerciX1001]

Kayla Is Krazy oh I see, I guess that can be very annoying. Do you ever say one ethnicity more then the other sometimes just out of laziness lol. Also do you feel more connected with one ethnicity more ?

[@yugaotsunami8109]

That's one beautiful mix

[@kxy4089]

claire lola not really lol, I always tell exactly what ethnicities and i don't really feel more connected to one over the other

[@kylirayne]

I'm mixed but a lot of people say I'm not bc I'm not mixed with black. It's called "mixed" for a reason.

[@AnaBanana126]

kyli rayne korenek I have no idea what to call myself because my dad is Puerto Rican and my mom is white ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[@jch3775]

Ana Rivera my daughters are Puerto Rican (me) American and my husband is white (British) I dread the questions they ask but from a mother point I used to feel very self conscious when I was out with them because they were very white pale babies and always feared people wouldn't think I was there mom 😕

[@kenedinewport7602]

kyli rayne korenek those people are dumb

[@kalieshavargas1698]

kyli rayne you're mixed if your parents are two different races.

[@ammiiel]

Ana Rivera You didn’t state your mum’s race, but her ethnicity.

[@jeifero5584]

"YOoUrE So EXotIC" "WhAT aRe yOU?" "ArE YoU aDopTeD?" "YouRe NoT BLacK enoUgH!" Common things I've been told growing up.😤😤

[@Secular11.567]

Feels

[@deadkings4035]

“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” This is a very old British proverb, meaning that words taken from the mouths of others shouldn’t have any effect on you and your mental state. Violence should be the only personal factor that should effect you. By getting offended by these petty and ignorant ideals and concepts (words), doesn’t it prove you are either weak-willed or easily moved. The world is changed by people’s actions and behaviour, and people tend to do this (in my experience) as a way to demean others and relieve themselves of their own inadequately. By paying heed and letting yourself be effected aren’t you just feuling them, thus increasing it’s frequently. Unlike yourselves, I have broken through this barrier, and this isn’t used as a subject of ridicule by my surroundings bullies anymore

[@ahbcd5442]

Feels

[@jacindafletcher4840]

Jei Fero not black enough?? tf is there a scale? are they bringing back those paper bag tests????!!!

[@chichan4461]

Fr tho. Boutta pop someome.

[@MrAntiSellOut]

"You are what your father is" happens to be something you shouldn't even say to any mixed race individuals

[@maliciouskiss012]

MrAntiSellOut thank you

[@papileche8686]

MrAntiSellOut my family always told me this yet I don’t look black at all

[@Yasemin_Sky]

Omg! I get that one a lot. 😑

[@nikkieke2134]

That’s a Nigerian thing. Our identity is not based on race, it based on regional culture. As a kid you take your father last name, and claim his culture, these days though ppl just say they from where their mom and dad are from.

[@jacindafletcher4840]

Nikki Eke and can we just arrange a meeting where we tell everyone who can't seem to understand that black people aren't ALL african and white people can be african too??

[@skylerdumas8331]

Way back in middle school , I had one of my friends (who didn't know that I'm mixed race) say "I don't think people from different races should get married or mix their races together. It's just not right." I was like, "gurl, mom is white my dad is black. I am mixed race." Awkward for her lol. Later in high school I had a white boy at my art table talk to our group saying, "you know, I don't think opposites attract. I don't think I could ever be attracted to a black girl, no offense" (he says this while I'm sitting right across from him) i could only glare at him. I didn't say at the time cuz I was a scared freshman but buddy, honestly, just because you personally think so doesn't make it fact. My mom is white, my father is back. My sister is mixed and she's dating a white guy. My other sister is mixed and she married a mixed Mexican-white guy. They all love and are attracted to one another. We are all human. But come in all different shapes, sizes and colors and that's ok.

[@PHlophe]

i think you are one of our undercover agents out there. They throw racist shit at you not knowing your background. I am playing undercover cop on the other skin tone spectrum. I have a black partner . to add t my comment earlier i was told by a few white men that they had never seen biracials as dark as my eldest son , ever. I never pretend to be white , never brought that up and i curved them on race issues. I straight up told them , they can't be biracial because I am half black meself lol!. They were hella confused ha ha ha.

[@yasminball3925]

Skyler Dumas I'm Sorry but having a racial preference DOESNT make you racist... also, Mexicans aren't white.

[@Aegor-Rivers]

The guy only said his opinion. You are allowed to date your race as well (it is not illegal yet)

[@MRuby-qb9bd]

Yasmin Ball some Mexicans are in fact, white. White Hispanic is a thing.

[@sarahlorenz8298]

Well who i´m considering my friend is just bases on the personality but when you are dating you want someone with a great personality AND is attraktiv(for you, in your eyes) and not every "race" is attraktiv for me, i dont choose that. you cant control your hormones when it comes to stuff like that. When your are an Asian Women who loves a Black man and he loves you back, thats great! If you are a White Man who loves a White Woman, thats great! dont judge either way..

[@cerezabian]

'Wait, where are you from?' 'Chile' 'But you don't look Mexican'

[@polinaracheeva9163]

In Russia they were surprised why my Chilean boyfriend is not a mulato

[@bar_pas]

Many people think Latino is a race 😩😂

[@polinaracheeva9163]

@@bar_pas depends which Latino. Most of them are descendants of Spaniards and Portuguese, which are a Latin subgroup of Europeans. Though if there was mixing with natives, then it is mestizo...or with anyone else, like Asians or Africans. Yet, there are a lot of Caucasian whites who have very dark hair, bronze or olive skin and dark eyes

[@Jobe-13]

BittersweetVirtues 😂

[@sumimaind]

@@bar_pas Latino is an ethnicity not a race.

[@ef5643]

I'm mixed race, my mums English and my dad was Indian but I'm super pale and everyone's always like "wait but your too pale to be mixed race" like ughhh sorry let me just change my skin colour so I can fit your standards 😂💗👑🌸

[@najminajay]

Evangeline Page omg girl i bout died

[@jeraht1613]

Omg same my father is from Suriname and my mother from the netherlands and i'm paler than my 100% white friends lmao

[@naomimonks6963]

This reply alllll day! Lol! 'He cant be your dad your too white' Am i? Or is he maybe too dark? Haha. Please, provide me with a colour chart of 'standards' so i can go adjust my melanin levels 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️👌😆☺️ i feel your pain evangeline, lol.

[@PHlophe]

My handsome eldest son is dark complected like Viola davis. I am mixed race and for all intent and purpose 99% of people think I am white. When I came to collect my kid at school, first time, nobody believed me . I stunned everyone when i mentioned that my son has a birth mark on his left shoulder ( I have the exact same one except mine is pale pink). I could tell they were waiting for me to leave the place so they can run their genetic mathematics.

[@sinaitome8764]

Mine is the complete opposite my dad is mixed with white,black,and Native American and my mom is black and Native American. My dad is light skin my mom is darkskin so my siblings and i came out a brown/caramel color and when I tell people I’m multicultural/racial they think I’m lying we had a civil war project and I was made fun of and called a redskin and I wasn’t gonna be a house slave because I would be too dark. It hurt especially because I’m not majority white because people think to be mixed you have to be white and something. Mixed people come in all shades not just one.

[@inphanta]

"If you had to pick a side, which would it be?" WTF??

[@megazoned3973]

inphanta real question. Some kids grow up struggling with identity and have asked themselves this very question.

[@Verydemureverycutesie]

Even as a dark skinned black girl, I still feel like I have to prove my “blackness” even though im not mixed, because of the way I speak and act, like over the phone I don’t “sound” black, can’t cook That well or dance and it’s like those little things are what apparently proves your a black girl to some people and my black friends are always teasing me any time I interact with my white friends or white people in general saying they’re “my people” I’ve gotten called Oreo so many times and it’s so stupid, mixed people must get it 10 times worst #smh y’all we are all beautiful just chill😅

[@kianaw.5091]

Gae Elle ❤️❤️❤️

[@planetpsyche1722]

It’s the same story for me but I’m Mexican. I have white skin and monolids. I get told by everybody especially my family that I’m not “Mexican enough”. It’s a struggle.

[@ellaelle1286]

I respect u

[@lorettalynndavis9695]

Wow, baby girl. I hear ya but you got a lot to learn about yourself so you can realize that you are THE MOST beautiful because you are *pure.* No offense against mixed race people but I think the pure heritage and untouched bloodline is the most beautiful and real. Whether black or white I think it's the way it supposed to be. you are what gave birth to all of this...to civilization! There would be no 'them" without you beautiful Black woman. Mixed race people wouldn't even get a 2nd look if they were not *mixed with Black.* So love yourself, please! For all of us and your/our future children's sake!

[@rprattify]

Gae Elle omg I found my twin 😭you’re describing my life

[@gerrysuares330]

I get this one Me: I’m mixed race Friend: oh me too Me: oh which races Friend: English and American ...

[@deadkings4035]

He’s still mixed race. Could he be Native American? Also, in both being part English and American has nothing to do with race but ethnicity. On the other hand, both England and America are melting pots of so many different ethnicities so he is still mixed. Lmao

[@jacindafletcher4840]

Dead Kings god i hate this it's so confusing! i can't even tell if they're being stupid or i am anymore

[@shutupanya]

😤

[@allisa6010]

Dead Kings English is a language not a race lmao

[@fankjkxx]

Dead Kings English and American are not races so he’s not mixed race. You sound dumb. That’s like saying if you’re half Russian and half polish you’re mixed race , no you’re not those are nationalities

[@mandimartin5521]

"I'm not half of no one." She's lovely ❤️

[@ebanksstudios]

"You're either mixed race or black" *School in a nutshell*

[@ebanksstudios]

Stop commenting

[@FreyaWolfy]

That's so true. A lot of people say that to me

[@datboi7160]

Steve Larson continue mix racing

[@christinadegal3837]

If you're mixed, you cannot be Negro. Mixed people are their own race, and should not be expected to replace, or substitute the other races responsible for their unique individual race. There are much more than a few races all over the world due to genetic sharing.

[@datboi7160]

Shiela West but wouldn't it be for the better for the mix race to replace us? I mean race has done nothing but ruinin human history, because of race their has been only bad things such as racism and racism leads to genocide, slavery, segregation and has divide us. We shouldn't be divide we should he united to be strong and work together as humans. Race is only dividing us and is in the way of us achieving greatness as a species

[@gabbytillis4279]

This black girl went up to me and said, "How come boys like mixed girls? Your skin color's not even that nice and I'm a lot prettier than you." And then she tried to play it off like we were friends. I wish I was lying

[@acuriouself]

Potato_ Fritter wow, that's messed up.

[@kse4707]

"BlACk PeOpLe CanNoT Be RAciST"

[@fromspace7]

Wow seems like a very bitter person

[@toottoottoottoottoottootto8833]

@@sidn.3656 You guys can be racist just saying as a mixed person. Let's not repeat history and Africa tragedies. I'm half black and half Norwegian, why don't you Google the definition of racism before you make it lose meaning with all the black sjws.

[@michaelregis1015]

sid numa r/woosh

[@keirorin]

"they're being too sensitive" well some people are more sensitive to certain words depending on different experiences... for example i don't mind "i love mixed babies" or "where you really from?" but i do get upset at "don't act white" and "is that ur real mom?", while some of my other mixed friends don't find any of this offensive or find all of it offensive

[@Micey-sx2wf]

Preach 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@mom23js]

bee.syrup lol. I love the "don't act white"! I dont get "don't act", I get"u act so white"..my response: NO SHIT, I WAS RAISED BY TWO RELIGIOUS WHITE WOMEN IN ORANGE COUNTY! how else am I supposed to act? Like I just left the ghetto? lol. it's all just ignorance. and we hafta learn to laugh n not get upset at the stupid. my mom had the biggest problem in elementary with us. the school never believed we were hers. I understand child saftey, but if denying u access to ur own kid is gunna be a thing, maybe a description should go with parents name? like, can no one be adopted of another race or what? or to different races can't get together? horrible.

[@Akosa117]

what the fuck do you expect people to think when they see your mom and you look nothing like her??? "is that your real mom" is a perfectly fine question. and seriously "dont act white" is something literally everyone who isn't white is told, people who arent even mixed get told that all the time. getting told that has nothing to do with being mixed ffs.

[@mom23js]

Akosa117 true, peeps of all races get told "don't act so white" but is it really anyone's business , "is that ur real mom?"..no. But getting upset over it isn't worth it either. N I'm guessing ur not mixed or u wouldn't be replying ffs.

[@Akosa117]

MiSti I am very much of mixed race, and thats why it bothers me so much like how can other mixed be so ignorant as to what it looks like from someone who isnt mixed. most people dont assume you're mixed when they first meet you, they assume your just one. so obviously they're curious and confused when they find out your mixed

[@whoisplatinum]

Them: "You're Black aren't you?" Me: "No I'm mixed race" Them: "You're still Black then" Me: "😑🤨 so a White woman gave birth 2 a Black child???" Them: "Erm..." Me: "Exactly now leave me be"

[@miriamschmitz394]

Preach! We are just both! Our genes carry both sides. Never make em choose a side!

[@Cassxowary]

Your: belonging to you You’re: contraction of you are But exactly

[@whoisplatinum]

@@Cassxowary Thank you for the valuable lesson. Much appreciated 👍🏼

[@pedrob3953]

"I want you to be black to make myself feel better"

[@majordelilah]

I've been told I have to pick black on papers with a nationality section. I pick other.

[@summer-wb2ps]

I'm told to pick white bcuz apparently I look white and that was a day hair was all curly and up which is how it naturally is

[@agrammarnazi41]

I'm Inuit and I always get told to pick Asian. I put other as well.

[@majordelilah]

A Grammar Nazi. I took a survey in school today. On the last day, we all have a survey to improve the school. I had to select other. My bff is half native American, half black, and she had to, too.

[@leilaniandrew743]

Ohmygod I thought I was the only one lmao my mom is black and my dad is Polynesian so I usually put both or put'other/mixed'

[@taviondavis1293]

I just circle/check both

[@janaeg2698]

When I was really little, my parents took my brother and I to Costco and my mom went over to another section for a second and my dad told us we could go to the tables that had the free samples. So my brother and I walked over and my dad stood right behind us as we reached for the sample. and the lady at the table said "where r ur parents! U can't be here alone!" And my dad was literally standing over us with his hands on our shoulders (I think) yes he is black and my brother and I r lighter cuz my mom is white and she just assumed that he wasn't with us! I feel so bad for my dad because he was embarrassed and she was incredibly rude and judgmental.

[@Tayluhhh2010]

Janae G that's so ridiculous! Someone called the cops on my white dad, because they thought he stole me as a kid. They also try to seat us at different tables in restaurants a lot.

[@ivylasangrienta6093]

See, that's the one thing that always gets me! How can people say that?! Their kids can be mixed race or adopted or just tagging along with a family friend. People are so rude sometimes.

[@jusky_]

She was just being plain rude. Even if you were not mixed, adoption is a thing? I am questioning her mental capacity.

[@darknessninja9223]

Janae G oh that’s bad but luckily it doesn’t happen to me cuz my whole family looks white/Hispanic

[@kkgmike4073]

Shit I feel you. Me and my you her brother are mixed, my mom is Creo and My dad is Honduran with my brother and mom both having a lighter skin complex as I have a more tan color people would assume I am adopted. It’s funny but annoying.

[@creaturecorner3973]

I hate it when people say " oh, you sound white " and I every time I'm like " oh, I'm sorry I didn’t know my voice was supposed to have a race to" I mean what the heck?

[@wenuseefreshmeme1063]

different cultures have different ways of talking. you can tell the difference beetween a black person speaking, an asian and a white person. and the voices become more distinguishable if you want to get country specific. so yes a voice can have race behind it

[@creaturecorner3973]

Yea I guess you're right

[@lacabrona8485]

wen u see fresh meme That's accent, not race. Yeah, different accents originated from different cultures and races, but you can easily find black people with British accents and white people with the supposed "black accent"

[@lexithefangirl11]

Omg same

[@KattReen]

Stereotypes, man. They can be annoying.

[@crystalcosmicreads]

I think going out with family when being a Mixed race and not matching the “Perfect Mixed Skin Tone” is one of the most challenging things in your life It’s Certainly one of mine (Black + Puerto Rican)

[@sourire-z1u]

I feel you. My moms black and my dad is mostly white. I have extremely curly hair but my skin is only slightly tanned so most people confuse me for just being white and outright call me a liar. It's very frustrating.

[@jacindafletcher4840]

or going to a family reunion/birthday/whatever party and having the only mom who married a white and vietnamese man instead of a black one like the rest of the family. so i'm the lightest one -_-

[@Mrwhiskers6.9]

Puerto Rican is not a race

[@missiamtwinkles0169]

@@Mrwhiskers6.9 don’t care

[@elysienne8475]

* at McDonalds with dad * Millennial: uhmm isn't he way to old for you, like dating him like that is perverted and disgusting. Me: You know what's perverted? You, thinking that my dad is my boyfriend.

[@kianaw.5091]

r/thathappened

[@esppupsnkits4560]

Actually, I could believe that considering the stupid people I know

[@justnormalpeoplethings590]

Kiana W. It happened to both me and my sister were mixed black and white as well as tall so we look older and he is black so people often think we’re not father and daughter

[@pyromusik92]

I had a guy think I was on a date with my dad too. Funny thing was he was half too!

[@georgeboehringer5530]

@@pyromusik92 normal in West Virginia

[@stitchedmouthgirl]

I’m mixed guys, my mum is white and my dad is black. And I’m the only mixed girl in my class. The black kids say I’m white and the white kids say I’m black, so I’m often left out. I fortunately became best friends with a white girl who has a mixed mum and sees the racism mixed people have to deal with all the time and she absolutely hates it. Like we literally became best friends after she attacked another girl for calling me a hybrid.

[@sweetiethelion3430]

good for you honestly. And your friend is a great person 💖💖💖💖

[@bria7885]

Then isn't your friend mixed too?

[@stitchedmouthgirl]

@@bria7885 Quarter race.

[@theone7778]

@@stitchedmouthgirlQuarter is same as me but the opposite, I’m actually 1/4th white (Swedish mostly) genetically having a Biracial and black parent and still looking ambiguous (I’m in between 1/3rd and 1/4th white)

[@beanburrito9265]

​@@stitchedmouthgirlquarter of somet is still mixed race

[@GlowandLuna]

Do "not to say to someone who grow up in care/the system"

[@angelwood7729]

Torie Paige do you mean like a care home? like off of tracy beaker

[@itsgaylebitxh]

Angel wood I think they mean in foster homes/ taken in by the government.

[@angelwood7729]

Lady Gayle oh thank you :)

[@leaht4925]

Torie Paige Yes that's would be good and I'm fostered

[@e.anelson6853]

Angel wood no like foster care or something like I was in

[@jessicawilliams9931]

What are you??? Me: " A human being😑"

[@stuartmacleod7466]

I am a human too

[@missusd1130]

THE GREATEST response! I should have said that when some blacks asked me and my brother "y'all got the SAME dad??" Well, at least they weren't like other people...who had the GALL to ask IN FRONT of either parent...now THAT's RUDE. No parent should be shamed by someone for not looking exactly like their kids! I have heard from adopted kids that people getting overly inquisitive about their "real" parents in front of the ones that have them currently and show them love is really OFFENSIVE.

[@arminesweetheart5902]

Jessica Williams Thank you!❤

[@leilabyru8879]

i have had to say this so many times within my 13 yrs of my life

[@madeleine5313]

I use the same response too. “I’m human”.. The person asking looks perplexed 🤔

[@thisiscrln]

There is a difference if a total stranger comes up to your face demanding wHeRe YoU'rE fRoM?! or if someone you have known for a while asks in a respectful way. The former is what annoys the living hell out of many mixed-race ppl. Just to clarify.

[@k.j.7003]

i ALWAYS get “what are you?” and it’s never really offensive but there definitely is an obsession with mixed babies. i think the one that bothers me is asking if my mom is my mom... like yes, she’s my mother.

[@esppupsnkits4560]

Ok, to the person who replied. Smooth

[@pyromusik92]

k. j. I feel like it’s not really “what are you?“ that’s necessarily offensive, but how they look at you right before they ask. Makes me feel like I’m in some sort of glass case.

[@pedrob3953]

"I can't see you as a human being unless you have a label attached"

[@yourstrulyymadi]

i ALWAYS get told that im not mixed. it pisses me off.

[@purplesquare-1triangle966]

SAMMMMMEEE

[@victoriataylor215]

yeah i’m mixed (my moms white and my dads black) and this girl LITERALLY SAID a couple weeks ago, “No, you’re mexican”

[@wfalls9453]

Well I’m not typical light skin mix, do when I’d correct forms they’d say I was lying . Horrible then here

[@reuben8648]

Why does that bother you ?

[@deadkings4035]

“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” This is a very old British proverb, meaning that words taken from the mouths of others shouldn’t have any effect on you and your mental state. Violence should be the only personal factor that should effect you. By getting offended by these petty and ignorant ideals and concepts (words), doesn’t it prove you are either weak-willed or easily moved. The world is changed by people’s actions and behaviour, and people tend to do this (in my experience) as a way to demean others and relieve themselves of their own inadequately. By paying heed and letting yourself be effected aren’t you just feuling them, thus increasing it’s frequently. Unlike yourselves, I have broken through this barrier, and this isn’t used as a subject of ridicule by my surroundings bullies anymore.

[@camx457]

To be honest I love being mixed because I love to let people guess were I'm from

[@tempest3616]

War God ikr it's hilarious. Btw I'm Italian Irish jamaican Guyanese Dominican and Hawaiian what are you?

[@MalonsMilk]

Slough?

[@m00dsw1ngs]

same it’s entertaining

[@Sapphirebulletsofpurelove]

Lol I’ve gotten Hispanic but I’m Greek, Turkish, Irish, German, Trinidadian, and African-American (idk where in Africa)

[@yaseminkemal4865]

Haha people guess wrong for me 80% of the time.

[@darylallmanful]

I'm mixed and proud. 🙌🏽 I related to most what of was said.

[@unabashedlyluckynerd7148]

Daryl Allman hell yeah!✌🏼

[@darylallmanful]

@blueBeanieboos TV Trust me, there will be a few people who will look at you and start to study you eventually.

[@pedrob3953]

Say it loud!

[@odessawales]

👌🏼

[@FosterBaba]

2:40 "you're either mixed race or black" THANK YOU!! I'm so sick of every other race besides black just getting ignored or not counting

[@julietteschindler6096]

I'm kind of confused why is when people think of mixed race it's automatically black and white, I'm half Asian and half white, does that not count? Like hey we're here too it's not just black and white mixed race.

[@girlsgeneration7019]

Juliette Schindler actually I think asian and white mixes are the most popular in the world...I'm a quarter white and half Asian btw

[@brittneysucks3769]

Juliette Schindler i'm half white half mexican technically meaning i'm mixed but that's true people tend to forget about that. they only pay attention to "exotic" looking people

[@dransom5821]

It counts Juliette but Whites are obsessed with Black people because they are a parallel and completely exotic comparison to themselves and since Western Media dominates this is what you will get. It becomes this is the extreme opposite conversation as if there are no other variables. AND if you noticed they have an Asian and White girl mix in the video. You are still considered mixed it is just the simple fact black/white mixed is exported more so by the mainstream.

[@cxlombiana2948]

OMG YES! I'm half white and half Hispanic and when I tell people I'm mixed they automatically go "oh so is ur mom black or ur dad black?"

[@julietteschindler6096]

D Ransom yes I realize however it's not just Asian white people it's so many more cultures, and that's why I find it stupid how people don't think that they count or they're considered mixed race. I get your point though but they need to be aware of the other cultures.

[@crazycookie4645]

"You're not ________ enough." A sentiment that I and quite a few mixed people are bombarded with.

[@buillecridhesingilte4288]

To white to be black to white to be black

[@curlyfries2956]

same bro, it hurts

[@pedrob3953]

"Yes, I'm myself enough."

[@daisukelover3]

I've got a white dad and a black mom, and my brother and i came out looking asian or latino, depending on who you ask. I've been approached by different people of different asian ethnicities and they all assumed i was one of their own. It's even funnier when i was actually living in south east asia because the locals will speak to me in their native tongue, and i always tell them that i don't speak their language, they would immediately switch to english and be like "Where's your sense of nationality? How come you can't speak your country's language???" and i would always blow them away by telling them that i'm not actually asian to begin with XD Plus it's ALWAYS weird when i'm out with my dad, sometimes strangers would give me dirty looks and think i'm my dad's hooker, or maybe i'm some sort of really young gold digger, and a few times some of his acquaintances assumed i was his second wife XD

[@JustMe-do9lz]

The dad part - doesnt have to be an assumption of a different race. My dad and I are both white and still would get stared at. Weird.

[@selma7209]

Omg I feel you! My dad is also white and my mum black amd I look asian like dafuq 😂

[@sukilove5140]

This is a picture of my mom my mom is black my dad is white

[@awkwardomelette7316]

Latino is not race lol😂

[@Hillary_Official_1]

Well that's disturbing

[@nayeontofu]

I hate when people ask which race I perfer to date or think I can only date the race that I look like the most to them like no I can date whoever I want. I'm not dating someone for there color just so you can be pleased

[@nayeontofu]

It's like whatever happened to dating someone because you genuinely like them, not everything has to be about race especially when it comes to love

[@kali7055]

Omg same I had people asking me if I only date asians

[@kiera_g]

O N C E upon a T W I C E ugh this too

[@Aegor-Rivers]

Very tragic.

[@niccolom4556]

usually, people of mixed race "prefer" to date the more dominant culture/race within their mix. Typically White. Unfortunately, that's how the minority culture/ethnicity gets erased within the person and their future lineage.

[@Firegen1]

"The love of two races." It's how I've always felt. Having multiple heritages to learn from is awesome.

[@youregonnaneedtothrowsomem2665]

Firegen1 both my parents are mixed race.

[@zaralawal9721]

They are so many Nigerians in this channel. 8ve seen like four and only watched four videos. So proud 🇳🇬🇳🇬🇳🇬

[@theduke6174]

Probably because there's a lot of us on this planet

[@vastya.3255]

Duke Temz true😂

[@miriczs23]

@@theduke6174 yes

[@VeeVe3]

I remember being in my art class and everyone was messing around (we had a supply teacher that basically gave up with us because of awful behaviour) and me and a group of white people and a group of black people were all standing together. Then this one boy (he's black) told the black people to go on the left and the white on the right however, I'm half black and half white so I was made to stand in the very middle. Everyone thought it was a joke and funny but no one could or would understand how singled out I felt. It made me kind of feel alone because I was the only one there so they made me feel "different. The worst part is the people laughing and joking were my "friends."

[@Xaeliia]

Naomi Evans Wright Damn that's horrible, I'm sorry and disgusted that you had to experience that. One of my teachers (he was white) made us do the same thing luckily 1/3 of my class was mixed but it was weird...

[@VeeVe3]

Melissa • I'm glad you can kind of relate to my situation, I'm just glad I didn't go through something even worse, it felt horrible.

[@VeeVe3]

Siskskksksksk Jejsjjejs I honestly love how you mixed that with humour

[@darknessninja9223]

Naomi Evans Wright you could of just went on one of the sides that you look most of that’s what I do I’m mixed but I just say I’m white cuz I look white

[@VeeVe3]

Darkness Ninja I’m not going to pretend I’m something I’m not

[@thexvlogs6516]

okay, I've fallen victim to asking "what are you?" and I'm sorry to those people. on a positive side, my biracial friend embraces these stereotypes as hilariousness

[@kalieshavargas1698]

The XVlogs I'm mixed and and I started working at a place that is majority white and two or three black people... white guy ask me what are you because you are more friendly and more close to black people( mind you I knew these two black people long before every even getting the job) < I was just meeting everyone else for the first time. 🙄 that was annoying.

[@saxophoniusm9850]

I keep asking what are you. It's meant to mean, what instrument do you play, or what grade you are in. Oops, bad English I guess

[@oliver-iy4px]

The XVlogs i don’t think it’s rude or bad to ask someone like what their ethnicity is, it’s just someone being curious/wanting to know you (even if it comes off as rude)

[@annaager6079]

Katie Ito I don't appreciate it while I'm getting to know someone and one of the first questions they ask me if "WHAT are you" instead of "WHO". I barely know you, you barely know me you don't even now my personality, my race shouldn't be the first thing that pops to mind when you think of me

[@followmei4789]

Yeah, I got the “what are you?” Me: “what do you mean?” Person: “you’re like white but you’re not”

[@carmensuazo1609]

Non mixed: What are you? Me:Human Where are you from? My mother's Uterus What are your parents? Homo sapiens

[@japan6012]

At least in uk they admit there are more than 2 races unlike dinkyland i fin hate dinkyland it feels like being trapped on an island

[@kingoverseas9052]

UK: "You're black aren't you?" Nigeria: "Ehhh White Man, what have you brought for me?" Me: *sigh*

[@somegrill7561]

Ade Gbenjo What??

[@lilarodrigues2698]

😂 in Angola “ Look at that mestiça” and in London “ Mixed race girl” and then America “ Look at that Latin chick” . 😂😂😂😂

[@giftedvoices533]

I laugh in oyinbo😂

[@portugal9902]

@@lilarodrigues2698 Eu sou mestiço

[@richiestyles5143]

That's cap. Nigerians don't say white man, we say oyinbo. Also, we probably say yellow sisi or yellow bobo. We'd call a person oyinbo/baturia if they're really light skin/lighter than the people in the area.

[@shaniquemarquis8445]

Two that annoys me are; do you think you're more white or black and don't worry we see you as white (I live in a predominantly white area). 🙄

[@livelife5947]

Shanique Marquis why should that annoy you? I'm half Ghanaian & half Jamaican, I'm so totally more Jamaican, I don't relate to Africans at all. Jeez you guys are really crying over nothing

[@shaniquemarquis8445]

Yelly Yellez you are exactly right.

[@shaniquemarquis8445]

If someone asked me if I'm more English or Caribbean yes that's acceptable because it's two different cultures but they ask as if black and white people have certain characteristics.

[@lemmings6516]

honestly, i dont like if someone asks why someone lets something bother him because questions or prejudigces like this ARE annoying, in fact and for real. and they somehow hurt when they come too often. if someone asks me why do i bother it gives the responsibility for not being hurt back in my hands rather than let the people who insult be hold responsible for stop hurting

[@mom23js]

Shanique Marquis I get"is that ur real name?" Do u get that too? especially cuz where u live? i live in an almolst all white city too. I always go with" no they let children pick their own names at birth now"..idiots.

[@jimmyfillets2592]

“Nathan, you be the referee bruv!” 😂😂

[@Addiibear99]

''No offence but I thought your dad would be the black one not your mum"

[@kiaraisaac6501]

Alexia Marie usually everyone always thinks my mom is the black one😂

[@VeeVe3]

Alexia Marie My actual life

[@haleymartin977]

Alexia Marie SERIOUSLY

[@TypeOTotallySketched]

People seem to think white men can't like black women.. in Norway I see a lot of white men with black women lmfao

[@alexispaigerevilla]

The “what are you?” question drives me CRAZYY

[@lidiareyes7048]

We all are humans.

[@misterabel_9017]

If you think that is bad, I've gotten, "I can't tell what you are?"..but yes that is annoying, its like "Im human?" Why does my racial identity matter so much??

[@hungariancuman2835]

i got that a lot...

[@hungariancuman2835]

@Nathaniel Hall I think with that you are mixed but I don't know how this race thing works in the USA.I'm half full white and half full Turkic...I have brown skin but Germanic face and hair...some people called me Her Sultan for this...I consider myself mixed or brown.

[@mariaantoniasantos1504]

And before you can answer, they always start guessing.

[@jamesdyke8706]

Onetime I was at a fundraiser for my school and my white mom came to get me so I stared walking to her and out of nowhere this women starts sprinting to me and she starts saying things like were are your parents you cant just leave(all the while my mom is right behind the women) and my mom cleared her throat, picked my up and left and the lady looked so dumb founded.

[@katyestelle]

Omg *THANK YOU* I hate it when people ask “What are you” or something like we’re dogs. On the leap I put black and white. The grading people must be *shook*

[@ukiyofre8360]

Im a mix of Caribbean and European but I look more white so when people ask my race/ background, it actually kind of makes me happy that they notice/ are interested

[@nameme6144]

Im carribbean euro aswell

[@MS-di1rw]

My brother has pale skin and I have browner skin and we get that too.

[@Champloo.1]

Same am like caramel color

[@purplesquare-1triangle966]

Same sometimes in the process of answering I get shy and nervous cause I'm scared they'll be mean and dismiss what I say and still call me one race. Or theyll make fun of my mixture . Once someone called my mixture weird .

[@purplesquare-1triangle966]

Caribbean is a nationality btw not an ethnciity. There is indian caribbean , black caribbean, chinese caribbean, latino caribbean, white/french caribbean, white/ irish caribbean, white/italian caribbean, creole caribbean and more.

[@Lena_822]

Also my ethnicity isn't a guessing game.... it really isn't any of your business if you literally just met me

[@TheTherapistgirl]

Thank you!

[@mayam.235]

damn, you seemed closed off. i love it when people ask me what my race is

[@audramcdonaldapologist3676]

BellaRose Why? Why would you want a random person to be in your business when you literally just met 2 seconds ago?

[@charedits333]

Exactly

[@charedits333]

@@mayam.235 Some people have different opinions

[@christianplummer3315]

"I don't like being labelled" *2 minutes later "no I'm proud to be mixed race"

[@esmedann6181]

Christian Plummer being mixraced is not a label it's what you are by label she meant bring called something like ' exotic '

[@jansen8127]

Christian Plummer there's a difference between being something and having a label. I like being asian, being myself, but i don't like the labels people give me.

[@jaysintonus1143]

so does being mixed race matter then?

[@bellamoon2813]

“Where are you from?” “Germany.” “Yeah, but where are you reeeaaaally from?” “Germany. I mean it, I was born and raised here. I’m from here.” “You know what I mean” “You’re not asking where I’m from, are you? You’re asking where my parents are from.” “Yea” “My mum’s from the Ukraine, my dad’s from Ethiopia.” “...” “...” “Where’s Ethiopia?”

[@idk3826]

Also identifizierst du dich als deutsche?

[@emilysmith2965]

Why do people even ask when they don’t know any names of non-European countries?

[@oldbird4601]

I'm from Ghana and Spain (but English born and raised) and I've never understood this one... if someone asks you where you're from, why do you feel the need to only say one of your cultural backgrounds? If someone were to ask me where I'm from, I'd tell them I'm Spanish Ghanaian AND English. Are you not proud of everything that makes you you?

[@Guillermo153]

@@oldbird4601 jaja menuda mezcla

[@aidak1512]

i honestly don't get why people need to hate on mixed race people like the guy in the red hoodie said mixed race kids are the results of people from different ethnecities loving each other and their differences... so that being said it should be seen as a beautiful thing 😊 here in france we don't have that much of an issue with being mixed race i can be friends with whoever i want and i can love whoever i want i think every ethnicities and colors are beautiful black white asian latino whatever we are all people 😊 i hope americans will stop calling me black or "light skin" when i go to the us because i'm not fully black and i’m not fully white either why would being part black make me black that makes no sense...especially since me being half white doesn’t make me white either 😅😂 , i'm mixed and that's it no need for one of the two sides to « take over » 😊 personally i love being mixed ,and i love both my cultures 🇫🇷 + 🇸🇳 and I don’t think anyone should be able to tell me I have to « choose » I love my black side and I love my white side they are equal and both are interesting.

[@Sunnysoulpieces]

Aïda kaufmann it's just annoying when white people tell you that they would date a black man only to have mixed children that will get "curls like me" I get this A LOT. And I think it's disgusting to use black men to get different looking kids.

[@aidak1512]

Garnet it is but most of the time people say dumb stuff like that but the truth is you don't choose who you fall in love with 😊 so color doesn't matter i used to be more attracted to white guys mostly but now i find asian guys and malgaches really cute so taste changes it's just that we each like certain features on certain ethnecities now my boyfriend is malgache and i didn't expect to find this ethnecity attractive but i guess i just do 😂 anyway i don't think people mean it when they say that they would date black men "just" to get mixed kids 😂 they are juste afraid of admitting to themselves that... they kind of like black guys 😂 i think...

[@aidak1512]

Parsimonious senegal is just another country on this planet why would you say "ew" that's really disrespectfull would you like it people said "america ew.." ? it's juste not nice 😑 also no one chooses their ethnic background so what do you want me to say? i don't feel senegalese nor french honestly i just feel human maybe you can't get that...

[@lolarose8968]

You can only be mixed if you're light skin. And that goes for everywhere.

[@dkdkxoskssskdowiaksso358]

Lolarose tf

[@keepsmilinglittlemax1244]

I got told by an ex friend “technically you’re not white or Asian” BRO my mom is Asian and my dad is white,?? I’m both??

[@aimeexxx6547]

what annoys me is when i go out with my mom for parents evening for example -the next day- 'YOU DONT LOOK ANYTHING LIKE YOUR MOM WHATTT'

[@Greanea]

My life!!

[@nickyhasnojams]

I was told that so many times as a kid that I actually started to believe it

[@saturn8173]

someone once asked me if im adopted

[@lnkfstn]

omg I get that all the time too and it affected me a lot especially when I was a kid, now I just dgaf anymore lol

[@aristired6252]

So true!!! I look nothing like my dad but I’m okay with it.

[@summer-dn5hc]

I'm mixed I know how they feel. And my mom is white but my dad is black and when I go out with my mom everyone thinks that I am adopted

[@paradiseqiss]

sss dove same

[@neveahrain1085]

Sameeeee😝

[@dejorto3508]

sss dove true tho I’m mixed to

[@Sophia-qn5qg]

sss dove omg SAME Welt that my dad is the white one and my mom has dark skin 😂

[@karithekoala8618]

sss dove ME TOO

[@once861]

i hate when people that are one of the races you are mixed with say you're not that race because you might sound different or "white", or just because you were a raised a bit differently

[@esppupsnkits4560]

kiwi kawa yeah. I’ve seen my friends go through that. It sucks seeing it

[@davebuchan81]

I remember my friend Man Hei complaining that 'All the English people think I'm Chinese, but all the Chinese people think I'm English' It's kinda sad, because I really saw him as just a guy, but I definitely saw him as Chinese as well as English.

[@jemmaj2919]

Iv only seen black ppl bully mixed race black kids. The feeling of inferiority surfaces to make someone a bully.

[@carlashep29xo]

Literally. I’m White and Pakistani but I have light skin and have been raised by my white mum so people just dismiss my ethnicity ://

[@Axxidous]

I'm half white half Mexican. People just think I'm white and give me that good ol' "stupid guilty privileged white person" treatment. And furthermore, I talk in many different ways depending on my mood and environment or subject and how serious or casual it is. So there are times when someone might think I'm "trying to act black". Nah, homie. That's just me being me. Got it? :U lol

[@idk3826]

(Me as a kid having an Identity crisis) "Mom what am I?" "A human"

[@Niningchan_cosplay]

"Where are you from?" *telling them my hometown* "No, I mean...where are you really from?"

[@megazoned3973]

Niningchan people are just curious.

[@RaspberryMalina190817]

Should just be like "what's your ethnicity" 🙃

[@inessa5923]

@@RaspberryMalina190817 A lot of people are just curious about one's culture and ancestry, not their race.

[@heresthemftea4164]

INESSA you just described ethnicity tho not race

[@inessa5923]

@@heresthemftea4164 Right! My bad.

[@hyperboreandream]

"Why did your parents betray their people and heritage?"

[@zainasmith27]

Kezia Rhodes omg that has actually happened to me.

[@kalijo4798]

Nastasya Filippovna Yes, this is a good one! Alot of people think this but won't actually say it out loud.

[@alang.9848]

Nastasya Filippovna Same because I'm an Italian, Spaniard, and Mexican.

[@potatopatata6443]

Nastasya Filippovna This is the worst! My dad is Persian and I always get that question.

[@cc8501]

This is what people should be saying to race mixed children tbh

[@gabbyo8908]

I’m mixed race too and I’m proud of it!

[@theflaggedyoutuberii4311]

Gabby O Hispanic is not a race and most Hispanics identify with white anyway

[@gabbyo8908]

The Flagged KZbinr II well it is an ethnicity and no they do not most that I know. I’m Hispanic and white and I refer to myself as a mix. You can’t contradict me as I am this type of mix. Now if you were Latino and white you could tell me in an opinion otherwise. But that would just be your opinion, I’m guessing you aren’t this type of mixed race, so please stop and don’t contradict me because I know what and who I am. Sorry for the saltiness.

[@theflaggedyoutuberii4311]

Gabby O Swedish is a ethnicity you don't hear anybody saying I'm Swedish and white

[@gabbyo8908]

The Flagged KZbinr II yes I know that but I don’t identify myself as Latino so I call myself Hispanic

[@theflaggedyoutuberii4311]

Gabby O Hispanic is a term that is rooted from the country Spain which is Europe LOL

[@theworthysoul]

People always ask me where I’m from, and they never ask where my British friends are from. I’m from England too, I just happen to have an Indian mum who was also born here. *STOP MAKING ASSUMPTIONS*

[@mandlin4602]

I always found the whole thing that if a person was mixed with white or any other race people automatically assume they will adopt the culture of the "non-white" half. if you are half white half black you are exactly that: half white and half black. Why is that so hard to understand!

[@MaksonCheese]

Mand lin repeat it one more time for the people in the back !

[@niccolom4556]

Actually, its the opposite,most people know if you mix with White, you'll act White more than anything and can't speak the minority language or know the culture. Biracial people who are mixed with Black and White, typically don't speak in AAVE either.

[@kianaw.8096]

Mockavel Velli what are you on about

[@niccolom4556]

@christine It's called "assimilation" and "acculturation". Google it.

[@MajnouniWahad]

I adopted both cultures. It's just that I'm Muslim so I don't go to the pub or club. I still drink tea and bird watch like any other English person and I still enjoy a good poetry session and coffee with my Arab homies. ;D

[@kagitsune]

And don't me started on "swirlers". People who fetishize one race or combination of races are creepy!

[@sami2503]

Heinz57Human what is that got to do with anything, you are saying it like it invalidates their point or something

[@yohannesolliverre2121]

i never understood ppl who think some races are more attractive than others, but i find it even weirder when ppl say "omg _______ babies r so cute" like wtf ALL BABIES LOOK THE SAME OTHER THAN SKIN TONE, HAIR, LIPS, AND EYES

[@parkthatjibootyyoongay7519]

Naomi PR people fetishize me.....

[@ReplyGuy22345]

Judo is Life Black American men you mean

[@kaitlynsilva1751]

I'm Portuguese and Italian (there's more but these are two of the mains) and people are like "so are you black, white, or Hispanic?" And my answer is always "yes". My mom told me a story of when I was little we were at a grocery store and some woman asked where I was adopted from (because my moms white af) and my mom said "no she's mine she came out of me" and the lady looked at her and said "are you sure?" And my mom just looked at her and said "yep I was there I'm PRETTY sure she came out if my vagina"

[@PHlophe]

she gave you the most valley girl type of name. Kaitlyn . all that ain't innocuous. As in my daughter''s gone be the whitest chica in town.

[@C_And_P]

Kaitlyn Silva People have always asked if I was adopted when they see my mom, like get over yourself, genes are complicated, go take Biology again. 😒

[@C_And_P]

Brianna Butler Thank you, finally someone with common sense around here. Those are considered nationalities. I only agree with her comment because people tend to believe a stereotype of a certain nationality and believe everyone who looks like that is that nationality when they are wrong.

[@saurabhbanik7811]

Brianna Butler learn a little bit about genetics before talking shit. You are the one who is being racist here.

[@MrsLevitanBoss]

Those are part of the same race... You're still White.

[@carolinebeltran4721]

Are you white, are you black? No, I'm tan. 😳 wow! What a beautiful tan! 😏

[@katefoster1876]

Person: So like are you more black or Samoan? Me: pretty sure I'm both, bruv.

[@j46s96]

Ufa

[@wilzzizi5466]

Kefe

[@bwzboddah5219]

Ayifa Fatoonoo Or getting called Samoan when you're black, white, and Native American.

[@raniaghrzl]

I don't know maybe I'm not mixed but The real question is WHY so MANY DISLIKES ??

[@j46s96]

Because stuff like this isn't worth complaining about. People these days just get offended at everything

[@annaager6079]

John John Oh look, another brickhead.

[@Zimzilla99]

small hope because some mixed race people don't give a flying fuck about what people say to them. And most of these people are triggered pussies

[@j46s96]

Swhoolio Ager What makes me a brickhead?

[@nicolasingh6948]

small hope because there playing the victim card: I'm quarter Indian and wouldn't give two shits if people asked me these

[@detago7814]

"mixed race people are created from the love of two different races" That is "buff" indeed!

[@andrewsmith74]

Or a quick shag.

[@mrrizzbosomes88]

"Are you chinese?" "No." "Yes you are" "I'm really not, stop." "No you're chinese." *"I'm a middle-eastern-asian."*

[@lisatak7891]

I’m half South-American and half African. When I used to have activities where your parents were going to be there people always thought my mum adopted me or she was just a family friend, as I have an afro and have deeper skin-tone and she has wavy hair and she has a lighter skin-tone. With my dad side I wasn’t African enough and had to prove myself. For anyone who has to prove themselves for their race or even have to choose, don’t choose. Just be yourself, because there are enough people who go through the same thing. 🙂😉

[@surasigga8678]

i'm mixed and i love being asked what i am, because my whole life my family tried to deny that i had a non norwegian side to me. so people being interested and wanting to hear about it makes me happy x

[@iceprinces01]

People used to ask me if I was adopted in elementary school because my mom is Austrian and my dad is Nigerian but my dad was always at work. It was so annoying trying to convince them that it was my birth mom

[@lilaquila444]

iceprinces01 I'm half Indonesian and Austrian, sometimes people question if my dad is my real dad because he's so white!!

[@zaprilmakara4234]

iceprinces01 sUp My DuDe

[@javierponce2564]

Where are all of my people, who go through this on a daily basis

[@reneesoryu3650]

I am Brazilian and I lol at British people who tell me "YOURE BRAZILIAN YOURE NOT MIXED RACE!" so my Italian and Native American great grandparents were the same ethnicity??? Lol

[@Sunnysoulpieces]

Renee Soryu ethnicity and race aren't the same thing

[@reneesoryu3650]

What's your point, are Italians and Native Americans the same 'race'?

[@esppupsnkits4560]

Italians and native Americans ARE the same race. They’re humans. They’re a different ethnicity

[@redtomatosauce7071]

Mano, o foda é que brasileiro é tudo misturado, então é estranho quando pessoas de outros países tentam te classificar com os ideais deles. Simplesmente não funciona

[@csoniah4432]

Everyone in Brazil is mixed. Lol

[@wolfgirl986]

"Is your dad black?" Omg not every black/white mixed children has a black dad, I get this at least twice a month 🙄

[@user-mc7qt1bl2f]

Kayla yes !

[@feltersnaatch4258]

Kayla but Is he though?

[@bvn1313]

I always get the opposite! People are always shocked that my mum's white for some weird reason

[@Wumbology10]

Kayla Ikr my mom is black and my dad is white

[@fly3itch872]

Padraig Mullane samee

[@mynameaintyourbusiness7148]

Oooh I need to send this to my boyfriend: he's quite mixed and the amount of crap he still has to hear is incredible. From friends asking about his penis size (because his mother is Asian and Black while his father is white), the questions of "where are you from" (people get pissy when he replies "France", even though he is indeed French!), the constant analysis of his racial identity due to personal tastes ("he must identify as black because he like rap music!"), and so on...

[@spicypanda2034]

1:25 “I’m not half of no one”👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@rebeccareinholdt2442]

I'm mixed race and deaf as well and proud of it

[@PHlophe]

my youngest is deaf , we are in the process of adopting a deaf sibling for him . We know the chances of us having another deaf child are slim. He is a lovely lad , we are all learning the French sign language , my eldest son is 100% fluent already . At some point we will all learn the german sign language as I am half german and i plan to relocate the fam there in 3 years.

[@zaprilmakara4234]

Lechiffresix six that's nice 😊

[@brandonbahret5632]

Define proud. If you mean anything other than "unashamed" then you really shouldn't be. t.co/0CejrNI1Q6

[@mizukimoe3347]

Im mixed race but im darker skinned and i have more black features so I don't get the comments.

[@nameme6144]

Mizuki Moe I'm light skinned mixrace maybe cos my country is cold and cant get lots son like my brothers

[@b.3432]

So like the guy in the video with the red hoodie

[@BeWaReJay]

dude I swear to God in the past 3 years I've turned from lighter skinned to darker skinned. AND I LIVE IN FUCKIN PENNYLVANIA. My tan line hits harder than the player rate of Fortnite

[@blackirishrose4040]

Lucky you!😄

[@BeWaReJay]

mergirl2000 Dunne mmm it's a mystery

[@rebeccathompson8712]

The two things that annoy me about being mixed race are filling out forms where they ask for your ethnicity and you're just like "oh god, this again" and you can't find your ethnicity because for some reason 1/2 Latin American 1/2 British doesn't exist on forms so you have to put other ; when people don't believe that your dad is your dad because he's white and your not quite white and your sister certainly isn't so you constantly get asked if that's your dad.

[@gatorsonthe54th43]

Cora Smith....know what you mean.

[@kiera_g]

Cora Smith i relate to this so much

[@scripted6934]

it worse when ur parent are mixed or at least slightly, cos like explaining ur race to ppl is hell. girl: how come u can speach chinese me: cos im basically half chinese/ taiwainese and i learnt it girl: what rly? u chinese? i thought u were middle eastern, no look nothing like a chinese person, me: well my dad is partly middle eastern, and the taiwainese were the american indians girl: so what the other half then me: mediterranean girl: what about black, cos u act black me : **wtf is acting black**

[@ssh1487]

As a half white half Chinese I get the issue where some forms separate "Chinese" from "Asian", with the latter being used to describe South Asians. The categories are literally "Asian British - Indian", "Asian British - Pakistani" and then there's "Chinese British", instead of "Asian British - Chinese". So I never know if I should be "Mixed - White and Asian" or "Mixed - Other".

[@jacquelineellis3951]

Ugh you must be beautiful. I love that mix. I totally understand the thing with your dad bc I’m black and white but I look more like I’m white so when ppl see my dad they’re like “that’s you dad?!!!”

[@byaserra7767]

living in brazil means not hearing those questions because literally everyone is mixed

[@jaybeelove05]

I hate when people refer to me as a mix breed or a mut like somehow because I'm interracial it takes away from me being a human being

[@garybigler7306]

Donald Frazier hi how you

[@niccolom4556]

dont worry your kids will finish the assimilation process for you and your ethnic side will be bleached out in your future lineage so you won't need to worry about that for them.

[@purplesquare-1triangle966]

You cant be interracial. You can be multiracial though

[@abbywalker6815]

I'm biracial and I'm adopted. Main questions I get are "where are you from?" And "what are you?" Lol. I'm normal just like you. I was born in the states and I'm just a mix of ethnicities. I'm proud of it. I don't identify with being white or being black. I'm both. On forms that require your ethnicity, I check Caucasian and African-American. My hair fascinates people and I do get hurtful comments like "your hair is an afro" (which it's not, it's just thicker than a white persons hair). Cannot stand when people say "can I touch your hair?" It goes on and on. My little sister is black (adopted as well) and recently several kids were around her touching her hair saying "your hair is like memory foam". I told them to stop doing that and that she is normal just like you. How would you like it if someone did that to You? They didn't and thought it was weird. Point is, some people are just ignorant and don't know better but biracial people are normal just like a black, white, etc person! My parents (who are white) specifically wanted a biracial daughter when they went through the adoption process and were very happy to have a black daughter in my little sister. They tell us all the time, we don't look at your skin color, that's not what matters. That is the lesson that needs to be taught to every single person on earth and drilled in to their heads.