Things Not To Say To NON BINARY TRANS People

[@Zoe-qw6fo]

when someone asks whats in your pants, say legs

[@wylee9]

i have no gender, only rage

[@alonelonely4ever]

"Just because I'm non binary doesn't mean I have to be androgynous" Amazing statement! It's really answer a lot of people how stare at me and asking questions. However great video =)

[@alonelonely4ever]

Totally!

[@SkyeID]

My new motto!

[@xenonkey7770]

alonelonely4ever That's the stupidest statement I've ever heard in my life. I feel like non binary is when one wants to be a hybrid of both male and female and wants to pick and choose which characteristics to display. Maybe wants to be both male and female? If one were really non binary then they would have be a totally different species. You can't really escape the two established genders and sexes.

[@nevaeh8399]

WRONG! There are only 2 sexes. There are only two types of genitalia. However gender is a whole different thing. it comes from more of a social standpoint and how you feel inside. Why should someone be forced to act like someone who they are not? Sometimes people just can't help feeling uncomfortable in their own body. I get where you are coming from. I was raised to beleive that "god" made you to be just they way you were born. Raised that being gay was wrong. Be i have seen peoples veiws on this and now am non binary and pansexual myself. i hope this helped.

[@SurfingBOceanNesto22]

Another Day Tell them sister, my gender studies professor said the same thing when I told her that I identify as an aquafluid

[@Blue-yi6ij]

If we didn't make up words we'd still be talking in grunts

[@inevergetenoughsleep7994]

erngh ugh ar ungh? argh urgh enh ugh uhh.

[@enderorwilbur8610]

Jssnnsjsjs I love this

[@greekmythdude9053]

Jug mugh lagf makar?!

[@4aneme8R]

Well done. I have identified as gender fluid for better than 20 years and am happy to see more in the community adopting a non binary identification.

[@cvi6267]

wow I'm actually seeing good comments and not hurtful ones (I'm agender btw)

[@TheFoxFisher]

That's progress!

[@cathuff5802]

Fellow agender

[@willdenham8211]

This video actually answered a few questions I had about transitioning while being non-binary so thank you.

[@roberttherobot4225]

As i a tranman i can honestly say I don't really understand non binary but in NO way does that mean i or anyone should dismiss it because it's a gender people feel and therefore people should respect you and others!

[@bornwithoutconsentobviously]

Robert Therobot why aren't more people like you? seriously

[@oonooooooooo]

_LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE AT THE BACK_

[@lukitchu2887]

Sun :3 *P R E A C H* 👏

[@7521eric]

There's nothing to understand. Its pure nonsense by people seeking attention.

[@This_dumb_guy]

@@7521eric wtf ?!

[@tavrosnitram1529]

"why, do you wanna sleep with me?" "yes **wonk**" XD

[@ryanistotallynormal3801]

I'm non-binary and my mom told me I was making up words because I like anime and they don't speak english so I get confused because of that. Oh yeah and the fact that anime styles portray characters very androgynously a lot of the time apparently means I only think I'm this way because of that...thanks mom

[@bonadies5182]

i kind of feel like crying, but good crying? uh its just that i've recently started questioning my gender? and this kind of makes sense and it just clickes so much? and i just - thank you. thank you both. so much.

[@JeffAMiller17]

I loved this video so much! Great job, Fox and Owl!

[@JeffAMiller17]

Also, I definitely laughed at "Harry the Hateful Hipster."

[@7521eric]

Then your an idiot. This is all utter nonsense.

[@featherpoet]

I just came over from your interview with Piers Morgan. And I just wanted to say, UGH. What a shitty, fearmongering piece of garbage. I'm so sorry that you had to deal with this, but thank you so much for being brave enough to do this. For the rest of us nonbinary people, it's so important that there are people like you two who go out and fight the fight. You might not have convinced this asshole, but it was so clear that you had the logical and compassionate position, from an observational standpoint. Much love, and a subscription!

[@8righton]

Spot on! Everyone's identity is valid, as it is theirs! I think a lot of people, cis, trans and nonbinary confuse gender identity and sexuality. Great use of the Vlog guys, love the message, love the humour as always. Love! x

[@TheFoxFisher]

Thanks J -- You rock x

[@SurfingBOceanNesto22]

Jonathan Kent I identify as Glasses. My whole life has been torture. A plain black haired guy wears me everyday & I am broken all the time bcz of his shit. #NotMyShinpachi

[@danielmorrison2376]

I really enjoyed this video. A lot of people assume that because I'm non-binary I don't experience dysphoria or want to change in any way, which really pisses me off. This video made me happy :)

[@Eon2641]

"So, wait, are you a boy or a girl?" "Yes."

[@charllandsberg]

Thanks so much for this video. Have so many of these problems as a NB person. You guys rock

[@TheFoxFisher]

Cheers Charl :)

[@SurfingBOceanNesto22]

Charl Landsberg I decided to come out of the closet 6 months ago to my mom & I told her that I identify as a non binary haystack & she was so confused & said: "You mean you're gay?" & she couldn't understand me

[@toastedcheese]

"But you put on makeup" "Well spotted" Omg 😂😂

[@VerteEpine]

My spouse and me just started to transition and accept us being NB, it's so awesome to see a couple in the same situation, and living it so well :). Thanks

[@7521eric]

This is such nonsense.

[@Wolfinlavender]

I've had a coworker ask 'what I was born as' because she had assumed that being non binary means I'm intersex. I've had other people assume non binary means 'Kolby is a girl who just doesn't conform to gender norms', rather than it meaning I'm transgender.

[@carsonfball4]

@Jake Dean >> So how can you be transgender if you're also non-binary?! Trans is an umbrella term with many identities under it (including non-binary). Non-binary is also an umbrella term meaning any gender that is not the two that first jump into many peoples heads when they think gender. Many non-binary people (myself included) also use the term trans (because non-binary is a sub-label under trans). Some non-binary people do not use the word trans to describe themselves. I hope that was clear. If not, let me know.

[@UglyCarp]

Thanks you so much for that ! As a non binary person Im actually starting to feel more and more legitimate to identify as trans thanks to videos like that, and it feels right.The journey to accept myself feels less lonely now (:

[@TheFoxFisher]

Awesomes!!

[@bobbbies1880]

Thank you so damn much! I really needed this! I am non binary and I needed to know that I'm not the only one! YAY!

[@TheKawaiifan]

"But, what is in your pants?" "Who wants to know? Do you want to know? Do you want to sleep with me?" "Yes." *winks* lol

[@SurfingBOceanNesto22]

TheKawaiifan It's broken dreams & aids

[@typicallyteamtyler]

Awwww non-binary couple ❤💛💚💙💜

[@averynonym]

Thank you for this video. Being nonbinary, this was a breath of fresh air. I've shared this on Facebook with my friends and family. Thank you

[@MichaKitchen7828]

I’m NB and haven’t come out to my mom. So when it has doctors appointments and such. I always played the part of a girl when really neither has felt right to me my whole life.

[@denalitrek]

I deal with stuff like that on a daily being non-binary.

[@denalitrek]

TWD Nerd Oh wow, never heard that one before.

[@CutieVideoWorldIRL]

jester 80s you're wrong get over it

[@SurfingBOceanNesto22]

Joshua Davis You look like someone bashed your face in with a shovel

[@toocool691]

Then get a bunch of your like minded friends dug a mass grave hold hands shoot each other and fall backwards into it have a few people cover it up and in a few years you can be dug up as fertiliser or we can plant a garden on the fertile soil problem solved you dont have to deal with society we dont have to deal with your pathetic crybaby hypocrisy and everyone is happy you made a bit of a contribution to society by becoming fertiliser

[@jeanniewilder8272]

Awesome video... and as a non-binary person myself it really resonates. Hopefully they'll one day drop gender altogether and let people decide? Thank you both for all the work you do, and these videos are great! :)

[@landohotpotato1313]

When I tell people I’m non-binary I often hear something like this. “I don’t care if your a zebra I’d still like you” which I guess they mean good by it but it actually pisses me off.😉😂😭

[@rdrebel8774]

Im a newly out nonbinary human my fianceè sent me this video and im glad she did cos ive been looking for nonbinary things to further help me to understand my own gender thid video was great 😊

[@cybremystica93]

“Just because I’m nonbinary doesn’t mean I have to be androgynous” so true, masculinity doesn’t make anyone a man ❤

[@aon02b]

"What's in your pants?" Why do you want to know? Do you wanna sleep with me? "Yes" Oh

[@symeona.3285]

YES OF COURSE YOU WANT TO SLEEP WITH THEM lmao why am I laughing so hard :') xD btw it's really cool to find more non-binary people on youtube,keep up the great work!

[@6avery6]

Non binary is an umbrella term for people who are neither feminine or masculine. I just wanted to get that out of the way.

[@6avery6]

***** i meant masculine or feminine in gender terms, im nb

[@Petrichor_Pyroclast]

This is the most respectful argument I've ever seen on the internet. Kudos to you both.

[@LyricsCrashx3]

"facts dont care about your feelings"

[@jennifermorgan6913]

Holy crap! I had to shift my narrative to the stereotype 35 years ago in order to get the surgery that I wanted. While we didn't have the word "non-binary" back then my initial description of who I am was totally unacceptable at that time as it often is even now. It was so great when I discovered NB as a description for myself despite the pushback that society often gives.

[@richiefrancis8424]

Hi Owl and Fox, I'm super impressed of the work you've done for the LGBTq plus Community.

[@stm7810]

Yes! Transphobe: I don't understand! I can't accept this! Person: do you understand quantum physics? what about the more simple models of chemistry, evolution? nutrition? Transphobe: no, why does that matter? Person: stop eating food! you need to learn all the science before you can accept it.

[@rosec1137]

I love this with a burning passion

[@eppicNESSSS]

i heavily relate to this

[@TheFoxFisher]

Yay :)

[@SurfingBOceanNesto22]

Teddy Bot I identify as a MADAO & it's extremely offensive when other call me with non-MADAO pronouns. Btw, mine are kms/41%

[@sabrinaavila7630]

i really enjoyed this video. i am too non binary, and it is hard. and bc everyone around me has known me for a very long time, and i barely came out as non binary about a year ago. before i came out i identified as a cis women, and now i identify as non binary with they/them pronouns. but a lot of people keep calling me she/her. what can i say to ask them to stop, bc ive tried before but i dont think they understand. if u have any advice, id love to hear it. maybe even in a video. btw this is my first time watching u both, and i cant wait to watch more videos:)

[@adalie4632]

Sabrina Avila Hi! I am non binary as well and I recently read a book by Marshall Rosenberg called “Nonviolent Communication” that has really been a game changer for me when I try to tell people about my preferred pronouns. What I usually say to close friends and family who still use she/her pronouns for me is this, “Would you like to know a way to better connect with me and support my need for respect and self-expression?” If yes, “Would you be willing to refer to me using they/them pronouns from now on? As in “they went to the store” instead of “she went to the store”.” I hope this helps! 😊💖

[@HerbDinoOhNo]

Ah, yeah, I get these kinds of questions all the time! Great video - fun and informative.

[@hatzter]

Great video guys, I can really relate to some of this with being non-binary and especially liked the bit at the end about saying non-binary fits under the trans umbrella and I feel okay using that as part of my identity although people still don't understand it.

[@TheFoxFisher]

Yes, non-binary is a valid identity under the trans umbrella :)

[@koseugle]

I'm so happy I found non binary youtubers!! Subscribing! C:

[@TheFoxFisher]

Whoop! :)

[@tyler9716]

who else is bi and proud

[@manzanillita]

0:33 aaaall the way. another issue i've been having as a spanish speaker is that adjectives are (binary) gendered and ppl not caring to do the switch. it's really annoying.

[@und1scovered_21]

I am quite a young nonbinary person and kids at my school don't really take the time to understand my gender identity, they also use it as an advantage and deadname me a lot. They use the wrong pronouns and all that stuff, there are some who get curious and actually take the time to ask questions in which I do answer. It is just very hard for me as I am in the closet from my family and kids make fun of me

[@henryjames443]

You're doing great work, keep it up xx

[@yms4355]

So since you're "Trans"... Where are you TRANSitioning to? :)

[@truemakale]

Yasper Madmoon "trans" as a root word also carries the meaning of "across". For example, the TPP, "trans-Pacific Partnership" stretches across the ocean. So it would seem reasonable for someone to claim the "transgender" label if their gender experience stretches "across" the gender spectrum, don't you think?

[@yms4355]

D Thompson Lol attack helicopter is made for TRANSporting. :'D

[@yms4355]

D Thompson And there is only two genders, bunch of clothes and a personality! I identify as a male, I dress cool/badass mostly and I have a bubbly personality!♥ :) I do not have to use ton of made up labels for genders when I can show my true personality!

[@truemakale]

Yasper Madmoon yes, helicopters, boats, planes, bicycles, skateboards etc are made in part for "trans" (across) "port" (carry) "-ation" (noun ending). That is, carrying an object across distance. Is that odd? As to your assertion that there are only two genders, it is certainly the case that most modern Americans until recently have used the word "gender" as a synonym for sex and, yes, setting aside the fairly rare instance of intersexed individuals the vast majority of people are born as one of two *sexes*. But more and more I think it's clear that many people would like to make a clear distinction between our biology (sex) and our cultural expressions (gender). And obviously there are many many different ways we can express ourselves culturally through our mannerisms and what we wear so I think it makes sense that as some people try to build communities among those who feel and behave similarly they will come up with various labels for themselves. Some labels probably will fade out of use, but some will probably stick. Language, especially language surrounding cultural identity ebbs and flows. You could deride the term "African-American" for example on the basis that all modern human species originated on the African continent, so if we could all trace our lineage back far enough all of us in the US would theoretically be "African-Americans", but to pretend that that is how most people use the term is to be needlessly and obviously obtuse. Basically, if any label succeeds at communicating a set of shared characteristics to those who hear it then it will be useful and persist, and if not, it won't. Of course, if you have a word besides "non-binary" that you think succinctly captures the idea of people who through their clothing, mannerisms, etc embody a contradiction in our mainstream notions of gender, feel free to use it and argue that others use it too. Through time society collectively will decide if it merits persistent widespread usage. :)

[@yms4355]

D Thompson If it's cultural, why did gays and transgender people in conversion therapy got themselves in great pain and suicide? If gender would entirely be cultural, those factors would be working.

[@antoniadixon256]

Fantastic video totally enjoyed it very educational with great humor you two make a beautiful couple lots of love Antonia.

[@destinyblackshadows]

Heard so many of these from my parents and siblings, thanks for making this video, I love it

[@lesbianbear6516]

I’m nonbinary and this is all true

[@fjordsi7404]

lol all words are made up. Love this

[@EspressoCatPlays]

Amazing video, great stuff. Sub now. So sad that only a handful country has thirde juridic gender... I Always Think of moving to Australia or New Zeeland, just so I can fully be who I want to be. Even I get a more female body and look more female, I have difficult so see me as either a man or woman.. Lots has to be done Before can live fully out as we are...

[@snaildoggys]

ahh thank you for this video ^ ^ I’m nonbinary and I get this shit a lot,, so this made me feel better 💗💗

[@Kaalokalawaia]

Just because I'm non binary doesn't mean I have to be androgynous.. This all day this. I've always been seen as very female. Because my look is very feminine. But mentally I do not see my self as purely female. I feel I am truly in the middle .. not male fully .. not female fully. This has lead to issues in my relating to others as some people just don't get how I relate to them.. or I don't relate like they would expect me to.

[@nato3699]

You guys are amazing! Thank you for the video!!!

[@shireematthews9824]

Awesome guys, thanks 🙂

[@nerdwaydone]

You two are wonderful! Thanks for being you!

[@nerdwaydone]

Thanks for making this video! I love you both!!!

[@ryk6207]

Yes, I've felt like I have to present as a binary trans man in order to be taken seriously. It's a shame.

[@jamiekerner9580]

thank you for that video! we do need more funny educational videos and representation and so on. much love and stay safe!

[@TheFoxFisher]

Thanks!!

[@adammbader2903]

"None of your f***ing business" XD

[@vaguemagic1430]

this is really helping me today, thank you

[@recondito]

Every time I hear someone say they’re non-binary and they get into it, all it boils down to is “I don’t fit the roles and expectations of being a man/woman. I just wanna be myself.” that is actually pretty backwards. You don’t have to be masculine and fill the “male role” to be a man, nor be feminine and fill the “female role” to be a woman. Being trans is a medical condition. Being non-binary is ideological. You can be a feminine man, a masculine woman, and inbetween, that doesn’t means you’re trans or non-binary. It just means you have a personality.

[@juanmorellprats6622]

Great video guys!

[@cruellykawaii]

"Well spotted" gFSKAGSKSK 24/7 mood

[@customfantasyhotwheels]

Point 1:32 *She* and *He* are going through a trendy phase and found each other😍 This is a beautiful couple. Way to troll everyone😄

[@ouji8809]

randomdly stumbled upon this video and! wow! you're both so beautiful 💕

[@peachybaby6448]

uwu shout out to all my beautiful nonbinary friends

[@SikanderG]

I love the ending ("Do you want to sleep with me?" "Yes").

[@ASWCo09]

1:05 Yes I do enjoy dressing as a girl even though I usually dress more masculine. Femboys = Perfect

[@RelentlessOhiox]

I'll be sure to remember that in case someone randomly shouts this to me in the street..

[@kimblythe68]

Love this video. Thanks for this!

[@TheartistArson]

It took me too long to realize that it was them in different outfits

[@rosannam7623]

Hey I'm a trans woman and have been very open and really trying to understand non binary alot more , I understand the general aspect of what it means , a person who doesn't identify with being a traditional man or woman wether your cis or trans, the part I can't get my head around is if for example your a non binary person and you still identify as what we know as a stereotypical man or woman then how are you non binary? I know gender expression is different its beyond the clothes you wear and masculine and feminine are traits people have regardless of your gender or sexuality , I get it, but this concept of being a person that does not deem themselves as a man or woman but doesn't actively identify as such (non binary being a gender identity) authentically, I just dont understand why you wouldn't actively attempt to look like someone who isnt a man or woman cause the question then is ,what does non binary look like? I hope that makes sense and I'm not a hater or a bigot I'm a binary trans woman that's really trying so hard to understand I'm not trying to upset anyone I think you two are lovely people and the world just needs time to get there heads around being non binary it's not something that will go away so keep fighting, silence equals death I'm supportive all the way just still misunderstood about alot of it and I want to understand more ❤

[@DaliusRB]

Oh my, I love it, I laughed a lot !!!

[@ginellawilliams4639]

I love it, thank you so much x

[@Katistic1]

Owl takes no shit ha!

[@TheFoxFisher]

This is so true :)

[@shaderickard3606]

Great video

[@gabrielko7374]

I really love your video!!! but having east-european family I am not feeling well with the accent and clothes you used for the character Owl impersonated... :(

[@TheFoxFisher]

Oh no! Owl would never try impersonate an Eastern European woman! That's Owl's Aunt Rósa, the Icelandic Traditionalist. --Owl is Icelandic too.

[@gabrielko7374]

+Fox Fisher Thanks for your answer. It's good to know she is impersonating somebody who is really existing. That changes much for me. Thanks a lot. :)

[@oonooooooooo]

Hi! Are you a hater or strongly disagree with the existence of non-binary people? Well this is the comment for you! You can say all the slurs, swears and forget human respect here! You can reply with all your rants, as long as you don’t smear your toxicity on other people’s comments. Hey! We’re all human right? So go ahead!

[@thedude4232]

So low and loose. Im non binary and i told my mom "Try it out" Dont hypocryzize me for being the personality champ.

[@woollychannel6759]

But why non binary? Why not sexism? I am a woman who wore a shirt and jeans and studied Physics - something that would not have been dreamed of 100 years ago. Now if someone criticized this, people would say 'that's sexist! why can't a woman do these things?' My point is: If a woman can wear trousers, why can't a man wear dresses? Isn't that just sexist?

[@TheFoxFisher]

Woolly Channel I think you have misunderstood the whole concept of this video.. This video highlights issues that non binary people face on a daily basis, which is often very sexist and based on gender stereotypes.

[@Dannyashcroft98]

I don't want to sound horrible but I'm not actually sure what non binary is and what it means for people who are all I have understood from it is that you don't see your self as male or female. I would like if you could do a video just explaining about non binary and like what it is. I l9ve your videos. also like I know you are non binary but is it you prefer to look masculine rather than feminine. sorry I really don't want to sound nasty or anything I'm just genuinely interested to find out more about it. I identify as male myself. I was born a female and I am in the process of transitioning

[@Darks3627]

Owl is soooo cute. I hope some day I'll be able to look that cute.

[@xxanimationgachaxx7780]

Im Nonbinary but I cant come out because My dad is homophobic...

[@franckbynature5141]

I've seen so many of your videos and I think you're both wonderful and would love to meet you at some point. But, you never mention your pronouns! What are they?

[@mom-ii3yk]

I love this so much 💓✨

[@grigsby1692]

AHH HOW HAVE I NOT SEEN THS ALREADY

[@amandawishon6256]

thanks for your help

[@TheFoxFisher]

Cheers for watching!

[@amandawishon6256]

Love it

[@TravelingwiththeGramkracker]

loved this video

[@moonbook12]

For me it is so hard because my native language is based of gender so I have to use he/his/she/her/they/them pounces

[@moonbook12]

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[@honestlythetruth6664]

You don't have to understand someone in order to respect them

[@antifasupersoldier2662]

Good content.

[@megsyhessey6860]

Ok please be patient with me as I'm still learning and grasping concepts and I in no way mean to be rude in my questions. So fox you were a FtM but identify as non binary which means you don't have a specific gender?. Same w owl but she was MtF?, thank you

[@TheFoxFisher]

Hi Megsy - I'm trans and always identified as genderqueer and now nonbinary - something which I was never allowed to mention on MTS so said I was a binary trans man to simplify things which is also what I said to my doctor to access hormones and surgery. However I feel there are ridiculous ideals for men and women and that gender is a construct and I reject all of that. I am just me.

[@megsyhessey6860]

+Fox Fisher thank you fox:), great explanation

[@Lavender_Louis]

💙

[@Mindofedward]

I made a video about 2 gender topic. Would appreciate your support xoxo

[@amandawishon6256]

love it have a good question how do you tell someone you care about that you want to be a different gender

[@TheFoxFisher]

It's a hard thing to do - but always best to be honest. If they don't want to know you, then they clearly aren't the right friend for you - and you can make new ones! :)

[@alexsebel]

Interesting choice in portraying one of the ingnorant people as a stereotypical Russian, did you not have a fake fu manchu and a straw hat for an Asian costume?

[@TheFoxFisher]

I think you'll find that Owl's Aunt Rósa, the Icelandic Traditionalist. Catch a Q&A with her at facebook.com/mygenderation. I'm half Asian, although that doesn't give me licence to appropriate.

[@strangerr13]

Best couple 👏👏👏