Non binary dysphoria explained

[@jupitertheplanet.]

baggy t-shirts: **exist** people with top dysphoria: HELL YEAH

[@snowgras]

Oml Ikr but I like baggy hoodies more ;w;

[@jupitertheplanet.]

snøw tea any kind of baggy top is my best friend

[@snowgras]

its not a phase mom yep 👌

[@matthoons]

I wear baggy hoodies and baggy shirts lol

[@goosesauce9785]

Also having your shoulders as far forward as possible lmao

[@incelrevolution69]

Dysphoria: "You're gonna look like a girl in that" "You're gonna look like a boy in that" Me: * visable confusion *

[@alcovee]

MEEEE HAHHHA

[@alart977]

Exactly

[@asher4543]

I haven't seen anything more relatable in my life.

[@weirdcoffeecake2062]

ME KWJDJDJHSHE HAHA

[@WBFNBS8809]

This 😪

[@emilylanier482]

I needed this. This explains exactly how I feel about my breasts, and my body shape. I have curves and large hips. It sometimes makes me very upset. Other days, I can deal with my breasts. It depends on the day.

[@kissmeinass1071]

Emily Lanier maybe it id called bipolar disorder

[@codechtapia3411]

Emily Lanier You just need Jesus, do not change your body. Jesus loves you, the enemy wants you to ruin your body and when you realize it is going to be too late to reverse back.

[@soso3792]

OH MY GOD. This is literally my exact situation. I’d try my best to bind and wear masculine-shaped clothing to conceal them but I don’t have a binder and it doesn’t work very well. I do however have a trusty tight sports bra which successfully gets me down to an A+ :) My dysphoria fluctuates a little too. A few days I’m okay with them but for most others I want them gone. And honestly, the most infuriating thing about being nonbinary is that there’s no actual method to use to develop an androgynous body except to go on very low doses of T if you’re AFAB or very low doses of E if you’re AMAB.

[@soso3792]

Alx Yeah, I was thinking about that.

[@vintryx]

@@kissmeinass1071 I- you do realize that bipolar.. Is about.. Mood swings.. Not gender dysphoria..

[@bec3581]

I tell my mom how I feel about my period and she's like "You're going to have to deal with it for the rest of your life." And I just-

[@limpbitkiz]

samee

[@NatureLover-pj2qe]

Same

[@Stardust.Wonder]

That sucks! Some parents just don't know how to validate emotions.

[@jaycoston5274]

same damn, its awful

[@Moria2986]

Get an iud if you can! Hormonal iuds stop your periods ;D

[@taramisu3280]

I'm a cisgenger woman, and when I was questioning my gender identity I identified as nonbinary. Although I was nonbinary I still identified with "she" pronouns. Any other pronouns felt odd to me. It was later that I realized I experienced gender disphoria only when others would apply gender roles to me, sexualize me, or just be sexist/condescending to me. Then I was all like, "... FUCK" cus I realized I didn't want to identify as a woman because I didn't want to be treated the way society treats women.From then 'till now I can proudly call my gender identity my own. I never disliked my femininity. I was scared to show it because of the way others would react, BUT... now I be like, "Dis is who I am and I will define femininity for myself, thank you!" So now it's a huge weight off my shoulders to be comfortable with my own identity, defined by me. So I continue to not shave my armpits, burp loudly, and maintain my femininity/humanity at the same time :)

[@SammyBirdTheGreat]

Tara misu I've had a few friends come to the same conclusion, and your point definitely is one that should be discussed - when I came out to my mom as nonbinary years ago she told me something very similar, but she also tacked on that I'd feel differently when I was older, but I haven't. Being a woman who does not want to be a woman bc of what society has decided they are is very different from having dysphoria and being trans 💖💖

[@SugarCubesMiki]

Non conforming ? (:

[@Lunaius]

Unfortunately most people now think this and end up believing they're some third gender now instead.

[@vicklepickle301]

Good for you that you found where you belonged in the end! That's my goal to be honest, to finally find myself like you did and be comfortable. I'm growing everyday and I feel very comfortable being non binary. I dislike being called by female pronouns, looking female and most importantly, seeing myself female. Same with male. It's just not right for me. I'm very sure I have reached my goal and I will take on the enbyphobia, because it's worth it if I get to be and feel like myself in the end.

[@Noah-js8ey]

Tara misu thank you for sharing!💞

[@kas1794]

I feel the same way about my chest.. like it's fine when I'm naked but if I'm not wearing a sports bra under clothing it's super uncomfortable and doesn't feel like part of my body. So now I only wear sports bras and feel way more comfortable, but also I find myself turning to the side and fixating on my chest in the mirror to make sure it's flat enough.

[@Journeyz2020]

kas I do the same thing

[@katy7355]

kas I feel the same way xx

[@autumnsky1681]

Totally doing the same.

[@hollowangelowo]

kas I am the exact same way! Except I hate being completely naked, I feel super uncomfortable about my body and with sports bras my chest feels flatter and it makes me feel better.

[@soso3792]

Same here. I’ve got a favorite sports bra that is small and compressing and it works well, not perfectly, but still well enough to keep my chest relatively flat. I’m a B so it’s slightly harder to conceal and I can’t buy any binders at the moment because I’m 16 and don’t have a credit card. I identify as non-binary as well btw.

[@theannieelainey]

I've been questioning with my eye on "gender fluid" for a some time now, because I'll go through lengths of time with similar dysphoria, but then lengths at a time comfortable with a feminine perceived body. As a constant, I desire a more androgynous expression or moreso an androgynous body shape/aesthetic, if people use the word "feminine" to describe me, I often internally get upset, but have difficulty pin pointing if that is dysphoria or if it might be some kind of internalized misogyny. However sometimes, if femininity is the intent of my expression, I'll be fine. Does that make sense? I'm lost myself, trying to navigate through everything.

[@valeriaferri4657]

I'm experiencing the same thing, but I don't really know how to wrap my head around it. I'll have periods of time where i'm very comfortable with expressing my feminine identity, but also times where I wish i could present in a more masculine way. I also feel dysphoric about my chest and my hips, even though my period is when I experience dysphoria the most. Anyway, if you ever feel the need to talk about it, maybe we could have a discussion! Hope you had a lovely day xx

[@theannieelainey]

Valeria Ferri Thanks! Same! I made note of that in my gender tag last year, that my breasts, hips, and bottom, were things I always wanted to hide or make smaller. But it can be so complex as to why, just like I considered whether being upset at being called" feminine" might have to do with gender identity or internalized misogyny, I also examine whether the sexualization of those particular body parts I mentioned, and how it can be borderline triggering when someone comments on my "big booty", I wonder if it's really trauma from past sex violence that forms my feelings on my body (but then who's to say gender expression and fluid gender identity can't help us heal, as well).

[@loreleibowman]

I'm exactly the same, and I identify as genderfluid. In general my default is androgynous, leaning towards masc. but I have periods where I feel very feminine etc. I definitely get dysphoric about it too. You're not alone.

[@Sam-nx3co]

I thought I was alone but omg I feel the exact same way

[@debsofthemoon]

that sounds so like me!

[@airohtheenby]

I'm agender and I experience a lot of top dysphoria! It just feels like it's not apart of me, and like my real chest is underneath, and what I see is wrong. I don't hate my chest, I just feel like it's not my chest, and I want desperately to remove it. As far as bottom dysphoria I have none unless its feminized. I don't have any desire to have anything else, and I actually feel dysphoric thinking of myself with a penis, but I often disconnect when what I have is referred to as "female genitalia" or something girls deal with. Like I feel comfortable with my genitals only when I think of them as genderless, mine, and separate from societies views.

[@jasperperez5338]

I feel the same way! Also, agender squad unite!

[@starflaregaming2068]

I agree with you so much! I always have to look away from the mirror before I have a shower because looking at my chest makes me feel uncomfortable (the same happens when I'm changing clothes). Also, yay for agender!

[@BlueBird1994_]

I'm in the same boat as you Airoh. I'm also agender(but also demigirl) and have such chest dysphoria that I wish to have top surgery someday. In the meantime, I bind daily, and probably for a little longer time in the day than I should, but dysphoria.... >

[@Isak-H]

I feel almost the same

[@Isak-H]

I hate my hips too

[@suemoro]

My dysphoria is exactly the same! This video was like watching my inner self speaking. When I get my period, I often find myself upset because it gets in the way of me being my authentic self. Its a constant reminder that I was born female, and I wish it would stop. I'm also lucky and I do not have to bind. Sports bras do the job fine for me.

[@soso3792]

Sues BookNook Same here. When I get my period I always feel that it’s not just troublesome and painful, but also terrible because I’m constantly reminded that it’s a “female” thing, and it increases my dysphoria. I actually wouldn’t mind losing my whole womb and ovaries, don’t need them anyway. (I’m gay, referring to the umbrella term)

[@soso3792]

Alx Thats like when you’re 48 lmao And there’s other health risks that come with it too

[@felix3724]

Same

[@30ratsstackedinatrenchcoat91]

I don't want to be female goddamnit let me just cut off these damn sacks of flesh on my chest and get rid of my uterus permanently. But then i also don't wanna be a guy ajdgskdjsb I'm so fucking confused

[@aBbY-im4uo]

@@soso3792 literally my same case I hate my period it makes me feel unwelcome in my own body and I feel trapped and I’m gay non binary And I hate kids so thanks a lot earth

[@MrSteith]

Gender noncompliance is a struggle many people of all different types have known through most traces of human civilizations. It isn't new. It isn't strange. It's not a mental illness. To the extent that dysphoria is a part of it, it is a treatable situation: sometimes medically, sometimes surgically, sometimes just behaviorally. These days there is a more socially embracing atmosphere in which to express it and learn about people's real challenges, experiences. I applaud that. I like the way you speak about this complex situation with clarity and ownership. Thanks for this video, and the courage it took to make it.

[@crocodilerock9892]

I'm FtM, and my dysphoria is different for different parts of my body. For my chest, it's like it's not supposed to be there. Sometimes when I see my chest after not thinking about it for a while, I'm genuinely surprised, because it's so foreign to me. It makes it so that I don't recognize my body. When it comes to my period, I don't really want to get out of bed. I have no motivation to start the day, because it drains me so much emotionally. I can't wait to get home everyday and do nothing when I'm on my period. Then there's stuff like voice dysphoria, where I try so hard to make it lower that I hurt my throat. Sometimes I'll forget that I'm lowering my voice, and it'll get really high all of the sudden and it's super embarrassing. It's like I'll get so far, and my voice will be so deep, and then I have to stop. It almost feels like you're running a marathon, and once you can see the finish line, someone comes and pushes you back 10 miles.

[@oldskoolmacboy]

How old are you?

[@crocodilerock9892]

oldskoolmacboy Why?

[@oldskoolmacboy]

It has an impact on why you are feeling the way you do.

[@crocodilerock9892]

oldskoolmacboy I'm 13. If you're here to tell me that this is going to go away bc I'm young and confused, it's not going to work.

[@oldskoolmacboy]

No, but you have to recognise that your body is going through major changes. I went through a lot of changes very quickly about the age of 8 or 9 (very young). I remember a feeling of almost disgust at my own body. Eventually I accepted my adult body, what your going through is very, very common.

[@abrady0]

“I don’t have to bind my chest” Lucky, I’m 12, with a b cup already, still growing, sports bras are not cutting it, trying to find tighter ones. Also periods, it’s blood coming out of my vagina involuntarily, why do some people like being female? I can’t understand it but I am jealous.

[@sofiasrapio7994]

Try binders if you can because you can get hurt puting thight things on your chest, also be careful were you get the binders from because it can be dangerous to. It's a little confusing at the beginning but it's about experimenting

[@kotorineko2145]

Bro I'm a DD and I'm 14 T_T. My sister is an F, and I'm probably going to be that when I'm her age. T_T.

[@annemariebenoit4263]

Most women don't like their period either. It is physically uncomfortable, inconvenient, and the intense emotions are no joke.

[@Louisyed]

I am a cisgender female and so I don't know if you can call this dysphoria, but I have a hormonal condition which means I have some male pattern hair growth. That makes me feel awful about myself and I feel like I'm "not a proper woman" and unfeminine and ugly because of it. So I understand how gender is a really important part of our identities which many cisgender people have the privilege of not having to think about often. But when there is a mismatch it feels so personal and difficult to handle

[@toomanyopinions8353]

definitely dysphoria! dysphoria is actually a broader word for many things, when trans people use the term they're abbreviating "gender dysphoria". Cis women can and often do feel body dysphoria.

[@kdfilms7813]

Yea that’s dysphoria bc you’re comfortable being a woman so things that typically only affect a biological male should/would bother you

[@kdfilms7813]

A M. Not necessarily. Men grow hair in places that females will have little to none. (Back, face, chest etc) so a woman very comfortable with being a woman would find those things uncomfortable

[@kdfilms7813]

A M. Obviously yes that’s a thing. Yes everyone has body hair. But she described she has “male pattern body hair” which in my interpretation that means that she’s growing more hair in places that a typical biological female wouldn’t. Lots of hair on your face back and chest is not a component of a typical female. Yes obviously there are cases of females that don’t fit into that and some of them learn to embrace that (like the people you mention) and there are some that become highly uncomfortable/dysphoric about that. That’s not necessarily a societal expectation bc biologically women just don’t have hair in certain places. HOWEVER the idea that females have to shave their legs where as men don’t IS a societal expectation bc both genders can grow a considerable amount of leg hair(with variations of course) So my point is you can’t view both situations under the same light bc some hair biologically doesn’t normally grow on a female in the same way as a male

[@kdfilms7813]

A M. Again, armpits/legs etc are places where both genders grow very visible/longer hair. I’m very well aware that everyone has at least a little bit of hair everywhere on their body. But it is a biological fact that the average man (keyword here is average so we’re not counting men that don’t produce enough testosterone to grow hair in those places) will grow darker, thicker and therefore more visible facial(etc) hair than a woman. There’s nothing society can do about that. Like I said the societal expectation is when society ~expects~ women to shave leg/armpit hair when men don’t have to(because both genders grow it visibly enough). To put it in better perspective: facial hair is considered a secondary sex characteristic of a male, not a female. Leg/arm(pit) hair is not a secondary sex characteristic. That’s why one isn’t a societal expectation.

[@Phoenix-uy7nm]

My experience with dysphoria has changed through the years so much that I almost feel like a different person than I was 10 years ago, when I first came out and started transitioning. I've always felt genderqueer even before I had a label for it. But I believed back then that if I wanted to be taken seriously as a transgender masculine-leaning person, I had to go ALL OUT and be 1000 percent masculine! I made myself suffer a lot because I'd reject femininity in any form just so that I could establish myself firmly in one way. I was afraid. I felt like everything was a contest with other ftm friends on who could be the "most masculine". And then, due to many circumstances, transitioning got put on hold. I went "back" to living in society as a woman even though I personally still felt the same as always. My dysphoria lessened for a while but would come bubbling up occasionally. It got stronger and stronger until about a year ago I couldn't hide it anymore. I started the medical process of transitioning again, but this time it's so different. I embrace myself as genderqueer transmasc person. I am living socially as a guy, but this time I haven't thrown away all my feminine clothes nor will I try so hard to change my mannerisms. I'm just ME. And I've kept my hair really, really long. People are all over the place with pronouns and it's hard sometimes, but I feel it's more important for my own mind/body integrity to not give in to societal expectations, and make myself happy instead!

[@namelesswolf2625]

that's so nice!! keep being yourself!

[@SammyBirdTheGreat]

Gavin Smith This is really reassuring to hear - I'm currently going thru the same thing

[@jamesroyce1845]

I think what many people forget that each of the two genders also includes elements of the other so even in hyper-masculine men, there is an element of compassion and vulnerability - and vice versa in women. We look back at our grandparents and parents generations (I'm 62, a gay man, with kids and grand kids) and wonder at the strength of our mothers and the apparent lack of empathy in our fathers. Men were always encouraged to put on a brave face and 'deal with it' but men can be masculine and still have a softer side - especially where their children are concerned. Mums seemed to roll up their sleeves and had no time for nonsense, keeping the heart and home together, maintaining family ties and rituals. The point is that ignoring these inherent traits leads to the kind of imbalance you describe in rejecting all forms of femininity, it just doesn't work if you force yourself into an imbalance that is wrong for YOU. While certain conventions have been established in society, where those conventions are forced in one direction or another, there you will find unhappiness and even violence.

[@something_strange3086]

danm....i wish i still had my really long hair....but im pre anything... and people messing up my pronouns hurts alot

[@maygenmarkworth6777]

Honestly my period just makes me cry. It just reminds me that I was born something that I don't feel like. I cry bc of the increased hormones, dysphoria, and knowing that my family doesn't think nonbinary exists, and that's "it's not the right thing for me". And that 'i can't be nonbinary bc I'm AFAB'.

[@foxseen121]

My dysphoria centers around my breasts I want them gone or at least smaller I'm non-binary but it's my breast that always get me so I bind cuz I'm a double D and I have to feel comfortable when my dysphoria is extremely high but I have back problems so I can't bind every day so FML

[@cielciakalon3671]

Lance Boyle what a horrible thing to say. It’s not your choice to make that for them or to even tell them that. Their body doesn’t belong to any man in any form or way. It’s theirs. Get your head out of your ass, dipshit.

[@xunniehan]

Lance Boyle Just because someone has big breasts, it doesn’t mean that they HAVE to let men play with them. If their breasts make them uncomfortable and they want them removed or binded away, well, they can! After all, it’s their body and their choice.

[@Loverofallthingsliving]

Same!!! I feel exactly the same I HATE wearing bras and I always have. But because I hate bras so much I wouldn’t be able to cope with a binder bc it’s too tight so I guess I’m stuck with them😅

[@VikingHorseCreations]

Oh i feel that. I have a c-cup. And I wanna get rid of my breasts so bad...

[@NatureLover-pj2qe]

Same. I don’t have a binder tho and really want one.

[@renskevroomans4231]

As a cis-gender who's just educating herself on the topic, I don't want to claim that I understand how you feel. Still, I can kind of relate to what you said about periods, although my thorough dislike of them probably has a different underlying reason: it feels like my body is attacking itself. Since I do not want kids, why should I go throught this? The solution for me is the hormonal IUD (brand name Mirena). Though your mileage may vary (some other people hated it) for me it stopped the periods completely and I think it also keeps the mood swings down considerably. I get the impression that not many people know about it, so I just thought I'd share it here.

[@asterismos5451]

Thanks for being a great ally! I looked into an IUD but it sounds too painful for me to want to go through with it right now, but I'm on birth control pills that I take back-to-back so I only (theoretically) have three periods a year. It's not working too well, but it's giving me a sense of control over it and making it lighter and more manageable, so that's helped a lot.

[@chelonianmobile]

I don't think many people LIKE having periods. I wonder if that gives other DFAB people trouble figuring out they're having dysphoria? I know I'm still struggling with a lot of issues relating to both periods and social misogyny; "is this dysphoria or is it just a way being female sucks that cis women don't like either?"

[@virgovirtuoso]

As a CIS women who hates menstruating, I use the term penis envy. I'm not dysphoric, I just really wish I didn't menstruate or have to drink so much damn water to keep a healthy ecosystem down under

[@jamesroyce1845]

You describe perfectly the physiological versus the psychological that gives rise to the dysphoria many people suffer. Your body did not know that your mind decided that you didn't want children and so kept doing what it was programmed to do. You sought an intervention and have adapted, well done.

[@ExtraCreativeUsername]

A M. The thing is that we don't. We don't simply stop eating or pooping or anything because they're inconvenient. Because we can't live without those. But we CAN live without periods. Periods are the bane of existence for AFAB people who are trans/nonbinary/agender/genderfluid/etc. It's like binding. Sure, it comes with dangers, and it can be painful, but that's a small price to pay for none or just less dysphoria. If you don't want to get an IUD, don't get one. But don't scare other people away, because there are upsides to it just as there are downsides.

[@autumnkivisto4999]

I hate labels in general I accept myself and no one else has to IDC who calls me he or she I see myself as just Autumn and that's all that matters to me And it's took awhile for me to get to that point I use to be so tied up in how everyone else saw me and that's just to stressful for me I got tired of it

[@juniper6938]

I'm questioning if I'm NB... Help

[@jenius9164]

Me too. I'm so confused.

[@jenius9164]

What's your experience with gender?

[@juniper6938]

Jennifer Lynn idk... I can’t really tell if I’m experiencing dysphoria or not

[@NatureLover-pj2qe]

Saying I’m non-binary feel like it describes me but I still question it.

[@confuseddiluc4972]

Yeah I'm very confused because I feel like I'm faking it

[@sweetangelbutts]

I'm in shock. I never felt like I belonged in either community and you put words to exactly why I am uncomfortable at times with my body

[@jiminsphoenix6403]

I'm literally so confused about my gender thing, i don't think that 'non binary' fits me me either🤡

[@Damon9]

You don’t need a label!! Just take your time

[@bomoore9872]

At 1:38 I felt what you were saying so much I started crying. I've been experiencing this since 4th grade. Hoodies to make my breasts nonexistent without actually knowing that's what I wanted to do. Baggy pants to make my hips more "masculine." And now I'm in 10th grade and I finally realized I was nonbinary. Yet I still have doubts because I think my dysphoria "isn't real" I think it's because it's not the most extreme form. but idk.

[@JadeEliot]

I can't get my mom to understand that I NEED to have top surgery in order to eliminate the dysphoria I feel around my breasts and that binding isn't a permanent solution and that this is who I am and I'm not going to regret getting the surgery. I don't know if anything I say or do will make her even slightly okay with me getting top surgery.

[@cockballtourture9938]

AweZome Alice because there not happy

[@torrinashley6076]

@A M. Transgender identities don't go away, what the fuck are you on about?

[@Spooky.Sashimi]

I mean I don't think you need to be getting top surgery if your young enough that your mom has to be approving it. \It's not a surgery that has to be done early in life to be successful. When you're young it's easy to get confused by some of the people online that lie about things like this and influenced by their decisions. It sounds like your mom is worried about that and wants to make sure that you're actually trans and not just going through a phase or even just experiencing body dysmorphia rather than gender dysphoria. Especially if you haven't talked to a professional about these feelings.

[@Spooky.Sashimi]

@@torrinashley6076 If you're actually trans no they don't. But it's really easy for a lot of young people to get confused. ESPECIALLY when dealing with body dysmorphia and thinking it's gender dysphoria. Or even just not fitting into gender norms can confused a young person. Either way, no one should be getting any surgery if they have to have their moms permission.

[@southamericunt6354]

How old are you guys please dont put your poor moms through this hell lol If youre teens you cant even drink let alone change your body like this

[@emmagrace8938]

This is making me feel so freaking valid as a AFAB person who’s still trying to figure out their gender identity. Non-binary is feeling more and more right to me, and watching this video has made me come to terms with the fact that I actually *do* have dsyphoria, and it makes me feel better to know that I must be on the right path now. Thank you for the information ❤️

[@lonelyraiju1457]

I'm a girl by birth, but sometimes i look in the mirror and wish my chest was gone. Or that my hips weren't wide. So i cover up in layers to hide my body shape. I also sometimes wish I had male genitals. But I dont think i would feel comfortable being referred as a boy. Could i maybe me non binary?

[@Libbychicken]

Lonely Raijū yes definitely. Or it’s possible that you’re just not ready to id as a boy yet which is fine. You be you ;)

[@vicklepickle301]

@@xbduf4gb I do agree that the first one could be a reason. And actually, thanks to outside sources, we can actually explore ourselves and find ourselves instead of being trapped in a little conservative bubble and not being happy.

[@-tyleranimish-4213]

You may also be ftm

[@-tyleranimish-4213]

@@xbduf4gb Maybe. Idk. She can find out her true self. Regardless.

[@keypratt9595]

I feel like this too sometimes. I think yes

[@StarField369]

Me: **tries to find a video on every type of dysphoria because I am ✨ a mess~ ✨** Lol I am female by sex, and she/he/they by gender.

[@OnyxLoll]

started developing top dysphoria a when my top started growing, and like, i get sick when i'm taking a shower and at times started crying. didn't know that i was feeling dysphoria. Bless baggy shirts

[@BikiniDeathSquad]

I literally just learned today that gender and biological sex are two different things and that gender is a social construct. These facts do change my opinion on the pronoun debate.

[@AIRRIFLEMANIA4584]

Jesse G fuck you

[@ChortlesOfDoom]

Calm down, Darrell.

[@lane6136]

Jesse G gender is biological construct

[@rockncreatorforever6058]

Lana Del Raider no

[@thatonewayyyyoverthere]

Good for you!

[@FANGwoof]

I've been thinking about my true gender and you've basically hit the nail on the head. I've hated the idea of having breasts since they first started developing and no matter where I go I feel like that's all people see of me. I'm also not just dysphoric about periods, but my whole reproductive system in general. If I could get them removed I'd do it in a heartbeat.

[@jaycoston5274]

kokjosj same bruh, literally me as a kid every single day id look down in the shower at my chest and be like "nonon hahah go away, quit growing, leave me alone" but i couldn't do anything to stop it. And yet i had the audacity to look at myself in the mirror and be like "im a girl" like please 😭

[@sugarapplesweet]

Thank you so much for making this video. I find a lot of channels that focus on the experiences transmen and transwomen, but not a whole lot of NB information or even discussion. I feel so lost when it comes to expressing my gender identity. I don't want top or bottom surgery because there are days when I feel fine with my breasts and vagina. Other times, I want the boobs gone and a penis between my legs. Sometimes, I want a mix like no breasts and a vagina. It's gone on for so long that I'm not even sure when it started. I'm working on saving up for a binder, and then I'll see about how I want to progress from there.

[@SammyBirdTheGreat]

Briar Lynn oh my god I'm so relieved someone else feels the same way I wish I could control my chest and genitals and change them at will because it's so awful having them stuck one way

[@abbey8865]

i feel the same exact way!

[@soso3792]

Same here. The things Ash had said about periods are especially true. Sometimes I lie in bed hoping that the next morning I turn into a male or that my womb is gone. I’m non binary and AFAB.

[@tteoke]

yeah, it’s like sometimes i wish i was just a feminine male because it would get rid of a lot of problems i have

[@kdk750]

Have you tried period “panties” you can get them in styles that maybe would feel a little more comfortable too. I know the Canadian brand Aisle has brief and boxer brief leakproof styles. Thinx also has a great line up. Definitely not sponsored, just thought that might be helpful.

[@coralovesnature]

As a nonbinary person myself, period underwear has really helped me (I use Thinx). I have bottom dysphoria in which I hate the thought of touching or even looking at my nether-regions, so the underwear makes it super easy to avoid that.

[@alixlandriault1212]

OMG YOU PUT IT INTO WORDS. Accepting my chest privately but not wanting to "present" it in daily life bc of people's feminizing of it.

[@landis9767]

as an enby myself, often wondering if i really have dysphoria, thank you

[@NatureLover-pj2qe]

Yea I can relate

[@JustSomeDamnLittleFella]

Omg this is so helpful Now, after coming to terms with my sexuality, i got to start questioning my gender a few months prior and now everything finally makes sense. Everytime i get my period it makes me feel so sick and disgusted with myself. And not sick because of my cramps but i cannot stand the thought that a uterus is a part of my body and that it hypothetically would be able to produce a child. Which is like the worst nightmare for me. I thought for so long that something is terribly wrong with me for not accepting my body as it is

[@marsh9564]

I'm non-binary (agender, technically,) and I feel a huge amount of dysphoria about my torso, and whenever people say things to me along the lines of "having a woman's body" all I can think of is, okay where is this woman whose body I have, because I don't want it so I would gladly give it back! There are basically no options for transition, medical or otherwise, not only on account of the sheer financial costs, but because the Canadian Gov't only JUST started experimenting with N/B ID's and even then it is only on driver's and medical licences, and only in Ontario (not my province.) I feel like I will never be read as Enbee mostly due to my rather large chesticles, and that fact that most people still seem firmly rooted in the idea that only M and F genders are valid, and that if you have breasts like mine that you can't be anything other than female. I meant for this to turn into a question, or to evolve to form a point, but I guess all I can do right now is vent/whine :/

[@nekomata5059]

so i think im agender too, because i dont really like being called miss but sir doesnt sound right either. i dont have chest dysphoria (but that could be because i have very tiny boobs), but i dont like having female genitals. i would rather have no genitals at all. but i like my broad hips and sometimes i even wear dresses but i cant wear a dress without shorts underneath because i dont feel comfy. when i go outside i try to mix femenin and masculin clothing. i dont feel like a girl and i dont think i feel like a boy either. i had my hair really long and very short, i liked both, but i think i liked longer hair better. can you tell me if im agender or just a not very femenin girl?

[@dragibusdrawer8446]

@@nekomata5059 well if you would rather have nothing as genitals i guess you are agender...

[@adamrodriguez7553]

@@xbduf4gb Imagine thinking like @Alx in 2019 *can't relate*

[@adamrodriguez7553]

@@xbduf4gb In a way that is discriminative and heinous. Below is a link about transgender and the science behind it. And yes, Transgender and Non-Binary are both quite similar: kzbin.info/www/bejne/g5rXop2JjtmqqLM

[@adamrodriguez7553]

@@xbduf4gb Sorry, I don't understand. Are you comparing LGBT to pedophilia? Or are you just saying pedophilia is cruel? Because if you think LGBT and Non-Binary is pedophilia, you have a lot of learning to do

[@RebeccaPaige]

I have bouts of gender dysphoria but I was raised by homophobic parents, went into the military, and now live in the bible belt. Sure it's tough at times but ive got that little voice in my head that says "Man the fuck up and get the hell over it" to get me through the tough times.

[@allisonsmith2702]

I’ve been looking for some way to describe how I feel about my period/having a uterus, and this is exactly it! It’s so strange to consider that I have dysphoria, because half the time I feel like I’m entirely faking it. I’ve been subscribed for awhile, and I’ve come back frequently enough and done enough research and self-discovery to seriously consider myself genderqueer in some way/shape/form. I’ve never really known how to identify with womanhood in the first place, I just always assumed, “I’m femme, I was born AFAB, I’m a girl” until I seriously questioned WHY I think like that. Thank you for your channel, and everything you’ve covered. It’s seriously been such a great resource!!

[@joeysorrenti2810]

I'm genderfluid and I experience top dysphoria way to much

[@lucy-pd1vx]

Sorry about them and I’m sorry for what you’re going through!

[@alex-kk8mb]

when i was younger i always thought i “acted like a man” when i was menstruating. like i didn’t care at all that it was happening, i hoped and prayed my body wouldn’t do this to me again, and it made me feel weird how “me, of all people, have a period”. not because it was inconvenient (even though it very much is) i just felt like it was my body betraying me& i shouldn’t have to deal with it because thats just not..?!?? right ?!??. now as a enby i’m now realizing it was always a form of dysphoria and it’s one of the biggest struggles now i feel like i have, and that’s almost unavoidable and in your face.

[@ElaMongrella]

I had one of those annoying moments a few months ago, where someone at a pharmacy just assumed, because of how I look, that I must be wanting the Naproxen for menstrual cramps instead of arthritis, and started telling me what meds were better for menstrual cramps.

[@ElaMongrella]

It's not like I was yelling at the pharmacist or anything. I just internally though they wouldn't jump directly to menstrual cramps, if a guy asks for Naproxen. You could just ask "what do you need it for?" and then suggest what helps best with that. I know the pharmacist wanted to be helpful, and I did stay polite. I don't directly go to calling people "fucking degenerate" either. lol

[@jasperperez5338]

I'm non-binary agender and I get terrible chest dysphoria. I don't have sports bras, as I haven't able to get any yet, but I ordered a binder and it's on the way. I don't get bottom dysphoria, but I do have a problem with my hips and curves (I'm latinx, which means my genetics aren't in my favor either). I still don't know whether I want to go on hormones because, like I said, I don't have bottom dysphoria. Also, even though I have "feminine" facial features, I can pass as a boy with my short hair (I am more masculine-presenting). My voice sometimes "gives me away" as afab and that's a struggle but going on T changes it permanently and idk if I want that.

[@caitlinisnottotallylame3696]

Omfg I'm in completely the same situation as you. Think I'm going to keep binding and maybe go on testosterone in a while, but eventually get top surgery

[@wowza1435]

Some things that have helped my other female looking non-binary friends is working out. Since fat distributes to different places in people born female than men, it may help you feel better if you try to get rid of that stuff all together and turn it into muscle.

[@lightupheelies9716]

IM SO GLAD IM NOT THE ONLY ONE WHO'S DYSPHORIC ABOUT THEIR PERIOD. No one I know gets it, they just think that I don't like my period like any other "girl" out there. What you said was so relatable oh my godddd

[@Chrisforder82]

Omg you have just hit the nail on the head for me. I completely get where your coming from and can relate to you with the way you feel. I have torn between transitioning and being non binary I have huge dysphoria around my boobs (which are 48DD) and my menstrual cycle I feel disconnected from my body and that my body has it wrong and I shouldn't be doing this and there's some kind of mistake. I feel disgusted and hate myself and can't look myself in the mirror because of it. Thank you for sharing xx

[@ravengochnauer3204]

This video and the comments are so validating. Some days I love my female body, and others it feels...wrong.

[@Galacticguts]

I myself am genderfluid (more masculine/agender) and due to my body shape and chest I get mega dysphoria. My mom knows about this though she wants me to dress more feminine which makes it worse. I am very mixed about top surgery which is why I just use a binder. When I wear baggy clothing or my hair is a certain way is the only time it calms down and I can feel truly happy, if not I feel very uncomfortable and sometimes wish to just throw away certain parts of me or change things like my voice or shape,,

[@aidyn7756]

This is a great video. I'm nonbinary and I definitely feel body dysphoria, specifically around my torso area, though there are times that I don't feel this dysphoria and I actually kinda like what I've got on my upper body. I HATE wearing cupped bras and haven't worn them since probably middle school when I guess my breasts weren't as big and I wasn't feeling too dysphoric yet. I wear these cupless bras that aren't exactly sports bras but are worn like a tank top. I'd love to bind if I could get my hands on a binder, or at least find a good sports bra that can support what I've got. I think my thing with them is I'd just rather they were smaller, small enough that they wouldn't pop out and get in the way of buying clothes and such. (Wow. That was a rant.)

[@soso3792]

Cupped bras are the worst. I’m already hella mad that my breasts are B and are already a hassle to conceal without a binder, but when I wear cupped bras I feel absolutely and completely disgusted. Sports bras are my Best Friend tbh, good to use them first when you don’t have a binder

[@_picturesque6087]

i’m questioning my gender and at first i thought i was gender fluid, because it felt like i’d been fluctuating between genders for a while, but then i felt no sense of gender for over a week, and i worried that i wasn’t actually gender fluid and was lying to myself. but then yesterday i most definitely felt like a boy for majority of the day. sometimes i even think i might be ftm because i really want the figure of a boy (broad shoulders, flat chest, sharp cheekbones). i don’t think it’s gender expression because sometimes i want to be called a he and have that figure, but wear a crop top or a skirt. i read that some people who are questioning call themselves genderqueer until they figure it out, so that’s what i want to do. i want to tell my sister, but i’m not sure or how to tell her and i’m not even sure if this is true, i just thought it might be helpful to have at least one person call me the right pronouns, and help me test out which ones i like more. some days when my dysphoria isn’t bad i feel like i’m faking it, and i wish for the dysphoria to come back just so i can know it’s real.

[@_picturesque6087]

i figured it out! i’m actually a demiboy and i use he/they pronouns!

[@morgan5326]

I feel this so much. It's especially hard as I am now out as NB and I have been in a relationship for 8 years. My partner is very boob oriented and for me it's a huge huge source of discomfort and dysphoria, my chest is large and I want it gone in all honesty. Talking about this and making my partner understand I don't want my chest acknowledged or touched is tough, and I wish I had friends who related and were part of the LGBTQ+ community

[@AutisticTea]

That's EXACTLY how I feel about my breasts, oh my god, I'm so glad you're the same. It's so hard to explain!

[@seeyanexttuesday23]

I remember that first period in childhood and how absolutely devastated I was to get it. I hate my body on some days and other times I don't. Thanks for sharing this

[@Ro-sf1ud]

this really helped me and i sooo relate to the period bit, it feels so foreign to me!! i feel so disconnected from my body during it, and so.. comfortable? i'm only 14 and i'm lucky enough to have only had one period so far but it was so confusing, uncomfortable, and just,,, sucky. but as a young non-binary? person (i'm questioning) i really love u for making this video tho

[@jefsteele8981]

Hi Ashley - I think I understand what you are saying and I appreciate you stating what I've felt for a very long time. I am a Non-binary borne male who has been dysphoric all my life. Because of work requirements, I couldn't come close to transitioning. Had the opportunity to "turn off" my male self for a year while working in So. Cal, but when I moved I couldn't do that anymore. Now I'm retired from the requirement for security clearances and have finally found a doctor who is helping me transition to my non-binary self. At this point I don't want to be on either end of the gender spectrum, I just want to not have to deal with any of it. Thank you for sharing your thoughts about this topic, they are inspirational and help this old genderqueer cope.

[@devyncabral2198]

Wait is that why my anxiety spikes whenever I’m on my period?

[@emperorzerg1138]

The chest dysphoria is soooo me. I actually donated most of my cupped bras because I hadn't worn them in a year, due to dysphoria. I'm perfectly cool with my naked body but if my chest is visible to others in public, I get really uncomfortable. That's why I bind and wear sports bras exclusively.

[@angercairns5945]

Thank you so much for making this video. I've been disphoric about my gender since i hit puberty, and have been very depressed as a result. Because i don't want to transition, i felt i didn't have a case, or even a place in society. Thank you for being so much for putting it so simply, i feel like now i know there are others like me, i can begin to accept myself.

[@seaweedbeach]

Hey you look really androgynous, it's awesome, at first I thought you were physically male (sorry if that's a bad thing!) I identify as female but sometimes I wish I could just instantly switch between male and female. You can get types of contraception that stops your period, I had depo provera for 2 years and it was so good not having periods lol

[@maxlala7493]

I was so confused about my chest dysforia, but what you said really makes sense for me. I finally understand it. Cause I'm usually fine with my chest (mostly because it's small), and when I look in the mirror I don't really feel that much discomfort, I mean, it's just a part of me. But when I go out, I bind, because I don't feel comftable with my chest when I'm with other people. And I also don't like wearing clothes that exentuate my waist, because I just don't feel comftable. Now I understand that i actually have dysforia, so thank you for this video.

[@radiium1804]

Every single thing you talked about I experience, except I bind when I can

[@99percent_]

I guess it’s the fact that people see me as a woman what irks me the most. I don’t wanna be sexualized by nobody, I don’t wanna be perceived as weak (in fact, I’m tall with an athletic built so when it happens is when the dysphoria comes), I don’t wanna wear make up, or feminine clothing, and my breasts are just two lumps of fat, nothing sexual, just another part of my body. I’m comfortable doing any tasks, any sports, whatever I want and be considered a human being, not a she or a he. I don’t really know if I’m nb or what, but I’ll continue doing my thing.

[@BodeRiis]

I wish I could love this video instead of just liking it! Thank you so much for this video, it's so spot on! Looking forward to more Gender Resources from you :)

[@cosmicpotato7886]

Honestly this is basically exactly what I’m feeling currently and I was debating on what to do about it. Thanks for making this vid as it’s cleared a bunch of things up for me. As some who has a very curvy body shape I’ve been finding it really hard to feel more comfortable with who I am and I I’ve managed to do is wear baggy clothing (though I also wear them as I also like baggy clothes)

[@tavrosnitram1529]

I'm gender neutral and have just recently *really* known for certain that I am, ive had periods where I would questions if I was gender fluid but it really didn't sit well with meI'm still discussing anything I can with anyone I can until I can get top surgery (which I just decided recently that its something I actually do want to go through with) and see what I can do with my genitals since I'm not completely trans, I'm in the middle and you know how therapists and doctors can be

[@PCU96]

Tavros Nitram how did you figure it out? I might be going through the same ...

[@bw4091]

Oh my god, I dont know a single woman who isn't "disphoric" over her period. Please stop telling girls an women that there might be something off with them, it's just not easy to be a human being. I'm so glad that all of this wasn't an issue when I was younger. I used to wear boys clothes only and would refuse to wear a bra because I hated how it would mean that I was about to become a woman and be perceived as one let alone be called a woman. In my early twenties I began to realise that I don't have to conform to gender roles - and that doesn't change that I'm a woman. I can wear baggy clothes to feel more comfortable and most of the time I would hate my period - just like most of us women do. Being human isn't easy. Dont make it more complicated than it already is.

[@enthusiasticessayist5673]

Tbh, I as a non binary person hatemmy chest. I really would like to have it remived, but I don't know how people in my life would react. I hate being feminised by people around me and I feel like that would help me a lot. I also hate it when I'm on my period because I don't feel like I should have it.

[@annebannan9817]

Is it possible to only have gender dysphoria at certain times? I'm a girl and I feel like a girl, but every now and then (maybe once or twice a month) I feel really dysphoric. Like if I felt like that all the time, I definitely wouldn't identify as a girl. I don't want to undermine trans people with actual dysphoria, but does this mean anything?

[@HetalianPasta]

Annebannan There is a strong possibility you might be genderfluid! Lots of people flow between feeling masculine, feminine, and/or neutral.

[@Faecorpsegal]

I feel the same and I wanna know what it is

[@aloistrancy4020]

I don't think you know what dysphoria is and feels like..

[@ZZ-lo3ek]

@@HetalianPasta Oh please.

[@ZZ-lo3ek]

@@Faecorpsegal It's nothing. It's a lot of hype. Just be female with an androgynous appearance. It's only social media spreading hype.

[@briethey-them9542]

I wish binders were as easy to get as bras, like im not sure if i want to binder or not. Like im still trying to figure it out. If binders were easy to get, it be easier to put one on and say "yes this is me" or "no i don't think this works". Plus so many more trans people could get them.

[@C4MiI4]

I don't really know yet if it's dysphoria but sometimes i feel really bad when i look at my chest, and i feel it more now that i gain some weight and they're bigger, is not that it doesn't feel like my chest is just that I really hate the way it looks, the image on the mirror mekes me feel horryfied in some way i just hate how big my chest looks also it happens with my voice sometimes when I suddenlly listen to myself talk afther a while my voice sounds so high and femmenine it doesn't feel like it's mine at all. there's so much and i just don't know how to deal with it, scares me to even think about it because I know that I dont identify as a women but it's scary to think what wold happen if i found out ...

[@xRomethekittenx]

there's a lot of times where physically I don't want to look gendered at all (I don't want chest/genitals and stuff) but I still put makeup on and dress feminine. I just feel like dressing feminine but not being female. Same with masculinity. Dysphoria is hard to deal with there's times where I'm just so upset and I don't know why and I can't make it stop until I realize that it's dysphoria and then I can usually fix it in like 5 minutes. goodluck on figuring out how to deal with it and stuff, i still havent

[@C4MiI4]

+xRomethekittenx i do also feel like I'm wearing a costume when I dress feminine like it's just all this things that make me look like a woman but I'm not that. thanks and good luck to you too

[@ripley2995]

i have the same exact feelings!! but most of the time i'm proud to be a female so i don't think i'm nonbinary. but i truly feel that way, i am so much more comfortable when people can't objectify my body, and i feel like feminine clothing makes my bod easier to objectify so i prefer less feminine clothing most of the time. it can be a burden to have a female form

[@LovedWife1]

Girl, EVERYBODY thinks their voices sound higher when they listen to themselves on a recording. The vibrations from our voices travel through the jawbone to our middle ears, that's why. As far as your breasts, what makes you think you should like them? Do you have a male mind? Of course, they are going to look "ugly" to you! That's how women respond to the sight of other women's breasts. We don't care for them. We're not guys. (Yes, I have heard other women complain that their larger breast get in their way, and hold sweat, etc.) Just enjoy having those decorations!

[@toomanyopinions8353]

sounds like body dysphoria to me.

[@shivaanijk7501]

Watching this video made me feel like I was getting somewhere with how I felt about my body and how it's connected to my feelings...the fog is starting to clear up a little in my head and now I know wat it feels like to be understood, to understand myself

[@roxyford1980]

Is it possible to have romantic dysphoria. I often find myself seeing mlm relationships and being jealous. Idk if jealousy would be the right word for it.

[@puddle.drinker]

Me too though? Lol

[@MidnightEkaki]

Me. I have been thinking about this a lot. I guess that im genderfluid. When im interested in men and mlm relationships I feel like I want to be a male i connect with my masculine side but as a woman im not interested in being with a man it actually makes me uncomfortable. its confusing.

[@scornandscrambleproductions]

I feel so comfortable with being non binary but there is so many little things that still cause me confusion, I see a girl and I like her hair and I want hair like hers, long and curled with a iron, but then I see a man, and I want to look like him in the face and dress like him.All my interests are either masculine or entirely androgynous and My voice is naturally also androgynous same with my build being equally gender non descript, but when I look up to people taller than me when talking I feel feminine and I feel super uncomfortable, the shadow of my eyelashes looking long also makes me feel uncomfortable, however when I look extra masculine and man-like, I naturally do NOT feel uncomfortable, I feel better or neutral about my appearance, I just worry about what my parents think. (although they are left wing and accepting of all). I was assigned female at birth and I have a pretty feminine name that I hate, I was going by a gender neutral name that kind of sounded like my old one and it felt better but I know people only really know me as my old name. Anyway I'm not sure what's going on with me but I feel proud to be non binary. I don't know if anyone here feels the same about being non binary but more masculine feeling. if we do the whole, pink equals girl, blue for boy thing, id say I'm green with a blue hue.

[@nos5915]

It's pretty much exactly the same for me as what you have described. For me, dysphoria is mostly social. I get some around my chest, but not excessively and it mostly falls around the way people see me and gender me.

[@DesiDeslei]

Oh my gosh, someone understands how i feel, SOMEONE IS JUST LIKE ME :O

[@cherrymochatea9877]

Hello, my name is Eon and I am a 14 year old androgynous non binary. I have dysphoria, there, I said it. For a long time I convinced myself I didn't, and it wasn't until I accepted myself being non binary that I truly understood what my dysphoria was and why I felt that way. However, because my family isn't accepting of me completely, I am stuck without being able to do much FOR my dysphoria. I plan to buy a chest binder when I turn 18 and move out, but that is 4 years away.

[@yukima-hime]

why don't you just do birth control just a suggestion but it stopped my period and I have doctors approval. because I get so dysphoric that I literally fall apart. I'm going to be on it tell I can get uterus and cervix removed.

[@a.j8307]

Yeah, I don't understand why they don't consider BC. Ashley Mardell has a really good video about birth control, you can get a shot that is totally safe, basically eliminates your period or gives you a max of 4 a year, and doesn't cause any weight gain.. seems like an easy fix?

[@yukima-hime]

It is for me because I want to be comfortable in my own body its my choice.

[@Pituzer]

This is my reason, and it might be the same for Ashley; birth control makes me feel even more dysphoric. The thought of taking female hormones every day, it seems so gross and wrong to me. I experienced dysphoria for the way the birth control made me feel (it had a strong influence on my mental state), kind of similar to the dysphoria Ashley describes for her mental state while on her period.

[@yukima-hime]

You are free to be who you want to be and express yourself and anyway you desire thank you for your response. from my personal experiences dealing with gender dysphoria as a young teenager I started to take birth control and it helped me feel better about my anatomy. I can understand your point of view though, Whatever you do wherever you go it is important to be yourself and if you don't want to take birth control don't take it you should make choices that are good for you and your mental state.

[@neo_keo3702]

@@Pituzer I recommend you look into IUDs with progestin. They are estrogen-free and release a smaller amount of progestin than oral tablets because it is delivered directly in the uterus rather than having to circulate through your entire system. Result is lighter-to-no period symptoms and less likely to experience side-effects from the addition of hormones.

[@harleybriggs3496]

I had to pause this video multiple times just to sit and process because it was like, "Oh. YES! THIS! This is what I've been unable to put words to!" Thanks so much for making this video.

[@blue._.ukulele9121]

I thought before this that what I was feeling was not dysporia as I was just uncomfortable with my chest and I didn't like it and that wasn't enough to be dysporia. After watching this I am rethinking that it probably is ( I'm still not 100% sure but that's mainly because I doubt everything ). My mother wants me to wear "proper bras" but that just makes me even more uncomfortable. This video has really helped so thank you.

[@onemanprotest3098]

i really needed this. I’ve been struggling with my gender identity and this answers a lot of questions for me. Thank you

[@beardo373]

This makes things clear in a way I've never heard before. I'm a cis-man who's almost always been extremely comfortable in his body. Lately I've been trying to better understand the nonbinary and trans students I teach. As a child, when I tried to wear a watch, I felt inexplicably uncomfortable in my body. It was the oddest feeling, and I still feel it now. I felt similarly the morning I woke up with red fingernails after having attended a drag party. Now I realize that both of these feelings were a sort of dysphoria, but not one that has caused me any hardship or gone against any social expectations of my gender. It's troubling to imagine feeling these feelings on a regular basis, just because I'm doing the things expected of my gender.

[@lanerose2165]

I kind of miss when I had long hair because now I would know how to straighten it and make it look good. I sometimes have these thoughts of whether I would actually enjoy having longer hair again, but then I would remember how much I love my hair NOW and I've never looked better. I wondered if these thoughts might mean that I'm not actually agender and I just thought I am, but I'm positive that that's what I am now. I look great and am extremely happy.

[@TiccingGrayson]

This helped me realize that being agender doesn’t make my chest and period dysphoria any less real. Thank you so much

[@CR604]

what breasts in your case thats actually a compliment.. =)

[@TheExoneratedManiac]

I’ve been questioning my gender for over a year now and I finally found your videos and I’ve watched a few and I just wanted to say how much they have helped me in figuring out what all of my feelings could mean and whether what I’m feeling is just “tomboy” or actual dysphoria. I now know what I’m feeling is normal and okay and thank you so much for that it means the world to me

[@Iris_D]

I've realised I identify as non-binary/genderfluid for just a month now, and even if at first I thought it was because I hated how women are treated in society, I also realised that I have dysphoria, because since my body began to change when I started menstruating, I've never felt myself in it, when I look at me in the mirror, it always feels super weird like, I think my body looks great, but it's not mine, it's foreign, specifically my breasts and hips, that become larger when I take weight, I don't know I just wish I was skinny and flat like everywhere, so that my body didn't looked like a woman nor a man's one, even though I wear super oversized clothes most of the time it still shows and I feel super uncomfortable with that... Also, since i realised this recently, I don't know how to dare and ask other people to change the pronouns I wanna go with... does anyone has any advice about that ? I'm french so neutral pronouns are super tricky to use in that langage

[@toastclinic]

you lowkey looked like jon cozart in the thumbnail.

[@randomrat3150]

I've been desperately trying to figure out what I've been feeling for the past few months and this video just explained it so well. I get a lot of chest dysphoria some days, but since it went away on others I just thought it was me disliking my body. thank you for making this video!!!

[@thefadingmoonlight]

I am so glad that you mentioned having dysphoria related to your period. It made me realize that they are other people out there like me. My doctors have always made me think I was crazy for having this kind of dysphoria. Thank you for validating how I feel.

[@mydarkterrors]

Oh tumblr. .. .

[@tavrosnitram1529]

oh ignorance. .. .

[@airohtheenby]

Oh google. .. .

[@danielmorrison2376]

Oh Twitter...

[@kaydens.3977]

Oh Canada

[@piwitron]

Oh the world

[@KM-pd8vq]

Glad to see a safe space for nonbinary people, I thought it was just me or a normal thing to feel intense discomfort around my body lmao- Things I feel dysphoric about (depends on how much I focus on it throughout the day, I try to distract myself, I'm AFAB): Physical: • My chest • How small I am in general • My body shape (it's feminine) • Long hair (my mom won't lemme cut it) Non-physical: • Being called words like "girl, sister, aunt, daughter" (I likely wouldn't be comfortable with male associated words either but I've never been called them, so) • Hearing my deadname and old pronouns • Likely being perceived and assumed as female by strangers because they'll never know I always thought bad levels of discomfort like that were normal, but the day that my mom forced me to wear a dress and I genuinely broke down sobbing in the bathroom, desperately trying to hide my chest with crossed arms... I should've really realized. I'm getting better at coping with physical, it doesn't bother me on that horrible of a level anymore unless I focus too much, which is good. Thanks for reading this far if you did, have a wonderful day everybody!

[@spacewoman7814]

Worn a minimising bra for 2 decades without thinking about why and without wanting to lose my tits…just not have them be so obvious and be gendered by them. Thank you for articulating this.

[@4leafivy844]

Thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you for this so much I personally have suffered dysphoria with multiple things that are directly related to my physical sex for me it is my genetalia and my periods but not all of them, I am fine with my breasts most of the time sometimes I bind sometimes I flaunt, but a lot of the things that I would never consider dysphoria and have recently realized are also just as much dysphoria as the things things that are link to my physical sex but are technically about my visible gender like my hair or more specifically the hair that I felt like I needed to cut off or stop cutting off or fingernails that I needed to trim or things like makeup or the way that I had to smell. Thank you so much for bringing this to the attention of so many people and just saying it out loud I really truly appreciate this

[@Mkay420]

This video honestly needs to be one of the top search results for dysphoria. I’m nonbinary and came to KZbin looking for help with dysphoria, but the first 5 videos I found & watched were all pushing the idea that medical/hormonal transition is the way to deal with dysphoria. I get that this can be true for trans men and trans women, but there’s so many of us non-binary people who don’t want to do those things, and not getting any other suggestions or helpful guidance is really discouraging. It’s nice to watch this and hear someone talk about the same things I’m feeling

[@AWylde]

I’m glad you found the video helpful, and grateful for the feedback.

[@johannasmotivationalinsults]

Oh wow someone else who gets it. I don’t want top surgery (maybe a reduction because they’re big) but I do get dysphoric about how like my chest is perceived in the world? So I really appreciate this take.

[@tals.8960]

Thanks so much for this. I'm glad the algorithm brought me to your videos. I've just recently, in the last few months, started to think of myself as non-binary, and to think about whether I have dysphoria or what my dysphoria looks like. I'm amab, so it's rather different than some of the stuff you talk about. But, in any case, I really like your look. I guess this is what they call gender envy, maybe? I don't know if what I experience counts as dysphoria, but it mainly consists of seeing afab people out in public, thinking to myself "I wish I could be masc the way she/they are, rather than just being a guy as I am," or "I wish I could be cute/pretty/fem the way she/they are without looking or feeling awkward about it." And then having an anxiety attack over it. Hooray. Fun. Now that I've gotten myself heels, skirts, some other things, and have gotten comfortable wearing them in public, the attacks have largely gone away. But... yeah. I dunno if that's "dysphoria," but that's me.

[@etheredmoon]

I identify as non binary but I use they/she pronouns. I don’t necessarily HAVE body dysphoria as my chest is pretty damn small to begin w- & on days where I want to present more femininely I am wishing they were slightly larger. I don’t present femininely to begin w/ I usually wear baggy clothes. I do however often get a lot of penis envy where I will wish I had been born w/ a penis. I even have dreams where I have a penis & it feels so good to me, I get euphoric in those dreams. When it comes to my period I honestly don’t feel much of anything. I don’t like having it because it’s a nuisance but, it doesn’t feel foreign to me.

[@Houseboundcph]

I'm a non-binary biological man and queer. It's the first time I''ve ever heard a person describe kind of similar to how I've always felt with my body. What a mind-blowing relief to me. My whole life I had to call myself a gay man because there wasn't anything else I could explain myself to others with. The last ten years where so many new gender terms have seen the daylight has finally made all the puzzles fall to places for me about who I am and how I feel. Such a relief for me. So much love for uploading this ❤

[@lilinemeth9353]

i am genderfluid and i experience dysphoria. i thought that i was insane but thanks to you i dont feel this way anymore :D love you

[@ThisIsMyHandle22320]

These all my life, but also anything I did like that was feminine (or overly masculine). With a 10 inch difference between my chest/hips and waist, I felt like my body belonged to someone else and people weirdly sexualized it even in situations that were completely inappropriate. Makeup felt like drag, overly baggy clothes felt like drag. I’d been really androgynous when younger and things really got worse after having my (amazing) kid. Now that I’ve started T, I feel like I can handle all of those things in a way that queers them and it makes me more confident just knowing I’m taking an active part in my journey.

[@littlefemme4957]

I am agender and I get really bad chest dysphoria. I've known for years now that I want to get top surgery. I took birth control for a period of time, which lead to my chest getting bigger. That made my top dysphoria so much worse. Now I'm seriously planning on saving up for top surgery. I'm currently doing research and watching videos by other non-binary people about dysphoria and medical transitioning. This video has helped me a lot. Thank you!

[@avablandford8412]

i’m about 5 years late, but i just wanted to say thank you. half of the things you said really connected with me, as if you were just describing my life. i really needed this on my journey.

[@sock4395]

I relate to this so hard. I've never felt right as a man or woman and I get very dysphoric if I look too feminine or masculine. My chest makes me want to vomit and my hips are too big but if I looked too much like a man I'm just as uncomfortable. I'm naturally more drawn to fem things but I cannot wear a dress or really anything other than a pair of pants and a shirt. It's so hard trying to find the balance between the two where I feel comfortable