Things that made me doubt my transition as a trans man

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@callum.timothy 7 ай бұрын

Thanks for being honest. I've had doubts too, and it's made worse by how doubts and worries are weaponised by transphobes. Also I felt the same way about things not feeling right immediately - like my parents calling me my male name, it seems weird because I'm not used to it. Being trans is much more complicated and diverse than solely the stereotypical idea of a trans person who "always knew".

@lydrowl 4 ай бұрын

I was just in generally unhappy and didn't know why and I was put on depression meds and all that and all they did was make me feel numb, and though I still have issues with my emotions, they have become more manageable because I have figured out where they come from. People may be like 'well how did you not know', and I want to respond with: when you have had a default your whole life, you don't know any better.

@L808drumz 3 ай бұрын

Me too. I dissocate a lot and am emotionally unstable underneath. For me, it's linked to my identity. I genuinely feel it's a sign of being trans for me personally

@ashetsdjssj 8 ай бұрын

you hit the right spot here. I'm 3 months on T and I still have some fears and some doubt, but it doesn't mean my identity isn't valid. thank you for this video, really

@eliahreber28 8 ай бұрын

So happy to hear that I could help. This is why i do this🥺🥺 I wish you all the best for the rest of your journey 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️

@SuperiorWhiteKing 3 ай бұрын

Your _identity_ ? You should find yourself before making decisions about ANYTHING in your life. Are you so attention starved you'll do anything for a glance? That's f*king sad dude.

@ajopasoij9d00 7 ай бұрын

As a trans woman, I also relate a lot to some of the points you mentioned. After I realized many things related to gender are just cultural stereotypes, things became much clearer to me.

@partysob 4 ай бұрын

thank you for this! i have just recently started medical transition after years of debating whether i could deal with NOT doing it, and i've been having major doubts and worries now that this is becoming something that will be permanent. even though i've always been more masculine, genuinely thought i was a boy and that everyone was just confused until i hit puberty, and i've been openly non binary-transmasc for years, the constant transphobic rhetoric i experience and people telling me "just give it more time and you will accept that you're a woman" and things like that has made me question myself. it's reassuring to hear something like what you've shared from another trans man.

@eliahreber28 4 ай бұрын

So happy to hear that 🥹 I wish you the best for the rest of your journey

@Maxuner 7 ай бұрын

Im 1:1 like you!! I'm pre T, all of these things made me think ill regret my transition if im not trans even though i KNOW i really need it. Ive had a pretty happy life as a girl, i (mostly) like my body, make up, fashion, im okay with my period. I realized its not about the typical men stereotype, but about the social role i play - that makes me uncomfortable and makes me feel like im not in the right social group. Thank you for sharing your experience, im glad i found this channel ❤

@alluneedislessthan3 5 ай бұрын

OMG YES. I’m pre-T too and I’ve been struggling with doubts lately, but you hit the nail on the head. I feel so much more comfortable being socially perceived as a guy rather than a woman.

@joeynashaascholl5140 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for the videos on doubt. I've been out as a trans guy for almost two years now and I'm 4 months on T now and I'm still working through a lot of those feelings. I was really scared I wouldn't like my voice when it dropped but I do like it. Had a nice singing lesson yesterday and it feels great being able to sing lower notes. I'm still kind of scared about a lot of my transition. Especially top-surgery wich I'm working on right now. It is a lot to process and videos like yours really help with that.

@tailormadetalorraid 4 ай бұрын

this video makes me feel so incredibly seen. thank you for being so honest and sharing your thoughts

@eliahreber28 4 ай бұрын

So happy to hear that ^^

@thatperson1708 7 ай бұрын

You make me feel so much more valid! Thankyou so much!!

@eliahreber28 7 ай бұрын

So happy to hear that 🥰🥺

@matildagalindoo 4 ай бұрын

i’ve been out as non binary for three years or so, and only recently i’ve been questioning if i wanted to transition, i’ve been feeling very confused about it because i’m sure i’m non binary, but the fact that i was gonna lose this part of “girlhood” as you said was so scary, even tho girlhood in general never felt quite right cause i never felt part of it completely. thank u so much for this video, it makes me feel way less alone and scared of transitioning 💗

@jupiteryakult 4 ай бұрын

fantastic video, I really appreciate all the points made. my friends and I will often discuss how having doubts within your transition are normal, but hearing your experiences especially about appreciating womanhood and not experiencing intense dysphoria are really affirming to my experience and it's nice to hear other people talking about it💟

@charlieberry7562 4 ай бұрын

I relate to knowing how it feels to live as both genders. As a trans woman, I am in a place where I can relate to just how hard life is for men too. That’s why I feel frustrated at some feminist corners where they view male troubles as fewer and lesser, when many cis women haven’t lived as a man as I did, and are sometimes ignorant of how both sexes suffer, no more and no less than the other. I recall being upset at how some feminist peers would be so sexist and cruel in how they treated and generalised men, and as someone who lived as one, that personally hurt me. Being trans gives one a unique angle of having lived in both areas of society which is quite cool.

@eliahreber28 4 ай бұрын

Yes I totally agree. One thing I didn’t expect with my transition is understanding men better. I’m happy to see that my content is watched by trans women too ^^

@VANCEYORN Ай бұрын

Thank you for validating doubts I've had a couple years ago! It felt like I was the only person who had these thoughts at the time.

@notyourbusiness-lc4oq 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for this great video. It takes courage to share such personal stuff and real kindness and empathy to expose yourself in the hope of helping others. You're really a great example of a good person. I relate to every points of your discussion except maybe for missing girls clothes. But I really related to the doubts and the not despising your feminity. Personally, another thing that makes me doubt sometimes is that I think I'm realizing that for me it isn't a life or death situation. I think I could survive going through life as a cis woman, though that would feel personally exhausting because I would still have the desire to be a man. So I guess for me it's a matter of to what degree of happiness I want to live my life and what I'm willing to risk to get to that happiness.

@chickenanddoodles Ай бұрын

when i came out to my parents my dad completely rejected the idea and it made me doubt a lot whether i was really trans, i would try to do my makeup in certain ways to be more "masculine" or try to fit my expectation of what masculine is but it didnt feel right because i forced it and was just clingjng onto anything i had trying to prove to myself i really did want to be masculine but it just made me even more miserable because what is the point if im not happy and also knowing no matter what i do or how far along i may transition in the future my parents will never accept me because its in their core values and principles and i cant change their mind, especially when right now its all inside and theres nothing super visible for them to have known before i came out, being raised as a girl and not getting to explore any other options so how would i have known if i already was taught it was not allowed. its so harmful and completely unfair to expect trans people to know everything about themselves automatically and be 100% sure of everything theyre feeling otherwise they're not valid enough. why should we have to prove to people who have repeatedly shown they are not willing to understand no matter what we do or say

@tyrannosarcophagous3447 Ай бұрын

i totally get the uncertainty about bottom growth from starting T! i was in the same boat and now i am also really happy with how it's progressed for me! to all my trans siblings out there it's completely normal to have fears and doubts, it's part of the human experience!

@_k3r0pp1_ 7 ай бұрын

thank you so much for this, i am really scared and lost and your video really helped me 🤍

@eliahreber28 7 ай бұрын

So happy 😭🥺 I felt lost too during my transition and wanted to create a video that would help people the way i would needed help

@aveiacommamao-ev8nh 6 ай бұрын

You're going to my "goat" videos with this one, loved the sincerity about these doubts that I (as a questioning transfeminine person) have that I don't see too often with other trans people, so I felt kind of alone and invalidating myself, but it's not all about that, it takes time to sort things out and feel better and better with yourself. Thank you

@KarolaTea 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experience! It makes so much sense that things aren't always super clear and obvious, cause like... humans are complex. But it's still good to hear from other people's perspectives :)

@FinalMeep 4 ай бұрын

I'm cis, and I love this 💜 As far as I'm concerned, your voice is not only valid, it's incredibily valuable to all of us. Thank you for putting yourself out there and sharing your experiences and insights with people. I know I'm not the target audience, but I'm happy to listen.

@divrodricks2525 3 ай бұрын

thank you needed to hear this. yesss about the guys section being so plainnn and feeling like an imposter for liking femme clothes. yes having doubts really scared me- like am i not i should be confident in this decision, why am i so scared etc but ofcourse it will be a scary process

@Theredman22 7 ай бұрын

I loved the video, I knew I was not my AGAB when I was 5 years old but I discovered that I'm trans at age 9-10, now some time has passed and I'm waiting untill I'm older to be sure but this helped a lot

@i3ignorantidelweb43 6 ай бұрын

I discovered at like 6, starting the “latent phase” (a Freudian’s phase about the child making friends only with the gender of belonging. Freud only thought this for cis people but it’s actually a good way to spot some trans people too) where I praised having friends of the opposite gender. However, I knew I was trans at almost 18 years old!