THINGS I WISH I KNEW BEFORE I STARTED T | FTM

[@snorkel7980]

I know this video is 2 years old, but I'm starting T in five days and I'm 14. I have to leave state to get it but I'm so lucky to have the mom that I have, without her helping me on my journey I wouldn't be here. Recently my life has changed for the better just because there is hope, I'm healthy and happy and 4 months clean from any sort of SH. Edit; I'm 6 months clean now, and 2 months on T, it's been good, my voice has already changed a little bit aswell, things have been good.

[@aktdoa]

congrats on starting t so soon, and for being 4 months clean! i’m so happy for you and proud of you as well :D

[@owlmage2744]

Hope everything's going well ❤ Goodluck on ur transition journey from a stranger lmao

[@missvioletblue]

I recommend waiting until you're 17-18. They are complications when you start HRT before 18: bones, joints, reproductive system and overall development can be irreversibly worsened. I know the gender dysphoria is hard to deal with, but health matters. I recommend seeing a psychiatrist

[@snorkel7980]

@@missvioletblue too late, 3 months too late 😘

[@missvioletblue]

@snorkel7980 3 months is not too late. It didn't affect your bones deeply, at least. And the reproductive system should be fine, in the future, you can still have children or just finish during sexual activities, but only after going through the puberty. I'm serious, though, I know I'm a stranger, but I do care when minors transition. My partner is trans himself, I'm not trying to be hateful. Some people say that puberty blockers are reversible, but your body needs puberty to function properly, and it should happen when you're a teen.

[@33LB]

the statement about male pattern baldness only being a concern if it's in the family history is incorrect. men can, and do, go bald even if no one in their immediate family is bald. men can have thick hair in their 20s, then suddenly find themselves balding in their 30s, or even younger. baldness is just a fact of life for men, and there is no question that both me and you are at risk.

[@diederdas27]

My dad’s almost 60 and still has a full head of hair, speak for yourself lmfao

[@33LB]

@@diederdas27 did you not read my comment? i said baldness can affect anyone, regardless of family history. my dad had most of his hair in his 60s, and still has his hair for the most part now that he's older than that, and i still have my hair also... that does not mean that somehow i am magically protected from becoming bald. baldness is a fact of life for men and it is something we accept. if someone is transitioning and they feel anxious and uneasy about being bald, they should be asking themselves how strongly do they actually feel about being a man.

[@minni_sung9437]

Yup and male pattern baldness isn't the only thing that can happen to hair. Pre T I have thinning hair from just being chronically stressed but vitamin levels being out of wack, female pattern baldness, infections and general scalp issues can also mess with your hair. It's a part of life and there is ways to deal with it.

[@mackingcheeseinthemichaelwave]

I have about 7 more months until I am the age in my state that is allowed to start taking T, making sure I fit all requirements in the meantime with my family. So excited to make phone calls again and talk to people one day, I miss that.

[@aktdoa]

you got this homie hang in there and it’ll be time to get your first shot before you know it

[@LCC7214]

Don't do it.

[@ashhole03]

How's it going?

[@cactusjack2010.]

@@LCC7214shut the hell up dude mind your business

[@ShiningAroha]

I went to a psychologist and was diagnosed with gender dysphoria. I am so very excited to start Testosterone soon. Bottom growth is something I'm very excited for.

[@teaonarainynight777]

Hey if you don’t mind me asking how does the diagnostic goes ? I’m seeing a psychologist who’s specialized in trans issues and I’m kinda nervous about what’s going to happen

[@liam-zj9np]

i wanna start T when i'll be 18. i'm 16 now and i have to wait only 1 year and 7 months. i'm already really excited 'cause i dream of it since i was 12. hope everything goes well. thank you for this video

[@aktdoa]

you got this homie

[@DoodleWingF]

YOUVE GOT THIS! I just started yesterday, as of writing this. It took me three years to get to this. You're going to be where you want soon, my dude.

[@just_a_dude75]

Same bro

[@bekettnoble7830]

Thanks so much for these videos! You're the first other red headed trans guy I've seen and it made me so happy. I've never found someone else who's farther ahead of me who I can look at for an idea of what I might look like (not that we actually look alike, just with facial hair and stuff the guys I always see give me a very unrealistic idea with their dark facial hair). Anyway, I'm 4.5 months on and at the very impatient stage because nothing is happening yet, your videos have been getting me excited again instead of just frustrated and distressed

[@aktdoa]

ginger trans bros unite! good luck on your journey bro, glad i could help in some small way :)

[@bekettnoble3622]

@@youtuvr1259 thanks for taking valuable time out of your day to share your input and concern for my health. Recreational steroids and bio identical testosterone are very different things. Also trans people tend to have improved health outcomes when receiving gender affirming care. As to your last concern, I’m not trying to change my sex, I’m trying to be trans. I hope you’re able to come to a place where you are comfortable enough in yourself that you don’t feel the need to lash out at random strangers on the internet. Peace

[@bekettnoble3622]

@@youtuvr1259 oh boy I’ll be sure to share your advanced medical knowledge with my doctor. You must care an awful lot about trans people to get so riled up that you reply to my months old comment (that was addressed to the creator of this video, not you) with so many comments of your own. Appreciate you spending your time and energy on me. It’s very flattering.

[@whenitgrowsbright]

ayyy a fellow ginger trans guy!

[@simonjriley]

Finally made the jump from low dose to full T and being out as a trans man! Very ready to look the way I feel patience has never been a virtue I’m good at 😂

[@reee3734]

I might start T soon! I’ve done my labs and waiting 4 an appointment :D I was also a white dude that punched a window, I’ve been there 😔 - thanks for the video!!

[@aktdoa]

tysm for the support! hope you get to start t asap :)

[@blurredwolf2339]

Just did my labs and I need to increase my iron levels and get my protein levels in normal rnage before starting T. How fun.. It's taking years..

[@silascampbell1327]

I needed this today. Thank you so much. I picked up my first dose today. Nervous, but excited. Thank you for the honesty. ❤

[@aktdoa]

congrats on picking up your first dose!! so exciting :)

[@injuredcactus3985]

i think this video was super helpful for me and i thank you. I am getting a hrt consultation in like 2 weeks I am heavily excited and slightly scared but fr this video information kinda gives me more of a clear view of the possibilities and i find that comforting so thank you.

[@aktdoa]

thanks for the love + support, im glad my video helped!! good luck at your consultation:)

[@Arthur5260]

This is true 'Self Care.' Good for you letting others know your experiences, positive and negative, what to expect etc. Much respect.

[@burjae]

thank you for all the info, I'm kinda ansious to get started on T (can't wait), but I do wanna have all the information I can access beforehand. so thanks for this!

[@aktdoa]

Glad i could help!!

[@ReddzGambino]

Been on Testosterone for a 1yr and 6months I love it ❤best decision ever

[@hannahroedder936]

My favorite color did change on HRT (MTF).

[@ASMR_Snek]

I’ve been calling shark week shark boy week for years I never knew others also did this

[@whenitgrowsbright]

i started t. TODAY. literally. im 3 hours on t. yay!

[@deismuarti]

How are you doing now?

[@aktdoa]

bit late but congrats on starting!!

[@whenitgrowsbright]

@ amazing thank you

[@dinoo.bonezz]

I'm a VERY young trans dude! And one of my friends in my grade (in the past) was a trans male and they were 11 on testosterone already!! and I'm planing to start next year in January/February I'm so excited for bottom growth!!!! (

[@aktdoa]

are you sure your friend wasn’t just on puberty blockers? i’ve never heard of any trans man younger than 16 being put on Testosterone before

[@dinoo.bonezz]

@@aktdoa I'm not 100% sure one day he said that he were going to a trans clinic and his voice gradually becoming deeper/changing

[@deputykittay828]

I started t 2 days ago and im excited for whats to come but a little nervous for whats to come as well

[@aktdoa]

congrats on starting!

[@marsmagdalene]

What do you mean crying at things you shouldn't cry at? I would think crying less would mean you'll only cry when it's really important, and you'll stop crying at cute puppy videos on Tiktok. Crying is one of my bigger dysphoria triggers so I'm excited to shut that off finally.

[@aktdoa]

i find it harder to cry in situations that would usually warrant crying, but easier to cry at mundane things like a sad song or something - maybe it’s different for other trans guys but at least that’s how i’ve experienced it

[@marsmagdalene]

@@aktdoa I just don't want to cry when I'm angry at someone, or when I have to confront someone, or someone confronts me.

[@aktdoa]

unfortunately i don’t think you get to pick and choose what you do or don’t cry at 😅

[@safetysheep5508]

I know this is an older vid, but I'm already almost two months on T and I haven't experienced any bottom growth yet. I have started growing a little facial hair and I smell different lol. Also, my drive was really high before going on T and now it's much lower than before tbh.

[@flynneugene]

Love this video and I appreciate your content! love you man

[@aktdoa]

thank you for the love + support man it means a lot to me!

[@Cassssssss]

I’ve heard that some guys who feel like they can’t cry anymore have been able to get that back by adjusting their dose. Does anyone have any experience with that? Not that I desperately want to retain the ability to cry of all things, that sounds a bit silly to say, but the emotional side of things probably troubles me the most.

[@aang8265]

thank you this was a great video

[@pumpkinruler]

Hi, does libido calm down after a while, or is it always a thing? Thanks for this information. I want to start t soon and I'm anxious about some side effects.

[@aktdoa]

for me my libido was high even before starting T, but after starting HRT it definitely got higher. idk if it’s calmed down for me LOL but i’ve learned to manage it

[@pumpkinruler]

@@aktdoa Cool, thanks for answering! I'll just deal with it too then

[@schrödingersslimshady]

Ok ik this video is kinda old but I might be getting testosterone through planned parenthood soon and i was wondering, how much does labwork cost? On average? Or like a range? My father doesnt approve of my transition and i am currently on his insurance so I'll likely have to pay out of pocket for everything and it would help greatly to know how much it may cost

[@bellapalafox007]

im 23 and almost 3 months on T! I was wondering if anyone relate to this but I swear since starting T my brain fog has been increased so much ??/

[@aktdoa]

I definitely experienced that!! I was very groggy, always sleepy/tired, and had a hard time thinking for a few months. It goes away!

[@dolliifiedd]

1 yr ago but. if i were to start testosterone at 16, do you think it can add a few inches to my height? super insecure of my height seeing all the tall men around me. 🤕🤕

[@aktdoa]

i think it depends on if your growth plates have fused (if you’ve already stopped growing). i’ve heard about some guys gaining an inch or two, but personally i didn’t notice any height gain after starting T!

[@lifeerrand]

Follow you on Instagram and you are an human being. Thanks for being you!

[@aktdoa]

ty for the love!! means the world to me :’)

[@xkd-w1q]

you’re the first trans guy i see saying his hairline preT was already high ; im pre-T and my hairline is also already naturally high ( really ) and my hair is thin. a lot of people say their hair thins down on T, their hairline recedes etc but they are usually people who had a rather nice hairline and thick hair. but with my hairline, receding a little would just be me going bald in a week, and my hair thinning out more would be my hair disappearing into oblivion. so not everyone experiences hairline receding / hair thinning ?

[@xkd-w1q]

i have this slight hope that the highest your hairline is preT the less its gonna recede haha

[@aktdoa]

I would definitely say that my hairline has more or less stayed the same since starting T (as that's something I continuously obsess over). One of my biggest fears is going bald, so I take preventative measures pretty seriously (rosemary oil, scalp massages, caffeine or mint shampoo, etc.) and those have absolutely made a difference, both in regrowing the parts of my hairline I decimated from years of tight ass buns/braids and from preventing any thinning out from testosterone. There are lots of ways to prevent hair loss!

[@xkd-w1q]

@@aktdoa thank you for replying ! its really interesting would you have any products recommendations ?

[@PoisonB-o-y]

How you guys know i want start T but my family says its a faze idk what to think and im sad a lil but in my mind is like what if they right and idk now

[@rabbit6546]

hey my guy! i have a gender assessment towards the end of this month and i know one of the questions is gonna be about what i'm looking for transition wise and i just wanna like. give realistic answers w well defined goals kinda vibe so one of the things i'd love to know if you are comfortable w sharing is how/if T affected the way your fat distributed/muscles changed? one of my biggest problems is how going through an E based puberty has left me w a very soft face/body and i was wondering if you have any kind of insight into whether T helps w that kind of physical change

[@15syml]

Tsym for this! I was planning to start T when I'd be around 18 because my parents are transphobic and wouldn't allow me so, i was actually very worried about the baldness but this gave me hope that i wouldn't go bald 🥹

[@HillaryJoy-bm5sf]

How is the social aspect? I worry about making friends :( I also worry about hair loss because my hair is already thin

[@aktdoa]

I haven't had any issues making friends come from being trans - most of the time it comes from the fact that i'm just not very good at making friends anyways LOL hair loss can be preventable if you start treating early on, but if you're genetically predisposed to male pattern baldness, there's not a whole lot you can do to stop it entirely, just lessen/slow the effects.

[@andyfenstermacher7812]

Damn... i already dont even cry like dat

[@wantflappywing1355]

Does the discomfort associated with bottom growth go away over time?

[@aktdoa]

yeah!

[@cactusjack2010.]

Im starting on Thursday and it’s Saturday 🥳

[@aktdoa]

congrats man!

[@kodak5300]

There is baldness on my moms side. I was using revita shampoo and that worked. It is pricey but it works. I quit using it over someone telling me it is a gimak. I am not longer friends with that person. I was off the shampoo for too long now those hair folicals are dead so it is too late now. Minoxidil did not work on me at all. Thos revita is better shampoo I totally recommend that to anyone.

[@eawillis]

You have a gorgeous smile!

[@Billiesavocados]

i had heard at one point taking testosterone can make your mental state bad like it i can make you depressed and stuff is that true.

[@aktdoa]

i think some people who already experience depression may feel that more than those who haven’t before! it’s more of a personal well-being thing imo

[@Billiesavocados]

@@aktdoa that's kinda been the one thing really stopping me from starting t but it's good to know it's not like a thing that will happen but that it's more of a can happen. thank you for responding :)

[@aktdoa]

no worries, i’m glad i could help a bit!

[@ronald3726]

@@Billiesavocados taking steroids is unhealthy

[@ronald3726]

@@Billiesavocados taking male levels of testosterone as a female causes many health issues and increases the risk of cancer by alot

[@cameron_was.here27]

Omg i was also a white ginger teenager that punches walls when angry lmao, thought i was alone in that one

[@aktdoa]

super glad i outgrew the whole punching walls thing tho. that shit is toxic

[@cameron_was.here27]

@@aktdoa Oh yeah definitely, haven't done it in a year or so, so many healthier things to do when angry

[@yourgenderlessfishidk4944]

Thank you a lot man.

[@aarongonzalezz02]

hi, can someone tell me, what is the shark week in trans people?

[@aktdoa]

i used that term to refer to my period/menstrual cycle!

[@WestieWestie]

Have you had any problems with vaginal atrophy? If so, how have you dealt with this? Thanks

[@aktdoa]

no, thankfully i haven’t experienced any of the usual symptoms or anything like that!

[@Travelfoodsoul]

Unless you started T tiny and skinny you will gain weight.

[@HelloImakecovers]

If bottom growth is uncomfortable, is it uncomfortable to... touch it? If your sex drive goes up and I can't do anything about it that sounds like torture

[@aktdoa]

it’s not uncomfortable to touch at all, at least it wasn’t for me. it was uncomfortable when it was first growing, cus i’d never experienced anything like that before obviously, so it was a learning curve figuring out which underwear to wear, which pants were too tight, etc my sex drive/sex life was never affected by it tho

[@Carybackup2]

Shark week 😅😂😅

[@DavyTracy-l7i]

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[@ronald3726]

A man is an adult male human being

[@lazyduck2287]

A man is simply a man

[@ronald3726]

@@lazyduck2287 you can't define a word with itself

[@ronald3726]

@@lazyduck2287 a man is an adult male human being... Why does that upset you so much?

[@lazyduck2287]

@@ronald3726 if youve been paying attention trans men do infact exist. man is literally a human made term and is more defined by society and social ideologies. you can't fully define it since not all men are the same. Like how not all men are biologically male. It doesn't upset me it's just that it's blatantly wrong. Theres no set definition for a gender except for "a gender on the vast human spectrum"

[@lazyduck2287]

@@youtuvr1259 males

[@msleatha3078]

I am a 58 year old Christian woman and I don’t understand any of this. I was a tomboy growing up and absolutely HATED puberty. The day my mim explained about oeriods, I thiught, No way! I don’t want that to ever happen to me! And later, on the day I actually got my first period I cried for hours. But eventually those feelings went away and I embraced my body and was ok again. Why is this happening? Why are so many young people rejecting the body they were born with?

[@maxmanuelstraubinger9196]

Think the number of us only „increases“ because we feel more comfortable and receive more educated about certain topics to finally understand what’s going on with and in us and what we want or not want. Starts with little things but can lead to big ones. I think nowadays people are more brave as the acceptance grows (even if it’s slow). Diversity is now a „more common“ term than it was 50 years ago. It’s not that there exist more e.g. transgender people than back then in my opinion nowadays people are just more open and aren’t afraid / don’t want to hide themselves. Think it’s just a different time and so peoples behaviour is different.

[@aktdoa]

I appreciate your comment, but I think there’s a big difference between a cisgender person being uncomfortable with puberty and a transgender person’s experience with gender dysphoria. You’re right that lots of people like yourself hate their experience with puberty, but eventually “get over it” or are able to live and accept their body after a period of time. Unfortunately for transgender people, it’s not that simple. While we also hate puberty, we don’t hate it for the same reasons you probably did - it was a reminder for us that we were born “in the wrong body”. I cannot be comfortable embracing a body that, in my mind, I was never meant to have. Experiencing gender dysphoria is a constant battle for us, and it typically doesn’t just “go away”, unless we take action against it (such as beginning HRT, or undergoing gender affirming surgeries, etc).

[@msleatha3078]

@@aktdoa I appreciate your reply and will think deeply on all that you say. To be quite honest, I absolutely believe that Jesus said God requires mercy over sacrifice. There are many nuances to this movement that I frankly cannot understand. But you miss every shot you don't take, and if I don't at least try to understand, I will have not have chosen to be very merciful. I will ponder deeply what you have said. Thank you for making time to speak to me.

[@maxmanuelstraubinger9196]

@@msleatha3078 Thank you for trying to understand !

[@msleatha3078]

@@maxmanuelstraubinger9196 I have been thinking deeply about your remark for nine days now. It made me feel good, to be thanked for trying to understand. But it also made me feel awful, because other Christians should have already tried to understand. Sometimes it feels like the world is full of desperate people drowning in an icy, black ocean, only to have someone in a boat row up to them and kick them in the face. Jesus wants us to help people not hurt them. He wants us to show people how good He is not drive them away from Him. He knew that not everybody was going to be into Him or believe in Him. And He got criticized plenty for hanging around with people that religious type people didn't think were good enough. He called the religious leaders of His day hypocrites, because they were. It isn't right to only try to understand people that you like or that you agree with already. It takes more effort and it's more righteous to try to understand the people that you wouldn't naturally fall in with. I don't think I'll ever be able to fully understand the struggles of a transgender person any more than I'll ever be able to fully understand the struggles of an autistic person. But if God asks me to try, then I'm gonna try. And I'm gonna be good to every person that I engage with in this world. And I hope that you find many, many people to understand you. Because, even though I don't know you, I sense in just this one little remark from you a need to be understood. I hope good things for you.