Things They Don't Tell You About Motherhood | FT Tracy Wanjiru, Judy Nyawira and Julie Kariuki

Hello BKS lovers! Welcome to the season THREE of Best Kept Secrets.
On this episode, our host Sharon K speaks to Tracy Wanjiru, Judy Nyawira and Julie on things they don't tell us about motherhood, things they wish they knew, postpartum depression and all things motherhood.
Please let us know your thoughts in the comments and don't forget to share, like and subscribe!

[@vee2336]

Let me tell you... I wish I was physically part of this podcast todu ma... Motherhood is alooooot. From prolonged labour, constipation after birth, having oversupply.. Wuehhh I'd sleep on a mackintosh and have the baby sleep on the father's side coz everything was wet always. Dont even get me to the cravings. I thought pregnancy cravings end at birth.... Shock on me... Cravings became promax!! .... Then breastfeeding hunger eeeeh... I'd wake up at 2am to have a meal ju snacks were not enough.... Alafu I don't know why but I'm told you'll always leave the hospital with a certain flu so if you have stitches whether CS or episostomy, coughing, sneezing and laughing will be a dreaded enemy. All in all I still cant remember life without my baby. Life became better🌹

[@teresiamaina9573]

Wah no one has ever put it this way ... congratulations 🎉...

[@bigg1091]

* tondū ma

[@simplywairimu4552]

Before I proceed, I'm shocked that Tracy Wanjiru is a mum. Goodness, she pulled the kylie jenner card. I grew up watching her on Teen Republic and I'm proud of her. Can't wait to listen to this conversation.

[@nicolenjuguna]

I appreciate how Tracy brings a hint of modern motherhood and then Julie is the more experienced wife / mother. Wholesome ❤️

[@vyonna3031]

Judy saying the younger you are the easier it is😂😂woi not for me,am 23 with 2 under 3 😢,from both pregnancies to breastfeeding everything is baaad,I had the worst pregnancies ,bedrest for both wueh,nooo noo noo more babies am done. Been battling postpartum depression for 7 months now and yes I can relate with everything you guys are saying,Am glad I have a supportive husband.

[@sharon2717]

*hugs*❤❤

[@SmileyRuth]

Hugs 🫂 mama I hope you find someone to help you

[@magdalynkariuki7162]

Hugs 🫂 darling take a day as it comes it shall be well sooner than you can imagine

[@allthingsmaya7022]

What a great episode...the sweats after birth😂..Motherhood made me wanna know more about God(Jesus),Because how come he created this baby inside me and made me feel a different kind of love(its like from another dimension)❤...Process is tough,but would do it again and again for my little human.

[@lei_97]

I love this! Giving us facts instead of cushioning with lies how easy and blissful motherhood is all the time when in reality there’s days you want to run away lol. Motherhood is hard sometimes and that’s okay

[@carolinemukundi4918]

At least there being truthful,motherhood is hard.Julies point on resentment is true..I haven't worked for 10yrs it's now that am trying to find myself.

[@mercy3424]

I say Motherhood is like an adventure, some days are tough some are good.. •You will change •You will loose friends •Your relationship with your partner might change either +/- •Post partum depression is tough guys •Expenses will double • your patience will be tested

[@SB-op4em]

So glad that local content is coming of age. Great conversation with such phenomenal women!

[@waihiga124]

I almost threw a bash when my child stopped breastfeeding at around eight months. It was weird because I was so relieved on the inside but could not tell anyone because I feared the judgmental side eyes giving me those looks of, "Nkt! Look at these modern mothers who can't even sustain breastfeeding for a year." I was low-key anxious all the time about my ability to produce enough milk to satisfy the needs of my child from day one and I realize that this could have had a significant impact on my milk production. To date, I still advocate for as much breastfeeding as you are able to do and if I got another baby today, I would do everything within my power to do exclusive breastfeeding for 6 months and then sustain it for as long as the child is demanding it.

[@mercynamikoye9084]

this is a wonderful perspective. Do it for as long as you are able and don't stress. if the most is 3 months and switch to formula then do it it. if it was never possible from day 1 then its also ok. will it be hectic? definitely. But there is no prize for being a stressed mum to your baby. and there is no special exam for breastfed kids vs formula kids. I advocate for breastfeeding wholeheartedly and trying everything possible but if it refuses after a reasonable amount of time of trying then its ok to switch and move on and just enjoy the other aspects of raising your baby

[@musinare]

I actually burst into tears when kariuki narrated how she lost her baby, may her beautiful soul continue resting in peace. Thank you for being strong, resilient and never giving up. Thank you for another raw and real episode Sharon 😃

[@neemahareet4052]

What a powerful episode ❤. I have learnt a lot.Judy Nyawira brought me here little did I know I could hear more powerful women like her. All the ladies in the show. Baraka!

[@mercynamikoye9084]

I think on motherhood and friendships, the relationships that I have had with mums that have lasted for years are the mums who allowed me to show up for them without being too rigid. as much as we are all going through our own unique experiences in life both personally and globally those people who are not too rigid have the biggest support systems and their kids have a lot of love. And also practically like from day 1 you have people who can help you out like the way the ladies who needed to go back to school in barely 2 weeks sometimes you might not have family around but you have people who are willing to show up for you and help you thrive but most people refuse and go into isolation mode then later on say people left them. its usually has nothing to do with being single or even not being a mum. we want to still be your friend and adjust with you but most mums don't let us. so for me I have kept the ones who allowed me to be there for them and those are some of the strongest friendships i have and other ppl in our circle are usually shocked. That for me is how I feel the approach to motherhood has changed. Mums say they want the village but don't want to accept it when its there

[@concyoginga6855]

The fact that I'm going through this right now. My baby is 2 weeks and breastfeeding is haaaard . It's alot.

[@SmileyRuth]

You'll manage baby girl 🫂

[@beloncekamz2821]

❤❤

[@concyoginga6855]

@@SmileyRuth Thank you maa

[@concyoginga6855]

@@beloncekamz2821 😘😘😘

[@dianawanjiru5218]

Great episode!! would have loved to see the view of a mum who works/worked a 9-5 and how they navigated motherhood, especially when the kids are young

[@ttanufaith763]

This feels like a comedy show especially having experienced motherhood. Now I look back and I can laugh about it. I relate to the post partum depression bit, you realize way after.

[@evastrikings1904]

This is very inspirational. Am a single mum and I can tell you guys it has not been easy, going through financial traumas, ppd,burnout but as they say what doesnt kill you makes you stronger...

[@faithnjoki1471]

Thank you for this panel. I concur with every word. I haven't experienced mother hood yet but I'm on my journey and I am very nervous. Thank you for telling us the truth. I feel relaxed just by the truths given here. Ps. I had no idea Tracy was a mum. She is so smart. Tracy, you'll do well with your baby.

[@Sharon_Njoki.M]

Not a mum 😅but I really appreciate the schooling this episode has brought to me ❤ You guys are doing great 👏🏽

[@estherkazungu2336]

This was so amazing. Personally I think I was about to expect my partner to be a mother but mmenisave😂😂

[@NanjalaFloh]

Julie is such a light. God bless you for being strong enough to share your testimony.

[@rosalinewambui1361]

Motherhood ain't a walk in the park . It has its moments

[@camillamish2096]

Please have a deeper conversation on trauma, parenting and healing

[@cynthiagjoan8444]

Yes ,I was hoping her n wanjiru would've touched on it more.

[@naomiwangare754]

I always wait on such conversations ,I have always felt like nobody talks about it

[@lizwambui1550]

Yes

[@harriettesandra9224]

I got this video when going through my KZbin ..and let me tell you ,its the best information I've heard so far....🎉🎉😊I have been having so many questions and I feel they have been tackled well....thankyou ladies...that was 👍amaizing.

[@Prosperity23846]

I loved this episode so much❤! It was both empowering and inspiring. I loved how they kept it real💯. Bring them back

[@EvalyneWere]

*And the hunger that comes minutes after eating. * the farting or air escapes and gas in the tummy. Best thing I did when I learnt I would be a mother was reach out to my mum and ask for help,also healing my inner child and resolved that I will never be a perfect mum,I will say sorry I made a mistake!

[@emilykazungu]

This was sooo good and necessary!! I’m not a mother yet, but I hope to be one day and my sister is expecting 🤗. So helpful! I wish it was longer 😅

[@winniemurigi1215]

That story from Julie. I lost my baby at full term in the same way twelve weeks ago and I am still looking for that restoration because weuh. Its been the hardest season.

[@lei_97]

Sorry for your loss mama❤️ sending love, peace and light . God doesn’t forget his strongest soldiers

[@childofgod3135]

Sorry for your loss. Sending hugs

[@wendyakoth8455]

Sending hugs ❤

[@charitynjeri485]

Sending you love ❤ may God strengthen you

[@lucynaliakasimiyu8761]

Love and light ❤

[@KkBwamu]

HEY☺,i had my baby 1 day to my 22nd birthday 5 months ago and am trying to relate to you all....especially Judy.Had been thinking of looking for a job because i miss having my own money you know but this has really helped me look at it in another angle and perspective.Thank you alot my big sisters🥳🥳🥰🥰.

[@kijo.bianca]

I'm 21 and I just had my baby a week ago and the breastfeeding cramps and cracked nipples make me want to throw up!! I literally cry when my baby cries

[@wangaritecla6108]

​@@kijo.biancapole but in due time you shall sail through it. ♥️On cracked nipples,apply Vaseline/Arimis on your areola after every feed. It really helps and you shall not crack again.

[@PearlAjuna-od7qe]

This was such a lovely episode. The ladies really expressed themselves in such a calming and inspiring way. It was genuinely a huge pleasure to listen to all you had to say. Kudos to you all and may your motherhood journeys continue to inspire those that are coming after you.

[@catherinemakandik.7627]

Idk why recently I’ve been listening to motherhood videos 😊

[@wajayds2670]

Thank you ladies for saying motherhood is both hard and beautiful. I am a new mom and weee.....,but I am still greatful to God for the opportunity

[@likanari]

Well done to you moms,do i really want to go through all that hard life,just for the reward of being a mom,sidhani!

[@lucynaliakasimiyu8761]

This is beautiful. Looking to watch this again upon motherhood😊. You are doing an amazing job y'all ❤

[@gitatasue8117]

This is an interesting episode. I am a mum and wueh, I couldn't agree more with what each has said. Motherhood is not as easy but is one of the most fulfilling and beautiful journey a mother can be on. I loved how each kept it real but at the same time insisted on how experiences differ from one to the other. Good job BKS.

[@lifelinepeace]

This was such a wholesome conversation. Thanks girl❤

[@Marypaul8989]

Am a mom to a 4yr,2yr old and 8months pregnant,everything is crazy right now especially since i don't have a nanny but hoping for better days ahead.

[@oliviamungai3887]

wooooww the show was a banger...God does restore I was at the verge of loosing hope in life but Tracy and Julie have made me come back to my sense..Am happy😍

[@varchellecandace6846]

Sharon’s face when the maziwa mix with blood 😂

[@sharonmwangi5301]

I was shook 😂

[@wangui9944]

I'm not a mum but this was so wholesome videos to listen on

[@KarenGitonga-lk2uu]

🎉🎉🎉tribe rooted in the word of God 😊

[@KarenGitonga-lk2uu]

Julie kariuki...need to follow you ❤

[@winniesunya6221]

She's good vibes

[@bernicehadassah]

I have a friend who just gave birth at 22 and her breastfeeding experience was very painful so no age doesn't matter when it comes to pregnancy and breastfeeding.

[@gathru_]

Wonderful conversations. I cringed in some moments listening in but it has been worth the time.

[@beatricemuringi4120]

That post pregnancy sweat smells HORRIBLE. You even fear yourself. 4th trimester is the worst. Great conversation ladies.

[@drmutindikakuti1012]

there is alot of pressure and stigma if a mum cannot exclusively breastfeed and as a clinician i tell my patients to substitute with formula.......the stress will already decrease production so why not substitute

[@faithokeyo2983]

Enjoyed every bit of it. Looking forward to that amazing journey. Good job Sharon and the mums ❤

[@lamuriasworld]

Great conversation and I needed this coz I am a new mom to a almost 2 year old baby girl❤🎉🎉❤

[@ruthmwihaki6089]

This was so so informative 👌 Sharon, I can't thank you enough for such an amazing episode. Atleast now I have an idea what's awaits me God willing for I want to be a mum one day. Too bad I won't have it Judy's way and by that I mean when am young because am way past that age 🤔 anyway, I really enjoyed mob love to you all❤️❤️❤️

[@muigaisylvia586]

Love this! I'm still in the thick of it and i feel depressed on most days. I may need therapy one day.

[@hakayi9130]

Sending you ❤

[@beloncekamz2821]

May God give you grace for the season🙏🏾❤❤

[@annwanjikumuriithi8478]

Great mothers you are. God bless you.

[@jessicahwambui216]

Sharon you should definitely have an episode about toxic mums!!!

[@theefoodie]

So much wisdom over here...thank you Sharon 💖🙏

[@marywairimu8060]

Am not a mother yet , so am here rolling my eyes on hearing some of the experiences, but!but! Am encouraged ❤ and when time is right I would consider having kids thanks to you beautiful mums for being bold.

[@njuhigum100]

Julie Kariuki was my schoolmate, always an amazing positive 👌🏾💯

[@eunicekimani1954]

The conversation is so enriching. I loved every bit of it.

[@tadiwanashet]

Such a wonderful episode. Authentic conversations on motherhood. I learnt a lot.

[@annwanjikumuriithi8478]

Am watching and laughing at you gals am trying to compare you with our mothers who were giving birth to more than ten kids. Julie kariuki for giving us joy of three boys may God bless you.

[@agatafred3228]

At least am not alone, my daughter is 11yrs and I cannot go out with friends when she's home, mom guilt would kill me inside.

[@doriswandia6781]

I didn't even know Tracy has a child ala!

[@justmyworld2542]

I'm also surprised

[@liznoir]

Wow! This was such a blessing. Enjoyed this one for sure.

[@wanjamuchiri132]

This is beautiful... Vibes on vibes ❤

[@KeshieMusings]

What a beautiful and wholesome conversation. Thank you ladies.

[@marygathondu7385]

Very timely episode. Really what I needed to listen to... Insightful points ❤

[@itategrace]

this was so beautiful to watch. Very impactful. Julie is so strong . Thank you beautiful ladies for this episode.❤

[@sharonkahiu1298]

I loved every bit of this conversation. I learnt alot. ❤❤

[@cynthiaresian2090]

This was such a great episode! I have laughed and learnt alot.Thankyou Sharon for bringing us this content 🙏.

[@victorinechelimo7255]

such phenomenal talk, learnt alot

[@cynthianjenga8014]

Very powerful nd positive words I have learnt 🙏

[@princessspencer6312]

Great content with gorgeous ladies. It was an eye opener for me. Thank you.

[@dr.delkirui336]

This is such an informative, wholesome & great episode! Thankyou ladies ♥️

[@priscillamugo162]

I have really enjoyed this particular video. Love it

[@ItsWorkingTogetherForMyGood]

This is so wholesome and a joy to listen to.❤

[@DonKariuki]

Good discussion

[@olivemutua1775]

This conversation is epic😍😍

[@ajnawangari]

The breastfeeding part is scary. My reaction is just like Sharon 😢😢

[@Ruethamy]

such a great conversation with great women,thanks to you sharon

[@afrozifamily]

Judy will probably grow to be a very PROTECTIVE mother

[@KendyJV]

This was so amazing, real and powerful 😍👌

[@leone92ful]

Just beautiful ❤️❤️...the info here was very enlightening...God bless all the guest mothers that came out to speak those mysteries

[@nicolenjuguna]

Heeh. I wasn’t ready. But a good conversation. Thanks for being honest 😅

[@bigg1091]

Beautiful girls .Great episode ❤❤❤❤

[@bilhahnjeri6427]

Episode was 🔥🔥enjoyed it

[@thespot2035]

Is it just me or the idea of having kids because they will love you, sounds narcissistic.Because one is placing the responsibility of validation,on a helpless being.... it's one thing to love them and another to be validated by the little one ..

[@africantea3223]

I agree with you. I have always questioned that notion na I'm a mother. It's a lot of pressure on child.

[@lifeofsheila4041]

It's definitely not a reason to have kids but I think what they meant is that that's the rewarding part if/when it happens

[@ednamakori2967]

I definitely agree. Don't have kids because you want them to love you.

[@hakayi9130]

If anything, children at this age are 'narcissistic' 😂 because everything revolves around them. They are in need of more love and care. As a people we inherently have the need to love and be loved. There is nothing wrong with that. ❤

[@thespot2035]

@@hakayi9130 you misunderstood the point which is that the adult need to be loved is not (and can't be compared to) that of a child ! An adult has the tools to KNOW their needs , children are dependent on adults for guidance until they're ideally released in to world to function.How TF is this difficult to understand?! If you have kids, I'm already mourning for them because the lack of intelligence you display is astounding.

[@dukeshaven]

Very informative episode...keep up👏❤️❤️

[@peninahmachaga9214]

So real I can relate to your points. Surround yourself with the best people during the first days of your baby

[@rachelmakena1324]

Been a mom for close to two years and I can't remember who I used to be

[@consolataogola976]

Wow really enjoyed this episode.....Hilarious too

[@sharonshanaga9069]

loved this episode, so vulnerable and real

[@oliviahongere]

Enjoyed this so much

[@juliejulie4467]

I loved the conversation

[@caramel9244]

Loved this! 👌🏾🥰

[@damariswaiyaki3911]

Thanks for sharing your experiences with us. Not yet a mum, but definitely learned a lot that I know I'll carry when we get there. Some of us may not have people to engage on such topics as openly as y'all shared, so it does really help to see you ladies do this. Thank you Sharon for organizing this!

[@carolynemuthoni4580]

I grieved my old self for a while bit i wish someone told me what was going on. It was so brutal it took about 6mths

[@Brenda183]

Great convos ❤

[@magicalkenya2112]

Very informative❤❤

[@dianawanjira3956]

Ooh my My fears 😢😢 Good episode

[@Mukami83]

Lovely episode ❤

[@wamaitha6022]

Loved loved this episode

[@KarenGitonga-lk2uu]

😊😊😊😊😊😊😊I need to forgive my mom