Things we learnt from our families 😮‍💨 | Episode 164

[@sharonnyakoa7490]

I realised that I am more of an Acts of service child to my parents than a money giver. I love spending time at home with them whenever I can, thoroughly clean the house , compound, arrange things here and there and just sit make stories and laugh all day long. Truly,there's more to life than money. We can show up for our family in many different ways ❤ Nice talk ladies,you really have opened my eyes to very profound perspectives.

[@tmipodcastke]

This is very true Sharon. Acts of service are such a beautiful way to show love and care for family. Sometimes, the time and effort we give mean so much more than money. Truly, there’s more to life than just financial contributions. Thanks for sharing this perspective-it’s so relatable!

[@the_sunshinesunflower]

It's interesting how different you are from me and I love it for you. I do not believe in cleaning and arranging anything for anybody. Since I was little, I have been that way. I prefer to give money towards a need. I also like making jokes😅, laughing and telling stories. I throw down once in a while when I feel like 😂❤

[@h.a.r.m.o.n.i.e]

On the point of money, I heard someone once say money can't solve all your problems but it makes it easier to go through the ones it doesn't necessarily solve.

[@tmipodcastke]

Facts on Facts!

[@yolz555]

Facts, it gives dignity in so many situations

[@shonamoraa]

Lydia looks so good in that dress and the hair ,all round beautiful

[@LouisaKabwila]

This episode was hard for me because in 2021, I learnt that I wasn't loved at home. Like I had to accept it. Only sharing in case someone is also in a similar situation.

[@lira-jennyatanga1404]

Hey Morugi!! The growth in your emotional and financial perspective two years ago versus today is exponential. You make me want to go to therapy too. I appreciate you 😊

[@tmipodcastke]

Do it babe❤!

[@the.victorgeorge]

On Murugi's point about trauma not healing itself, I heard Dr. Anita Phillips (she is a trauma therapist) say that as an adult, your inner child is now yours to raise. Most times families don't apologise for the trauma they cause but even if they did, they can never go back and undo the feelings/trauma that you got from their actions. So yes healing can happen in families if people acknowledge the impacts of their words/actions and through forgiveness, but to some extent, you have to be willing to do the work (ofcourse by the help of God and therapy) to establish how the trauma affected and so you don't continue bleeding on others. Also, people tend to remember what significantly impacted them the most. So even if you went to your parents right now and said "Yaani you guys don't remember when you said/did this when I was 10 years old". Chances are they might not remember (because they don't want to) or because they genuinely can't remember because although it affected you so much, to them it was just another day of parenting. Long story short - Go to therapy guys.

[@tmipodcastke]

@@the.victorgeorge Couldn't have summed it up better. Thankyou Victor ❤️!

[@the.victorgeorge]

Lydia consistently giving us funny punch lines. I'll definitely use that statement "I have two working days left in me"😂

[@beatricemuringi4120]

The thing is YES, Good things happen to bad people and good people all the time. Coz things happening to us have very little to do with us. It's a grace of God kind of thing. The sun shines and rain falls to both the evil and righteous. However, when it comes to repercussions for bad/ malicious behaviour,it shall come back. It might not take the form we expect ( n that's why we are quick to say nothing is happening to them) but it will come back. Give and it shall come back to you, good measure, pressed down shaken together and running over. Good or bad giving shall come back.

[@fay_kwamboka]

The most obvious thing for me to do on a Wednesday for me is to watch the new TMI episode as I have dinner. Thank you for the consistency. You guys have carried us this year.

[@tmipodcastke]

You're welcome! ❤️

[@sunshineheaven1802]

Generational blessings should be celebrated; my family really comes through on coming together and contributing to doing things like chores, not just financially. When people are in the hospital or wedding events, everyone takes turns sleeping over, bringing food or a change of clothes, etc. The worst people could get good things, but only because principles do not segregate. You apply the right principle, you get its rewards.

[@chainaasally158]

This was a very important episode. Thank you - The 'positive lessons' part. Those memories are locked deep.. for example being a living room kid. I am thankful I was allowed to dance like no one was watching ❤🎉

[@hildaalividza3461]

Also Murugi last point on fearing to reach out so as not open a door for boundaries,I felt it... This episode the ladies really became so raw and authentic,thank you, this is why you are the best podcast

[@tmipodcastke]

It’s such a big topic, but so important ❤️

[@marywairimu5787]

Lydia that dress looks so cute OMG! It was made for you. Thanks guys for making my year so wonderful, I've learnt a lot from you. Murugi's humor keeps me going ln a bad day, lol .

[@peacefulliving2906]

TMI is my safe space. Perhaps the only place where I am understood❤❤

[@winniekanyaga3462]

I feel you☺️

[@tmipodcastke]

Thankyou!❤

[@acengmonica5895]

It’s always the fathers side Murugi 😂😂

[@lilywhite8029]

I love the mustard and gold earrings on Lydia Plug woiyee

[@hildaalividza3461]

I felt Lydia's point to my core on mistreating in-laws then you end up being mistreating and those people not realizing that whatever is happening to them is what they have done to others

[@Bellaparrott]

🔊DSTV please partner with these two amazing girlies🔊

[@surpeleisurpelei7501]

They most likely have. 😎 Duo so good, they can market something and still give value. Pros.

[@_Sharon_J]

This is obviously an advertisement for the show on DSTV. :)

[@the_sunshinesunflower]

Peaceful conflict resolution and open communication is very important. That family drama, no! I will leave behind whoever doesn't shape up. I am not afraid to spend Christmas alone! Mind over matter ❤️

[@yolz555]

Fact😊

[@the_sunshinesunflower]

@yolz555 I have worked on myself inside and outside to be a beautiful, healthy, self aware, knowledgeable and non-toxic human being✅ I have worked on my communication skills. I have amplified my voice❤️ I have become a person who is contributing positively to the community too That's why I don't allow immaturity, lack of impulse control, ego games, narcissism and evilness around me. If anybody isn't willing to work on themselves to meet me at my level, I drop them like a hot potato. I deserve peace and happiness 🤍

[@elizabethirungu7780]

I really agree with Lydia am not a Kikuyu but married to one. For me I feel let's talk it out and deal with it. Am always quiet and if am told to speak about something I have to be careful with my words or choose to keep quiet.

[@jessenanette7958]

Love from Rwanda

[@tmipodcastke]

Thankyou! We appreciate ❤

[@joyceyugi9266]

Heavy episode...damn. All aspects touched both positive and negative are so damning. TMI is definitely a safe space❤

[@catekaranja4055]

Among the first🎉...have been waiting since noon😂🎉

[@WanjiruMuya]

Trauma never heal itself that's so true... When we learn of our woundedness it's good to seek help and even if it means to cut them off,it's okay🙂❤️looking great Queens

[@katenguyo3061]

Families weuh ,just trauma n the level of toxicity very high 😢😢how I wish everyone would be kind to one another and don't treat others based on class like if you are rich or middle class

[@somebodys_son01]

Do one for workplace next year cheers ladies good stuff

[@wambuikarime9314]

I have learnt that my family can be my friends too..I have 3 older sisters and our age gap is big...however they are my besties,we are so supportive of each other...we talk a billion times a day...I pray my babies have the same love cz its forever

[@tmipodcastke]

That’s so beautiful, Wambui!✨ Having that kind of bond, especially with your sisters, sounds so special. We hope your babies experience that same kind of forever love too!

[@yolz555]

Beautiful 🎉❤️🫶🏾❤️ . May God continue to bless your relationship

[@ashleey9754]

Your family knew you when you scratched your butt and smelt your fingers is outrageously hilarious 😂

[@karuange80]

Great episode ❤ And those earth tone colors look so amazing on you!!!

[@justinelove7816]

I am loved at home. That is my great lesson

[@theclangwilimi1485]

I almost had a heart attack when i didn't see the episode up😅❤❤

[@vivianaliv5049]

Not heart attack 😂

[@Linda.Maingi]

Are you okay now😂??

[@beloncekamz2821]

It's Definitely TMIIII 🎶💃🏾❤️❤️

[@tabby_teacher]

Finally....this is going to be a bang❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ as usual

[@Urban_Ray]

I'll miss you guys and happy holidays🎉

[@ceciThyG]

Yoooh hi guys, we here😊

[@VALEENALICE]

When you say family my first thought is my parents and my siblings… im single and unmarried. If I was married my first thought is the same plus my husband and kids

[@winniekanyaga3462]

Thank you for making my Wednesday night lovely😊

[@tmipodcastke]

You’re welcome! 😍

[@zuri4life]

talk about it haha. My family is Kisii and Luhya. Not making it tribal at all but my dad's side are so explosive, their fights are crazy and there's 12 of them. None of them can accept anything even just for the sake of peace. My mums side is quiet, nothing much happens and they are all harmonious.

[@Mamama123-k9w]

Most, not all, kikuyus are private and they don't get involved in other people's drama. Kichwa imejaa ideas za biashara

[@salomekamau5380]

@Mamama123😂😂😂 lakini private though sometimes so toxic. Kisha ongea, they gang up against you for stating the obvious.

[@Mamama123-k9w]

@@salomekamau5380 eh coz they want you to mind your biz 🤭🤭

[@paulinekiboi851]

Write a will ladies and gentlemen. Whether or not you think you have property, the little you own and any wishes you have; write a will. Follow the legal process. A lawyer should be in a position to guide you.

[@Juliet-Mugo]

It's definitely here...always camping and enjoy the podcast ❤

[@ruthkiboi]

What would happen if these episodes would be at least 1.5hrs because, ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@slenderrev2829]

We've been waiting

[@leiladrammeh3991]

Forgiveness to the family, it’s interesting how I have an aunt that has been terrible towards my mom , and only because she isn’t from the tribe as much dad. I can’t find myself even trying to talk to her or even say hi. 53:11

[@shizma7917]

Thank you appreciatte your family day it might be too late🎉. Do it now

[@y.g.mwangi1430]

Social is happening too early for summer bunnies 🤣

[@waihiga124]

Ignore problems and they will go away - IT IS A LIE. A BIG LIE

[@lilyankamau3111]

I'm in it's definitely TMI 🎉🎉❤❤❤❤

[@JanetteNyiva]

wow you girlies are radiating so much beauty it’s so amazing 🥹

[@fridahmakandi3996]

Just learn about you today...i immediately subscribed ❤❤

[@tmipodcastke]

@@fridahmakandi3996 Welcome ✨ You will definitely love it here!

[@lira-jennyatanga1404]

Lyd i love the fall color on you!

[@lizo7898]

You ladies looking lovely again, 🎉

[@awesomekiddos001]

Good job🎉🎉🎉

[@rizikiokumu]

Take care of those you love now, in your own little way. Tomorrow is no a guarantee. Death has taught me that

[@WanjiruMuya]

Unpopular opinion 🤗some summer bunnies come home the second week of December 😜hopefully next one you check on that 😍

[@_Sharon_J]

How is this an unpopular opinion? :)

[@nyiluandbonks3773]

Helloooozzzzzz🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@mercykanyua9617]

That dress lydiah ❤

[@waihiga124]

As an in law, accept that where the rubber meets the road, your real status is a photocopy. You will never make it to be an "original." Never! Ever!

[@melo-xtie]

never lend money to family🤣

[@Fidey_Kokonya]

❤❤❤i love you guyz

[@prudencelaurreen7986]

Thank you so much guys for this❤❤❤❤

[@tmipodcastke]

You’re welcome! 💖

[@shelmithmuthoni3841]

Murugis eyebrows on 🔥 plug please

[@lucywaithera433]

🤎 🧡 Perfection 🎉

[@lydiamuthoni3540]

❤❤❤

[@thescribe7645]

sasa mmenipoteza apo kwa heels na dress, maybe I'm alone. but idk how to do glam as a masc/androgynous girlie (kuskia dress has give me anxiety 😅😂🤣) na staki kuchoma 😭

[@tmipodcastke]

No pressure!! Its whatever you feel comfortable in. Remember the colours though, red ♥️, green 💚 or white 🤍.

[@gracewangui9819]

Lydia dress in mmmmmmah

[@graceguya1682]

Insightful episode as usual. Things I learnt from observing family: To recognize and work on not repeating unhealthy patterns. E.g. Not being a bad/ evil sister in law to any of brothers future wives, so as to not repeat what I saw growing up Boundaries need to be set with Siblings/ parents otherwise they might interfere with your nuclear family. They may not always want the best for you. Some may be jealous or fear the end of the unhealthy dependency. Set boundaries in your business with family/ friends. Ask yourself questions like. Is there a family/ friends discount? How long can they stay with your debt/ how much can they take at once. Not setting boundaries when it comes to your business can affect financial flow or stock replacement. People need to be open to learning beyond what they have grown up knowing. I have heard to block a relative on Fb because of quoting the bible to justify Israels actions in Palestine and to justify why Christians should blindly and unconditionally support them. Argued with another because of saying blowing up children is justifiable because its "valid" for someone to "return" to land they were "promised" after 3000 years and clear out existing populations.

[@tmipodcastke]

@@graceguya1682 Wow! Thank you for sharing this Grace❤️

[@missblessedbellablessed]

🎉

[@jaeldairies]

7:06 what I hate about being married to a luhya 😏

[@yvonnemurugi6795]

hello ladies i had missed you.

[@awinooneko728]

I dont wear heals so Imma be cute in my formal wear and sambas

[@milkan.8552]

👠 heels*

[@The_farmers_daughter]

You could try kitten heels, slingback low heels, or cute doll shoes. Sambas, respectfully, might feel a bit off theme…

[@LeanetWanjiru]

Murugi what do you mean you're luhya?

[@jeannjoki7984]

she's half luhya half embu

[@mkemmys]

Which is OK. She's Luhya, you are Kikuyu, I'm Kisii. Kenya has over 40 tribes. We are all Kenyans :)

[@graceguya1682]

Her father is Luhya, mother is Embu. She married a Kikuyu.

[@Njitagwo_Shiro]

@@mkemmysdid someone say it's not okay?

[@louisawambui4475]

@@mkemmys Is everything ok? Her name is obviously Mt Kenya and not from luhya so if someone asks for clarification there is nothing wrong.

[@JJ-to3zf]

Where is today's episode?

[@reneilwemaleka7419]

Please translate when you're not using English 😩😩

[@justbeingmeciru]

Family is nuclear