This Couple Feels Divorce Is NOT An Option | Kids Impact On Dating & Marriage ​⁠

[@HardlyInitiated]

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[@DeeDaKaang1]

People really need to begin dating with a purpouse, my wife & I literally met & were married within a year.....While I don't think that works for everyone. If you're over 25 & have already decided to shack up in my opinion you should marry instead of dating for 10,15, or 20 years, because you often end up having 3 kids, 2, cars, 4dogs, and a house while simply being a girl/ boyfriend

[@jasminasinanbegovic6225]

And most likely separated 😅

[@sscott504]

This comment right here👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@MsJaye7]

Mr. Washington well said. You are absolutely right. What is the point of Dating indefinitely. There is none. Create the security of a committed relationship. In other words get married.

[@19Hollisterchick90]

It’s just sad how people will wait so many years knowing the other partner wants to marry earlier. Not even knowing if they’ll ever marry. Seen so many people start off young together then end up old, fat, parents, bald, and now single smh

[@saiddahbonner10]

@@MsJaye7o

[@belindalindsey607]

This is real grown and mature talking. This man is very secure in all of his relationships and it is good to see and hear. His children are blessed as is his wife.

[@phreshprincesss]

As someone who is open to dating men with children, this is so right on time for me and provides great insight when navigating through these situations. If anything, has helped reassure me that a man with kids shouldn’t always be written off. But that dating longer than a year and no ring really not my ministry I’m sorry 😭

[@KBeauty1988]

Don’t be sorry, that’s your choice, you have a right to chose what you want for you. ❤️ I wasn’t seeking marriage at the time. I was nowhere near ready. I love our story tho, we’ve grown together and been through way more than what’s be shared in this video. We’re thriving as a unit and that’s what matters most, regardless of the time frame.

[@MsJaye7]

Honestly, If you are not a parent don't date a man with children. Its too much.

[@NN-wr2ls]

⁠I’m a single mum definitely would have to know the man situation with the mother of his kid before taking them serious,wouldn’t want to date a man with a bitter baby mama, don’t need that drama in my life.

[@AngelaElikya]

Seems like he wasn't ready to settle down but he knew she would be the perfect wife/ mother to his child(ren) so he kept her in his pocket for 8 years while still looking around to find better but he didn't find better so he came back home and decided to marry her. She was is safety net. Men are embarrassing i swear.

[@KBeauty1988]

Hell I wasn’t ready to settle down either. I was 22 when I met my husband, I’m 34 and he has almost 6 years on me. I’m honestly happy that we took our time and walked our journey the way it was intended to be walked. People have to learn to do what works for them, instead of judging other people’s choices. This 1hr video only gives a glimpse into our 12 years together, which has dealt with heartache from both ends but more that anything it’s filled with a lot of LOVE! ❤️

[@flordelis9649]

​@@KBeauty1988I wonder if you'd feel the same if you were 34 and he 22?....

[@sherileenlambert2784]

And also, a man knows pretty soon off if they want to marry. Just wouldn't be hanging around for 8 years!

[@kayannthegreat]

Wow, this just popped up for me today. He is very accurate, reasons for divorce: infidelity, finances, children!

[@roxannadeshong3833]

This is a great conversation which needs to be discussed. A lot of people want certain things but don’t understand oftentimes what comes along with it.

[@aferg76]

Girl, he didn’t want to marry you. 8 years?? Hell no.

[@Ifeoma999]

I just love their Maturity within their Marriage they show that they have actually master BALANCE ⚖️ within their Union ❤️‍🔥 Which is PRICELESS 💎 👑👑

[@t.l1357]

Im glad this narrative is changing and black women are demanding marriage sooner than to be "vetted" while already being a wife. This is not the norm and a woman really risks way too much. A woman with children vs a mam with children has a very different perception. Men fair much better. Im very glad it worked out for them. As I get older I now really see the Biblical marriage as protection. You should already be of a mind for marriage before procreation to avoid so many heartbreaks. Families r ripped apart because we don't keep God first. Im excited to see more black love where marriage is happening. I really feel like its gonna heal our community ❤

[@lanafranklin8568]

This man has built wealth and talks of his money and success. Somehow, it doesn’t even seem arrogant, egotistical or fake. He seems to have grown to be very mature, genuine and sincere.

[@tamaraandrews8175]

He is so mature!

[@jussjess2829]

Once he said “ last one standing” I cut the video off 😒😒

[@Mskiki1942]

The disrespectful truth

[@thanayitheresa8337]

Omg me too, the disrespect. But I came back cos I’m actually curious about the rest of the story.

[@The_Love_Clinic]

This was really good Yal! 100K by the end of the year will definitely happen! Excited to have been apart of this before 50k‼️

[@nenajay3174]

I admire this man and his wife. Lately the guests have been men of value. And it’s inspiring. For a minute this generation of men were giving off weakness (little to no restraint/disciple), fear (scared of women and commitment) and closeted homosexuality (constant belittling and seeing little to no value in women).

[@tierraherbert5454]

I have kids and didn't really date while they were young. Now they are older and self sufficient I am started dating and ended up with a guy with kids which was against what I desired and now I know I was right. Dating a man with young kids is not for me.😮

[@ellaleggett9628]

I can definitely relate to you, I have 2 kids, my daughter 21 and my son is 13 and I told myself once I get back out in the dating field, the man I date youngest child can’t be no younger than 5 years my son age.

[@jay-s9y1c]

So you yourself had young kids, they grew up + you do not want to date a guy w young kids BC you know the BS that comes along w that. Is that correct?

[@Next_LevelMe]

Great Show!! Great Guest!!

[@JessGoris]

Just because a woman is a stay at home wife/mom, it does not mean she gave up dreams or has no aspirations. It means our main focus is taking care of the home, so we can do what we want within that, but if it starts to affect the family, we’ll scale back or even drop it because our first priority is to our home. I’ve been home since 2015. Before I had children, I was studying to be a Physician’s Assistant. After children, I decided to stay home. I already have the medical knowledge though, while I’m homeschooling my children, I can teach them about the human body since that was my focus. I have a special needs sister that lives with me, and I care for her as well. My schooling, while I’m not making a salary from it, helps me in caring for my sister. I don’t freak out over certain things because I understand how the human body works. If a woman doesn’t care to be at home, that’s fine. We have those choices these days. But it does not mean those who do stay home don’t have knowledge or aspirations.

[@laetitia1007]

Obviously, she was the last one standing after 9 years. 😅

[@AndreCHatchett]

Nothing about being a step child or parent seems fun. Congrats to them for making it happen. You couldn’t pay me to do it again.

[@DeeDaKaang1]

Being a step-father may be the most thankless job in society.....Knowmatter the situation 9× out of 10 unless the man has raised the child from infant/ toddler stage it's going to end up a terribly frustrating headache that smart men would rather avoid at all cost.

[@AngelaElikya]

Is you thinking that being a parent period is supposed to be fun is where you went wrong at buddy 🤔.

[@lovefifi1317]

@@DeeDaKaang1 exactly being a step mother is extremely thankless giving up your time to raise another persons child and putting them first especially if you have none of your own

[@sherienichol1580]

I wish I would date somebody for 9 years!

[@jasminasinanbegovic6225]

Person that brings a child sacrifices her health big time or even life at some instances, depending on how dramatic it all goes. Putting aside her job, her friends, every moment of her time she steps aside to make others satisfied (even your meals comes in breaks 😅). And life happens aside of that, it strikes double in periods around pregnancy. Large respect to mothers

[@enjoylifesmagic]

The best advice I can offer is to marry someone after you have experienced a major challenge together. He or she needs to lose his job or there needs to be some family or health struggles and witness how they navigate that. That actually is what makes and breaks marriage- when one person doesn't know how to deal with challenges and destroys their relationship because they don't want to appear weak or in need. It's also a sign of mental illness. #supportmentalhealthawareness

[@cedrickcarson]

I dnt believe pressure is always a bad thing. Especially if it’s something you wanna truly achieve in life. College, start a business, buying a home, those things would be considered high pressure situations. If you’re a marriage minded woman you should apply pressure on that man to marry you. 6-12 months to be exact. Beauty and fertility can only go on for so long. She should wanna get out the game quicker with her prime still in tact and she’ll have less traumas to deal with.

[@DeeDaKaang1]

I agree, if you don't know she's the 1 within the 1st year you'll never know.

[@taureanbelle9769]

@@DeeDaKaang1 Agree. Experiencing a person in all seasons often brings insight if you pay attention

[@DeeDaKaang1]

@@taureanbelle9769 😆😆😆.......Never marry someone you haven't traveled with. There's something about the irritation of travel that brings out someone's meanest.

[@AngelaElikya]

​@@DeeDaKaang1 Their way quicker and simple things/experience you can go through to show someone real character the traveling together

[@DeeDaKaang1]

@@AngelaElikya Like????

[@MsEmG]

They met in their 20s, still figuring things out… when you are in your 30s and 40s dating for 8 or 9 years might be more costly especially if it doesn’t work out. We have goals and visions for everything else but not marriage.

[@karenfoster9209]

She held up her end of the bargain 💕

[@gogoldiego]

They are still growing together. 10yrs of marriage and convo again to see what's really going on.

[@lanafranklin8568]

I do not agree with some of these comments. They each had children while younger, unmarried and unplanned; that’s enough to complicate any relationship. They grew up and figured it out bc they loved each other. I think it’s that simple.

[@Mskiki1942]

Right it don’t make sense to date ppl without kid/kids

[@Mskiki1942]

Exactly “dress” and carry yourself.

[@Mskiki1942]

Yes, real mature!

[@camillenaar9413]

I’m commenting to support this channel but I don’t have the minutes to waste on this one.

[@BeverlyAdaeze]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@shawnsmith609]

I don’t bleave he changed

[@lundongooden]

Polyamory 101

[@daniciahumphrey8155]

Idk why we as people use scriptures out of context to make an excuse to sin. Biblical.... God said men and women become one. Not men have several females/wives.

[@JessGoris]

People get it confused that because some men in the Bible had multiple wives, that meant God condoned it. That’s why it’s important for people to read the Bible themselves in its entirety instead of listening to others or cherry picking.

[@daniciahumphrey8155]

No, sir, they had multiple wives, but sin took place when having all those wives within the family, for example, favoritism, jealousy towards their brother, etc. So before we say God condone it, let's know the truth! Cause it is the truth that will make up FREE!!!!!

[@daniciahumphrey8155]

& let us understand that even the men in the bible were sinners, and this is why JESUS had to come. Amen

[@JessGoris]

@@daniciahumphrey8155 no one here said that God condoned it. I see now that my comment wasn’t very clear. Because some men had multiple wives in the Bible, people can confuse that to think that meant God condones it. They forget that while the Bible gives us specific guidelines to live our lives as Christians, it also tells us stories of what was happening at the time. People were fornicating, marrying multiple wives, worshipping idols, etc. Just because it’s in the Bible, that doesn’t mean it’s the right thing to do. And that’s why it’s important for people to read the Bible themselves and with context.

[@marjn1030]

If you're a single parent please do a background check.

[@MatrixRC]

They should all live in the same house. To complicated and you only have one life. Especially, when both parents are active and want to be involved in the children’s life. I don’t get involved with that. Now if either parent is dead ☠️ or never involved then it’s a possibility to marry a person with children. Greatest decision I made was not being with a woman who had children that I cared about. Way to much drama with her baby daddy. I have my own wife and children clean slate. I don’t have to add additional work to my life.

[@sonyahathaway9753]

I’m 34 minutes in and this guy sounds narcissistic and cheater ish

[@smartpageprints8617]

26:26 that is if you have got a good man as baby daddy. Sure they don’t think like this in reality.

[@mike619]

He looks great for someone that’s practically 40 yrs old

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[@Mskiki1942]

Sometimes this how all these “high value man casual situations” end up.

[@aferg76]

Basically. She was around when he was ready. He didn’t really want her honestly. She was just there.

[@reggiereg1159]

Hopefully she not taking numbers now 🤣

[@desimo9127]

A Great parent is an Appreciated example of Selflessness🤍 I've always preferred men with a child(ren). Dope way to know someone is capable of Loving Unconditionally outside of themselves.

[@phreshprincesss]

I agreee!!!