THIS IS SERIOUS || Amberlynn Reid

[@cassandrahulse]

"12 therapy sessions didn't fix my issue with food." Duh! I was in therapy for 7 YEARS before I finally felt like I was past my issues with food and binge eating. I'm not saying it takes that long for everyone, but girl. It absolutely takes longer than 12 sessions. She's gotta put in the work.

[@LifeAfterLosing]

A few years for me as well!

[@deltasaves]

15 years of therapy for me. I've been all over the board for my weight and it's taken my whole adult life to get my issues sorted out and get a better relationship with myself and food.

[@angelinaduganNy]

I think that the whole WLS arc was not true. I think that she was just doing it for views. I do not think that she saw the therapist either. If she did see the therapist she most definitely lied to them....manipulated them so that she could get WLS sooner. If the arc is true I think that she got denied the surgery and she did not chose not to get it. She lies so much that not a soul knows the truth.

[@cassandrahulse]

@@angelinaduganNy So true

[@cassandrahulse]

@@deltasaves Wow, good for you for doing all that hard work. That's incredible and such an amazing example.

[@Moose92411]

As a functional adult living in society, I've had to look myself in the face more than once and say "whelp? I got myself into this situation. Time to deal with it." That's real life. Time for Amber to grow up.

[@vintageprue8728]

Exactly right, once she hits 50 shiz will hit the fan.

[@apversum]

IF she ever gets to 50

[@vintageprue8728]

Exactly! @@apversum

[@vintageprue8728]

Why does her butt have a huge shelf? I’m serious, how does a butt get that shape?@@apversum

[@tripendicular]

Very privileged take

[@AuralayKristine]

Every time I hear "resignated with me" I laugh again. Resonated. The word you want is resonated.

[@LouisianaGirlypop]

Amberlynn English major 😂

[@apollonia-ava]

Ignorant in so many ways 😮 She’s a lost cause 😮

[@kieleleron85768]

Ppl think she's trolling with stuff like that but I think she really thinks it's resignated

[@lavarad]

@@LouisianaGirlypopGrammarlyn

[@virginiadare1587]

The way she has treated people, including John, who have tried to offer her help infuriates me.

[@daintyGorilla]

She’s a TERRIBLE person and don’t deserve anymore chances honestly… I used to keep giving her a pass - Never ever again!! She’s such a trrrible liar and bad human being !

[@LifeAfterLosing]

Agreed

[@noktrix9451]

Seems like such a nice human - who does honestly care

[@mazerat3122]

What did he do to John. What did John do?

[@Dougie19xx]

She doesn't want help. She wants the views to get the money, to be able to keep ordering out.

[@susieqz813]

OKKK… I’ve never told this to anyone other than my therapist. I was always a heavy kid, I was 260lbs at my heaviest in my 30s. For decades I would use every 11:11, shooting star, birthday wishes on being skinny. It’s ridiculous but I really just wished I would wake up thin. Then 2019 hits, along with blood pressure of 220/120 (stroke level), and I finally woke up and took control of my life and body. I’ve lost and maintained a 120lb loss since with diet and exercise (and huge shoutout to my dietician and mental health experts!). I’ve ALWAYS said Amber wants a magic wand, a far fetched wish fulfilled. She does not have what it takes to put in the work. It’s sad, but with all her manipulative tendencies, it’s hard to feel sorry for her.

[@Ginabina76]

Yeeeees!!! 🙌 I was worried in 2020 I would end up on a ventilator cause of that 1 issue in the world lol. Ive been maintaining a weight loss of 131lbs since ! Awesome job!!!!!!🙌💙

[@ximar0ckstrx]

This is awesome! Good job! ❤

[@DivaAllyC]

Well done. How on earth did you get your blood pressure to that? Even back when I was at my heaviest of nearly 400lb and I wasn’t active at all my blood pressure only reached 142/118 once when I was about 320lb, and after that it stayed around 140/86 even when I was nearly 400lb

[@susieqz813]

@@DivaAllyC I wish I knew! Mix anxiety with a lot of cholesterol and not doing jack sh*t all day? 😂 Plus my dad has cardiac issues and has since he was 30. I went to urgent care because I felt weird and was taken away in an ambulance and that was my bottom. Scary stuff! Also thank you guys! 🙏🏼

[@Em09221]

You don’t have to answer if it is too invasive of a question, but do you have issues with loose skin? I need to lose about the same amount as you did and I worry about it, especially because of my height, I’m only 5’2”. I know it is not something that should really matter but it makes me a little nervous nonetheless.

[@JakeJake2021]

I am a retired RN. She has Stage 4 Lymphedema (Elephantiasis). It is getting bigger and heavier each day. Sodium is the equivalent of Miracle Grow. It constantly weeps a sticky yellow fluid that soaks through all linens/towels. As it grows, her heart has to work harder until it can’t. She is extremely close to death. I can tell by her color that she’s already experiencing organ failure. I once told her that her only option is in-patient treatment. She called me a “hater” and blocked me. She should get all her affairs in order. It’s too late for her. I am surprised that KZbin allows her content.

[@stonersiren]

waiting to see if you're right, but i think she's still young enough and not quite fat enough to be close to death yet. but very close to the edge, 5 more years and she'll probably be in confirmed organ failure.

[@LifeAfterLosing]

It’s sad, but it is so true. I was so close to that myself.

[@FutureCommentary1]

Do you have any idea why some people live to their 50s or 60s at 400/500+ lbs and others die in their 20s/30s at lower weights? I've been quite puzzled by that question. She's quite young. She definitely doesn't look healthy but she's still mobile. Some people older than her are bedridden but alive.

[@nailslacquer]

What's wrong or noticeable with her coloring that indicates organ failure?

[@nailslacquer]

I do think she has fatty liver or cirrhosis and her kidneys are going, just wondering about her coloring. She reminds me of myself right before I got sick with kidney issues.

[@LifeAfterLosing]

She is full of excuses. There is not a time I saw her where she wasn’t making an excuse about something.

[@superfrybread_1]

or blaming someone for all her issues.

[@buddysmilespopcornthesnake8611]

Well damn. This whole time she's out here thinking she's just "SWOLLEN" from too many sodiums lol, but after all this time we finally know she's NOT full of lbs and sodiums she's LITERALLY FULL OF EXCUSES 572 POUNDS WORTH. SHES GOT 99 PROBLEMS... BUT NOW WE KNOW SODIUMS AINT ONE.

[@marlyd]

Her being angry at people watching her for entertainment even though it's 'her real life' but at the same time calling her real life decisions 'arcs'. I can't.

[@hildahilpert5018]

What the heck is she whining about, What does she want ,a medal or a chest to pin it on.No one told her to post stuff on TikTok, KZbin etc.

[@FitLabb]

I think the best thing for Amber would be to disconnect from social media and KZbin to focus on her health, and taking the time to work with a qualified dietitian (and therapist) and a high quality fitness professional to finally learn how to eat in a healthy, enjoyable, and sustainable way that supports her weight loss goals, and to start a fitness training program that’s safe & appropriate for her. I want to see her finally succeed, which means no more trying all these trendy diet programs that never work, & removing herself from social media for a long time to stop letting herself get derailed by everything that comes with being so public.

[@LifeAfterLosing]

She never will. People like that are addicted to the attention as much as they are the food.

[@lanterns_glow]

She can't. The clicks, the attention, and everything else helps her get money to fuel the other addictions. At this point, she's just exhausting cuz it's the same shit, different day.

[@blueberryrazz8637]

Yeah, she can't at this point. She has no other way to support herself, and she basically has no one in her life who will tell her 'no'. She'll keep going like this until her channel is demonitized/deleted or her health gets too bad and she can't physically do it anymore.

[@onwednesdayswewearpink2761]

I will take " Things that will never Happen" for $100 Alex

[@CommontSense]

Her weight gives her the "perfect" excuse to remain in her cyclical life. She has proven time and time again, she rather uses her weight for the reason she is held back. She embraces her victimization I recognize this because I lived for 10 years with a man who is the male version of Amberlynn. They only "amend" their ways when they think they are in threat of loss or need to prove to gain something from someone, whether a new possible love or something for free I spent 10 years having to be a dictator to his food choices, hygiene personal care, and many other things. They don't want to do it on their own. They only do it if you have a strong "bully" personality to micromanage every aspect of their life, which is exhausting and one becomes over it. Why "enablers" can happen because frankly most people in the lives of people like ALR, just give up trying to give all the support when the person takes *zero* accountability and expect everyone else to manage it for them She has had supposed WLS team, and dietitian group via the WLS team probably has been given recommendations to see physiotherapy (never once have we heard her going to see someone or them come to her home), and claims she knows what she should be doing foodwise, but the moment it actually equates work, permanent life changes, etc she will dismiss any help and claim she is too unique to be helped at all Her goal is always to look for any flailing excuse from the sinking ship to "justify" why she does not need to lose weight. The "blame" will be placed on everyone else but her own decisions and actions

[@Runningwithscissors396]

Anyone who denies binge eating after 10 years of saying you have it, will never be ready.

[@vintageprue8728]

Exactly, the first step to success is quitting the lies and bs excuses.

[@abigailxmary]

She only said that to be a candidate for WLS sooner. If she had admitted to having binge eating disorder she'd need to go to therapy for wayyy longer and would have to prove she hasn't binged for any given amount of time to be deemed a viable candidate.

[@Helloimdarlenee]

Amber Lynn is the absolute worst. She used her ex’s brother's substance abuse as tea against her!!! But she’s constantly pulling out the “you’re being fatphobic” card. I truly believe she is a crap person.

[@chloemchannel]

Not to mention using her own addiction to food as a get out of jail free card but saying that guys addiction was “tea”. Fckin disgusting

[@mhmtakeyatime9000]

This is why I hate the word "fatphobic" it's often just used as a way to shush other people.

[@ThimbleFox350]

you can't really be discriminatory against fat people because being fat is a choice for 99% of fat people, it's like saying that people are alcoholicphobic or junkiephobic or smokerphobic. It's just a stupid line of thinking.

[@jacksparrow9182]

Welcome to the realization 😂😂😂

[@lundey5678]

My husband and I have each lost 80lbs (naturally) in the last 5 months. Watching Amber gives me a certain kind of motivation I haven’t found anywhere else - and I’m truly not saying that to be cruel. She makes excuses not only for her weight, but for her nasty attitude too. I can’t imagine feeling so low and still treating people the way she does. Losing weight is hard but I can 100% say (from experience) that living obese is harder. Thank you for your videos!! ❤

[@darcelgd24]

She is my motivation. I'm down 50lbs!!

[@a697ag]

Well, Amber always says she wants to inspire people. And she does. She inspires us not to be like her.

[@Ginabina76]

Awesome job you guys! I actually have been at my goal weight for about 6mth. I too thank fb and alr for that little help along the way. Theres actually a nice amount of ppl who have been loosing and we discuss it all here and there. Congrats again everyone!🙌💙

[@blablaklabautermann7578]

I use April Lauren's content for the same reason 😂

[@blousug]

It’s sad to say, but I feel like AmberLynn is an example of what is the worst in all of us. I can identify myself with her because if I didn’t have a support system, didn’t have children to look after, didn’t have therapy regularly, I could have easily wound up 500 plus pounds. 😢

[@TonicBlade]

She gained so much weight back since she stopped ozempic and through this WLS arch. I think she was actually denied but is spinning the narrative she felt she wasn’t ready. A lot of people knew she wasn’t ready :( . But at least it appeared like she was trying . She’s at the point where I think she really needs in patient therapy. She’s getting ready to move . This would be the perfect time to go to in patient

[@ximar0ckstrx]

She was NOT trying. I’m 1.5 years post op. She wasn’t following any of the pre-op guidelines. She never had any intention of following through. She even barked at actually WLS patients that’s she knows more than them. She’s a liar

[@Jen-Chapin]

Imagine having to lose 400 lbs. I am in the process of losing 75 lbs and even THAT is hard enough. She would have to be consistent for 5+ years to lose 400 lbs. Her track record shows she can’t do it for more than a few weeks. There is no possible way she will lose the weight unless she has surgery and even then, she will likely gain at least some back. Something like 60-80% of WLS patients regain (including me, I had vsg in 2016).

[@niki_bbb]

Amber said that she might think about WLS in the future years, or something like that (“revisit the arc”). And this made me so sad - like, girl, how many years with your health still “decent” do you have left? I am a couple years older than her, and in the beginning of my 30s I pushed myself to lose weight (I was like 40 lbs overweight, which is not a huge amount, but still technically obese), because my health started to decline so rapidly it was honestly scary. I can only imagine how bad it will be for her.

[@LifeAfterLosing]

Yes!!! Just do it already! My biggest regret is not doing it sooner!

[@Jen-Chapin]

I don’t believe she can lose the weight without WLS. Can you imagine losing 400 lbs without medication or surgery? I cannot fathom it :(

[@uhlexseeuh]

@@Jen-Chapinbut people do it

[@Tu-mai]

Yeah, she doesn’t have much time left. I really hope she reconsiders it once she moves and feels “better” about the breakup.

[@Tu-mai]

@@uhlexseeuhsure, people do it, but ALR (the topic of this conversation) hasn’t been able to do that successfully.

[@leeretaschen231]

She sounds like an addict “not ready” to check into rehab.

[@superfrybread_1]

it is the same crap everyday!!! crying, eating, being mean to people.

[@frandohe]

I had gastric sleeve surgery 7/8 years ago in Tijuana. I tried for years on my own to get rid of the weight, I would succeed but always seemed to gain it back. No regrets from having weight loss surgery. Was 380 b4 surgery. Today I stay in the 220 range, recently started going back to the gym in hopes of someday seeing my weight start with a 1 in front of it.

[@okaycola2]

You can do it! How are your magnesium levels? Perhaps an allergy test will push you over that hump

[@marciebigley1820]

Tijuana sounds terrifying. Why didn't you ask an American doctor?

[@CordeliaWagner]

You can never eat normal again and have surgery scars.

[@jessme2598]

@@CordeliaWagnerI had gastric bypass and eat the most normal I have in my whole life!! I have lots of scars from skin removal and no one can see them they are well hidden. Stop saying that nasty crap to people, you have no idea what’s it’s like to of had surgery. Living is more important than any scar.

[@katelynbarnes2987]

@@marciebigley1820Cheaper. That surgery is very expensive in America. I know plenty of people where I live in SoCal go to TJ for health check-ups, etc.

[@MushuWindy]

Her answer should have been “yes, I feel pressure to lose weight because my body is shutting down”, but at the end of the day, I think she’s content with staying exactly the way she is

[@margiep.7762]

Everyone loves a come back story. If she showed herself eating healthy + exercise I would watch her

[@butttrumpet698]

Thatz too much to ask for from hamburger

[@Moose92411]

The breakup was EASY to predict. No one can take this kind of drama and lack of commitment in their partner for long

[@mosaic.owl.studios]

I just love it when things "resignate" with me

[@mald379]

The weightloss journey definitely resignated with Amber.

[@01BLSP4Y]

The thing you need to understand about Amber is that she's far more interested in talking about bettering herself, and monetizing it, than actually doing it. This is not a scenario of someone who may have the desire to change but hasn't had the tools, be they therapy, nutritional advice etc. This is someone who has everything at her disposal and can't be bothered to do what she claims to want. Mark my words, no amount of therapy will solve her issues. It's become a crutch at this point, something convenient to point to to continue to excuse her lack of discipline while she claims to be working on herself. Her issues with food may have psychological roots, sure, but the solution to her problem has been the same since day 1: be disciplined. Instead of actually doing what she needs to do, she'll talk about doing weight watchers and quit after a week, or talk about WLS but will never commit to the process in any meaningful way, she'll talk about how much she needs therapy for BED or trauma, but won't actually use anything she's learned to modify her behavior. She will fixate on understanding the causes or roots of her behaviors, but only insofar as it enables her to avoid accountability. It's all a superficial attempt to convince others she's sincere. A sincere person would have made great strides long ago.

[@vintageprue8728]

I second that! 👍@@chronicreader

[@SandraHowardWoodward]

Tbh I’m confused as to why you’re wasting your breath on alr. She made Becky feel like garbage stating “I’ve never had support and love from anyone until I met faleene”. Becky was probably the most supportive person alr had in her life but she just treated Becky like a stranger in her own home after allowing someone who watched her on social media after four days of knowing her. Faleene even agreed to help pay for the surgery but in the end, Amber chickened out and just couldn’t stop with the take out and Uber eats. The only way alr is going to live to see 40 is going into a lockdown situation type deal where she can’t have three meals a day delivered. You’re just wasting your time!!!!.

[@graciek4700]

Let's keep it al the way 100: Ambers name brings the views.

[@SandraHowardWoodward]

@@graciek4700 you’re right tbh. I have a daughter 3 years younger than alr and I be damned if I’d allow Emilee to air her personal life for the whole world to know her business. I don’t like alr one bit but I don’t want to see her pass but at the rate she’s going, she won’t see 40. Have you ever seen a 600 lb person over the age of 45??. I know I haven’t. I hope something clicks in her screws up head.

[@deltasaves]

RE: the therapy.... She acted for weeks that she was far better and only had to go to therapy as a technicality and not for a need to heal. That's why there was only 12 sessions and she made a BIG (YES I SAID BIG) deal on the appointment countdown.

[@crzyces1693]

Look at how swollen she is. How puffy the underneath of her finger tips are. She is a day, a week, a year, maybe 5 years away from a catastrophic coronary event in a best case scenario if she doesn't seriously start not just addressing, but fixing this soon. This is an alcoholic who had 75% of their liver harden and the doctor says _"We can cut the cirrhosis out, but it will be years before you have full liver function again, and it has to be soon. You cannot drink anymore regardless. If you do, without the surgery, I can't see any way you make it another 10 years."_ and the person says _"Yeah, there's really no point in the surgery because I'm not sure I'm ready to quit. You said I wouldn't make it 10 years? So that means I can keep drinking like this for another 9 then we can revisit the surgery?"_ at which point the doctor just shakes their head, wondering if a word they have just said is even registering. I doubt her doctors, or even her psych doctors are giving her the brutally honest truth at this point, which is the exact thing she needs to hear. Every doctor, councilor, friend and family member needs to validate the reality of the situation instead of her feelings. I *DO* think she wants to lose weight, she just wants to be able to eat whatever she wants whenever she wants more. It's crazy, but using drugs and alcohol to deal with her break up would probably be healthier for her than using food. 20 Wine coolers or 30,000 calories over the course of the day? For her? The Wine Coolers are probably safer. How bloody nuts is that? And at her size maintenance is probably in the 5K calorie area if she plays video games and watches Netflix/YT/Tik Tok all day. A 30 minute walk would burn about 600 calories, maybe more. And she can't cut to 4500 calories a day? Or 5K but do house work for an hour to create a deficit? And yes, I've been overweight before. Just under 300lbs at 5'11" with a load of issues, from psych issues from the hormonal mess it caused to a myriad of back problems I had to argue with a neurologist for days about to avoid getting surgery which resulted in her giving me an ultimatum of her cutting off my 30MG of Percocet daily unless I signed off on the surgery in lieu of losing weight because she did not believe I could with the injuries to my back. That was Jan 10th of this year and I'm 212.6lbs as of yesterday. I was 295+. I know there is a huge difference, but my back was technically broken, so it sort of made things much more difficult to move. 2 healed fractures, 3 unhealed fissures, 4 bulging discs, narrowing all over the place, pieces of bone/cartilage floating around my spinal column from the healed fractures, osteoarthritis of the spine, and of course, sciatica. The best way I can describe it was like a severe toothache, in my spine, with each disc being a tooth. It was horrible. I had to sleep in the bloody fetal position and would still wake up with bruises on my hips and the sides of my knees from the weight of my body. Giant mess. That said, i can only imagine how much physical pain she is in, and the longer she waits, the worse it gets. And by the looks of things, she can't keep putting this off like it isn't serious. She is going to die.

[@to1620]

All we ever see of Amber is what she WANTS us to see. I have often wondered what she’s REALLY like behind closed doors when someone in her life (like Wifey or Becky) says “you know Amber, you shouldn’t get fast food today” (or whatever.) She strikes me as an incredibly manipulative person, and one prone to using emotional tactics to control the situation in her favor. I say this, because I feel what Amber really needs is an ADULT in the room basically denying her her child-like impulses and wants. She needs to be in an environment where she begins to understand that she’s not as smart as she thinks she is. She needs education, routine exercise, intensive psychotherapy and she needs to made to WORK for her food and board.

[@vintageprue8728]

Her mental age is about six years old.

[@christinacole7019]

I think the only thing that may help Amberlynn at this point is an extended, in-patient treatment program where she would have to stick with the food provided and would not be allowed to order take-out. She has tried many different diets on her own and none of them have worked for long.

[@Oobydoo114]

Talking about her latest “diet” and weight loss plan constantly actually does the opposite of what it’s meant to. The dopamine she gets from sharing her her weight loss plans makes her feel like she already done it when she hasn’t. So she has nothing left, no mental energy to actually lose the weight because she won’t stop talking about it. It’s a genuine chemical thing that can happen. That’s they all the self-help experts say “don’t ever tell anyone your plans, show them.”

[@taylorbug9]

"That really *resoGnated* with me" Honey WHAT?

[@FiberFiddle]

I think theres a confusion in her mind between resonation and resignation. Which is interesting, psychologically.

[@KourttneyL]

Weight watchers literally lasted ONE DAY. 😮

[@ExtraHecticana]

There is no way she will ever put in the work for anything that requires the smallest amount of work

[@vintageprue8728]

Utterly lazy narc

[@BelleMichele99]

i’ve been trying to tell other followers that they need to start emotionally preparing for her imminent passing. especially if they weren’t following during the C word scare. the guilt they’re going to feel when she eventually slips away in her sleep will eat at them for years. her organs are slowly shutting down, she’s running herself into the ground, and it’s just going to take one little illness to take her down. one more cellulitis, one more collapsed lung, one more twisted ankle, is all it’s going to take. can the EMTS get her onto a stretcher if she’s incapacitated? can they get her in the ambulance? will she make it to the hospital? can the medical team bring her back during a code? can they even push down enough to pump her heart hard enough to stop the brain damage?

[@CordeliaWagner]

I don't think people will feel anything. They will move on and firget her within a few days. The haters will miss her a while but will find someone else to project their toxicity on.

[@chloemchannel]

I agree that she will die, likely somewhat soon. Which is objectively sad as it is a life wasted, but why would anyone weep for amber when she fought so hard for this to be her life? Why would anyone feel guilty for hating her when 99% of people hate her not for her body but for her rotten heart and treatment of others?

[@ShimaTheCatto]

Why would anyone ever feel guilty. I am not her hater neither her supporter but if she dies that's on her. None of her subscribers are responsible for it. They watch and troll her because she puts it all online.

[@carolyn7059]

I agree for the most part. I doubt most of her followers will feel any guilt though. I wish KZbin would demonetize her. But even she herself admitted she would likely be this way without KZbin.

[@vintageprue8728]

Geeze, you’re a ray of sunshine 🤣

[@_dubs]

This lady needs to be a ward of the state and committed into inpatient. Like Tammy Slayton lost weight, it's fine to need help.

[@grouchydude3448]

She loves food more than her life, so she wont change

[@katuni08]

It feels like her attitude toward weight loss is aesthetic. It’s not. Those of us who are rooting for her want her to live a long, healthy, happy life. She doesn’t need to be supermodel thin! It’s not an exaggeration at all that her becoming a healthy weight would be life-changing. I’ll watch from afar and hope she gets the help she needs ❤

[@cheslxy]

There’s no WLS “revisit” when you’re 6 feet under Miss Gorl…

[@Nottoday9168]

Surgery won’t help her. She needs a complete overhaul of her lifestyle, any access to WiFi removed and a circle of drill sergeants that won’t let her babble her way out of doing the right thing. When she starts going on about her “mental” what we are hearing are bad therapists that just collected her money and pushed her in and out of the office. She’s a toxic, energy sucker that has a method and pattern to get or do whatever she wants. Imagine living with her or around her with the non stop trauma dumping. In real life and on YT, people don’t want to hear her pity me crap anymore.

[@LifeAfterLosing]

Exactly. Surgery is only temporary if you don’t take it seriously.

[@maryssaann]

I have a feeling if she doesn’t course correct, we’re just a couple of years away from finding out she’s passed away due to an injury or illness and her morbid obesity did her in. She doesn’t stand a chance if she thinks doing thing slowly at this point is going to fix her

[@AcidBaby98]

I really want a hayder to go undercover as her next girlfriend and really take one for the team and whip her into shape

[@FatTackler]

It's sad to see this. I know myself how difficult it is to lose weight and keep it off. I restarted my journey in January 2023 for at least the third time properly. It is not easy especially when you have a food addiction, you're an emotional or binge eater which I am. I have lost some weight already, however I still have a long way to go but I won't give up this time. My last resort will be weight loss surgery. I hope that Amber-Lynn is able to turn things around ASAP because it's so damaging and definitely not fun to be bigger. Great video. Keep up the great work ❤👊💪

[@elanorapowell6811]

Faline definitely broke things off because Amber wouldn’t get the surgery. She didn’t want to be taking care of Amber forever.

[@Emmae62]

The thing with mental illness, substance use, addiction, etc. is that you need to put in the work to get better and nobody else can do that for you. People need to make a conscious decision to do better for themselves. If you are not willing to come to terms with the things you are struggling with and unwilling to be vulnerable and open, you will continue the cycle. I am a social worker and see people in crisis, and the people who have no desire to put in the work to get better rarely do get better. Excuses, lack of accountability, surrounding yourself with negative influence, etc. are all roadblocks that only YOU can resolve. Nobody can do that for you, unfortunately. Nobody can heal you on your behalf. Don’t expect anybody to fight harder than you fight for yourself.

[@tigerlily2519]

Not for everyone unfortunately. I've tried my hardest, done everything asked of me by therapists, tried literally everything available but I'm still too ill and have symptoms so strong that I can't work full time and might never be able to 😢

[@Emmae62]

I would say that there are, of course, exceptions to my statement. But in ALR’s case, that isn’t applicable. She has full agency and responsibility over her health and her choices. I apologize, should’ve been more specific. Much support to you!

[@gigglesandhugs5690]

She is exhausting. She is an active addict and you can not help an Addict that doesnt want help. She has a reason for everything good, bad or indifferent. The simple fact of life is you make the changes you want to make. you change your priorities if you have to. Amber likes the props and the distractions. once its no longer new or shiny she is out. Any Change is not new or shiny when its really working. Its showing up everyday no matter what to put in the effort. I am not a gym rat. There are days i want to do anything else except exercise. Those are the days i need it the most. I bribe myself even like just do it to the 5 minute mark and if you are still not feeling it than by all means stop. by that time i am in the headspace of I can get through this and by the end i am in a better place mentally. you do what you set as a priority. She doesnt want it.

[@vintageprue8728]

Exactly, she is the weight she deserves to be

[@IzzyandShadow]

It’s madness that she ordered food twice on the FIRST day of WW the first couple of days are when your willpower is at its highest

[@TeamYouphoric]

1:31 the best visual representation is what you see in the mirror after losing the weight.

[@TheRealSparkplugTheFox]

I was actually thinking about getting fast food because I'm lazy but after not even a minute of watching Amber I was like, yeah... Yeah I don't need that. I get it when people say they hate watch her to keep themselves honest. I get it now.

[@fbiagentfrank]

I got a hamburger with no ketchup and extra mustard from McDonald's today but all I had on the side was a big salad and that was my dinner. That's what pisses me off about her, it's always all or nothing.

[@veerahmbles]

“Resignated with me.” But she’s got an IQ of 140?! Hahahaha more lies, Amber. 💀

[@PennyLynnBettorf]

Her only option for success and to save her life is to get into an inpatient program.

[@Hatterhouse]

Will you be covering Candy's weight loss?

[@LMarie_414]

Congrats!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 I’m down 85 so far this year!! Consistently is key!!

[@melocoton7]

she's simply addicted not only to food but also to the attention she gets for being so messed up. She loves to dwell in self pity. There is no amount of help to be offered or therapy to be had if she herself does not want to get healthy.

[@kimberlym7554]

Definitely not over dramatic. It absolutely could have been life changing and I love that you were excited about her getting the surgery and changing her life to really go in a healthier direction. So compassionate of you John! I really hope she’ll decide to work on her relationship with food too and realize there is still hope. I want to see her succeed!

[@MooonChild711]

My favorite ALRism: “…that just really RESIGNATED with me…”

[@ashleeseeks5201]

I used to be Amber so I try hard not to be frustrated with her....but it's so hard to watch her go down this path again. I was so hopeful she'd go through with WLS.

[@LifeAfterLosing]

It was the best thing I ever did!

[@FutureCommentary1]

I think that's why people follow her. She's everybody who had a hard time losing weight, she's everybody who's eventually succeeded and people want that for her.

[@ashleeseeks5201]

@Fat2FitGregory same!! I'm 2 yrs post op on the 4th and I'm so glad I did it. Absolutely changed my life for the better.

[@ashleeseeks5201]

@Jonni0608 yea I definitely think people want to see her thrive. I wish she'd get it together.

[@katodd2925]

​@@FutureCommentary1Nah, I'm fit and always been. I just enjoy eating and love seeing how bigger people live

[@philodendron3736]

I've started listening to Gabrielle Lyon who says we are as a western culture society are muscle deprived. We are so focused on trying to find motivation for fat loss that we completely forget about trying to eat and build for muscle. Nobody asks the question, do our bodies have a healthy amount of muscle? I'm wondering if women were less focused on trying to focus on fat loss motivation and instead shifted to muscle gain, and optimizing food/exercise for muscle, then maybe we can have healthier bodies. If you try to eat 30grams of protein for every meal you naturally aren't as hungry.

[@CompassionateCitizen]

I'm a public health professor and ALR has been a case study for my students. I am never here to make fun of her; however, I would find her very difficult to deal with in real life. So, I end up thinking about the many professionals who have given her evidence-based recommendations. Some low-income people would thrive and turn their lives around with only a fraction of the professional healthcare support she has received. So it's hard to see her throwing away her money, her time, other people's time, and her youth on uncontrolled impulses. The "sitting with discomfort" advice would have been really helpful if she had actually done it instead of just saying the words because it made her appear enlightened. The montage starting at 02:16 says it all. She can't let a craving pass her by, so she is not practicing the fundamentals of impulse control that could help her in many facets of her life.

[@Finkwood]

She couldn't lose the alleged 4 pounds a month goal. Since Ozympic (less than a year), she gained 70. It definitely had nothing to do with her "nutrition plan".

[@sparks2spare782]

You can’t help people who don’t want to help themselves.

[@lucietigger1641]

Because of the content creators I watch I seem to have seen a lot of ALR stuff in snippets. Its sort of depressing - due to so many unresolved issues shes basically slowly ending her life (and maybe its accelerating now?), and recording the whole thing on social media. I hate to see another person hurting like this, but its so hard to maintain that when she lashes out and refuses help, tells lies to herself etc.

[@365ral]

I'm a woman who's also a recovering binge eater. Just about every addiction stems from some emotional pain you're trying to escape or numb yourself from: depression, anxiety, loss, relationship issues, financial problems, etc. The key is to deal with those feelings however necessary. You're less likely to drown your sorrows if you don't have those sorrows to drown.

[@Margatatials]

Yeah, I feel like one of the big barriers that has prevented ALR from having success so far is her instinctive need to flee from any unpleasant feeling or situation (I assume this was a defense response developed as a child growing up in a meth house). Until she can push past that she won't be able to stick with therapy long enough to see benefits outside of inpatient care.

[@RavingKats]

It's true, it's easy to stuff feelings down with food and dissociate from your body

[@365ral]

@@RavingKats But if you resolve those feelings, you wouldn't feel the need to stuff them down

[@charlieyellove6600]

The concept of ego depletion is super present here, both in Amber and some things that you mentioned in your commentary. Pretty interesting psychological concept

[@FlinchFox]

She's so manic and out of control that the only way i see her "stopping" is with a heart attack.

[@hedaheda1609]

Or complex inpatient treatment(therapist, dietician, endocrinologist, physio, etc.).

[@butttrumpet698]

Not even a potato blocking her airways, to the point of her seeing stars and shitting herself, will stop her mania..

[@1pamby1]

WW only lasted ONE day and she binged on fast food delivery all day.

[@pod9023]

The woman needs somebody in her life to tell her no.

[@zoefree3950]

From what I can tell, ALRs girlfriend wants to travel and see the world…I would imagine she was trying to help her lose weight and they could go together but now ALR has given up dieting, weight loss surgery etc and her girlfriend has had enough and has decided to move on 🤷‍♀️

[@kieleleron85768]

Yup jade is a young woman she wants to go live not just exist in am apt

[@kastaway-mtx]

Why would anyone get with ALR if they wanted to travel the world? what lol these caretakers know how Amber makes her money and it's not by traveling the globe 🤣🤣

[@selenedm999]

I wonder if Jade genuinely thought she could help Amber. ALR has to change her relationship to food before ANY diet sticks.

[@kieleleron85768]

@@selenedm999 I bet she did. It was obvious from the beginning she was trying to motivate her to change. But when you're in your 20s you don't quite understand that you can't change anyone. They have to want to change & Amber clearly doesn't want to change

[@theboringkaren]

I can attest to what you're staying. I stopped filming my "weight loss journeys" to focus on myself and be serious about losing weight. I definitely recommend it.

[@once.upon.a.time.]

I second this! As soon as I stopped telling people I was trying to lose weight or get healthier, I'm able to focus on it a lot more.

[@aminamm3103]

That's gotta be the first time anyone's said "Amberlynn" and "master plan" in the same sentence

[@DianeWilliamsCurvyGoddess]

Her mortality is on the line but she doesn't really understand this. And I don't think that even one close call will make her decide to change.

[@TeamUCAN2]

500lbs is dangerous. People are probably just worried about her

[@FutureCommentary1]

I feel like the only weight loss tip really is: it WILL take time. It DEFINITELY WILL take time. A long time. If you're not satisfied with the process there's no point because the process is actually your new life. Yes you'll have to be careful about what you eat all your life. If you're not satisfied with progress and just want the end goal it won't work. Besides time, any way of eating that allows you to reduce your intake is fine.

[@RavingKats]

She still hasn't had her wake up moment. Everyone thought Tammy Slaton from my 1000 lb sisters wouldn't do it, and she didn't, until she had her own reasons to want to do it for herself. Motivation is a strange thing in humans, at the end of the day she needs to want it bad enough and do what it takes instead of just wanting it and making excuses for why she never does the work she needs to for herself.

[@leavesofecstasy6405]

It takes a long time to just “do it” I shudder to think of how much money I’ve blown on get thin quick schemes that didn’t work or I gave up on them. What truly works is working on yourself, your relationship with food, and CICO. I hope she has her moment where things click into place for her so she can get past all of these feelings of “failure” and hopelessness.

[@13onekrusha]

I’m someone who finished a smaller weight loss journey than Amber, but the first thing I had to realize before starting my loss was that my DIET was a large problem, I even ended up with a gluten sensitivity! I’ve lost 80lbs :D for the short story, being active and eating right. Amber is literally the embodiment of denial 😭 I’d do a backflip and subscribe if she didnt lie or cheat and actually began a correct weight loss.

[@ellenbrouwerartist]

She constantly keeps telling us “I wasn’t ready”. When will she be ready? She’s been at this for over 10 years and she lied to doctors to fast track her surgery. But she’s not ready. She’s not going to be ready when her cancer comes back, or when her lung collapses again or another dangling ankle. Her body won’t wait for her to get her shit together. It’s now or never. If she’s going to continue using her health as clickbait then I don’t want her to post about it. I don’t care. If she’s not going to try, don’t pretend to. This whiplash is exhausting.

[@Sparky_Jackson0]

I am sorry but the transition from crying..to WW..to Shake Shack!!!Was amazing!!!

[@Mrsjengood11]

I can’t even imagine what it’s like to be hundreds of pound overweight. Losing 10-20lbs is hard as hell. I can’t imagine the feat it is to loose 100-200lbs. A

[@Sheepy007]

Actually that can be easier than you imagine. Like on 600lb life the patients are ordered to lose atleast thirty pounds in a month, so those 100 pounds can be achieved in less than half of a year. If you are that heavy, you body has to work basically on full throttle all the time just to keep it alive and your calories burn at a highly accelarated rate

[@Autumnfrostjaq]

In any situation she is never the problem. She always has an excuse for every failure she has. I get tired of the perpetual victim mentality she has. Everyone has a past you have to deal with it move on. I feel she doesn’t want help because she won’t have a crutch to lean on anymore. I stepped away from her because she is a toxic person to everyone including her viewers.

[@MilesMilesCrocodiles]

I don’t think she ever wanted WLS. She wanted the results but didn’t realize that it takes a lot of work. When it really occurred to her that it’s just as much work as losing weight another way, just a different kind of work, was when she decided to self sabotage the door closed in that route.

[@dmontearz]

This shorty really said it resignated for her. Lmfaoooo 😂

[@filbert910]

She definitely wasn't approved for surgery but makes it seem like it was her choice to not get it. She a compulsive liar.

[@valariewillis6000]

Your new background/room is Fkin Fancy!!!!

[@justjet175]

"That really RESIGNATED with me." What? 😂

[@deamite7893]

English isn’t my first language, but even I was thinking, „ that is not a word“ lol

[@elidao2591]

She is making every excuse she can think off. Make small changes at first and go from there. Is it easy? Hell no! But if you want a healthier life? Do it slowly but just do it…..like my favorite Carnivore Doctor said……STOP TREATING YOUR BODY LIKE A TRASH CAN!!!! So something like that ❤

[@CordeliaWagner]

Carnivore diet is unhealthy.

[@raindropthunderstorm]

“That really resignated with me”

[@Missdeeee]

I started following her when she decided to have the surgery and for a couple months. I was flabbergasted at the amount of hate she gets, and tried to be a support. When she announced that she’s not having surgery and was showing herself taking one bite from each vegetable on her plate, I bounced. Sad that she can’t find the love for herself to do this. I’ve lost 70 pounds from IF over 50! Anyone can do it, it’s finding the way that works for you.

[@ximar0ckstrx]

She’s earned the hate she receives. She is manipulative. She is a liar. She is abusive to her partners.

[@AmbiCahira]

I've been watching her merely through reaction videos etc for a few years now and while I am so sick of the eternal carousel I still genuinely root for her. I suspect she needs to be treated for adhd (I recognize several things in her from my own adhd) to get her impulsivity under some sort of control to get some kind of footing to start on, and I know how much it sucks to be medicated for it and miss your regular self but I feel like as long as her impulsivity is so out of control I don't think she'll be able to follow through.

[@oldwomanranting]

Nah, she has BPD and she is an addict. She was not ready to get WLS and she wouldn’t have kept off the weight because she is afraid of not having her drug of choice in large quantities available. It is an unknown quantity that she has never experienced. She can diet and lose weight but when knows that she can just re-start eating whatever she wants and how much she desires if things get rough.

[@reneew9125]

Yes def adhd, I see it too. That need for a dopamine hit so u reach for sugar/carbs.. the way she is in and out of relationships, the constant carousel w weight loss journey and everything she does… it all screams adhd wow

[@loiracitr]

Would ADHD explain why she loses interest in a new diet/lifestyle so fast? That'd make sense

[@DivaAllyC]

I’ve said I see the adhd too. There’s a few reasons, but one of them is I have similar issues with food that she does and it comes from the dopamine hit that adhd people are lacking that can be obtained from turning to unhealthy foods for comfort. I’m currently trying to find both the right therapist to help with ways to cope with stressful and emotional situations that will make it easier to avoid turning to food for comfort and my next doctor appointment is to discuss medication for the adhd in general to give me the best chance to lose a bunch of weight I gained since covid started. If only amber would get serious about get proper diagnosis for whatever issues she has, no more self diagnosis or switching doctors and therapists before they have a chance to properly diagnose, and then she needs to take the diagnosis she gets seriously to make the required changes and not just use a diagnosis as an excuse to keep acting the same way

[@DivaAllyC]

@@loiracitryes. ADHD people often love the planning stage, but then end up getting bored with the new activity quickly. Sound like someone…

[@mairzydoats4879]

Frankly, I'm rooting for Tammy and Candy and expecting Amber and Eugenia to pass this year. This is gonna be a year.

[@AcidBaby98]

If not this year definitely next years. It’s so sad….for Eugenia. Fuck amber and good riddance. But I genuinely feel bad for Eugenia

[@lindalumae]

There should be societal pressure to lose weight if you are obese. Not hate, just social pressure. The same pressure society puts on smokers, alcoholics, drug addicts, people that need mental healthcare but refuse it, racists, mean people etc. It is a role of society to set the standards for our communities. The problem is that some people are just mean and hateful and society needs to make it clear the type of pressure that can be applied. Obviously applying pressure to someone to lose weight for health reasons would not look the same as the pressure applied to discourage racism, animal abuse, or child neglect, etc. Societal pressure is a necessary part of safe and stable communities.

[@maryhamric]

Being this obese has got to be so, so difficult. It's not impossible to overcome but I see why it's so very difficult for people.

[@Sageddegas]

It’s really not. You actively have to keep yourself that size like… it’s so many calories to be that size

[@chloemchannel]

At this point it has got to be immeasurably harder for her to be that fat than it would be to lose weight. At around 550lbs she could lose weight SOOO easily. Eating even double what a normal woman her height would eat in a day she would still lose massive amounts

[@blane1814]

I wish she would reach out to you. I can totally see you as her personal coach with weigh loss. That would be something so great for KZbin

[@HamanthaJones]

Its my opinion that alr and a lot of others view wls as a quick fix when you actually still have to make serious changes to your habits and lifestyle and its super annoying

[@aurus6483]

I have been watching Amber slip away for years while fighting my own addictions. We are at very different stages of our recovery and I am still learning and growing. Something I've learned a lot about, and how I really relate to her now, is the concept of comfort. Pain is an uncomfortable, sometimes devastating part of the human experience. Like all other injuries, it needs to be acknowledged and metabolised so that the injury beneath it has a chance to heal. She and I have similar childhoods - she turned to food, I turned to H. Both of us, on the inside, were little girls in pain and seeking something that would soothe that pain away. It is normal to want comfort when we are in pain, but comfort is not a shield and it does not help us to digest, metabolise and heal that pain. We return to our "safe" places over and over because they are predictable and free of chaos - we know exactly what we will get from them. Sometimes when we are really unwell and in an immense amount of pain that we haven't confronted, all of our waking hours start to revolve around comfort. I've been there, and that's where she is. She is a frightened child who wants someone to just pour endless love into her, gives her no boundaries, and handfeeds her sixty burgers a day, because she knows exactly how that will make her feel. And the problem with that is it never lasts. Life will change because life changes, it is not a static experience and it will find you eventually. She just doesn't want to accept that in ignoring the core of her pain and eating until its numb, she has destroyed herself in ways that her pain never could.

[@shapienails3067]

When is someone that unhealthy "ready" , when it's too late ? I know as well as many others and as Dr. Now always says "You won't live much longer weighing that much".. I was told I had pre- diabetes and before that I was not thinking of losing weight . But I decided real fast what I was looking at in the near future..

[@RoyalBlue4486]

It is very serious. She doesn’t understand or doesn’t care that she won’t be alive by 40 and if she is hanging on, she will be bedridden in a care home, waiting for someone to change her diapers. It’s truly terrible how she doesn’t care.

[@RhiannonNicole]

I just wanna see her come out with the biggest comeback of all time! I would love to see her be a success story cuz' I've been following along for awhile...I think it'd be cool to see her healthier, enjoying life. Cuz' I don't think she's ever had that. So I'm just going to keep routing for her.

[@Paranahmamaa]

Are you new here?! 😂

[@purplestars5410]

It's a nice sentiment, but the sad reality is you want this for her more than she does. She's an addict with extreme emotional issues stemming from childhood. Not that it's a valid excuse at 32 years of age. However it explains the immaturity and lack of tools to navigate life responsibly.

[@RhiannonNicole]

@@Paranahmamaa Been following both channels for 5+ years, so no, I'm not new here...

[@RhiannonNicole]

@@purplestars5410 Well I feel like it can't hurt to keep believing in someone as long as it's not negatively effecting my life. 🤷‍♀️

[@purplestars5410]

@@RhiannonNicole It can actually. If it starts going in the directing of enabling. Not setting boundaries for behavior and letting them continue to be self destructive. Overlooking it and forgiving that... ultimately doesn't help an addict. Tough love is what is needed for ALR. Unfortunately for her over the years she has burned every bridge. There's no one left to give it.

[@idaklasson6143]

16:08 I left the video for a bit, came back and thought he was talking to the viewer and got so happy and motivated and then directly humbled when i realized he was tlaking to ALR

[@shelleydaly1726]

Amber, the only thing she succeeds at is failing. Don’t get your hopes up, she will never change. 10 years of a weight loss journey and she’s only managed to gain weight

[@LifeAfterLosing]

It’s sad. A lot of us were there, it just wasn’t documented.

[@Determined-Dani]

Hell will freeze over if ALR stops making content about her size.

[@suzannedelonas392]

I wonder if focusing on reducing sugars would help Amberlynn. I know it sounds silly but I was having similar problems with impulse and willpower on diets. I recently learned it’s likely I have a sugar addiction and I’ve been taking steps to fix it. Weight loss isn’t my focus yet but I’m already feeling different and way less cravings for junk. It’s really helping me stay on track and work towards a healthier lifestyle. I wonder if it might help her.

[@TooHooWrong]

How are you doing it? I need to cut my sugar intake, too

[@mald379]

@@TooHooWrong Not OP but theres definitely not one way. Ive heard a tip to not restrict food but have full, legit meals and eat as much veggies as you can first, then as much protein as you can and then eat the carbs. this way you get fibre first, which regulates blood sugar, then you feel yourself up with protein that is very satiating, and then helps you eat less carbs and have less craving. It has really help me lose some pounds and i dont eat whole bar of chocolate at once anymore and dont have sugar crashes. I still have a problem with eating a pack of crisps a day, but that's at least one problem left to deal with instead of two 😂

[@suzannedelonas392]

@@TooHooWrong I’m following a 7-step plan in a book called “Potatoes Not Prozac”. The steps are almost ridiculously simple but it’s meant to ween you off the addiction slowly so you don’t experience withdrawal. I’m still on step 1 because I’m really trying to nail it before moving to step 2. I’ve actually managed to lose a little weight too although step 1 doesn’t eliminate or cut anything.

[@suzannedelonas392]

@@mald379 yeah I’m on step 1 of the plan which is “Get 33 grams of protein at breakfast and have breakfast within an hour of waking up” I’m plant based so it is HARD getting so much protein for breakfast but I have noticed I’m craving waaaaay less junk.

[@blousug]

I thought her answer for not getting wls was valid and did show some level of awareness. However, what drives everyone literally insane about AmberLynn is that she has this great desire to lose weight but has absolutely zero follow through. Everyone is wasting their breath trying to convince her that her actions are effecting her situation. This is why her personal relationships fail. Its really very sad.

[@kerry3546]

You make very good points. Have you reached out to her? You’re an advocate for healthiness.

[@everythingallatonce321]

He already did in the past