This Is The Worst Part

[@justjackie3792]

I’m so bad… if I do something that was productive that wasn’t on my list then I write it on my list and cross it off 😂

[@fatheringautism]

Haha, same.

[@rainbowgirl55]

I do that too

[@christy9810]

Wow nice to know there are others! 😂 Even if I wash a dish, trim my nails, make my bed, shower, literally ANYTHING I will add to the list just to have something to check off & feel like I accomplished something! 🤦‍♀️😂 (but I definitely don't have ADHD, just ADD lol)

[@justjackie3792]

@ 🤣 ✔️✔️✔️👏👏👏

[@chrisrose375]

Congrats on the extra dopamine!🎉 Your not bad, this is another technique ADHDers use to positively reinforce task completion and developing routine. It's not cheeting, its providing your brain with the dopamine hit it should have gotten when you completed that task. Neurotypicals get it, but they call it a feeling of accomplishment. Writing it down and crossing it off after the fact is training/assisting your brain to give you that dopamine hit you deserve for finishing that task!

[@tracyweekley5577]

With my ADD and anxiety, I struggle with figuring out what should be a priority and sticking to that.

[@jandillard1382]

Have you considered meds for your ADD? It could help you a lot.

[@chrisrose375]

Ooh! I found this helps me (adhd, anxiety too) maybe it can help you. Write it ALL down and dont worry about putting it in any order. Then you can use something like the Eisenhower matrix, SMART goals, or other technique to organize them. Whats important is to write down everything 1st then prioritize. This separates the thinking of everything and prioritizing thought processes. For me I get stuck trying to prioritize and rembering everything. I get overwhelmed worrying if im forgetting something and 2nd guessing my prioritising cause i was trying to think of things at the same time. It also means less erasing lol.

[@tracyweekley5577]

@@jandillard1382 I do take medication. It helps, but it's mostly just training my brain to not get overwhelmed.

[@SueAnnMcClure]

Thank you for talking about getting the tasks done. I have ADD but I still get so overwhelmed, to where I don't know where to start. Thanks again love your family. ❤

[@aorosco77]

Same! I get so overwhelmed that it's hard to start a task. Blocking tasks and breaking them into chunks has helped. Also, asking myself Why am I doing the task and is it important.

[@Tiff-cz4fm]

Bought the same pet steps last year. My 90 pound lab absolutely loves them. She was a little unsure at first but a few treats and praise…we’re golden. Saves my husband’s back!

[@drawingfandome]

As someone with adhd I relate to your time management struggles SOOOO much it’s so sad. I’m in college right now and I struggle to get all my work done efficiently too. Sadly I also put things off until their less ideal getting distracted with other things My biggest problem right now is I’ll only be able to focus in on school work past 8pm half the time so it means I stay up too late getting work done instead of doing it sooner at more ideal times. 💀 I want so badly to fix this problem but I will literally zone out and hours will have passed without me realizing it and I’ll have only gotten one or two things done. So I’m with you!!! I agree with other commenters. Please. Get your family to help! If nothing else they’ll force you to stay on track! When I go out and do things with friends I find myself more focused because they keep me on track instead of allow my mind to wonder because it’s ruder and worse to do that when your keeping others time up as well and not just your own! Also half your projects sound big! And like something you shouldn’t do alone. Like construction work! Also can I just say as a p.s: this feels like a lot better content for you to discuss in terms of disabilities bc adhd is something it seems you personally have so you can talk much more personally and from a place of experience with struggling with adhd, while when you discuss Abbie’s struggles it’s always gonna be from an outsider point of view. So I do feel the discussion on ADHD is much cooler to see as it’s a part of your lived experience internally and externally, and probably healthy to discuss and open up about for you!

[@jessicahussey]

I appreciate the early uploads. Much love from the UK

[@fatheringautism]

My pleasure! I've been trying to upload them earlier for everyone over the pond.

[@mistress0sinister]

This is making me go into my own brain and consider why i keep procrastinating .y big projects. Cleaning, organizing, drawing and writting comics.

[@mylamberfeeties875]

My family members yell "Squirrel" if I am caught doing multiple things started but nothing actually done 😮

[@ellykaye6633]

I’m with Abbie- I’m definitely a car sitter! I can sit in the car watching or listening to my phone for a long time! 😁

[@libbyammerman8383]

Every year I say I’m gonna get up in the attic in the garage in the winter to go through stuff and throw everything that’s ruined out. I’ve been saying it now for over 5 years.

[@emilygarwood1373]

For me setting a timer helps. I’ll say I’m working on cleaning the kitchen for 20 minutes. Or I’ll say I’m going to work on the kitchen in 20 mins. Helps with the time zaps.

[@erinhawkins-terriquez7173]

Not just you homie, i promise. You can get through it!!

[@patconover4913]

How are the baby quail

[@DeannaBoyer-m3c]

Asa our Children's museum here in Indianapolis has a wonderful model train display so worth seeing

[@kathleenmunoz4465]

Make a A B C list. A is the priority, B is next and C is the low priority. Commit to it. Have the list in a spot you see everyday and mark off as you complete.

[@fatheringautism]

Block scheduling is much more effective. You can also complete much more with a structured list rather than a tiered list of priority. If that were the case, the garage would always be a C priority.

[@fredwife3]

Thanks for sharing, you just described me. I'm 57 and thought it was just my annoying personality. Got my wondering...

[@pattysheldon656]

I had ADD and I can sooooooooo relate.

[@blumberg1982]

I feel you. It’s hard with ADD/HD

[@melissawright4040]

I get side tracked doing tasks so don't feel bad. My mom use to get my cats Christmas presents. I would get a kick out of it

[@LakelandluvsBlythe]

butter and flour is how I make my gumbo roux

[@fatheringautism]

Interesting! A butter roux is how Priscilla makes her shrimp étouffée

[@valerieclark5064]

A list. Oh, I would hyperventilate writing it all down! I am new to figuring out ADHD. I'm 58 and realized after watching so many videos of people talking about ADHD, I have it. I am depressed and have anxiety, it went under the radar. Right now, my life is against me. I scheduled a vacation day yesterday since I needed to use some before the end of the year and I needed a half day on Tuesday to prep for a annual meeting that night. I'm like perfect. Extend it a day. Yeah. My 86 year old mom went into the hospital on Sunday and needed surgery yesterday. I was so stressed Tuesday, my ADHD kicked in, and I was only 1/4 prepared for the meeting. Also, I was planning on doing a majority of it on Sunday. However, I'm the daughter and my 3 brothers are jerks, so I'm my mom's only caregiver.

[@kathleenmunoz4465]

Abbie art work frame is special.

[@jaytotheell]

start hiring people. fence people. garage cleaners. pond builders. of course it'll cost money, but save you so much stress. i am a service person and know how it is.

[@jessieely5363]

Oh my goodness! I grew up going to model train shows with my dad and Gramps from 3 years old. Some of my favorite memories include model trains and FINALLY being old enough to run my Gramp’s trains in his train room.

[@deniseg229]

Growing up in the 80s, we always had a train platform under our Christmas tree!🚂 But my uncle always had the best platform, he loved trains so much and had many different trains. Great memories and miss doing that too.

[@tdandr1]

Executive dysfunction. It's such a struggle!

[@janaedeason3828]

My daughter loves sit in the car once we get home . No rush to get out at all and watches u tube .

[@sarahberg5846]

I have always wondered what the circular picture above the living room door was. Thank you for showing it up close!!!

[@Stormbrise]

I also love to sit in the car, it is like a little safe cocoon. When I get home is the worst time for me to want to get out of the car. Especially if I am alone, and it is the spring and summer months here in Denmark. I can sit there and read, play mobile phone games, and just chill after the hyperfocus of driving the car and doing errands that always just mess with my sensory sensitivity. I always forget my headphones when shopping and doing errands. Inside the house, there is more space around, and I think that is why I need to decompress in the car. Also, do you not just love ADHD, we have a storage room in the house that we just throw things in, and now I need to clean out the office room and the storage room. Life is fun as an AuDHDer!😊

[@jackfiler2165]

My dad is a model train geek we have a train set running through our garden lol

[@smilyblessings7668]

My ex loved building the little truck models a whole silo farm ect .it was pretty cool to watch

[@nancyallen583]

Is this a new puppy? So cute!

[@karliechardi2229]

I'm digging the doggy stairs. My service dog is 12 years old now and it'd be nice i think to have fir her at bed time because she likes to get up and down from the bed, she's 10lbs. And she's fine getting down but she's started really hesitating getting up on her own.

[@mitch281985]

I'm bad too I have many things to get done but I start things I have to do then they don't get done!

[@cazb7806]

Blessings.

[@angelamcgee8703]

My uncle use to put a train garden in his living room next to the Christmas tree then on the outer part of it train tracks with old trains running all day

[@christaclubb1625]

Growing Up My Grandmother made everything from Scratch!!! Roux, Gumbo, Beef Vegetable Soup..She used fresh Vegetables!! Love from Louisiana!!

[@amandamaynard3514]

I love your top Pricilla!! Where did you get it? I like the length, style and color.

[@rmjames83]

Compulsive to do list writer here. I have stuff that I do everyday & take great delight in crossing it off, including adding things I’ve done & crossing those off too😂 I also have a priorities list that involves the big tasks you mentioned that are daunting-the ones I prefer to avoid. “Where do you start?”. (Especially where do you start if you’re afraid of it not being done perfectly?🤣). The rule is that a task on the priorities list gets added to the daily list, even if as you said, it’s part of a larger priority. Like the 1 shelf thing. Just make a start is what I often say to myself! Totally get you. I don’t have a diagnosis but I’m like a bee, constantly on the go but in the end, probably not being as productive as a bee if left to my own devices without directing myself with lists🤣. I have a big problem with post it notes as a result. I probably need shares in the company at this point🤣🤣🤣

[@AngelaMcMenamin]

If you got a safe ladder for attic would you store some decor there from Garage.

[@JaniceTaylor-it3ed]

I ❤Thomas the train

[@sjmom5119]

as far as the garage i would take it one item at a time or one task at a time in there and before you know it the garage will be done.

[@lupereynoso7919]

Hola Asa, have you ever thought of putting a plastic switch box over those light switches? You don’t have to use the lock on it, but until she learns how to open it herself, that might break her from turning off the lights when you need them which I think is hilarious that would be some thing I would do.😊

[@bowiegirl5662]

My son (who is 38) is the same as you as far as trains go.😊

[@mariannejennisch9293]

Hire someone to help do the fence. Could Isiah help with the garage at all.

[@kwaktak]

I was never diagnosed with ADHD but am pretty sure that it's something I've always struggled with. Couple that with depression stemmed from PTSD (over my autistic son's many elopements and self injurious behaviors) where even tasks that I enjoy (once I get around to doing them) require that I "build up steam" which feels like I'm pushing a boulder up a hill. Even when I set out to do something, the OCD kicks in and I'll strive for perfection. Example: I'm a guitar player and took up acoustic guitar luthiery as a hobby after my son threw one of my guitars down the stairs. Over the course of 15 years I've only built two guitars, with a third and fourth in slow progress. It should take three months to build one guitar, tops. Guitar No. 1 took me 4 years to complete, No. 2 to twelve. No. 3 has taken 4 years (and is 95% done) but I should've finished it last year and I have a 4th that I began 3 months ago.

[@cherylnasco1866]

Question, Asa how are those on small ears? I'm asking be cause I bought some like those that wrap around the ears but they wouldn't sit right over my ears they were to big.

[@fatheringautism]

The ones Priscilla has are adjustable so they fit smaller ears. I think they would do well.

[@dianeekstrom5272]

Oh, I can relate with the ADHD, I have to have lists. My husband says I have lists for my lists. 😂. We live in Arizona and our garage gets very hot, we had a mini split a/c installed and it is amazing! Now we can work in the garage anytime we want to.

[@angelamcgee8703]

Asa u should get one of them closed in cart that attach to the back of the bike to put Rizzoli in so she can go with you

[@jenniferhill1882]

I was just about to suggest breaking up the big tasks into smaller more manageable tasks then you said it.

[@suechampion9985]

Hello from Rocky Mount NC 👌 😀 😍 😄 ✨️

[@Cokie1657]

When over whelmed with many things that need to get done. Someone asked me how to eat an elephant ( multitude of tasks)? 😊 One bite at a time😊❤ I’ve never forgotten that🎉🎉

[@jillwalls9330]

My husband has ADD and we have so many messes and so much clutter. He can never find anything but he’s knows he has it. I like things organized and I would love to be a minimalist. I could live with only the bare basics. I am not materialistic at all. He attaches himself to items and always regrets it when gets rid of anything. We are so opposite. It all just drives me crazy. 😂

[@wendyroberts2236]

Are you putting in a a vinyl fence?

[@fatheringautism]

No, we like a wood fence

[@Sarah-fy3qf]

I have a lot of jobs today but they are all noisy outdoor jobs so i am going to watch youtube and relax until 0930 - then go for it. I have my list. I haven't added times brcause they are jobs that just need completing before winter. I have told my self no lunch untill they are done. Hopefully I won't starve to death in my garden.

[@psalmchica]

I get distracted and overwhelmed and have big emotions and anxiety. ADHD and possibly Asperger’s..

[@laurareynolds2988]

I found this really interesting. I find it so difficult to stay on task and to organize myself. I have a million plans to do so but when it comes time to get it done, I stress out thinking of other things that I should be doing instead. End result, I get overwhelmed and put off everything until another day. Nothing accomplished. I have years of graphic files that I have to sort through whenever I have a new work order and every single time, I tell myself I need to organize them but instead I spend an extra hour finding everything I need before I begin working. Organization would save me so much time in the long run but I continue to put it off. It is so frustrating. However, I have never ever considered that ADD may be part of the problem. Maybe not but who knows. Have you been diagnosed? Or with research, you have come to that conclusion? We probably know ourselves best, don't we? 🤷‍♀ Amd BTW...yes, N scale. My dad used to own a model railroad store which I worked in for a few years. Fun hobby.

[@angelamcgee8703]

My sister had a yellow lab dog And he had arthritis and to get him to go up steps he would back up do a circle then run up the steps or we had to give him a push

[@APM1978]

Asa, you'd be surprised how well goldendoodles walk on a leash 😊

[@fatheringautism]

I'm sure they do. Sandy does really well on leash.

[@alexthesaintbernardlover5938]

Hey Abbie and family

[@GhostPepperMeg]

Can we talk about HOW BIG RIZZO has got since ‘last video?’ lol. Ik it wasn’t overnight but almost lol

[@AnthonySmith-bj9mo]

hi Asa

[@lalabyelulu4021]

I don't want your ear wax 😂

[@kimberlymigliorato8755]

I have a 13 year old Great Pyrenees mix that needs those steps to get into the bed!

[@vanessaabbs9441]

And look you just described me

[@blumberg1982]

The photos and frame are gorgeous! Love it!

[@TammyCox-w7t]

Have you ever thought about getting meds for yourADHD

[@w.dossett3332]

Well done that workbench top looks great. Would it help you if you organize a short video of just a small job you need to do snd we watch you do it, then we can praise you. I know that would certainly help me to stop procrastinating, but I need a yt channel first lolll

[@fatheringautism]

Haha, like a positive affirmations channel

[@w.dossett3332]

@fatheringautism yes. It would definitely work for me. I plan for months in my head but cant get started. Get your viewers to vote on the jobs you need to get done lollll

[@JaniceTaylor-it3ed]

Hi from Indiana

[@morgancantrell9332]

Does she share recipe for Gumbo on her page ?

[@danettewelborn836]

Are you looking for the phrase, "Tyranny of the urgent?" I use that phrase all the time.

[@fatheringautism]

No, that's not the one. I know that one thought and that's certainly part of it. What I'm talking about is when we allow other tasks to take the place of the ones that actually move the needle. We still feel like we are actively accomplishing things and we are constantly busy but not with the tasks we should be busy with.

[@MemawSue]

​@@fatheringautismOh that one I call my brain won't let me 😂😂😂😂

[@sabrina19ization]

❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@janhatcher6991]

hire somebody to help you, especially hire somebody to just do the fence

[@Cheyenne-vi6fi]

He is 😊

[@elizabethmaney9386]

Does Priscilla have a video on her channel for this recipe? If not, I sure hope she does.

[@bonnierobbins5058]

I don’t have anyone depending on me, so I can be selfish.

[@robbiekenan8591]

Y'all spend more on dog food than I spend on my human food.

[@wendydayz6673]

Same

[@Carolhealthfan28823]

Evening

[@dandeliondreamer3365]

Will Abbie’s school program end in January ( federally funded by department of education? ) with new administration, or is it state funded? Or have they told you?

[@Lisa.Soares]

Hahaha my bf has an N Scale layout in our basement

[@nicoletteteame509]

Beautiful family Abigail beautiful girl

[@w.dossett3332]

I am sorry UK here, what is gumbo?

[@dylansharp3961]

Did I tell you my Vet does not recommend Farmers Dog?

[@nancyallen583]

Is that a new dog you’re training?

[@susanseifert925]

So…… is there a train trip in your future? Go for it. Father Son time? You and Isaiah? Or, you and your father? Can’t wait to hear the details!!!😁😁😁

[@JaniceTaylor-it3ed]

Hi Abby

[@blumberg1982]

I’d say fence first as its safety first.

[@fatheringautism]

The fence prep depends on the fence company. It will be several weeks before they can start

[@shannacraft4099]

🌸 💙💙💙

[@susanreed8186]

You have a beautiful yard❤

[@jopeters6135]

Get Priscilla to help you ! I’m 61 and do multiple jobs inside and outside the house. As well as working!

[@fatheringautism]

I have my own house jobs I am working on while also working my jobs. -Priscilla

[@jopeters6135]

So do I. I never sit down ...... I'm go go go. I work full time , do gardening, plus inside jobs. I brought up 3 kids while my husband was away most of the with the navy. I did absolutely everything then.

[@fatheringautism]

@@jopeters6135Cool, Priscilla did that as well while I was in the Coast Guard. I’m just not sure why you assume Priscilla isn’t also constantly doing things.

[@jopeters6135]

@@fatheringautism . I suggested she helps you if you need it. That’s what marriage is all about. If she needs help you help her and vice versa.

[@fatheringautism]

@@jopeters613523 years of marriage and we are doing just fine.

[@marayaadams]

Hello

[@pinky-xt1mc]

💜🙏🖐👍

[@MickeymouseMichelle]

Not on your lists lol

[@kimengvall1523]

I have adhd and I’m finding it hard to get started doing things. Then I look at my house and get overwhelmed how can I get over that or help change it

[@indica113]

me too... and when I do do it my OCD kicks in and it has to be done a certain way and that way makes a bigger mess than when I started.. then I get overwhelmed and don't want to do it at all..

[@gailpenhale6141]

For my son with ADHD and Asperger's we section off a room on paper, like a window with 4 sections, and then just work on 1 section at a time. It helps doing it that way.

[@kimengvall1523]

@ Ty

[@fatheringautism]

Time blocking your to-do lists. I don't just write a to-do list. I give it an exact time. For example "fold laundry from 1-1:35" No matter what I'm starting at 1 and ending at 1:35. It eliminates distractions because my time is limited and I know I will start the task because I've blocked off that time. You will be amazed how much you can do when you block off time.

[@RosemarieRusso-f9l]

@@fatheringautism why don;t you have priscilla fold clothes while shes on the phone?It does't seem right you are always working.

[@kaymcclurg1184]

That spoon is gross….how can you possibly get it clean and sanitized?

[@fatheringautism]

It's not dirty, it's burned. There's nothing gross about it.

[@kaymcclurg1184]

@ I’ve always wondered how people who use wooden spoons get them clean food particles get into them, don’t get me wrong a lot of chefs use wooden spoons etc….. I’m just not real familiar with the use and cleaning such a porous material. I’m sure there is a way. Everyone has their own likes. Didn’t mean to offend just curious

[@wendydayz6673]

Wooden spoons hold bacteria. Google it

[@debbiebousquet5677]

Wow I'm not a procrastinator. An I don't understand how u can just complain about not wanting to do an making excuses to not do them..... I just don't c it. It's like worring about something that hasn't happened yet..... Just go outside an do them . U don't have to spend the weeks doing them but just go outside an clean up..... Stop making excuses an just do it. U will feel so much better about urself an the progress u done did.... Please stop procrastinating. Just go do it. An now is the perfect weather to get outside an off ur electronics.... Save them for night time . 😂❤

[@fatheringautism]

I thought I explained it well in the video but apparently not. This isn't simply procrastination. Nobody is complaining about not wanting to do something, it's actually the opposite, I WANT to do ALL the things and there are no excuses being made. It's a very common trait of ADHD to fill your time with a million other things rather than the large jobs. Not because the large jobs are hard, because they take too long to complete. It isn't about avoiding work, I work constantly. It's because the satisfaction of completing a large job is equal to completing a small job. The dopamine level is the same, the feeling of completion is the same, and the drive to do those smaller tasks is very strong. In the ADHD world, there is no later, there is only now. When I see something that needs to be done I don't plan to do it later, I do it now or it doesn't get done. My "electronics" are part of my job. I'd rather spend time with my family than parked in front of my computer in the evening.

[@sarahbarry9217]

Obviously this person has absolutely NO understanding of those of us who have ADHD. The wording of the comment also leads me to believe they have no desire to understand how our brains work.

[@maryolmstead3183]

Asa, I’ve often been amazed at how much you and Priscilla do every day. If you feel like it’s a lot, it’s because it is.

[@patconover4913]

How are the baby quail doing

[@MickeymouseMichelle]

Distracted ? You don't care for the first TWO DOGS. How is it fair you care so much for Rizo ??? What ???

[@fatheringautism]

Ummmm…what does that mean? We care for all of our animals. We’ve had maverick for 11 years and Sandy for 5 now. We also have Nala and they are all well taken care of. Just like the fish and quail. -Priscilla

[@launasimon3853]

Why don’t you take something off your plate and hire people to come in and repair your fence, at least that will be something off your list and even though it will cost, it will be worth it for your mental health

[@fatheringautism]

I’m not replacing the fence myself, I don’t have the equipment for that. I’m hiring a fence company to do that but I still have to prep for it.

[@launasimon3853]

@@fatheringautismok that is better, lol I thought you were going to do it

[@nexalex]

The son should be helping, he lives there

[@fatheringautism]

He does help. Why do you assume he doesn't? Also, wouldn't it be up to me what my kid helps with in my house?

[@jennyrine7216]

​@fatheringautism The negative comments on this vlog are nuts! People need to calm down 😒

[@ChaoticUnicorn13]

Hm. Maybe you were thinking of productive procrastination…..?