This is why he’s SINGLE…

[@sunsethwy66]

Amazing to see a woman who understands and calls out this behavior!

[@waynehewett4017]

He's single ....by choice.... You only need to be Kentucky fried once or twice ...... Before you wise up and realise modern women just aren't worth it .....

[@LebronJames10644]

Wipe yours knees, she ain’t gonna let you hit little bro

[@905cavillac2]

​@LebronJames10644 easy bro, it's not all about the smash, pay attention

[@naturalpro2003]

​@@LebronJames10644 Troll.

[@conquerthafuture7209]

Not a new thing dude

[@noway464]

You’re speaking for all the good men suffering in silence. Thank you!

[@stu713]

Yup.

[@jayknock1441]

Good loving men that fall out of love but still care about the women they fell in love with that have basically taken them for granted and have become spoiled with their comfortable way of life their men have provided for them.

[@naturalpro2003]

Women always complain when their men take them for granted. When we men voice the same concern with our women, they brush it off as "crybaby stuff".

[@scottcoley1906]

​@@naturalpro2003#facts

[@CutbaitOnly]

Smells like a BEEEEETTTTTAAAAAA

[@bucket0rocks]

Accurate. Almost 10 years since… alone is peace. And peace is cheap.

[@souljarain17]

Same here i’m 38 and people always think I'm in my early 20’s! So yeah peace of mind and money in the pocket.💪🏼

[@pillboxgaming4144]

More like peace is priceless.

[@kaninerultralord8817]

This sums up 4 people I've been with. I'm thoroughly convinced no one is fuckin worth it anymore. My parent's healthy relationship is a unicorn in this age.

[@synicyst9925]

They are not. Are you sure it was healthy or was you dad really good at taking the blows?

[@adamrouse16]

You can get pretty far by simply reflecting on why you ended up choosing 4. Down that path is healing and clarity if you’d prefer it.

[@tpd1864blake]

Time to turn gay

[@laughteraddict1003]

These people above just proved your point

[@KeweenawPatriot]

Yep. Ive been divorced for 2 years after a 15y marriage. This is the longest I've been single ever. And I'm so much happier. The last time i dated was before smart phones and social media. Women these days are out of their minds with entitlement.

[@vanguardraidcommand2285]

That's rough. As someone who started dating about 10-12 years ago (I am 30 right now), I will tell you that it has felt impossible. I've never even managed to get a relationship to last a mere 2 years. Which is nice because at least I'm not wasting 10 years with a woman to find out it's a mess. But it's been so painfully lonely. If I were to accumulate ALL the time I've been in a relationship with every gf combined, it would barely total 4 years of my life... at 30 years old. I'm at the point where I don't think I'll ever find a woman that suits me, as none have ever even come close.

[@imranniazi3983]

@@vanguardraidcommand2285don’t say something that is not true… there are plenty of feminine women out there in the world that will make you forget the problems you have today

[@JustMe-fw4cq]

​@@vanguardraidcommand2285ouch 🤕.

[@10HERBERT]

I was married for 15 years. Been divorced for 20 now never even looked for another woman. best years ever.

[@yummiermussel5331]

​@vanguardraidcommand2285 Women in the US are indoctrinated into being feminists or something close to it. Our culture has brought alot of rot to our women. Unfortunately, looking elsewhere may be our best bet. In many countries women are feminine and respect and appreciate their men. It's part of their culture. Get your passport brother, the grass IS greener on the other side.

[@siayanguy]

This is me. It's scary how accurate this is

[@myislander]

Me too. It’s like Emily has watched the last 10 years of my life…

[@Nova24689]

Same she would stock who I would follow she yelled at me because I was talking to a girl and I was like ok your mad because I'm talking to a girl also she tried to control me so I kindly told her to go away

[@MarkGesswein]

I was about to post the exact same response. This describes my previous relationship to a T. My ex DESTROYED me financially, and did a pretty good job of fucking me up emotionally. She used my children against me, and was NEVER happy with anything I did. She was never happy PERIOD. So glad I finally got away from that toxicity and met the RIGHT woman.

[@Nova24689]

@@MarkGesswein she also turned my friends against me and made me look like the villain now her family wants to beat me up and yeah I'm the villain

[@midnight347]

This is me too and thousands upon thousands of others. It's an epidemic.

[@marinosipod]

This woman you just described is why I walked away from my wife of 24 years and a friendship of 36 years. I stayed until both of my kids were 18 and then walked out without shedding a tear and with an unbelievable feeling of relief that the nightmare has finally ended. I stayed because my children were more important to me than anything else. There need a father far out ways my need for happiness for a few years.

[@Brecconable]

Gutted man, what caused it to go sideways?

[@EternalRecursion]

marinosipod ... same here.

[@tedmccarron]

"Their" need for a father...

[@randallulrich]

@@tedmccarron: and “outweighs”

[@ksetterman9788]

Yep! 100% I still fight feeling like I'm a creep just for reaching out to a single woman. Now, I'm 50 and STILL not sure about trusting another woman. ...Love your content. Thanks Emily.

[@mikerfromvirginia2936]

Greatest advice for men when dealing with women. "Everything you do and say WILL always be used against you" tread lightly.

[@pocasanchez]

I have never used my husband's words against him...19 years and counting🤔

[@mikerfromvirginia2936]

@@pocasanchez 1 out of 150 million

[@pocasanchez]

@mikerfromvirginia2936 interesting. I do typically find out that I'm a man when it comes to most of these "men vs women" videos lol what are some things that could be used against a man? I seriously can't think of 1 thing my husband has ever said that I could possibly "use against" him later.

[@Guardian582]

@@pocasanchez i guarantee you have, perhaps something small, but you have

[@pocasanchez]

@Guardian582 can you please provide even 1 example? A few would be even better bc I truly can't think of a single thing I've ever held against him. The things we talk about couldn't possibly be used against either of us by the other. We dont argue ever, and just talk about things like food, future plans, the weather, kids, history, conspiracies, business, music, plants, home improvements, and a few shows/pods/people. We're both eternally baffled by couples who are always having conflicts and issues bc its just not something we do or understand, but it sounds terrible! Lol We're both quite introverted, quiet homebodies so of the few words exchanged each day, the worst ones might be "can you pass the ketchup, please?"😅 "I love you" is probably 20% of what we've ever said to each other, and the rest is just normal conversation🤷‍♀️

[@user-qu2pn1lh1g]

My ex wanted communication, when I opened up about my worries and issues it changed her. Apparently once you do open, you look weak. Can't win at all.

[@barneyboy2008]

Yip, never do this.

[@matstermind]

And if you tell her about your concerns her response is "that sounds like a you problem"

[@shieldwolf65]

Yeppers, never show vulnerability or tell weaknesses to them. Maybe 20% are self aware enough to cope or support you. The rest lose respect & invariably use it to win a fight to dominate you. It's down from there when they've betrayed you like that.

[@jamesredman1263]

​@@shieldwolf65- I would put it at 10%, but yeah.

[@phill6859]

​@@shieldwolf65It depends on your end goal. if you just want a relationship then don't be vulnerable. If you want the right relationship then do

[@jovayutube]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤! Now, I can see why some women on FB call her toxic. She tells the HARD TRUTH & for those women, the HARD TRUTH is TOXIC!

[@HaroldAlexis-bb8sd]

Because They're so demonic & on top of being toxic they're wrong doers. Breaking a lot of hearts & caused this chaos in their former relationships who is to blame ? Not you , not me, & not Emily. We know the difference they don't. Emily does that's what makes her a true lady, those losers on FB that dislike her for her honesty are nothing but Rubbish !

[@brianhagge3225]

Thank you for this!! I feel like I just got done telling you about my 20 year marriage and then you summed it up in 30 seconds. I had to share this with my family so they would understand me now! I don’t see myself ever being in a relationship again. And your videos are just showing me that it’s probably best. The sweet, nice, compassionate, communicative and family focused guy isn’t actually wanted anymore. Just money and good looks.

[@celesteallred4683]

Right on! This describes perfectly my husband's first marriage. When I married him, he was so used to being punished and manipulated, constantly. I have watched him heal, throughout our 12 years of marriage. He has gone from being a good man to a great man. I want to thank you for the message you are putting. I love your content. Keep up the good work.

[@ggates2500]

Well done, you 🍻

[@werejustgaming]

You're lucky he chose you, I look around and all I see is trash. I have to see Laws destroy women's lives for the shit they do to men. Lie about paternity, false grape etc.

[@JimPippin-wc7fq]

You need to thank his ex for making him such a good man. And give yourself a big pat on the back for being the kind of person to help him to be able to grow from a good man to a great husband. Yes, you deserve some credit for this as well.

[@warrior.4895]

Man, her voice 🤦

[@beatnik6806]

​​​​​@@JimPippin-wc7fqThat is f'd up. His ex didn't make him a good man. She abused him. He was always a good man and ready for a good woman. Because women like his ex don't make good men, only broken men. I'm just glad he is healed. And yeah, I agree his wife deserves credit for this to allow and help him heal

[@shannonfournier6967]

5 years gone from this exact reason, thank you Emily.

[@patrickr9642]

I know what you mean...7yrs wasted ☠️

[@jasonglessner1932]

6 for me!

[@alexandrosalexandris3862]

8 years ...

[@bills5009]

Over 20 for me. Slow learner I guess.

[@jasonglessner1932]

@bills5009 ouch dude. I'm sorry!

[@Heal_Hound]

Thank you for perfectly explaining the relationship I HAD (past tense) with my adopted younger sister. All the bird-ends of dating, none of the "fun."

[@j.l.w9563]

Yes, I have a half-sister thing. Over time, there will be consequences for her, but right now, she is 21 and "travelling."

[@gilbertsmith2826]

Emily thank you for your video telling the truth to women why men are single.

[@dangermoosey5225]

Thank you! Speaking the absolute truth! I feel this 100%

[@daveschrade4477]

exactly

[@jimdee5003]

Happened to me the same way, the drink in my face was the proverbial straw

[@linguisticman]

​@jimdee5003 You too? I had a glass of orange juice thrown in my face. And...dealing with a boss belittling me at work, then coming home for round two was just not worth it. So I did the swan song.

[@karlking9871]

My EX-gf had me trapped in a room with her in the doorway and there she was belittling me and doing everything she could to tear me down. I felt myself getting upset and tried to leave to go take a walk to cool my head and she wouldn't let me pass then dumped her lemonade she was drinking on my head. I ended up pushing her out of the way (with a bit too much force I'm sorry to say) and that was the argument that ended it all. Do I feel terrible for harming her? yes of course, that was never my intention, BUT she was the one that pushed it to that outcome so I'm not 100% to blame. There are a ton of toxic women out there, you just need to stop catering to them and put them in their place if they cross the line.

[@donaldmackerer9032]

And then she wonders why you ghosted her when you finally realized any communication with her wasn't worth the time and effort anymore.

[@robbase5235]

My ex told me that i was horrible at communication while being upset that I couldn't read her mind when she was upset with me.

[@Leocifre]

mine too....

[@zizhuohe3504]

Mine too. She would say something like "Your horrible social skills" bla bla bla. Ok I guess I'm the problem and I will leave.

[@jasonglessner1932]

Every woman is like that it seems

[@thevoid2117]

Damn, so true. Mind reading is not a super power we have.

[@532bluepeter1]

A horrible case of projection and devoid of self awareness.

[@FutureFolk1985]

Preach!! This is spot on, literally why I am single right now and plan to be for a while

[@TheWolfNight420]

Stop following me around. I swear you’re talking about all my past relationships. 🤣😭🤣😭

[@EZLO21]

Ladies reading this, Mind Reading isn't Communication. Communication is telling people what is or isn't wrong by using your words. #TheEnd.

[@shieldwolf65]

It's also not being immediately defensive when he tries to raise an issue with you. The habit of instant denial, projection, whataboutism & straight into attack mode BC you couldn't possibly do wrong shuts down communication really REALLY fast. If he stops fussing over you with the little things that shows care & love ask yourself *"What did I do what didn't I do to create this unloving atmosphere?"* Chances are you've been selfishly sabotaging your relationship with lack of reciprocation. He's not getting the signals back that you love him. . Refusing to acknowledge he might have issues with you when sure as hell you're not shy about raising your issues with him just cause him to shut down. Everytime you do it you ruin a chance to improve yourself, you betray trust that he can talk to you without a fight & you ruin any chance he'll change & adapt his behaviours for you when he knows you'll refuse to reciprocate. Good relationships are hard to find & need nurturing to survive. Every damn day.

[@thecanary4238]

@@shieldwolf65thank you for your comment. I have one question: How do you show respect for your partner?

[@shieldwolf65]

@@thecanary4238 In every way I can, thru trust, the small loving things, respecting her needs, she lets me know about, the same way she does for me. When you're both giving freely of these thing's towards, well the Centre is the best way I can describe it. It's to the other person but it's essentially an investment into the team/partnership as a whole. That sometimes has to come first before kids etc BC if that breaks down the kids will be irrevocably hurt. As the stewardess says, fit your own oxygen mask first before dealing with the kids. In a way what you give of yourself to your partner is selfish bc it's emotionally investing in something that benefits you. The investment, if with the right person, generally comes back Sevenfold. Respect, Communication & Trust - the Trinity. I'm not someone who thinks women should submit, it's BS, I wouldn't want to, what sensible woman would. But the moment a woman can't respect her man, game over. But the Femiñ🎉ists created a climate where they try & dominate men, instantly shooting themselves in the foot bc if you can dominate your man you cannot respect him. Make sense. Self sabotage. My beloved started a habit of writing just one thing down that was an issue & why & how she felt about it. She'd give it to me & said nothing whilst I chewed it over & learnt to "Write" the response back. It clarified my thoughts. That was the important part actually. I started doing it with her, I found I had to give at least a week before her strong natural sense of justice would overcome her initial resistance. She was a stubbornass who was nobodies doormat. Jackie would sometimes write back or just adjust behaviour, or actions to suit & it didn't need to be discussed. One such note was her discussing our relationship with her friends at work. Some have bad advice & I'm very triggered by my private relatioñship being messed with by others from a bad past experience. It's hard boundary for me. Once Jack realised how big an issue it was, She stopped it. I would happily talk to a counsellor about issues, but I can't fight ghost's giving bad advice. I guess my final observation is don't expect your SO to make you happy, it a mirage & impossible task. Your SO Creates the protective Castle. It's a wife's task to turn It into a home, which guys aren't great at. It's up to the wife to *Create* her own happiness in that situation. It's you & him against a damned hostile & cold World sometimes. It has to be the safe refuge for the family. Hope that helps. 😎🇦🇺

[@MV-wb2cz]

​@@thecanary4238 by truly treating them as your equal

[@notrelatedtobacon1282]

​@@MV-wb2czthats not the right answer, its an emotional "feel good" answer The right answer is "treat them as youre polar opposite, the strength that covers for your weaknesses and the weaknesses that you cover with your own strengths" Theres no "true equal" as humans are instinctively going to develop a hierarchy ,even if its a slight one Being social creatures means that everyone is either a leader or follower A vangaurd and rear support 2 roles,functions, expertises,etc

[@kristenskousen1317]

The guy I'm with now -- when we started going out, he was taking things slow and careful. Turns out only about three months before we met, he broke up with a girlfriend whose relationship with him SHATTERED everything he believed about women, people, and the world. He realized that her lack of communication and disrespect for him wasn't an exception, it was more the norm. But when he saw that I respected him and was upfront with him, he is gradually letting his walls down. He's in a much better place now and has a much better mindset than he would have if he had continued in that state after his breakup.

[@RetroMaticGamer]

You had BETTER never betray him. ALL women have a line where they'll use a man's deepest secret feelings against him, or will leave him for someone better or richer or more useful to her - we'll see where yours is. Say whatever you want here, but until you die with that man by your side knowing you never cheated, traded up, or threw his feelings or his past in his face during an argument, you will need to prove yourself every day - to him and to you. Let's see if you REALLY have what it takes to deserve him - after all, men are expected to put up with WAY MORE than YOU ever will.

[@jonthomson9262]

Women check out of individual relationships far sooner than men do..........men check of the idea of relationships entirely far sooner than women do. We don't sign up to keep getting damaged time after time like women do.

[@user-mh7di9yp7v]

I am in the same position right now as your bf. I am glad he found you, gives me hope 😊

[@JACCO20082012]

Have fun being the rebound.

[@mantislazuli]

​@@JACCO20082012tbh these relationships can go well when both people have a healthy mindset.

[@brandonkeonakhone6446]

Speaking real facts!!! Someone who truly understands us real men!

[@jeffreyeck7591]

I wish more women would watch this lady, She tells it how it is !!! I wish there were more women like her around! 😮🎉😮❤ !

[@war13death]

He's single because he's smart enough to realize the juice is not worth the squeeze.

[@wot2261]

Lemon got so moldy not even the bear would touch it

[@user-ck4zg6qo4q]

Yup. 😂 uncanny! Dead on. Wasn’t like that at the start. Her ‘friends’ convinced her that was the case. But it’s ok. She and her friends are all divorced and collect alimony, but ‘don’t need a man’, ‘men are useless’, and ‘men are not to be trusted’ - they convinced her to be like them. And now I’m free 😂😂😂

[@applejuice5272]

Birds of a feather flock together. Or they hated seeing her success and wanted to bring her down to their level.

[@shieldwolf65]

The girl team advisors that scrutinise your relatioñship every time she goes to them with an insecurity? When they go for advice it's always dubbed Toxic Masculinity or gaslighting or narcissism or whatever bull buzzwords of the day they can use to sabotage your relationship. I learnt that a couple of times. My boundaries are no talking out of school about our relationship. It's a betrayal I can't forgive. Issues can be sorted with a relationship counsellor or not at all, if they're that serious. Never again, bc it's like fighting ghosts when they start whispering in her ear. You've got no defences against the GF saboteurs.

[@6stringgunner511]

WOW!!! YOU NAILED THIS ONE 10/10!!!! THANK YOU!!!! YOU CAN HELP THE NEXT GENERATIONS OF MEN!!!! I'M 57 & IT'S OVER FOR ME. BUT, IM HAPPY TO SEE HOPE OUT THERE! & I THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!

[@zzzz-sf5lr]

That's right that's why we have given up! Now we are happy alone 😊

[@TheDullMansClub]

My ex treated me like this and sure i've met other women since, but the moment I see a lack of communication or mind games, red flags start waving and im no longer interested. This isn't a man v women thing either, i just feel its no way to treat another human being regardless of chemistry or not

[@alanknotts5975]

Amen! Darlin', thank you for helping so many women see that so many men aren't the villains we are made out to be.

[@Godfailedyoustophumpinghisleg]

it's just unfortunate how badly the exceptional women prove the rule of average women being horrid

[@keeperlit.leterrip7722]

Problem is I bet no women watch this. It's probably all us men

[@jovitamorrison5360]

​@@keeperlit.leterrip7722I listen to the few young ladies who are finally speaking about these things. I have brothers and sons and have recognized this misbehavior for a long time. It makes all females seem horrible. Men Matter!

[@aaronbullock3620]

Facts. Thank you. This was me too many times and I learned the hard way it's better to be single in this day and age than be with women. I've been on my own for 6 years now and love it.

[@ericshackelford872]

She 100% correct...I've seen this happen to great guys and they finally had enough and gave up.

[@extremelylargepublishing5876]

This is quite possibly the most accurate statement about men that I have ever heard. Good job.

[@Oops_ImeantThat]

Were you taking notes of my life for the past 15 years? That was literally spot on😢

[@namrepuss]

apparently you are not alone. This shall pass too remember!

[@josephjucal1778]

I definitely agree, all my efforts and commitment to make my previous relationship working were never reciprocated

[@bustercaps]

She’s 100 percent right on this, it’s sad that someone I don’t know, speaking into a mirror made me feel more validated in my emotions than someone I gave 10 years of my life to… maybe it was better in the beginning but I don’t remember anymore.

[@starchecker8631]

this is a deep pain. the part about everything i did not being good enough was what hurt the most. I wanted to go on and make changes, improve my life and take the next step with her, but she was far too anxiety prone, crippled by it, to want to take that leap of faith with me. I understood and let her do things at "her" pace, supported her through 7 long years of her efforts in college and university, fought, cried and toiled with her to help her succeed. And for what? I'm back where I started, so yeah, I "am" single for that reason, I am "losing" my motivation to pursue women these days, because so many of them have done "nothing" but hurt me, betray me, walk away from me after I have been nothing but loyal and supportive!

[@notrelatedtobacon1282]

I feel you. I had a very similar situation except this was a platonic friendship and we never had a desure to date But anyways, she was very self negative and had extreme repressed self hate due to an event in her life and her mothers general apathy and lack of investment, which caused her to seek that sense of "love" in other ways..that brought her even more self loathing We were best friends for several years and i was told recently that everyone in the friend group assumed we were dating But i slowly watched her go from trying to better her self and seek better path for herself, wanting genuine advice and hard truth to fix her issues.... And she started slowly becoming more self critical and paranoid, she relapsed into habits that she hated but didnt even bother to stop Eventually she destroyed our friendship and became convinced that i was trying to control her and that the people in her life that cared about her were at fault I just had to accept it and let it go, ive no idea if she has or will turn around or better herself, but when someone no longer wants to better themselves theres nothing anyone but them can do about it

[@TheAdventuresOfMrAndMrsAmazing]

I know a guy like this…I married him and appreciate all that he does. Someone noticed to the point of them saying “He even carries himself differently now” it’s amazing what love, respect and appreciation can do for a guy after they’ve been treated the way she describes.

[@VaibhavPuranik007]

I'm astonished at how accurate this is. Although it didn't last very long and I stopped giving in within a month and walked away, it still impacted me for a long time. I wonder how horrible it must be for those men who stayed for years and even decades.

[@Arden7one]

Your ability to articulate with such accuracy another man's perspective is criminally dangerous. 😅 Much love for speaking to and on behalf of some of us who are still afraid more of our success rather than the failure we're so used to, even some of us are unbeknownst to ourselves in love with. Thank you! Ineffably appreciate you 🙏❤️🤗

[@932bandit]

Unconditional love for a man is his mother and dog.

[@oldtymer9106]

And God.

[@user-gm8xb4zk2g]

Let's just say God and dog. It's spelled one way and back. They're the only ones that can be generalized like that.

[@Brecconable]

​@@user-gm8xb4zk2gamen to that

[@user-yw3bj3xi7k]

Yes I hear you. Thank you. I’m going through a divorce right now because of her negligence. And she blamed me for her cheating on me.

[@MartinCanada]

Don't fall for her mind-games. Stay strong. Cheers.

[@user-yw3bj3xi7k]

@@MartinCanada This divorce has been going on for a year and a half It feels like she is trying to drain my account Becouse she knows I’m on SSID and can’t really afford it. It’s extremely hard to complete with a pharmacist and her money that she makes. Just keeps on draining my account. And I’m left with nothing every month. It’s extremely hard to even buy food. And gas to go to my doctor appointment. It was supposed to end in June. Now I got news that it’s supposed to end this upcoming winter.

[@VonRibbitt]

​@@user-yw3bj3xi7kbrother, you dont know me and i dont know you, but i sincerly hope you come out better on the other end. The last thing women cant take from us us our freedom. All the best wishes to you from Perú.

[@HaroldAlexis-bb8sd]

Emily you just described my late mother she was exactly what you described. I'm single anyway just because there's nothing but rejection where I reside anyway & It equals the same thing I have done for a total stranger. Emily I wish sometimes there were more people like you out there . Prior I went through hell I was a good son & I'm sure I would have been a good lover to someone to say my mother she was a total obnoxious loser that broke my spirit & heart , I was a good son , I was living a big lie afterall growing up. It also affected me to find a girlfriend or a soulmate. I don't blame mostly half of a lot males remaining single going through just as bad , to describe myself today peace of mind it's so so I live alone now unhappily single & annoyed what I've experienced in both directions . With my many handy skills I have always been. I please myself now best way fit. Emily you are a gem. I Thank you. 💙

[@tile-maker4962]

This almost made me cry... communication, appreciation, all I could do to make her happy. She thought I was a loser because she felt she was too ugly. Peace too all of the men out there in shambles.

[@GJG2010]

Absolutely! 💯 At the end of the relationship I was so exhausted from trying to please her. Ladies, if you meet a man like this please be patient because he will be guarded and it will take some time to gain his trust, but it will be worth it!

[@tomstarzyk5025]

Thank you (waited 14 years...thought I found a kind woman....was wrong). Needed this today (thank you)

[@theblackheart5727]

Emily & the Dadvocate for the win. Plus they’re both smokin’. 🔥

[@seandykes5157]

Couldn't agree more. Ive been happily single for about 5 years now. Honestly at this point the thought of getting in another relationship makes my skin crawl

[@Wyomingchief]

You literally described my marriage word for word. The only thing you left off is at some point she got bored towards the end had an affair and then decided to get a divorce. During the divorce she gave me the kids because she wasn't sure if she wanted to be a mom. After four kids it's a little late but I let her have it her way and thankfully the kids are fairly well adjusted, though they don't and probably never will have a relationship with their mother.😢 Man people still wonder why I have no interest in dating. Yeah it kind of sucks being alone and I would like to have somebody in my life but it's just not worth it

[@shieldwolf65]

You got lucky, the alternative with div0r¢e when you have 4 kids is you lose most of everything. As hard as it is, yes I've 4 kids & 2 Stepkids, it's a blessing she's not creating havoc, manipulating the kids, or withholding them. As well Child Supports a bastard with 4. The kids generally do better with Dad anyway.

[@antriggs4190]

Yep, she refused to discuss the issues with me and ran away because of fears and anxiety coming from outside sources that we could have tackled together.

[@shieldwolf65]

The girl team advisors that scrutinise your relatioñship every time she goes to them with an insecurity? When they go for advice it's always dubbed Toxic Masculinity or gaslighting or narcissism or whatever bull buzzwords of the day they can use to sabotage your relationship. I learnt that a couple of times. My boundaries are no talking out of school about our relationship. It's a betrayal I can't forgive. Issues can be sorted with a relationship counsellor or not at all, if they're that serious. Never again, bc it's like fighting ghosts when they start whispering in her ear. You've got no defences against the GF saboteurs.

[@GmanGSW]

Emily, you are a gifted gal. You really know men's issues and speak such truth. Much appreciated! Today's women are, generally-not all, wanting to have the man do everything, with no appreciation. "Open up," you just brought about your demise. Tread very lightly, guys!

[@sonic6714]

He gave his all! That's why he is either a player or single. I will say being single is so addicting. I don't have to worry about no one. Do my own things, enjoy my own life. If any girl wants me they are gonna have to prove being with them is better than me being alone. Good luck

[@BryJovi17]

Well, I don't have an ex, but I flat out refuse to enter into any relationship that isn't approximately equally reciprocal. I see SO many examples of where one person is giving more than the other, bending over backwards almost, just to keep whatever little there is there afloat.

[@pocasanchez]

Thank you for saying "person" bc its definitely not always the men. I wish there were more balanced channels but it's always all M hating or all W hating. I think Peterson is pretty good at being able to discuss both sides, but he's hardly accessible to anyone under 25ish due to his vocabulary alone. Side note, it's ALWAYS divorcees, single or newly married people making this kind of "relationship" content. This woman is divorced, unmarried and has multiple baby daddies. So I guess they are single due to her behaving the way she just described?

[@user-yp9fb1jb6m]

You can't make others happy. It's up to them.

[@screamoguy100]

He's single because his parents utterly failed him, especially his mother.

[@dirty8509]

You hit it dead that’s why I’m single and staying single. And being that I live with my baby momma and her fiancé and our son most women can’t deal with that but their my best friends so I don’t care what some women thinks or says

[@jacobrobinson6603]

You just described how I am perfectly👌. Good to know there's atleast a few women out there who understand men👏

[@kellyhiggins1691]

How Truly sad. Gadz! Women act like they are the only one who matters. Grow up! If you have a Loving and supportive significant other,treat them good, make him happy, and the King of your heart and your life.

[@denniss618]

That very thing ended my marriage. Not sure if she ever changed, I haven't heard from her for nearly 20 years.

[@LTtvCombatSports]

More than likely she hasn’t any women who doesn’t know how to communicate well or at least decent enough to maintain stability in a relationship will never learn

[@denniss618]

@@LTtvCombatSports I don't know. It took awhile but now I am glad she left.

[@shieldwolf65]

​@@denniss618 It's getting more common that men & women don't have positive relationship skill. The prevalence of Div0r¢e & single motherhood means many kids grow up without seeing a positive parental relatioñship, which is where most kids learn the basics & copy Thier relatioñship style or reject it as a failed example. The fatherless issue is bigger than folks realise. Relatioñships are destined to fail at greater rates, BC no one knows how to be a wife or husband.

[@denniss618]

@@shieldwolf65 I understand and mostly agree. My youngest was 18 when she left luckily. Stats show that most divorce cases are brought by the wife, mine was.

[@shieldwolf65]

@@denniss618 Yeah @80% are initiated by the wife. Guys really don't like divorce, tho some deserve it, many don't. Better boundaries & relatioñship skills from the beginning would certainly help.

[@rudygarza1364]

This woman has a truly amazing understanding of man. ❤. She must be a Savant to read Mens mind!!!

[@VapingLoser16]

This hits my heart hard. Someone knows how it really went, and changing myself just led to depression.

[@SnerMerNer]

18 years single. I was broken at 18 years old and have been damaged ever since. This video is accurate. Never gonna trust or completely give myself to anyone ever again.

[@TheDullMansClub]

Dont ever let one person hold you back, i've always had the mindset to let everyone in, if they mess, shut them off. BTW i was mentally & physically abused by my ex for years, but if I like someone, then I make sure they know and its down to them after that, if they treat me right, then I will happily let it grow, if not, then its im out

[@69erthx1138]

Find a person that you can carry on a real heart to heart conversation with into old age. Our bodies are just another existential possession, as are the worldly goods. These ladies exist, but rare diamonds do as well.

[@RonnieMcMillan-nm3wc]

Amen I gave up everything for somebody just to lie to me and talk about me to everybody

[@gatorssbm]

This is also true for upbringings, it just damages a ton for relationships in general. Finding about attachment theory was the best thing thats ever happened to me.

[@ZZZardoz762]

She hit the nail RIGHT on the head! This last one has turned me all the off from even the thought of entering into a relationship ever again.

[@bigjon9596]

She just described my 9 year marriage perfectly!!!!

[@GreymanWalking]

Truth, also it seems that any woman now seems to look down on a guy who is living on his veterans disability because he is now unable to work.

[@KRYMauL]

He's making $1 - $4k a month, how is that something to scoff at.

[@user-cj4by5mb5z]

Some/Not any

[@GreymanWalking]

@@user-cj4by5mb5z in my experience it's been any, not some.

[@50KaliberBMG]

💯 true I was never so badly mentally abused except by my ex wife, so yeah I wish I can get those years back..which’s why I’m single! Thank you maybe there’s hope in some women today yet

[@combatbrony6705]

This was the best thing to hear right now really needed it my ex just walked out of our daughters life yesterday so thank you for this video worst part is the guy she left us for use to be a family friend and our daughter is special needs

[@josefschiltz2192]

I actually had that same problem with my mother, from the day my father died when I was seven right up until I stopped being able to care for her when I was 55. At 62, I still have nightmares and PTSD from looking out for her 24/7 when she had dementia and it heightened all her worst characteristics.

[@jeffmillett5691]

You described my 12 year marriage in just a few seconds. I filed for divorce because I would have lost respect for myself had I allowed the behavior to continue against me. I've remained single for many years and have long since regained my peace. Thank you for calling out women for their despicable behavior.

[@jayc9461]

Holy shit she hit the nail on the head! Every single word. Nicely done 👍

[@andrewsnarr6474]

I can't believe how perfectly you hit the nail right on the head.

[@ankousama5840]

Thank you so much for saying those kind of truth. I am nearly crying because feeling understood for once. Cheers from France dear.

[@renefehse910]

Damn... my marriage summarized... so glad its over

[@rikellstaligan5256]

This short echoes deep. Very relatable These points reflect my own experiences and the sensations I endured with some past relationships. It sucks for anyone to go through these types of hardships but I take comfort knowing that I'm not alone 🙂🤗

[@williamjackson9788]

This women is a gem!

[@andrewosso2943]

Exact and total 100% truth. I am so happy being alone. After 28 years of total and absolute agape love to her she got rid of me. I now have peace. No more fighting. No games. I can finally take care of me.

[@lancefurcinite6518]

Thank you. It's important for people to realize that because someone is single doesn't mean there is something wrong with them.

[@jodawa2504]

Your statement would be true if men & women were truly the same, but the reality is men & women are different from each other in almost every way. Being a single man is a great thing, though women perceive men by themselves as weirdos or dangerous threats, which is why women depend on social proof(other people, especially women, being around & interacting with that man), moreso with mating such as preselection. Being a single woman is a bad thing in the eyes of other women because women are more social(people-oriented) than men are. Singlehood for women will always make a woman feel bad because social interactions give them attention & validation, which is emotional support, that they crave. Men can interact with other men or be alone much longer than women can because men share similar life experiences.

[@southerndad68]

Amen, the truest story ever told.

[@Ninja_McMuffin]

That hit pretty deep. Absolutely truth speak.

[@tonylee0612]

I was single for 9 years after my divorce for exactly this reason, then I met a woman who loved me for who I am and not who she wanted me to be. I will admit it took me awhile to stop waiting for the other foot to drop, but after I realized that it never would drop, I married her, and we have been married for 5 wonderful years. What I want to know is where you get your insights from because 99% of them are spot on!

[@whitechicacooks5780]

This sounds like what my guy has been thru! I hope & pray he never feels like that with me! ❤

[@martysykes3221]

That will be up to you.

[@ggates2500]

Good on ya for seeing it ))

[@shieldwolf65]

Just don't assume if he brings up something he's upset about, that it's an attack. It's a way of not messing up a relationship thru communication. Without communication it dies a whimpering death. Don't block that by being defeñsive. He'll have had plenty of that.

[@whitechicacooks5780]

@shieldwolf65 Yes, we both have some severe past traumas, so it's easy to trigger each other. But it's also easier to come back to reality & appreciate each other's hurts. It's hard, but I'm still so thankful for him! ❤️

[@PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp]

@@whitechicacooks5780 what will you do if you run into a Chad and he likes you?

[@jazdeanutube]

True. And so much worse if shared in the present tense and not single.

[@davevenables3534]

Truth. No matter how hard I tried to feed that dehydrated snake, the always wanted more….till I cut off the supply. And then I was discarded, with a smear campaign.

[@davidsmith1009]

So many times I think you are speaking directly about me. This is one of those times. Thank you.

[@liamstancombe7485]

This is 100% true and if anyone is still in that sort of a relationship and sees this get out now there’s no changing her not even a little bit

[@OmarHylton]

Yes! She’s spot on, I experienced that.

[@aaronjensen5503]

Amen! Preach the truth, darling!

[@brianhalfhill7977]

Exactly. Well said. I hope there are women listening to you.

[@Elonmuskateer]

Glad to have you back! Keep informing men of these toxic and narcissistic woman Emily

[@jesterking4849]

Amen! This hits every note. Thank you. Divorce sucks, and moving on will be even harder.

[@michaeltorluemke3322]

It surprising how far a simple, honest, genuine Thank You will go in keeping a relationship solid and a lot happier. Everyone needs to be wanted, appreciated, and needed.

[@dodesign1228]

💯 accurate! Didn't realize it until I had a week away from the one sided conversations and lies. My stress level almost disappeared, I didn't dread hearing a text again and that's when I knew.

[@dragshotking7776]

Exactly what I went thru.

[@derekmiller4086]

Wow this video pretty much just described the worst relationship I ever had, I was dumb and it took me awhile to figure it out but when I did I got the hell out of there…but because of that relationship I stayed single for years and I even had opportunities to date people but I just had no interest because I have it in my head that it’s not worth the stress anymore!

[@adamnicholson206]

That is the straight up facts and I know I’m not the only guy that went through it and it sucks that as men we can’t talk about it with out getting bashed we need to stick together brothers and no matter what someone tells you you’re always enough

[@user-fg9zf4id1o]

Your best post. When you encounter this as a man and you endure all kinds of sideways bs, your eyes get opened to it. Once yoy see it it cannot be unseen.

[@bobbywilson9468]

FACTS ON FACTS ON FACTS 💪🏽💯!!! Been there done that and Never Will Again.

[@robertlasher7461]

I know EXACTLY what this guy went through because I've had a number of girlfriends who've done the same thing to me and no matter how much I bent over backwards it was never enough and never appreciated. But now I can see any woman like my past ingrates a mile away and avoid them like the plague no matter how good they look. I now call an ungrateful woman who treats me like that "Plastic Drink Boxes" because they demand you to give alot for and are way too expensive but never give much,if any in return to satisfy my thirst, and if you're strong enough to wait for a much better bottle of the same drink then they're much easier to pass up or throw away in the garbage where they belong ! Oh and the "Box" part is obvious !

[@AcesHigh698]

Oh, God, I cried at this. I didn't think I needed to hear this. 😥