This Is Why Serena Really Misses Kordell | Fearful Avoidant Series | Love Island Usa S6

[@ayanblaze9549]

Serena has also been cheated on multiple times in previous relationships so it’s understandable why she was hesitant to go forward with a guy who was so seemingly patient and understanding. She’s been self aware enough to recognise when she pushed him away etc so that’s why I personally don’t think she was “playing” him. Always enjoy hearing your perspective on these topics tho. Learning a lot!

[@Rachelle-cl6mn]

She should probably not come on love island if she hasn’t healed from that honestly bc she played herself

[@ayanblaze9549]

@@Rachelle-cl6mn it’s her experience to have, she has every right to try and find a new connection on the show. She’s not the only one on there with past trauma

[@Rachelle-cl6mn]

@@ayanblaze9549 i get it but what I’m saying is if you’re gonna be so closed off bc of something like that then love island probably won’t do anything but make that worse. Just bc she has those fears and feelings doesn’t mean kordell has to continue to be patient and all about her. She wanted to keep things open and he’s doing that. She should’ve been more vulnerable but I think it should be a learning lesson.

[@dm4254]

She was quick to run to the new islanders that came in, she didn't like Kordell at first, but she knows there's no other guys for her, and the public favors Kordell.

[@sarahoop5859]

I caught on quit bc I saw myself in Serena cause kordell is a good man and they obviously connected. Needing space is how u cope when things are just too good .

[@mrscreoledavis205]

Love Island USA is changing the game!! UK take notes!!

[@LittleBlackBook91]

Best show

[@samxdtv]

@@LittleBlackBook91So when are you going to do Love Island UK especially this week’s episodes.

[@estherscotlenzey2370]

Blessings just my opinion I believe Serena was protecting herself not to fall for Cordell. I believe she fell hard for him and she was not planning on it. I'm older now but when your hand in a man face. That's love

[@lelele3]

Thanks for doing this. Serena frustrates me mostly because I see myself in her.

[@ME-tb8zv]

Your review was SPOT ON! I have really enjoyed your videos during this LI season. You now have a new subscriber. Keep up the good work 🙌🏾

[@LittleBlackBook91]

By grace thank you

[@DarkroomMedia007]

People are constantly skipping over looking into people's childhood and considering that they have childhood PTSD which shows up in their adult relationships. Forget zodiac and all of that mess, I look at people's personality and their background to determine how nutty or wonderful they're going to be it matters. ❤

[@MsChantae]

💯❤

[@pamelalord2436]

I love your view on this. Thank you I’ll be watching for more

[@Ursweetplace]

Wow! I've never heard a review quite like this before. You really broke it down to the T. Excellent review🔥.

[@LittleBlackBook91]

I appreciate that!

[@mrscreoledavis205]

I also feel Serena realized no other guy was checking for her!

[@hollywont9447]

This.

[@brooklynmedina7676]

Not true.

[@themoonbleu627]

Well duh she’s def after the money at the end so she needs to play them game … none of those guys are a major prize so who cares if they aren’t checking for her not the end of the world .

[@rahlee22]

Exactly

[@gabriellero7358]

Love this analysis of what’s happening with Serena in the villa also why do I feel so seen how does a fearful avoidant heal and move forward

[@jelemil]

Personal development school YT channel is a good place to start

[@sherrylek]

She pulled away but constantly thanked him for not giving up. Kordell did what needed to be done for her to feel safe.

[@LittleBlackBook91]

He did but that’s a risk. Today the risk worked out

[@simonstuart2003]

Great analysis. Serena can't put her issues on Kordell because she was wronged in the past. You have to give him a chance or move on and get help with your issues.

[@QueenKeys_]

You're break down of Serena has made me realize I'm so similar to her... And likely why I'm so defensive of her. 😢

[@sarahoop5859]

But I’m happy for kordell being fearful avoidant isn’t an excuse unfortunately he deserve a healthy love.

[@mrscreoledavis205]

They are also from the same hometown

[@lelele3]

I had to comment again cos I just finished the whole video. This lesson hit a little too close, I won't lie. And first time I've made the connection between being a FA and drive for self development. This video is a master class, I'm going to be referring to it for years to come.

[@LittleBlackBook91]

wow by grace

[@catherine2795]

Wow spot on

[@cj100517]

You never came to our coaching session. It was supposed to be today at 8:45 pm eastern time zone.

[@LittleBlackBook91]

Hello check your email

[@cj100517]

@@LittleBlackBook91 I didn’t get anything new on my email.

[@BeatifulllRose]

Please breakdown Connor and Leah's microaggressions and behaviors toward JaNa. I would love to hear your perspective on this.

[@LittleBlackBook91]

Wait direct me to the day cause I kind of missed it

[@RoZzieAwake]

​@LittleBlackBook91 I believe it was early on when Leah basically took Conner from Janae and then told her "it's not like he is your boyfriend" orrr that scene where Janae made a joke and Leah rudely said "it's no fucking joking matter". Leah and Conner teamed together to secure while thinking Janae would be sent home. (I might be reaching on that part). But yesss, please review because we definitely noticed it.

[@RoZzieAwake]

​@@LittleBlackBook91it has happened on a couple of episodes and you may have to rewatch to catch it.

[@melde9165]

@@LittleBlackBook91He did an interview on Positively Uncensored

[@BeatifulllRose]

@@LittleBlackBook91 Episode 9 is where Connor officially started chasing Leah right after she was broken up about Rob leaving her. He basically left Jana in the dust whilst talking bad about her to Leah and she participated by laughing about how uninterested he was in her supposed friend and how he purposely rated her low during a blindfolded kissing game. This is also when she yelled at Jana for feeling a way that she stole her man. Episode 10 is where Connor threw a really low blow at jana during the recoupling ceremony. Episode 12 is where Connor continued throwing subs at Jana for no reason when he had already supposedly moved onto Leah and jana was being so nice to them both. He even chose her to be the one he threw cups of liquid in the face of during a challenge when he could’ve chosen anyone. It just seemed like he and Leah had a strange vendetta against Jana for no apparent reason other than racism, especially Connor. He even did a post show interview w/Positively Uncensored and pretty much said that there was no real reason for his bad treatment of Jana and stated that he just assumed it was Jana being mean to Leah, which confirms his microaggressions. He also said he threw shade at jana to get close to leah in this interview

[@jazbby655]

Do Jana next please!!

[@LittleBlackBook91]

We onto her I will

[@daleciaszerelem9236]

Maaaaan, Kojo, nothing you said is a lie, I knew I was an avoidant but wasn’t sure whether fearful or anxious but it’s clear I’m a fearful avoidant. All the traits you described are me to a T and as such I decided I shouldn’t get into a relationship until I’ve been through therapy. And I’ve started intentionally prioritizing self love and not feeding my manipulative thoughts. The issue is, we still crave loving relationships. We want to know that that person is going to be there, that we don’t always have to protect ourselves, but it’s also not fair to that person the tests and manipulation we put them through, and hurting ourselves in the process as well. Also why are we so attracted to the dismissive avoidant. Then we set out on a mission to try and prove that person cares when most times they clearly don’t. Then there’s the toxicity of attaching regardless because at least you know the s**t to expect. 🤦🏾‍♀️ So many have asked, you’re such a nice person, why aren’t you married, why don’t you have a bf. My response- see me and live with me, are two different things.

[@LittleBlackBook91]

@@daleciaszerelem9236 wow this is powerful honestly I love the awareness we appreciate u

[@halitst1]

I was watching Serena and literally said the same thing last night. I ended a friendship with this type of personality who would lead me on and play games with me. When I was done, he would want to get me back and when I’m in his life, he insults me, embarrasses me and doesn’t reply to my messages. Makes me out to be needy. I’m so glad that he’s not in my life. Only he can help himself.

[@annanims7876]

Personally, I am glad Kordell selected someone else! The new girl showed him consistent interest. She was also sweet and kind. Whether their union lasts or not, for the momemt, she is certainly a better choice than Sybil!

[@ladyAdore]

❤

[@themoonbleu627]

First of all if anybody attracted to a fearful avoid that they have some serious self-esteem issues. If you love yourself is very easy to avoid a fearful of within him because they barely give you anything to work with. I’m a dismissive avoidant with a fearful and he is like a loud Chihuahua all bark no bite and annoying .FA lack a lot of love if she’s FA kordell is anxious and that’s why he is attracted more to the one treating him like crap .

[@LittleBlackBook91]

@@themoonbleu627 Fearful AVOIDANTS DA and anxious pppl are problematic. But depends on the awareness of them

[@lennysvibe]

Please she didnt have no fearful avoidance attatchment style when she was cussing out Janae for bringing the eggs, when she was trying to get to know Miguel...Yall really need to get a clue!

[@LittleBlackBook91]

reasons are not excuses...they are explanations

[@rahlee22]

Exactly. If Miguel wanted her she would’ve dumped him so fast.

[@hollywont9447]

Serena sounds like she smokes a pack a day.

[@juned1719]

Quick do Leah next! You only focus on Serena because you hate black women. I feel so bad for your poor mom.

[@LittleBlackBook91]

did u ever think i focused on black women because my audience is black? Lol did you notice i also did Kordell? You might want to ask why u have a predisposed idea